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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are somebody who is here, who's continuing to expand your mind and your energy and your heart and your consciousness. I just love it. And I just love where we're going on today's episode and our volunteer. I mean, he's just like a teddy bear.

He just has such a sweet heart and That's what we're going to be talking about is we are going to be talking about matters of love and connection and also, of course, physical healing as well. And we're going to be working again with our volunteer from last week's volunteer episode. And if you remember, we had been working with the Kim, who has been struggling with emphysema and has had a level 10 of tightness in his chest and, you know, on oxygen at night and to walk around and different things like that.

And so that's what we're working on is with healing and releasing that tightness in his chest and also talking about key things he can do with his emotions and his energy and his mindset. to help him to really start shifting his body into healing. And so that's where we're going on today's episode and just kind of picking up where we left off, you know, on the first half of the session, which we listened to last week, we had talked about the relationship that he had with his wife and sometimes getting caught up in that emotion of kind of making her wrong and a lot of.

arguing energy and, and different things like that. And, you know, wanting to be right and getting caught up in those emotions, even though. He obviously has so much love for her, he was getting stuck there, and then wanting love, and craving love. Meanwhile, also making her feel wrong, and etc, etc. So there was a lot of different emotions that were going on, and so, If you recall on last week's episode, we were talking about, you know, just that feeling of mutual respect, even if you don't agree with somebody and purposely creating more love and purposely making people feel good and acknowledged and, and all of those wonderful feelings in your relationships.

And so that's where we left off last week on that first half of his session. And if you happen to miss that, I'd strongly recommend going back and really listening to that episode. And then. Coming back here to listen to the second half of his session because as we dive in today We're going to address some of those underlying Patterns and some real changes that he's gonna want to address at a deeper level in his mind And so that's where we're gonna go And by the way, he did send in a short email on his progress and where he is after the session.

And so I'm going to go ahead and read that at the end to just kind of give you an idea on where he is and the changes that he's starting to make in his life and all of that. So that said, let's go ahead and dive in with Kim. Here we go.

And if I told you that there's somebody who has this belief that says people have to love me and if I have Health issue they have to pay attention to me if I have this and this and this they have to pay attention to me And by the way I don't have any feeling that says, let me have people around me because I'm creating fun, because they like being around me, because I'm fun to be around, because they're good around me, that they feel good, they feel acknowledged, they feel connecting, they feel this amazing feeling of feeling good, right?

Okay, so you see how that part's been missing, right? Yes, I can, yep, and I know that, and I just can't get over that hump, it seems. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment and for a quick spoiler alert You know I mentioned that I was going to be reading his email at the very end and I just wanted to read like a little quick Blurb from his email where he says I am keeping a positive attitude and my wife is much happier with me as well.

And so I just want to note that really quickly from his email, just because one, it's beautiful. I love that he followed through and he's implementing it and he's making those changes. And it's really, really sweet. And right here. As we were going through this session in real time with him, there was some changes that we were looking at, you know, really kind of pushing him to say, look, you've got to make these changes just because even though he's got this huge teddy bear heart, he also had a lot of, you know, resistance, just old programming that, you know, It obviously, he didn't put that programming there on purpose.

And so that's what I want to invite you to pay attention as we go through this are just some of his emotions and also the programming about connection and love. And we're going to break that down even further and really look at the transformation that needs to occur in his life. And so that's where we're going as we dive back in.

With Kim. Here we go.

So watch this. If I felt like I was supposed to walk into a store and they were just supposed to give me everything in the store, first and foremost, is that true? No. Secondly, if I felt that way and, and they weren't doing that, then there's part inside of me that might feel wronged. and upset and like it's unfair and they're not treating me right because this is what I'm supposed to have right now that thinking would not be accurate but what would happen is my emotional response from that Would, would, like, because of my beliefs, it's like if you, if you believe something and then it does not happening the way that you think it's supposed to, then you feel upset and unheard and not acknowledged and, and all of that.

Does that make sense? Yes, it does. Yep. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to realize that even in this call right here, when I'm saying to you, how are you making your wife feel? Can you connect with her more? How are you making her feel? And can you add more of that feel good into your relationship?

Lovingly said. And there's don't, don't criticize yourself. Remember we talked about that in the very beginning. This is not about criticism. It's about awareness and change. Right. Correct. Okay. So the thing of it is, is it when I'm saying to you, this is what you want to do. This is what you want to do. This is what you want to do.

Your immediate go to in your brain and don't criticize it. It's a programming. Okay. Your immediate programming in your brain is. But when I do this, this is all about me, and she's supposed to do this, and she's supposed to do that. Now, if she was a nurse, or if she was your caregiver, then yes. Okay? But the thing of it is, is that she's also your wife.

