143 Transcript: Do You Feel Misunderstood Or Emotionally Reactive At Times?

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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

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Hello. Welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your heart, your energy, your healing, your relationships, your consciousness, just all of it. I love it. Love it. Love it. And I love today's episode. You know, so often I hear people having a hard time where they're struggling with the feeling of feeling misunderstood or even feeling emotionally triggered or reactive to different things that come up.

And those are the very topics that come up for today's volunteer. And so I just feel like it's, it's so on point, it's great divine timing and she's such a beautiful, beautiful being. So if you remember MJ, we've been working with her actually for the last just because her session was a bit long. It was about an hour long.

And so I broke it into different sections. You know, the first episode, two weeks ago, we listened to the first third of the session and last week we listened to another third. And then today is that final piece. And again, the reason I broke it down is just because there were so many really powerful insights.

And I have to say, you know, every week, that the podcast episode has come out. There've been a lot of people emailing in going, Oh my God, this is how I feel, or this is how I felt, or this is an amazing insight. I needed this or divine timing. And so I just, I love the energy. I love the flow of it. And today we continue that same exact energy of all of that.

Just very, very insightful. And I just adore MJ so much. She has amazing self awareness and is so authentic and real and fabulous and wonderful. And I just love it, and it just opens so many different doors for transformation. And so it's beautiful, and I just love that. And, by the way, a quick reminder of the things that we had been talking about up until now that were on the past sessions were first and foremost that MJ wanted to volunteer to be on the podcast because she had seen her sister go through, you know, being bedridden and having heart issues and things like that for years.

And her sister went through my programs and was able to heal herself and is completely healthy and happy and all of that. So, then when these issues suddenly came up for MJ, she was going, Oh my God, like, you know, this is hereditary. And there was a lot of fear that came up with having some pain in her heart.

And so, what is beautiful is, you know, if you've been listening to past episodes, there's always a gift. in the message that the body's giving you. You know, there's always an gift of transformation of insight. And so that's what we've been working on with MJ is looking at what, what's the messaging behind it?

What is the energetic link? What's going on? And of course, as she's addressing these things, she's able to shift the pain and get it gone. So it's just, it's beautiful and great, great self awareness. And as we're going to continue to talk about some matters of the heart that are going on for her. That's where we're going today.

And by the way, if you happen to miss the past episodes, I would strongly recommend going back to make sure to listen to them. They're just, they're really beautiful and, um, great, great insights, which is also true with today. So that said, let's go ahead and dive in with beautiful MJ. Here we go.

All right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. I want you to notice the part of you that feels like nobody hears me. Can you see that? Bingo. Um. Maybe that one's a little vague. Okay. So if I ask you. Oh, okay. No. I am, I'm connecting with it now. I, that's probably with, um, with my partner sometimes. Bingo. Yeah.

Bingo. And also if I ask you though, so, uh, bingo, and if I ask you how old you were when that pattern started. Uh, probably like, maybe eight. Okay. Okay. So you see in your childhood. Yep. I see about age three, but either way you see, even though it's in your, there's a feeling in your partner, in your relationship now, you can see that that's been there for a while.

Right. Yeah. Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, first and foremost, again, I just love her self-awareness and her honesty and and authenticity. It's just beautiful. And as far as the feeling of feeling not understood or not heard, what's fascinating and empowering is that a lot of people feel this in their life.

They feel. misunderstood or not heard by their partner or any of those, you know, feelings that come up. And for a lot of people, these patterns started in childhood. So, whereas, you know, maybe a five year old feels misunderstood or feels like they try to talk to their mom and their mom says, I don't want to hear it.

Just go to your room, or I don't want to hear this or be quiet, or, you know, you should be seen and not heard, or, you know, all kinds of things that kids hear. And then what happens is that people grow up as adults and then they feel like it's just a situation like their partner doesn't understand them or people don't understand them and they don't realize.

that it's a pattern. And so that is profound. And by the way, all the time when I'm teaching classes on relationships or different things like that, and I talk about this very thing, it's like a light bulb goes off. And I've even had people who teach relationship courses be in my class and go, Oh my God, I've never heard anything like this.

It makes so much sense. But I completely missed that. And so if you're missing that, and this is a struggle that's happening in your life, then you'll want to notice that and really genuinely transform this. And I can tell you that even as I was, you know, looking at energy and discover this and notice this, you know, it's just, I've seen so many people have just a profound awareness around it.

And so that said, I wanted to share that with you to just kind of notice that in your own life, if this is something that you're struggling with and really be willing to transform it. All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with MJ. Here we go.

All right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm gonna ask you to picture yourself walking around,

feeling loved, feeling heard, feeling respected. And your relationship and all of that and just feeling so safe in that relationship. Bingo. Bingo. All right. And that's that other piece. All right. Last piece. I know we've got a couple pieces open now. There's one more. You know what? It's funny. You must be asking a lot of questions because normally not so many things.

Here we go. Here we go. All right. Can you see the part of you when you are feeling emotional, um, how, how reactive you get? Can you see that? Yeah. Yeah. So, if I ask you, if somebody was really, really, really reactive with you, how would it make you feel? I'd be like, whoa, dude, chill. Okay. And uh, And if I ask you, is that fair to do to others?

No, not at all. Bingo. Cause it's not their shit. Bingo. All right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. Now, first and foremost, I have to say, I don't like to necessarily keep repeating myself, but her authenticity and self awareness is blowing my mind. It in a great way. It's just beautiful. And. It's allowed me to go to some of the more vulnerable places.

So sometimes if I don't feel like somebody can fully go there, if it feels too vulnerable or, you know, whatnot, then of course I won't go there directly. Or, you know, I'll try to work around it in a way, or, you know, I'll see if we can work through it in a different way so that they can still shift something that will help their health.

You know, it's just kind of like, there's multiple different ways sometimes Be able to shift a pattern, but I have to say her awareness and her authenticity. I mean just again just beautiful incredible being and on the note of feeling emotionally reactive All of the time I'll see people who have a tendency to be, you know, emotionally reactive triggered by something and I think Then they end up just beating themselves up about it or feeling bad about it or criticizing themselves for it.

But what you want to notice is if you feel that way, you want to notice why and ask yourself, you know, what is the trigger on this and genuinely transform the pattern at a deeper level in the subconscious mind. That is when you make real change because if you think about any trigger, it means it has energy.

In your subconscious mind, like it's, it's, something's going on there that's holding energy in your subconscious mind, in your energy field. And so not only do you want to get rid of it so you don't get triggered, but it also means it can affect your health and what you're manifesting. So any trigger is wonderful to look at and say, Hey, why is this happening?

And truly transform it and really reprogram it. at a deeper level. And so you'll just want to note that in your own life, is there a place that you've been being triggered? And if so, would you like to change that? So just taking in that awareness and diving back in with beautiful MJ. Here we go.

I'm going to ask you to notice that feeling of being, feeling reactive. Yeah. Okay. And then, bingo. All right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. All right. And I want you to notice the part of you that feels like you need to stand up for yourself. And the feeling of feeling really reactive. And the feeling of feeling like you need to stand up for yourself.

And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

Bingo. And I'm gonna ask you to take that in for a moment. What if you Weren't reactive. Bingo. What if you didn't need to stand up for yourself? What would happen if you were just walking around feeling good, feeling 100 percent great and respected, respected. I would feel so powerful. Great. Power over others?

No, just over myself. Bingo. Great answer. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. Bingo. And if I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find the feeling of expecting to be rejected, what would you say?

Like maybe a one? Okay, so this is the thing. Bingo. So those pieces, the, the, the, the passive aggressive part is part of it. The other part, when I said, sometimes the emotions come up. And it doesn't make the relationship very fun. Um, and they take the fun out of the relationship. Okay, so, notice even, like if I ask you, Bingo!

If I ask you, um, with your partner, with your husband, if I ask you, can you, can you see sometimes when you've been a bit reactive? Oh yeah. And if I ask you, would you be willing to change that and really change that completely? Yes. Okay. Really? Yes. Awesome. Awesome. I'm going to ask you to breathe. All right.

Now I want you to notice a level in your heart. Zero to ten. What's your level?

Um, I have like this one little part, like a, just a point five maybe in there. Okay. So I have about a point three. I feel like it's guilt related, but I don't know. Bingham. Um. Okay. Awesome. Okay, so we'll use your terminology. Okay? If I ask you 0 to 10, how much you can find the feeling of guilt? What's your level?

Between like a 1 and a 2. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay, and I want to go back to that. So the feeling of feeling like you're, bingo, bingo. The feeling of feeling like you're getting upset and taking it out on your husband a bit. Emotionally reactive. We'll call it emotionally reactive.

If I ask you, if I ask you, bingo. Could you really, really authentically change that? Yes. A hundred percent. Yeah, absolutely. Like if I ask you moving forward, if you could trust yourself a hundred percent that you're not gonna do that anymore, what would you say? ? I mean, obviously I, you'd laugh at me, you laugh at me,

I still have like, obviously this little bit of lingering, like, I dunno Mm-Hmm. . But I do, I, I know that I can do it. Okay. Just like I know I can do a lot of things. Okay. Now, I want you to notice how a lot of the things that you've been wanting to do, you've been kind of trying to force yourself into doing instead of program yourself into doing.

Yeah. Can you see that? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. All right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment. I want you to notice the feeling. Of, of feeling like you want to stand up for yourself and feeling that strength in that. Can you see that? Yeah. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you if you're willing to let go of that feeling completely. Yeah, it hasn't really served me that well. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment because I want to clarify this whole idea of quote unquote, not standing up for yourself energy. Because that part is key. So do I want you to feel like you're getting squashed or taken advantage of, or any of that stuff? Of course not.

Okay. And if something does come up in your life where you feel like you need to stand up for yourself, absolutely do that. Absolutely. Okay. But. What happens is that some people in their subconscious mind and energy will have a feeling of feeling really proud of Standing up for themselves. They got this feeling of going.

I'm standing up for myself. I'm standing up for myself I'm standing up for myself and What happens? Is then they seem to attract more situations, maybe with their spouse, where they have to stand up for themselves, or their mother, or their friend, or their boss, or their this, or their that, or their that, it just keeps going, and going, and going, and going.

And, so we want to look at the pattern of it, and that's what we're looking at here. And, I'll ask her to, you know, transform that coming up, to see what it looks like for her to just walk around, Transcribed Feeling respected and feeling like she's not needing to stand up for herself all the time, but that it's more so even manifesting in her energy and in her life.

And so, again, it's a very important distinction here that I'm not saying don't stand up for yourself. And I'm not saying that if something happens where you need to stand up for yourself, don't do it. What I am saying is what's going on inside of your mind And wouldn't it be wonderful to just walk around and really feel respected?

 

And, by the way, the amount that I'm seeing this in MJ's energy is small, but it's there. Now, I'm going to give you an example that's a lot bigger, that's not her, so just to be clear, but to kind of illustrate what I'm talking about, and it's this. Imagine just for a moment there's a guy or a woman who is in the boardroom at work.

and this person does not feel good enough about themselves. They feel criticized, they feel not good enough, they feel inferior, they feel less than, all of that. How well do they feel, like, how well do people respect them? How much are they being really respected compared to, if you imagine somebody who's in that boardroom, you know, man or woman, who's in that boardroom, who's walking around feeling confident, feeling successful, feeling good about themselves, and how much respect they get.

You know, and there's a difference on one needing to stand up for themselves and whatnot. So there's, there's a different energy. And so that's what I'm saying here is that yes, if you need to stand up for yourself, absolutely do so. And you want to have this energy also of feeling respected and adored and loved and confident.

inside of you and not so much that feeling of feeling like you always need to stand up for yourself. So that's what I'm talking about here. And we're going to talk about shifting that and looking at it in a different way as we dive back in with beautiful MJ. Here we go.

Good. And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to notice that feeling of quote unquote, trying to stand up for yourself, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, which is what you call it when you're emotionally reactive. Can you see how there's that Okay, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And can you see that you've moved beyond that to where you're actually just walking around respected and feeling mutual respect that you don't even need that, quote unquote, standing up for yourself, which is really emotional reactiveness, blah, blah, blah.

It's boring. That's boring. Yep, it is boring. It's boring. It's beneath you now, right? Totally beneath me. There you go, totally. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. You could either Walk around and feel completely mutually respected and that's the feeling that you're feeling and that's the energy you're attracting and that's how everything is is amazing and wonderful or you're standing up for yourself and feeling emotionally reactive and you're doing that and standing up for yourself

Exactly so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and bingo good And if I ask you to notice the level in your heart, what's the level zero to ten? I'm like poking myself. Um,

Oh, Brandy. I can't feel it anymore. Who did that? I did! That's so cool. I love it. That's like been there for so long, too. It's awesome. Great. So if I ask you, by the way, if I ask you if you can start getting this in and really, really, I know we've talked about a lot of things, if I ask you if you can really start embodying the change.

Yes. Great. So, uh, bingo. Give me one second. Bingo. Alright, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want to bring everything together. Um, Now, some of, like, a lot of the, the mind can be very counterintuitive. So one of the things is this, is it's kind of like, sometimes when people are expecting a feeling of, when there's that feeling of fear of rejection, it creates that feeling of feeling insecure, right?

Yeah. And a lot of times what'll happen is that there can be different things that are causing that. And, um, and some of those feelings of, of the, of the Feeling reactive or the passive aggressive type feeling those type feelings and all of that will actually make that feeling go up Does that make sense?

Yeah, absolutely So what happens is is it then you end up feeling not secure in the relationship which then Puts you in a cycle of then feeling even more reactive. Does that make sense? Absolutely Okay, so What I, what I recommend doing is a few things. Um, is first and foremost, really, really changing that action and, and really taking those out of your relationship, right?

Which you've got, you're going to, you're going to do that, right? Yes. Yes. Great. As far as, as far as working on that and really creating that change. Now, the other thing is, is what I would recommend just because there's such a feeling of sensitivity and emotional triggers and different things like that.

Is. Uh, is I would recommend getting in the video course and, um, bingo, and, um, bingo. I would recommend that, and I, what I'd recommend doing is even, uh, when you go through the video course, there's a place where it's all about releasing, releasing negative emotions and all that, after bringing in the positive, after all that, releasing negative emotions.

And if I were you, I would really, Take some time with that. I would be real with what's real. And I would look at the triggers, um, that you've had in, in the past and in any of them and, and release them because, um, as you release them, then there's no, like, you can't be triggered. Right. What I mean? Yeah.

Does that make sense? Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. So first and foremost, if I ask you, okay, so kind of circling back. If I ask you how scary this all is, what would you say? It's not scary. It's actually really exciting that I can do this. You can totally do this. And if I ask you how it feels when you just felt your pain go away?

That's, I mean, it just, it just reaffirms everything. Like I can do this. I just did it. You just did it, right? You just did it. And notice that other piece was hanging on and hanging on and hanging on and then we shifted gears to a different piece. Thing yeah, you see how that shifted and went away, right?

Yeah, so you can see the different links and and and so if I ask you if you really embrace these changes Really make real change. Yeah, not fake change real change. What would that look like?

Peace? freedom empowerment Happiness love. Yeah happiness joy glowing Glowing and there we go. So if I ask you bingo So if I ask you, are you really, really willing to change? Yes. A hundred percent? Yes. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. So I know a lot of things came up and I think it's a, it's a gift. It's a gift.

You know, when you take things and you really, really, really change it. There's a gift in it. So you have, you have a lot of gifts to be, to be unwrapped. Yeah. Yay! They delivered. That's for sure. I was definitely like, well, what about this and this and this, this, this? Beautiful. Beautiful. Beautiful. All right.

I gotta tell you. Awesome job with your energy. Awesome job releasing the pain. Awesome, awesome self awareness. Anne, I, I have to say, I am blown away. Your, your self honesty, your just authenticity, just, you're beautiful. You're beautiful. Great job. Thanks, Brandi. You're welcome, MJ. You're welcome. I just adore you.

And it's been wonderful connecting with you. And, um, and I wish you a most wonderful day, sweetheart. You too, okay? Take care. Thank you, you too. Bye. Bye.

All right, so let's go ahead and bring everything together. And of course, first and foremost, I just want to honor MJ. I mean, what amazing self awareness and authenticity and great job being able to shift and release her pain. I mean, just beautiful, beautiful job. I want to bring together the insights from this episode just because I know that they impact so many people and they're really profound.

And so the top three insights that I want to invite you to look at. In this episode is the first one we talked about feeling not understood and that this could be a pattern from childhood and if it is, then you'll of course want to address it and really transform it in your life. Now I can tell you all the time when I see people working with their mind, they become aware of a pattern.

But sometimes they fall deeper into the pattern. So don't just become aware of it. Make sure to genuinely transform it. So that is insight number one. And number two, we had talked about being emotionally reactive and that the best time to really address the triggers is not In the moment when you're feeling triggered, of course.

I mean, yes, you want to address it then and become untriggered. So absolutely. But then even further, you want to take it to the next level and genuinely reprogram that. in your subconscious mind. That of course is key for health, for life, for manifesting what it is that you're wanting instead of what you're not wanting.

So all kinds of things. So that is important. And then the third insight that we talked about was standing up for yourself versus also creating more of that harmonious feeling of just feeling really respected and that your needs and your boundaries and your being. that you genuinely are feeling respected.

So that was the third one. And I want to invite you to not overwhelm yourself, but to just simply maybe look at one of these things in your life and see what comes up for you. And if you do notice, Any of these things, then I want to invite you to genuinely transform them because when you really take patterns and things in your subconscious mind and you get rid of them and you transform them, you feel it, like you feel stronger, you release pain, you feel good, you feel incredible, and when you make real change in your subconscious mind, you really do Feel it.

You feel the change. You feel pain release. You feel stronger. You feel better. Your life manifests better. It does, and it happens faster than most people realize, and it just brings about, of course, this feeling of of empowerment. It's an incredible feeling. And on that note, I want to invite you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, or maybe even somebody.

who you know has been struggling with feeling misunderstood or any of these feelings, you know, and that you want to help them and just share this episode with them, you know, that would be beautiful because of course, the more empowered that every single person is in our world, the better this world will be for all of us.

And so on that note, please do have a most wonderful, fabulous, happy, empowered rest of your day. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.

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