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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themself of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life. Let's begin.

 

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I just love, every single episode has a unique twist to it or insight that can really help you to uplevel your self-awareness and your life.

It's just beautiful, and today's episode can be very helpful. With relationships and not just intimate relationships, but relationships in general, even relationships with self, self-awareness, healing, of course. I mean, just there's, there's so many wonderful layers to it, and that's what I love. And I also really love our volunteer, her self-awareness, her self-honesty, just.

Beautiful, and the insights just powerful. [00:02:00] So I love that. And by the way, some of the topics we're even gonna be talking about have to do with things like caregiving in relationships or feeling a bit controlling or feeling frustrated in relationships, and also turning them around, having a different energy, feeling a flow, just, I mean, just.

Beautiful, beautiful insights. So I love today's episode and our volunteer. Her name is Sandy, and if you recall, the first part of her session was released last week, so her session had a lot of really powerful insights, and so to keep it bite-sized, we released the first part. Last week, which had to do with really aligning with your vision and starting to shift towards that and feeling good towards it, not feeling a lot of pressure from it.

Also, the feeling of being, like, feeling like you're torn between two people. And so there was multiple insights there that were really helpful. And today we're just taking it to the next level. And so as you'll recall, our volunteers, she's been working with neck [00:03:00] pain and also shoulder pain, and she's already started to get pain in both.

Of them down. And as we step back in, she's gonna continue working with exactly that. So our volunteer, again, her name is Sandy, and let's dive in. Here we go.

Okay. Now I want you to notice the part of you who would also, uh, bingo, uh, like to control your partner a bit. Can you see that? Yeah. Just can I also just mention when you were mentioning about completely letting go, there's something about, um, support and safety coming up, being scared to fully let go. Um, There's a feeling of a bit of unsafety there.

Bingo. And I would also say there is also a feeling of fear of stepping into your new vision as well. Mm-hmm. Yeah. [00:04:00] And so I would say that the reason that you're attracting the distractions is because there's about a level six of stepping into your new vision. Yeah. Um, but additionally, so that's there.

Additionally, uh, you have. Um, uh, can you gimme your younger brother's? Uh, initial, yeah. He is older than me, but he's the youngest of the three and it's s Okay. And, uh, that's not, and, uh, which sibling is younger than you? Uh, my sister, that initial is t Bingo. Okay. And, um, can you see that there was a part who kind of liked controlling her as a kid A bit.

Can you see that? Bingo, and I don't wanna use the word controlling. Uh, let's say, uh, uh, mothering her, if you will. Uh, yeah, there was a, a big [00:05:00] part in that where she needed some support. Mm-hmm. Bingo. Okay. So, uh, so there's a part that also loves to kind of caregive, uh, with your, uh, husband and or the, your partner in some ways.

So, um, bingo. Can you see that? Yeah. That's with everyone. I think I've been taught to just. Care for everyone. Bingo. Okay. Yeah. So, uh, so the thing of it is, so, so it, so basically that's the reason that I went that direction. Yep. But yes, as far as going into your vision, there is fear there as well. So both are, uh, both are impacting.

Mm-hmm. Um, bingo. And, uh, bingo. And so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I do want you to notice the part of you who likes to care. Can you see that? Oh, for sure. Okay. Now, outta curiosity, what would happen if everybody was [00:06:00] really good at taking care of themselves? What came up was like, that would also be really nice.

Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Mm-hmm. And I'm gonna ask you to picture exactly that. What would happen if everybody. Is really good at taking care of themselves. And I want you just for a moment to feel that. Yep. And what your role would be. Yeah, that's like bliss, that's like perfect.

Everyone just being self-sufficient, but kind of like just a team, people just taking part and there go. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Mm-hmm. And I'm gonna ask you to picture your D exactly like that. That that is your connection with D. That D is in team mode, that that's D. Mm-hmm. That D is in team mode, that you guys are a team and you don't have to care at all.

Yep. Let that go completely.[00:07:00]

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her self-awareness. I love her self-honesty. Just beautiful. Now, secondly, I have to say, this is actually a really important topic regarding caregiving, because as you know, by now, Patterns attract more of the same.

So whatever patterns that we start to create in childhood, we can grow up and of course, repeat those exact patterns. Now, let's be honest, as a girl growing up, a lot of times not always, and I don't wanna stereotype, but a lot of times because as a young girl, you might identify as being like mom, or that you're supposed to take care of the family, and that becomes the role.

And so what can happen, and I see it so often, is that women will get into this identity of caregiver and they get so sucked into it that it actually ends up. Destroying their relationships, destroying the dreams that they have. And it [00:08:00] ends up, a lot of times I'll see women who have literally done everything.

It's like they care and care and care and they're wanting some type of reciprocity, love connection back, you know, in, in extreme cases. They're really feeling like the more they give, the less they receive. And I can't tell you how often I have seen this. And so I wanna invite you if that is something that's going on in your life, I wanna invite you to look at this in a different way and not get sucked into that pattern.

And instead, decide who you wanna be and how you wanna be. And by the way, sometimes. People might think and perceive that I'm a caregiver. But if you think about it for a moment, I'm not. Yes, I'm extremely caring. I really, really, really care about people so much. And you can probably feel that from me in in each episode.

So I absolutely care. And my goal is really to empower people. So I'm not [00:09:00] a lot of times, you know, doing any type of coddling, I'm saying, Hey, you're amazing. You know, and what I enjoy. Is helping people to connect with their power. I enjoy sharing with people the discoveries that I made. So for me, the energy is about being a researcher, sharing my discoveries of what I learned, what I figured out, and empowering people and people stepping into their power.

That's what the vibe is for me, is loving, sharing the things that I figured out that changed my entire life, that have helped others to change their entire life. That to me, that's what I love. That's my vibration. And so the reason that I'm sharing this is because that caregiver vibe, especially from childhood, can be so strong that I can't tell you how often I have seen people in places where they feel stuck as a caregiver or they want to be a caregiver and that's all they wanna do is caregiver.

And caregiver and they end up depleting themselves. And not only that, but they ruin their relationships because it [00:10:00] doesn't allow others. To be themselves, to be strong, to be empowered, to have an opinion, to feel empowered. And so it's not even in good energy with the universe because it's like, you know, if, if you think about trees or plants, all plants are supposed to grow.

All trees are supposed to grow. And so a lot of times caregiving when it's. In a relationship, it stifles somebody's growth. And so point being from that is that you'll want to notice if that's you. And by the way, I can tell you even this week, like I have had women who have gone from feeling like they needed to caregive to feeling like they can confidently be themselves, be alive.

And that they are good enough just being by themselves who have been in tears of joy saying, oh my God, like I feel like I can breathe air again. Like I feel free. I feel like I can live. I feel like I can be me. I mean, it is just a radical shit. And then the things that are [00:11:00] manifesting from that place, just beautiful and love and connection in a whole different way, in a beautiful, loving, expansive, happy, giddy type of way.

It's beautiful. And another reason I emphasize this is just because a lot of times what happens is in reciprocity, because if somebody's always feeling like they got to care, give and care, give and carry, if they're always give, give, give, give, give. That it reduces an ability to receive and it becomes a one-way street.

And so the reciprocity isn't there and people end up feeling sick and depleted. And so that's the other reason I emphasize it, is because sickness can be very linked to this particular pattern in so many ways. And so I just really wanna emphasize that. But again, loving her self-awareness and there are so many more insights from this episode.

So that's where we're going as we dive back in with beautiful Sandy, here we go.[00:12:00]

Okay. You could let that go completely. You don't need to care at all. Right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Great. And I want you to notice the level of pain in your arm. What's your level? Zero to 10? Oh, that one's gone up a little bit. Um, the shoulder, the neck has released, it's like a one.

Mm-hmm. But the shoulder blade has gone up a bit again. Mm-hmm. So about a, that's like a, mm-hmm. Like a four. Mm-hmm. As it said, 4, 4, 5, somewhere in there. Okay. Mm-hmm. And, uh, bingo. So I want you to notice there's a part of you who doesn't fully trust D to follow through to, uh, to all of that, correct? Yeah.

Okay. Zero to 10, how much would you say that's true? Oh, um, eight. Mm-hmm. I wanted to go higher, but there's been some, some work done so, Now, but that's still high eight. Mm-hmm. Okay. Now outta curiosity, is it true that you can't [00:13:00] trust de in? In other words, how long have you and Dee been, uh, partners? Oh, um, like 13 years, but married for like eight.

Okay. And if I ask you how much would you say over the years you've been able to trust Dee to show up? Uh, to show up, um, to count on D, what would you say? Yeah. Yeah, I would say it, it is like an eight. Mm-hmm. Okay. And so, uh, so if I ask you, would you say it's true or false that you guys have a different level of expectation of timing of when things should be done?

For sure, for sure. Now, Who is right? You or him? We kind of both are. Okay. Have you guys set a specific timeline that you have both agreed upon? [00:14:00] Uh, this is a thing. I try to set it up, but the answers are a bit. Or very vague, or this trust part is what is said. The action is the complete opposite. It is being worked on.

I also wanna say, um, for him, and when I had my fever, he was like, amazing. Um, but yeah, when we plan to do things, um, Yeah, it's, it's very vague on his part or what he said is different to what is actioned. Okay. Now I have a question. If I ask you, uh, how much you would say that you have a tendency to control him, what would you say to control him or to want to control him?

What would you say? I would say five, not it, it doesn't feel, it doesn't resonate a lot. Okay. [00:15:00] So, If I ask you how much you feel like you've had to get him to do certain things, what would you say? With things that we say we're going to do or just in general? Um, both. Okay. Because it's a little, um, different.

We've planned to do something. Um, yeah. It, it's like a eight. If it's just general, it's, it's like a four. Okay. And if I ask you how often you feel like he's trying to control you, what would you say? Yep. There's some pressure coming in. Yeah. Yeah. This is the shoulder for sure. Yeah. What's your level of pain right now?

Uh, it's still the same. It's, oh no, it's gone down three. It's like it's gone down one. Mm-hmm. Yeah, it's a different sensation. Exactly. All right. So if I ask you zero to 10, how much do you feel [00:16:00] like you're gonna fail? Like, you guys are gonna fail and it's gonna be his fault? What would you say? Uh, this is something that he says that he, he feels that he's at fault, which is absolutely not true.

I say that opposite, but zero to 10. Um, For me feeling it's his fault, um, in like moving forward and getting to, to where we wanna go, that would be like a five, six. Mm-hmm. Okay. So this is what I want you to notice for a moment. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Mm-hmm. And if I ask you how much you would say you have a tendency to be very analytical and in your mind, what would you say?

Bingo. Yep. That's like a eight. Mm-hmm. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Hold on. I just wanna get you around your analytical mind. You're, mm-hmm. You're, you're a bit too much in your analytical mind to get results, so gimme to get all the way there. So gimme one second. Yep. It, it [00:17:00] makes sense cuz there's again, this, uh, safety thing coming up and a bit of sadness.

Mm-hmm. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Gimme one second. Bingo. All right. So if I ask you just real quick, moving forward, uh, if I ask you, uh, as far as your vision, what your vision has to do with, what would you say that is? What my vision has to do with, um, moving and settling down to have a family. Okay.

And bingo. And if I ask you zero to 10, how much do you feel like your husband is excited to have a family? Yes, he is excited. It's just everything that comes with it. Okay. Such as, which is the, which is the move. So we live in Europe and it's moving to Australia. Okay. And if I ask you zero to 10 how secure you feel in your relationship, what would you say?[00:18:00]

Yeah, this one has been a tricky one due to some patterns, so, But it has improved a hell of a lot. So yeah, secure, I would say eight now. Okay. And if I ask you why in the past you didn't feel secure, what would you say? Um, it's to do with, uh, support and us also being a team and moving on with, you know, what we say we are going to do and then actioning it.

It's always a, a thing like, um, that it just takes, uh, a long time. Um, okay. Yeah. And if I ask you, um, that bingo. Okay. So let's, let's go this way. All right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Mm-hmm. And I want you to picture you and your husband 50 years from now, and that you're happily [00:19:00] married.

And laughing and, and it's just really, really, really sweet. It's really, really, really sweet. Yep. What would that feel like? That feels like home. Bingo. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. I, I want you to picture exactly that, that 50 years from now and you guys have beautiful, beautiful kids and a beautiful family, and you're so happy.

And it's sweet. You're sweet, he's sweet. It's just really, really, really sweet and it's so safe and it's wonderful. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And again, 50 years from now, you guys are just, it's just sweet and loving and happy, and you guys are connecting and it feels beautiful and you have a beautiful family.

And I want you to notice your level of pain. Zero to 10. What's your level? The neck is really under one and the the shoulder's gone down. It's [00:20:00] like a two and a half. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you currently right now also, uh, how far away your mom wi lives from you right now?

Uh, yeah. No, she's in Australia and Okay. Yeah. And so remember how I said there's a feeling of feeling like you were being pulled between the two? Okay. Now if I ask you, uh, where is your husband from? Uh, he's from here. So if I ask you to notice that feeling of wanting to get him to move to Australia and feeling pulled between the two and wanting to go there to start the family and all of that, can you see that feeling?

Mm-hmm. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay. Now that's the feeling that I'm talking about when I said feeling pulled between the two, right? Yep. Yep. Okay. Now you see it more clearly what I'm talking about, right? Yes. The, the mind sees [00:21:00] it before you could kind of like sense that feeling, but it didn't make sense, but it did.

Um, but now there's, yeah, it's clearer. Mm-hmm. It's clearer. Right? Okay. I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, I love exactly what she said. She said it didn't make sense at first and it, I could see it, but now it's a lot clearer and. That is the subconscious mind. You know, if you think about something being subconscious, you know, you can't necessarily see it.

It's not in your consciousness. That is one of the tricky parts, of course, about healing yourself, is being able to see, being able to have that level of clarity. And so I love her self-awareness. And by the way, the way I would describe it interestingly is it's sort of like wearing a. [00:22:00] A watch or wearing a choker, you know, or a necklace or something like that, that you've been wearing for so long, you don't even realize you're still wearing it.

And then till you bring your attention to it and you go, oh my gosh, I have a watch on. Or, oh my gosh, I have a necklace on it. It's like this feeling of being so used to it that you don't even realize that you are feeling an emotional pattern. Until it's pointed out and suddenly you go, oh my gosh, I have this pattern.

Now I can see it. You know, it's, it's amazing how our minds work in this way. And so of course, the more that we clear our minds, the more that we eradicate and get rid of negative patterning, the more we can see with absolute clarity. So I love that and. We're also talking a bit as far as there being some control, that's another topic going on, and we're going to unpack that even more about creating a shift in relationships, about the energy feeling different, the vibe, feeling different, and the motivation, [00:23:00] feeling different.

So that's where we're going as we step back in and with beautiful Sandy, here we go.

And now part of the reason that you're also moving there also has to do with your mom being close. Is that correct? Mm. It's more about having that support system in order to have children in the way of, um, like, uh, Not doctors, but like the natural, just people that I know. Mm-hmm. Um, if there's anything health that comes up, yes.

Also parents, but they're a bit older now. But, um, it, it's more about us, um, and, and me and having children. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So notice your support system and that being your mom, right? Yep. She's part of that. Mm-hmm. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to notice the stress inside about needing to move there, to be able to be close to [00:24:00] your mom for kids and all of that and et cetera.

And I want you to notice all of those feelings. Mm-hmm. Okay. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, has your husband ever lived in Australia before? Uh, he has, well he was there on a, a holiday kind of schooling thing. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And just for a moment, I want you to notice, if I ask you how long your husband's lived in Europe, how long would you say?

Mm-hmm. How, how much of his life has he spent in Europe? Uh, pretty much all his life. Pretty much all of his life. Okay. Mm-hmm. So, I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe binga, and I want you to notice all of these emotions going on. Of needing to move, feeling torn between the two, wanting to be there, feeling like he's rooted in also like feeling like he's rooted in Europe.

Can you find that feeling? Yep. [00:25:00] Yep. Yep. Mm-hmm. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and then also the feeling of feeling kind of like you need to control him, to get him to move. Uh, can you see that feeling? Yeah. That's the, the pushing. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yep. So, I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Okay. Now if I ask you how long till you guys are planning on moving, uh, that is the question. Okay. So yeah, I say kind of the end of the year. He has said even sooner, but not it's vague and this is the other talk we need to have to establish that. And I want you to notice your level of wanting to hurry and move.

Can you see that? Yes. Zero to 10. How much you feel like, look, I wanna hurry up and move. Let's go. I wanna do this. Zero to 10. Yeah, that's like a, it's pretty much a 10 cuz it was supposed to be [00:26:00] done. Mm-hmm. It was supposed to be done like maybe six years ago. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Yep. Okay. And I want you to notice the part of you that has been beating him up about this, like, Hey, this was supposed to have been done. This was supposed to have been done. Okay. Yep. For sure. So, yep. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and I'm gonna ask you to stop beating him up, okay?

Mm-hmm. So if I ask you if you're willing to change, yep. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay, so notice as we're looking at more of the specific details, you can see that we're talk, like the emotions that I've been talking about. You can see them more clearly, right? Yep, yep. Okay.

So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, I want you to notice the part of you that just wants to like shake him and make him move. Can you see that? Mm-hmm. Yep. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay. And his work, is it in Europe, I assume? Yep. Okay. [00:27:00] So for him to figure out and move and whatnot, there's, there's some things he needs to figure out, correct?

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Okay. Now to do that, he's also gotta feel good about himself. He's also got to feel, uh, he's gotta feel safe in doing so. Like for him, there's a, there's, right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you zero to 10, how much you have supported him to help make this change, what would you say?

Oh, a hell of a lot. The, the change in feeling more, uh, confident in himself? No, just, uh, in, in, in having compassion for and understanding for the things that he does need to change and making a plan and being a team with him. How much would you say that is? Uh, a lot. That's why the, okay. That's why the frustration is there as well.

I think it's okay. So if I check the energy mm-hmm. How long would it [00:28:00] say that you've been beating him up on this topic? Also? Zero to 10? Or how many, how many years would it say in moving to, mm-hmm. Australia? Mm-hmm. I would say seven. Mm-hmm. Okay. So if I told you that somebody is beating you up, And at the same time trying to support you, but also beating you up.

How does that go? It doesn't go very well. It's very mixed. Mm-hmm. Okay. And, uh, bingo. Can you see the part of you at times that might be able to, might be a bit passive aggressive? Yep. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So would you be willing to change that? For sure. Okay, great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

I love your self-awareness. I just love your self-awareness and the willingness to change. Beautiful. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you to let go of the feeling, all of this pressure of feeling torn between this and that and the, [00:29:00] and then the, the wanting to start a fam, there's so much pressure and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I want you to picture what it would feel like if it felt fun. To move if it felt fun, if it felt exciting, if it felt fun and exciting to him, fun and exciting to you. If it felt fun and exciting. Mm-hmm. That there was no beating up, there was no passive aggressive, this, that, the other, what would that energy feel like if it felt fun and exciting for you guys to move?

Like, oh my gosh, this is fun, this is exciting, this is wonderful. What would that feel like? Yeah, that's what I've been going for. Very expansive. Mm-hmm. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. So notice for a moment. So this is where we wanna go. Okay. So notice what I asked. Bingo. So, so watch this is, if I say, if somebody said to me, Brandy, what would it feel like?

And I said, yes, I would like it to be fun and expansive. Zero to 10. How much emotion is in that? I'm being caught [00:30:00] out. So, so, so why? So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Come with me.

All right, so let's go ahead and actually pause the episode right here. And I just love her. I love her self-awareness. I love her laughter where she's going, you know what? I'm being called out. And she is, and it's so great because that is what is needed to make the change is a real shift. And this is what I love.

There are a few key insights from this that are just divine timing. So which one to go through first? Let's do. The first and most obvious one is this, is it. Notice her emotion. To be able to get results. We've got to make a real shift. We've really got to feel differently, and so if I say something like, I think I feel happier today, or something like that, that is not enough to shift energy to create [00:31:00] a change.

In health or in life, it's not enough. And so you can get very stuck in the analytical mind. And by the way, during my injury, prior to working with emotions and the mind and all of that, I used to be extremely analytical. And now I'm both, you know, very, very analytical and also very aware of, of course, emotions and energy.

So ultimately, Having both abilities is a very powerful combination, and so she's got a great strong analytical mind. And of course, tapping into more of the emotions, creating that shift is gonna be really key for getting results, for feeling it, for transforming. So that's one thing. Now, by the way, the next thing has to do with motivation and motivating a person.

You know, if you stop and think about it for a moment. Her husband has a job. He goes to work every day and he doesn't need motivated to do it. And [00:32:00] so a lot of times what I'll see happening is in a relationship, somebody's not doing something and the partner is pushing and pushing and saying, but you said you would do this, and you said you would do that.

And I see it break down relationships all the time. It ruins relationships. And so, What you wanna notice is that like, you know, for example, in this instance where she's kind of, she's beating him up, you know, and she's aware of it. And that's great, that self-awareness, very, very impressive. But the thing of it is, is that anytime somebody isn't doing something, there's always a a reason, you know, if you think about him and his situation, he works a full-time job.

So it's not that he's lazy, there's something else going on and. Again, all of the time in relationships when somebody's not doing something, a lot of times a partner wants to say, you know, use it against them and say, oh, but you said this, or be passive aggressive and I wanna invite you that if you have a relationship like that, instead of beating the [00:33:00] person up, instead of being frustrated or angry, really understand where the person is coming from.

Genuinely. Because when you get to that place of understanding, that is a, a beautiful place to move forward from. So there's that. And by the way, I have to say about four episodes ago, I worked with a beautiful volunteer Madelina and on hers. She was feeling disconnected in her relationship and her kids, like there was multiple things going on and she shifted it and she actually just sent in an email that said how much closer she's feeling with her husband and her kids and her life and transforming.

She's, it's beautiful. Like she really made the shift. And by the way, she also wrote in and said, I can't believe it, but my pain is just a distant memory. And so point being, is it, you know, she was on the podcast. Four weeks ago, and she just sent in that email. Cause I told her, you know, make sure to follow through and it's become pivotal in her life.

And that was also part of [00:34:00] understanding of looking at things in a new way. And she did it and just a beautiful being. And by the way, she also went on and jumped into a video course that I have and, and all of that. So she's on board with, okay, let me take everything to the next level. So she's, Also doing that as well.

So just to be clear. But it's beautiful to watch her change and transform. And so point being here is just simply this, is that if your partner is stuck, whether it's your partner in an intimate relationship or is somebody in a family or a sibling or a child, or anybody is stuck, instead of beating them up or getting frustrated or pissed off or whatever it is.

Making sure to understand them is key. And that leads to the third insight, which also has to do with. The same for yourself. And what's interesting and kind of fun timing about this is that just today somebody sent me a message and it was basically this person was saying, you know, I'm really, really trying to [00:35:00] motivate myself.

And I was saying, you know, well, your energy's. Dropping. What are you doing? And he says, you know, well, I'm telling myself if I don't get this done, then I'm not gonna have any friends and I'm not gonna be able to do this, and I'm not gonna be able to do that. And, and all of these things. And I was like, I was like, dear, this does not sound like motivation.

This sounds like self abuse. And it looks, it sounds like you're militant. And he was cracking up. Because he started to see it in a different way, that the very thing that he was doing and wanting from himself was in a negative way, was trying to motivate him and get himself inspired in a negative way.

And so point being with this exact place in this session is, So really make it feel good to shift to what's feeling good, to let that fuel you and energize you, whether it's yourself personally or in your personal relationships. Doing it, embodying it, feeling it. That will be important to help lift you and [00:36:00] motivate you and align you.

To the next level, and speaking of the next level, that is exactly where we're going next week as we dive back in with Sandy to take everything to the next level. So there's one more piece on this one, just because the whole episode was about an hour, a little over an hour long in, which means that by the time I add insights, it would make it.

Two hour episode. So dividing it up in pieces, it helps to just digest each piece. So that said, I wanna invite you to see if you can even take one piece, one insight from today's episode and see if you can apply it somewhere in your life. And I also wanna ask you to please do. Make a point to hit the share button on this episode.

You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know. Because the more empowered and happy and healthy that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do hit the share button, and please do [00:37:00] make a point to have a most loving, wonderful, fantastic day for yourself, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on [00:35:00] in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website@brandygilmore.com slash podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.