And you wanna, and so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm gonna ask you that, notice there's a part in you that says, The rule is, That my, that I, okay, so even if we bring the, if we link these together, we say that notice in your subconscious mind, there is a feeling that you want more love and more connection and that you also simultaneously have a rule in you that says that if I'm having a health issue and I can't breathe, then she's supposed to give me more love and a connection.

But what if that was linked up to, well, if I'm just nice and I treat her kind and loving and we're having a good time, well, of course. She'll want me to, she'll want to connect and give me more love and connection. It would be like this. If somebody said, Brandy, if I, if I said, you know what, I want to drive to Mexico and I'm going to start driving North.

Well, North is going to head me towards Canada, not Mexico. Okay. And so you want to notice that linked up in your brain. And yours is like, Oh, well, if I have more problems and then she's ignoring me, what? She's supposed to give me more attention or, Oh my God, well, I'm just making her wrong and I'm creating an argument.

She's supposed to give me more love and connection. And it's like the, again, if I was like, okay, well I'm going to drive North and I hope to get to Mexico soon. I'd be driving for a long time because it's just not, it's a bad plan. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and I'm going to

ask you just for a moment to realize the strategies that are in your brain. And are programmed in aren't working. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Good, good, good job with your energy. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I'm just going to say that again, the strategies that are in your brain that are linked up, they're not working and it's time to do things differently.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I have to say, I just love this guy. I mean, he's such a sweetheart. His heart is so beautiful. He has all Awesome self awareness and so honest and just great self honesty. He's just an incredible guy. And also, of course, a great sense of humor as we were laughing and talking about, you know, trying to drive north and make it to Mexico, you know, that feeling of feeling like what you're trying to do.

is, you know, not in the direction of what your actions are. And that's the part I want to talk about for a moment, because all of the time, people will have things that are linked up in their subconscious mind that don't make a lot of sense. And especially when it comes to love and connection. And so.

He's just somebody who's had that linked up. And now, of course, as we're looking at this and unpacking it, he's seeing what has been going on in his subconscious mind. And that's what we're talking about is, is really changing it. Now I will go ahead and unpack this even more as we get through. to the end of the episode.

But right now, I just really wanted you to kind of notice that because that's where we're going. And just those subconscious patterns can be pretty tricky. So the other thing on that note is notice for a moment as I'm working with him, I am pushing him a bit, you know, I'm pushing and being a bit silly.

But the reason that I'm doing that is because If I'm too loving on all of this stuff, if I add a ton of love to all of it right now, then ultimately what I would be doing is I would be reinforcing the patterns and adding more energy to it instead of less. And so all of the time, you know, the brain is a lot more tricky to work with.

Then most people realize, and a lot of times things will end up getting reinforced instead of transformed. And so that's the reason that I'm pushing him a bit. And even though he's got this teddy bear sweet energy, that's where we're going is we're just going to push a bit more and then really break this down.

And so that's where we're going as we dive back in with Kim. Here we go.

I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you not to judge or criticize yourself at all. That's not the goal. That's not the goal at all. It's simply to change, to do things in a different way. And I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Good, good. I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

Good. I'm gonna ask you to take that in and I'm gonna ask you, Are you willing to do things in a different way? Really? I am really willing to, yep, 100%. Really? Yep, really. Really? Really? Yep, I am. Really? Really. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

Good. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. All right. And I'm going to ask you to notice your level of tightness. What's your level of tightness? About a three. A three. And who's doing that? I am. You are kind of amazing. Aren't you? It is. It is amazing. Right. You're amazing. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and, uh, bingo.

Give me one sec. That, that, that, that bingo. All right. So actually I got to tell you. Um, um, I actually, what I, what I feel like we should do because you are on oxygen and we don't want your oxygen to go too high, too low, any of that, um, is I actually want to stop here and I want you just to get that in and work with it more and then pay attention to your oxygen levels because I don't want, I don't want to create too much of a shift while you're like, you know, I want you to be able to monitor your oxygen simultaneously.

Does that make sense? Sure. Yeah. So, uh, could, so we're gonna, so we're gonna stop there and of course I'm not saying go off oxygen. I'm saying, so I want you to get this in and I want you to, uh, then obviously pay attention to your oxygen. Make sure it's not going too high either, um, or too low, um, bingo. And uh, bingo.

So give me one second. Mm, mm, mm.

Give me one second. I just want to kind of just check the energy. Give me a second.

All right, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

And first and foremost, awesome job with your energy. I mean, you did that. And I want to ask you to take that in for a moment. You did that.

And I'm gonna ask you to be willing to really create the change, to embody this change fully. And I want you to think about what this relationship with your wife would look like as you do. And if you're willing to make that real change. Are you really, really, really willing to make that change? I really am.

I need to. Beautiful. Beautiful. I love that. I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you to notice the tightness level. Zero to ten. What's your level? About a one. A one. A one's going away though. It's going away. Who's doing that? I am. I am. You are. You're amazing. You're amazing. Well, it's only because of your help as well. I really appreciate what you've done and all your advice.

You're so, so, so welcome. You're so welcome. And so that's what I want you to do is I want you to make this your new norm of really embodying the change. And we have Talked about, you know, different cultures and Amazon or Bali or different things like that. And even if your wife does have like a different opinion about something or like making room for both people to be right, like people in Bali can be right.

And people in Amazon and people in Africa and people everywhere can have their own perspective and everybody can be right. Right. Correct. Yep. Absolutely. Great. And I won't make that change. And I do want to say real quick, you do have a very beautiful heart. You just, you have a really, really beautiful heart and I love how much you love your wife.

I can, I can see that and it's just, it's, it's really beautiful. So I'm excited to see you change this in your life. Well, I'm very, uh, um, I'm very excited and I'm confident that, uh, you know, I will get this done. And again, thank you for, you know, so much for your help, Randy. You're so, so welcome. It's been a pleasure.

There's it's been such a pleasure and uh, And beautiful and make sure to monitor your oxygen follow up with your doctor Um a beautiful beautiful job and uh, and I wish you a most wonderful rest of your day Thank you very much. And you too brandy. Thank you. Thank you. Kim. Bye. Bye. Bye

All right. So let's go ahead and unpack this even more for some really powerful takeaways in this. And so first and foremost, you know, I just want to say he did such a great job. You know, if you recall the tightness that he started with in his lungs was a level 10 and he was able to get it down to a level one and he did that, which is so impressive.

And I have to tell you, you know, once I. wrap up with somebody after we record the podcast. I always want to make sure that they get the recording right away so that they can start making sure to listen to it, to get the information in because it's, you know, it's specific to them and what they're going through.

And so as we were hanging up, He asked me, you know, so how long till my body will heal completely? And, you know, he had some questions about that. And what I told him, of course, as I just mentioned, is that I didn't want to push too much because he is on prescription oxygen and he needs to pay attention to his prescription and monitor and all that.

So I did want to make a radical change. And also I want him to integrate it and really take it in and continue to monitor it because all of the time I'll see people who make radical shifts and then their medication will need to be discontinued. And of course, I always want to emphasize that is not my role.

I always want people to make sure to see their doctors, to monitor their medications. And so if you are on medications and you are working with your mind, then make sure to be diligent to do so, to just Pay attention to creating that shift. And by the way, speaking of following through, Kim is working on exactly that.

He sent an email that said, I am listening to the recording every day and the tightness in my chest is going away. Which is awesome. Like he's doing it, which is beautiful. And then he continues on and he says, you know, now if I can completely heal my emphysema and get off oxygen completely, that will be awesome.

Not sure how long that will take and my wife is much happier with me as well. So that's always a plus. And which is a plus because if you recall there were some major changes that needed to be made. on the first half of the session. So I love he's doing it and he's being able to sustain those changes and continuing to embrace that real transformation.

And I just want to emphasize, especially with some type of ongoing health issues, such as this, you know, with emphysema or any type of, you know, real ongoing issue that people have had, it really does take real change and real follow through. So I love that he's working on that. And by the way, I also want to say he did jump in the video course as well, which is a really great place for him to be because ultimately he wants to make this shift.

really, really, um, transformative. And that is going to be important. And it would be really good for him to do some releasing of all the old negative stuff at a deeper level as well. So that is key. So I love he's in the video set. And that's what I want to take a moment and talk with you about is, you know, notice as we're working with.

we're working on things like really looking at a new patterned way of love, a new way of connecting with his wife and, and feeling like he's getting positive love and, and, you know, just really feeling that connection in a new way. And that's what I want to invite you to do is, you know, we were talking earlier about how sometimes there are subconscious patterns for love that don't really make sense, like driving North to get to Mexico, which doesn't make sense unless you're, of course you're in South America, but you know, from the U S it, it doesn't make sense to get you there.

And that a lot of times people can have patterns of getting love or trying to get love that aren't working for them. And so it leaves them feeling unloved. And I want to unpack this a bit because all of the time I'll see people who have been working with their mind for years and years and years and years and years, and they're still very stuck or even more stuck than they were before, but they just don't realize it.

So I want to kind of break this down a bit. a bit. A common place where people get stuck is, you know, all of the time I'll see people who, they start working with their mind. And the first thing they want to do is they want to work with their childhood wounding and start trying to get rid of that. Now, what happens is this, and I'll give you just a simple example.

Let's say, you know, somebody had a really hard childhood and maybe they had a parent who was really mean or something like that. And. at the time in childhood, let's say that they started getting this feeling of love and connection for sympathy, you know, people around them might feel sorry for them. And that became their patterned way of getting love and attention was through sympathy and not because that was what they wanted, but that was because that's what was available to them.

And so that's what they learned was getting attention for sympathy or problems and Let's say fast forward 40, 50 years and they continue those patterns because they were in their subconscious mind. They continue the patterns, they're in their subconscious mind, they keep going and that just becomes the unconscious manifestation and the unconscious pattern, right?

So let's say that they're mid 40s or 50 or anywhere in there. And they decide to start releasing their childhood trauma. Now, a lot of times what happens is they try to get rid of that childhood trauma. They try to release it and get rid of it. But the problem is, is that they're holding on to the other side of the coin.

Meaning that the other side of the coin has been getting attention for sympathy and for problems. And so, that's been something that they've gotten sympathy and attention for for many, many, many years. In one way or another. And so what's happening is they're trying to get rid of one side of the problem, but then the other side of the problem is still there.

And so what will happen all of the time is I'll see people who are struggling to get rid of childhood patterns. that are still active in their very life today. So it's like trying to get rid of one side of the rope while simultaneously holding on to the other side and then struggling really hard. And that's what a lot of people are doing, but they don't consciously realize it.

And that was something I discovered early on in working with people and actually created an entire release process around it called Reverse release process. And the reason I call it, of course, reverse release process is because it's exactly opposite from what everybody else is doing. And so that's the reason I call it reverse release process is so people remember to go the reverse direction.

And that's why a lot of times as I'm working with people and I'm saying, okay, well, what is the new moving forward? What is the new way of being? And so what I love about Kim and this email that he sent in is that he is embodying those changes. moving forward. And it's beautiful that he's creating this connection with his wife.

And, you know, I want to see him heal and live a full life. He deserves. To live a full life. And I just, I see how beautiful his heart is and he's just so sweet. And you know, he deserves that. And I would love to see him really step into exactly that, you know, living a full life, loving fully, enjoying being a hundred percent healthy and all of that.

And of course, he's got some changes that he's really got to make all of the way and embody for him to be on track with fully aligning his body to start healing itself. So that's what he's working on. And on that note, I want to invite you to just maybe look at a love pattern that you may have and see if there's something that you would like to start transforming in your life.

And, you know, I use the example of sympathy where somebody can want sympathy. for love and attention. And unfortunately what happens is when somebody gets that linked up where they have sympathy for love and attention, you know, sympathy is not a great way of getting love and attention. So what happens is they get a little bit, of course, But they feel like they're starving a lot of times in life because it's just not enough.

It would be like trying to drink water from a cup that has holes in the bottom. Sure, you might get a little bit of water, but there's holes in the bottom. It's going to sink through and with sympathy or something like that, a negative pattern, sure, you might get a little bit of water or a little bit of attention and connection, but.

There's holes in that that aren't going to sustain you. And so that's ultimately what I want to leave you with today is exactly that is just taking a few moments to look at your patterns with love and connection and see if there's a way that you can really upgrade this area. And if there's something that you might be doing a negative connection, maybe, you know, if you think about Kim, he had that feeling of, you know, making his wife wrong, but then wanting love, and then it was interfering with it.

And then feeling like he was kind of, you know, expecting love and connection when he wasn't. really aligning with it and being in that space. And so that's what I really want to invite you with is to take a few moments and look at that and really just notice how this is showing up in your life. And also, by the way, on the note of things like reverse release process, if you are somebody who has been working years and years and years with your childhood patterns and all of those things, and you're feeling stuck or you don't understand why things are stuck, you know, all of the time, even when people don't realize things are still there.

A lot of times that subconscious pattern is still there in one way or another. And so I want to invite you to just kind of look at things from a different direction. You know, at this point I have been working with the mind for almost 20 years now, and I can say that there are a lot of things along the way that I have found that have kept people stuck or why they're not getting results, why they're not healing, why, why things aren't working and.

This is one of those things, you know, and there are many, but this is one of those things that you'll really want to pay attention to if you're stuck with this. All right. So that said guys, it has been such a pleasure connecting with you and I'm going to ask you to please do make sure to hit the share button on this episode.

You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, you know, the more empowered and loved and loving and happy you are. healthy and happy that everybody is in our world, the better this world will be for all of us. And so please do hit the share button. And also please do make a point to have an incredible rest of your day.

And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. I'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.