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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here. Continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love today's episode for so many reasons. It is really insightful as far as healing and also life transformation and also the reason that creating real change.

can feel so hard. And the reason you can get stuck, because one of the things that you'll be able to see from today's episode is how one pattern can lead to stuckness, how it can lead to several different patterns that make you feel like it's impossible to really change. And you're trying 500 different ways to change and it's not working.

And so we'll really see that with clarity from today's episode. So that is huge. And another thing that you'll see is. the importance of being willing to be nice and kind and loving and supportive towards yourself. And I have to say, you know, on my own healing journey, I remember getting to a point where I really got it, that I had to be nice to myself and kind to myself and lift myself.

And you can see that from today's episode is that you really need to make that change. Because what can happen is that if you're being hard on yourself, it just keeps you stuck in this spiral where you can't make the changes that you're really wanting in life. And so that's where we're going as we dive in.

Now, our volunteer, her name is Linda, and she's And she's got a great sense of humor. We're just, we laughed several times through the session. It's just, it's really sweet and precious. And if you recall, we started Linda's session on last week's episode, and there was just so many great insights from her session that I split the session in two.

And we listened to the first half. of the session last week. And today is the second half of that same session. And if you recall last week, we had started in a place where she had been beating herself up so bad that she wasn't where she wanted to be. You know, she felt like she was 60 and she felt like she looked 80 and she felt like her life had passed her by and she wasn't where she wanted to be.

And there were all of these feelings of feeling critical of self. And I had asked her. If everything actually started getting better today, if life started getting better, if she really started stepping into the things that she wanted in life today, could she let that past go and really start enjoying today?

Enjoying what was coming in, enjoying the transformation and the manifestation. If everything started going like that today and moving forward, would she be able to let it go and how would she really feel? And that's where we left off. So that's what we're going to dive into is exactly that. How would she really feel?

Would she be able to let go of the past if everything was starting to change? today.

That was the past and I have a future to look forward to. Great. And if you knew right now that you could do that, would you be willing to? Absolutely. Okay. So first step though, is you would need to stop beating yourself up and start loving yourself. Would you be willing to do that? Absolutely. Are you sure?

I'm sure. Great. So imagine for a moment, if you have a plant, And you really want it to grow tall and flourish. And so every day you get mad at it and you kick it every day. And, but you want it to flourish and it's not flourishing. So you kick it a few more times to hope that it will hurry up and flourish.

How soon till you feel like that plant is just going to flourish and grow. Yeah, not well, not well. So if every day. You give that plant love and nurture and love and nurture. How's it going to do? Fantastic. Fantastic, right? And put some really great positive energy and it's like miracle grow, right? Right.

Manure at its best. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And even thinking about a different type of miracle grow, a type of energy, a type of being kind and loving to self, fueling yourself with where you want to go and who you want to be and how you want to feel. Now, I got to ask you, if I, if I ask you today, what you would like your life to look like moving forward, are you clear on that?

Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you to give me part of that vision, what would you say a part of that vision is? Living in joy, living from my heart, enjoying all my animals and the people around me. Okay. And if I ask you why you fear that vision, why would you say you fear it?

Uh, fear of failure, I think.

So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just absolutely love her self awareness, her self honesty, just beautiful. And a quick note on the feeling of fear of failure. You know, a lot of times when people fear failure, It's because they're concerned that other people will criticize them.

Like, what if I fail? Will people laugh? Will people criticize? And what happens, of course, is there is a loop, a cycle, if you will, because a lot of times what will happen is people are critical of themselves and then they expect that others are going to criticize them. Then they're afraid to do much because then they're expecting the criticism and then they're critical of self and it becomes this spiral.

And so that said, as I'm working with. Our beautiful volunteer, Linda, you'll notice that there's a playfulness and even planting seeds, if you will, you know, giving analogies of plants or silly examples throughout. And the reason being is because I want to make sure that there's a playfulness and a silliness.

But also that we're working on creating real change. And so the things that you'll want to note from this is as you're working with self, being willing to be silly, to be ridiculous, to be playful, to laugh and to not be self critical. And also that if you have a feeling of fear of failure or fear of judgment, et cetera, et cetera, that it also means that you'll want to be kinder and less judging towards yourself.

because a lot of times that's the very place that it stems from, is your own feelings of self criticism or insecurity. All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Linda. Here we go.

And I want you to think about your fear of failure. Yeah. It's more of a fear of judgment, I think. Bingo. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice what happens is this, is that when you're very critical of self, you then expect that others are going to judge you, right?

Right. So then you're critical of self, and then you try to do things, but then you're critical of self. So then you definitely expect that other people are going to criticize you too. So you're concerned about judgment and this, that, the other. Yeah. What if people didn't judge you? What if they didn't judge you at all?

Yeah, what a concept, huh? What if they didn't care enough to judge? Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, but actually, what if they do care? What if they actually care about you a lot? And they accept you as you are? That's lovely. Okay, great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And now I want you to notice the voice in your head that feels like everybody's always criticizing you.

Can you see that? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Is that true? No. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to think about this whole conspiracy theory that's going on in your head.

And I'm going to ask you to breathe. Again, I love your sense of humor. You have a beautiful sense of humor and I'm going to ask you to breathe. And what if there was no conspiracy theory that people were going to judge you? What if that wasn't even happening at all?

Oh dear. I'm going to think about it all day.

So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. What would you think about all day without that whole conspiracy theory going on? The beautiful nature around me, how thankful I am for all the animals. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. If I ask you how connected to people around you, you feel zero to 10, what's your level?

Two. If I ask you how disconnected from everybody you feel, what would you say? Nine. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to assume this conspiracy theory of criticism is not helping.

So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And what if actually people like you? What if they like you more than you realize? And what if you knew that you would need to connect with them even more and you could get good at it? Well, what would that look like?

Like a form of abundance. Great. So like a form of abundance. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And you do realize you'd have to get rid of this conspiracy theory that everybody is judging and criticizing you, right? Yeah. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And what happened if you had a feeling and an awareness that people actually really, really do like you, and that you're likable, and that you're lovely?

It would give me a sense of community. Ah, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. All

right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, in the very beginning, I mentioned that we could see from this session, how one pattern could then spiral into another and another and another, which ultimately can keep you very stuck. Now what's happening here is we can see that Linda has a pattern of feeling very self critical.

and also a feeling criticized by others. In which case, she's also developed a pattern of feeling like she doesn't want others to care. Now, if we unpack this for a moment, imagine for a moment somebody vacillating between feeling like others are going to be critical and wanting them to not care. Notice what the issue is with this.

Is that it never gets to transformation. What if people are loving and caring and kind in a positive way? And that's what you want to note is that we can have one pattern and vacillate between two not great options, you know? Oh, I feel criticized. Oh, I just wish people didn't care. Instead of making a real transformation that says, what if everybody was loving?

Because as you know, our thoughts help create our lives. So you don't want either people feeling critical or not caring. But what if everybody was loving and caring and sweet and life felt really supported? And so notice a real, genuine, sweet transformation is where you'll really want to go in transforming your health.

And so that's where we're headed as we dive back in with beautiful Linda. Here we go.

Now, I want you to think about that plant that we started talking about in the beginning, right? Plants do really, really great without the sun, right? So much. Okay. So we as human beings, we need food, we need water, and we need love also. Right. Right. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to think about what it would feel like if you were really feeling more and more love in your life, if you were genuinely really feeling that, What would that feel like?

Warm and cozy, like standing out in the sun. Yep. Now this is the thing. Can you see the part of you that kind of doesn't like people? Yeah. Mm hmm. If I ask you zero to ten, what level would you say? Uh, seven. Remember, I can see four or five. Okay, well, maybe seven.

Okay, we'll go. We'll go with your seven. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. I'm at a 10. Okay. Now we're more in the ballpark of what I was.

All right, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to think about if somebody came here and they just didn't like food. They did not like food at a level 10. How do you think that would go for their health? Be good for fasting. Depends on how many, 10 year fast, 30 year fast, I mean, there might be a little bit of an issue there.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Uh, there's a part of you that's, that feels like people are mean. Can you see that? Yeah. And if I ask you, when did you learn that people are mean? When I was young. That's what I see about age. About age four. Yeah. Okay. So what I tell people is I always say when you have patterns like that, keep it for the entire lifetime.

Wait, wait, wait. All right. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Okay. And this is the thing, right? So I want you to notice we're being a bit playful and silly, right? So notice for a moment, how you can be playful and silly with yourself and you can see conspiracy theories in your mind and you can see things in your mind and you can be kind and silly and playful and laugh that something's there and then say, okay, let's change this.

Right? Right. So we don't have to beat self up or be mean to self or berate self or judge self or blah, blah, blah, all of those things. We could actually just laugh and say, oh my gosh, brain, that is silly. Let's rewire that. Right? Right. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and notice no self beating required.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Don't kick the plant or the dog or the person, right? So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to notice That, yeah, there's that pattern of feeling like people are mean since childhood, right? Right. Now, by this point in life, you know that there's patterns and people attract patterns and we feel the same and attract more and more and more of the same, right?

Right. Totally get that. Okay. So how much longer do you want to keep this pattern? I don't. Oh, I mean like 10 more years, 15, what do you think? No. I'm done. Great. I'm sorry. Great. Totally. Right? So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her self awareness, her self honesty, her sense of humor. She's just beautiful. And as I mentioned in the very beginning of this episode, you can see how one pattern can get stuck to another, to another that can keep you very stuck in life.

Because as we can see from this pattern of feeling criticized and self critical, then there becomes a pattern of feeling like you don't like people, which who would blame somebody for not liking people if you have a pattern of self criticism? of feeling criticized, of course. Then you would start to feel like inside, Oh, I just don't like people, this is painful.

That gets linked up all of the time in a variety of different ways, meaning that people will have patterns that then shape perspective in life that then only further keeps them stuck. And so, What you'll want to notice, as we can see again, is this, the reason that a pattern can keep you very, very stuck in life and that to really be able to heal yourself and change your life, you really got to have genuine change on what is real.

and genuinely feel differently. So we can see that from this awareness and it's so powerful that that genuine change is key to making the change in your life. All right. So with that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Beautiful Linda. Here we go.

But we won't say that you're tired. We don't want to reinforce that. Cause then, then it becomes a whole fatigue thing too. So I'm going to ask you. No, I'm excited to let it go. I like that. Great wording. Great wording. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. All right. And so if I ask you, by the way, can you see the part of you that's been pretty angry also with people and Maybe when you've gotten hurt, um, maybe hasn't responded so well with people.

Can you see that? Yes, I can. So can you see there's some things to clean up on your side of the street? Absolutely. And uh, so if I ask you, would you be willing to clean up your side of the street? Absolutely. And so if I ask you in the past, how much you would say when you've gotten angry, you maybe took it out on people a bit, what would you say?

Well, I can think of one person in particular. Yeah, we're off the scale. Okay. And, uh, if I ask you, could you trust yourself not to do that again and to, uh, to be willing to change that? Yes. Great. And do you think you should A, beat yourself up about it from the past or B, simply change it and do better moving forward?

Um, change it and move forward. Great. Change it and move forward. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you your level in your head, zero to 10, what's your level? Zero. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Who did that? You did. No, no, no, no, no, my dear. You showed me how. You showed me that the shortest distance between two points is a straight line and I've been hiking the switchback.

Okay. And, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, but. So if we put it a different way, What we did is we just worked very kindly and gently with self to work with self in a different way. Yes, it's a completely new concept for me. Yeah. Yeah. So we were being silly and playful and saying, Oh, okay, well, let's just change it.

Oh, no criticism required. No kicking self required. Right. And so that was one that, so there's, so there's multiple pieces in here. And so what I want to invite you to do is kindly and lovingly. So number one thing. the tone with self. So notice the tone with self is, is playful and kind and okay, let's change.

And it's not critical. It's not mean it's just kind, right? Right. And so kindness towards self bingo is huge. And then also even in the past, the, the, so the feeling of feeling willing to change towards people and being willing to start moving forward on a different foot with people is important. Does that make sense?

Yes. Beautiful. And if I ask you, embodying these changes about having your vision moving forward, not berating yourself, not regretting the past, blah, blah, blah, blah, but the, but instead deciding that the best is yet to come and to embody it, to make it that, and to get rid of the conspiracy theory. And so, okay, I'm free to live and be and really start creating a kindness with people.

So there's multiple pieces in here. If I ask you, can you embody that? Can you do that? Yes. Yes. So willing to do that. Beautiful. Beautiful. Universe says, uh, uh, you're smart. You're smart. You have so many pieces. Um, and this key piece. So it kind of, it sets you in the right direction. So absolutely beautiful, great, great job with your energy.

And this is the thing. Can you see the part of you that has wanted to work on yourself with 500 different things? Can you see that? Oh yeah. And where you said straight forward, like straight, straight there, um, uh, it says not to overwhelm self also. So getting this in embodying the change. and uh, and acknowledging self.

Can you do that? Yes. Beautiful. It has been so wonderful connecting with you. Lovely connecting with you. Thank you. You're, you're a brilliant light for humanity. You're so sweet. Thank you. My heart receives that and uh, you're absolutely beautiful and I love this change for you. These changes and um, and really remembering real, real change, embracing and getting in.

Okay. All right. You're welcome. Thank you so much. You're welcome. Bye.

All right. So let's go ahead and unpack this even more. And I have to say, I just love this woman. I mean, what a sweetheart, great sense of humor, great self awareness, great self honesty, just love her. And also we can see the stockness and the hurt. Most importantly, the genuine transformation that it takes to really heal yourself and change your life and the gift in it.

You know, if you think about somebody in this place, going from a place of feeling like I don't like people and feeling really hurt and criticized and fear of failure and just beating herself up to instead genuinely transforming her life, to feel loved, to change her patterns with people, to feel good in it, to want love and connection with people, to see.

great things in people to make that genuine change. There's a huge gift. And that's, again, what I love so much about healing the self is when you really look at genuine healing, there is a life changing gift in it. And so that's what I want to invite you to look at from today's episode are two things is number one, is there a place where your patterns maybe have changed kept you stuck in that maybe you've had a pattern of hurt or upset or rejection or abandonment or whatever it is that has made you start to feel cynical or not like people in one way or another.

And if so, would you be willing to start changing that so you could attract and connect with people in a different way? So that's number one, is just noticing, is that a pattern? All right. So number two is getting clarity as you change your health. What is the gift in life for you? You know, how can you change this and turn it into a life changing gift?

Because the more we can see the clarity of the gift and the transformation. They're more that we're willing to feel driven and motivated to really make that change. And so I want to invite you to look at that. What is that in your life? And are you willing to start stepping into that gift to embrace genuine change, to help you heal yourself and change your life?

Genuinely. All right. So that said, wanting to invite you to look at these in your own life. And of course, I want to ask you to please make a point to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy and healthy that every single person is in our world, The better this world is for all of us.

And so please do make a point to hit the share button. And also please do make a point to have a most wonderful, loving and self loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu