Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and your body. Your emotions and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself and your life.
Let's begin.
Hello and happy beautiful day to you on today's podcast. I am working with a beautiful volunteer. Her name is Sophie. And you're absolutely going to love her. She is just, she's so sweet. She's glowing, she's smiling, and she's also got some sensitivities going on at a deeper level. And so that's part of where we're going is looking at the topic of conversation where it has to do with feeling sensitive.
And I know that's a big topic. You know, sometimes people would say that sensitivity is the new superpower. And of course, sensitivity and being sensitive can also affect your health, your life, your happiness, your relationships. And that of course is part of the reason that we are talking about this very topic is because you want the right type of being sensitive, not the wrong type, because the wrong type of course can affect you.
And so that's where we're going. And Our volunteer today, what you'll notice as we step in is we start a bit slow. And the reason that I do that, that we're just kind of going in a little bit is first to kind of, you know, uncover what she's feeling and also not to do it too fast because she is sensitive.
And so it kind of starts. In a way that as we open it up, there's some awarenesses and, and by the way, what you'll notice is she does have great self awareness, great self honesty. It just, it takes a minute to open up, but as it does, the insights that come are profound. And so that's what I love. One of the many things that I love about today's episode.
And also, again, you're just going to love our volunteer, Sophie. And so that's where we're going. Let's go ahead and dive in. Here we go.
Hello, beautiful. How are you? I'm good, thank you. It's so lovely to get to talk to you. I'm very, very much looking forward to this. I love that. And I have to say, I love your accent, but I'm sure you've never heard that before. I'm the first one to say that, right? But I love your accent. Why, thank you. How can I help you today, beautiful?
Also, just to say, so sorry that I was late as well. My, um, the page was not loaded for some reason, and I had to change, change laptops. And I was like, oh no, why is it not happening? And no stress, right? It all works out. It worked out perfect. It's beautiful. Yeah. Perfect. Yeah. Yeah. So what can I help you with today?
Uh, so I think I discovered your podcast about maybe three months ago and yeah, just pretty much straight away just thought I would love, I would love to talk to you. I'd love to get your insights. Um, just, yeah, I've been loving listening to all of the different volunteers on it and just. Your approach just really resonates.
Um, I've been dealing with sort of layers, a layer, layers of a few different health issues, um, chronic issues that bled really badly about a year ago. And, um, so I've, I've always had quite heavy periods and Last year, they just didn't reach this point where they were just so heavy and so, so painful that I was having to take time off work.
Um, but I say having, I'm still having to do that because they're just so, so painful and so heavy. And I've also had, yeah, I don't recommend that to anybody. No, me neither. We're on the same page already. All right. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And sort of on top of that, um, I've had eczema since I was a child, um, really bad eczema since being a baby and for most of my sort of teens and adult life.
I've been able to manage it and sort of keep it under wraps. And, but again, about a year ago, that just skyrocketed. Um, and it's been the worst, it's been the worst that it's ever been really. And, um, it just kind of got to this point where I was unable to leave the house and Yes, I'm sorry. I feel like there's a few different things.
So if you want me to kind of you should focus in. You should absolutely apologize for all of that.
Okay, so we're going to laugh a little bit. We'll be playful a little bit, right? We're going to have fun and we're going to look at what's going on. Yeah. Sound good? That sounds good to me. Nice, nice. And, uh, bingo. All right.
All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a very quick moment. You know, all of the time when people see me checking into somebody's energy, they ask, you know, what are you doing? What are you doing with your hands? And, and by the way, this is on audio or video. So if you're somebody who's watching on video, you may have noticed sometimes there's a feeling of looking around or, or um, using my hands and people will ask me, you know, am I shifting energy with my hands or, or whatnot?
And so I want to just take a quick moment and unpack that because ultimately what I'm doing is I'm checking into her energy, but I also get information from universe, God, divine, whatever you want to call it, mother nature. Um, but so I'm getting information and also looking at how to work with her mind.
