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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, and your healing. I just love it. And I just love being here. Today's episode, you know, every single episode has different insights, different awareness, and the same is true with today's episode.

And there's a couple of things that are different about today's episode. First and foremost, that normally when we bring a person on for a session, it's a person who I've never met with and I've never spoke with before. So it's our first time meeting. However, in this case, Today's volunteer is a woman who I have met before and you'll notice that as we start diving in and talking Because I've been working on a healing study, you know under thermal medical equipment And so basically what it is is, you know I've been working in the lab and just like I do on these episodes where I'll coach somebody to release their pain.

And they might go from a level six or eight of pain or whatever level of pain and then, you know, show them how to use their mind to then release that pain. So of course, we do that on so many of the past episodes, but in the lab, that's exactly what I was doing. except for under thermal medical equipment.

And what's great is you can actually see the results, you know, somebody can have a scan that is got red with inflammation and pain. And then as they're working with their mind, you literally see the scan go from red to green. We're just indicating of the problem, you know, going away. And it's just really cool to actually see that, you know, visually with your eyes.

So that's what I was working on. And that is actually how I met today's volunteer. And by the way, on a quick note, as far as those images, they're really neat to see. But I can't yet share them just because the goal for that specific study is to get it published in a medical journal, et cetera. So that's that goal.

But if you would like to see exactly what I'm talking about on video, if you haven't already seen it, you can go to my website and you can see a previous one that I've worked on under thermography. So it's just, you know, it's always fun to see. And one of the things that I love is that all of the time people.

think that healing with the mind and especially healing pain with the mind is just something that's all in your head, you know, it's just pretending the pain isn't there or the pain was all in your head, so to speak. But what I love is as you see the scan shift, you can see that there are actual physiological changes occurring.

And so it's not that the problem is all in somebody's head. Of course, it's that the brain and the body are connected. And so when you make those changes in your mind. they reflect in the body. So it's just, it's amazing to watch. And again, that's where I met Charlene is because she was part of that study.

Now, the interesting thing is, is that the computer software didn't actually save the data for her part of the study. So she's not going to be in the actual writeup of the study. But that worked out perfect. It was a test run and it worked out great. And I got to connect with this beautiful, beautiful being who we're about to work with today.

So basically for the study, she had been experiencing neck pain and she came in, she was able to release it and that was beautiful. She did so wonderful with her energy. So just incredible, incredible being. And today. We're going to address some other patterns that are going on in her life that are causing her some emotional pain.

And so, that said, let's go ahead and dive in with beautiful Charlene. Here we go.

Hi. How's it going? Good, Brandy. I love it. I'm excited. I'm excited. Thank you so much for this opportunity to work with you again. I just, I feel so honored, Brandy. Thank you. You are absolutely so, so welcome and you're just so wonderful. I just adore you so much. so much. Oh, I adore you too. You just, you have no idea how every time I talk to somebody about you, I'm just like, Oh my gosh, he's like, it felt like I was being healed by Jesus's energy, you know, and, and you, after that experience, I, it gave me so much thought about, you know, I was like, you know, the miracles that they talk about Jesus doing and, and training, training his disciples to heal in his name.

I'm like, wait, I think he was healing with his energy. And then is that what he taught his disciples to do? You know, heal with their energy and you just, you gave me a lot to think about. So, um, yeah, just beautiful. And I love that. And this is how it related is. I would say this is that you did it. And when you think about the Bible for a moment, if you think about in Proverbs, it says a merry heart is a medicine to the body.

Ill thoughts will dry the bones. Right. Yeah. You're familiar with that? It sounds familiar. I can't say I remember all the Bible verses, but I hear you. So if you think about it, a merry heart is a medicine, ill thoughts will dry the bones. And so what happens is as you shifted your thoughts and your emotions, and you really created that change, that's The reason that the pain went away, that's the, that's what was shifting to pay.

You were doing it. So I was just coaching you and showing you and thank you. Absolutely. Absolutely. And so on the note of our thoughts, helping to create our lives, Mark 1124 says, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe you have received and it shall be yours, right? Yes. Amen. Amen. Or even if we think about life and death is in the power of the tongue, those who love life will eat its fruit.

That is beautiful. So beautiful, right? And it's Proverbs, right? So I ask you to breathe and thinking about the awareness that your thoughts, your emotions, your mindset helps create your life.

All right, so, uh, let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I have to say what I love is this, is that people from all different backgrounds, whether it's Christianity and we can look at healing from the Bible. You know, where it says a merry heart is a medicine to the body, ill thoughts will dry the bones.

If you think about it, that's the same as saying stress negatively affects your body, and positivity is beneficial for your body. Or in metaphysics, or speaking in terms of energy, and saying positive energy is good for your body, negative energy is negative for your body. Now, of course, there's a lot more that.

I'm doing to understand what's going on in the mind. So as far as the neuroscience part of it and understanding what exactly is going on, it's an in depth understanding of how to use the mind. But very simply, what I love is that. People from every different walk of life, when we start to look at it, we can see healing with the mind actually makes logical sense.

And so I love that. And of course, the other piece that I love is that we are all our own healer. You know, whenever I work with somebody, I'm just coaching them to use their own mind. And that is so important. Part of healing, for my definition of it. Part of healing is, of course, healing and transforming the body and the physical ailments, absolutely.

And the other part of healing, though, is also a feeling of empowerment. Because the more you feel empowered in life, the easier it is to be optimistic, the easier it is to stay in positive energy, to stay out of the stress. But if you're somebody who is feeling disempowered in life. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and stressed and fearful.

And so that's also important for future health as well. But that's why you'll hear me on every single episode. When somebody releases their own pain, I always want to say, you did it because they did do it for one. And because that empowerment piece is important for their future, for their life. And because I don't want to Take anybody's power.

I'm not trying to do that. It's all about empowerment of everybody. So that is so important. And that's also where we're going, you know, what unfolded after the lab. So the lab was back in June, but she sent a message recently on Instagram and just sent the sweetest message. She was just. precious. She just was like, Oh my gosh, thank you so much.

I'm so grateful. I mean, I just love her heart. She's just, she's so precious and grateful. And it was just the sweetest thing. So she sends this message and I sent her a message back that she's just beautiful and she's so welcome. And then she sent another message that was something along the lines of, you know, she's got some other things going on with her mom and her husband, et cetera, et cetera.

And then she And when she sent that back, I offered her that if she wanted to be a volunteer on the podcast, she could. And so that's how she ended up here. Now, the thing that I want to note right before we dive back in is this, is that she mentions that after she cleared the neck issue, a while after that.

Then another problem came up, and I want to speak to that before we dive into it, just because what you'll want to notice in life is just because you heal one pattern doesn't mean that you heal everything. Meaning this, meaning that I had patterns and stuff that I had to heal for myself to heal my physical body, so I had to really radically change some negative emotions and stress and fear and blah, blah, blah.

in my subconscious mind to be able to heal. Now, after I healed, it radically changed my entire life in a million different ways. But that doesn't mean that every single pattern that I've ever had disappeared. There was still other things that I wanted to work on. And by the way, I'll see that with people all of the time where they go, Oh my God, I healed myself.

Okay. Now I want to work on taking my. relationship to the next level, or I want to work on expanding my business or expanding financially or expanding whatever that thing is. So that's important to keep in mind. Now, of course, If there's a health issue, it's always the body's way of telling us the most important thing we need to know, meaning that on a spiritual note, if there's some type of health issue, it's like a check engine light, if you will, in a car, the check engine lights on, it's telling you the most important thing you need to know is that, but otherwise continuing to transform and expand and change patterns is so important in life.

And so that's where we're going. As we step back in with beautiful Charlene. Here we go.

Reconnected. You said that, uh, and I, I know you, you sent a message on social and I, I don't recall exactly yet. I, I guess I'm going through a challenging divorce right now. Um, after we had, you had. Heal me back in July at SciTech labs. I had a lot of new trauma that came up with this divorce, which was necessary because it was very toxic.

But in the process, he attempted to turn my family against me. And. Luckily, my sister and brother in law didn't buy it, but my mom and my son did at first, and my son is back in the fold. I've really tried to repair things. So we spent a great day yesterday for my birthday. It was, you know, my son and I, and it's, we're healing, but the part now is my, my mom, that's still a sore spot for myself and my sister as well.

And, and of course, um, The soon to be ex, um, he had done a lot of not nice things that, and I ended up in the ER with critically high blood pressure, um, triple digits with both the upper and lower number. And as a nurse, I, that frightened me because I had never even seen my patients with blood pressure that high.

And I worked in ICU and that was, it was a very scary time. So yeah. And then you reached out to me at the perfect moment. I felt like you felt. What I was going through, you sensed me or something and this, it was just the timing was wonderful for you to reach out. Thank you. Beautiful. Absolutely. Your message came, it was just, it was, it was divine timing.

So yeah, I love, yeah. Um, I love that. And, uh, bingo. And happy birthday. Thank you. Thank you. This is like a birthday gift to me. Just interacting. You know, what's funny is you had sent the message on, on, uh, on social and that's what it, the universe said, okay, well just tell her if she wants to volunteer on the podcast, she can.

So that's, that's how that all just kind of unfolded, uh, beautifully. Oh, you know, you didn't even know my name. Cause that's. I use a different name on social, right? No, I, uh, I, you know, actually, but Oh my goodness. , I did know it was you. Oh, you did actually, you did. Okay. Yes, I, I did. Uh, and actually, you, you sent in the really sweet message with Cytech, so Yes.

So Oh, yeah, yeah. You knew it was me. , yes. I knew it was you. But that, that was the message was from Stech and then, yeah. Thank you. So I knew it was you. Uh, but yeah, but Universe just said, you know, yes. Offer her, uh, if she wants to be a volunteer on the podcast, so. Oh, thank, that's what. Thank you. You're absolutely so welcome.

And you're so beautiful. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. So if I ask you, when was the first time you remember the feeling of feeling like your mom takes other people's side over you? When would you say that is? Oh, in very young childhood. In, in grade school. Mm-Hmm. . Yeah. And what happened?

Uh, she always made me feel like I wasn't good enough. Like even like my friends, I would have girlfriends sleep over and she would dote over them. And I always, I would always feel like, um, you know, second best. And it just, she always wanted me to be like somebody else. She would compare me. Mm-Hmm, , why don't you be like this person or that, or, you know, this wonderful.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. I'm going to interrupt it totally because I, I just, Oh, no, that's fine. Yep. Uh, so I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice the pattern and we're not going to feed it any more energy, no more energy, delete, delete on that. No more energy on that.

But what I'm wanting you to notice is the pattern. Yes. And I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you to bring in the awareness. So you've heard before that patterns can continue, unfortunately, right? Yes. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to notice this pattern of feeling like your mom is choosing other people over you and loving other people over you, right?

Yes. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And by the way, if I asked you how much you felt like your ex husband put other people over you, what would you say? Oh, he did the exact same thing. I would always tell him he's just like my mom. So you know how you said this feels like a, it's, it's like, it's interesting.

It feels like a birthday gift. It's the divine time and all of that.

And if I ask you to think about moving forward to a more beautiful relationship and maybe not now, maybe a year from now, maybe six months from now, or maybe now, if you're ready, but I want you to think about being willing to let go of the upset, the anger, the pattern, because notice the pattern of hurt attracted more of the same and more of the same.

And not only that, but this is the other thing. Yes, it has. It feels like it went from your mom to then your husband and now your ex, but now back to your mom. So it's showing up again in your mom right now. Right. Yes, because she chose to side with my soon to be ex during the divorce, and that was so painful.

She chose him over me. Exactly, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you, do you want to fuel that energy? No, I don't want this cycle. Or ever with anyone. Great, great awareness. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I'm going to say that again. So asking you, do you want to continue to fuel the energy? No. No, it does not feel good. Not at all. I love your awareness. You're beautiful. You're beautiful. I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice also the part of you that feels irate with your mom. Okay.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And there's a feeling of feeling almost like. Your head could explode with frustration towards her. Are you familiar with that feeling? Yes. And it's because it's not just me, but she did the pattern with my sister too. I'm going to ask you to breathe. I'm going to ask you to breathe. I understand. I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I want you to think about how much energy you want to give that. None. And I want you to think about your next relationship. where you're feeling so much love and you're feeling so good about yourself and you're feeling that respect inside of you. You're feeling a sense of self respect and feeling good about you.

And it's starting inside of you. You're not waiting for it from your mom. Yes. So it's starting inside of you. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love this woman. She's precious and sweet and great self awareness and great self honesty. I mean, just beautiful. And I want you to notice something for a moment. And it's this, it's, you know, we talked about filling yourself up with up with approval.

So you feeling that first and filling yourself with confidence and approval and feeling good about you. Now, the reason this is so important is a lot of times people will be stuck in this place of feeling like, I don't need my mom's approval, but then they'll vacillate back and forth and back and forth and back and forth.

And the reason is because they don't genuinely fill themselves up. And so what happens is then when they're hurt, they're saying, I don't need that approval, but then they're still wanting it. And they're still craving it because they haven't really filled it up inside of themselves. Because if you're walking around in life and you approve of you and you have the confidence in you, then you're not craving it so much.

So just point being, if you don't, is make sure that if this is something that's going on for you, that you make sure to really fill yourself up. Because if not, likely you'll stay stuck here. You'll continue to vacillate back and forth between, but I need her approval, but I don't, but I need it, but I don't.

And you'll stay stuck. And so filling yourself up is just so important. All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Charlene. Here we go.

And it's inside of you. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And you're filling yourself up. You're not mad at your mom. You don't need her to be your source of everything. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to think about this for a moment. Would you say that some people have parents who are on drugs and in a really, really, really bad place?

Yes. Now, what if somebody has a parent who's on drugs and, and is a mess and all of these things and this person is waiting to get approval from their mom in their life? It won't happen likely. They need to give it to themselves. Exactly. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, by the way, let's say somebody's in a place where they have a parent who's on drugs and who's really, really, really messed up.

Let's say that this person feels sorry for themselves because of it. Yes. Feels like a victim because of it. Yes. How's their life? It's very sad. Very sad. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And what if a person instead says, you know what, it gave me a really clear picture of what I didn't want to do with my life. I've never done drugs because. I saw very firsthand what not to do. And it made me want to take my life to the next level and be very focused and, and love fully and live fully and enjoy fully that I took the lesson from it.

And I've purposely lived my life fully and I'm not going to feel bad for myself or, or like a victim, but instead I'm going to live fully. What would that look like for their life? Beautiful. It would be, it would be a dream. And if I ask you, which one would you recommend for people to do? The one that felt like a dream, fulfilling.

So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to think about the part of you that is yearning for your mother's approval. Yes. And ask you just for a moment to breathe. If I ask you how many times you've seen your mom do this to people, including your sister, how many times would you say that is?

Many. Countless. Okay, so you've seen her do it to other people, right? Yes. So when you see somebody act in a certain way, then you don't necessarily need to expect that they're going to be different for you. Does that make sense? Yes, that's right. Okay, so what happens if you don't judge her, and you don't hate her, and you don't criticize her, and you don't need her approval, and you don't judge her?

Compassion for the wounded being that she is. But you also decide that you're not going to be like her and that you're going to live your life to its fullest. And, and what if, just like the, the lesson that we talked about from the person who has a drug parent or whatnot, if you think about that lesson and you say, you know what, my lesson is, is that I'm going to be my own person and I'm going to get approval from myself And that I don't need that approval from others.

And I'm going to have a better life because of that. I love that. That feels so sounds so feel so empowering. Great. I'm going to ask you to breathe. Bingo. Bingo. And by the way, how has your blood pressure been? It's gone down. It's gone down. I haven't had issues with it. Great, great, great, great, great, great.

I've been trying to forgive her and forgive the ex. Okay. But part of the thing with forgiveness right now with her is this, do you expect Based on her past behavior, do you expect that she's going to do it again? I, I do. So letting it go, but not needing it anymore. So in other words, can you see the part of you that still wants her approval?

There's a small part of me. Yes. Okay. And so what would it feel like to not need it at all? Liberating. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to notice exactly that. What does it feel like? It feels like the albatross has been lifted off of my neck. Exactly. That weight is gone.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I want you to think about this for a moment. When you picture yourself not needing her approval, you just don't need it. You actually don't need it. You can accept her for her, for who she is, but you don't need her approval. Yes. Does your upset and hurt towards her go up, down, or stay the same? Goes away.

Goes away, exactly. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, but now if you picture that you're needing her approval, and she's not giving it to you, but you're needing it, and you're needing it. Notice. I don't need it anymore. Exactly. But when you're feeling like you need it, the hurt goes up, right? Does that make sense?

Yeah. Yeah. No, I'm going to ask you to breathe and let's take this a step further. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, I want you to just picture for a moment, you don't need her approval at all. None, zero, right? Right. I'm going to ask you to breathe and you don't feel like you need it at all.

You're like, okay, well, yes, she's my mother. Yes. She's the woman that gave birth to me. Yes. But I don't need her approval for my life. Right. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. When you're in that space of not needing her approval,

zero to ten, how much do you feel like you still need to forgive her? I don't. Zero. Exactly. So, instead of working on forgiving her, let go of feeling like you've lost anything that you need from her. That is true. All

right, so let's go ahead and actually pause the session right here and you know, I have to say I just Love her great self awareness great insights And this is such an important piece for so many people and it's this it's that a lot of times people expect things in life from others who don't necessarily have the ability to To give something and it creates hurt over and over and over and one simple way to look at it Is this is that you wouldn't expect a four year old to drive you in their car around town, you know They can't and you're not mad at him for it or hurt by it Because you don't expect them to do that and all of the time.

I'll see people have major expectations from others that that person couldn't possibly deliver just because it's not who they are. And by the way, another common thing that I've seen is this is I've seen people who have felt extremely unloved because their mom was working a lot as a kid and they felt unloved.

They felt poorly treated because. You know, their mom and their parents were gone a lot. And even in those scenarios, something I've, you know, used in the past many times before is this, is I'll say something like, you know, a hundred years ago at the age of six, you'd have been out in the field, working in the field, helping with the family or the farm or this, that, the other, you would have been out working too, would you have preferred that?

And I'll say, oh no, you know, and so, but once they change that meaning and they realize. That their parent was working and they didn't necessarily have a right to have all of their parents time where they're not neglected because of the situation. It becomes transformative. And that was the case in my own situation.

You know, when I was growing up, you know, I felt like my parents were gone a lot. And then I looked at it in a different way and I thought, you know, actually it gave me the ability to grow, to become my own self. And I saw it as a blessing. And I didn't feel unloved. So that's the reason that I want to pause today's session.

And it's this, it's that all of the time, people have these underlying wounds or hurts of the meaning that they've given something. You know, it's either there's an expectation of a parent to do something that they couldn't possibly do. You know, it's like if you expect your parent to fly or you expect your parent to be loving and super nurturing when it's just not even who they are, they just don't have it in them.

And so what happens is then a person will immediately feel extremely unloved and that it's not fair and resentful and upset when really ultimately. you know, creating love and connection in a different way. You know, creating bonding in a different way. Everybody has a different way of bonding or connecting.

And so point being is that I have seen people spend huge amounts of energy and hurt and upset because everything that they wanted was from a parent and they just couldn't have it. And it hurt them so badly to have it because they felt like they needed it. And I want to invite you to look at that.

Maybe it's with a parent, maybe it's a spouse or a friend or even a grown child. And I want to invite you to observe if there is an ongoing hurt that you're experiencing repeatedly, if so, could you. Change what it means to you that instead of meaning rejection or meaning hurt or meaning that you're unloved Could you observe and maybe it just means that this person doesn't have this ability It's just not who they are and from that place You can then accept them for who they are and also don't have to continue to feel the hurt And, as we had previously talked about earlier on with approval, is there a way that you can fill yourself up with this need?

Or if it's a different need, if it's a need for connection, is there another place in life, somebody else creating new relationships where you can fill yourself up in these new relationships in a positive way? Now, of course, keeping in mind that all change starts from within. So, if it's been a wound that you've had for a long period of time Making sure to genuinely let go of the hurt and transform that as well is key.

And so I want to invite you to take a look in your life and see if you have some type of hurt going on that you can begin to transform in your own life. All right. So Next week, we're going to continue with the second half of Charlene's session and take it to the next level, but just wanting to make sure not to overlook this important piece.

And, as always, I want to invite you to please do hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, and next time. because the more empowered and happy and healthy and loved that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do have a most wonderful, loving, harmonious rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

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As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu