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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love. that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I love today's episode, which has to do with stepping into happiness and success and feeling it and feeling like it's safe to really do so, you know, all too often people will have underlying subconscious beliefs about being happier, being successful, that, that somebody might be mad at them if they're happy.

 

or if they're successful and what'll happen is it'll keep people stuck from really fully enjoying life or it can even be linked up to ongoing health issues which is the case for our beautiful volunteer Veronica. Now if you recall we began working with Veronica on last week's episode and there were some underlying feelings of guilt all around her.

 

And she hadn't even realized that they were there so much. But once she started to notice the pattern, she began to see that the guilt was everywhere. And we're going to dive even deeper into that awareness and also how it's relating towards success and also happiness and these underlying patterns of feeling guilty for being happy or feeling like people don't want her to be happy.

 

Now, what I love Is this, is that you'll notice, as we dive into the episode, you'll notice the things that start coming up from her subconscious mind that she feels very strongly about don't fully make logical sense. Which, of course, is a good thing. But, All of the time, I'll see people with these same type of patterns.

 

And so it's so insightful to be able to look at it and to be able to see these patterns from a different level of awareness. And so that said, for just so many reasons, I just love today's episode and our volunteer, Veronica. She is just a sweetheart and she's also a very, very strong woman. So you'll notice I push a bit with her, but.

 

As I do, you'll see what opens up. It's of course, because I want her to be able to take in these feelings. that it's safe to be happy. It's really safe and she can be happy and healthy and have a great life. And it is safe to do so. So I do push quite a bit because she's pretty stuck there. So something you'll want to keep in mind if this is a stuck place for you.

 

So that said, let's go ahead and dive in with beautiful Veronica. Here we go. 

 

May I ask a question? Absolutely. What if I do feel great, but sometimes I feel that some people close to me can feel less than, which makes me feel guilty about being and feeling great. Okay. Remember we said, keep the great, get rid of the guilt. Yes. Great. Can I ask you to breathe? Okay. Okay. Now, I'm going to ask you to follow me for a moment, and I'm going to ask you to breathe, and you see yourself walking around, and life is great, and you're great, and people feel really great about that.

 

Now, I want you to picture just for a moment, how many people, when they went to meet Michael Jordan, the very first thing that they thought when they met Michael Jordan was, his life is better than mine. This sucks. Okay. How many people do you think met Michael Jordan and thought, this is horrible? I hate this.

 

Um, maybe one out of 20, 000. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and I want you to notice that it's because you're more successful than he was why people feel so bad. Your success is so much greater than his. That you should feel bad, right? 

 

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her self awareness and also her strength. And, of course, the goal is to get her to shift a bit and start looking at things in a different way. And so I want to invite you to take that in if you have had the feeling, a feeling like other people are envious or jealous of your success, or if you succeed, that people will be jealous.

 

Then I want to invite you to take in the awareness of that. Michael Jordan or any well known athlete or musician or person, you know, all of the time, people would love to connect with them. And so thinking about the awareness that it is safe to be successful, it is safe to do well, and that people will still love you and want to connect with you. 

 

And what it really depends on is your attitude with success, meaning this, meaning that some people will have success, you know, any type of success. And as soon as they do, they'll start to be arrogant or treat people as less than or inferior, or, you know, be rude. In which case people won't like them, but there are plenty of other people.

 

who will have a success and want to celebrate and enjoy and have fun and are kind and are loving and are still connecting. And so if you think about it, you can see which person you'd want to hang out with, you know, not the arrogant superior person who's condescending or whatever, But the one who's kind, who's loving, who's fun, that person.

 

And so that's something that you'll want to remember is that it is safe to step into more and more success, as long as you're kind and gracious and nice and not condescending, that makes all of the difference in the world. Now, as we dive in, you'll see a few more patterns come up that are also key. for transforming.

 

So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Veronica. Here we go. 

 

So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I want you to notice the part of you who's very, very attached to your perspective. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe and notice that. I want you to notice the part of you who's very, very, very attached to your perspective, very attached to your pattern. And if I ask you, how many of those people have ever said to you, you should feel bad or wanted you to feel bad for being happy or in a great mood or having a great life?

 

How many of them have expressed upset about it? Two, significant. Okay, and what did they say? So I can think of minor incidents where like I remember in high school, I was really happy I was like singing about something I had my Walkman on and like somebody spit in my face He was an angry kid in high school I was a happy kid in high school and it was it was that like you're too happy get out of my face Okay, now I have a question.

 

Did you say it was because you were too happy? Like, sort of. Sort of. What did he say? Maybe he was like, I think I might have been bopping around and that annoyed me. And what did he say? Get out of my face. So, was it because you were bopping around or was it because he felt you were too close to you his face? 

 

Let me ask you, if you were doing the exact same thing, 15 feet away, would he have still spit in your face? Debatable, truthfully. Like, I felt like it was a pointed thing. Like, I know you felt that way. I did feel that way. Okay. And did he do that to other happy kids? Not sure. Not sure. What do you think? Do you think he went around, noticed who's happy, and spit in their face? 

 

Does that seem logical to you? He was a very angry kid. Okay. He was a very angry kid. And you made it about your happiness. I did. Okay. Yes. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And have you ever before? Walked on a street and there was some homeless man or something like that who started suddenly yelling at you for no reason. 

 

Yes, and did you take it personally and make it about you? No. Why? I, I think I understood. Oh, you understood. Okay, great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Okay. And so there was this very, very, very upset kid who's having a really hard time going through all of his things for whatever, and he's acting out to get attention.

 

Okay, fair. And you're making it about you. Awesome. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice that you chalked it up to you being happy because you have a Walkman in your room. Bopping your head to music? Now, in high school, how many people put music in and were bopping their head? A lot.

 

Oh, a lot. And all of them had their face spit on too, right? No. No. Okay, so, you can't say that it's because you were happy and bopping your head to music if everybody else was doing the same thing. That doesn't make any sense. Okay. 

 

Great. So, I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice that you're telling yourself untruths that are making you feel guilty and bad, and like you shouldn't be happy. Awesome. Keep doing that. It's going to be a great life. Said with love. And a push. And a nudge. Okay. We want to rewire your brain that it is safe to be happy, it's good to be happy, it's wonderful to be happy. 

 

Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. It's safe to be happy. It's wonderful to be happy. And by the way, in high school, what percentage of kids do you think walked around bopping their head with Walkman and with some type of music being happy? That's a trick question. No, it's not a trick question.

 

That's a one, that is a percentage question. That is a trick question. Because I have a high school kid, and when he's happy one minute, and the next minute he's not, and it's like, oh my god, the high school. Wait a second. Yes, there you go. There you go. You can see you have a high school kid who does that.

 

My point being. Yes. You get it, right? I mean, probably he doesn't have a Walkman since we haven't seen any of those since the Ice Ages, but before that, but since then. Oh, you do have a Walkman. Wow. 

 

I remember those, but shouldn't that be somewhere in a museum? It is. This is the museum. 

 

I love that. Alright, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. 

 

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I have to say, I just love this woman. I mean, she's so fun and she's just playful and lovely and wonderful. And I mean, she has a Walkman and I got to tell you, I grew up on Walkman. So I love that. But what you want to notice is this Walkman or a Walkman has been a central point for her of a huge memory of something negative that happened to her.

 

of somebody supposedly not wanting her to be happy. And of course, we're gonna unpack this story even more because it takes a turn in a different direction. But, there's a couple points I want to note here. Is, first and foremost, is this. Is that if you have something in your surroundings that remind you that you're happy, of a quote unquote traumatic incident or a wounding of some sort, then there's a few things you'll want to note.

 

First and foremost, you'll of course want to make sure to transform the pattern that's connected to it. And second, you may want to get rid of the item. So just food for thought, and it depends on how attached you are to it and what you love about it. But of course, making sure that you genuinely transform your feelings around it, because, you know, as I'm sitting here talking to her and we're doing the podcast and we're working literally on her mindset, the Walkman was literally the best.

 

right near her desk. And so, if there is something in your immediate surroundings that does remind you of some type of pattern or hurt or wounding, that you'll definitely want to, again, both change the pattern and Either get rid of the item or make sure you radically change your energy towards the item So it reminds you of something different something happy uplifting and positive Because as you'll see by the way as she dives deeper into this story There's more details to it that don't quite add up which It's a beautiful thing.

 

So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Veronica. Here we go. 

 

And notice even your high school kid does that. And by the way, I want you to picture that your high school kid is walking around bopping their head to music. He's bopping his head to music. He's bopping his head to me and other people are too. And then if somebody spits in his face, he says, mom, I know it's because people don't want me to be happy.

 

And they're just upset because I'm happy. Is that a correct conclusion? No, it is not. No, no. Your high school kid comes home and says, look, I was bopping my head. Some kids spit in my face and said, get out of my face. And your high school says, I know it. I know it's because I was happy. I should never be happy.

 

I should feel guilty for feeling happy. It's because I'm happy. That's the only reason it happens. It's obvious. I have put the link together. I have discovered this. I have figured this out. It's clear. Right. Okay. Is that an, is that an accurate conclusion that your high schooler made? No. No, it's obvious. It is obvious. 

 

It's obvious. Right. Now imagine your high schooler really comes home and says that to you. Mom, I was bopping my head, happy, somebody spit in my face, I realize people don't want to see me happy. They're upset if I'm happy. It's an obvious thing, Mom. What would you say? I would say that was 100 percent about them.

 

No, I'd say you're 100 percent right. You should feel guilty for feeling happy. People in life just don't ever want to be, see you happy, and they'll probably spit in your face if you are. It's true. You wouldn't say that? No. But you'd think that. You'd think, oh, it's because No. No. No, you're right. It doesn't make sense.

 

No, it doesn't make sense. I, I, now I get ya. You get me. Right? It took me a while, I apologize, but I get you now. You're fun. I like you. You're, you're wonderful. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and I'm going to ask you to notice exactly that. Notice that for a moment and I'm going to ask you to breathe and notice your high school self made the connection. 

 

It's because people seeing me happy, what I'm going to ask you to breathe and take that in. And I want to be clear, you're a very, very smart woman. I can feel that from your energy. Very, very smart. I get it. And, remember, I am here because my perspective has always been perfect. I have never had any patterns that created any type of issue in my life, ever, because I'm perfect and I've never, ever had to look at anything in my mind and say, that makes no sense.

 

Right? So obviously we know I'm being facetious and joking and, and, I've had to look at my stuff in my mind and say, that makes no sense. How did I link that up? Okay. So the same is true. So looking at your mind and saying, thank God that doesn't make sense. Right. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. 

 

Now the fact that you have had that linked up all of those years and you actually believed it. Can you see that? So notice for a moment, I want you to notice the part of you who felt guilty for being happy and who also felt like it wasn't safe to be happy. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and take that in. 

 

And if I ask you how weird and new and still unsafe it almost still feels that the idea of feeling happy and that it's safe, like what if you were just walking around and happy and successful and it was safe? That's an excellent question. I, I, I would like to get rid of this pattern because I, I do feel quite happy. 

 

Much of my life, but this has eaten me up internally, hence all my autoimmune diseases. Mm hmm. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I love your awareness. When I say great, great, great awareness, great self awareness, great self honesty. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, I also want you to notice the part of you who simultaneously has a type of judgment towards people who are greedy.

 

Can you see that? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. If I ask you zero to 10, how much? I don't know. I, I guess that's, that's hard. It's, it's nuanced. Greed for the sake of ill will and No, no, no, no. I'm just Okay. Just in general. Um, greedy, yeah. I think seven. Okay. So I would have said about a fifty, but we'll go with your seven.

 

Okay. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Twenty. Okay. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice how much you breathe. Judgment and splitting hair, even, around greed. Well, it depends on if somebody's like this, but then if somebody's like this, but then this, but then that.

 

So what is the, so notice for a moment the judgment around it. Right? 

 

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment, you know, first and foremost, I just love her self awareness, I love her self honesty, just beautiful, and let's take a quick moment to unpack the topic of judgment, because if you have them, They will keep you stuck in one area of your life or another whether it's happiness or Relationships or money or health or wherever it is They'll keep you stuck.

 

And I know so often People have a sense of feeling righteous for having them. You know when you stop and think about a judgment It's basically looking at somebody else and looking down on them And many times feeling a sense of righteousness in your own actions. And what you'll a lot of times realize is that there's more going on.

 

under the surface and that's where we're going is we want to look at what is really going on. But again with judgments, I want to invite you to really let them go. And by the way, I would say that part of the reason that my mind works in the way that it does is because I don't have a judger. You know, it's broken or fixed or whatever you want to call it, but my mind does not work in that way at all.

 

So I can tell you that every single podcast episode that I've ever done, I don't have a judgment towards people. I just, that judger, it's gone. I just don't have that in my brain just does not work in that way. And so I would say that has been key for helping to open up the gift that I have. So part of it, I would say it has to do with the fact that I don't have judgment.

 

And I would say another part has to do with integrity. So that's another key piece. And then also clearing my mind from negativity. So I would say that those were three of the key factors that help open up this ability in my mind and keep it open. And so just point being, is it. With judgment. I want to invite you to let it go because all too often people will feel a sense of righteousness over somebody else or judging somebody else who's doing something wrong and and then feeling a sense of superiority or righteousness and It will keep your energy blocked from fully accessing your happiness And your transformation.

 

And so that's where we're going, by the way, is looking at, at a deeper level, what else is really going on? Because as you'll see, this judgment isn't all about greed. It's a bit miswired in her mind. And so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Veronica. Okay. Here we go. 

 

Okay. So, this is the thing, is I would say, it's kind of like this. So imagine for a moment, if I said, I am very judgmental about people who are wearing a black blazer. Okay. And then I'm wearing a black blazer. You see the issue with that, right? I do. So there's a part of you that is very, very judgmental about people with abundance.

 

And then there's a part of you that feels very abundant. Yes. Can you see that? A hundred percent. Mm hmm. So, that's where the issue is actually coming from, is from that. Now, let's say I go into a room full of people, and I'm wearing the black blazer. Is there any part of me who feels a bit self conscious about wearing the black blazer?

 

You with me? I'm hanging with you. Yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and what if you didn't have any judgment about people who wear a black blazer, or didn't have any judgment around people who are successful in half things? Like why, what's the judgment for? I'm going to ask you to breathe, and notice that for a moment.

 

What is that judgment for? And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and just for a moment take that in, and we're not, Making you wrong. You want to, again, looking at things in your brain and realizing, okay, I can make that, I can realize that pattern is not serving me. That way of thinking me, that high school thought.

 

Can I try to answer the question so that we can dissect it slightly or not? Bingo. Bingo. Give me one second. Go ahead. So the judgment comes around, like, let's say if you're hoarding something for yourself and not helping other people. I have a judgment around that. Okay. Now I want you to notice for a moment.

 

Did you just work to validate your feelings or invalidate them? Explain them. Validate them. Okay. Yes, I did. Okay. So, if we were working on getting you out of pain and you asked me, Hey, can I share my thoughts? I would have probably said, Sure, but your pain is going to go up and your problem is going to go up and it's not going to help.

 

But since we're not working on that right now, and we're working, so in other words, that thought pattern. I get you. We'll keep you in the same. Now, kind of, okay. Now, if I were going to respond to that, this is what I would say. I would say, give me an example, for example, somebody who's got wealth, who's not helping others.

 

Okay. I would say there are selfish and corrupt people who, but, Kim Jong un, another one. Okay. So, would you say that you're criticizing the greed? Where you're criticizing who he is and how he is in the world. Okay. I'm criticizing who he is and how he is in the world. Okay. Well, that's two different things.

 

Okay. 

 

All right. So let's go ahead and pause the session and break this down. You know, first and foremost, I love her self awareness and I love that she's starting to change, to see things in a different way. And I want to invite you to a few pieces that are really important for this shift. You know, number one, if you are experiencing a lot of judgment towards people in any area of life, you'll want to look at What it really is because notice for a moment in her mind She's felt like she's judging greed.

 

So she felt like a good person for judging people who are greedy Now when we really break this down She's judging people who are not good people and that is a big Difference because if you think about the analogy from a moment when I was talking to her saying, you know If you're judging something that you think you are Then it can impact you.

 

You know, I used the blazer example of wearing the black blazer. And so for her to feel like she has abundance, and then feel like she's judging people, who have abundance and are quote unquote, greedy, that will impact her. But when she stops and looks at the awareness that she's not really judging the money itself, but really not being a good person, and that's a different thing.

 

And so that said, I actually want to go ahead and pause the session right here, just because I know that so many people have negative links to this. abundance. And what happens is for a lot of people, it will keep you in a place of lack or Like in Veronica's case, it will keep her in a place where she is having abundance but feeling guilty for it because that's been her pattern since childhood.

 

It's exactly that. It's feeling like she has a family with money and grew up with it. And, you know, having money and having abundance and whatnot, and so it's a different feeling than for a lot of people who may be working on stepping into abundance, but then also having that judgment of greed towards it, which can keep you, again, locked in a place of lack or struggle, or, you know.

 

again, fuel a health issue. And so that said, you'll want to notice if you have any of these feelings towards money, that you get really clear on them. Now, the second thing I want to bring up is this, is notice how attached she is to her patterns. You know, when you think about the pattern regarding happiness, she was certain that with the Walkman, that that person in high school did not like her being happy. 

 

And then when she put her young high school kid in that same scenario, she could see it in a different way, which was beautiful. And so I love that she did great in being willing to see it in a different way. Now, That's the thing that you'll want to remember is being willing to change. I still remember going through my injury and there was something, and I can't, I can't remember what it was, but there was something that I was working on changing and divine timing.

 

My mother happened to call and I didn't really tell my family what I was doing so much at that time. Cause I did not expect that they would really understand. So I just had a regular conversation with her, you know, how are you doing? Yada, yada, yada. Yeah. And then this topic, the thing that I was working on, just happened to come up.

 

Again, just divine timing. And, As the topic came up, when she mentioned her memory of it, it was much different than my memory of it at that time. Now, in that moment, I could have said to my mother, No, no, no, no, no. I am right. This is how it happened. Because, in my head at that time, I was clear on the memory.

 

It was clear in my mind. But, instead of correcting her and telling her how So, I remembered it, I thought about which memory was better, and hers was actually better for my mind. And so, instead of trying to defend my position, even though I felt like I was right, I thought, okay, well if she remembers it that way, then I'll happily change and remember it that way too.

 

Which was perfect, and brilliant, and helpful, and if you think about it, I would have gotten nothing to try to be right. in that situation. So that said, I want to invite you to think about the awareness of the stuckness in patterns. And if you notice yourself ever defending perspectives or getting caught in perspectives, that don't really make logical sense, but just because you've seen them for so long or felt them for so long or believed them for so long, you're stuck there. 

 

And notice those, and I want to invite you to be willing to change them. And so these are the two specific things I want to invite you to take from this episode, and technically there's three, you know, number one was looking at your money, energy, and if there's any feelings of judgment towards greed or abundance or any of those.

 

being willing to start looking at those in a different way, or notice if there's a place that you're being very stubborn or resistant to change and be willing to change easily for your own benefit. So that's number two. And then the third one was something that I mentioned earlier is that if you have some type of material possession in your surroundings that reminds you of some type of negative pattern.

 

I want to invite you to look at, of course, changing the pattern and also see if it's something that you're ready to release from your possession if you're ready to, of course. So that said, those are the three key insights from this episode. And next week we'll finish that final segment with Veronica to unpack this the rest of the week.

 

There are a few more. insights that we still can pull from this. So that said, again, just a beautiful, beautiful being, and please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, you know, the more happy and empowered and loving and successful and abundant that everybody is.

 

The better this world is for all of us. And so on that note, please do make it a most incredible rest of your day. And I look forward to seeing you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point, and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is, For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore. com slash podcast.

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Thank you.