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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And you're going to love today's episode and today's volunteer. I mean, she is just so sweet and fun and precious and funny and just, it's just beautiful.

And the insights that come from today's episode are very, very, very, very, very, very, very Powerful in many different ways. I mean, so often people will suffer from having low energy throughout the day, feeling like they're trying to load up on energy drinks or coffee or all kinds of things or needing a nap because they're crashing halfway through the day.

That is so common. And there are many reasons that that can happen. And so today's volunteer is experiencing those crashes in her day. And not only that, has some health issues going on. So this is helpful in the area of health, but also in success and energy and life and love it. I mean, just so many helpful insights from today's episode.

And that said. I'm excited to dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Sarah. Here we go.

It is so wonderful to connect with you. Oh, you too. Oh my goodness. I just couldn't believe I got, when I got the email. I'm so excited. I love it. I love it. It's wonderful to talk to you. I love that. And what can I help you with today, my dear? Okay, so my, um, I have a few autoimmune conditions. Hashimoto's, thyroiditis, um, chronic Lyme disease.

And just like a hormonal issue and a lot of these issues cause me just debilitating fatigue. Um, to the point where, you know, I can't make it through the day without taking a nap. So I have to take a nap every single day. And even when I take a nap, like I'm tired. I'm pretty much tired like an hour after I wake up, until my nap, and then I'm tired after my nap, and that's my biggest, um, health concern right now, is just from the fatigue.

Yeah, that is not fun. No. That is not fun at all. All right. So, um, give me one second. Bingo. Bingo. All right. And, um, okay. And if I ask you zero to ten, how tired do you feel right now, what would you say? Cool. So, I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you how much you would say you are somebody who is trans.

Ambitious in life, normally. What would you say? Oh, like, 200%? That's, that's what's frustrating. There you go. That is frustrating. You're mine. You have a strong mind. Ambitious, determined. Perfect. Right? Mm hmm. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And there is a feeling of feeling like people won't like you if you succeed.

And I'm not saying it's true. I'm saying there's a feeling that's there. Can you see that? Mm hmm. Yeah, I can see that. Mm hmm. And if I ask you why that is, why is that feeling there?

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her self awareness. It's beautiful. And also this topic of feeling like somebody's going to be jealous or not like you if you're successful is something that comes up periodically throughout this episode.

And of course there's other things as well. But I want you to notice if this is present in your life. And if so, I want to invite you to make sure to look at this and really analyze this and look at changing it in your life. And the reason that I say that and just kind of want to emphasize this is because There are a variety of different reasons that this link can come up, you know, from patterns from childhood and all kinds of things and we're going to talk about some of those as we continue.

But, also, I have seen people who have kind of woken up into the spiritual communities and then They end up having like a group of spiritual people, you know, being around a bunch of spiritual people who are a bit judgmental or righteous and they don't realize it. And so what I'll find is I've literally worked with people before who were very successful doing great things in the world who then say, Oh my gosh, like, you know, I, I, I don't want to be successful cause money's bad.

And then I don't want to, uh, be proud of my work because it's bad to feel So then they don't feel proud of anything because they feel like, Oh, pride is bad. Let me not do that. Oh, money's bad. Let me not do that. Oh, possessions are bad. Let me not do that. And then before you know it, they're struggling and they're stressed and they're having a hard time getting by.

And it's because they've taken in all of these quote unquote spiritual beliefs that have them sabotaging their lives. And so then they end up with health issues because they're in panic because they can't take care of themselves because they don't want any possessions or whatnot. I mean it just, or it spirals and they, you know, they feel all this fear and stress because, you know, let's be honest, having a life where you can pay for things can relieve stress and make it easier to enjoy life.

Easier to live a full life. And, and, you know, and so what happens is that there's that all that struggle and, and, you know, a lot of panic and anxiety and, and it can lead to a lot of stress. So that's not the case for her. There are other things going on, but I just have seen this so often with people that I just wanna.

Bring some awareness to this. If this is you, if you have a feeling of feeling like people won't like you, if you succeed, you'll want to change it because as you will see, it can impact your health. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with beautiful Sarah. Here we go.

It might have something to do with like a fear of Like doing better than anyone in my family has. There you go. Okay, so feeling of fear and There's also a feeling of like expecting them to be jealous. Can you see that? Yeah. Yeah, I can. Okay. And out of curiosity, what if they just loved you? Like, what if It's interesting.

Yeah, it's interesting you say that because I, I find myself saying, like, I want to be happy for other people's successes and that maybe that's why, because I'm, you know, have this fear that others won't, won't genuinely be happy for mine. Mm hmm. So first and foremost, I love your self awareness and I love your self honesty.

Beautiful. Beautiful. And by the way, if I ask you how much fear and upset feelings you have around this topic, what would you say? Well, I haven't thought about it in a while, um, but when I think about it, um, probably a five. Okay. And, um, okay, so just so you know, as far as sensitivity around this topic, um, I don't I would have said a lot higher.

Okay. I would say there's also a part of you that suppresses your emotions a bit. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, absolutely. Okay. So, um, bingo. So give me one second. Just looking at where I want to go first because I, I know what pieces I want. Um, and navigating your mind is all right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, is there a part of you that you can see that looks down on your family a bit?

Can you see that? Yeah. I've always had some shame. Bingo. You were actually just beat me exactly where we were going to go, was exactly that, that feeling of shame. Okay. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you 0 to 10, I love your awareness, if I ask you 0 to 10, how much, uh, you've seen that feeling of shame?

Um, often, since I was a little girl and almost on a daily basis. Mm hmm. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. And I want you to think about, just for a moment, if you think about a lot of different celebrities, whether they're, you know, football players or sports players or actors or musicians or anybody like that, right?

Would you say all of them pretty much come from very, very successful families? No. No. Right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. No. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And by the way, when you hear somebody go from a story, a very modest, Beginnings, you know, like a rags to riches story, so to speak. What do you think about a rags to riches story?

Um, those have always inspired me. Oh, they're inspiring. You mean you don't stop and you don't just like judge the person and go, Oh, well, they would be great except for they came from this family.

No, right? The first thing you don't go, Oh, there's a really cool rags to riches story. This loser that came from this man. Blah, blah, blah. They should be ashamed of themselves. You don't think that? No. So imagine as you're more and more and more successful. And you're doing your thing and you're living your life and you have these ambitions and creating this change and all of that.

Do you feel like people are going to look at you and go, wow, that's amazing. Look at where you came from and look at you and you're incredible. And you should be proud of yourself and awesome job. Or you think they're going to be like, Oh my God. Look at her. She came from here. Yeah, I think, I think they would be proud of me, but I have this Wait, wait, wait.

Oh, sorry, sorry. You're okay. No, perfect. Perfect. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And you said that, what was the first part? You think they would be what? Oh, I think They would be proud of you? Yes. Okay, great. So let's stop for just one moment, and I'm going to ask you to breathe, and you think they would be proud of you.

Yes. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to take that in for a moment, that you actually think that they would be proud of you. They would be proud of you. They would be proud of you. And even Rags to Riches story, when you hear those stories, You don't stop to judge the person, you actually are impressed with the person.

Right. Okay, so What if people are just impressed with you? Are you gonna be okay with that? Yes, but I feel like I have to do more. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take in this feeling for a moment. Okay, so one piece at a time. So watch this. So I want you to think about just for a moment, if you are successful, your next level of success, Even if it's not rags to riches, but it's next level.

It's whatever that is for you. I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And my point is,

all right, so let's go ahead and pause it for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost again, I just love her self awareness. And there are a few pieces that you'll want to notice here. You know, when I was saying feeling proud of yourself, her first thing was saying, yes, but I feel like I need to do more.

And notice the loop that she's in because she's going, but yes, to feel proud of myself, I need to do more, but then she feels like if she does more than other people won't like her and she won't be liked. And so she goes, but immediately, like, you know, I need to do more, but then if I do, I feel like others won't like me.

Notice the loop. That Catch 22 or that cycle that she's in. And by the way, remember how we started out diving into this episode, this ambition, like the 200%. She's got so much ambition. And so she's trying to do, do, do. Yes, but I need to do more. I need to do more. Yeah, awesome. And that is great and wonderful.

And I love her ambition. But there's that feeling of feeling like if she succeeds, then people won't like her. And so when you stop and think about it for a moment, that won't work. That's like if she says she's gonna be successful, but then she's gonna have no love. Like, we as human beings, we need love.

And so she wants to be ambitious and have a full life and do all kinds of things, which is great. And, She needs love too. And so, when you think about this feeling of people feeling proud of you, it's not just like a egoic thing, which, by the way, ego is not a bad thing at all. And feeling proud of yourself, you absolutely should and will want to feel proud.

of you. You know, just like a kid, they'll want to feel proud of learning how to tie their shoes, which is wonderful. And then proud of getting good grades and feeling good about themselves and, you know, a healthy feeling of feeling proud of who you are and what you're doing and what you stand for and what you believe in.

And it's a feeling of, of confidence and feeling good about you. It's a beautiful, beautiful thing, uh, feeling that way. And also, you know what I'm saying? Others will feel proud of you. of you and for you. It's also that feeling, a feeling that connectedness. So it's, you know, again, if she feels like she's going to step into success, but everybody's going to hate her and not like her, that's going to be a problem.

Or of course, there are also other ways that we're going to talk about where there's a feeling of loss of love. And I see this all the time where people want something in life. And then at simultaneously, you know, There's a block to it and that keeps them stuck. And with her, she has so much ambition and so much drive that it's like her body is saying, Oh gosh, I know if I give you energy, you're going to do a lot with your life.

We better just like pull the plug on that energy, you know, that's part of what's going on. And. You know, all the time you hear people who have low energy in life. And a lot of times there is some type of misalignment where they're not aligned. They have resistance or a block, or in some cases people are out of integrity.

It's like they're wanting to do this, that, or the other. That's not an integrity. So that's another reason for low energy. So there's a variety of different reasons, but. What you'll want to note here is that you do want to get it programmed into your mind. If you have felt like people won't love you if you succeed and you have a great life, then you'll definitely want to change that, because that is important for your health and your life, and of course, your energy, and living life to its fullest.

And, of course, because You want to have love in your life. You want people to like you and to feel good and fabulous and wonderful. And of course there are a variety of different reasons that can happen and other things that are also layered in the mix. And so that's where we're going. As we step back in with beautiful Sarah, here we go.

Zero to 10, how much shame do you need to have towards your family? Zero. Zero. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and take that in again. How much shame do you need to have towards your family? None. None. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And when you think about it through this lens, and this perspective, and this awareness, how much shame do you need to have towards your family?

Absolutely none. What? None. No shame. None. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and take in what that feels like, that you don't actually need to have any. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And what does that feel like, to know that you actually don't need to have any? It's not helping you, it's not supporting you, and actually you being successful in whatever you're doing is going to be just fine.

Like, you don't have to carry around shame about your family. You can just be a success in your own life, and it's great. What does that feel like? It's a, it's a feeling of, um, like it brings, I guess, tears to my eyes, but not like a sorrow and, and a, like a, a feeling of feeling lighter. Exactly. Right? So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And now you see when you were like, yes, but I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, let's stop there, right? You're being your soul wants this. And so I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take that in and notice, by the way, you were about to say, Yes, but I feel like I need to do more yadda yadda yadda. Can you see that? Mm hmm.

Yeah, I saw where you were going. So I'm asking you to breathe.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, when you stop and think about this for a moment, you know, there's a part of her who has felt less than and not good enough because of, you know, where she came from and the shame around her family and, and feeling lesser than, right?

And then to feel proud of herself, to feel good about herself, she's wanting to do more. But when you're in a place where you're feeling less about yourself, and it's only about doing more, it's hard to actually get there because it's opposite. It's like beating yourself up and wanting more from yourself.

But instead, if she starts lifting herself and lifting herself, that's when she will feel like she can do more and Of course, which goes back to that catch 22 about feeling like, well, of course, if she does more than people won't like her. So notice how everything can feel very intertwined and that's what you're going to want to notice is sometimes with a health issue, what can happen is there's kind of like multiple pieces of mind programming that feel a bit complex that make it hard to change if you don't look at each piece.

And really, genuinely transform it, even in the subconscious mind. So, getting that information in, deep in the subconscious or unconscious mind is very, very important. But, again, the point that I want you to note here is that she's been very, you know, like, let me just push forward, let me push forward, and Reprogramming your mind is key, and of course to both.

You can definitely take action from that place, but lifting yourself, reprogramming your mind, making it safe to feel good moving forward is also the combination that you want, because of course, as you notice, if you recall, you know, she has multiple autoimmune issues and also extreme fatigue. And so, you know, all the time people just want to push through and push through.

And the point here is that absolutely action is fun and taking action and doing things is fun and making sure to align on the inside and create that real change is key. All right. So that said. Let's go ahead and dive back in with Sarah. Here we go.

And letting go of that for a moment, like taking in the awareness. You don't even have to have shame towards your family at all. What does that feel like? You don't have to have any shame towards them at all. Yeah, that's very liberating. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And by the way, if I ask you the level of feeling tired right now, what's your level?

Um, it's definitely less, maybe a three. Okay. Okay. Yeah. So you're noticing, and by the way, if I ask you also, how much is a part of you that's feeling more energized? Yeah, I definitely, it's hard to, it's hard to tell, but yeah, I do think I'm, I'm feeling more energized. Okay. I don't feel quite as heavy, like lethargic, I guess.

There we go. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you honestly, how much you love your family, what would you say? I love them very much. Okay. And? If I ask you the part of you who also that's felt ashamed of them, kind of wants to run away from them, what would you say?

That's definitely there too. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you zero to ten, how much that one is there, what would you say? Probably a seven. Mm hmm. I love your awareness. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and what would happen if you could just be successful and be you, and they could still be them?

And they could just be great and you didn't have to run away and you didn't have to feel embarrassed or, or shame at all. You could just let them be them and it could be great. How would that feel? I would feel free, free. Free, free. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And by the way, would you say that all celebrities, people who are very successful, all need to be ashamed of their families because they've made a next level of success and they just, run from their families?

No, definitely not. Okay, so if I ask you to breathe, and by the way, you, you mentioned you read Rags to Riches stories, right? Okay, and those rags to riches stories, it'll be like, Oh, so and so did this and this and this. And then as soon as they did, they decided to ditch their family.

Someone asked you just for a moment to breathe. And what if you don't need to run away? And what if you don't need to be embarrassed or ashamed or? Any of that. What if you could actually just be amazing? I was just gonna say I don't know if I should go there because I know I should be I want to breathe into this new belief but

All right So I want to go ahead and actually pause the session right here because as you can tell She's about to take the conversation in a completely different direction, which is perfect and very insightful because But, I want you to think about the topic that we've been talking about, about not feeling embarrassed or shameful or any of that regarding your family.

And you'll see, by the way, why that is coming up, because there's more to unpack here, but I want you to think about that in your own life when it comes to success to the next level in your life. And by the way, as far as success goes, that might be successfully having an amazing relationship because I've seen all of the time people say, Oh, well, if I have so much love and if I have this amazing relationship, then my sisters or my siblings or my parents or, you know, are going to be jealous or envious.

I've seen that. All of the time where maybe they have a mother who's been divorced, you know Their parents are divorced and their mother's still alone or whomever and I say gosh Well, if I have this wonderful loving relationship Then my mother or my family or whomever is gonna be really jealous so, you know, I I don't want to do that and it of course, it's at a subconscious level because consciously, there's a part of the saying, Oh my gosh, I want an amazing relationship and I want to feel loved or success, you know, maybe in career or financial or whatever that looks like.

And so I don't want to just paint success is just financial success or, you know, job success or whatnot, because success in life is everything. It's having a great life. It's enjoying life to its fullest. You know, being spirit full, living fully. In spirit, you know, enjoying life. And so on that note, there are several pieces on that very topic that I want to invite you to look at in your own life.

You know, are you feeling a sense of feeling like you can step into more success, whatever that is, relationship, love, happiness, joy. Ease, abundance, career, whatever that is, are you feeling like it is safe to do so? And that it feels good? And that people will love you? And it really does feel good. And, of course, by the way, that is in integrity, because all the time I'll see people who, you know, maybe have some things that are a bit out of integrity.

And that stops them too. So noticing that in your own life, how that feels for you, and especially paying attention to this if you have a lot of low energy when you're trying to go after your goals and dreams or just even in life in general. So there's that. And really looking at this piece as far as feeling embarrassed or shameful regarding your family.

in the area of success. Because what will happen sometimes is people will feel exactly that. They feel like, well, as soon as I feel more successful, as soon as I feel better off, I'm just going to leave my family behind because I'm shameful of them or embarrassed of them. Or I don't want anybody to know they exist or because they hurt me and I want to hurt them back.

or whatever it is. And from that place, there's going to be stuckness. It's going to keep you with low energy because, you know, having success to then hurt somebody else isn't the energy that you want to have. And not only that, but having success and not having love. isn't the energy that's going to help you manifest a better life either.

And so, of course, you want both. We need love. We need human connection. You know, if you've listened to past episodes, and you've heard me talk about, you know, if an infant doesn't get enough love, they can actually die. Or a senior who loses a spouse, they can die. You know, we've heard failure to thrive, or the widowhood effect, well known in medical research.

And so, on that note, thinking about where you want to go in your life, in your future, feeling really good about it. And so, that said, I really want to invite you to just kind of look at these in your life and see. If there's something that you're needing to change, and if so, being willing to embrace that change.

And, by the way, the question that came in regarding the next IQ episode has to do with, well, what if your partner is negative and you're wanting to avoid them and different things like that. So, interestingly, This will segue into the next episode as well, but just like with our volunteer where I'm asking her to take one step at a time and really get that information in, that's what I want to invite you to do is really look at this insight in your life and how this is showing up for you.

And if there's an issue there, I want to invite you to make sure to make a change, truly transform it. So of course you can have a happier, healthy, more energized and successful life and feel empowered, you know, whatever that looks like for you in your life. All right. And so on that note, by the way, I'm going to ask you to please do make sure to hit the share button on this episode.

You know, share it with somebody you love. Somebody you care about, somebody who you know wants more success, you know, whatever that looks like. Love, health, happiness, expansion in life. Please do hit the share button. The more successful and happy and healthy that every person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do make it a wonderful day, you know, having a wonderful, loving, happy, healthy, spiritful life. Is so key and that's of course what I wish for you and It's been a pleasure connecting with you and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.