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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love today's episode. Our beautiful volunteer. She just has. Really great self awareness, self honesty, and, and a beautiful heart, a beautiful, beautiful heart and also fear underneath that fear of feeling like people might be mad at her, upset with her.

There's just, there's a lot of vulnerability also, and you know, most people don't realize just how much this can actually affect your health and your life. And something else that's really pivotal that you'll see in today's episode is just that When the mind is miswired, happiness can also backfire. And I'll explain more what that looks like as we dive in, but that's one of the things that I really love about each episode is it's so unique and different and you can see different insights.

Just as each volunteer is going through their process and you can understand the mind at a deeper level, just how counterintuitive it really is. So I love that about today's episode. I love our beautiful volunteer. She just, her heart, she's just, she's so sweet. She's so loving. You're absolutely going to love her.

And so on that note, let's go ahead and dive in with our beautiful volunteer. Here we go.

It is wonderful to connect with you and, and how can I help you today? Beautiful. Well, Brandy, first, I just want to say, I love you so much and I appreciate you so much in your book is amazing and all the You're so generous to share everything you've shared from the book. And I'm just so grateful for that.

And, um, I have Graves autoimmune disease. And so I have a big goiter that you can see. And, um, I've had it for over 20 years, but I have times in my life where I didn't need medicine for 15 years. I would be doing really good, but a few years ago, I had a lot of stress and I flared up. And so I, the medicine has so many side effects.

I've gained some, every time I take the medicine, I gained so much weight. And now I am Practically bald in the back of my head. Okay. And I've lost my sense of smell. And, you know, with graves, you have really bad anxiety, but your program has really helped my anxiety so much. And I've tried, you know, tapping flower remedies.

Everything, all the diets, all the supplements. But I feel that I am doing it in my emotions, and I don't know how to stop. And there's something else. Alright, so let's, let's look at that. So give me one second. Give me one second. So first and foremost, I love you, your beautiful heart. I love your beautiful heart.

Now give me one second. That. That. Bingo. Okay, so there's a feeling in your energy of, um,

a feeling like somebody's mad at you. And I'm not saying they are, but a feeling that you're feeling like somebody's mad at you. Do you know who that is? Um, I have a fear of people being mad at me. Bingo. Okay. And if I ask you zero to ten, how big that fear is, what would you say? Um, a thousand. I was going to say 500, but you're right.

You're right. Uh, so, uh, that's exactly, uh, so again, I was going to say 500. It's very, very, very high. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay, and um,

uh, it's um, bingo. There's somebody specific that I'm looking for, and it might be either a sister, a mother, a daughter. It's a female who's interesting. It's like she's shorter, same size, and taller. And it depends on what times. It's, it's an interesting, my twin sister. Bingo. Thank you. There we go. Thank you.

Okay. And so if I ask you, uh, there's this feeling of feeling like she hates, you know, I'm not saying it's true. I'm saying that there's a, a feeling that you feel that way. Are you familiar with that? At times? Yes, at times. And so, uh, so I love your awareness. And so can you see the part of you that feels like if you're sick and wounded and whatnot that she will be more loving or more kind or not as mad at you than if you're healthy?

Can you see that? Yes, I had the flu in January and she took really good care of me. She doesn't live close to me, but she took care of me. through the phone. She called to make sure I took my medicine. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

So first and foremost, I love your self awareness. I love your self awareness and I'm gonna ask you to breathe

and give me one second.

Bingo.

Now, if I ask you, if you healed completely, let's say you had no health issues at all, do you feel like you would get more love from her or do you feel like you would lose her love?

I don't know. I'm sure I would get more love, but I might not have as much connection. Oh, okay. So the only way you can figure out how to connect with your twin sister is only through illness? No, I can definitely figure out other ways to connect, yes. Okay, okay. Now, notice how much you mentioned even, like you said, you had the flu and how well she was there supporting you, right?

So, how would you create connection in a positive way that you don't need to have the flu to connect? Like instead, what if you were saying to me something like this? Oh, we were talking about our dreams and what we wanted to do. Or we were talking about the things that we love in life, or we were talking about enjoying, or we were talking about wonderful times we had, or going on a vacation together or trip together or a future trip or visiting her or whatnot.

Or you were talking about your children or whatever it is or whatnot. You're talking about something that was fun and exciting. And you were connecting over that. What would that feel like? That was still a lot better. Yeah. Okay. And, uh, bingo, bingo. Now, if I ask you, bingo, um, there's a feeling, bingo, of feeling like she got very upset with you about six years ago.

Do you know what that was from?

And a feeling actually also a feeling like, everybody's mad at me. Can you find that feeling? I can't remember exactly, but she's, she gets mad at me sometimes. I can't remember exactly what it was six years ago. Okay. But there's been times that she's gotten really mad at me. Okay.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just, I love her. I love her heart. I love her self awareness just really. Beautiful. And also, I want you to think about this for a moment, that all of the time, things can get linked up in our subconscious mind that we don't link it up on purpose.

And a simple way to think about this is if you think about Pavlov and the dog. And if you're not familiar with this study, basically researcher Pavlov would ring a bell. And simply put, he would feed the dog at the same time. So he would ring a bell, feed the dog, ring the bell, feed the dog. And what happened is the dog got linked up that anytime the bell was rang, that it was time to eat.

And what would happen is Pavlov could even just. Ring the bell and immediately the dog would start salivating. Now, if you think about it, a bell has nothing to do with eating, but when you get these two linked up, then what happens is the body starts to respond. And so what happens is when we look at this for a moment, obviously this beautiful, beautiful being would not be here working with me if she didn't want to heal herself.

So, she obviously wants to heal, and also you can see there's some underlying conflicting programming that has gotten linked up in her subconscious mind that is now connected to illness keeping, it's got this feeling of connecting with her sister through illness. And so, that gets linked up in her subconscious mind and emotions, and even though she doesn't consciously want it there.

It's linked up. And so that's the type of things that we really need to identify and address and transform to be able to heal. Now, of course, it's even more counterintuitive and there is more to it. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Cheryl. Here we go.

Okay. Now, has she ever gotten really mad at your mom? Um, a few times she did before mom passed away. She got mad at her. Okay, and has she ever been really mad at your dad? Always. Okay, and does she still connect with your dad? No. Okay, and so, if I ask you, bingo,

bingo, if I ask you when she gets really mad, how would you like to handle it? I run away. How would I like to handle it? Um, I would like to help her, you

I feel better and I would like to, I just don't like it when she's angry at me. I don't like it when anybody's angry at me. Okay. And I just feel like running away, but how would I like to handle it? How would you like to handle it?

I would like to not make her mad in the first place. Okay. So, I have a question.

Do you do things that make her mad? When I'm myself and I'm happy, sometimes that makes her mad. Um, she says I'm overbearing or obnoxious. I'm too happy. Okay, so I have a question. How safe does it feel to be happy?

Sometimes it's safe around my husband. Okay. Not around my sister. Okay, so watch this. Okay. So overbearing when you're happy. All right, let's think about this for a moment. Okay, what's the difference between somebody's want you to think about somebody who's Confident right? Mm hmm and somebody who's arrogant.

Is there a difference? Yes little difference or big difference little Difference, I would say big difference Big difference somebody who's confident Could actually be very humble and very secure, very confident, very secure, and so very charismatic. Like, think about somebody who's confident, who's charismatic, nice, connecting, all of that, right?

Mm hmm. So, if somebody's confident and charismatic, how much are they arrogant? Not at all. Not at all. So there's a big difference between confidence and arrogance. Can we agree on that? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and think about the awareness. There's a big difference, right?

Okay. And so, if I ask you, do I seem like a happy person? Yes. Yes. Now, do I seem overbearing? No. No. So, instead of thinking that happiness is the problem, when you think about overbearing, what is that that she's calling overbearing? Is it because you're trying to make her feel happy when you're happy? Maybe.

Yeah. Okay. So, imagine if you're happy. But you're not trying to make her be happy. All

right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, again, I just love her heart. I love her self awareness. Beautiful. And also I have so much compassion for her situation. And what I love about just her self awareness, and I love that you can see how counterintuitive the mind is.

And all of the time I'll have people say, you know, but I'm happy. And, and, you know, and they are. And even my own injury, I felt like I was happy prior to my injury. But I had survivor's guilt. And so in this situation, you can see that she has happiness also linked up to wounding. And it's not that uncommon.

I have worked with other people who have had happiness linked up to fear. And for example, one example that I use is I had worked with a teenager who had been suicidal and couldn't feel happy. And when I worked with this teenager who had been suicidal and going through all these things and in and out of treatment for being suicidal, what I ended up finding in this person's subconscious mind was a feeling of feeling like that he and his brother had been playing at the bus stop at a young age.

They were joking around and playing and playing back and forth. And their mom said, Hey, knock it off. You're going to get hit by the bus. And what linked up was he linked it up in his mind. Oh my gosh, if I'm playing around, if I'm happy, I am not going to pay attention and I am going to get this linked up, you know, I'm going to, I'm going to get hit by a bus.

So he felt like it was not safe at all. For him to be happy and for him to get this linked up in his subconscious mind. Now, of course, it's not necessarily his mom's fault because if you think about it, his brother didn't get it linked up in his mind, his brother was fine being happy, but he got it linked up in his mind.

Oh my gosh, it is not safe to be happy. And so for him, he was very, very depressed and he couldn't, he couldn't find happiness at all because it wasn't safe. And that's what got linked up at his, in his subconscious mind. And then, so if you look at this beautiful, beautiful being where she wants to be happy, and yet she feels like if she is, she's not going to be loved.

And so there's so many subconscious links that we could take this to, and I will, we'll, we'll dive deeper into this, but let's go ahead and dive back in with Cheryl. And what you'll notice is just, there's, there's more to the pattern. There's more to the pattern. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Cheryl.

Here we go. If

I ask you, and you're really, really happy. How much you're trying to make her be happy in the past, what would you say? Yeah, I was probably trying to cheer her up. Okay. I think I remember now what happened six years ago. Okay. Yeah. Okay. And what is that? Um, she broke her knee, and she had to come back to our town for me to help take care of her.

Oh. Thank you. You're welcome. And it was stressful. Okay. Bingo. And you felt like she would left and she was very angry with you. Yes. Bingo. Okay. And so notice for a moment how there's a part of you that has felt a few things that has felt it's not safe to be too happy because then you'll be quote unquote overbearing.

Yes. Okay. Yeah. Now, would you agree? So if we use that again, the, the, the, the Comparison to confidence. Would you agree that some people, when they feel confident They then become arrogant, like they're superior to everybody. No. Okay. Some people do. They can, yeah. Yep. Some people might go, Oh, confident. Oh, well now I'm superior to everybody.

In which case they end up sabotaging things, et cetera. But some people, they feel confident and they do so from a place of feeling just secure in themselves. Right. Does that make sense? Okay. So moving forward. In your state of being happy, could you be happy without being overbearing? Without controlling others or trying to make others make, trying to make others be like you?

Oh yeah, there's definitely times I'm happy that it doesn't, but my ex husband would get mad at me for being happy too. So, oh, so what you're saying is you feel like you have a pattern? Okay, now I want you to notice something. Let's say you were happy. And you were just genuinely happy in life. How much would that make him mad?

Um, well, we're, I don't see him anymore, but then he would, it would make him very mad. Why would he, no, no, but why, what part would make him mad? Um, Because he was miserable and he felt bad and he would say, I hate you for waking up in such a good mood. Okay. Now, is it because when you woke up, you were trying to force your emotions on him?

Um, it was just because I've just used to always be really happy. And I would just sing and dance in the mornings and I took care of kids and I liked. To have fun with them, and so I'll just always be in a good mood. Okay, and he just hated that. Okay, so bingo.

So notice for a moment a few things. Bingo. Number one is this. There's a pattern of feeling like people don't like for you to be happy. Right? You can see that pattern. Yeah. Okay. Now I would say this pattern started from age five. Yeah. Okay. So I would say, now it's kind of like this. Let's say there's a woman with an abusive father who leaves him, finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, etc, etc.

Right? Yeah. So what that means What that means is all men are abusive, right? They're all abusive alcoholics. Is that true? No, no, it's not. It means that there's a pattern of attracting a certain type of person and connection, right? Right. Okay. So what I would say is this. Is there's a part of you who is afraid of making people mad and is linked up that if you're going to be happy, that it makes people mad to be happy.

Right. Make sense? Yeah. Okay. Now if I said, I want to be happy, but I feel like it's going to make people mad, but I really want to be happy, but I feel like it's going to make people mad. And by the way, I'm afraid of people being mad at me. Does that sound like healthy programming? No, it's not healthy, right?

The other thing is, is that then if somebody has it linked up that they get more love and connection if they have problems, if they're not happy, but they have problems and they're miserable and they're going through hard times, et cetera, then they can see how that all gets linked up. Does that make sense?

Yes. Yes. I love your awareness. I love your awareness. And by the way, bingo, you can see how this is also written into chapter 13 in the book where we see that exact, the scenarios of feeling like it's not safe to heal or whatnot, what the MBSS needs, right? So the great thing is, is you can see that it's also textbook in the book, right?

Right. Okay. So, uh, bingo. All right. So give me one second.

So, Let me ask you, would you rather hang out with somebody and connect with somebody who's happy or somebody who's miserable? Definitely. Happy. Definitely. Definitely. And so would most people rather connect with somebody who's happy? Or miserable. Happy. Okay. So would you be willing to start transforming this pattern that instead of feeling this way and telling yourself, quote unquote, like all men are abusive or something like that instead, and not feeling sorry for yourself, not feeling sorry for yourself, not feeling bad for yourself, not feeling any of those things.

but instead transforming this. What would that look like? Oh, that would look marvelous. That's definitely marvelous. And I want you to picture what it would look like that you see yourself walking around and connecting with people and they love that you're happy. They love that you're happy. And it is safe and is wonderful.

They love that you're happy. You love that they're happy and it's beautiful.

All right. So let's go ahead and actually pause the session right here. Just because when you think about it for a moment, you can see the pattern, the unfortunate pattern in her life, not only with her sister, but with her ex husbands. This has been a real theme in her life. Now, the thing of it is, is that.

Most people don't even realize it's there. For example, she mentioned she's been working on trying to heal herself, and she didn't even realize this pattern was here. And yet, look at how much hurt it has caused her. And so, a lot of times these patterns can be so subconscious and also so real. painful at the same time.

Now, another pattern that I've seen regarding happiness is I've seen basically, like, for example, a mom who feels like if she's happy then, and her kids aren't as happy, then it's not fair. So she's afraid to be happy, or I've seen people before where they feel like, oh, well, if my sister is depressed, I can't be happy, because that would be, you know, All of the time I've seen people who feel like if they're happy or successful or loved or in a great relationship that somebody might be jealous or not like them or not connect with them and, and that it can get linked up in the subconscious mind.

And it's unbelievable. controlling them and they don't even realize it. And so on that, for that very reason, I want to pause it right here. And I want to invite you to look at this in your life and make sure that you feel like it is safe. It is wonderful. It is great to be happy, to be healthy, to be loved, to feel successful in your life, that it feels good and that you really genuinely feel good about it.

Feel like you can connect with others. in a wonderful, positive way. So that's what I want to invite you to look at and look at creating this change. Because if you think about it for a moment, by the way, notice how we're moving it forward. And on the last IQ episode, we talked about this very thing that moving it forward, repatterning the mind moving forward is so key and it is a huge insight that many people overlook.

They don't see it at the level that it's needed. that they need to, to create that transformation. And so for that reason, again, we're pausing it right here, pausing the session, then on next week's episode, we're going to continue with Cheryl. And I think you might be surprised at really what comes up at a deeper level.

So there's a lot of just further insights and deeper awareness to the shift that just, it'll really touch your heart. So just a beautiful, beautiful being. And I'm looking forward to diving into that. But for now, that's I invite you to look at this, to, to look at this change in your life and see if this applies to you.

And so that said also, by the way, um, I do look forward to connecting with you next week, but if you could take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more that every single person in our world is happy and healthy and loved and loving you.

And living life to its fullest. The better this world is for all of us. And so please do hit the share button and please do make sure to have a most wonderful, happy, healthy rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you for the next half of the session, the next half of the session in the next episode.

I'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart or helped them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about, or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone.

What we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life, if you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible.

And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast.

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

Thank you.