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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love today's topic and our volunteer, just a beautiful, beautiful being and. You know, usually I try to give some type of intro that is able to sum up what we're going to chat about today.

And today that's feeling a little bit different. difficult to explain just because there are really important layers to today's episode that are profound and insightful. And I would say that in one way, we could say that we're talking about really being able to receive and feelings of guilt and getting rid of them and really feeling good and feeling good to receive and nourish.

at such a deeper level of understanding things that can block you, that you may not even realize are blocking you. And that is the exact thing that was going on with today's volunteer. I mean, she's just a beautiful, beautiful being. I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. And that's part of what's very insightful from today's episode is exactly that is that, you know, sometimes there are things that are so hard to see that feel impossible to see.

And that was something that came up today. So part of it was having a hard time seeing things. in a different way. Also, sometimes things that are accepted as everyday ways of being in our culture can actually impact your health. And that's another reason that makes it hard to really explain where we're going today, because that was something that came up.

You know, you see people doing things in our society on a regular basis and you kind of think to yourself, well, that's no big deal. And you don't realize that it can actually impact your health. So that's where we're going today. And by the way, our volunteer today, her name is Maria and she's beautiful and she's sweet and she wants so badly to heal.

And she's also stuck, you know, she's been very stuck with her health, with her life for the last 10 years. And she's just this beautiful being, you know, lives in New York, wants to live a full life. And yet, of course, her health is holding her back in a major way. And so, again, I would say so much more, but.

I guess the easiest way to also sum it up is that it has to do with being able to receive. It also has to do with the awareness that some common behaviors that you wouldn't ever think can impact your body more than you realize. And that's part of what I love so much about today's episode. And I want to unpack that really quickly because when you stop and think about it for a moment, illness has been increasing radically.

For many years, you know, for over 30 years, illness has been increasing exponentially and it's projected to continue to increase. So that also kind of tells you there are hidden things that people are doing and being and energies and all of that that can impact people that they don't realize. So again, that's where we're going today.

We are going to step in with our wonderful volunteer, Maria. Here we go.

Hello. Hello. Hi. Yeah. It's wonderful to connect with you. You as well. Why, thank you. And, uh, what can I do for you today? Well, I've been struggling with some health issues for more than a decade now, and I'm trying literally everything on the planet and still not better, or not where I should be. So I'm hoping you might have some insight on what could be blocking me at this point.

Absolutely. Absolutely. Um, let's go ahead and check in. All right. So it's been over a decade. Okay. And if I ask you what specifically is going on and I know that you need to fill out paperwork to come on and I actually just, um, have not read it. I like to come in and just, uh, feel right into it. So, uh, so if you want to let me know what, what is going on, that would be great.

Okay. So, my main issue is severe allergies and food sensitivities. I am sensitive to just about everything, environmental, um, products, things like that, but the food has gotten to the point of where I'm down to less than a handful, basically, of daily food. So, that's the main thing, but then there's like insomnia and a bunch of other things that go with this.

Okay. All right. So, um, about a handful of foods. And by the way, I have worked with, uh, several other people who've had, I've worked with people who are down to eight foods is all they could eat. And, uh, so I, I absolutely, I, I hear you. I get it. Not fun. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, how much you would say you have a, like an aversion of feeling, uh, selfish in life?

If I ask you, can you find that? A little. Okay. A little? Okay. And if I ask you, did you ever feel like you were, uh, accused of being selfish growing up? Um, probably. Okay. And why do you say probably? Well, I had. An older sister, but she was 10 years older. So I kind of grew up like an only child to some degree.

And I do think that maybe plays into a little being selfish. Um, I also never wanted to have children. So I question that there's a selfish aspect there. Okay. Um, maybe. And if I ask you, as far as, if I ask you, in some ways, if I ask you how much you identify as kind of being raised as an only child, what would you say?

I would say mostly, yeah. My sister had moved out when I was like seven. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And so, if I ask you how much there's a part of you that feels, I guess, um, spoiled in some ways, so to speak, what would you say? Yeah, I definitely felt like I was lucky, and I guess it's somewhat spoiled growing up.

Okay. And if, and if I ask you how much you feel like people look down on that, quote unquote, spoiled, what would you say? I don't normally think about that, but um, I guess would maybe cross my mind that, you know, I live alone and I didn't want children and so I am kind of focused on my own needs So people might look at it that way that I could be selfish.

Okay now imagine for a moment if Somebody was told they only focus on themselves. If I ask you, do they feel like it's a good thing or a bad thing? Bad. Okay. So, if I ask you, why is it bad? Um, because the majority of people have, kids and husbands and a lot of other Family that they're focused on not just themselves, which I guess I'm going against the norm By just having myself to be concerned about.

Okay, and if I ask you There's a feeling of feeling like it's it's bad to do that. Can you see that? Yeah, I can And if I ask you zero to ten, how much would you say it's bad to do that? Maybe, uh, eight. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, if I told you that somebody was going through the, through a phase of focusing on themselves because they felt like, They needed to do self work and there were things that they really wanted to just focus on themselves.

And that later in a year or two, or however long that they, then they planned on, you know, okay, moving into a relationship and, and, or being more connected with people and, and doing more, Relationship type stuff were connecting even more, but right now they really felt like they needed to work on some things and go, and go inside.

What would you say about that? I would say that's probably a healthy thing to do. Okay. You wouldn't say, well, that's bad at a level eight? No. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. So, if I ask you, do you ever want a relationship? Yes. Okay. But I have, I have put it aside being sick for the last couple of years.

Okay. And, uh, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. So there's a feeling of almost feeling like, um, even if I go into Like high school a feeling like it was it's almost like a feeling of feeling like it was Unfair that you get this and you get that because you're the only child etc. Etc Can you see that feeling or do you recall that feeling?

Um, I don't think I felt it that much but I maybe felt it a little bit from my sister later Yeah that I was the one that got everything and can you give me your sister's first initial? You Okay, so I see this pattern coming in, the feeling coming in at, bingo, at age like 12. Are you familiar with that? Um, nothing specific about that year for my sister.

Okay, so, but you recall, or if I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find the feeling of feeling like, uh, feeling guilty for receiving everything from, uh, if I ask you how much you can find that feeling from your sister, zero to ten, what's the level? Um, like a 6 or 7 maybe? Okay. So I would have said about a 12, but we'll go with your 6 or 7, but either way, you see, you see it also though, right?

A little bit, yeah. Okay. I think I felt it later in life, I wasn't maybe noticing it back then. I see it at age 12, I see it about a level 2, 15, I see it at about a level, about a 3, uh, in your 20s, I see it like age 22, I see it at about a level, about a level 8, So I see varying amounts, um, can you see that?

Yeah. Okay. If I ask you, have you listened to past episodes before? Yes. Mm hmm. And usually what I'll do is, oh, there are multiple pieces that I'll work with with somebody because there's multiple different things. Now with this, it's interesting because as we stepped into this, there's such a, there's a feeling of guilt for receiving.

That basically the way that your body's interpreting it is it's like you're only, you can only receive so much nourishment. If you get more than that, it's too much. And so what's happening is that your body doesn't want to allow you to eat food, if that makes sense. Okay. So out of curiosity, how would you feel right now if you were to just Easily receive.

What would that look like? Well, I feel like I deserve it. I would like it. Okay Okay, so notice for a moment, by the way, you said I deserve it now watch this for a moment So notice the part of you that's saying well I deserve it and you were kind of saying that it felt like you were saying it because you've been sick like I deserve it Like I've been through a lot.

I deserve it, right? Right. Okay. Now, if I told you I've been through a lot, so I deserve something, then what happens if I haven't been through a lot? I mean, everybody deserves the basics, like food, but, um, There you go.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, on the note of deserving all the time, people can get it linked up in their subconscious mind that if they're They deserve less, but if they're ill or they're injured, then they deserve more. And of course, then what also is taking place is a lot of times with the illness or injury, there's energy that's blocking good things coming in.

So it's just like a, a lot of mixed different emotions that get linked up. And that's a lot of what's going on here. There's some other pieces as well, because there's some action items coming up that we're going to talk about as well. But the points that you'll want to note from this part specifically are two things are first and foremost, that you do deserve a great life and not just the basic things.

So notice she says, well. Everybody deserves the basic things. No, like, you know, when you stop and think about it, we're here to create a wonderful life. We are creators, just like a bird doesn't deserve just the basics of food. You know, a bird deserves to fly or a fish deserves to be able to swim. We are creators and we deserve to be able to create an amazing life.

Now, there are some things that can interfere with those feelings of deserving, not just the inner part of receiving. So the inner part. is part of it, but our actions can impact that as well. And so that's actually where we're going as we step back in with beautiful Maria. Here we go.

All right. And there's another piece. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. If I asked you to notice any part of you that liked to make your sister jealous, if I ask you how much you can find that, what would you say? Um, so I feel like, I don't know that I, So anything other than, I know I was considered the favorite, but mostly because I chose the path of good things in life where she chose a different path and went a different way.

So I was always aware that I was doing the right things and therefore I deserved, I guess, more recognition. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to notice that for a moment. By the way, that feeling of, uh, feeling like the favorite, right? And there's a feeling of feeling like, how do I put it? If I ask you zero to 10, how much you can see that there's a part of you who's loved being the favorite?

Yeah, I'm sure I did like that to some degree. Maybe an 8. Mm hmm. And uh, and absolutely, and if I ask you to notice the part of you who liked that over her. In other words, kind of like this. So if I told you that I knew I'm the favorite in my family, and that I kind of like my sister to feel a bit jealous or not as good or kind of leave her out or I'm kind of a little bit unfair to her or unkind to her because of that.

I think what lately I've realized is she's had a really rough life. She's, I haven't given her credit for what she has done correctly. And I, I think I just look at the negative and that I didn't have the empathy I needed with her. Okay. And so can you see without the feeling, and I love your awareness, and can you see without the feelings of empathy that maybe You weren't as kind as you could have been to her.

Can you see that? That I can definitely see. Mm hmm. Can you see that in some ways you've even treated her, um, somewhat unkind? Can you see that? My thoughts? Not to her face, but yeah, definitely. My thoughts are speaking with my mom. I have been very negative and unkind at times. Okay, so to that point, if somebody was speaking poorly about you, would you rather them speak poorly about you to your face, or when you're not there?

When I'm not there. Okay. Now, if I ask you, let's say that somebody came in and started speaking poorly about you to your mom, and they turned your mom against you. How would that feel to you? Not good at all. Why not? Yeah, it's kind of unfair to influence her in that way. Ah, Okay. So, thinking about that for a moment, can you see that the more that you flourish, In life, if, kind of like this, let's say that the more I flourish in life, the more I'm going to speak poorly about Joe, whoever Joe is.

Mm hmm. Now, that means if I flourish more and more and more, and then I speak more and more poorly about Joe, uh, how fair is that to Joe? Not fair. Not fair. Right? So the thing of it is, is that, let's say the universe is going to lift somebody up, and the more, uh, the example I like to use is this. Let's say the universe gives somebody a hammer, so to speak, to, to build their dreams with.

And so somebody takes that dream and they build their dream life. Great thing, right? Mm hmm. Now, if somebody takes the hammer and they start breaking down everybody else's life, how much does the universe want to give to that person? that person a hammer. Does not want to give them a hammer. Not so much, right?

So, so instead, we want to do what? We want to disable the person. We want to weaken the person. We would want to say, no hammer for you, and deplete, deplete, deplete, So we know that you can do less, less damage. Does that make sense?

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just absolutely adore her and I love her self awareness and her self honesty. And also there's a vulnerability and I just, I just absolutely love her so much respect. And also you can see that there's some error ways of thinking going on.

And you know, what's interesting is that the brain can get sucked into a certain perspective, especially when there's a lot of emotion around something or hurt or upset, or just a lot of years of emotion around something, the brain can get stuck. And so part of that is what's going on here is there's some stuckness.

Now, another thing to point out is this, is that, you know, I mentioned the hammer. I use that all the time just because a lot of times people will have patterns where they might feel righteous over others with success or superior and they're looking down on others or whatever it is and it backfires. And sometimes it does so in a way where it impacts their health.

And other times I've seen people who are on their way to success doing great and then end up with, uh, frivolous lawsuit or a car accident or a Whatever it is like it can show up as a sabotage pattern in a variety of different ways and so the thing that you'll really want to note from this is that as you Step into your success or your happiness where you're thriving in life or whatever That is that a better life for you shouldn't mean less for anybody.

So you never want to have a success and happiness and that in some way that it attacks somebody, it hurts somebody, it harms somebody, it takes from somebody, you know, takes people's love or ideas even, I'll see that all the time, or. It hurts somebody or whatever that is. So when we're all flourishing in life, you know, if you picture the world and everybody's flourishing, it should feel harmonious and great.

And if one person is flourishing and it's somehow harming others. Breaking others down, you know, that's when the wheels tend to fall off. And again, sometimes it might show up in a health issue. Sometimes it shows up in a lawsuit or a behind the scenes, all sorts of things. And so that's what you want to know.

And if that is impacting you, you know, your health or any area of your life. You'll definitely want to change it. And by the way, if it's not impacting you, you'll still want to definitely change that before it does. So key, you know, just being an integrity, treating people great. So, so, so important. All right.

So that said, let's go ahead and step back in with beautiful Maria. Here we go.

So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. If I ask you what it would look like if you transformed these, if you don't feel bad, don't feel guilty, don't feel blah, blah, blah, don't be critical, none of that, don't waste time doing that. It's a waste of time and energy and unhelpful. And so I want to ask you just not to waste any time, please, doing any of that.

Very unhelpful. And instead, what would it look like to say, Oh, okay, well, that's interesting. Let me change that. What would that look like? Um, yeah, it would look better. It'd be more peaceful, I guess. Great. Great, great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay. The universe is interesting sometimes.

How the guidance unfolds. All right. So if you give somebody a hammer, and the more they have the hammer, the more they break everybody down. How much would you want that person to have a hammer? Would not want them to have it. Okay. So if you give somebody more and more energy and more and more food and more and more energy and more and more food, and that person is thriving more, but as a result, breaking others down, how much would you want to give them food and help them, energy and help them to thrive?

Would not. Would not. Okay. Great. Okay. And if I ask you, by the way, how much you would say that you've spoken negatively about your sister in the past week, zero to ten, what would you say? Probably a seven. I love your self awareness. I love your self awareness. You're beautiful. Very, very, very impressive.

Very impressive. That's exactly what I would have said. Yep. Love it. I love it. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, 0 to 10, how excited you are to change this, what would you say? I would say it's about an 8. Great. I like that. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

So out of curiosity, if I ask you if you were going to turn this around, if you were going to really turn this around. And not speak poorly about your sister anymore, at all. Zero. Zero. And actually start undoing, and, and having more compassion, and not speaking poorly, and really, really shifting this. If I ask you, do you feel like you could do that?

I know I could try. Um, with some of the decisions she makes, it is difficult, but I do want to try, for sure. Okay. And make an effort. Okay. Okay. If I ask you, for example, what is a decision that she might make? Go ahead. So for instance, this week, um, the reason I was critical of her was she eats fast food, um, almost every day and takes her kids for fast food every day, which being under the health journey I'm under, it's not It's very hard for me to hear that, but then she got food poisoning and I don't feel the empathy as much as I feel like, well, if you cooked more and had healthy food, maybe you wouldn't be going through that.

So I realized where I have a question for you. Yeah. Now, ready? Okay, so I'm about to flip this upside down. You ready? Yeah. How much do you eat healthy foods? 100%. Okay, so you're laughing at her, saying her decisions are poor, meanwhile, she's healthier than you and eat better. And so I have a question and I, so she could possibly turn around and say, here's my sister.

She's eating all these healthy foods. And yet she's speaking so much poison that she's not even healthy at all. But she thinks she's doing the right thing. And here I am 10 times healthier than she is living life with kids and married and all these things. And she's laughing at me. And I'm the one with the better results.

So I have a question. In this situation, whose outcome is better right now? Yeah, hers is a little bit better than mine. So wait, so I have a question. So who is making the better decisions? I still make better decisions. Oh, wait a second. My thoughts might be more negative. I would say she's making the better decision and it's the In that, she's not choosing to eat, to, to be in such a negative mindset.

Right. So, and I would say decisions, I'm a results person. I'm like, where are the results? So I would say, who has a better results? Yeah. I guess it's her in that case. Okay. So notice for a moment, you're laughing and criticizing her decisions. And, her outcome's better than yours, and of course I'm not saying to eat fast food every day.

I'm just saying, mindset affects your health even more, I mean I can't tell you how many times that I've seen people who are eating the perfect diet and this, I mean, even if you look at Steve Jobs, founder of Apple, fruititarian, vegetarian, vegan, you know, all these things, and he, it didn't stop him from getting sick, and it didn't heal him.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And he wasn't the nicest person, so yeah. Hmm. So, notice for a moment, you're saying, oh my god, she makes these horrible decisions and I've got to laugh at her, but it's almost like if somebody is banging their head on the wall at the same time, like, you're doing the very thing that's creating the very problem meanwhile laughing at her.

Yeah. Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And of course, the last thing I want to do is make you feel bad. That's not it at all. But notice for a moment, you said it's hard to not criticize her and it's hard to not speak poorly about her when she's making such poor decisions. And yet my hope is that it becomes a lot easier to not criticize her when you start to look at things in a different way.

That make sense? Yeah.

All right. So let's go ahead and actually pause the session right here, because I really want to break this down because there are so many key insights right here. You know, first and foremost, I just have to acknowledge her self awareness, her self honesty, because she sees these patterns. She knows that she's giving her sister, you know, she's criticizing her decisions.

She knows she's doing it and she's honest about that and she's aware of it. And I just love that. Now, what's interesting is this. Is that as you can tell, she's also kind of starting to see that her perspective in this situation wasn't entirely correct. And I love that also, and I want to unpack that because that is something that happens all of the time.

is if you think about it any argument that people have a lot of times The reason that they're having an argument is because two people are seeing very different perspectives So even if you think about this very moment where I'm pointing out a completely different perspective To Maria and she's starting to see it But part of the awareness here is the very fact that that our minds can get stuck into a perspective that we think is correct, that we're holding on to, and that also controls or influences our actions.

And in this case, when you stop and think about it, of course, these actions are then affecting her health. So her perspective is then influencing her actions. So she even said, you know, hard not to criticize her when I see her continuously making poor decisions. And so the goal is, of course, to help her see that the criticism itself is a poor decision.

So again, just a complete change in awareness. And of course, part of the reason that I'm pushing her on this awareness is because for her to be able to heal herself, she's got to change this perspective to be able to operate from a different place. And that's something that's key as well because if she still has this negativity inside of her, that doesn't really help to make the genuine transformation that's required to heal your body.

So again, I just love her self awareness and I also love, it's easy to see the depth here, the perspective. And so that's the reason I want to pause today's episode is I want to invite you to do two things. I want to invite you to look at number one, first and foremost, if maybe in your life, Maybe you've been speaking critically about somebody or maybe even just thinking critically about somebody that you could let that go and just let them be themselves.

So that's number one. And number two, thinking about perspective. Maybe there's an argument that you've had or that you've been in where you've really, really stuck to your side and your beliefs. And maybe it's not right. Maybe there's another perspective, or at least, Maybe you could respect that other person's perspective, even if you don't agree with it, because that's the other reality is that everybody has different passions in life and perspectives and preferences, and we're not all here.

to want, do, and be, and see things in the same way. And that's beautiful. And so I want to invite you to have that open mind that maybe there's somebody in your life that you've had a disagreement where instead of needing to be right or they need to be right, maybe you can both be right. You know, even if you think about it in this situation with Maria, is there a part of her That is absolutely right, that it's not healthy to eat fast food all of the time.

Absolutely, it's not healthy to eat fast food all of the time. So, that part is right, but also the part of her that's critical or speaking poorly is not right. And so a lot of times that's what can happen with perspectives is that there can be a part of something that is right. So we can look at Maria and say, look, there's a part of that that is right.

And there's a part of that that is definitely not right and not serving you. And so if we look at any relationship like that, there's likely disagreements that you've had where there's been part of your perspective that was spot on. And another part that maybe wasn't. fully aware of maybe what somebody else was thinking or being and doing.

And so either way, those are the takeaways that I want to invite you to take from today is I want to invite you to look at your actions and make sure they're great. Look at your perspective. See if there's a way that you can really embody this awareness in your life. And next week we're going to go ahead and finish with the second half of today's episode because on this episode I continued to work with Maria, and I just, again, I just love her self awareness, love her self honesty, and The next episode continued to reveal even more insights.

And so we'll go ahead and unpack all of that next week. But for now, I want to invite you to bring this awareness into your life. And also I'm going to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy and healthy and empowered that every single person is.

in this world, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible, loving, fabulous rest of your day. And I look forward to catching you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu