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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

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Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you're here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And one of the things that I love the most about today's episode is that you can see that As people work on patterns with money, that it does help also other areas of your life, where it can help with relationships, or self love, or personal growth in a variety of different ways, or your health, or your happiness.

I mean, when we stop and look at it for a moment, a pattern that can affect one area of life can also impact multiple other patterns. And a lot of times people don't realize that there's a specific pattern that is impacting multiple areas of their life. And that's what I love about today's episode is exactly that.

And if you listened to last week's episode, then you know, we worked with, volunteers, Scott and Sarah, who are a beautiful couple who, if you recall, have been struggling financially and wanting to really take their finances to the next level. And what I love about the episode and the unfoldment of it is that some parts have to do with money specifically, but other parts have to do with their relationship and connecting and not needing to be perfect and other really powerful insights that are pivotal for happiness, for personal growth, just all of the pieces, you know, and I have to say, that's another thing that I really want to do.

Love about money is that, you know, in life we've heard the analogy before we either do something because of the carrot or the stick, meaning, you know, pain or pleasure pain or gain. You know, if somebody in a really bad place. They'll make some changes or to be able to gain something. And if you know my story, then you know that my injury is what led me on this incredible journey of healing and transforming and self awareness and just changed my entire life.

And, and so, you know, but I had to go through a lot of pain to get to that place of willingness to change and awareness of, to change. I mean, it just drove me to figure out what to do. How to work with the mind and what it was in the mind that works for healing. And it, it drove me to want to find out the specifics, you know?

And what I love about money is, is that it can be a carrot. Now, don't get me wrong. I know that a lot of people are in a lot of financial pain as well, which can create a lot of stress that is linked to physical pain. So there can be a lot of physical pain and emotional pain around the topic of It can also be a carrot to drive you forward in life.

You know, a lot of people, if you think about it, will get educated or go to college or take their life to the next level or want to do or expand something in a great way to be able to make money, to learn more, to grow, to develop themselves, and so that's another thing that I love about money as well is just that it can be a carrot.

in life, to want to travel, to do more, to be more, to expand more. So I love that. And as we continue through today's episode, I want to invite you to just keep that awareness in mind that maybe with each insight that comes up, maybe it is a way to expand, you know, maybe you're not needing to take action on any issue because of some type of pain, but maybe it's the carrot.

Maybe you're just thinking, let me expand, let me continue to grow. And that could be, of course, in the relationship area as well, because there's some really powerful relationship insights on it. So just for that reason, there's just a whole beautiful, beautiful mix of insights and opportunities to grow, expand, and change.

And so I love that. And I love our beautiful couple, Scott and Sarah. They're just so beautiful. And on that note, let's go ahead and dive in. Now, a few things before we do dive in is just to note that as you recall, On the last episodes with Sarah and Scott, part of what they were working on is Sarah had this feeling of feeling really guilty for receiving or doing things for herself or spending money on herself.

And so that was a money block for her. And we've also been talking about Scott having a pattern of self criticism or feeling criticized. So that's another piece. And that's actually where we're going to start. with Scott diving back into that topic of self criticism because it really can affect multiple areas of your life.

All right, let's dive in.

And, uh, give me one second. If I ask you, by the way, Scott, if I ask you, can you give me your father's, uh, first initial? D. And can you give me your mother's first initial? C. Okay, and if I ask you, uh, how much you had a fear of, as a child, of being, uh, criticized or in trouble by your mother, what would you say?

Yeah. Oh, did you? Just trying to collect, yeah, just trying to collect myself. Um. Okay. And if I want. I guess. Go ahead. Yeah, just answer your previous question, I, I guess pretty high. Um. Mm hmm. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you to notice by the way. Even right now how there's a feeling of nervousness and a feeling of not wanting to mess up or be critical like there's a notice that feeling you you know what I'm talking about.

Yeah, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. What if you knew you're a million percent safe right now that you're a million percent safe that you're safe to have your emotions that there's nothing wrong with you. That you're just upgrading and there's no need to feel nervous or to feel critical of self or, uh, like you're going to get in trouble or blah, blah, blah, none of that, that you're free to be you and that it's safe, that you're a hundred percent safe right now.

Can you take that feeling in? And if you knew that it was true. A hundred percent. How would you feel right now? Um, probably a lot better than, than how I'm feeling at the moment. Uh huh. Uh huh. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to see, to notice how you're feeling, right? And this is the trigger.

This is the way. When you're not succeeding at work, or when you're not succeeding at making money, or when you're feeling, like this feeling right here that you're feeling, this, this is the trigger. This is the thing that needs to change. Does that make sense? I think so.

So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love his self awareness. I love his self honesty. And you may have noticed he got a bit choked up there with those emotions, you know, that trigger of that pattern of feeling like he could get in trouble or could get hurt.

criticized or bad. And it's like this feeling like he's done something wrong, you know, in his energy. And the thing of it is, is that these patterns can show up in any area of life. So they can show up in your relationship with self or your relationship with work or even your love relationship or, you know, multiple areas of your life.

And so that said, Part of the thing that can be tricky about patterns is that they're not stuck to one topic. Meaning that just because you have a pattern in a relationship doesn't mean it stays in relationships. It can go to work, it can go to friends, it can go to family, it can go to children, you know, having that Pattern between you and your children.

And so that's what's tricky because the pattern can show up in multiple places. And so that's part of what makes it hard to identify. And so what I love is that Scott's becoming more and more aware of this, which is beautiful. Especially, I have to say, you know, for a lot of men, they've been burying their feelings or taught that they're not allowed to have feelings.

And so it can be harder. To then notice and observe their feelings. And I just, I'm impressed with Scott. He's just, he's so beautiful and authentic and vulnerable and self aware and just a beautiful, beautiful being. So I love that. And also, you know, Emotions get buried in the subconscious mind and they really just can impact multiple areas.

And so genuinely transforming these patterns is key, of course. All right. So, uh, that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Scott and Sarah. Here we go.

If I ask you, by the way, zero to 10, how much there's a part of you that fears That Sarah might be disappointed in you. What would you say? Um, yeah, I think that's, I think that's pretty high. 8, 9, 10. 8, 9, 10, 20, somewhere in there? Maybe. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And Sarah? Yes.

I want you to notice you've never had any patterns before, right? Oh gosh, I had so many. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, but you would totally expect Scott to not have any patterns or anything to work on, right? No. You'd be disappointed if he did have things he had to work on, right? Wait, I'd be disappointed if he, oh no, no, no, no.

So it's safe for him to be him and him to have, to not be perfect. Oh, goodness. Yes. That makes me feel better, too, because I'm not perfect. Gott, how does that feel? Um, feels good. And to be honest, I'm trying to, uh, I've tried to familiarize myself with the feeling, because I guess I didn't realize the, uh, the level of, uh, criticism in me.

So this is, I think this is new. I love your self awareness. I love, and it's funny how the subconscious mind kind of hides things, you know, and, and, but notice it's like you guys are both trying so hard to show up perfect for each other. Can you see that? Oh, yeah. And it's so sweet and it's so wonderful and also allowing room for each of you guys to have your personal growth and, and to not be perfect, but to be working towards transformation.

What does that feel like? Pretty incredible. Right? Yeah, I was gonna say it feels like it, it would be like a superhero relationship. We would be, um. You know, quite, yeah, just quite, um, it just upgrading. Yeah, I, I feel it, but I don't know how to describe it, but yeah, it would be, um, the incredible. Yeah. It feels like for both of you guys, it feels like I can breathe in your energy.

Now, like you guys, like you can let go of the, uh, it can be okay to not be perfect. And also to be working on self and to upgrade and, and, and, and, and that it's okay. And that it's not your fault and you don't need to criticize and blame and feel bad and blah, blah, blah. And you just go, okay, well let's, let's change.

Let's, Let's cheer each other on without pressure and really make this change. Does that make sense? Yeah, it does. Beautiful. All right. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to see yourselves walking around. Together, connecting and loving each other and feeling, feeling this sense of it's okay to not be perfect and also cheering each other on.

You got this and it's, and you're working on the patterns and whatnot and there's no judgment. You can, you don't have to be perfect and also you're transforming because you want to. And I'm going to ask you guys just for a moment to breathe. This feeling of believing in each other, feeling that, but also not feeling the need to be perfect, is liberating in your relationship.

Can you guys see that? Yeah, refreshing is the word, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, great. So, uh, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And Sarah, as far as working on your pattern where you're feeling like it's okay to receive, and you're feeling good, and you feel safe to receive, and that you're working on that, can you lovingly step up your game?

No pressure, but can you work on transforming this? Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and can you also work on not blaming others or yourself? Can you work on really changing that? Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And can you also be okay with Scott not trying to fix you, not trying to change you and not criticizing you, but that you're working on those things and that can be okay and you don't have to be perfect and you're working on that.

And can that be okay? Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and do you trust Scott's still going to love you? Yeah. Even if you're not perfect. Yeah. Yep, I hope so. You hope so or you know so? I know so. Know so. Bingo. And by the way, if I ask you, if I ask you how long you have had, blah, blah, blah. I'm perfect by the way.

If I ask you how long you've had a pattern of feeling like you needed to be perfect, how long would you say that is? Yeah, quite some time. Yeah, since I'm at the ripe old age of about three, I see. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and taking that in. And Scott, wow, if Sarah's not perfect, I mean, whoa, this is like a crazy, right?

Right. And Scott, would you say that you've kind of already known that Sarah's perfect, and also maybe she's working on things also, right? Mm hmm. And you've still loved her, even though she wasn't perfect? Imagine that. Imagine that. Yeah. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love them. And I love Sarah's response where she says, you know, that would be relieving to not have to be perfect. Perfect all the time. And, and Scott also saying the exact same thing. Like it's relieving and they still beautifully love each other.

And this is such a beautiful insight because all of the time people are trying and stressing to be perfect and afraid they're not going to be loved or not going to be accepted if they're not. Which is a lot of stress about trying to be perfect. And it's not the way that we're made anyways, you know, when you stop and think about it.

We are in a world that's changing all of the time. I mean, 20 years ago, our world was so different. 15 years ago, 10 years ago, it was very different and it continues to change. And, you know, and if you think about toddlers learning how to walk, what do they do, they go to stand up and they fall and they go to stand up and fall and.

You know, they do it a few more times and before you know it, they're running around and getting into everything or even learning how to read or write. You know, we are working on learning things. We make mistakes. We then fix them. We get better at it. That's how we learn. That is is human beings. That's what we do.

That's how we learn. We make mistakes. We learn from them. We get better, we improve, we grow. And so I want to invite you that if you have the belief or stress over trying to be perfect, instead, I want to invite you to change that to just being willing to grow, being willing to let go. Go of mistakes saying, okay, well, it's just part of the growing process, letting it go, learning from it and continuing to grow.

And not only that, but in a relationship, also making sure that you give each other room to not have to be perfect to be okay. And also what I'd invite you to give your partner. is a sense of knowingness that it is okay to not have to be perfect. Because what you'll find is, the more you don't have to be perfect, and the more you celebrate each other, the more success you'll have, the more you can flourish.

If you celebrate each other's wins, you celebrate each other, it's just more love, more happiness, and even more success. And so that is part of where we're going as we step back in. And Sarah,

how does it feel knowing that he's, he's already known that you weren't perfect and loves you for you? How does that feel to you? It feels spacious and free and exciting. Yeah, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And by the way, Sarah, if I ask you how often you feel like Scott kind of just deserves to be beat up and criticized, how often would you say like only like six days a week or what, what do we think, what amount to beat him?

Zero. But I mean, how often do we want him to feel horrible and guilty and bad and like he's just a, you know, critic, he deserves to be criticized? How often would you say like, I don't know, 10 days a week, would you say? No, never. Never, never. Great. And Scott, if I ask you how that feels to you? Her not criticizing.

And also not feeling like, feeling like you don't necessarily deserve to be criticized. Yeah. I keep coming back to the word liberating. Liberating. Liberating. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And Scott, as far as your pattern, can you really work on this? Not feeling criticized at all, but instead feeling good about you and really getting into that, because this is the thing is even when you're working.

So anytime, if somebody is working and you're in a place of feeling off and not good enough and critical of self, then it's not going to be lucrative at whatever you do is not going to feel lucrative. It's not going to be successful at the level that you want it to be. And by the way, I can tell you, I have worked with people like, uh, people who were like one guy who was making, who was losing millions of dollars in his business every year, lose it.

And he was so self critical and self critical and self critical. And one of the things that I had him do. was change that around and he went from losing millions to making millions and lots of millions um in his business and and one of his core patterns that he needed to really change was being critical of self Um, that was, I mean, there were other things in his case as well, uh, but if I ask you, knowing that this is a foundational piece, if you're willing to work on this, and I don't want you to criticize yourself for criticizing yourself either,

how does that feel to really get out of this pattern? What would that feel like for you? Um, I can imagine that it would feel fantastic. Okay. Okay. So you can imagine it. Great. And that's a start. And, uh, and so you're going to be willing to work on this and start really shifting this. Does that, does that, is that, uh, is that something you would like to do?

Not because I'm asking you or pressuring you or anything like that, but is that something you would like to do? Um, I want to say yes. I, I hope it's, it's truly yes. Um, cause yeah, I, I feel like something needs to, uh, needs to change. Okay. So if I asked you, you want to make more money, right? Correct. Okay. So it's kind of like this is if I told you, um, somebody really wants to build muscle, but they don't want to go to the gym, but they really, really, really want to build a lot of muscle, but they don't want to go to the gym.

How is that plan going to work out? Yeah, not very well. Okay. Now, by the way, how often would you say people really want results in life, but they don't want to change? Quite a bit. Quite a bit. Right. Yeah.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just, I love his self awareness. I love his honesty. He's just beautiful. And there are two really important points from this, you know, first and foremost, as he and I were just talking about all of the time, people want.

change in their life, but they're unwilling to change themselves. And a lot of times they don't realize that they're even doing that. And so I just want to highlight that, that maybe that's you in your life. Maybe you've been wanting change and yet you find yourself doing the same things in the same way, and you're not really changing.

And if so, of course, you'll want to make sure to genuinely change because that's the way to get real results. And, you know, all of the time people just want to visualize or just get a picture of what they want in their lives. But the reality of it is, is that typically to get real pivotal results. It takes a real pivotal change in the mind, in the subconscious mind, in your daily behavior, in the way you really, really feel.

So that is important. Now, another thing I want to highlight, you know, what's interesting is that in this information age, if you will, where everything is about a lot of information, all of the time, people. will have this feeling that they're an expert at something. Like they know everything about something and yet they're not getting results.

And the reason that I point this out is because a lot of times your mind may be so quick to think that it knows everything, but it's not. It doesn't understand that there's layers to information and people don't realize that there's depth to it. And so what happens is a lot of times people feel like they're doing everything right, everything right.

And if it's not getting the results, they start blaming other things, blaming other people or the economy or whatever it is, but they don't realize. There's more depth in the answer, and I see it literally happen in every area of life, from relationships, to health, to business, and making money. I mean, from CEOs making hundreds of millions of dollars, to people who are working on their relationships, to their health, whatever it is, I see people all the time who feel Like they're doing everything right.

And then so the next step is to blame everybody else or others for the problem. Not because a person's trying to blame, but just because their mind feels and believes that they're doing everything right. And I can tell you time and time again, And what'll happen is I'll work with somebody to help them to shift their energy and their mindset and then also help them to see that there's different practical information to implement as well.

And so the point that you'll want to take from this is always is if there's an area of your life that isn't, is stuck, you'll definitely want to change. And many times what'll happen is that change starts inside of your mindset of being willing to change, and then you'll have even more insight as far as actionable items as well, but being willing to change on the inside, changing your mindset to be open to new ideas.

is key. All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in. Here we go.

So notice the part of you who is wanting to make more money. From that, I would say that you would need to work on really not criticizing yourself and transforming that. Being willing to transform that pattern. So that, so notice with Sarah, what we're talking about, as far as her patterns are feeling guilt around money, uh, feeling the feelings of guilt and, and feeling bad about it, that's hers.

Like, it's like spending money on herself. And then by the way, if she had more and more and more money, she'd feel more guilty for spending more money on her. Cause then she'd go, Oh, well, let me do this. So, so technically speaking, the more money she has, the worse she would feel. And she's work on that.

Yeah. And she's changing that. She's changing that so she can receive. It's good. She's changing that. And then for yours, then the pattern of feeling critical of self and all of that, really changing that to instead feeling good about self. So those are the patterns that I want to see you guys working on.

And then also the pattern of not needing to be perfect, um, and trusting and feeling, uh, the love still in your relationship and feeling that. That's another piece. So does this sound like what you guys, does this sound like something you're, you're wanting and willing and excited to work on? Or you feel like, hey, Brandi's pressuring me and I feel forced by these two women to, uh,

Brandi is saying, Scott, you've got to change now. You have no choice. The women are running the show. No, I, um, There's something, there's something stubborn about me, Brandy. So I think, I think that's something that I've, I've been struggling with. Maybe this is a conversation for another day, but, uh, yeah, I've been open with Sarah about, uh, um, you know, feeling like I want certain things like, like the money and, um, just the understanding that it, that it takes work to get there.

Um, but I also want to achieve balance in life. So I don't know if that's. If that's conflicting, uh, if I have a, the idea that, you know, anybody that, that makes the amount of money that I want to make, um, you know, works 50, 60, 70 hours a week to get there. Okay. Um, and, and this is what I would say is this.

is I would say, of course, it depends on what you're wanting to make. But I would also say this is I would say that, um, if I ask you how much there's a part of you that's critical of yourself because you feel like you don't want to work a lot of hours, what would you say? That is very high. Bingo. So notice it's under the same pattern.

So it's kind of like this, like, you know, we can't outrun our patterns. And so when we stop and look at it for a moment, you know that you're a great guy and I love that like I feel like you know you're a good person, you know that. And so you're not so so it's like the the area of criticizing yourself is in the area of your success of of monetizing of all of that that is.

the area because there's a party that also knows you're a fantastic guy. You're just, you're a good person. You're a good being. And so changing this pattern. It's kind of like this. Okay. So, uh, you know, if you think about past episodes, if I say, you know, there's, there's a woman with the abusive father who leaves him and finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera, that the pattern continues, right?

Now, if she says, well, look, I just want to find a great relationship first, and then I'll change my pattern. How does that sound? Uh, it's probably not going to work. Probably not going to work, right? But that's kind of what everybody wants. Everybody wants to get the results and then change. Let me get rid of this.

And then, and by the way, with my own injury, I mean, one of the patterns that I had to shift was a pattern of feeling fear. Now, when you're injured and you're in pain and you're a mess and you don't know if you have a future and then somebody says, you know, I have to figure out, okay, well now I have to get rid of fear.

Are you kidding? I'm in more fear than ever, but change starts inside. Does that make sense? Absolutely. Okay. So bingo. So give me one second. This is what it's also saying. So what universe is saying is this, is that. If I ask you to notice how much higher the pattern of. of criticism is than you thought it was.

Like now that you're looking at it, can you see it's even higher than you realized it was? Yeah, exponentially, I think. Exponentially, right? So the thing of it is, is so this, um, and then not only that, but there's a part of you that then feels also like you deserve it. So even when I said, You know, the criticism, you're like, yeah, but I kind of deserve it.

And so really changing that way of thinking and feeling, in other words, If I ask you, what would happen if you showed up to work, whatever it is, whether it's the current position or a different position, but what would happen if you showed up feeling successful at a level 10 every day that you're showing up, you're feeling successful, you're showing up, you're feeling fantastic.

What would that feel like? Um, fantastic. Great. Are you willing to do that? Yes. And by the way, what would it feel like if you were walking around feeling like you were on your game, feeling confident, feeling Alive, feeling successful, walking around feeling successful, feeling confident, feeling like you were on top of your game.

What would that feel like? the best liberating Great. So if I ask you Can you change? Can you do this? Can you not criticize yourself and instead walking around feeling good, feeling confident, feeling good and start really, really transforming that? I would like to think that I can get there. So I will absolutely work on that.

Great. So, uh, bingo, bingo. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you both of you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to see yourselves walking around. Feeling so, so, so in love. So in love. And Scott, you're feeling like you're on your game. You're feeling successful.

You're feeling good. You're feeling, you're smiling. You're feeling strong. You're feeling confident and you're feeling successful. You're just, you're feeling that and it's flowing. And Sarah, you're feeling good. You're feeling fantastic. You're feeling love that you don't have to be perfect, but you're also feeling incredible.

You're feeling on top of your game. And it's just this incredible feeling, and you're feeling good about money. You feel good, not guilty, not bad, none of that. You're feeling really, really good about money. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. And this is the change that I want you guys to work on. How does this feel to you?

Joyful. Good, good, good, good. Okay, so this is what I want to invite you guys to work on. I want to invite you also that after we wrap up that you guys just take a moment and connect and honor each other's work and not feel like you need to fix each other at all. That you're not fixing each other, you're not correcting each other, you're not catering to each other's wounds.

And I'm not going to go into the details of this at all, but instead you're trusting that each other has it. Scott has it. He's doing his work. Sarah, you're doing it. You're doing your work. And that, and that it feels good. And that you're sharing successes. How does that feel? Excellent. Excellent. And by the way, could I invite you guys that you guys take a few minutes each day and sharing your successes?

What were your wins? What were your successes? Do you guys do that? Yeah. For sure. Beautiful. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. I would love to see this shift and, and great job. And can I tell you, you guys are just so beautiful together and so sweet. And I just, you're just how much you love each other and your heart connection.

It's just really, really beautiful. So I'm excited for you guys to make these changes. Um, and I love that you guys are on this journey together. It's just beautiful. Thank you, Brandy. You are absolutely so, so welcome. And I love your guys self honesty, by the way, just, and your self awareness, just beautiful.

Thank you so much, Brandy, for your time. Really appreciate it. You're absolutely so, so, so welcome. You're so welcome. And make sure to follow through and listen to this recording. And it's been a pleasure. We'll see you later. Thank you. Thank you, Brandy. Take care.

All right. So, uh, let's go ahead and unpack this even further because there are so many insights from this episode. And of course, first and foremost, I just love them. They're just so sweet and loving and wonderful and beautiful inside and out. It's just a beautiful, beautiful couple. So there's that and honoring them.

What a great, fantastic job. And also some really powerful insights from this. You know, as I mentioned in the beginning, Working towards money isn't always about working towards money. I mean, yes, absolutely. Part of it is going to be specific to money, but another part of it is also going to be specific towards you because how you feel about receiving, how you feel about being perfect, how you feel about being self critical, all of these things are key.

Now I can tell you time and time again. Criticism can be a pattern that comes up for a variety of different reasons. For example, if somebody is criticizing themselves in what they're doing and they're constantly feeling critical, how much are they going to love what they're doing? Well, typically not. A lot of times the things that we love doing the most.

Are the things that we feel good at. And so if we feel like we're good at something, we enjoy it more. Which means that if somebody is working and they're criticizing themselves constantly, then there's going to be a part of them that says, well, I don't want to work that much. But if somebody is really good at what they do, they may feel like, oh my gosh, I want to work and I love what I do.

And they have a different energy towards it. And so even when Scott mentioned about not wanting to work much and not wanting to work 50 hours a week. That feeling of not wanting to do that. That was part of the reason that it came back to the pattern of criticism is that once he resolves that pattern, he'll have a different feeling towards work and he may want to work 40 or 50 hours a week and he may not, but the feeling of passion of what he does and not only that but getting out of that pattern is going to be key to To be able to transform that situation.

So it's so important. Now, by the way, I do want to say, he did say something about, you know, to make the amount of money that he wants to make. He feels like there might be a certain amount of hours that he needs to work. And I do want to say that could be very true. And this is the way you'll want to look at it.

Is that, you know, if somebody says they want to win the Olympics and they say that they're going to train for one hour a day, well, chances are they're probably not going to win the Olympics. It's probably going to take more training than that. Or if somebody wants to ace all of their classes in college and they say, well, I'm just going to do only one hour of homework a day.

Well, likely they're probably not going to ace all of their classes. I mean, is it possible? Sure, but is it practical? Not for a lot of people. And so it really depends on where he is and what his skills are. It really depends on what avenue he plans on going to make money, etc. So there's a lot of different factors and of course being in alignment with money, which We'll start with his pattern of genuinely changing the pattern of criticism.

So it's, there, there are some pieces there. Now, my point in emphasizing this is because I know that there's a lot of people who say, Oh, well, our thoughts help create our lives. And they want to sit on the couch and just hope that money falls in their lap. And yes, of course, windfalls are possible where money just.

Comes in through an unexpected channel. But is that typically a sustainable way to receive income? Not typically. And so ultimately what's great is that when you're in alignment with money and you love what you do. It's beautiful because then you love what you do. You're contributing to others and it feels fantastic.

And by the way, that might be real estate, that might be technology, that might be travel, that might be fashion. It might be film. I mean, there are just so many different ways to contribute to people's lives. So, you know, um, it's also about taking something that we're good at. And doing that. So either way, point being is that I don't want to say, Hey, you can make all the money you want in just one hour a day, because that's not going to be realistic for a lot of people.

And so being realistic and also being aligned, because the more you're aligned with money, the more ideas that you have. The easiest way to describe it is like writer's block. You know, if you think about a writer who's blocked, can't think of what to write, well, then it feels hard. You feel blocked. But the more that you align with writing, the more you can have ideas come in and you think about what to write.

Now, similarly, the more that you're aligned with money, the more you think of ways to monetize and then you take action on those ways. And so it manifests and unfolds. So I love that. And then of course, making a point to celebrate each other's wins and not needing to fix each other. This is such a big part because all of the time I'll see people who are in a relationship who are feeling the need to fix the other person and they keep trying to fix the other person and keep trying to fix the other person.

And really what they end up doing is ruining the relationship. And I cannot tell you how many times I've seen that. In this personal growth space of self healing, self awareness, where people will try to take information and instead of really applying it to self, they want to fix everybody around them.

And before you know it, they've disconnected from their children and they don't have a great relationship with them and their spouse and, and their parents. I mean, it, it just, because they're trying to fix everybody. So making sure in your personal relationships, instead of trying to fix each other, celebrate each other, take time to celebrate each other's wins, because that will fuel more love, more success, more joy.

just doing it that way and letting each person have their own sense of personal empowerment. So that's the feeling that you'll want to have is instead, you know, sharing insights, great, sharing awareness is great, but not trying to fix the other person. So again, there are just so many insights and I want to invite you to just take one insight from this and see if you can start to apply it.

All right. So that said, it has been such a pleasure connecting with you. And I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy and healthy and abundant in every area of life, From love to joy, to happiness, to success, to feeling good, feeling more confident.

You know, the happier that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic rest of your day, feeling your own sense of empowerment, feeling great, feeling loving in your relationships, feeling kind towards yourself, and really being willing.

to receive in life, to feel good about it and feel great and kind towards yourself. All right. So that said, it has been such a pleasure connecting with you, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

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As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu