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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And before we dive into today's episode, I I want to take a moment and thank you. You know, the other day I was actually looking at the data on the podcast, which I haven't done for quite a while, but I was looking at it and you know, out of about 3.

1 million podcasts, we are in the top. One percent all around the globe. And it's really cool when you stop and think about it, because I mean, I literally started this podcast just because I wanted people to be able to see that we can get results, that we can heal, that we can change our lives, that our minds are incredible.

And you guys have been listening in and sharing it with your friends and family. And I just want to say, thank you. You know, when I went through. Years of my injury. This literally is the last thing that I ever thought that I would be doing. And even, you know, if you know my story, even after I got better, wheelchair, walker, cane, for almost seven years, all of that, my whole goal had been to, you know, share it with the medical community.

So then people could start healing themselves and getting better. And, of course, part of the challenge is that most people don't believe you can actually heal using your mind, that you can release pain, that you can get real results, and not just pain, of course, you've heard on past episodes, you know, I mean, there are people who are bringing back their eyesight, or even getting body parts that have been partially paralyzed, or paralyzed, moving again, or, you know, a woman who's running marathons after being bedridden for years, or another one who, you know, Um, released her tumor, you know, her doctors were shocked that it had just been there under the MRI and was gone and, you know, all kinds of different things.

People have manifested loving relationships and, and when you stop and think about it for a moment, the awareness that our minds are just incredible, that we aren't victims in life, that we aren't stuck, that we don't have to live in fear, but we can make real changes in life. It's, it's exciting and profound and empowering and beautiful.

And, and what if everybody knew that and everybody lived from that place? It just would be even more beautiful and being able to heal and being able to live fully. I mean, it's just an incredible feeling. And I'm living it, you know, it's just, it's, I feel grateful every day. And even now, you know, I've been a hundred percent healthy since 2010.

So it's been 13 years and almost 20, over 20 years since my injury. And so, you know, obviously time has passed and yet it still just is, amazes me. How incredible we all are. And so I love that. And coming back to the main point, which is thank you. Thank you. You know, thank you for sharing it with your friends and family.

And thank you for being on this beautiful journey with me. And on that note. Let's go ahead and dive in with today's beautiful volunteers. Today we have Scott and Sarah, and as you recall from last week's episode, they're struggling a bit financially. And so they're really trying to work on shifting their financial picture.

And so that is part of what we're working on. And now, of course, when we look at patterns that relate to money. That also starts with changing ourself. And so part of what we had talked about on the last episode was we talked about receiving and being willing to receive. And you may also recall that Sarah had feelings of guilt when it came to spending money on herself.

And so even being and feeling good about that, that it is okay to spend money on yourself because if you feel guilty and you have that pattern of feeling guilty about spending money on yourself. Then that pattern can just continue. And so, that's part of what we talked about with Sarah, and with Scott, there was this pattern of criticizing himself, and we're going to dive in deeper.

You know, a lot of times people think, when it comes to manifesting money, that it's all about the financial patterns and how we feel about money. Patterns of self criticism or even how we treat others can also impact your abundance as well. And so there's all kinds of different links that can really impact your income and what you're manifesting in life.

And so that's part of where we're going today. And on that note, let's go ahead and dive in with Scott and Sarah. Here we go.

And if I ask you just for a moment to bring in a feeling of self awareness, of appreciating self, okay, and appreciating your self awareness. And I want you to notice for a moment, of course, you can receive. Feeling good to receive. Feeling good to receive. Just like a fish can swim, a kangaroo can jump, um, we're here, we have the ability to manifest and allowing yourself to manifest and receive, right?

Right. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and taking that feeling in, bingo. Now if I ask you how much in your life you've also had a, a pattern of, of blame, a bit of blaming other people for things, if I ask you to notice how much you've had that pattern, what would you say? Yeah, I would say that resonates with me.

Yeah. I love your self-awareness. And if I ask you zero to 10, how high would you say that is? Um, eight or nine, that's high. I love your self awareness and I'm going to ask you to breathe. So we're going to bring in Scott for a moment. So Scott, are you there? Yes, I am. So if I ask you, by the way, if I ask you if you ever feel like those blame type of feelings are coming at you, what would you say?

uh, coming at me from Sarah. Yeah. Um, I guess occasionally from, from time to time, but it's, I don't, I wouldn't say that it's always unfounded. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay. So I want you to notice that you have a pattern of feeling critical of self. You can see that, right.

And also where you kind of feel like sometimes you deserve blank, right? Okay, so what if we said that blame isn't productive at all? Like, I mean, the truth of it is, we all make mistakes, right? Okay, and, uh, I mean, Scott, you're, you're perfect. You've never made a mistake, right?

Sarah, you've never made a mistake, right? Oh, many, many. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, you know, I have never made a mistake either, and I'm sure you never have either, right? You know, of course we've all made mistakes. And when we stop and think about the emotion of blame for a moment, that's the reason it just doesn't serve us.

You know, if blame is just saying, Hey. You did this or even blaming self, Hey, I did this. And it's just a feeling of blame. And because we know as human beings, we make mistakes. The real solution, the real way to process mistakes is to learn from them and move on. And so if we make a mistake, instead of going into blame, we're Self blame or even blaming somebody else, just going into a place of acknowledging it.

And, you know, of course, if we can fix it, if there's something we can do to resolve the situation, but move it forward and let it go. Now, as far as blame goes, blame doesn't help in a relationship either. You know, if we're blaming somebody else, that doesn't open up. More love, and I'm not saying they have a lot of blame going on in this relationship.

It could be even in a work relationship, or relationship with your friends, and family, and parents, or loved ones. You know, that feeling of blaming somebody else, it's not good for relationships. And so when you stop and think about it, even if you know somebody else has made a mistake, instead of having blame, Just acknowledging and moving forward, you know, what can you do to move it forward so you don't have to hold it over somebody's head or make them wrong.

Because the more you make somebody else wrong, the worse it's going to go for their relationship and the more it's, not going to help them to be their best self. And so any way you look at it, blame, of course, is not helpful. And even in your own life, even if you're just blaming somebody in your head, if you're blaming your parents only in your head or your spouse or family, blame is a feeling that That you don't have power, a feeling of powerlessness, but that's not true.

You know, we are creators in our own lives. And so making a point to really own your power, take back your power, really realize that we are manifesting our relationships, our lives. You know, you've heard me on past episodes all the time. I use the example of. Unfortunately, the woman with the abusive father can leave him and find the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera.

You know, that pattern can continue, but also on a great note, we can attract the most loving, wonderful, fantastic people. But my point is no matter what we've been through, the more we can own our own power and really create a shift is the more that we can stay out of blame. the more that we can let negativity go to truly transform our life, our relationships, our money situation, our health, whatever that is that you're working on transforming, you know, blame can affect multiple areas of your life.

And again, I'm not necessarily saying that there's a ton of blame here in their relationship, but what I am saying is that feelings of blame in general, self blame or blaming another can keep. them stuck, and it can also keep you stuck. So if you have that pattern, you'll definitely want to transform it.

All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Scott and Sarah. Here we go.

And I have a quick question for you. Sarah, what's one thing that you love about Scott? Uh, his integrity and honesty. Right? And he's just so darn sweet. Like, I mean, so sweet. I love that. And Scott, what is one thing that you love about Sarah? It's funny you mentioned the word sweet. She's, uh, she's probably top three sweetest people I've ever met.

Right. Which is kind of why you guys go so well together. I mean, you guys are just really, really, really sweet and emanate that. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Okay. And I want you just for a moment to think about so we're looking at some patterns and we're having some vulnerabilities of looking at patterns and whatnot.

And I want us just for a moment to think about the awareness that the goal is that your team, your, your success in life, your team, your relationship is stronger, is better, is, is effective. Even more aligned is, is your success. It's next level, right? It's just next level. And the, the goal is to improve your lives and to do it as a team, right?

And so I want you to notice just for a moment, if I ask you, Sarah, uh, you can see pattern Scott's pattern of being a bit critical of himself. Can you see that? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And so not that you need to baby him for it or that you need to Be critical of it or anything just observing. Okay, he's working on that and he's going to change that pattern, right?

Okay, and Scott, if you look at Sarah's pattern of feeling guilty about spending money on herself and even blame, it's not that you need to feed it, and you don't need to coddle it, and you don't need to cater to it, and just saying, okay, well, she's going to work on that, right? Sure. Great.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love them. They are so sweet together and I love their self awareness. I love their self honesty. Just really beautiful. And taking in this awareness in relationships, you know, all too often I see people who are trying to fix their partner.

And the more they try to fix their partner, the more their partner. feels not good enough and criticized and then the person tries to fix their partner even more and fix their partner even more and then the person feels more criticized and more not good enough and more feelings of powerlessness. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen this.

And so you'll want to remember that we really are empowered beings and to be in a relationship where both people are flourishing, you've got to, instead of trying to fix your partner or criticize your partner or judge your partner. Believe in your partner, wholeheartedly believe in your partner, support your partner, celebrate your partner's wins.

I mean, that's what's really, really important. And by the way, as far as coddling, that's the other side of the coin that I'll see, is a lot of times people, you know, want to fix their partner's pattern for them and, and coddle them around it. Now, this is the problem, is that, you know, if you think about for a moment, If somebody says they're self critical and they say, Oh my gosh, I did terrible at this.

And then the partner says, No, you don't. It looks great. What happens in that situation is criticism. The self criticism gets linked up to positive feedback. So it actually perpetuates the problem in the mind. And maybe you've heard somebody say, Oh, I look terrible. terrible in this dress, or I look fat, or I look not good enough, or I look blah, blah, blah, whatever that is.

And then of course the typical response is, no you don't, you look great. And unfortunately what happens is it perpetuates the problem in the subconscious mind. It links the problem up to being a reward, being a compliment. And so the problem perpetuates. And so point being, is that all of the time, people are trying to do this very thing, where they're either trying to fix their partner, or they're trying to coddle to their partner's wounds, in which case, the pattern just perpetuates in the subconscious mind and shows up in even more ways in your life, or in different ways.

And so, and so, Either way, point being from this is that when you believe in your partner and you celebrate your partner's wins and you really feel those feelings, that's when both people can grow spiritually. And that is the type of relationship that can allow both people to grow and to flourish. And so ultimately, that's what you want to set up in your own relationship.

All right, so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in. with Sarah and Scott. Here we go.

So I'm going to ask you just for a moment what that feels like to not need to coddle each other's wounds and not need to fix each other, but to let each of you feel empowered in yourself to create your own changes for the team, for yourself, for the team, for your life, for your future. And notice what that feels like.

To be willing to do that to shift, what would that feel like as a team to say, Hey, I'm working on my pattern to, to lovingly respect each other. No judgment, no criticism, no judgment, no feeling bad. None of that saying, okay. All right, team. We're going to work on this and we're working on changing. How does that feel?

I would say strong and secure are the words that come to my mind. Oh, beautiful. Beautiful. And Scott, what would you say? Um, liberating. Uh, I, I know Sarah, uh, don't want to speak for Sarah, but, um, I know that, that I can be critical. Um, not only of myself, but, uh, but, but of Sarah's as well, uh, just, just with little basic things and I try to deliver that, um, gently, but it's, uh, it's still there.

So, um, if I can, yeah, I think liberating is the word if I can. Release that. Uh huh. Beautiful. I love that. Bingo. I love it. And I love your self awareness. And that is where we were going. And by the way, have you ever felt critical of Sarah's spending habits? Maybe from the standpoint of, yeah, I guess short answer is, is, is yes, uh, a little bit.

Okay. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to just admire your self honesty and self awareness. Now this is what's always interesting, is that in relationships we always have patterns that can trigger each other. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling of what it feels like to feel like each other's number one fan.

What does that feel like to say, okay. Do not have to fix each other. You're not trying to fix each other. You're not stressing each other out. You're not critical of each other, but you're believing in each other. What does that feel like? Pretty incredible. And Sarah, what does that feel like to you? Yeah, I would second that.

Great. So bingo. So I'm going to ask you guys just for a moment to breathe and I would say, and it's something you guys have both noticed, I would say, let's, let's be honest, if people are struggling in an area of life, they can have a tendency to maybe feel a little blame or a little critical towards the other person on an inner side, like a feeling of frustration of this, that, the other, towards themselves and towards the other person.

Would you guys agree with that? Sure. Okay, so if we said that part of the goal from today is to have that feeling of not needing to fix each other, of not being critical, but genuinely feeling like each other's number one fan and genuinely feeling like you believe in the other person, which I know that the great thing is you guys already have this.

But I'm talking about taking it to the next level and feeling that all of the way, uh, without any criticism, without needing to fix the other person at all. What does that feel like? That would be, um, that would be great. Yeah. Now, Scott, if I ask you, you know, when you were saying that There's a part of you that feels like sometimes maybe you deserve the blame or you deserve the criticism.

Can you see that? Mm hmm. And If I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find that feeling, what would you say? I'd say maybe five or six. Great, great. I love your awareness. So What if you actually, what if I told you you don't deserve to criticize yourself? at all, a zero, that it's never going to serve you.

That instead, it's kind of like this. Let's say an infant's learning how to, how to walk, right? A toddler's learning how to walk. So toddlers learning how to walk and they go to stand up and then they fall and they go to walk and then they fall and they go to walk and then they fall and they get back up and they start walking and they fall and they keep going.

And before you know it, they're walking, right? Now, if you think about the brain, the brain is basically in this case, Letting go of what didn't work, holding on to what does work, do more of what does work until you get it, get it, get it, get it, and succeed, right? Now imagine if the toddler says, Oh, I messed up.

I deserve to be criticized. Oh, I didn't do this right. I deserve to be criticized. Oh, I didn't do this right. I deserve to be criticized. What does that look like? Is that more productive, less, or the same? Uh, I would think less productive. Less productive, right? Less productive, not helpful. And by the way, if you're feeling critical of yourself, or blaming self, this, that, the other, how does that feel inside?

Um, that does not feel good. Not feel good. And when you're in that place of feeling off, like even, you know, in the very beginning, you mentioned as far as your work. Now, if I asked you how many times you have gone to work and you're doing your 40 or 50 hours, but you're feeling heavy and off because things just aren't working.

How often have you felt like that? I try not to dwell on it, but, uh, yeah, I mean, probably, uh, the majority of the time over the last several months. I love your awareness.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick note. You know, first and foremost, I love his self awareness and I love his self honesty. Just beautiful. And notice where he said, you know, I'm trying not to dwell on being critical of himself and feeling like he deserves it. It's present most of the time.

And that's what happens with our patterns at a subconscious level is that even when we try not to dwell on them, they can feel heavy or off or distracting, or even just put us in a daze where you're trying to get things done. But the next thing you notice, you're staring off. Into space where time is passing by and you're just unfocused.

You know, there are reasons for that and it has to do with subconscious programming and what it is you're aligned with and even patterns of feeling criticized and being critical of self can definitely create that and so point being is it you won't want to take in feelings that you deserve to be criticized and If you have that pattern you definitely want to change it in the subconscious mind to create a real shift in your life.

And by the way, if you asked me if I've ever worked with anybody who had a major block to money, where self criticism was a big part of the reason why they were stuck, I would say yes, many times. I have worked with people who were losing lots of money or in a really bad financial position or, you know, really struggling to make it by Having them shift their patterns of self criticism genuinely to making great money, making multi six figures, making millions, making money and really flourishing, not just financially, but having abundance in every.

Area of life, you know, spiritual abundance, relationship and love and family, friends, abundance, all of those feelings, feeling good, you know, happiness, abundance, all of those feelings, because that's what true abundance really is. And so self criticism. can keep you from experiencing those very things. And so again, if that is something that you're experiencing in your life, you'll definitely want to shift it in your subconscious mind.

All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Scott and Sarah. Here we go.

So what's happening though, is there's a part of you that's feeling like you deserve to be criticized, feeling like, And so what's happening is then it's that spiral it's and then so when I mentioned a feeling of not liking money idea, obviously, like you wanting money zero to 10 of 50, like I see that I see it clearly.

But if I also ask you to notice the part of you that's frustrated. With money. Um, if I ask you your level, zero to ten, what is that level? Uh, yeah, I, I, I would say money frustration is high, but I don't, I don't know, I don't know why. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and now if I ask you right now to notice a part of you who is a bit self critical right now, even at the idea if you have money frustration that you, there's a feeling of feeling critical of self or judging self.

Can you see that? Okay. Yeah, I think so. A little bit. I love your awareness. So what if you could just say Oh, I see that feeling. I'm going to change that. No self criticism. No feeling bad. I'm not going to feel bad for feeling bad. That would be silly. Why am I going to feel bad for feeling bad? Wait, nope.

Okay. I see it. I see that feeling of frustration. It, it makes sense and I can just change it. I'll just work on changing it. No self judgment, no self criticism at all. I'll just work on changing it. What does that feel like to you? I don't know if I've ever experienced that, but so I imagine if I could, uh, if I could get rid of that, that would be, again, liberating and feel great.

Bingo. Bingo. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. No self judgment and no self criticism. None. And you're not trying to fix you. You're just changing. You're embracing change. You're upgrading, not fixing because you're flawed, but upgrading because you're amazing and transforming. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I'm gonna ask you to take that in, that you're not fixing you, you're upgrading you, you're transforming, and you already are wonderful exactly the way you are, and you're upgrading and transforming, and you're not feeling badly about your patterns, you're not feeling badly at all. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice how that feels.

Yeah, I'm, uh, trying to bring the feeling in. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause the session right here. You know, first and foremost, I love his self awareness and I also love this insight. You know, when you stop and think about it for a moment, what if you really could observe patterns? Okay. Thanks. that you need to change and not feel self critical or bad about it or like you're broken or judge it or make yourself wrong or bad or be disgusted with yourself or shameful or any other negative emotion.

But what if you could just observe and say, Oh, well, that's interesting brain. I should change and then do so, what would that look like in your life? Now that's ultimately. What you'd want to do, because the reality of it is, is, you know, after I healed myself, I didn't stop working on myself. I wanted to do it in other areas and explore my subconscious mind.

And I see that all of the time with other people. I've seen people, you know, heal themselves from all of that. All kinds of things from migraines to autoimmune conditions, to chronic pain, to walking again, to, you know, all kinds of things. And once you start to see the power of your mind and experience it and realize it and realize how tangible it is, then it makes you want to change this pattern and change that pattern.

Like it's empowering and exciting. And so ultimately. 10 years from now, you're going to want to grow and change and transform. And 20 years from now, you're probably going to want to continue growing and changing and transforming and living life to its fullest. You know, just like a tree, a tree doesn't get six feet tall and then stop growing.

It continues to grow. And so ultimately, you know, you want to continue to grow and expand and love more and do more and enjoy more and, you know, just expand. And so. Point being is that if you can do it from a place of loving self and not judging self, it makes the process so much more fun. Plus, it's also healing.

You know, that is part of it. Because if every time you identify a pattern and you feel badly about it, Then, of course, that is part of the problem. And so instead of working on yourself from a place of being self critical, you'll want to genuinely support yourself, being kind, being loving, feeling to yourself, feeling like you've got this self and really feeling that.

inside yourself. All right. And so on that note, I'm actually going to go ahead and pause the session right here, just because there are so many insights already. And so I don't want to overload this episode with too many things. And I want to give you time to digest it and take it in because being kind to yourself and being loving and growing from that place is So important.

All right. So that said, if we look at the takeaways from today's episode, we talked about self blame or blaming others. We talked about self criticism. We talked about relationships and connecting in a way that supports your partner, but allows your partner to grow. And we also talked about being able to not be self critical or judgmental of yourself, but to support yourself from a place of love and kindness and encouragement.

because that will help you to flourish. All right. So that said, I want to invite you to take even just one takeaway from this episode and see if you can apply it to your life. All right. So that said, it has been such a pleasure connecting with you. And I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button.

On this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know. Because the more empowered and happy and healthy that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do make a point to hit the share button. And please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic, loving, rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

We'll see you there.

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As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu