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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are somebody who is here, who's continuing to expand your mind, your heart, your consciousness, your healing. love it. And I really love today's episode. It's very powerful in a few different ways. You know, we were talking about self criticism and self love on the last episode, and some keys to opening that up.

And. On today's episode, we're going to take it even deeper regarding things like working with yourself and, and some lightness around that and how to not feed the negative energy. So that's a, another part. And then also some deeper insights that most people overlook when it comes to self criticism or feeling criticized.

And it's something that a lot of times. gets overlooked by people and it's part of the reason that a lot of people will spend years in self criticism or feel like it's impossible to change the pattern of self criticism. And so there's a lot of different really powerful, loving, wonderful pieces and insights and and just a lot of different layers to this episode.

And so I love that and And I just love today's volunteer that we're working with. I mean, she's just a sweetheart. And if you recall, I worked with her for a session, you know, about 40, 50 minutes session, and we cut it in half. And so I went ahead and shared half of the session on last week's episode. And then.

Today we're looking at the other half of her session and diving and so we're gonna pick up where we left off and as a Reminder if you recall she had had knee pain she'd had an accident and on her bike and she was embarrassed by it and criticizing herself for it and it had multiple surgeries and No matter what she was doing her leg hurt was not straightening back out and she was still experiencing pain and the surgeon didn't know what else to do and so she's had this stuck spot with her knee and so we had ended last week's session on the note of her really bringing in self love and some keys to starting to do exactly that.

And if you happen to miss last week's episode, I'd strongly recommend going back and listening to that first, because today we are going to dive right into the middle of the session and continue the rest of the session with Jade and really creating that shift, which again has some very powerful insights.

And I'd strongly encourage you to notice anything that comes up for you and to really look at embodying the changes. in your life. And so that said, let's go ahead and dive in with beautiful Jade. Here we go.

I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take that in. I want you to look at what that would look like, exactly that. What would that look like? And what would that feel like? What would that look like? And what would that feel like? To just let this go completely and to stop feeling like it was stupid. Completely.

Like, you let it go completely. You don't even care. The whole thing, you let it go completely.

I feel happy. Feel happy. I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you to just breathe and to notice what it would feel like to feel at peace with this whole thing. To stop feeling like it was stupid, stop judging it, and stop feeling embarrassed about it. What would that look like? Yeah. It's really peaceful.

Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. If I ask you to notice the level of Uh, pain in your knee. What's your level? Zero to ten. Yeah, I think went down probably to three. Okay, so that was about a 2. 6, about a 2. 6. I'm right with you. Okay, and uh, and if I ask you to bend your knee,

how does it feel? Feels less pain. Yeah, I don't even feel the pain when I'm bending. Ah. I'm forcing it and um, yeah, it's interesting. Right. Right? Awesome. Awesome, awesome. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and you see the changes, right? Yeah. Okay, who's doing that? I guess it's me. You are, right?

Now I'm going to push a little bit, okay? And I'm going to say, sure, why don't you go back to criticizing yourself and being hard on yourself and feeling embarrassed and bad and saying that was stupid. Go back and go ahead and do that and let's see how much of this pain you can bring back if you want.

Go ahead and do that. Go ahead. You want to bring back the paint? No, no, absolutely not. You sure? No, no, no. Go ahead. Bring back the pain. Let me know how that goes for you. No, I'm stopping criticizing myself. I'm done with the pain. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Alright, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, a lot of times when it comes to the topic of criticism or self criticism, a lot of people think that it's about If you're criticizing yourself, you must have this voice in your head that says, hey, that's stupid or that's dumb or, you know, and in some cases people do have that exact thing.

It's an auditory voice that is critical. And in other cases, People will just have this feeling of feeling bad, like oh, I did this and I shouldn't have, or I did this and oh my god, I'm embarrassed and how could I have done that? And so, the criticism in some cases is more of just a feeling, and either way really, whether it's an auditory voice in your head or a feeling, the thing that you really want to pay attention to and notice is the feeling.

The feeling itself. That is what's key. So as we go through this or even with yourself, that is a key insight. You want to make sure to think in terms of emotions because a lot of people will even say well I'm not very critical of myself. I don't beat myself up. But then things have happened either in the current or in the past and then they feel hyper sensitive about them.

And that is a feeling, a feeling critical of self, or critical of one's actions, because that feeling is there. So, that's just something to pay attention to and notice in you, and if it's there, you'll want to definitely make sure to shift it. So, that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Jade.

And if I ask you, Okay, we'll A month from now, how much do you want to talk to people and say, Oh, it was stupid, and criticize yourself, and be hard on yourself, and all of that. How much would you like to criticize yourself a month from now? No, I won't. No, no, no, you go ahead and criticize yourself. Let me know how that goes for the pain.

As the pain comes back, and comes back, and, uh, yeah. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Or, you could make peace with it completely. 100%, and I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment, bingo, to make complete peace with it. Okay, it is what it is. You are strong, you're amazing, and you've got this, and moving forward, game on, and moving forward, you're just gonna start being kinda nice to yourself.

Is Doable? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Very doable. Very doable, right? And if I ask you honestly, is it deserved to be nice to yourself? Yes. Yes. Right? And is it because you're feeling sorry for yourself or because you're amazing? Because I deserve it. Because I absolutely deserve it. I'm amazing.

You're amazing, right? You are amazing. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and take that in. Good. Good. I'm going to ask you to breathe. And take that in, and I also want you to take in the feeling that nobody else is criticizing you for it. Okay? So I want you to notice the part of you that almost feels like people are criticizing you for it.

Can you see that? Yes. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you to name one person, who would you name?

I don't know, probably Give me an initial. S. Okay, and is S really actually criticizing you and saying it's your fault? No. No. I probably imagine it. Yep, you're imagining it. Okay. And are you done with your imaginary friend, or imaginary non friend, of a Yeah. Yeah. Someone asked you to breathe. It's an unfriendly voice.

So notice for a moment, if I ask you how many times S has outwardly criticized you, how many times would you say that is? Um, probably numb, I imagined it. So I'm going to ask you to breathe,

bingo, and what if nobody's laughing at you? Yeah, I, I would probably believe it, yes, I imagined. Great, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to bring in the feeling of what it feels like to realize nobody's laughing at you. Nobody, nobody's laughing at you.

I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling of relief. That's awesome that nobody's laughing at you, and you can just move forward. Good. Good. Bingo. Good. Alright, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice your level of pain. What's your level of pain?

Zero to ten.

Probably two. Bingo. Sort of halves. About a Bingo. 2. 2. Right in there. So, absolutely. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo.

Bingo. And if I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find the feeling of humiliation? Um, ten. Not beyond. Mm hmm.

How many more years would you like to hold on to that? Oh, zero. No, no, no. You go ahead and hold on to that. Let me know how that goes for you.

Do you really need it? No, no. Okay, so I want you to notice just for a moment, the part of you that feels like you, Uh, uh, let's see, give me one second. Uh, bingo. We're gonna go that way. I want you to notice the part of you that feels like you took a bit of a hit to your ego. Can you see that? Yes. Okay. And if I ask you, bingo, if you had a friend who fell on her bike.

I want you to think, and hurt her knee, and I want you to think how much you'd be like, ha ha ha, that's so funny, and laugh at her. I won't. Well, how many people do you think, if they had that, that they would all laugh at them? Probably zero. Probably zero. So wait a sec, why is it that you feel like you're humiliated, embarrassed, and everybody's laughing in your life?

Probably because I had another one similar to this one, so. Okay. Okay. And. Did everybody laugh at that one? No. Okay. No. Zero to ten, how much did they laugh at the other one? Um, zero. Okay, so watch this. Is if you had a friend who did this, who fell on her bike and did this. You wouldn't laugh, but if she had another one previously, would you be like ha ha ha?

Oh my god. That's so funny No, you wouldn't laugh at her. You wouldn't laugh in her face. No way. Okay, good cuz it yeah I don't know what kind of friend that is

Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe And if I ask you,

all right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I have to say, I just love her. I love her smile and her energy. She's just, she's so beautiful. She's so sweet. She's just, she's precious and has great self awareness. And I love that. And also, you know, of course I want her to shift this.

And when you stop and think about it for a moment, a lot of times people will have that feeling. Like somebody's laughing at them or feeling humiliated about something and they can bury that feeling. They're like, Oh, I don't want to deal with that. And they just kind of stuff it down. And when you stop and think about it for just a moment, that that can be linked to health issues.

You'll want to remember that it's so key to let things go and really genuinely Dissolve them whether or not they're connected to health issues. I mean in a lot of cases people can have them and they're not connected to health issues it really depends on the person in the situation, of course, and There is a reason that it is so ingrained in her subconscious mind and is so strong in her emotions Which we will talk about coming up But just keeping in mind that if you have this going on in your energy and in your subconscious mind instead of bearing it You You'll definitely want to shift it.

And so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Jade.

You've heard of patterns before in life where people have a pattern and have a pattern and recreate the same type of problem over and over again. Have you ever, right? Yes. And whenever they do that, you go and laugh in their face, right? Um, not really. No, no, no, no. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And if I ask you how humiliated You need to be what's your level? Um, I shouldn't feel humiliated at all. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe

And if I ask you, are you ready to let it go? Yes. Great. I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Bingo. Good. Good. Good. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you to notice the level of pain in your knee. What's your level? Um, um, probably still two. Okay. And, um, bingo. That's when I, I'm about a, bingo, about a 2. 1 now. I feel like it came down like a 0. 1. One second. Ah, there's another piece.

Bingo. There we go. If I ask you,

how many times you've laughed at yourself regarding this topic, how many would you say that is? Um, quite a few times, many times. Bingo. It's like, uh, bingo. If I ask you zero to ten, how much would you say you make a joke of it? I, yes, I, quite often. Mm hmm. Okay. So the thing of it is, is part of the reason there's a feeling of laughing, so when we brought up the feeling of laughing, it didn't budge much, and that's why So what I, what I actually did, I checked into your energy.

So it was a 2. 2. It was like, okay, we need to work on this laughing piece. Worked on that. And without checking your energy again, I said, okay, well, let's just check what it is. And it didn't go down much. It was like a 2. 1. And that's because that laughing is still there. Now, um, bingo. Now, if I ask you, bingo, if I ask you, bingo, bingo, you know, what's funny is, all right, so my accident, so technically I had two accidents.

I had a car accident in the fall, right? And because I, I don't know how much you know about my past, but I had been like, I mean, uh, martial arts, so big into martial arts and like, um, I'm in the hall of fame for martial arts and all this stuff. Right. So I had always just been really strong at soccer and just different things like that.

So very, very athletic. Right. And then to say that I fell, I was like, this is like, I fell. This isn't, you know, I just didn't like it. I didn't even want to feed it energy. And it was just like, yeah, blah. Right. So then people would always ask me when I was injured, they would be like, Oh my God, what would happen?

What happened? Right. And I didn't want to feed it any energy at all. And I didn't want sympathy. I didn't want people feeling sorry for me, any of that. Uh, and I would say. I would, I would say, um, because I just didn't want to feed it any, any energy. I would say. I saved a family of 15 from a burning fire and went in and got 'em, and they would be like, really?

And I'd be like, no, but it sounds . And I'd laugh. I would make it like a family of 20. And they would be like, really? And I'd be like, no, just joking. Uh, and I would say, but it's a lot better this, that it's, it's a lot better than this story, and I just don't wanna feed it any energy. So I just talk about the fact that I'm just getting better and be happy and healthy and all of that.

And so I would just kind of use it as a segue to just say, you know what? I'm just focusing on getting, I'm better and better and better. I didn't say, you know, doctor said I wasn't going to get better, blah, blah. I just focused on where I wanted to go. Right. Okay. And so if I ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her. She's so wonderful. She has a great personality and I want to highlight something right here. You know, I just shared my story and something you'll want to notice, like the, the contrast for a moment, a few things.

Um, first and foremost, Something that I did that, it's, it's fun because a lot of people will pick up on this all of the time when they hear my story is that during my injury, my dad would call, my family would call him, but my dad specifically, he would always say, How's it going, Brandy? And I would just say, you know, better and better.

And at first, he was not so thrilled with my answer. Because I didn't want to talk about the injury and illness. I just wanted to just be better, you know, and I was afraid to really give it any energy. I just wanted to get better so badly. So he would call and he would be like, So how's it going, Brandy?

Better and better, Dad. Better and better. And at first, you know, again, he was just like, Ugh. But then after a little bit, it kind of became a thing between us. He would call and he would say, so how's it going? And I, and he goes, wait, let me guess, better and better. And I say, yep, better and better dad. Thank you so much for respecting and understanding that I just, I'm really working on this shift.

And so that was something that I did. In my own life to not fuel the energy of things. And, and it just was a playful thing. Like after a little bit, it became a playful thing with my dad, just joking back and forth and my family and everybody around me. I use that phrase better and better. And even as I just mentioned to Jade with my story, when I was like, you know, saved a family of two.

20 from a burning fire. And people would be like, really? And I'd be like, no. And so, and we'd laugh. And so it made something, it made it just something to laugh about because it would, they'd be like, really? No. And so, it was just, it became a fun thing. Or I'd say something else random. But notice, I would say something that was funny.

Ridiculous and playful and, you know, it would just, it was so far fetched that people would be like, really? You know, all right, jumped out of a, it would just, it jumped out of a spaceship, you know. It was just like whatever was random and silly that wasn't believable at all, but that's what made it silly and fun and just playful because I didn't want to feed it negative energy.

Now, what you'll want to notice is that she's laughing about her story, but she's doing it in a way that's sensitive to how she feels. So notice the subtle but huge difference. Okay, whereas I was making a joke and laughing about it in a way that didn't make me feel badly. and notice that she's been making fun of it and joking with her situation in a way that's making her feel laughed at and ingraining it.

Notice subtle difference, but huge, profound. We got different results and this is a huge thing that is keeping her stuck. And of course, There's some more pieces to it and that's where we're going, but this isn't small. This is huge. So thinking about that for a moment. And again, there are some more pieces to the puzzle and very powerful additional insights.

And so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Jade.

And I'm going to ask you, are you willing to stop making a joke of it? Yeah. Yes. Bingo. And by the way, have you ever seen somebody who felt like they were overweight and then they always made jokes about their weight? I guess so. Yeah. Okay. And if they're already insecure about their weight, but then they're making jokes about their weight all the time, how do you think that makes them feel on the inside?

Not good. Not good. Not confident. Mm mm. Not at all. Not at all. It's not nice to self. Right? No. No. Okay.

Bingo. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to notice how you make jokes about this, but it's also a sensitive spot inside of you. Can you see that? Yes. Yeah. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if there was somebody who was feeling very sensitive about feeling overweight, And then they were making jokes about being overweight.

What would you tell them? Stop doing that. Yeah, stop doing that. Be kind to yourself. Be loving to yourself. That's not helpful. Right? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And in that moment, you would just have compassion for them, right? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you to notice how it's not making you feel very great on the inside. Good. I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Bingo. All right, now if I ask you to notice your level of pain right now, what's your level of pain? Um, probably one. Mm hmm. Notice that piece just went down. Yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe,

and again, if there was somebody who was feeling overweight and they were sensitive about it, and then they start making fun of themselves and all of that. And, and making fun of their weight, that's not very nice, right? They would, they should have compassion for themselves and be kind to themselves. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I want you to notice in your case how there's been this sensitivity towards this topic. And being hard on yourself on the inside. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to be kind to yourself. To stop making jokes about it. But instead start supporting your success and your health and your happiness and kindness.

Towards yourself. Does that make sense? Yes. Great. Great. Good. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. Bingo. And by the way, so I'm gonna ask you, by the way, when it says, uh, bingo, when it said in the very, very beginning, when it said something that you failed at, but eight months ago, like, that was this, this whole topic.

It was like, you've chalked this up as like your, your failure, your mistake, your thing. Can you see that? Okay. Yes. Yes. Bingo. Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. And I'm going to ask you to let it go. Good. Good. Good. Good.

Bingo. Bingo. Interesting. Okay. So, uh, that, bingo. If you notice, if I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find the feeling of feeling like this was like your failure? Um, it was like ten or beyond. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to bring in the awareness it's misclassified.

Wasn't your failure. At all. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. It was, okay, and now, watch this for a moment, ready? So, if,

if somebody has a pattern that happens over and over and over in their life, like, let's say, for instance, for example, the woman with the abusive father, she leaves him and finds an abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, etc., etc., right? Is that a pattern or a failure, or both? It's a pattern. Would you say she just has a lot of failures?

No. What would you say? It's a pattern, right? Mm hmm. The pattern. So, you have had a fall like this before on your bike? Yes. So is that multiple failures or a pattern? It's a pattern. It's a pattern. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And realize there's some type of pattern there, right? Mm hmm.

Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you, would you like to fuel the pattern or change the pattern? Change the pattern. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And now, the subconscious mind controls 90 to 95 percent of your brain, right? Mm hmm. So, if you think about it, really,

was it a failure or a pattern? It's a pattern. It's a pattern. Mm hmm. It's a pattern. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and realize it's not a failure at all, it's a pattern. And you may want to change the pattern, right? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and can you just for a moment realize and breathe?

I realize, oh,

it's not a failure. It's a pattern.

How does that feel?

Just relieved. It's not my personal failure. No, it's not your personal failure. Notice how much you've been feeling like it's your personal failure.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment because this is so profound. When it comes to beating yourself up or giving yourself a hard time or feeling badly about anything, In your past, whether it's, whatever it is, any pattern, any, anything. Notice how she had the same type of accident and it repeated itself.

And the reason why is because it's a pattern. So in other words, a lot of times that's exactly what will happen with people, is that they'll do something or something will happen, they'll feel bad or guilty or angry or frustrated or whatever it is, whatever pattern. Not just self criticism, but any pattern.

And Then they'll feel bad about it and horrible about it. And it just ingrains it. And then unfortunately it happens again. So just kind of noticing how clearly you can see the pattern here. And that is definitely the reason that you always want to make sure to really not beat yourself up. And of course, really shift your patterns at a deeper level in your mind.

So that is key. And of course, there are a couple other pieces that are very significant as far as shifting patterns, but specifically also shifting the pattern of self criticism and criticism in general. And so that's where we're going as we dive back in with Jade. Here we go.

Okay. So, knowing that the subconscious mind is 90 to 95 percent of your mind, you know, it's running the show, right? It's kind of like this. You've heard before, like, okay, success breeds more success, failure breeds more failure, right? Mm hmm. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Patterns breed more of the same, right? Mm hmm. And if I ask you how long you have had the pattern of saying, well, that was stupid, how long would you say you've had that pattern? Um, probably, Many, many years, most of my adult life. Mm hmm. So, notice for a moment that the bike in this accident is part of that is the pattern.

Does that make sense? Right. Yes. Great. So, just for a moment, how much do you want to stay in the that was stupid pattern? I don't want to stay there anymore. Hmm. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. And if I ask you, how much was this your failure? It's not my failure. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. Great. So I want you to notice the level of pain in your knee. What's your level? Um, probably, um, one or even less. Mm hmm. Right. That's what I have is about a point, point six.

Right in there. Great. Who's doing that? Me. Great. And, uh, and how is it when you bend it? Um, it's, um, it's, uh, yeah, a lot more flexible. Bingo. Great. It's easier. It's easier, and a lot more flexible, right? Yeah. Now, by the way, how many, how many machines have you tried to do to get it that far? I've tried machines, a human, lots of human, and myself, and yeah, a lot.

A lot. And how much further, how much further is it going right now? Um, let me see, um, quite a bit, it's uh, quite a bit. Who's doing that? Me. You. You. Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to take in your success. Whose success? My success. Your success. Great. And if I ask you, could you start to take in more of your successes moving forward and really, really, really shift this?

Yes. Great. And if I ask you, if you spend the next five years, ten years, taking in your successes, taking in your successes, feeling your successes. And getting rid of the pattern that said that was stupid and getting rid of that pattern and not laughing at yourself or any of that, but really getting rid of that.

But instead you're taking in your successes and you're feeling them and you're taking in your successes and you're feeling them. How would you feel? I'd feel fantastic. I would love myself more. Right? And out of curiosity, how would that look over the next 10, 20, 30 years of your life? Feeling fantastic and loving yourself more and having that confidence and feeling good.

How would that, how would that feel? I feel fantastic, really, really good, happy, really happy. Beautiful, right? And by the way, how much, Jie, would you say the old version of you might get off of this session? And then as soon as you get off the session, be like, well, that was stupid. It was all my fault. It was my fail, like, my failure, my fault, my blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

How much would the old part of you have done that? No, I'm not going to go in there. No. Totally. It's gone. It's gone. It's gone. Okay. So, and you said that you, you went through a, a, a, a thing like an interview with me, right? You saw an interview with me? Okay. So you know my story, right? Okay. Yes. Okay. Now, if you think about it, everything happens for a reason.

So, even when I had accident, I had something attached to that, that then everything manifested, right? Great. So, would you say it's all my fault, and would you blame me? And say I was stupid. No way. No way. Everything happens for a reason. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And notice you wouldn't say, Oh, Brandy had that accident.

It's all her fault and she's just stupid. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And how much would you say that about you? Oh, it's all your fault and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Blah, blah, blah. None. None. None. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Good. Great job with your energy.

Bingo. Great job. Bingo. Bingo. Great. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. All right, and we're gonna bingo. And I just want to check as far as your knee. What's your level of pain? Um, probably say zero. Yeah, and I'm gonna ask you to breathe. You're amazing, right? And if I ask you just for a moment to bend it, but to go ahead and bend it, how does that feel?

Feels light, flexible, and feels good. And, bingo, bingo. And if I ask you, if I ask you, are you going to make sure not to go into that old programming? Yes, absolutely. And if I ask you, can you make sure to make this change genuinely, 100%, can't go into the old, 100%, staying in this. Really, really embodying the change.

Can you do that? Yes, I can. Beautiful. And if I ask you, how many times do you think that you will need to listen to this recording to do that? Probably a few times. A few times? I would say. I would love for you to listen to it every day. Every day. Yes. Great. And I want you to notice how you feel right now.

How do you feel? Um, I, I feel. Quite, quite happy. Right? Okay, so what I want you to notice is we just didn't, it wasn't just about talking and about saying things. Notice how you feel emotionally, right? So I want to make sure that you really embody the change in your emotions and embody that, okay? I have to say you are absolutely beautiful.

I just adore you and I love your energy and you're gorgeous and seeing you walk around and Being happy and healthy, feeling good about yourself and acknowledging your success is going to feel so good and so deserved and so wonderful. And I'm excited for you to do that moving forward in life. Thank you.

Thank you. Absolutely. It has been such a pleasure connecting with you. I gotta say you are amazing. My biggest inspiration was that, you know, a week ago that this time probably, and after watching the interview, I told my husband, I really, I jumped up and down the first time after the, since the accident on my, on my right, on my good leg, uh, uninjured leg.

I said, I told my husband that like, you know, you can, if you can do it, I can do it. I love that. Really, so I really appreciate it. I'm really grateful. Absolutely. You, let me speak. Absolutely. You are, you're absolutely so welcome. And, uh, but make sure I want to emphasize, I make this look very, very, very easy for you to get through, like you're really.

I want you to follow through a hundred percent, even listen to it like twice a day, three times a day, like stay, make this your new norm of feeling this new way. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yes. Yes. I will. I will diligently do that. I love you. You're amazing. It has been such a pleasure connecting with you.

Yeah. You too. Thank you, Brandy. Thank you. Beautiful. Thank you so much. Thank you. Bye. Have a wonderful rest of your day. You too. Bye bye. Bye. Bye. All

right, so let's go ahead and unpack this even more because there's some very powerful insights from this. And, you know, first and foremost, I have to say, you know, great job with her energy, great self awareness, great self honesty, great self insight. I mean, I just love her and there are some key pieces that she's going to really want to implement.

to be able to keep this gone and some very powerful insights for you in your life as well. And so there's three key things that I want to talk about. And first and foremost, it has to do with your actions and being real with what's real. And this is what I mean is that, you know, a lot of times. When criticism comes up or self criticism, a lot of times, you know, people go, Oh, I know I should change it.

I know that I should really feel differently. I should just not worry about it and just shift it. And they are, they're thinking internally only. But what I want you to notice in this case is that her actions were actually contributing to the problem and even creating the problem. And what I mean by that is that she's going to feel more laughed at if, of course, she's creating that.

And so, kind of, when you stop and think about actions for a moment, I mean, if somebody's driving towards a cliff. They're going to feel fear, right? Because they're driving towards a cliff. And if they're driving towards a cliff and they're trying really hard to not feel fear, that's hard to do. It's harder, even almost impossible to do because.

That's what your actions are doing. And so if somebody is making a joke of themselves all of the time, where they're laughing at themselves, well, of course, that's signaling to other people to laugh at them. And then they feel laughed at. And by the way, it also helps other people to feel like they have permission to laugh at the person.

And so it could happen more often. So in other words, The kind of creating the problem. And if I take a different example, by the way, of another completely separate scenario, you know, I've worked with a guy who had this strong feeling that as he became more and more successful that everybody was going to criticize him.

Now, simultaneously, he also had a pattern that as he stepped into more and more success, he was more arrogant and treated people like he was better than them. And so If you think about his actions of being more arrogant and treating people like he's better than them, well, chances are that is going to attract being criticized, right?

So, his actions from being successful would create the problem. And so, in other words, if I was just working with his mind only, then I would have said, well, you know, just tell yourself that there's no criticism and nobody's gonna criticize you and it's okay and, and just push yourself to think that, okay?

But that would not have genuinely changed the problem. Why? Because he still had this reaction to success that made him step into more arrogance and in superiority. And that was the issue. And so both things had to happen with him was really shifting, not only his mindset, but also his behavior. So as he stepped into more and more success, he did so humbly and beautifully.

And. That, yes, he's got success and, and everybody else can too. Everybody else can be successful and is amazing in their life. We're all amazing beings. So it was important for him to change his mindset and also his actions in several ways. So not only did he need to change the feelings of self criticism, but he also needed to address the feelings of superiority and arrogance and really dissolve that as well.

To instead be harmonious with people and humble and connect with people and realize that everybody's amazing in their own way. And when you see the amazingness in everybody, it's easy to treat. people in an amazing way. And so for him, there was multiple shifts that needed to occur. And part of what needed to happen was just being real with what's real.

And the reason I say real with what's real is because all the time people just try to, you know, meditate something away or pretend something isn't there, do affirmations over the very thing that needs to change. And so they, you know, affirm, I'm not feeling criticized, you know, and, and they just try to push it and notice with her.

As I was working with her, I said, okay, can you definitely change his pattern? But then there was also some actions that she needed to change and do things differently. So there were multiple pieces that needed to change. So number one insight is exactly that is making sure to be real with what's real and look at the action.

Okay, so that's number one. Number two is making sure that you're making a real change. emotional shift. That is also key. So you're really looking at what is going on and genuinely feeling different. And by the way, I have to say, you know, I mentioned my story to her as I was working with her and there were plenty of ways that I screwed things up when I was working on healing myself that I didn't know better.

You know, like for example, I had heard that, you know, to work with the mind, you should just change the picture, you know, visualize it being different. And I did that even actually with my fall. So much so, I have to tell you, so much so that there's a part of me that I remember the events leading up to when I fell, but my actual fall is hard to really recall and what happened afterwards, I'm not 100 percent clear even to this day because I changed it in so many ways.

And it was ridiculous, by the way. You notice by now, if you've been listening to episodes, that I'm ridiculous and silly and playful and all of that. And that's because That's the way that you'll want to work with yourself and your mind is you want to be playful and silly and not feed The negative energy and all of that.

So that's exactly what I was doing during my injury and like with my fall I mean, I turned it into like Janet jackson michael jackson falling with the splits and stuff like that I mean, I was just making it like I mean disco pants and everything else like ridiculous again So much so that even as soon as I think back to my fault like it Yeah Had that going on.

I mean, so many different things. And it, of course, didn't work. So I'm, just to be clear, I'm not recommending it because what it did is instead of actually changing the specific emotions that I needed to, it just created more layers of different things. So, you'll want to remember That just because you create a new memory in your mind doesn't mean that the old one is gone, so, um, So there was multiple things, but anyway, point being is very simply this, is that you want to be real with what's real and create a real emotional shift.

Instead of pretending it's not there, instead of layering it, is you want to just look at what really is real. And make that shift. Okay. So that is key. And then the third thing, and I mentioned that to her was to take in her successes. And I would strongly recommend you doing that. You know, people just don't do that enough.

They feel like they've got to have like a, a major success to be able to take in any type of positive feelings. And you don't want to set that up for your life instead. You know, I want to invite you. to make a point to take in your successes from the day. Even if you successfully worked out, take it in.

Or if you successfully ate healthy, take it in. If you successfully were kind to people, take that in. If you were successfully kind to yourself, take that in. And good with your kids or at work or whatever it is, make a point to really start taking it in so you can create a genuine shift in your life and really start lifting even more because, you know, if you think about when we were talking about patterns and you could see her pattern of, you know, the self criticism and then the bike and falling again and blah blah blah, you see how intense patterns can be and how real patterns can be and what if you have a pattern of feeling successful and good about you?

It's kind of a great. pattern, you know, a really great pattern to have. And so I want to invite you to start doing that every day to lift your energy and just start creating even more positive patterns. And it's just going to, radiate out around you to even more positivity in the world. And on that note, by the way, speaking of positivity in the world, I'm going to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, somebody you don't even know, or somebody maybe you know who is critical or hard on themselves.

Maybe you send them this episode so they can start kind of looking at things In a different way and starting to embrace that change. You know, the more empowered that every individual being is in our world, the more beautiful our world will be for all of us. And so on that note, please do have a most loving, wonderful, fabulous, happy day, feeling great about you taking in your successes and love and connection and joy all around you, and I look forward to connecting with you

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

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