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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love. that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love our volunteer today. And our episode is just very insightful about getting unstuck, about being stuck, about real transformation and about really being real with what's real.

And just on so many levels, I love the episode and I love our volunteer. She's just such a sweetheart. You can. feel her heart. It's just, she's beautiful and sweet and wonderful. And also has pain going on, you know, not only physical pain, but also emotional pain going on. And a lot of times pain can show up as guilt or criticism towards self or being hard on self or pride.

self punishment or, you know, just getting stuck in cycles. And that's, what's so interesting about our minds and emotional patterns and that feeling of feeling stuck. Because so many times people do get stuck and they don't realize it, or they can't see their way out of it. And that's another thing that I really love about today's episode is it gives you a bigger picture of what it looks like to be stuck in patterns where you're stuck in a cycle and you just can't get out.

But once you have that awareness, that insight, you can start to really make a change and it's liberating. So I absolutely love that. And let's go ahead and step in with our beautiful volunteer. Her name is Madalina and she's just, again, she just emanates heart. She's just so sweet and so wonderful. And you'll notice.

It's just the amount of love that she has for her kids and her family and you just, it's really sweet and. There's also some changes that need to be made. So that said, let's go ahead and step in with beautiful Madalina. Here we go.

Hello. Hi. It is wonderful to connect with you, beautiful. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you very much. And it's also a pleasure to connect with you. And also I want to thank you for your time, for having me here and for giving me this opportunity. It's, Amazing. I've been listening for, uh, for your podcast for about a month, I think.

And it's, actually, I don't have words to, to, to explain the, I don't know what happened to me and how I've Changed a little bit and how I changed my setup and that I want to learn more and that I want to experience more beauty. And it's amazing. It's amazing. And actually I was, uh, uh, looking, uh, when I first set up the meeting, the podcast, I said there that I, I'm experiencing a pain in my breast, in my head, in my neck.

And I don't know, something else. And within a month, few of them, or actually more of them disappeared, but I'm experiencing something new now. So it's, it's a challenge. It's a mix. It's, uh, it's amazing. It's amazing. And. It's, it's something nice. It's, I don't know. I don't know. I love that. I love it. I love your heart.

You're absolutely beautiful. And, and I love you. You're just, yeah, you're beautiful and it's wonderful to connect with you. And I love that you're listening and you're following through and you're feeling it and you're embodying it. And it just touches my heart in the biggest, biggest way. So I love that.

And it makes, it's so beautiful. It's the reason that I do what I do. So thank you. And I love that. And, um, and you're just beautiful. And so, um, let's start. Thank you so much. Thank you. You're just, oh, you're amazing. So, uh, if I ask you, what can I do to help you today then? Well, today, uh, so for, for about, let's say three years, I, I don't know if I can say it, struggle with, uh, hypothyroidism.

But I have this. Okay. And I think within last three months, four months, uh, I started having some something. I don't want to say pain in any discomfort in my stomach. The doctor told me to You said, I'm sorry, the last three or four months you've been having pain and discomfort in your stomach. In a stomach, yeah.

And it's a discomfort, something like this. But anyway, it comes and goes and what, um, I think or, or I feel that the pain is starting from stomach, it goes to my throat. I know that I have a lot of things stuck in my throat. It goes up to the, um, to the neck. It goes to my mandibula. Sometimes it's up in my head, and sometimes it's going down to my hands and in my fingers.

Some days I have the pain in my, um, big finger and the next to it, and Some days, as now, for example, I have a discomfort in the other three fingers. Also, what I have realized I had it for a long time. I didn't realize it, but my skin is very thin. And I think also within the last three or four months, my skin is that thing that is starting to bleed.

You said your skin is, is what it's a thin, very thin. Okay. So, and it's starting to bleed. Yes. Okay. I think I have a connection there, but I don't know how to, to, to, to manage that thing. Okay. All right. So, um, this is, this is, wait, wait, wait, this is related to my body. And also, um, there are a lot of feelings.

of emotional feelings. And these are, um, connected, I think, to my kids. Okay. And so give me one second. Um, and if I ask you right now, what level of pain? I know you mentioned that you're experiencing pain in your fingers right now. Uh, where else are you experiencing the pain right now and what level? Uh, so in the finger, I would say, One, it's my little finger.

It's one. But now, now I experience in my throat, because you know, uh, I have days when I'm actually, uh, I think for about five days, I had my first day without no pain, but it's something very tricky because if I had a, uh, uh, a thought or something which triggers me, It started to, to, to have some pain somewhere in the, in the body.

And some, some days it's in my head. Some days are the pain is in my hands. Some days is in my kidneys. Um, it's so I cannot say, um, I'm, I'm okay now I'm healed or I'm, I know that I'm a good on a good path, but I know that might come some triggers. And I don't know how to handle them. I know that I need to connect with them.

I know they are there. I know it comes and goes. And, but I don't know which is the, the main cause. Okay. And so if I ask you the level in your throat, zero to 10, what's your level in your throat? Oh, seven. So ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment, how many kids do you have?

Two. Okay, so ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, uh, zero to ten, if I ask you how much you can find the feeling of feeling unloved, what would you say? Oh, five or six, let's say five. And so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, why do you feel unloved? What would you say? I have no idea.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. I love her heart. Just impressive. Just beautiful. And also, Noticing this feeling of unloved that she's experiencing, unfortunately, and doesn't even know why it's there.

And that's the part that I want to highlight is all of the time I've worked with people who have a particular emotion that they're experiencing that's not quote unquote valid. Like, you know, they don't know why it's even there, but they feel it. And so I love her self awareness. And that is the part that I want to highlight is just that if you do have an emotion that is there, that doesn't make sense.

But. You're feeling it, it can and does still affect your health, your happiness, your life, what you're attracting and manifesting in your world. And so even in your life, if you notice something like that, you'll definitely want to shift it. Now in her life, there is actually a reason that this is occurring, which you'll see coming up.

And so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful. Madalina, here we go.

So I'm gonna ask 'cause I wanna, perhaps because I wanna share my experiences because I want to them to understand me, to see me, to see that I want to, I want to, to, to, to give them, to do good things, to do good things. How old are they, by the way? It's 12 and 6. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And by the way, how close are you with their father? Well, I think we are close. I think we started to connect more. I know for sure that I felt that he didn't understood me. He's, he's, he's, he, and, and still he doesn't understand me. But on the other hand. He has his wisdom, he has his experiences. Um, and I learned at some point, at some point by listening to one of your podcasts, it was something like, first of all, in order to understand you, try to understand him.

And when I did this. it opened a way, a path between us. So I know that not everything is exactly what I wanted. I want to be. He has also his opinion and I love him very much. But you don't always like his opinion. Yes. And he doesn't like my opinion. And he always tells me that I don't have experience in life.

And he's telling me that I'm stupid. I'm stuck and I don't have an open mind. And from this are starting, uh, large things of, Oh my God, what if it's true? What if I'm not an open mind, but I do want to do good things in life. So wait a sec. So wait a sec. Wait a sec. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I want you to notice for a moment that exact feeling, the feeling that you are shut down feeling. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment. Do you feel like you have an open mind? Oh, yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Wait, wait, wait. You got to come with me.

You got to come with me. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. There is a feeling of feeling like, uh, it's like a feeling of feeling, um, of like unworthy of love. Are you familiar with that feeling? Yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to take in the feeling, I'm going to ask you to take in the feeling of what that feels like.

And by the way, if I told you that there are people in our world who are unworthy of love, what if I said people are unworthy of food? Would you say that there are people who are unworthy of food, or do you think everybody deserves food? Everybody deserves everything. Okay, so if I say, well, there are people who are unworthy of water, would you say that that's true?

No. No, okay. So, knowing that we also need love, If I ask you, would you say there's people who are unworthy of love? No. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to take in the awareness that it's impossible for you to be unworthy of love. And I'm going to ask you to take in the feeling that, of course, you're worthy of love.

And I'm going to ask you to take the feeling in, of course, you're worthy of love. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And out of curiosity, if I ask you, can you bring the feeling up, a feeling more and more and more like you're worthy of love, taking that feeling in. And out of curiosity, do you love your kids?

Very much. Very much. Right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And are you worthy and good enough for love in return? Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I'm gonna ask you to take that feeling in that you're worthy of love. You're absolutely worthy of love. Great. And if I ask you to notice for a moment, the level in your throat, zero to ten, what's your level?

Five. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you how often you find yourself, uh, feeling guilty as a parent, what would you say? Daily. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. My pain is up now. Yep. Good awareness. I love your awareness. So you want to go the other way?

We'll bring it down. Mm hmm. So here we go. So I'm asking you to breathe. Notice what's your level of pain? Zero to ten. In my throat, six, five, six. Five, six. And where else did your pain go up? In my head. What's your level in your head? No, it's not that much, but it is something like a sensitivity, I would say.

Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, why are you criticizing yourself so much regarding your kids? Um, because, um, I push my son very much. And I'm aware of this because I want him to experience something new and I don't want him to get stuck. He's, I would say, addicted to, uh, computer games and related to my daughter.

Uh, it's, um, because he has, she has some issues, health issues. She has to, um, She was for, I think, an year, he was, every month she was catching the flu, and I started to switch a month ago, to switch, and I told her, come on, the kids are outside playing, we are at home. We have to go and change and, and it really works.

It really works. But, but now it's something that I'm feeling, I'm punishing myself because she has to, she has some problems with her teeth and the dentist has to take out her teeth and I know she's scared. I immobilized her. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice. If I told you that there was another kid who has to get four teeth removed, right? Yes. Is that, is that horrible or is it going to be okay? For them, I would say it's going to be okay. Yep, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. For them, it's going to be okay, right?

Yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to calm your nervous system. So just for a moment, just relax.

Thank you. You're welcome. You're welcome. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Okay, and I'm gonna ask you to breathe and just take take a moment and I'm gonna ask you to breathe And if I ask you honestly, is she gonna be okay getting four teeth removed? What would you say? Well, uh This is a mix because probably the body will be okay But I don't know how the soul will react so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe And I'm going to ask you just for a moment, other kids, would you say other kids before have had teeth removed?

Yes. And they're okay? Yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her level of care for her kids and for her daughter and all of that really sweet, intimate care. And I want to make a quick note here with children and their health issues that you want to make sure that you're being very, very careful not to give your kids a lot of attention for health issues or to create a lot of emotion around it.

Because if you do, chances are it can become a traumatic event, or it can become a very stuck event, or even we've all heard before, you know, if a kid doesn't get better, it positive attention, they'll get negative attention, in which case there can be part of them that feels a feeling of feeling special or connection for having illness.

And that can get stuck in their mind and make their mind want to manifest more and more illness. And so you really want to be very careful about that. And by the way, on this note, there is something that I see all of the time that I really want to bring to your attention. And it's this, I work with kids who've had all kinds of health issues.

And more and more in our culture, kids are getting rewarded for going to the doctor. Maybe they get a sticker or a prize or a special treat or taken somewhere special or all of the time I see that. And you really won't want to link up reward with health issues because I see people do it and then it creates a problem.

And so I've asked people literally before where their kids were going to the doctor and then they get this sticker and they get this toy and they get to go somewhere fun. And I've asked them, please don't do that. Let's get your kid's mind to heal themselves. All of that. So if you are doing that in your life, I strongly recommend not doing that.

If you want to do something sweet and wonderful for your kids and get them stickers and take them somewhere wonderful, that is fantastic. Yes. How wonderful. But I would really, really encourage you not to link it up with anything health issue, health related. It's just not a good link that you want to put in their mind.

So I just really wanted to emphasize that. It just doesn't go well. It's not a great thing. And I, it's something in our culture that's happening more and more and you might. And you might think to yourself, you might think, well, everybody does that and everybody's doing it more and more. But remember, when we stop and look at it, something like 70 percent of the population is some type of prescription or medication or this, that, the other, depending upon what the current statistics are.

But let's be honest, there's a growing number of children who are sick. There are a growing number of adults who are sick and chronic illness and everything. And so my point being is that. Really, a lot of the things that we're doing in our culture are reinforcing illness in a big way, and people don't realize it.

So just wanted to bring this to your attention, and that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with our beautiful volunteer, Madalina. Here we go.

And if I told you that everything was going to be okay, was all going to be okay, how would you feel right now? 50 percent confident it will be okay 50 percent something is pushing me back. How do you know? Yep, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, are you using your brain on purpose in a way to focus towards what it is that you want?

Or are you getting caught up in fear and beating yourself up and worrying about every, every, everything? What would you say you're doing at this moment? I, I'm in that fear and beating and punishing. Yep. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I'm gonna ask you, number one, if I'm gonna ask you to stop punishing yourself.

Okay? So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. It's in my stomach now. I love your awareness. You see it moving around right? Yes. I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna say again, could you stop punishing yourself? I have to. I would agree. I would absolutely think that's a very wise, very wise thing to do. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And by the way, if I told you, as you, as your kids grow up, it is kinda like this. Would you say that some of the things that you do are kind of like your mom and your dad? Yes. Yes. Now, if I told you that your kids are going to want to grow up and they're going to be like you, right? No. Okay, so wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to think your immediate response was no, right? But what if your immediate response was that you get to be kind and nourishing to you and that you want to be an amazing role model and so it makes you want to be your best self and be loving and kind to you.

What would that look like? This is exactly what I want to be. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to think about you being a wonderful, wonderful role model. That you're not in fear, you're not all stressed out. You're actually really, really, really loving and kind towards yourself.

You're not beating yourself up and you feel like, of course you deserve love. Of course you deserve love. You're not beating yourself up at all. If I ask you how often, sometimes you would say that maybe you might lose your temper a bit with your kids. What would you say? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

Yes. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. So, either now, do you think you should beat yourself up, or do you think you should just change it? Change it. That's a much better plan. I like it. Yes. Very, very right. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice how long you've been beating yourself up for it.

Right? Hmm. Has it worked? And I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, out of curiosity, if somebody's really, really stressed out, how reactive are they? Very. Very right. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now I want you to notice you're caught in a cycle. You're in a cycle where you're, yep, yep.

So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. So you're in this cycle of feeling stressed. And then what happens is you get upset with your kids. Then you feel bad. Then you punish yourself. Then you go back and do the cycle all over again, where then you're worried, you're punishing yourself, then you're feeling bad, then you're feeling not good, then you get upset.

Can you see the cycle? Yes, yes. Yep, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Now you could either beat yourself up or you could just change it. I mean, you could beat yourself up or you could just change it. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Enough. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Great. I'm going to ask you if you're willing to stop beating yourself up.

What would you say? Definitely. Great. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice the part of you that, that you can get upset with your kids. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and that you're willing to change it. That's it. You're working on changing it and changing it and changing it.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Notice the level in your throat. Zero to 10. What's your level? Four. Four. Right. So it's going down a bit. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you, can you stop beating yourself up, please? And you stop, can you stop punishing yourself, stop feeling guilty and beating yourself up, can you do that?

Yes. 100%. Hmm. 100%. I have to. Yes. 100%. 100%. Definitely. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Now. I want you to notice for a moment how you would like to be different with your kids. What would you like to do that's different. So instead of getting upset. What is different? What would you like to do differently?

To play, to communicate, to be joyful, to connect. Okay, so great. So I'm asking you to breathe. To play, to connect, to be joyful. Great. Now, if I ask you to notice how sometimes You'll get upset with them, right? Yes. Okay. So now, if they do something that upsets you, how would you like to respond? What is your new way of responding?

From now on, what do you want to do now instead?

For sure, I have to think first before. Yep. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe and let's say that instead of getting upset, you have a habit of taking a breath and you have a habit of taking a breath, a couple breaths first.

All right. So I want to go ahead and actually pause the session right here because you'll notice she's starting to get her throat pain down a bit, you know, that feeling in her throat, and she does get it down all of the way as we keep going through the session, however, Notice for a moment, she's been stuck in this cycle and all of the time I'll see people do that very thing where they feel stuck in a cycle and stuck in a cycle and they can't get out.

So they're punishing themselves and then they're feeling unloved and then they're feeling guilty and then they're feeling all of these feelings of getting upset and then frustration and it's a cycle. And I see people do that all of the time where they're stuck in that. And I want to invite you. Before we finish with the rest of the session, I want to invite you to think about something in your life where maybe you've been stuck in a cycle, maybe there's been some type of pattern and you want to take a moment to decide what it is that you would do differently in your own life.

And do that and implement that, write it down, start bringing that in as a new way you want to think or be or behave, you know, a new action, whatever that is. And that's where I want to leave you on today's video. This episode is exactly that, is to get clear on what it is that you do want your mind to do.

You know, when you stop and think about a computer for a moment, imagine if somebody's computer was doing something wrong. It's got some type of error in it. And the only thing that that person does is tell the computer not to do it, not to do it, not to do it. But it never actually installs the error. the correct programming.

It just tells the computer, don't do it, don't do it, don't do it. Well, it's never going to do what it is that you of course want it to do. And especially if you've been stuck in a pattern for a long period of time, if you don't get that new programming into your mind and get clear and program that in and embody the change, then there's no way your brain can start Acting on it.

You know, our brains are like the most incredible, amazing computers. And so that's the insight that I want to bring to you. And by the way, one other thing, you may recall in the very beginning of her session, how much she talked about just even listening has been changing her life. And I hear that all of the time from people messaging in who are saying, you know, they're listening in and they're doing it.

following through and they're thinking about things and they're changing and they're feeling excited and it's just a beautiful thing. And so I want to invite you to take this opportunity to think about something in your life that you may want to change to get out of a stuck cycle. So I want to invite you to think about that.

And maybe put that into practice in your life. And of course, I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, somebody you don't even know, you know, the more empowered and happy Be unhealthy and alive and lifted, that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us.

So please do make a point to share it. And by the way, if you are somebody who has been sharing it and getting it out there, I really, really appreciate it because so many of you guys have been doing that. And, you know, we're in the top 1 percent of all podcasts globally, which is what? Over 3 million podcasts.

We're in the top 1 percent and I'm so grateful to you for helping to share it, to spread it, to get it out there, to spread the positivity. So thank you so much for doing that. Thank you for hitting the share button. Thank you for being you and being on this journey together. And of course, next week we'll finish with the second half of Madalena's session, and it's really insightful.

Part of what's going on, just to kind of give you an idea, is that there's also a trigger that's triggering her, that's setting her off, that she didn't even realize was happening. And so that's part of where we're going next week as well. So it's interesting, of course, creating that new trigger.

Programming is key and then also getting rid of the triggers and really transforming those. So that's where we're going next week. So it'd be fun and empowering. And I look forward to seeing you there. Have an incredible rest of your day.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu