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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello. Welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind and your consciousness, your energy, your healing, and your heart. I just love it. And I just love. today's episode for so many reasons. I mean, there are very powerful insights from this that can be helpful for making a radical shift in your own life if you implement it.

And also, just the way that our volunteer shifts today, it's just beautiful. I mean, you can feel it. It's just beautiful. And even, you know, honestly, it just, it brings me to tears. Just, it's just so, so sweet. You just feel for her in the, in the most beautiful way. So I love this and just, I mean, just feel for her in a great way of noticing her change and her transformation and her.

Genuinely feeling differently and also, by the way, this is our same volunteer from the last episode. And if you recall, her name is Elena and she's had some really very stock patterns. And you'll notice if you recall also that I've been pushing her pretty hard to make that change. And what I love about this episode, again, so many things, but I love that you will see The reason for that like you'll have this aha moment and you go, oh Now I see why Brandy's been pushing so hard because you know, normally I don't have to push that hard And there's a few reasons for it.

Of course again, one of them you'll see coming up next in the episode itself. You'll notice it clear as day. So there's that. And also, of course, because as you probably have already noticed, she's very stuck in her patterns. And I have to say, you know, when I was going through my injury, if somebody kind of pushed me out of my patterns, it would have been really nice because there were some times that I was very stuck where I ultimately ended up needing to say, okay, look, I'm willing to change these patterns and really change them.

But The way I kind of look at it is like this, you know, if you see a friend who's standing in the middle of the street and about to get hit by a bus, you know, and you tell your friend to move and they still don't see the car and you kind of, you know. You want to, you know, convince them to move and they still don't see it, but you know what's coming.

You kind of just push them out of the way and that's kind of how I feel like with her a bit is I'm being that friend that's saying, Hey, push so you can see it from a different way. And you'll notice by the way, at the end, just laughing and she's just, she's so sweet and beautiful. And I love that. So that's where we're going on this episode.

Now, as we step in, I am going to say. That there is another sensitive pattern that we're going to go into. So if you remember some of the patterns we had been talking about, we had been talking about a lot of feelings of anger and a feeling like you can't count on men at all. And a lot of frustration, rage, I mean, just a lot of different feelings on that level.

And if you recall, we've been really shifting that. Now I do have to say, let's be honest for a moment. She is a mother who's taking care of two young kids who's overwhelmed, and the kid's dad isn't helping. So, let's be honest. We can all have absolute compassion for her situation. Now, if you add on top of that, she's typically in a, in a, a lot of pain all of the time, that makes it even harder.

And so, while I could sit here and have a lot of compassion for her situation and say, you know, that's challenging and all of that, instead, I want her to change it. And by the way, spoiler alert, you know, if you recall on the beginning of this episode, she started a level 5 of pain, and she does get it gone.

So a little bit of a spoiler alert there, but again, the insights that she uses to get there, And the changes that she has are really profound, and so, again, while we can all have so much compassion for her, the goal is to help by getting her out of her own patterns and helping her to see that she's the power, you know?

Because when you're in a place of feeling angry and pissed off and blaming others, and that's where she's been. You don't feel like you have any power. You feel like everybody else has the power. And so really shifting this to help her to bring in the awareness that she's the power and she has the power and to take her power back.

So that is key. That is part of where we're going. Now, as we step in, the first topic we're going to talk about is, is a feeling of being passive aggressive. And I want you, as we step in, to not judge anything at all. And when I say anything or anyone, you don't want to judge her at all. Because I want to explain how passive aggressive works, but also, if you have had a tendency to be a bit passive aggressive in your life, you won't want to judge yourself either.

Instead, I You'll want to just look at the opportunity to look at it from a different way and change because a lot of times what happens with passive aggressiveness is people inside will feel a sense of, like, frustration and anger. And they're trying to not feel the frustration or anger. They're trying to hold it in, but it's still there.

They're feeling that frustration and anger, and then they're trying to get what they want, so it's, a lot of times it's like somebody's trying to be nice on the outside, but not feeling that way at all on the inside, where they might have anger or pissed off or even feel threatened. So they kind of want to be nice and also kind of attack.

So it's a mix, which is not a great combination, of course. And again, if it's something that you have, then you want to change it, but you just won't want to judge it as well. And so that is where we're going to dive in. We're talking a bit about the passive aggressiveness, and also I'm going to push a bit.

Until she really shifts and you'll notice it's profound. So, on that note, let's go ahead and dive in with beautiful Elena. Here we go.

And if I ask you, moving forward, how much you want to keep the pissed off, what would you say? Oh, for sure. So, so sure. What's that? I don't want to keep it, for sure. I want it gone. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and how much you want to continue blaming others. I don't want to blame others. And ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice Bingo.

The passive aggressive attacks towards others. How much do you want to keep that? I don't want to keep that at all. Okay, so if I ask you, are you really, really, really willing to change this? Oh, definitely, for sure. Okay, so if I ask you, by the way, If I ask you your level of feeling a bit passive aggressive with people even in your workspace, what would you say?

An eight. Mm hmm. I love your self honesty and self awareness. Absolutely. So

All right. So, let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. And, by the way, when you notice, when she says eight, like, you notice from her energy. You can really feel and hear her anger, you know, her feelings on the inside.

They're very much there. There's just an underlying feeling of anger. And by the way, as we talk about this issue, you'll notice it starts to change. Now there's some things you'll want to notice coming up, so I'll kind of, I'll point them out as we go. But notice as she starts to change, because as she addresses this, she can start to actually Let go because she's willing to change and so it's a beautiful thing and that's where we're going and even by the way Just so you know coming up as we do talk about the passive aggressiveness We'll go into kind of the programming of it to help her make a shift and again If you are somebody who has felt that in your life where you've fallen into that pattern or whatnot Make sure not to judge it.

But instead I want to just invite you to to take in some of the mind programming for yourself as we go through this. All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Elena. Here we go.

Can you change? So I want you to notice that that's there. And if I ask you, if you really, really willing to change how you treat people is going to affect your health. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you, are you really willing to change and to be genuinely kind and, and not like, this is the thing is if you're upset with somebody, then you say, Hey, I'm without being you, you would want to just communicate and not like the passive aggressive isn't fair to people.

Does that make sense? Yeah. If something's off, then you want to speak to it, address it, but also look at what your own pattern is and what you need to change inside of you. Both are true. Does that make sense? Definitely. Yeah. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And could you commit to moving forward in a way that says, okay, if something is off with somebody, I'm just, I'm not going to be passive aggressive.

I'm just going to have a real honest. genuine conversation, but I'm also going to check my own side of the street and see what's going on within me first and If something's off, I'm just gonna be authentic and genuine not passive aggressive. Does that make sense? Definitely. Yeah, great I'm ask you to breathe and and even if you're doing that moving forward that you're calming your own Emotions first and you're saying okay, let me calm my own emotions.

And if something is off you say hey I found myself a minute ago being a bit annoyed by this and I figured I just would come ask you because I know I was in my own frustration with it and is there something going on with this or is there something we can do different to make this productive and blah blah blah so you can come to a, you're asking them for something, you're not just, you're not just Being passive, passive aggressive cannot lead to a solution and instead you can say, oh, hey, here's a problem and, and present even with a solution.

Hey, moving forward, could we do this instead? Is that possible? Cause that would be easier and work for me or blah, blah, blah. Does that work for you? You know what I mean? So communicating in an, in a productive way. Does that make sense? Yes, it does. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to realize that the least productive form of communication is passive aggressive because then it's like you're jabbing and you're creating pain, you're not communicating clearly, there's no possible solution that can come from it because you're not actually speaking to the problem, you're just kind of jabbing.

Does that make sense? Like it's just, there's no, it's not productive at all. Yes, I understand. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Great. Thanks. And I am going to ask you to take in the feeling for a moment that you're just freaking amazing. You are amazing. You are amazing.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment and notice for a moment. I mean, she's just, she's so beautiful. She's getting it. And One of the shifts that happened in her energy is there is a feeling like she didn't need to be in attack mode. And that is a big shift for her because her energy is so used to being in attack mode that when she really starts to look at this and she's willing to change it, you can see a softer side of her really start to come in.

But I want you to notice what else happens. And so I'm gonna leave it there. As the softer side comes in, I want you to notice what else happens.

Your self awareness, your self honesty, the way you're showing up right now, You're amazing. And I get that these are sensitive. And again, the reason I'm just being so direct and so, uh, focused on this, I just, I know I can see how much this is just hijacked who you are and you have a beautiful heart, you have very.

Very beautiful heart and you deserve a great life And changing these patterns is going to be really important for your happiness and your love and your connection with people And your kids and all of it. Can you see that? Yeah, definitely Yeah, bingo. And so if I ask you if you genuinely change this How much do you think that would be life changing for you?

Oh, absolutely life changing. It would, it would just change. Yeah, I wouldn't recognize my life, really. I wouldn't go around angry and pissed off. Yes. Yeah. And then you would have more love and more support and more friends and more connections and happier and every, every bit of life. More successful, I mean, every bit of life.

So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And, uh, bingo. And so what I want you to notice, and I don't want you to be judgy towards yourself either, because notice for a moment, how it was conflicting, how you were raised when to say in a way that says I have to do everything by myself. I'm proud of doing everything by myself.

I can't, you know, trust men. And then it's feeling overwhelmed and pissed off. And I mean, maxed out on everything that you're having to do and be, and all of these things. Can you see how that's, it's intense. It's like a vicious circle, um, over the generations. Um, yeah, yeah. Grandmother to mother to me.

Exactly. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. I'm going to ask you to not judge yourself because you didn't put any of that programming there. You've tried to be your best self. You've tried to show up at 100 percent for yourself, for your kids, for life, and be 100 percent and been overwhelmed and frustrated.

And it's like, it's, it's like paper meeting fire. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. But you want to extinguish that and create that real change. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to take that in and be willing to really, really change. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and if I ask you zero to ten, if I ask you if you're really willing to change, really change, like really change, what's your level?

I'd say a nine. Nine. Okay. Awesome. So there's ten percent of you that like to just stay the same and keep doing it the same? I don't want to, I'm just trying to believe that it's going to work. I'm an honest person. I know, but when I said 10 percent of you wants to keep doing it the same, what did that make you do?

Make me feel angry. Because I don't want to stay the same. So notice. If you get angry about being angry, how does that go? Bingo.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a moment. Notice what just happened. So notice I just gave her an insight and I just said, you know, that means 10 percent of you still wants to keep it. And as soon as I gave her that insight. What would normally happen with somebody is they would say, Oh, okay, I see that there's part of me still wanting to hold on to it.

Why is that? Or, Oh, you know what? I'm ready to go at a 10. I did like, so they would actually, the insight would make them reflect. Okay. But notice with her, the insight pissed her off. Okay. And I love her sense of humor. She laughed about it. It's beautiful. And, think about this for a moment, if the insight pisses her off, and that my goal in working with her was to give her insights to change, then if I gave her insights along the way, that it would just piss her off.

And then her pain, instead of getting better, would have gotten worse. And so instead of using insights, because knowing that those would trigger her to piss her off, would you make it worse? Instead, that's why I was pushing in an insightful way as well. So it was making her think, but push at the same time.

So it basically, it wasn't leaving room for the trigger in her mind. So I was working around that to help her to get the results. And again, She was able to release the pain all the way. So it's working and she can see it, but this is the aha moment. This is the reason why I've been pushing her so hard.

And by the way, it's funny because, you know, on my team, uh, one of the women on my team, which I have to say, I have an amazing team and recall on my team, she said to me, I can't wait to hear the end of this one. She said, I've never heard you push anybody so hard. And I always know it's for a reason, but I can't wait to see why that is.

And so this is the reason why is because again, I just really want her to get results and to get around this trigger. And you can see the reactiveness to insight. So that would not have helped her to work in a traditional way, which by the way, is funny because. next week's podcast that's coming up. After I worked with that volunteer, she said she hasn't laughed that hard in so long.

So that's the next podcast, by the way, next week. But my point is right here is I want to invite you to notice. If you are somebody who's being triggered by insight, because it makes it really hard to get out of your patterns, if you have an insight or an awareness, and you just feel pissed about it, or stressed about it, or angry about it, or jealous about it, or whatever that is, it will keep you stuck in there.

in it. Now, I'm going to provide even more insights on this, but let's go ahead and finish this episode with Elena first, because I have to say, you know, where she goes, just the continued shift is just beautiful. And you'll notice by the way, I go back to being a little bit more pushy, but it's beautiful.

The where she goes and the laughter and her heart just opens up. And I mean, it's just, it, to me, it's, it's just palpable. It, you just feel it. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with beautiful Elena. Here we go.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if somebody's frustrated about being frustrated, how does that go? Yeah. Nowhere. Horizontal. Notice your anger is not serving you, honey.

Your anger is not serving you. It's holding me back. Yeah. I want you to picture just for a moment that you're a six year old growing up and is angry about everything and then angry about this and angry about that and angry about this and about that. And you'd be like, yeah, that anger is really going to help you.

You're going to have a ton of friends. Everything's going to go great for you. And life is going to be easy and perfect for you. Just keep doing that anger thing. It's really going to work out.

Would you tell your six year old that? Definitely not. Definitely not. How many friends do you think your six year old self, er, six year old kid is going to have with that amount of anger? Well, she'd be lucky to have one. Mm hmm. And how much support do you think she's going to get in life? Uh, little.

Little. Not only that, but on top of that, if she feels like she's taking credit for everything everybody else is doing all around it and she's doing it on her own, well now she's not even willing to give other people kindness and credit for helping and treating people, like, and then being passive aggressive on top of that.

I mean, I, I, I wouldn't see her having a lot of friends and a lot of happiness and a lot of ease in life. It feels like she would make life really hard for herself. Yeah, so i'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and again, I know i'm pushing you are beautiful you are You're amazing. You are amazing and i'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe And if I ask you when do you want to change this?

Now now if I ask you zero to ten how much you want to change this and how much you need to change this? Ten. Ten. Right? If I ask you to start seeing yourself being in a different way, if I ask you if you're really committed to changing. Oh, for sure. Definitely. A hundred percent. A hundred percent.

Beautiful. Beautiful. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and if I ask you to notice your level of pain, what's your level of pain? Zero to ten. Uh, I can't feel any pain. Mm hmm. If I ask you. Who did that? I did that. Okay. And if I ask you, are you willing to listen to this recording to get it in every day and to really be willing to change 100%?

Definitely. Beautiful. Definitely. Beautiful. Can I just acknowledge you? I know that there's some push, but just because the emotions inside have been so intense and you are shifting that in a beautiful way, and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you honestly, honestly, how big of a heart do you have?

Oh, I have a big heart. Mm hmm. That's what's true, right? And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to start giving your heart a bit more attention, and your kindness more attention, and more love. And ask you to breathe, and ask you just to acknowledge you have a beautiful heart, and you're wanting more love.

And I'm going to ask you to set yourself up for that in life. You're beautiful. I think I've been pushing it away by the sounds of it. Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. You have not been nurturing that. So definitely. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to acknowledge yourself.

You're amazing. This is what's impressive. Change is impressive. Change is impressive. Self honesty, self awareness, that's impressive. And I'm going to ask you to take that in, that. Impressive. You're amazing. You're amazing, dear. Thank you. Absolutely. Absolutely. It has been such a pleasure connecting with you.

You too. Thank you so much. Absolutely. You are so beautiful. Again, make sure to get it in. If you don't get it in, you'll go back into the old. You will. You've got to get it in and make sure to bring it in over and over again. To make sure to embody that change. Okay. Thank you so much. Absolutely. You are absolutely so welcome.

I adore you so much and I wish you a most wonderful rest of your day and great job with your energy. Very, very impressive. Just you're, you're beautiful. I, I, you too. Thank you, dear. Thank you. Have a wonderful rest of your day. We'll see you later. Yep. Take care. Thank you. Bye.

All right. So let's go ahead and unpack this one a bit more. And you know, first and foremost, I have to say, I have so much respect for this woman, she is so beautiful and wonderful. And I just want to like hug her and her heart is so beautiful. And I love that. Thank you. And, again, a lot of really great insights in this episode, and there are two additional insights that I want to really bring up right here, and the first one is probably the most obvious, and it's this.

Even somebody with such a beautiful heart. If you have patterns of anger, of attack, of passive aggressive, of hurt, of upset, of believing you can't count on men, of, of all these things, he's pissed off, you're gonna miss out on the love that you're really wanting. In life, you're going to miss out on the very, very things that you really ultimately want more than anything.

And so when you look at Elena's life, if she goes on for her entire life and instead decides not to change this, and feeling pissed off and feeling angry and passive aggressive and even, you know, lashing out and being upset with her kids and whatnot and all these things. I mean, in 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, who's she going to be?

And where is she going to be with her kids? Kids who've had this angry mom and all these things compared to if she really just Embodies the change and make sure to change this and to get this in and really reprogram these patterns So I got to be honest it is going to take follow through for her to really say, okay I'm not gonna do these patterns anymore and really getting that new programming Into her mind of change.

Of real change. That is one thing you can't trick universe, God, divine energy, whatever you wanna call it, you know, real change is key and you can feel that from her, which is beautiful. And so from that, I just wanna bring to the awareness that if you are somebody. Who's been wanting love and wanting to feel loved in life and has felt unloved or not treated right or hurt or victim or all of those things.

I want to invite you to clean up your patterns and really let the best of you surface again. Bring out your heart and connect. Because that's ultimately The real shift that you want. So you can see that even with her strength and her strong and, you know, just fierce and fabulous, but that heart. And really, really leading with her heart and connecting more with her heart.

That will be life changing. And of course, health changing, you know, as she changes those patterns. So that's number one. Now the second insight is this, is that we've all heard before the phrase that most people don't change until they hit rock bottom. You know, for most people, they are stuck in their stuff and when they really decide to change, it's when things are really, really bad.

And so if you are somebody who's very stuck in your patterns, be willing to change, like change sooner, invite change, be willing to change, embrace change rather than staying stuck in the same patterns. And so those are the two really key insights that I want to bring. Also, earlier, I mentioned. One of the people on my team, Raquel, and I mentioned I have an amazing team and I do, and I just want to give a quick shout out to Sarah, to Ali, to Raquel, to Sherry, to Bryn, to Jeff, to just, I'm so blessed and grateful for my team.

And so just wanting to acknowledge that as the topic came up there, you know, just beautiful, wonderful, and just grateful for an amazing team. And I love how much they love me. change also and wanting to see change. And we all do. And so, you know, on that note, as far as change, making a real change, I'm going to invite you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love.

Somebody you care about, somebody maybe who's stuck or could use the insight or needs to connect even more with their heart or take back their power. Whatever that is, please do make a point to share. You know, the more empowered that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us.

And so on that note, Please do make it a fabulous day. Enjoy, laugh, have fun, connect, smile, breathe, enjoy, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.