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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore. And after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to help you to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love the divine unfoldment of every episode. You know, it's funny because just yesterday. I was on an Instagram live with Tori DeVito, and she brought up this question about something I had posted and said on Instagram, which was basically something to the effect of saying that, you know, when we deal with emotions one at a time.

A lot of times we don't really make the headway that we want to, the transformation that we want to. Now, that's not saying to deal with a whole bunch of emotions at once, but what it is saying is that a lot of times, are patterns. We're, we're overlooking the pattern. And instead, if we just address one emotion at a time, we never actually transform the pattern itself.

And so a lot of people stay stuck for that very reason. And a way to think about it is like this is that imagine for a moment, somebody has a pattern of hurt or abandonment. And then every time the pattern of abandonment comes up, they deal with that situation and they deal with that situation. But it's a pattern that they keep attracting and feeling and experiencing.

So unfortunately, it's like that. It's like, I call it the game of whack a mole, if you will. You know, it's like, if you ever played that as a kid and in the arcades where a little mole comes up and you, you, you whack it and you whack it like that, that game. And I don't know if everybody's played that or not as a kid, but basically you get the gist.

They, that something pops up and you get it and then there's another one and you get it and there's another one and you get it. And that's. How emotional patterns work is that it's like somebody can have a pattern of maybe feeling criticized or whatever it is, but they will feel that pattern and then address that situation.

But then there's another one and then there's another one and they show up in different ways. So we don't always realize that it's part of the bigger pattern or, you know, the example that you hear me use all the time is the unfortunate example of the woman with the abusive father who leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera.

You know, unfortunately that pattern can continue. And so one of the key distinctions that I've made in working with people to get real results is that we have to change the patterning of our words. of The Brain. Because if you think about it, imagine somebody has that pattern of criticism and it's affecting their health and then it shows up in one situation on Monday and then a different situation on Friday and then a different way with their spouse or their different And so what happens?

is it's a constant feeling that shows up and even though it's showing up in a variety of different ways, it can still then create an ongoing pattern that's affecting their health and then turn into a long term health issue because all around them in a variety of different ways. Or it can even be a long standing pattern that is, you know, maybe they are always feel criticized by their family.

They feel like an outcast. So they feel this constant feeling of feeling like the outcast or feeling that critical feeling from a person. And so my point is, again, is that to really get ahead for healing, we can't just address Each situation, but we really need to re pattern the mind. And that was a breakthrough distinction in my work that really was pivotal for my own healing and also in helping others.

And what I love, as I mentioned in the very beginning, you know, I just was on an Instagram live and it wasn't scripted, Tori asked me this very question just yesterday. And now today's podcast episode is live. is on this very thing. So I could not have planned this better. I mean, the universe, just the, the divine unfoldment is just beautiful.

And so what I love about today's episode is that it's divine unfoldment that, that as I work with our beautiful volunteer, You'll see that she is very stuck in the pattern and not just because I say it, but you'll notice She says it of the pattern though She doesn't realize it initially because she's very stuck in the pattern and for that reason I just absolutely love this episode and this is one of the reasons that I love this episode because I just Love our beautiful volunteer.

Her name is Kahiso and And she just has this beautiful heart and of course a lot of wounding, but she's so sweet and beautiful and brilliant and wonderful and has all this beautiful light energy, but also all of this really deep wounding and hurt going on as well. And so I just, I understand it. I see it and I see her and, and she's just beautiful.

And I'm excited for her to really shift this wounding, not only for. of course, and healing herself, but for her spiritual growth and of course for her manifestation of what's been happening and showing up in her life. Because as you'll recall, you know, when I worked with Kahiso during this session, it was about an hour long.

And so I cut the session in half. I released the first half of our session and today we're going to go into the second half of the session. And as you'll recall in that first half last week, we had talked about this feeling of feeling unloved and like she couldn't connect with love and was feeling left out and hurt.

And even when she moved, her multiple states to go live near her brother shortly after she did. Unfortunately, he passed. And so, and she even mentioned, you know, that part of her journey she felt in this lifetime was to be able to be loved and connected. And she's so right. But there's patterns that she's stuck in that are affecting her health and her life and keeping her stuck.

And, and so it's just brilliant. And also what I love, is it. about today's episode as well. As I mentioned in the last episode, we've been playing tug of war, where we've been trying to go in one direction and kind of going back and forth, just trying to get that shift. And you'll be able to see that she has that.

She has a breakthrough. In fact, I think she says something to the effect of, you just cracked me open. Like she got it. And, and just the aha, you can feel it from her. You can see it and you can see just her brilliance. It's just And so I, I love that for so many reasons. I love our volunteer for so many reasons.

She's just, she's beautiful and I get it and she's got some wounding. And so I just, I love it. So that's where we're going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Kahiso. Here we go.

Okay. I. When I said to you that I was the mystery person, that I've always been different, what I meant by that was I started my spiritual path when I was 19 and I've always gone against the grain and so I've always fought quote unquote traditional society regarding society says you need to go to college and you need to do this and I always I was in the Peace Corps.

I mean, I did, I just did what I followed my heart and my truth and my path, but a lot of people were against it and thought I was not normal and, and judged me and blah, blah, blah. And as far as

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. Notice that she's stuck in the pattern. Notice that she says that she's been always going against the grain from this to this to this to this. It's always been against the grain and it's a pattern of the judgments of this for her entire life.

So, I just want to point that out because when I mentioned previously that she was, you know, we were playing tug of war and she's stuck in a pattern, the pattern keeps changing to different topics and different things. So, she's not seeing that they're related, at least not yet, because what happens coming up is that as I'm going back and forth with her.

She starts to see and she goes, Oh my gosh, she basically says, you cracked me open. Like, I see the pattern now. And what you see right here is that she's saying, Hey, I have this pattern. I've always gone against the grain. I've always done things. There's always been the judgment. There's always been. And that's part of the issue, of course, because it can block you from feeling really loved and connected in life.

And of course, there's more pieces, but that's where we're going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Kahisa. Here we go.

The other part that you just mentioned, I lost my train of thought or not. I do feel that I'm not worthy of love on some level because Because every, I feel like I've just had disappointment after disappointment and, and whenever I get close I, I know I subconsciously, um, mess it up and lose it. So, so this is a thing, right?

Okay. Yeah. So. I'm going to tell you, okay, so number one, you're here because you want results. And so I'm going to tell you something, okay, that your mind has a strong need to validate all information. And so if you ask me, would I expect for you to get long term results in healing yourself the way that your mind is set up right now, I would say, no, I feel like I'm playing tug of war with you, where I want to move you forward.

and you're keep going to the past and validating it. In other words, and either I'm telling you this as a criticism or I'm telling you this because I want you to see what your brain is doing to be able to heal yourself. Which one would you say is true? I love you. You're so spot on. Exactly. So I want you to observe what your mind is doing and I want you to change.

What your mind is doing, because I feel like notice when I say I'm feeling tug of war at about a level 10, so I feel like I want to move forward. Now, this is the thing is notice the words you just said was something to the effect of you always done have done things different and that you've fought against the norm of life and what others are doing.

And that you've, you've fought against that, and you've always been left out and hurt and judge and all that for those reasons. Right?

So you're validating it based on, like, kind of like this, do I feel like I'm fighting against society and the norm? No, I don't feel like a fight. I feel a unity of it. I feel like, hey, I want to bridge the gap between science and spirituality. And so I feel a unified feeling in it. So in other words, you see spirituality as a divide.

I see it and experience it as a unity. I, I also see that, you know, I, I, I don't feel like people judge me in the way, like, I don't feel a negative experience from it. I feel like I can speak all of the languages, um, for that very reason. And so in other words, bingo. In other words, it's kind of like this. If we think about my journey.

I literally, as I healed myself, I thought to myself, you know, people are going to think this is impossible. Well, I, I need to show people how they, that they can release pain. So that's when I started taking people, live volunteers and showing them how to release pain. Now after that, I would literally, I was asked to speak on stages and literally from stage, I would take volunteers from the audience and show them how to use their own mind to release pain on the spot.

And then one day. Before I ever had any problems, it dawned on me. I thought, you know, someday people are going to say something like, that's fake. Like, cause it seems surreal. Like where somebody can have neck pain and then I just talk to them and then suddenly they go, wow, my neck pain is gone. So I thought somebody's going to think this is fake.

I better do this under medical equipment. So that's when I, Put my mind together to then figure out how to do it under medical equipment. And, and so my point is, and even before I released my book, I was like, you know what, I've been doing this under medical equipment now for almost 10 years, but I haven't published anything in the medical journals.

I should probably do that. Now it takes money to put the lab and the IRB and all of these things together. But I thought, you know, I don't really want to have a bunch of judgments and criticism. Let me do it. Do that. Let me continue to validate. So my point is, is this, is it's not that you need to take the steps that I have taken.

That's not it. You, everybody's on their own journey in being, but, but my point is, I had a completely different mentality about it. And so I've had a different, And so your mentality, even starting from a very young age, is people are against me. I have to fight against people. They don't like me. They're judging me.

And, and then feeling like, well, you know what? They're not good enough anyway. So in other words, what's going to happen is you and I could go to the same party, so to speak. We could go and go to the same party and I could say, Oh, Oh my gosh, there are people who are so loving and inclusive and wonderful.

And I had the best time and I found the most amazing people. And you could say, Oh my gosh, I ended up in this corner where people were judging me and they were doing this and they were doing that. And yet we're at the same gathering. Does that make sense? So, so we're going to attract those things in life.

And so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And what if you knew that spirituality could feel even more inclusive? You didn't need to fight against any norms. You could just be yourself and that you could find unity in it and love in it and connection in it, and that's how your life was going to go moving forward.

What would that feel like? Awesome. But I, but I have to interject for a second. I don't. I don't feel that way anymore. I know. I know that's spiritual. Then, all those years ago, it was different. Today, I, I'm not this, I don't have the same mindset about people and spirituality. There's just too many people on board with spirituality.

Zero to ten. Yes. How much would you say you're hiding from people because you're afraid of judgment or criticism or people being mean to you? Zero to ten. On the level of my illness? That's exactly my point, is it just is taking shape in many different ways. Let me put it in another example. You hear me use the example in these episodes all the time, that a woman may have an abusive father who leaves him and finds an abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, dog, friend, et cetera, right?

Now, notice for a moment, the boyfriend or the dog or the boss doesn't look like their dad, but their emotional experience is the same. So part of what makes it hard to identify patterns. It's also because they're subconscious, they're tricky, that people don't look the same. So notice this pattern has shown up in a lot of different ways and now it's towards your health and you're afraid of judgment and criticism for it.

And so you're hiding from people because you're afraid of that and afraid of that from the people. You feel like people are against you for that. Can you see that? You just cracked me open. Yeah. I can see it now. So I'm going to ask you to breathe great, great, great awareness.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, I just love her self awareness. I love her self honesty and notice what she said. You just crack me open. I can see it. That's the thing that sometimes makes. Healing so difficult is because notice she's got a very strong personality.

So she's experienced all of this hurt and she's put a lot of like pushback on top of it of strength And I have to fight and so she's got this fight energy on top And, and all of this shielding and, and blocking and, and, and barrier, like she's, she's got a protective quote unquote layer on top, if you will, but a lot of other things as well.

There's multiple pieces, the, so there's, there's multiple pieces on top, we'll just say it simply like that. But notice now that she can see. what's going on and see the pattern with more clarity. You'll notice by the way, she just goes into so much more self awareness and she even laughs a bit. And it's just, there, there's, there's an opening and it's really beautiful.

And I want to point out that One of the things that I also love about this episode is that it's not just her. I was likely just as stubborn in my own stuff of, you know, when you, when you're stuck and you're frustrated and you know, I had my fear and blah, blah, blah in my situation, completely different related to 9 11, yada, yada.

But my point is, is that We as adults, we as human beings can be very stuck or stubborn or stuck in these patterns or stubborn in our patterns. I know I was very much so. And so that's the reason, by the way, you'll see me with people push a bit because I I know how stuck people are. So it's like if somebody's paralyzed in fear or they're stuck in a pattern and they can't see out, you know, the analogy that you always hear me use is, you know, if your friend is standing in front of a bus and they can't see that they're standing in front of a bus, how hard would you push your friend to help them get unstuck?

And so when I see people. in these situations where they're stuck in a pattern that's causing so much hurt not only of course health issues and and pain and hurt and wounding and this experience and stuck in the pattern and stuck in the pattern and stuck in the pattern that's perpetuating it's like how hard do you push somebody to then get them out to say wait a second do you see this right and as you'll recall on the last episode I mentioned we were playing tug of war, you know, I'd ask her a question about the future and the first thing she would answer is about the past and then I would ask about the future and she would ask about the past.

Now again, that's because our minds get stuck. It's not just her. She's beautiful and so beautiful and brilliant and, and I get it. Like, we can get really stuck and that's One of the things that I really love about this episode, and I love about our volunteer and her self awareness, even right here, where she says, you cracked me open.

I see it now. Beautiful. Because now that she can see it, now she can address it. The problem is, is that if we have patterns and hurt and wounding that we cannot see, it's really hard to heal ourselves. when we can't see it. But of course, the more we can see it and become aware of it, the more we can all empower ourselves.

And so that's what I love. And that's where we're going as we start looking at what is the shift and starting to create that shift to moving things forward towards self healing. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with Kaiso. Here we go.

Now, this is the problem is that when you went back to spirituality, you said, I, even after I was 19 and blah, blah, and you told that whole story, even though it's no longer going on in that same way, You fueled the energy for it. Yeah, so you're still it's kind of like this if I said So and so punched so and so really hard How much can you feel the how much can you think about the energy of that?

It fuels that negative so when you say after I was 19 and then I had to fight against this and then the like I did this and I didn't there's a there's a Fueling of that energy that then still fuels your experiences to this day. Does that make sense? You Of course. Yes. I get it now. I love your awareness.

So when I said to you, I feel like we're playing tug of war. It's because I feel like I'm trying to, I said, moving forward, what would it feel like if you felt included and loved in life? I said to you, I said, imagine moving forward, you're spiritual, but either way you're included, you're loved in life.

You're finding loving, wonderful people and you're connecting with people and it feels good. And what did you do? Your response was, I would feel so happy. Exactly. That's where I wanted you to go. But your response was, well, when I was 19, et cetera. So you went back to the negative, right? Why am I pointing this out is because if you're really going to get results, you have to shift your way of thinking at a much deeper level.

Does that make sense? Yes, I'm holding on to it. Bingo, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And that's, and that's your gift. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you again, I'm going to ask you to picture yourself connecting with people, feeling love, feeling connection, no frustration.

Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, that was really sweet of her to say, and that's your gift. So I received that. It was a really sweet comment. And also I did not want to lose the moment. her mind. So I didn't acknowledge what she was saying just because she, her, her mind is opening up to that place where she can open up to love and connection.

And that's where I wanted her to go now that she's starting to see it. And so that's where we're going, but I just want to say, notice her energy and her awareness and her mindset and just beautiful that she's opening up to that. And has, you can feel her heart and. Just, she's just beautiful. She's beautiful and you can feel and see her opening up.

And so I love that. And of course there are still some blocks and something you'll notice as we dive back in is where you see me, where I've been pushing her regarding this pattern, you'll notice there's another fear that comes up that I say to her, Hey, here is a fear here and I'm not. going to push you.

And so as we get to that point, you may start wondering, well, what is the difference? Why is Brandy pushing in one area, but not in another? And it becomes the difference of pushing somebody out of hurt and pushing them out of their pattern, which is where I've been pushing a lot is trying to get her out of her pattern.

And compared to pushing somebody into a place where they feel like there is more fear. And so you'll notice the difference as we dive in. And so just keeping that in mind that, yes, I want to help people get out of their patterns and stuck. And get unstuck from patterns that they can't see. But when it comes to fear, we also want to then move into those places, maybe overcome fears in a very wise way.

So we're not increasing fear or doing ourselves a disservice. So it can be a little bit tricky, but you'll see what I mean coming up. And so that's where we're going with our beautiful volunteer. Kahiso. Here we go.

And so I'm going to ask you to breathe, feeling so much love and connection with people and love and connection with people. Does it matter? Like, let's say you're 100 percent healthy and happy and connecting with people and it is safe. So notice the part of you also that doesn't feel like it's safe to connect with people.

Can you see that? Yes, I can. If I told you that, Oh, as soon as I heal, I can connect with people. But by the way, I don't feel like it's safe to connect with people. Then how much do I feel like it's safe to heal? Not too safe. Okay. So that's another piece. So when we try to move it forward, it's, if I ask your body, Your body, if it wants to heal, again, you wouldn't be here if your conscious mind did not want to heal.

So I respect that. I know that. I feel your heart, your drive, your desire more than anything to just heal. I feel you. And at the same time, if I ask your nervous system, if it feels, if you feel safe to heal, the answer says zero to 10, like a negative 500. No, I don't like, so it's, it's in the wrong. So you would need to feel, you would need to feel moving forward.

Like it is safe. Like it is safe that people are safe because there's a part of you that feel that needs to feel safe. Now, the other thing is, bingo, is notice the part of you also that does not feel deserving of love. You can see that, right? Yes, I could. I could. You started to mention that earlier also, okay?

Bingo. Yes. Mm hmm. So, great, great, great self awareness. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, okay? I want you to notice for a moment moving forward. So, what I would do is this, is if you push yourself too much, like if, if I said, if you push somebody into fear, so if somebody's fearful, how reactive do they get?

Very. Right? So if we say to you, if we say, Kahiso, hurry up and heal, and you're going to get healthy and heal, heal, heal, and hurry up and heal, you're going to get healthy, hurry up and heal, and you're afraid of healing. And afraid of people and afraid of getting better all the way because you were afraid of people.

What do you think your nervous system is going to want to do? Go do better or worse? It's, it's going to just freeze. It's going to freeze or even trigger you to have frustrations or upset or fear or agitation even. Okay, so what I would say moving forward, bingo, is this, now this is where it's tricky by the way.

You ready? I'm ready. There's another part of you that feels more special, that doesn't want to connect with people, that likes being special and wants to be different from people. You can see that, right? Well, I don't know. There's no ego involved. I mean, I just know that I am different. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

I, I don't look at Yep. Unless I hear you. You know. I hear you. Yeah. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. So I'm gonna ask you to bring in the feeling of what it would feel like to feel that you can be unique and with people, that you can connect with people and be loved, and still be unique and be uniquely you.

That everybody's uniquely themselves. Mm-Hmm. bingo. And that you're safe. That you're safe, that you're safe, and I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her heart. I love her self awareness. I love that she is connecting more with her heart. And as you may have noticed, she started to go more into her head about the ego and quickly I interrupted and really brought her back into her heart and more connecting with these new feelings because these feelings have been foreign to her.

I mean, if you think about it, Ash, she mentioned that she has spent her entire life feeling judged, and criticized, and going against the grain, and feeling like everybody's against her. Judging what she's doing, and unloved, and not deserving of love, and all of these things. So when you stop and think about the feelings on the inside, you know, that's why I, I, I Quickly, as soon as she said, okay, that's the ego and, and went into her head, I was like, okay, wait, we need to bring you into the new emotion and start making that your new norm to feel that, to see that.

And so I quickly interrupted to start, you know, bringing her back into her heart. And she did a fantastic job coming right with, because the more we can start creating those new feelings, the more that we can create the shift and. What you want to keep in mind is this, is I'm, you know, asking her about starting to shift her mindset about people.

Now, if we're just honest, I mean, the truth of it is there are great people in the world, and there are some people who aren't as great. But when we stop and think about Our perspective and who we attract and what we do in the world and what we experience in the world, it really does come back to our mindset.

Now, I know that could sound very woo woo and delusional and just, you know, thinking positive, but if we really think about things like repetition, compulsion, reenactments, attachment theory, re victimization, like we can even see In criminal stats, that somebody who unfortunately was abused as a child can actually experience a lot more chances of having abuse as an adult.

So it's not just in psychology and ways of thinking, we can actually see evidence, or even if we think about attachment theory or repetition, compulsion, reenactments, or the example you hear me use all of the time that unfortunately a woman may have an abusive father and leave him and find the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, etc, etc.

So these patterns continue more than we realize. And so the reality of it is, is that, you know, if we find world like people are judgmental and cruel and mean and we're going to experience more of that. You know, the analogy that I gave her previously was, you know, we could go to the same gathering, the same party if you will, and connect with completely different people or have a completely It's a completely different experience and it's not just what we're attracting, a lot of times it's also can be the way we're showing up, you know, it's like if you expect people to be reactive or defensive or, or attacking or mean, you might find yourself saying things that are passive aggressive or rude or offensive.

unknowingly. So it's not just attracting. Yes, that's part of it, but it's also the way a person shows up. So just like, you know, one person can try to go into a group and feel very welcomed and another person can try to go into a group and connect and feel very disconnected. Same group. But, you know, maybe they expect to be rejected or hurt or unloved.

And so that is what ends up manifesting because they're unconscious behaviors and whatnot. So my point being is I know that on some levels saying, well, just picture everybody's loving and sweet and happy. I know it can sound very. Like, delusional thinking, but there are so many layers to it because, you know, a lot of times, you know, people feel like they're, they're afraid of people, they're, they're, it's going to reflect in their behavior and maybe, again, there's subconscious behaviors or passive aggressive or attacking or defensive or whatnot that then, you Also creates that connection with people that doesn't go well.

And so just, again, multiple layers. And the more that we can change ourselves, the more that we can really change connections that we're attracting. And especially when you stop and think about it, that this has been a pattern that's been going on consistently throughout her life, I would say there's also multiple layers in it.

Either way, point being, what I love right now is that she quickly came back into her heart, into the shift, and that's what we'll ultimately want, is start creating that shift to move towards healing and transforming the patterns. And I love that she just keeps embracing this more and more and more and seeing the patterns and seeing the awareness.

So that's where we're going as we step back in with beautiful Kahisa. Here we go.

Now, I want you to notice, by the way, your fear of people goes very deep. You can see that, right? Yes. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and this is the thing. I'm not going to push you, okay, because I don't feel like it's great to push you. Instead, what I want to invite you to do is I actually want you to start just working on bringing in the feeling that people are safe, that people are safe, that people are safe.

And that you see people as being safe. And so I want you to start creating a vision that you see yourself being around people and it is safe. And being around people and that you are loved. And being around people and that you deserve to be loved. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And that's what I would start just, uh, as you've listened, you mentioned you've listened to some past episodes and sometimes you'll hear me where I'll help push somebody. And the reason is, is because they're stuck in fear. But in your case, if I pushed you at all, I would be pushing you all the time. And so that's not going to be helpful.

So there's a big difference when somebody is like quote unquote paralyzed by fear compared to being pushed into fear. And so what I would invite you to do is this is I want to invite you to start getting a vision each day where you see yourself just walking around with people and connecting and feeling.

So safe and you're walking around, you're connecting with people and you feel like people are beautiful. People are safe. People are wonderful. People are safe. And you start seeing it and feeling it and seeing it and feeling it and seeing it and feeling it. Now, by the way, even as I say this, if I ask you, What's happening with your nervous system right now?

I'm completely relaxed and calm. Notice your body is calming down. Beautiful, beautiful. And so what I'd want you to do, and I don't want to move it too fast, I want you to start getting this in. Because if I do trigger you to where you don't feel safe, it's not going to be helpful for your health. It's going to be the wrong direction.

Does that make sense? Yes, very much. I love your self awareness. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and what I want to do is I actually want to leave it. Right here. I want to leave it right here, um, and, and just have you start working on this very thing and you can see all the different pieces, but this is, uh, this is where I want you to work on and start just getting a vision to move it forward and getting this in and start feeling safe and then even start even picturing yourself loved.

So I wouldn't, I, that's what I would do. Does that make sense? Beautiful. Yes, yes. Beautiful. I love your self awareness. Beautiful. I love your self awareness. Is it safe to say that if I start practicing what you're asking me to and I do it, that my health conditions will start to change? I guess, of course, the answer is a stupid yes, or a big yes.

It makes sense. Thank you for correcting the stupid yes to a big yes. So, so I like that. Yes. Okay, so if you think about it, so I would say a few things, I would say what I would ask you to start doing is there's a part of you that's been fueling the negative with frustration and upset and the victim, like you said, the frustration and the powerlessness, right?

So, yes. Yes. So what I would say is. I would start getting in this new vision and also what can happen, even as you have these insights, you can start seeing yourself as being loved and so you can start seeing love as safe and also stop fueling the negative is, is the shift. So in short, yes. And I know that if I push you too much, especially if you have all this fear, what a.

I'd want it to start going down. So, uh, so typically, yes. I mean, imagine if somebody is in a strong amount of fear and how reactive. So I would say the fear and then the reactiveness from it and then the frustration from it. So yes, I would say everything, um, everything is fueling it. So what I would, so yes, I would expect you to start being able to shift it.

And of course, It does take real change. Um, and so that's what I would say is the key. Absolutely. That's when I see the body heal itself is when we start taking the specific emotions and start changing them. So yes, that's when I see the body create radical changes. Okay. Bingo. Bingo. Wow. That was deep.

Very, very uncovering. Thank you. Never would have seen that pattern in a million years. I love your self awareness, though, that you did as it came up. So I just, I love your self awareness. I love your self honesty. Uh, just really, really, really beautiful. And as you start transforming this, ultimately that's when I see people start, you know, Uh, improving their body starts healing and remember going all of the way.

So would I say that likely after you start getting this in, that there's, that you're going to, you're going to want to make sure to transform the layers and also, uh, so all of the emotions that are connected with it. And, and so this is what I would say that I see as people start typically releasing some of the emotions, I would say, uh, uh, a high percentage of people will start even seeing improvements in their health.

So they start, so I've worked with, so example, even somebody else with that I worked with, with mast cells. So as they started doing it, this particular person that I'm thinking of even had pain in their lower legs, uh, or pain throughout their body periodically, but it, it, it, Started basically seeing improvements, releasing pain, uh, started being able to eat more foods, less reaction.

And so that's what I've seen. And then of course, to get all the way healed, ultimately what I see is people really change the pattern. All of the way. Okay. So just wanting to emphasize there is depth. Uh, but yes, to answer your question, that's what I've seen time and time again. And it goes, and it just goes back to your mind, your thoughts and your mind and your patterns create your reality and your life.

Exactly. And you're the living example of, with your example in particular, wow, what you did. Thank you. I mean, it's just not to be believed. I see people do all kinds of, the people, you know, actually there's even on my website, the woman who had mast cell and also, uh, POTS syndrome. And, and so she had multiple things and, and yes.

So I see people do incredible things all of the time. And so, um, yeah, you're beautiful. You're beautiful. I love your heart. I love your self awareness and I'm so excited for this change because that's the other thing is that when we have these things going on, it's It becomes a gift, a life changing gift in healing when we do that.

And so, um, so I love that and it's just been, it's been beautiful connecting with you, Kahisa. Thank you. And Brandy, thank you for showing me and bringing to my attention the awareness that you, um, That you saw right away, I mean, you were able to pick up on it and bring it to my attention. That in and of itself is huge for me.

I mean, just to start there and see and look at my patterns throughout my whole life of how that played out. It all makes sense now and you just gifted me such a big gift. Thank you. You're so sweet. I love your heart. And my heart receives that beautiful thought. Thank you. You're, you're just, just beautiful.

Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you. A million thank yous. I'm holding my hands up in preposition and my head is bowed to you in gratitude. Thank you. You're beautiful. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

All right. So let's bring everything together. And I have to say, I love her breakthrough. I love her awareness when she said, You cracked me open and where she really saw the pattern itself. And then I love even at the end right there where she said, you know, I never would have seen that. And yet when you stop and think about it, as she mentioned in her own words, she had felt like she was always against the grain, always being judged, always, you know, and even in the first part of this session on the last, on last week's episode, where as soon as I mentioned the feeling of feeling unloved, that she just.

You know, she had all these tears come up and when you stop and think about it for a moment, if we look at healing, we know it's been medically proven that feelings of loneliness can contribute to all kinds of health issues. And so when we stop and think about it, when a person has a feeling of loneliness and then also hurt and then also fear of people, not feeling like it's safe to be around people and all of these different emotions, Suppressed, it can absolutely affect our health and our lives.

And of course we can look at one medical study after another, after another on loneliness or hurt or, you know, and so we're, we're seeing that show up more and more, or we can even, you know, think about past podcast episodes where you see me work with somebody and help them release their pain on the spot and they are doing it, you know, but just by shifting their mindset.

And so it's incredible how powerful. These shifts can be because we most commonly, you know, overlook the power of emotions. And if you think about it, here she has been on this spiritual journey and wanting to heal herself and doing all of these things. And yet also simultaneously overlooking All of this hurt and wounding.

And it's not just her, it's most people. Like there's some thing that is affecting the health and we tend to just overlook it. And so that's what we want to keep in mind. Now, something I do want to note is this, is that she had asked at the end, Oh, She said, well, if I just take care of these, would I expect my body to heal?

And I said, yes, to move towards it. I would expect as you genuinely change these, I would expect the body to start healing itself. You know, that's when I see the body start healing itself because these ongoing patterns. create ongoing wounding. And that's what I see connected to ongoing illness is there's a hurtful, you know, painful patterned way of thinking and feeling and thinking and feeling and thinking and feeling that's going on that's affecting somebody's health.

Now, I mentioned that she also would want to make sure if they're in clear, any layers that are connected. Now I mentioned that for a specific reason, because notice, even as she was asking me the question at the end, she said, you Well, of course, that's a stupid yes. And I corrected it and, and she was right there too.

She was correcting it, but we both was, she said, you know, this was just a big yes, not a stupid yes, but notice what is inside her mind. Now what's tricky is this, is that if she expects to be judged or criticized by people, a lot of times what she could do is have a, defense mechanism, so to speak, where she, you know, criticizes herself also as a defense to say, Oh, this is just a stupid question, you know, to, to beat somebody to it.

Now, of course, the great thing is she felt safe here. So she said, you know, she changed it very quickly. But the point being is that when I say there are layers, there absolutely can be, you know, you'll hear me say all the time with, multiple ingredients. And so what can happen is this is she might clear up these specific patterns.

And then as she does, she may start like the other layers may automatically clear up or. She may have to also address them because as you can see right there, that, you know, it's a stupid, yes. Well, that's really critical and judgmental of herself. But at this point where she's doing it, you know, and again, she corrected it.

So that's great. She's, she's becoming, she's, she's embracing the change. So we can see that she's embracing the change. And so that's why I say, The layer might clear up on its own because she's already starting to fix that. Whereas before, you know, given a different conversation, she probably would not have fixed that.

You can see right here, she's like a stupid yes, wait, a big yes. So she's correcting it. And so that's my point is that what may happen as she's addressing these patterns is that the other peripheral patterns that are connected to it, She may just resolve as she's going, which she's starting to do right there.

But she may not and she may keep those in which case she would also need to address those patterns as well, likely to fully heal just because there are layers. And so that's just wanting to emphasize that that that when I work with people and you'll see me work with, you know, help them to release their pain or all kinds of things, I always say, I make it look very, very easy.

And I do. And also it can be easy, but there's depth to it. And it really has to do with transforming our patterned ways of thinking and feeling. So as we talked about in the very, very beginning of this episode, we talked about You know, that is a key distinction that I figured out in my work is that if you just keep going after one emotion and emotion and emotion, you never really get ahead.

But when you identify the patterned way of thinking and feeling, and then you start to see all the ways that it's showing up, that's when it becomes pivotal. And so I would say that is a key distinction that I've been able to figure out to get results is really pivoting. Genuinely re patterning the mind and feeling in a different way.

So it's not just trauma healing or going to clear up an event or a past issue. It's actually understanding that there's a patterned way of thinking and feeling that's going on at a deeper level and changing that. That was a breakthrough discovery that then has enabled me to help people to get Those real results.

And so just bringing that into the awareness that when you change, it really does need to be a genuine change at a deeper level. And also, if we look at her situation, could you imagine this beautiful, beautiful being going from feeling hurt and defensive and not deserving of love and disconnected and feeling, you know, and even in tears at the mention, you know, when we first started this session and tears in tears about.

Not feeling loved and feeling like she's chasing love and wanting love but feeling very very unloved and having those tears To actually feeling like she's connected and loved and included and adored and loved for being her I mean that would be a beautiful in her life. And you can tell she's got so much heart.

She is a great person. She just has these unfortunate patterns of hurt, of wounding. And so that's the gift in healing. Of course, the more you identify that specific thing and genuinely transform it, it becomes a life changing gift, you know, heal yourself. Change your life. And so that's what I love. And on that note, I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode.

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And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

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