So kind of like mapping out the route of how to work with her mind, how sensitive to be with her is part of what I'm looking at. Now, when I work with my hands, it may sound silly, but the best way to think about it is that it's not that I'm moving energy with it. It's that, As I, it's like reading a book, if you will, if you're reading a book, you might follow along with your finger.
And so sometimes what's happening is that I'm checking different pieces and it's like following along with your finger, if you will, it's kind of hard to explain, but that's ultimately what I'm doing is I'm checking and seeing, okay, what are the emotions that are affecting her physical body and what do I need to do to change?
those and, and what's she feeling and where's the information. So all of that. And by the way, as far as energy goes, I know some people are very used to the term energies. For some people, it's a bit new. Um, if you missed last IQ episode, I unpacked the topic of bio photons a bit more, but basically, of course, our bodies are emitting energy with emotions.
And so research has shown there's a direct, direct correlation between. Our emotions and also our biophoton emissions. So fascinating and brand new, you know, just new research continuing to unfold. Absolutely incredible. But either way, that's what I'm doing is checking into her energy, if you will. And so that's where we're going to just notice what emotions she is feeling and then work to shift those.
And so that's where we're going as we step back in with beautiful Sophie. Okay, so it wants to go, okay, so it wants to go there first. Okay, that's why. So, I went to go check your, your menstrual cycle first because you mentioned it first and interestingly, your body actually wants to talk about the eczema first.
Okay. So, um, bingo. So give me one second. Um, and, uh, bingo,
bingo. Okay. So if I ask you how much you can find the feeling of feeling like people are not safe. Okay. How much can you find that feeling? Yes. Um, uh, 10. I mean, not just straight away. That just felt like, Oh yeah, you see me, you see me. Yeah. Um, okay. So, um, now you mentioned that it's, the eczema has been worse than it's ever been.
And I would say there's a feeling of feeling, uh, triggered, especially. Bingo. Since about February, there's an increase in that energy. Do you know why that is? Since this February. Bingo. Um, bingo. Actually, I'm sorry. Go ahead. I was just going to say, I'm trying to think what was going on in February. Give me one second because, um, I think it's actually, give me one second.
I think it's actually last February. Give me one second.
Uh, actually, uh, even this February. Um, Bingo. Give me one second. Okay, so let's go to the other side of the the other piece Also, if I ask you how much you can find the feeling of feeling Like hurt angry upset for feeling not loved if I ask you how much you can also find that feeling. What would you say?
Yes. Yeah, definitely. I can definitely find that
All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a very quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I just love her. She's beautiful. I love her energy. She's just so sweet. And also, um, insight that I want to point out is this is notice that when she is feeling unloved, she's also feeling a sense of feeling like people are cold towards her.
And that's part of what we're going to look at is you'll notice that we talk a bit more about the feeling of cold and their specific emotions. And the reason that I'm pointing it out is this, is that when it comes to working with the mind, We really want to be very specific. The more specific we can be, the faster it is to get results.
And that's the reason that, you know, all of the time I'll work with people and it's identifying that specific thing. And I make it look ridiculously easy because of that reason. Again, it's the analogy that I use all the time is, you know, like a computer. If you, Punch in the right keys, it works like a charm.
But if it, if you're struggling and you're pushing in all the wrong things and you don't know which one, then it can feel like a lot of stress. And that's what a lot of people do when it comes to healing with the mind is they just try to think positive or they just try to, you know, the meditations and the binaural beats and all those things could be great depending upon, you know, which ones of course, and whatnot.
But. The key to really getting healing results is to identifying those specific things. And so that's exactly what I'm grabbing for her is what, what's the specific recipe so then we can look at how to change that. And so there's more pieces and that's of course, where we're going as we step back in with beautiful Sophie.
Here we go.
Okay. And so if I ask you where that comes from, where would you say that comes from?
It could be a few different ways that I think when I was, When I was growing up, um, there was a lot of friction with my older sister. Um, there's a lot of feeling that I was, you know, I was, I was, I was a burden. It was something that I was doing wrong. Um, maybe that's something that I was doing wrong, just kind of by being me, by just being.
Yeah. Thank you. Can you give me her first initial, please? Bingo. Thank you. Okay. Because I was checking both your parents and I didn't see it initially there, and that's, that's, uh, but it almost, it, it, it feels like she's kind of off to the side for some reason. But anyways, so I, yeah, . Okay. So you, you feel like she, yeah.
So, um, uh, gimme one second. So if I ask you, um, bingo. If I ask you to notice the feeling of feeling like, um. Bingo. A feeling like she doesn't love you. She hasn't loved like it, she like it, it's unfair. Like it's unfair that she hasn't been loving and kind to you. Can you see that? Mm, yes. Okay. And so, um, there's kind of, and there's a little, there's a part of you, not little maybe, but there's a part of you, uh, an energy of kind of like stomping your feet, feeling really, uh, angry about it.
Can you see that? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. So, so. Even though you have this delicate little flower energy, uh, there is this feeling of feeling like like the anger side comes out. You can see that, right? Absolutely. So what I would also say is part of the reason that it feels like it's more upset than ever is because there's a part of you that's kind of like gone more into anger.
Like there used to be a, like it feels like you've gone a bit more into being angry about it and being, um Upset about it. You can see that, correct? Reactive, I guess is another way to put it. Yeah, it's, it's strange. Yes and no. In a way, in a weird way, I thought that I'd kind of come to terms with all of that and sort of accepted that bit more, but I got you.
Okay. And by the way, um, give me one second because, uh, can you give me her initial again, please? Please. Okay. And, um,
are you currently in a relationship? I'm not, no. Okay. And if I ask you, okay, so there's, um, I, it feels like a, a man and I'm not a hundred percent sure. Uh, but do you know who, uh, there's a feeling of feeling, uh, rejected by him? Do you know who that is by chance? Um, that it could be a previous boyfriend. Can you gimme his first initial j.
Bingo. Okay. Bingo. There we go. Okay. And so, uh, and so I would say him and Bingo. If I ask you how much you can find the feeling of feeling like even though like how much you've been you tell yourself So and so never cared about me anyway, so and so blah blah blah if I ask you how much you can find that in your head What would you say?
Zero to ten.
Five or six. I would have said right in there, maybe five, six, bingo, about seven, six, right in there. Okay, so I love your awareness and, um, bingo. All right, so ask you to breathe.
And if I ask you right now, as far as your eczema goes, is any of it painful right now or is it just, um, No, it's not actually, it's not painful. Okay, it's just there. Um, okay. So, um, give me one second. Uh,
it also feels like there's conflict with another person. It feels like a female about three months ago. Do you know who that is by chance? No, I don't think so. It feels like around June.
Nothing obvious that comes to mind, but I was living in a flat share at that time. Bingo. Okay. Great. Okay. So you were living in a flat share at that time and, uh, there was a bingo. Okay. So do you know who that might be? That was, uh, felt like there's a feeling of feeling, um, uh, like she wasn't nice to you.
We will say that. Do you know who that is? I think so, yeah. Yeah, I think that was the flatmate. Go ahead, and? I would, I would say she was a nice person, but could be quite cold with me, and I took that very personally. I found it quite hard to, to feel comfortable at home. Okay. So notice for a moment how you keep that beautiful smile, but behind that, there's some tears on this topic.
You can see a lot of hurt on this topic, right? Yeah. So if I ask you honestly, what's inside zero to 10, how much would you say you have, um, underlying hurt or underlying tears, if you will, on this topic, what would you say? Yeah, let's see. A seven or an eight and it, it feels like there's been a pattern of home not feeling like home and feeling friction in the place where I'm meant to feel safe.
Bingo. And not only that, but the other word you said that was also the vibe as well was a feeling of feeling like somebody's cold to you. And then it hurts. You can see that. If I asked you how much you felt like your sister was cold to you growing up, what would you say? Oh yeah, yeah. Eight, nine. Okay. And so, and you notice that feeling also in the flat of feeling like, and so there's this feeling of feeling like, but I'm the innocent one.
I'm the good one. Why is this happening? And then also , right? So, um, yeah. I, I, I see you. I see you. Uh, so gimme one second. So.
All right. So let's pause it just for a quick moment. You know, again, just what a beautiful being, just so sweet, so precious. And what you're going to notice coming up is this, is that there's this pattern. There's a way of looking at things, of feeling, of feeling the hurt. And now what I'm going to ask her to do now, we're really getting into creating that shift is I'm going to ask her not only to start feeling in a different way, but then to start really embodying that change.
And so I kind of bring it all together where what we'll notice is this, is that as we dive in even further, you'll notice that A lot of times what can happen is our very emotions, our patterns, can then perpetuate the problem. Now I call this the emotion consciousness cycle or the emotion perception cycle.
And this was a really profound discovery of realizing just how much our consciousness And our, like our emotions control our consciousness. Then our, our, then we take action from that. And then the action perpetuates the problem. And then of course we attract more of the same thing. And what happens is we just end up in these cycles of hurt because of the way that we're seeing, we're perceiving, and then how it's also affecting our behavior.
And so what happens is that it ends up repeating itself and showing up in life over and over again, because it's like, it's a cycle. It's hard to get out of the cycle. And so that, which may sound a little complex, but as we dive in, you'll notice where she says, Oh my gosh, this is, this is easy because she sees it and she's also willing to change, but we'll unpack that even more as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Sophie.
Here we go.
So this is where we're going to go. You're not easily hurt at all, right?
Uh, I don't have a thick, I wouldn't say I have a thick skin. What's that? I wouldn't say that I have a thick skin. I would have to agree with you on that. Yeah. Okay. So, so instead, I would say things easily bother your skin. Yes. Okay. So to speak. things. And so, which goes back to the energy of the eczema.
Okay. So, uh, bingo. So I'm going to ask you to breathe
now, you know, imagine for a moment.
Bingo. So give me one second.
Bingo.
Okay. So imagine for a moment when you and I first connected, you're a little bit late, right? Yes. Now imagine if that hurt my feelings and I was like, my feelings are so hurt. I'm really, really upset. I'm so, so, so hurt. Would you have an easy time connecting with me or a harder time because I'm kind of sensitive?
Harder time, I guess. Yeah, right. Yeah, absolutely. So let's say, and I was like, Oh, no big deal. It all worked out. I got something done. It worked out perfect. We float. Okay. So notice for a moment, but if I had been like hurt and upset, would I have made things hard? Yes. Okay. Now, if I ask you in the past, how many times people will say, well, wait a second, you shouldn't even be hurt.
Like, I didn't do this or I didn't do that. How many times people were saying that to you of don't be hurt. Don't be so hurt. You don't have to be hurt. If I ask you how many times have you heard that? Yeah. You're being sensitive or, you know, over, overreacting. Okay. Now this is what's great. Now I want you to notice when people say you're being sensitive or overreacting, if I ask you how often you defend it, you say, no, but you got to understand, blah, blah, blah.
You defend it, right? Yes. Now I want to invite you to think about this in a different way. Ready? So I'm going to ask you to close your eyes. Now, if they say, Oh, you're just being overly sensitive. What they're really saying is.
This shouldn't hurt your feelings at all. I didn't mean it. You're not unloved. You're not unloved. You're not unloved. Now, if you say, yes, I am because of this, this, and this, how do you feel? Unloved. But if they say, well, wait a second, I didn't mean it like that. This is, you're, you're being sensitive. No, no, I didn't mean it like that.
And then what you feel. So let's say you accepted that. How hurt would you feel? If you said, oh, you didn't mean it like that. Okay. Oh, I mean, that would be great. It would just hold us all. Yeah. Exactly. You could say, Oh, okay. Now imagine you were a couple minutes late because you were having a few tech issues, right?
Now imagine if you come in and I say, Oh, I'm so upset. My feelings are really hurt. She just abandoned me. Okay. Now I'm so upset. I'm so hurt. Okay. Now am I overreacting? Maybe a little bit. Yeah. Okay, now imagine how hurt I am. There we go. You just abandoned me, right? Okay, and you say, Hey, I had some tech issues.
Sorry about that. We had to switch computers and I'm good. Everything's fine. Oh, okay. No big deal. Right? Yeah. So imagine if I was like that on a regular basis.
Now, would that make it easy to connect with me or hard to connect with me? Hard to hard to connect with me. Is there any chance you might start avoiding me? To not hurt my feelings because it's easier to not hurt my, it's easier to avoid me because if so, you got to walk on eggshells because you might hurt my feelings.
Yes, yes, that makes a lot of sense. Okay, great, great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Now, notice for a moment what we're doing. So, we're kind of invalidating your hurt and saying, but what, what if they, what if you don't have to be hurt by it? What if it was a miscommunication? Now, I know in relationships there are never miscommunications, right?
Right? Never. Uh, no. There are, there are actually, yeah. . Okay. So a person, so by the way, this doesn't mean that it was your mis, like it could mean that they mis expressed, that they expressed in a way and they said, you know what? I didn't, I didn't mean it like that. So I'm not saying it's always your interpretation.
They could have miscommunicated, but if you then give them the chance to then say, but I didn't mean it like that. Then you give them the chance to then say, wait, wait a second. I didn't, I maybe I wasn't perfect in my communication. I didn't mean it like that. And then instead of validating and saying, but it hurt my feelings.
But yeah. But you could instead say, okay, I decide that if you meant it in a different way, I will accept it and I, I don't need to have hurt feelings. Does that make sense? Yes, it does. It really does. Okay. Now, by the way. If there was somebody in your life who was always easily hurt, if you did this and it hurt their feelings and then you did this and it hurt their feelings and then you did this, is there any chance you might find yourself avoiding them a little bit?
Yes. Because maybe a little bit? Maybe a little bit a lot. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I'm gonna invite you to close your eyes
and I'm gonna invite you to take in the awareness also. I want you to be clear. I'm not saying to you, Hey, this is all your fault. You've completely communicated incorrectly. Or you've completely This is all What I am saying is, is people can miscommunicate, where they don't express themselves correctly.
Or maybe you could take it in a wrong way. Um, let's say 50 50. Let's say sometimes maybe somebody was miscommunicating. Maybe sometimes you took it in a wrong way. Or maybe they were reactive or somebody was reactive and then you took it personally. But then when they said, hey, you're being sensitive, you could have, you could at that point then decide, okay, I don't need to take it personally.
Does that make sense? Yes, it does. Now notice for a moment when we first started and you had said, Oh, I'm so sorry about it. And I was like, no big deal. All good. Let's move on. Like it didn't bother me the slightest bit. Like it worked out. Right. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you how many times you would say in your life, you've heard people say you're too sensitive to things.
If I ask you how many times you've heard that? A lot. Particularly growing up. Yeah. As a child, a lot. Yeah. Great. So I have a question for you. What if you weren't unloved?
And what if the coldness wasn't really an intention to be mean? But what if it was really like, I got to walk on eggshells. I better be careful. I don't want to, what if it, what, what if, like, would that feel worse or better?
Now I'm going to ask you to breathe. So what if you're hurt now, even in the house, the flatmates you just recently had, if I ask you, do you think by chance you might've been maybe one of the most sensitive people in the house? Yes. Quite likely. Quite likely. Okay. Okay. Now, out of curiosity, if you weren't as sensitive and notice for a moment, I don't want to say sensitive.
See, it's tricky because we say the word sensitive and if you think about it, I feel what other people feel, right? So I am very intuitive, very sensitive to things, very tuned in. So that's one type of sensitive and another type that we're talking about is easily feeling and interpreting as pain, right?
Yes. Yeah, and so I don't easily interpret something as pain or a problem or hurt or upset or rejection or dislike or whatnot I don't have that easily inter easy interpretation of that. Does that make sense? Yes, it does. It really does. I love your awareness. You're just you're so beautiful. I love that. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe
And I'm going to ask you to take in the feeling of what it feels like. What if the awareness, just even in the flatmates, if you just said, look it,
I see now that being overly sensitive in a hurtful way. and overly reactive is actually creating a disconnect. It's making people want to be cold because then they want that distance to feel more safe. So just like the one you mentioned in the, in the flat where she was nice, but also cold, you can see maybe from a different perspective, would you say?
Yes, definitely. Yeah, that's, it's really given me another perspective to that situation. Fantastic. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.
So what happens moving forward if you see in a different way, if you feel in a different way, if something happens and you think, well, this is not a big deal. This is fine. This is not a big deal. I'm not being rejected. I'm not being hurt. I don't need to be reactive. I don't need to be upset. What happens if it's a whole different thing?
What if it's a different experience? What if you don't have to take things personally? And even if somebody is having a bad day or this, that, the other, you just like, okay, well I don't have to take it personally. It's their stuff. Yeah, that would be amazing. I mean, the amount of energy that I waste in taking, taking things personally and responding to perceived, you know, coldness or hurt.
You're brilliant. You're brilliant. And I love exactly what you just said. The amount of time and energy, but also the perceived hurt and taking all of that, right? And so I'm going to ask you to breathe. I mean, and right now it would be really horrible if you only had the perception of being loved, wouldn't it?
It's still horrible. Horrible? You wouldn't want that now, would you? No.
But see, this is what's great. You have such a good sense of humor and a playfulness that so much of that hurt buries this part of you that can play and laugh and banter and be fun. It's so true. It's so true. Yeah. It's so true. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. And I'm going to ask you to breathe.
Bingo. And bingo. And if you knew, okay, so, um, give me one second. Universe wants to go there, there, there. Bingo. Okay. So I also want you to notice the part of you that can be really reactive, like on like very fast. You can see that, right? Yeah. Okay. So if I ask you moving forward, What could you do instead of reacting?
What would you be willing to commit to, to do things in a different way? Because ultimately you'd want to, of course, see things in a new way, take things in in a new way and be able to react also in a new way. So if I ask you what change you'd be willing to embrace moving forward, what would that be? Um, I think pausing.
Um, maybe create some space between, I'm so familiar with that goal to have, yeah. Taking it personally, you know, that, that equals something's wrong with me or I'm doing something wrong and creating space. Yeah. Okay. Now, by the way, if I ask you also zero to 10, how much you have a feeling of pride in standing up for yourself?
If I ask you zero to 10 points of saying something.
About five. I'd say that sometimes I do when I feel more empowered and then other times I find it really hard to find my corner. Okay. And just like you said, you tend to do it when you feel more empowered, right? So those are linked up. But what if empowerment was different? What if empowerment was linked up to not taking it personally?
Yeah. Yeah, that makes sense. Because this is the thing, right? If I told you that when I feel empowered, I stand up for myself against perceived hurt. But if perceived hurt isn't quite accurate, and I'm being overly sensitive, now I'm standing up to something and I'm proud of standing up to something that, that I'm not quite perceiving in the right way.
Does that make sense? That makes a lot of sense. Yeah. Okay. So then, especially if I'm proud of it, I'm going to want to keep doing it. So if I said, wait a second, you know what I'm proud of? Not taking things personally. I'm empowered. Their stuff doesn't need to be my stuff. Yeah. Right. Okay. So what does that look like?
Oh, I mean, so much better. So much more ease. Yeah. Bingo. Okay. So much more ease. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And by the way, when you and I, it kind of worked out perfectly. I use everything, anything that I can, but notice when you showed up a few minutes late and I said, Oh, no big deal, beautiful.
That's all good. How did that feel for me to just say no big deal? Oh, comforting. Extremely comforting. Yeah. Comforting, right? Yeah. Now I was like, I'm really upset about this. I'm, if I asked you, I mean, it was, it was just a few minutes. It wasn't even a big deal, but, and, but either way, notice how, like, it was just.
flowy and, and easy, right? Yes. Yes, absolutely. So you could just feel easy to be you. And it's, and obviously I'm just using a simple thing. My point is what if everybody around you feels like it's easy to just be themselves and they can just fully be themselves without worrying they're going to upset you without worrying they might say something that might upset you or hurt your
It's so much better both ways, isn't it? Yeah. Well, not only that, but I'm going to ask you to close your eyes. And what I'm wanting from this is the feeling of what it would feel like to allow people to be completely comfortable around you. Completely comfortable. Maybe you said, look, I'm not going to take things personally.
They can just be comfortable and be themselves. You don't have to take things personally. Now, of course. You're not going to take a bunch of bad energy and attitude and all of that. But, but notice again how you can see that even growing up, you've heard over and over and over throughout your life that you're being too sensitive, right?
Which isn't a criticism. It's a gift when you think about it that way. Because if you say, Oh, I don't have to be hurt by this. Oh, you didn't mean that you didn't love me. You didn't mean that you'd like you. Okay. You didn't mean that. Okay. I'll take it. Does that make sense? And by the way, as you know, most people do what?
If somebody hurts their feelings, what do they do? They validate it. No, no, no. You did this, and you did this, and you did this. So they validate their hurt feelings, right? Most people do that. Yeah, right? Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and give me one second. Bingo. And I have to say, Um, bingo.
The biggest feeling I feel from you is actually letting you digest this and really embrace this change right now. Um, bingo. So if I ask you, do you have any questions about this?
I don't think I do. I, it's crazy because it seems so simple. And, but it resonates so much and I can almost see past situations playing out and pattern, that kind of ingrained pattern playing out. And yeah, how, how different it would have been to not take that personally, to not feel like I have to take it personally, just free enough that space to just be me and just to relax.
And yeah, like you say, to let the other person be, be them as well. So that it's that kind of. You know, we can share that space and that vulnerability without tension. Absolutely. And the other thing is, is this, is that, you know, especially because this happened at such a young age for you to start seeing in a different way and then perceiving.
So what makes it all so easy is this, is that in some cases people might say, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. But you're going, you know what, I see it. I get it. I can change. And so I would say part of the reason that it's easy is that sometimes people would want to blame even more and more and more and be very stuck in that.
And I would say the part of it that's really also making it easy is you're saying, you know what, I can see both sides. Okay, I could, I could do that. And so I would say the more that we are willing to embrace change, the easier it is also. And so I would also say that there are a lot of. The thing of it is, is when we have, like you said, Not having that, that, um, wasting all that energy in that to have the conflict, also to have the, the pride and then standing up, but the conflict, then the feeling of unloved, then the feeling of hurt, then the feeling of not feeling safe in a home.
And so, basically, the thing of it is there's so many p, it, there's so many pieces that are connected to this, that as this, this needs to shift in and sit in first and, and digest. And then it'll be easier to kind of just see where the pieces all are. Does that make sense? It really does. It really does. I love that.
I have to say, I am so impressed at your self awareness and, uh, just, you're just, you're beautiful inside and out. Um, it has been such a pleasure connecting with you, gorgeous. Oh, thank you so much. It's been a pleasure connecting with you too. Thank you so much. Thank you.
All right. So let's go ahead and unpack this even more. And so much respect for our beautiful volunteer. Like I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty and I love her willingness to change. Just beautiful. And what I also love is this, is she said, well, this just seems too easy. This seems so easy.
But what if you think about it for a moment? Also look at how much hurt, That she has experienced over and over again. And we even talked about how she had, you know, stored up tears that even though she's got this beautiful smile on her face and this wonderful sense of humor, that there were a lot of tears underneath and, and she could feel that.
And, and so this has been a very painful pattern where she said, you know, she's always had this pattern of feeling like home should be safe, but it's not, and that's a hard pattern. And not that it's hard, you know, all patterns, you know, when we're stuck in them, they can feel hard, but I mean, it's, it's a hurt that she has felt at her core.
Now, of course, what's beautiful is where she said, you know, gosh, this is easy. And that's kind of, that is the point, is that all of the time, What happens is this, is the more that we can see why our minds are doing something and we can see it in a new way and we can understand specifically what's affecting us and then change it.
It can be easy. And of course it takes follow through. It does. Just like learning a new language or just like learning a new alphabet. It takes follow through. We have to get it in. We have to really feel differently. So it does take a level of follow through a hundred percent. The more that we can see it, the more we understand our own minds, the easier it is, which is of course the reason that I have been able to work with people back to back to back to back to back under medical equipment even and show people how to release their own pain is because there is a logic to the mind.
It almost becomes easy. The more you understand it, and that's the key is the more you understand. It's just like anything again, the computer, you know, when you know how to use a computer or a cell phone, it feels easy. And when you don't, wow, you kind of want to throw it out the window. And so that's the same with mind, body healing.
The problem is a lot of times the approach. With mind body healing is where people are just hitting a lot of buttons and hoping that it works. And of course, I'm not judging. That's exactly what I did. You know, I was doing the positive thinking and the affirmations and the meditations and the binaural beats and the, the, the, all of the things.
And all of that can be great. So nothing negative against it. But after years and years and years and years and years of doing that, And I said, okay, well, let me understand how this works and how to get results. It was pivotal. And so just speaking to the awareness that where she said, this feels easy. Oh, she's experiencing that.
She's going, wait a second. This feels easy. And it can be, it absolutely can be. And. Even so, it is going to take a follow through. It is going to take a real follow through, a genuine change. So that part is going to be key for her to do as well. But just incredible when we start to see things and we get more and more clarity as to patterns and whatnot.
So just beautiful. I just absolutely love this episode for so many reasons. Now, the other thing that I want to really highlight here is also the feeling of sensitivity. So the way I want to invite you to think about sensitivity is this. is that, you know, let's say somebody touches your arm and it's very sensitive.
Like, meaning that you can feel it. You can feel it and you're aware of it. That's a great sensitivity. Like maybe if, you know, if, if you're sensitive to awareness, acutely aware of something, an acute awareness can be an absolute superpower. The, in a simple way to think about it is like is a professional musician is acutely aware.
of different sounds. You know, if they're playing the guitar, they know the difference between a B and a B flat. And that precision, that awareness, it helps them to succeed at the next level or anything that we do. The more we have a precise awareness, it's powerful. And so the true, the same is true with emotions and our mindset.
The more we have that precise awareness, it's powerful. So being sensitive and aware is great. But if you're sensitive to something and then you say, ow, It hurts. That's not so good. That's a different type of sensitive. And so a lot of times what can happen is the overly sensitive, it's a different type of sensitive with hurt attached to it.
And so in my own case, I am very acutely aware of energy, of emotions to, to a fine tee. Like, you know, there's a huge difference to me between the emotion of feeling afraid and feeling fear, like fear and afraid and scared. They vibrate differently. So I have that acute awareness, even between those emotions.
And so that's a very sensitive and tuned into it. But it's not painful for me. And so that's what I want to invite you to look at because this is the reason is more and more people are taking in the awareness that it's good to be sensitive. And so they, they're programming their mind that they're getting hurt more easily.
And you don't want that either. You don't want to feel hurt more easily. And so thinking about that awareness that, you know, that you want to, yes, be sensitive, be tuned in, but not sensitive. So, a very, very important distinction. Alright, so that's today's, that's today's episode, and it has been such a pleasure connecting with you.
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And so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do have a most wonderful, incredible rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.
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What we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible.
And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at BrandyGillmore.
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