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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to talk about a question or an insight that I get all the time from people. You know, I'll see people who are working with their mind and their emotions and trying to make a shift, and they'll fall into misconceptions that actually increase the pain.

So periodically we'll get messages from people. And even recently we just got a message from somebody in the inbox who said in the email box that said exactly that. I've been trying to work with my emotions and my mindset and all my pain. And every time I do, the pain goes up. And this is what you'll want to note is that a lot of times what the very thing that happens is people have misconceptions about working with the mind and how to work with the mind.

And a lot of times people have heard things like, well, To get rid of an emotion, you have to lean into it. And I strongly recommend not doing that. Because what happens is as we lean into an emotion, we intensify it. And by intensifying it, we can do exactly that. Increase the pain, increase the problem. And one way to think about it is like this.

First and foremost, if you think about the widowhood effect, where a senior can unfortunately have a spouse die and they have a much higher rate of death following that loss. Now, when the emotions are highest in the first week or two, even after they lose the spouse, That's when the death rate is the highest.

And so the highest percentage, unfortunately. So when we have intense emotions, those can be more impactful. And so if you go into it more, you won't want to do that. Now, sometimes what can happen is this, is as we go into something, We actually kind of get used to the emotion, and then what happens is we don't realize it's still intense.

And a way to think about it is like this. Is imagine if I said, the best way to deprogram the alphabet from my mind is to lean into it and do it over and over and over again. You'd say, well, wait a second, that's not going to deprogram it from your mind. It's going to increase the neural pathway in your mind.

And so a lot of times what happens with emotions is that we get used to them, just like with clothes. Like if you've ever worn a necktie, you know, and, or, uh, or a choker or a turtleneck. And at first you feel like it's choking you. And then after a while you kind of get used to it. Or maybe you've heard the phrase before, you know, if you.

throw a crab in boiling water, it might jump right back out. But if you have a slow boil, it doesn't slowly heat up the water. It doesn't realize it as much. And so a lot of times what can happen is people have emotions going on in the subconscious mind that are affecting their health, their life, these patterns, you know, maybe the first time they experienced rejection, it's really painful.

After a while they say, well, you know, I'm just better than that person. I'm just better, you know? So. coping mechanisms that are put on top of it to make us feel better when the emotion is still there. So it's like the layers come on. So my point being is that you won't want to go into the negative. And I see people do that all the time.

They think they're supposed to lean in and it actually increases the problem. Now, one way to also illustrate this to show you that exact thing is if you think about the last episode that I worked with, with our beautiful volunteer, Shirley, As you'll recall, I was working with her and I knew she was going to trigger into, you know, I mentioned the fears coming up and I mentioned her getting better and she triggered into fear.

And what happened? Her pain immediately went from like a level two to a nine. So she triggered into that negative emotion and you could see her suddenly going, Ah, this hurts. I'm in a level nine now. And as you'll recall in that episode, you know, I pushed her to get out of it. I was like, you know, you don't need to have fear.

And so, and I did whatever I could. I pushed pretty hard to say, get out of this meeting. I didn't say lean into it. I said, get out of it. You're safe. Right? And so, and, and you'll notice by the way, when I'm working with people, I will push as hard as needed to get them to get out of that emotion. And the way I look at it is always like this is because the emotions in our mind are subconscious.

So they're below consciousness, so we can't necessarily always see them with clarity or feel them with clarity or understand them with clarity. And so a similar way to think about it is, is imagine if your friend is standing in front of a bus and a bus is coming and you're telling your friend, Hey, get out of the way.

Hey, you get out of the way. And they're standing there and the bus is coming. What do you do? You. Push them out of the way, right? So they don't get hit. And so similarly, when I see people who are really stuck in fear or stress or frustration or whatever it is, I'll push as hard as needed to help them to get out of it because as they are, as they do get out of it, they can see the pain goes down, the hurt goes down, the health issues improve.

And so my point from this is that you don't have to lean into it to, to, to, uh, to start releasing it and. So, you want to be careful, just because, again, part of the reason this is coming up, and as I've seen over and over and over, even recently, where people are messaging and saying, Hey, I'm trying to work with my mind, and my pain is going up, and my problem's going up.

Why? Well, the reason is, is because you don't want to lean into the emotions. And by the way, some people will think, Oh, I have to release it first. I have to go into the negative first, but that's not true either. And a simple way to think about it is like this. Imagine if I said, Hey, I want to learn French.

And the first step to learning French is forgetting how to speak English. Well, why would I need to forget how to learn English to learn French? Or if I want to learn tennis, I said, well, first I have to forget how to play golf or whatever. Not that I play golf, but point being you don't have to forget something first to be able to bring in something else.

And, and similarly, if we look at emotions, let's be honest, we have mixed emotions all of the time. You could love somebody. and also feel hurt by them. You could feel love and resentment towards them or anger towards them. You can feel mixed emotions. You don't have to say, okay, for me to feel, uh, love towards them, I have to get rid of all hurt.

Or for me to get rid of all hurt, like for me to feel hurt, I have to get rid of all love. That's not how the mind works. And so what happens is I'll see people who have these beliefs that say, Oh, I have to go into the negative first. And it can increase the problem. And again, it's kind of perfect timing that this, that this question comes up just because if you have any questions about it, you could look at the last episode, which was perfect in that as I was working with our beautiful, beautiful volunteer.

And she did go into the negative emotion. Her pain shot up. And again, you'll notice I did everything to push her to say, what, what are you doing? Get rid of this stuff, you know? And it pushed her pretty hard to say, get out of the fear, you know? And so that's what you'll want to ultimately know is make sure not to go into negative, go into the positive first.

And the more you go into the positive, the easier it is to let go of the negative. And it's not just going to the positive and ignore the negative. It really has to do with going into the positive and then Releasing the negative. And by the way, that's another insight that I want to share. I've seen people before who will say something like, well, I started to work with my emotions and I started to feel better and then it didn't work.

It just came back, which means what? Which means that they didn't clear the pattern itself. They went back into the pattern and that's, it's like somebody who goes to clear anxiety. And maybe they have a pattern of anxiety or somebody who has a pattern of rejection or a pattern of hurt. And maybe they clear it one moment and then the pattern happens again.

So it's like even, you know, you'll hear me all the time use the example, the unfortunate example of a woman who has an abusive father Who leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, etc, etc. So those patterns can continue. And the other name that I refer to it as is, is like. Whack a mole, if you will.

I don't know if you ever played the game at, at, you know, like a, that game at Chuck E. Cheese or whatever, uh, arcade game as a kid, but where the little thing would come up, the, uh, Whack a mole would come up and you'd have to hit it down and hit it down. It's like it pops up here and you would, it's the same thing.

It'll pop up here and it'll pop up there and it'll pop up there. And, and so the pattern will keep showing up unless you transform it. And so it's a simple example. Another way to say it would be this, is to think about somebody who has a patterned way of criticizing themselves and it's their pattern. So every time, you know, if they make a mistake or something happens and they criticize themselves and it becomes their automatic pattern.

Well, if they're in a situation and they stop criticizing themselves about one particular situation, well, that's great. That's progress. But, they also have to re pattern the mind, so they don't have that patterned way of thinking and feeling. Because, if it's a normal pattern for them, then they clear the self criticism or whatever it is in the moment, and they start to feel better.

And then something else comes up, and their automatic pattern is to then Criticize themselves again. And so notice that pattern comes up over and over and over. And so that's ultimately what you'll want to know is that you want to make sure to add in the positive emotions and re pattern the mind because it becomes a patterned way of thinking and feeling.

And again, you could look at the, listen to the last episode or even look at it. It's on video, which was fun, by the way. I, I just have to say so many people messaged in and said how much they loved seeing an episode on video. So I love that. And I'll, I'll make sure that the links are in the, in the, uh, show notes on this episode as well.

But a lot of people just loved seeing it on video, but you know, creating that change is key. And so it's not just the emotion. It's the patterned way of thinking and feeling that is key. And so that's one thing. And then also don't go into the negative first, instead start re patterning the mind. And so that's the insight that I want to leave you with today is exactly that, is thinking about what it is that you're changing in your life.

So maybe it's a feeling of hurt or rejection or abandonment or anger or criticism, whatever it is, fear, whatever it is. Make sure that as you start looking at the, the emotions themselves, that you're not just trying to handle the situation, but you're really re patterning the mind. So you have a new patterned way of thinking and feeling because that will be key for getting lasting results.

All right. So that's today's quick IQ episode. Think in terms of patterns and staying in the positive, not going into the negative until you're ready to release and really, you know, changing that. So that's the quick IQ episode. And as always, I want to ask you to please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button.

on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about or somebody you don't even know, because the more that every single person in our world is happy and healthy and loved and loving and is living their life to its fullest and feeling happy, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do take a quick moment to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic, loving, happy, healthy rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you. We'll see you there.

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What we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible.

And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at BrandyGillmore.

com slash podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

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