Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible.
The placebo is proof of this. Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their minds. And then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.
Let’s begin.
A Sweet and Playful Episode with Kelly
Hello and happy, beautiful day to you. Today’s episode is profound and also fun—or funny or playful—but it’s just, it’s so sweet. Our volunteer, her name is Kelly. You’re absolutely going to love her and also the insights that come from the episode.
Part of the insights, part of where we’re going, is this: it’s the feeling of really feeling the confidence to believe in yourself, to believe in what you believe in, and owning that, and being yourself.
And that’s part of it. And you can see how, as we step into this episode today, as we step into this session, you can see how healing it can actually be to feel good about being you and feel good about your decisions. So that’s part of where we’re going, but there are also so many profound insights.
Insights from My Own Journey
One insight is this: you know, going through my injury, I kept thinking to myself, “Well, if the mind affects the physical body, and if stress affects the physical body, then how is it possible that there are some people who are really, really, really stressed, and they’re not sick? And there are other people who are happy—who are happy and wonderful—and they have pain, or illness, or problems?”
And I thought, “Well, what is going on?” And what was happening, of course, is that there were key factors in the subconscious mind that are affecting mind-body healing. And so that may sound a little bit complex, but don’t worry—we’ll unpack it as we go.
But in short, one of the things that you’ll notice is that our volunteer is really happy and in love and sweet and precious and laughing. I mean, it’s just so beautiful and precious and fun, and also in pain, and having subconscious emotions that are suppressed in the subconscious mind. And so that’s where we’re going now.
A Note About Today’s Volunteer
Before we step in, I do want to mention one other thing. Most of the time when I work with a volunteer, I’ve never met them before. However, in this case, I’ve met this volunteer before—we had lunch—but we’ve met before and talked a few times.
Point being, you’ll notice there’s some extra playful, silly banter, if you will, in this, which is fun. And I just always want to be honest: I have met her before. And so we’re not coming in brand new, but definitely fun and so, so, so sweet. You’re absolutely going to love her. Her name is Kelly. And on that note, let’s go ahead and dive into her session. Here we go.
Starting the Session: Meeting Kelly
Brandy: That is better. I can hear you now. I’m doing fantastic, thank you. How are you?
Kelly: Good. Thank you so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Brandy: I’m so grateful.
Kelly: You’re so, so, so, so welcome, and beautiful, and I adore you, and let’s do this.
Brandy: Oh, I’m excited. Let’s do this. All right, here we go.
Brandy: So, what all is physically going on right now? What pain, what’s going on?
Kelly: A little pain in my back.
Brandy: Okay.
Kelly: It feels a little bit like there’s a board stapled to my back. I don’t recommend that for anybody.
Laughter.
Brandy: I know.
Kelly: So that’s where my pain is living, is in my back.
Brandy: Okay.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: And what’s your what? When I’m—it’s not horrible, but do you want me to stand and see what it normally is?
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: Um, I would say like a five, but—
Kelly: A five, four, yeah, four.
Brandy: So bingo. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Quick Note
Brandy: All right. So, let’s go ahead and pause this just for a very quick moment. I wanted to let you know something as we dive in, and it’s this: as I start working with her, you might notice she’s kind of more quiet and waiting to see what I see. So, she’s not sharing that much of her story.
Now, you might initially think that that is because I mentioned I’ve met her before, but it’s something else going on. And it’s this: there’s something that she’s feeling shame and guilt about, something that she feels like she’s doing something wrong.
Now, the thing of it is, she’s not. But she feels that way, and that’s part of the reason I opened this up with, you know, believing in yourself and what you’re doing and having that confidence. And so what’s happening is, you’ll notice she’s quiet and not sharing that much, laughing a lot. There’s a nervousness to what’s coming up also.
And again, she’s not doing anything wrong, but she has a deeper feeling that she is. So much so, by the way, you’ll also notice that when I bring up the topic, her pain actually triggers up instead of down. And so that’s where we’re going, but I just wanted you to—because you might be coming in saying, “Okay, well, what’s going on?” And that’s kind of the feel of it for a moment. So just letting you know that.
And, of course, I just absolutely love her. I love her laugh. I love her self-awareness. And at first, by the way, she doesn’t see the specific patterns. But as we go deeper, that’s when she starts to see them and also when they start to trigger. And so that’s where we’re going as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Kelly. Here we go.
Exploring Frustration with Healing
Brandy: And if I ask you, zero to ten, how much there’s a part of you that’s felt a little bit frustrated with God? Zero to ten?
Kelly: I’ve been feeling really great lately. So, right now, not so much.
Brandy: Okay. So if I—when it comes to healing and what—
Kelly: Oh, yes. Yeah. Oh, I was thinking the Steve stuff. No, when it comes to—yeah, I’m frustrated. I’ve been praying for a miracle. I believe in miracles. I’ve witnessed them the last 25 years of my job, and I want one.
Brandy: Okay.
Kelly: So I’m frustrated.
Brandy: Case. And if I said, “I’m frustrated that there hasn’t been a miracle. I’m frustrated that there hasn’t been a miracle,” what is my feeling?
Kelly: A low vibration.
Brandy: Okay, so frustration, right? Breathe. Now, if I had told you that somebody’s having anxiety, they’re having anxiety and they’re having a panic attack, an anxiety and a panic attack, do they need a miracle to change their emotions?
Kelly: They need to change their emotions.
Brandy: But would they rather just have a miracle or emotions the same?
Kelly: I don’t think so.
Shifting Perspectives on Miracles
Brandy: All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her laughter. I love her self-awareness. She’s just absolutely beautiful. And also, talking about the topic of miracles for a moment—I mean, let’s be honest, we all love a miracle. Miracles are fantastic.
And also, though, when it comes to healing, if we think about knowing how it works, you know, with a miracle, like how to make a miracle happen, it can feel spontaneous. But when we start to really just understand the logic behind it, it becomes a lot easier.
And so even when we look at, you know, if we simplify it and look at it in a really simple way—if we think about different emotions affecting the body differently, you know, if somebody’s embarrassed, their face turns red, or panic attack, racing heart, shortness of breath, or, you know, if somebody feels disgust, they might feel sick to their stomach.
We can see different emotions affect the body in a different way, or sexual thought creates a sexual physical response. And so ultimately, what we’re doing is, you know, looking at the specifics.
So, the reason I bring this up is because a lot of times with this, with our beautiful volunteer, like miracles—and don’t get me wrong, miracles are fun. We talk more about miracles. Miracles are fun and wonderful. And also though, when it comes to healing, the reason that I’ve been able to show people how to get back-to-back-to-back-to-back results and release pain, even under medical equipment, is because of looking at the specifics.
And so that’s where we’re going—looking at the specifics. What specifically is impacting her? And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Kelly. Here we go.
Exploring Guilt Around Living Arrangements
Brandy: Get a breath. And do you need a miracle or an emotion?
Kelly: Wait a sec.
Brandy: How’s your life going?
Kelly: Amazing.
Brandy: Life is amazing?
Kelly: The pain is not amazing. The life is amazing. Life is amazing.
Brandy: So do you need—right now? So I’m going to ask you to breathe. So I’m going to ask you to be willing to change the frustration. And also, I’m going to ask you to change the guilt.
Brandy: Okay, so if I ask you, zero to ten, how much you feel guilty for feeling like life is amazing, what would you say?
Kelly: Gosh, I feel great that life is amazing. I don’t know. Guilt? Uh, life is amazing? No, I want it—no. I don’t know. If it’s there, it’s buried.
Brandy: Okay, so I’m going to ask you to change the guilt.
Kelly: Okay.
Brandy: So you moved in with your friend, correct?
Kelly: Okay.
Brandy: Or you guys moved in together rather? So I’m going to ask you to breathe. I want you to think about around that.
Kelly: I had a lot. I’ve, like, I’ve done a lot of work to just be happy.
Brandy: Okay. If I ask you, do you feel like people would criticize you more if you moved in with a roommate or if you moved in with your boyfriend?
Kelly: With my boyfriend.
Brandy: Okay. Wait, wait, wait, you—but you did all. So how can you criticize—wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, there’s a gift. So I’m going to ask you—bingo.
Brandy: So I want you to know and trust for a moment. You see the difference between the—so I’m going to ask you to breathe. I want you to picture just when it was the same, it’s completely the same. Like, if you moved in with a friend, cool, great. If you moved in with your boyfriend, neither way, and you’re going to criticize you, right?
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: What would that feel like?
Kelly: Good.
Brandy: How good?
Kelly: Great. Just amazing. Free.
Brandy: So how upset with you?
Kelly: Probably zero.
Brandy: Probably zero? Like if I said I’m going to move in with a friend.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: How many people are going to be mad at me?
Kelly: Right.
Brandy: Right. Exactly. So why would you say probably zero or definitely zero? Who would be mad at you for that?
Kelly: Yeah. Zero.
Brandy: Like honestly, if you moved in with a friend, how many people do you expect would be mad at you?
Kelly: Zero.
Brandy: So why is a boyfriend then probably zero?
Kelly: Great. Great.
Brandy: So I’m going to ask you to breathe. So zero and zero people mad at you?
Kelly: Zero?
Brandy: Zero. Great. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Brandy: Great. Do you want to stand up and notice your level of pain?
Recognizing the Mind-Body Connection in Action
Brandy: All right. So let’s go ahead and pause it just for two very fast insights. First and foremost, notice that these feelings of feeling like somebody might be mad at her can actually cause illness or create pain, and a lot of people don’t realize that.
Sometimes people will have subconscious feelings of feeling like, “So and so is mad at me” or “People are mean” or different emotions at a deeper level in the subconscious mind that are actually in some way fueling or contributing to illness.
And of course, it takes a combination. So there are a lot of times—you’ll hear me say all of the time it’s like a recipe, meaning that just like if somebody wants to make cake and they have flour, they can’t make cake. But if they mix it with flour and eggs and butter—or vegan eggs and butter or whatnot—then they can make cake. So it’s the ingredients, if you will, those combinations.
So this can be part of that combination—feeling like people are mad at you, so to speak.
Now, another thing you’ll notice is that she is so in love, and she is so excited about moving in with her boyfriend. And so there are all of these wonderful, wonderful, wonderful feelings that she’s suppressing—these feelings of guilt and feelings of feeling like people are going to be mad at her.
So she’s suppressing them so much. And by the way, I mean, let’s be honest, if you feel intensely happy or intensely excited about something, it can suppress or make it easier to even suppress or hide other emotions that don’t feel good.
And so that’s part of the thing. Because she is so happy, it’s hard to identify what’s really going on at a deeper level. It’s like she can’t see it except for as I’m taking her through this process, she’s of course gaining even more clarity.
And so I just, again, I just—I love awareness. I love her heart and her sense of humor. Just beautiful.
What you’ll notice coming up is just as we go deeper into it, you’ll see more how the pattern has kind of been all around her in some ways. All right, so let’s go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Kelly. Here we go.
Unpacking the Emotional Triggers
Brandy: Yeah, it’s there. It doesn’t feel like it’s gone down.
Kelly: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: If I ask you, has it gone up?
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: Maybe a little?
Kelly: Yes.
Brandy: What’s your level on that?
Kelly: It went up about two.
Brandy: Five, six?
Kelly: Three, six, seven, somewhere in there.
Brandy: Yeah.
Kelly: Yep, yep.
Brandy: It’s a good thing. This is not connected at all. It feels completely resolved. Nothing here.
Kelly: Okay.
Brandy: All right. I received that contrast.
Kelly: I love you.
Brandy: I love you. I love you. I love your awareness so much.
Brandy: Now, you said this is resolved, right? So it’s the same if you were to move in with a friend, and if you were to move in with a boyfriend. Same, same. Nobody’s going to be upset.
Kelly: I thought it was—I thought it was until you called me out, and then I’m not. So now I’m like, well, I’m not.
Brandy: So now you have to change?
Kelly: You get to change.
Brandy: I get to change.
Brandy: Breathe.
Humor as a Tool for Transformation
Brandy: So we were talking about how your life feels amazing right now and how you have no guilt about it at all. Remember that?
Kelly: I think that’s where we… okay, that’s, that’s… that’s great.
Brandy: I adore you so much.
Kelly: I adore you so much.
Brandy: Be honest.
Kelly: I totally and absolutely… and it’s not calling you on your stuff. I’m trying to make sure your mind sees it because if I see it, but you don’t see it, it’s not helpful.
Brandy: And by the way, I think it’s so perfect that you didn’t see it. Do you want to know why?
Kelly: Why?
Brandy: Because nobody does. I didn’t see my own stuff. And that’s the reason why it’s a subconscious mind, right? It’s below consciousness.
Kelly: Right.
Brandy: So, but just being playful and helping you to see it, right?
Kelly: Absolutely. Absolutely.
Brandy: So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Managing Negative Emotions
Brandy: All right. So let’s go ahead and pause it just for a very quick moment. We’re being silly and playful, and I’m purposely doing that, purposely making her laugh and just carrying on in this way because, let’s be honest, if you start to go into negative emotions, what can happen?
As you’re seeing, it can increase the pain, it can increase the problem, right? And so I know that, and I feel that, and there’s that nervousness around her with these emotions, even admitting that she’s living with him, is of course increasing more of the negative emotions, if you will.
And so there’s a reason that I’m being playful and being very silly. My point is that when you’re working with your own emotions and your own mindset, if you can be lighthearted and playful, or you see something and go, “Oh my gosh, I felt that,” let’s be honest—it’s so much better than sometimes what people will do, which is criticize themselves.
You don’t want to feel frustrated for feeling frustrated, or guilty for feeling guilty. So not amplifying the negative emotions is key. And if you can have a light, playful feeling with your mind, where you start looking at your subconscious mind and emotions and you say, “Oh my God, I can’t believe I believe that. Oh, I’ll have to change that,” just that lightheartedness can go a long way for starting to create that change.
And also, you know, help you to just have fun with working on your mind, working on yourself. Because what happens is the more that every single person—and the more that you—get good with your own mind, I mean, it becomes pivotal. It’s life-changing. You can heal yourself, change your life, change your relationships. I mean, it’s just incredible.
And so if you can develop a playful sense of humor when you’re doing and working on yourself and your emotions and subconscious programming, it’s powerful and empowering. So just food for thought as we dive back in with beautiful Kelly. Here we go.
Brandy: And I love your self-awareness. And I’m going to ask you to breathe and just acknowledge—your self-awareness is great. You’re seeing it. You’re seeing it. Awesome. Awesome.
Brandy: Now, the great thing is your pain even went up! So now you can even see—it’s connected! Yay!
Laughter.
Kelly: Ohhh!
Brandy: Okay, now of course! Other way is where we need to go. So, but at least we see the connection. Mind-body connection established.
Kelly: Oh my God.
Brandy: You’re great. All right. I’m just going to breathe.
Addressing Guilt and Criticism
Brandy: And most people, you know, if they were two mature adults that had been in a long-term relationship—
Kelly: Seven years.
Brandy: What’s that?
Kelly: Seven years.
Brandy: Well, don’t jump into anything too quick. I can’t believe you made this decision on a whim. Seven years. Okay. So breathe.
Brandy: And if I ask you, why so much guilt? Why? Why expecting criticism?
Kelly: Oh.
Brandy: He’s a horrible person, isn’t he? He’s just, he’s horrible.
Kelly: No!
Brandy: Am I right? He’s just mean.
Kelly: I don’t want to go into a story.
Brandy: Okay. It’s come from a church paradigm of guilt.
Brandy: Yep. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Shifting Emotions Around Parental Judgment
Brandy: All right. So let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, I just absolutely love her. And the insight that I want to share with you is this: notice for a moment, I’m being playful in that, “Oh, her father’s really scary,” because she does have all of these fearful emotions. And yet, when I feel into her father’s energy, he’s the sweetest guy. He just feels so sweet.
Sometimes this can be a challenge when it comes to healing, is that, you know, when your rational mind says, “I shouldn’t feel this way,” a lot of times we negate our emotions without really changing them. And I did that during my injury. You know, I had different emotions of, oh, expecting to die and feeling like I was going to die. And I thought, well, that doesn’t make any sense—I’m safe. And I just kind of kept ignoring it because I thought it was ridiculous.
But then I started to realize if the thought continued to come up, it could only mean one thing—that it was in my subconscious mind. And that instead of just saying, “Oh, well, it doesn’t even make sense,” and brushing it aside, I needed to actually rewire my subconscious mind.
And so that was pivotal in understanding that. And so here I’m being playful with her about her father because she’s feeling all these fearful feelings, and yet he feels like a teddy bear. He’s just so sweet. So emotions don’t make logical sense. But even if they don’t make logical sense, for healing and transformation so often, those are the emotions that we also need to change—which becomes a little tricky.
So that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful Kelly. Here we go.
Changing Deep-Seated Beliefs
Brandy: And we have our old beliefs, right? I mean, a lot of us grew up believing that Santa Claus came once a year down the chimney, and we should leave milk and cookies out for him, right? I mean, we all grow up with beliefs that we then have to change, right?
Kelly: Right.
Brandy: Okay. So you shouldn’t have to change yours. Instead, look for a miracle, right?
Laughter.
Brandy: Okay, so I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Brandy: Now, if somebody else was in a relationship for seven years with their boyfriend and then—how horrible is that?
Kelly: I’d be really happy for them.
Brandy: I’d be really happy for them too.
Kelly: Congratulations.
Brandy: Yes, congratulations.
Brandy: But who do you think they’re harming by moving in together? How many people were injured?
Kelly: Let’s say zero.
Brandy: Okay, zero.
Brandy: So, now if I ask you, honestly, zero to ten, if you moved in with a friend, how much do you expect people would be mad at you?
Kelly: Zero.
Brandy: Zero. Now, honestly, zero to ten, how much there’s a part of you that expects that if you move in with a boyfriend, people will be mad at you? Honestly.
Kelly: Five.
Brandy: Okay. So I would assume—maybe what? Maybe ten.
Kelly: I, I like the range.
Brandy: I would have said put an eight, nine, ten in there.
Kelly: Yeah, yeah.
Brandy: Yep, yep.
Brandy: And out of curiosity, are you guys committed?
Kelly: Yes, yes, yes, yes.
Brandy: Okay. So what you’re saying is you didn’t get a state-certified marriage, and you’re not quote-unquote married, so you’re feeling this guilt for it and it’s bad, right?
Kelly: Well, I didn’t know that it was, but subconsciously, I apparently am.
Brandy: So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Exploring Religious Beliefs and Their Impact
Brandy: Well, okay. So if you were married—somebody moves in with their husband—zero to ten, how much guilt or criticism would they expect to feel?
Kelly: I don’t know. Zero.
Brandy: Okay. So friend is zero, husband is zero, boyfriend is ten. Five to ten is what you said.
Kelly: Because of a religious belief that I’ve held for a long time.
Brandy: Okay.
Kelly: Now I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Brandy: It’s causing me a lot of physical pain.
Kelly: Bingo. So your belief has caused physical pain, right?
Kelly: That’s—yeah, I mean.
Brandy: Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Kelly: When? Belief—like when I was like 30.
Brandy: Okay, great.
Kelly: So like at least six months ago.
Brandy: Six months ago. Yeah.
Brandy: So breathe, and I want you to think about what makes sense for your life. What rule makes sense for your life? Like honestly, if you were to write the rules and say, “This is what I think makes sense,” love—what would it be?
Kelly: What? Love? Just love.
Brandy: Just love?
Kelly: Praise Him. Love.
Brandy: That’s horrible.
Kelly: Okay.
Brandy: God would agree with that?
Kelly: Love.
Brandy: Yes. Relationship with God?
Kelly: I think so.
Brandy: Great.
Kelly: So do you think a lot—I think we’re in a relationship.
Brandy: Great.
Kelly: What’s that?
Brandy: I think we’re in a relationship.
Brandy: Exactly. So do you think, based on your relationship with God, that God would say love is together, right?
Kelly: It’s the best reason.
Brandy: I do.
Kelly: The best reason.
Brandy: And by the way, as moving in together, would you say it’s amplified more love?
Kelly: Yes.
Brandy: Okay. So it’s that?
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: No, no, no. It only has created more.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: It’s created more love, right?
Kelly: More grief.
Brandy: So does that make sense to you?
Kelly: You?
Brandy: That part?
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: Great.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: Great. So I’m going to ask you to stand up.
Noticing Shifts in Pain Levels
Brandy: I’m going to ask you to notice your level of pain. What’s your level?
Kelly: Oh, gosh, like a five, six.
Brandy: Bingo.
Kelly: Okay.
Brandy: So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Brandy: Now I want you to notice as we’re talking about this topic, the level of panic of even admitting that you’re living with your boyfriend and how there’s a nerve-wracking part to it.
Brandy: Most people have that, right? They’re like, “I’m living with my boyfriend, please.”
Kelly: Most people.
Brandy: I would not think—I could see some people being messed up. I’m not trying to be mean to my—I could see some people having just disordered thinking, whatever, around it. But I would say most people probably don’t.
Kelly: Okay, if I was like, “Don’t tell anybody, but I moved in, in a relationship because we’re in love…”
Brandy: Maybe you could celebrate that.
Kelly: Right.
Brandy: Maybe you could celebrate that.
Kelly: Maybe. Yeah.
Brandy: So bingo.
Brandy: So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Brandy: And number one, I want you to be strong.
Standing Confidently in Your Decisions
Brandy: I have a question. Does everybody in the world believe in your religious beliefs?
Kelly: No.
Brandy: No.
Brandy: But do you believe strongly in your religious beliefs as a core?
Kelly: Some of them.
Brandy: Some of them.
Kelly: Now—
Brandy: Bingo.
Kelly: Not all.
Brandy: What?
Kelly: Not all.
Brandy: Okay. So I have a question. What about if somebody said there’s no such thing as mirrors?
Kelly: What?
Brandy: What would you say?
Kelly: I would say, “Your system, not mine.”
Brandy: Well, I mean, I believe in them. So yes. So would you stand firmly behind your belief?
Kelly: A thousand percent.
Brandy: A thousand percent.
Brandy: So what if somebody else does not believe in God—there’s no God—would you agree with them? Would you say, “Oh, they might be right”?
Kelly: No.
Brandy: Would you be afraid of their criticism if they said, “Oh, you believe in God?” Or would you stand firmly behind what you feel about believing in God?
Kelly: Yeah, I would stand firmly behind that.
Brandy: Okay. So could you stand just as firmly behind your decision to move in together and say, “This is right, it makes sense, we’ve been in a committed, long relationship, he’s a great person. It makes sense, it’s good for both anybody, and we’re good”?
Kelly: It’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me.
Brandy: So could you stand firmly behind your decision?
Kelly: Yes.
Brandy: Even if somebody says, “There is no God,” are you going to be like, all upset by it or criticized, or do you stand firmly behind your decision?
Kelly: Stand firmly behind it.
Brandy: So if somebody even said, “Oh, I don’t think you should be living together,” could you stand firmly behind your decision that says, “You know what? It’s not hurting anybody. There’s nothing against it. It makes sense, and you feel like you’re doing the right thing.” Could you stand firmly behind that?
Kelly: Thousand percent.
Brandy: What?
Kelly: Thousand percent.
Brandy: And ask you to breathe.
Resolving Emotional Conflicts
Brandy: So if I said, “Oh, boyfriend,” could you say, “Yes, heck yes, I do. And it’s great. And it’s fantastic. And I think that if somebody is in a committed relationship and they feel like it’s best for them, I think they should do it, and there’s no need to worry about criticism.” Does that make any sense?
Kelly: That feels good.
Brandy: Great. So I’m going to ask you to breathe. Could you find it a thousand percent?
Kelly: Yes.
Brandy: Great. So I’m going to ask you to breathe and stand up.
Observing Pain Levels
Brandy: I think it’s a little lower, but not by much.
Kelly: Okay. Yep.
Brandy: Maybe like a four.
Kelly: What’s that?
Brandy: Four.
Kelly: Five.
Brandy: Okay. I would have said about a level—bingo—I would say about a four. Four.
Kelly: Two.
Brandy: Okay. Okay. Bingo.
Brandy: So bingo. And can you give me your dad’s first initial?
Kelly: T.
Brandy: Bingo.
Kelly: T wants me to be married.
Brandy: Okay. Okay. Tell T to be patient.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Breaking Down Expectations Around Family
Brandy: And most people do it.
Kelly: Uh, no, no, no.
Brandy: Yes. And for so many, the generation, the change, the this, the that—so for a moment, have you ever seen your dad just pretty much disown? Have you seen him do that?
Kelly: No.
Brandy: So you’re going to be the first?
Kelly: No, I’ve never seen my dad do that.
Brandy: You expect that he’s just going to do that with you?
Kelly: No.
Brandy: He’s going to abandon you because you didn’t get married?
Kelly: Nope.
Brandy: No, he’s—he’s here for it.
Kelly: So what do you think?
Brandy: He’s going to like—he’s—you.
Kelly: No, he’ll just be, he’ll just—just he can just be frustrated.
Brandy: He can be concerned.
Kelly: He can have all—he’s good.
Brandy: Or he could get to know your boyfriend and realize it’s okay.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: He could learn to—
Kelly: He loves him.
Brandy: So he could just learn to accept it.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: So notice the difference when I’m like, you know what? T could learn to accept it. He could get used to it. The idea could be okay. You’re like, he could be frustrated. He could just be angry.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: What?
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: Notice.
Tracking Emotional and Physical Progress
Brandy: Now, by the way, what’s your level of pain right now?
Kelly: It’s going up.
Brandy: Uh-huh.
Brandy: You see the connection, right?
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: So why do you do this?
Brandy: Do you think your dad is the type that he’s going to get more and more and more upset and frustrated, or he’s going to be more with everything?
Kelly: Uh, more and more.
Brandy: Okay. Ah.
Brandy: So how would that feel?
Kelly: Good.
Brandy: So if you knew the hard part was—right—and things were right, how would you feel?
Kelly: Good.
Brandy: So if you just got—
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: Issue.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Brandy: So how dangerous is your dad, do you think? Like, I’m wondering, should I be afraid of your dad?
Kelly: He’s mean. He’s like—
Brandy: My dad is 5’8, 82 years old, still works full time.
Kelly: Little guy.
Brandy: Sweetheart?
Kelly: Is he a sweet guy?
Kelly: Yeah, he is.
Brandy: Oh, he’s—he’s the most loving person ever. Always doing things.
Kelly: Yeah.
Brandy: Are we afraid of him?
Kelly: He’s never abandoned anybody.
Brandy: You expect to become more and more okay, but what’s—what’s the issue?
Brandy: Cue to breathe.
Pain Levels Start to Decrease
Brandy: It went down a little bit from when it spiked.
Kelly: It did?
Brandy: Yeah.
Kelly: Okay.
Brandy: So if I ask you, what’s your level?
Kelly: Um, probably like three, four.
Brandy: Bingo. That’s what I’d say. Bingo.
Kelly: I got about a 3.2, right in there.
Brandy: So it’s going down.
Kelly: Great.
Brandy: So, so it’s going down. Okay.
Brandy: So I’m going to ask you to—and I want you to picture what it looks like if your dad is completely accepting of all of it. Like just time goes by. It’s easy. It’s in flow. It’s easy. He’s gotten used to it. He accepts it. Okay. He trusts your boyfriend and it just is, and everything’s safe and everything’s good.
Brandy: What does that look like?
A Moment of Reflection
Brandy: All right. So I want to go ahead and actually pause the session right here. I just, I love her. I love her self-awareness. I love her self-honesty. Just brilliant, just beautiful. And her laughter—just, I mean, just wonderful. Her heart, everything.
Brandy: And I also love this insight, and it is profound. And I want you to notice, if you listen to last week’s episode, the same type of insight, if you will, came up, but in another way. Meaning this—meaning that here we’re talking about being willing to believe in what she believes in, to stand for what she believes in and what she knows is right, and to be able to feel good about that—not guilty, not bad, not fearful, but good about it, right?
Brandy: Now, if you recall last week’s episode, I worked with a beautiful volunteer, Anne, who was experiencing neck pain, who we helped her to shift and use her mindset. And one of the things that she felt was that her mother had called her lazy.
Brandy: And if you recall, if you listened to that episode, I was joking around saying, “Well, if I called you an elephant, would you believe it?” You know, and we were laughing.
Brandy: But as we were being silly about it, there’s also an important point from it that we’re getting divine timing right now. Because notice this is back-to-back episodes with the same type of information, if you will—the same profound insight, which is: make sure to believe in yourself.
Final Insights and Takeaways
Brandy: Yes, you want things to be logical. Yes, you want them to make sense. You know, yes, you want to understand facts and what’s happening and all of that. And you want to use that logic.
Brandy: And when you come to a conclusion, when you decide to make a change, or you’re doing something in your life, be willing to stand for it without feeling afraid. You know, have the confidence or the security to believe in you.
Brandy: And I think, you know, when we stop and think about it for a moment, that’s part of the message that wants to come through right now. It’s exactly that.
Brandy: You can see that she’s feeling fear from her father, and that doesn’t really make sense. But also when she really looks at her ideas or thoughts regarding the Bible, she’s stuck feeling like she’s supposed to be married first before she lives with her boyfriend, who she’s been with for seven years, you know.
Brandy: And when you stop and think about it, I mean, I think the first marriage ceremony online—or that we can recall, the first marriage ceremony—was somewhere like 2000 BC.
Brandy: So there’s that.
Brandy: So, it’s—you know, when you think about it, there are so many different beliefs. And so my point is that we can hold those beliefs. And I would invite you to notice and feel strongly about what you believe in, in a positive way—not in a way that is harmful to others or angry or negative towards others—but if there’s a positive belief that you hold or that you have that is beneficial, to really stand behind that and feel good about that.
Brandy: I’m going to pause the session here for today, and next week we’ll dive deeper into Kelly’s journey and the remaining parts of her session.
Closing Reflections on Belief and Healing
Brandy: And, you know, one thing that we can do in this place where you want to really change your mindset and believe in yourself and feel good about it is also—again, apply logic.
Brandy: And this is what I would say is what you could do with your mind—something like this is—with so much respect to the Bible, let’s be honest. We can say that some things in the Bible—you hear me quote the Bible all the time where I say, you know, “A merry heart is a medicine; ill thoughts will dry the bones,” which is basically heart—so happiness, you know, is good for your body, healing, and ill thoughts will dry the bones.
Brandy: So there’s some really profound insights from the Bible. But there are also things in the Bible that say you can have slaves. It says you can sell your daughter. And, you know, there are some things in there that don’t make great sense.
Bridging Beliefs to Modern Day
Brandy: And also, I think for me, each part of the Bible has such a different tone that I would say that it’s all such a different tone. I would have to believe that God has multiple personality disorders to align fully with it and to the T of every word.
Brandy: Now again, because I can have absolute respect—and there are people, and I grew up with the Bible—and, you know, so much respect for it.
Brandy: But again, that doesn’t mean we can have slaves. It also says, you know, if your child doesn’t listen and obey, you can stone him to death—have everybody in the city stone him to death.
Brandy: You know, so there are places and pieces of the Bible that just—and so that’s my point—is that really, ultimately, bigger, bigger, bigger picture is to take what makes sense to you and then believe in it and hold it securely in yourself and have the confidence to believe in yourself.
Brandy: And, you know, so ultimately that’s part of the insight that I want to share.
Empowering Yourself with Positive Beliefs
Brandy: Much respect towards every religion. You know, honestly, when I look at every religion, I can see profound insights. And so it’s a thing of just taking things to modern day and saying, “Well, what is real and what is beneficial for you? What are your beliefs?” And believing in that.
Brandy: And so, again, part of the reason that I want to actually pause the session right here for that reason is to kind of let this land. Because as you recall, if you listened to last week’s episode, again, it was like when our parents tell us something, then it gets stuck in your mind.
Brandy: And all the time, people will find themselves in a feeling—a battle with what they were raised to believe and how they really want to feel and believe.
Brandy: And so by the way, if you haven’t yet listened to last week’s episode, I’d strongly recommend doing so.
Brandy: So you’ll hear me use an example of the elephant, or just of when her mother told her on the past episode that she was lazy. I said, “Okay, well, if I tell you you’re an elephant, are you going to believe me?” And she laughed.
Brandy: But that’s exactly it. What you believe about yourself or what you believe in life or feel bad about, you know, really making sure it suits you, it supports you to live a happy, healthy life that’s in good integrity, you know, and just a spiritful life.
Encouragement and Next Steps
Brandy: I love that. So again, I’m going to go ahead and pause the session right here. We’ll continue next week. So on the second part of the session I’m working with her, we’ll listen to and we’ll dive in next week to the insights there.
Brandy: But that’s the insight that I want to leave you with today.
Brandy: And so I want to invite you to just kind of think about this in your own life. And if you want some more depth to it, if you missed last week’s episode, check that out. I’ll have my team leave that link in the show notes for last week’s episode.
Brandy: And also, if you want training on how this works of really understanding the mind-body connection when I go deeper, I of course have a 90-minute free masterclass training to help understand the analytical pieces of mind-body healing and how it works and all of that.
Brandy: So that said, dive deeper into this, embody this. And also, I want to ask you to please do take a moment to share this. If you could hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know.
Brandy: Because the more that every single person in our world is happy and healthy and loved and loving, the better this world is for all of us.
Brandy: And so please do hit the share button and please do make a point to have the most wonderful, incredible, loving rest of your day.
Brandy: And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.
Closing Note from Brandy
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time, people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart or helped them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are.
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