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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love. today's episode. You know, each episode has a different insight, a different powerful piece of information that can help you to radically change your awareness, your life, your energy, your happiness, your health, all of it.

And so I just love that. And one of the things that I love about today's episode is we talk a bit about feeling reactive and there's multiple pieces to this, but. A lot of times, a person can react, they can feel defensive, and these reactions can be the very thing that's affecting your health, your life, your pain, and creating that shift, that genuine change, reprogramming your subconscious mind, is key for making, of course, a radical shift in your health and your life.

And on today's episode, our volunteer, her name is Barbara, and one of the things you'll notice, is that. First and foremost, she did amazing at releasing her pain. So she was able to release her jaw pain, her neck pain, her shoulder pain. I mean, great, amazing, wonderful job. And also had a lot of different triggers connected to it that were, of course, controlling her energy and her body.

And her emotions and affecting her. And so that's where we're going today. Now I mentioned our volunteer. Her name is Barbara. If you recall, she is continued from last week. So we actually, her and I had about a one hour session and I broke it into three pieces just because there were so many insights from it that I really wanted you to take in.

So where we left off. Last week, at the end of last week's episode, was that Barbara has been feeling picked on and reactive and defensive and feeling like people are speaking poorly about her, but then at the same time, she's also been blaming herself a lot. And I'll see that all of the time where somebody is blaming themselves.

And then of course, they end up with a lot of other people who are blaming them simultaneously, because that's what's being attracted in their energy. And so again, just several things to unpack on today's episode, as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Barbara. Here we go.

And now I want you to notice the part of you on the inside that feels like you did actually do something. That you did actually do something wrong. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Can you find that feeling? Very much. Yes. Are you bored with that one too? Yes, I am bored with that one. It's great. It's. Yeah, I really want to let it go and also the wanting people to like me want to let go of that one.

We, we, we, we, we, we, we notice I'm wanting to work on one thing you're wanting to work on a different thing. Right.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. Now notice for a moment, as I'm asking her to not beat herself up and we talked about, you know, she was feeling picked on and spoken poorly about, and this is what I'm going to happens for a lot of people. They get reactive, and they say, well, I just like animals better than I do people.

And unfortunately, that reactive behavior just reinforces the problem. Meaning that a lot of times when people feel hurt, then they react, then they reinforce the problem. I don't want people to like me. I don't like people anyway, which only perpetuates more and more problems. of the problem, not liking people, more of the problem occurring.

And so if you have a type of reactiveness, you'll definitely want to change it. And you don't want the solution to be, well, I just want to let go of wanting people to like me. Instead, you want to create a vision where you feel love and connection and joy. With people, you feel so harmonious, you already feel like people love you and you love people and it's sweet and it's loving and it's wonderful and it's confident and it's harmonious.

That's the shift that you want. You know, when you take in the awareness that your thoughts help create your life, you don't want to come to the feeling and just say, well, I don't care if people like me or not. You want to think about the beautiful life that you do want, that's loving, that's happy, healthy, fabulous, and feels harmonious.

in your relationships. And so we're going to get back to working on the pain. And by the way, what you'll notice coming up is part of her resistance towards people is actually what is connected to the pain that she's still experiencing. So that's where we're going as we step back in with Beautiful Barbara.

Here we go.

If I ask you to notice the part of you that feels like you really did something wrong, and like it's your fault, like it really is your fault, zero to ten, how much can you find that feeling? Six. Okay. And I want you to notice the part of you that feels like everybody's blaming you, and blah blah blah blah blah.

And I want you to notice the part of you that might be afraid that anybody finds out blah blah blah blah blah, and you don't even care. Everybody's made mistakes, there's nothing you have to hide, there's nothing you have to hold on to, there's nothing you have to blame. It's just boring. It's so boring.

Isn't it boring? Would you agree? Yeah, very boring. Yeah, I mean, you have better things to do in this life than to be all caught up in this whole defensive blame, feeling bad, shame, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? Yeah. Yeah, right? So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, like enjoying life, like having, enjoying life, feeling good, and I'm going to ask you to take in the feeling, if you knew you could trust yourself.

If you absolutely knew you could trust yourself a year from now, two years from now, five years from now, which you do already know that, right? Yeah. Yeah, I can trust myself. Exactly. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And zero to ten, how much can you trust yourself? Ten. So I'm gonna ask you.

Well, okay, maybe nine. One out of ten. It does, it does happen sometimes. I maybe eat something I know I can't eat and then. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay, so if I ask you, were you just validating the emotion that we're working on getting rid of?

Yeah, I was. I didn't trust myself. Ten. Okay, but I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and I'm not talking about food, but I'm just gonna ask you just for a moment. Can you see yourself a year from now? You're walking around and you're a good person and you know you're a good person. And even five years from now, you're walking around and you're a good person and you know that you're a good person.

You don't have any guilt or feeling bad or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's boring, right? Yeah. I can see that. Yes. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and you're walking around and of course it's safe and you're fine and you feel good. You have nothing to hide. You're safe. You're so, so, so, so safe.

And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to notice the level of pain in your neck. Zero to ten. What's your level? Round of six. Round of six. Bingo. Especially in the left side, actually. Bingo. And the other side's lower. Good, good, good. Yeah, it is. It is. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to just breathe.

To not think for a moment, but just to just breathe. And letting that go. You don't need it. It's not serving you. You're safe moving forward. You're safe in the past. There's, there's nothing to defend. There's nothing. You're, you're good. You're good. You're safe. Relax. Relax. Relax. You're safe. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And you can stop beating yourself up. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment and you can stop feeling beat up and stop feeling blank, blah, blah, blah. It's just a boring, boring, boring pattern. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice your level in your neck, zero to ten. Yeah, it's less.

Now, I think it's gone in the right side and it's around, uh, four in the left side. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and, uh, that's what I have is about, about a three in the left. Bingo. Three, right in there. Bingo. So yep, I'm with you. I'm tracking. Okay. So great. And by the way, who's doing that? You are.

So I'm going to breathe. So notice when you're quiet and you're taking it in, that you have more of an ability to change. Right? Yes. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe. And you want this really badly, don't you? Oh, yeah, so much. Yes. Great. So, I'm reminding you, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to take that in.

You've got this, and of course you're willing to change. Of course you're excited about changing, and I'm going to ask you to breathe. And ugh, it's so boring to beat yourself, blah, blah, blah. You're safe moving forward, you're safe in the past, you're safe, you're safe. Of course you're safe. And you can stop beating yourself up, and you can stop feeling beaten up.

I mean, just moving on. Good level of pain. Zero to ten. What's your level? Ground to two. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And who's doing that? I am. You are. You are. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe. You've got this. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and of course, moving forward, you're so safe, and you're good, and you're not going to beat yourself up, and nobody else is either.

I mean, you look around and you realize nobody's beating you up. Nobody's blaming you. Your daughter's lovely. You're, you're safe. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And you're safe, and you're wonderful, and you look around and you realize there's nothing to defend against, and there's nothing to feel badly about.

And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Zero to ten, how much are you willing to change? Ten. Zero to ten, how much? Ten! Great. And I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to notice your level of pain. I would say that from the space and the top of the neck, it's gone now. There's, it's, there's something moved down into the left shoulder.

But, um, I guess we can keep on going for hours then. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. I have about a three in the shoulder. What do you have? Yeah, I would have said four. So we're close. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, fantastic job with her energy. She did that. And if you recall in the first part of this session with her, remember the session is It's been about an hour long in total, but on the first part, she was able to release her jaw pain.

Now she's been able to release her neck pain, which is really awesome. And she's the one that did that. And it has to do with this feeling of resistance, defensiveness towards people that she's been experiencing. And. really making that change. So feeling that shift is huge for her. And so what I love is that she was able to do that and shift it.

Now, also what you'll notice is of course, there's been some pain in her shoulder areas. So that is having to do with some safety and being willing to change and feeling safe to change. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with Beautiful Barbara. Here we go.

And if you knew that you were safe. If you knew you were safe and that you didn't need to defend yourself anymore and you knew and you knew and you knew you Were safe and you weren't gonna be beating yourself up or blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. How would you feel? Yeah, I would feel good. How good?

Very very good. And when you have to be So come with me, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to think about next week. So how defensive are you going to be next week? Not at all. Not at all. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and how much are you going to beat yourself up this week? Also, not at all.

I like your answer, smart woman. So I'm going to ask you for a moment to breathe. Now notice for a moment, notice, if I ask you right now, are you feeling differently than your normal self in this moment? Yeah, yes. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice that there's no part of you that's trying to defend, and there's no part of you that's trying to be headstrong right now.

You've actually just, you're just being you. You're just calmer. You're not trying to defend. Can you see that? Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and if I ask you, why am I pointing this out to you? Because it's the feeling that I'm feeling right now that is helping with the pain. Great. Bingo.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. So you said you wanted to change, right? Yeah. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice this vibration that you're in, this feeling, this awareness that you're in. Yeah. And I want you to picture your life this week, and I want you to think about what it looks like as you being in this, in this space, and feeling harmonious, feeling loving, loving towards you, loving towards others.

Who you are, it's how you are, it feels wonderful, and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and you're safe. Of course you're safe, right? Yeah. Zero to ten, how safe are you? Right now, ten. Ten. Ten. And how safe are you in your normal day to day life? What would you say? Ah, ten. Ten. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And how wonderful are you? I expect nothing less than a level 10. 10. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. All right. And I want you to notice a level on your shoulder. Zero to 10. What's your level? Hmm. It's 11. 2. Mm hmm. Only the left one, though. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice the part of you that feels like you need to defend y

I want you to notice that part of you, blah, blah, blah, that feels like you need to defend yourself. If I ask you, how long have you been stuck in the pattern of defending yourself? Don't go into reinforcing it, I'm just asking you, how long have you been in that pattern for? As long as I can remember. Great.

So won't it be amazing to stay in it for like the next, I don't know, like 20, years? What do you think? No, it wouldn't be amazing. I mean, like only, what about like just the next like 10 years? What would you say? I would say I wouldn't recommend it. Uh, okay. I'm with you, smart, smart. I like it. Okay. So, uh, I mean, so what happens if you realize that it's not actually serving you at all and that it's not serving you and you're safe and it's not serving you and of course you're safe, right?

Yeah, I'm safe. Great, great, great, great, great. And by the way, sometimes I push exactly like that because I want you to, I want you to feel, I need you to feel as it is, so it's part of the, part of the thing. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. So I'm going to push again. Of course you're safe, right?

Like, of course, obviously, of course, right? Yeah. Good. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. Level in your shoulders. Zero to ten. What's your level? Uh, it's, it's, yeah, it's a one. I have to move it to find something. So, notice for a moment, if I ask you on that last one, we were working on the bringing in the feeling that it's safe.

Okay. Yeah. What we're going to do is we're going to wrap up here, and this is the reason why. As far as changing your energy. So if I told you that I went from feeling like a level 600 of feeling like I need to defend myself all the time, right? Yeah. And if all of a sudden they say, okay, I'm going to stop right now, does it necessarily feel?

Yeah. I see where, what you're getting at. It's difficult to change something. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's not difficult. It's not difficult. Change is not difficult. If you desire to change, it's not difficult, but I want you to do. Is I want you then to just integrate it. So it's not, it's kind of like this, how difficult, like if I was going to, if somebody was going to teach you the alphabet in German, uh, how hard would that be for you to learn?

Well, I know it. So, okay. Uh, in Spanish. Yeah. How, how it would be, it wouldn't be, it would take a couple of months probably. Okay. But I mean, if they were going to teach you in like 30 seconds. Oh, yeah. I wouldn't be able to remember it. Oh, but, but, but wait, so you mean it's hard to learn a new language? Oh, it just takes time.

Ah, okay, so just for a moment. So, how many languages do you speak? Uh, speak English and Danish, but then a little German and a little Swedish and Norwegian. Okay, so you would say it's not the hardest thing to do to learn a language, right? No, it can be done. Just take time. Okay, there you go. Yeah. Now I see what you're getting at.

Finger. Just take time. So this isn't hard. It's, it's not, and it's not that it takes a lot of time, but it's gonna, this one to go and to integrate what we're saying here is going to take you integrating it, taking it in, feeling differently, and then making sure your mind sees that it's safe. Cause if we push too much.

And we're taking away what may, has made you feel safe is not going to feel safe and the pain will keep moving around and then we will be chasing our tail. Oh, okay. Yeah. That makes sense. Yeah. It makes sense. And it has moved around actually, not, not while we were talking, but the last couple of months it's moved around the body.

Like, and I really tried to do this whole self development thing and it's just been moving around knee, elbow, everywhere. Okay. So, so that makes sense that when you, when you say that. Okay. That I've been trying too hard, maybe. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's not about, no, no, no, no, no.

What's, what, what am I asking you to integrate here? The feeling of feeling safe and not having to defend myself. No, because notice if I told you I'm defending myself all the time, defend, defend, defend, how much do I feel Like it's keeping me safe. Oh yeah. I feel like it's keeping, yeah. Yes. But then when I stop and look at it and I go, Oh my God, that's never been keeping me safe.

It's actually perpetuating the problem. Yeah. Wait a second here. Yeah. You see the difference? I do. I do see the difference. Yes. Thank you. Absolutely. I love your self awareness. I love your self awareness. So what I want you to do, listen to the recording, integrate this, taking it in, feeling that. And I want you also to think about this shift and embodying the shift.

Notice there's a different way of feeling right now. And I want you to embody that. Does that make sense? Yes, it does. Thank you. You're wonderful and amazing and beautiful, beautiful job with your energy. Thank you so much.

All right. So let's go ahead and bring this all together and unpack it even more. And before we do, I mean, first and foremost, fantastic job. Barbara did that changing her energy and released her pain in multiple areas of her body. So amazing job. And there are some key insights. to take away from this, you know, first and foremost, making sure that it feels safe to change.

And that's the part I was talking about with her at the end. It had to do with, you know, when you feel like you've been defensive or when you feel like you've had a pattern that's quote unquote, keeping you safe, you can't just always just do it. push through. It does take an integration. It takes being kind to yourself, helping yourself to see that it is safe to change.

I mean, because all of the time we want to get ourselves to change. We want to do something differently or feel differently, but. Sometimes there's that feeling of subconscious fear that comes up, which, as we've seen with Barbara, can be connected to the pain. So even though we want to create radical shifts, we also have to be conscious of how we're really feeling and be kind to ourselves along the way and make sure we feel like it's safe to really change.

And so I love that awareness. It is so important. And that's something that you'll want to take in for yourself is I want to invite you from this to think about your life. And even look at these two important takeaways, which would be number one, do you find an area that you're trying to change that you're not quite feeling safe to change?

So you're kind of pushing up against yourself. And if so, make sure you feel that it really is safe to change. So you support yourself in making that change. So that's number one. Now, the second insight is this, it's, do you feel defensive? in any part of your life. And if you are feeling defensive, could you decide to change it?

Decide to respond in a different way? Because all too often, when we have programmed ways of responding, we're responding from hurt or anger or upset, and it can perpetuate the problem and also pain and health issues going on in the body. And so that said, these are the insights that I want to invite you to look at in your life.

And I also want to ask you that as always, to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy, healthy and empowered and pain free that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us, and so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic, loving rest of your day.

And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu