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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and body. Your emotions and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today I have a really great question that's actually from last week's podcast. You know, last week we had been talking about Feelings of confidence and feeling secure in life and the importance of that with healing that if you're not feeling safe and secure.

It can create fear, and if you recall, with our volunteer, she was able to start releasing her pain just from starting to shift these feelings deep inside her. Now, some of the questions that came up for people following that episode were both, you know, a feeling of excitement, of really wanting to shift confidence in their life, and understanding, of course, confidence at a deeper level, so that was great.

And, for some people, They've had times in their life where they've stepped into more feelings of confidence and yet it didn't affect their relationships in a great way. There was more problems, there was more disharmony, there was issues, and then they kind of fell backwards. And so I want to take a moment and talk about that because this is something that I see all of the time.

You know, I see people who are getting their confidence, transforming their lives, feeling incredible. And sometimes what can happen is that a person, as they're stepping into more confidence, May start to either feel a bit arrogant or even be more abrasive in a way. And so I want to take a moment to unpack this because when you're stepping into more confidence it should be a beautiful harmonious experience.

It should feel amazing and wonderful and as you're doing it, it should actually open energy up more in your life, open more success, more happiness, more joy. when you're genuinely stepping into the feelings of confidence. And so that said, I want to point out just a few simple insights to help you to align and make sure you're on the right path.

And so that said, number one is this, is that a lot of times I'll see people who, as they're stepping into even more confidence, they might start feeling like they are a bit assertive. in setting their boundaries. And what I mean by assertive is even just abrasive because they're feeling more confident.

So then they kind of put their foot down in a way where it feels abrasive in relationships. And so that's something that you'll want to watch for because a lot of times I'll see people do that exact thing where they get more confidence than they are more abrasive in trying to set boundaries and then it stops being harmonious, their relationships feel a lot less harmonious, and then it sets them backwards.

And instead of continuing to uplift their life, it then ends up sabotaging their life. And so that said, a simple thing that you can do is remember that confidence and kindness go really well together. You don't want to end up feeling strident and, you know, just dry or abrasive, but instead confidence and kindness go so well together.

So that's number one is just kind of doing a self check and making sure as you're stepping into more strength, more confidence. It also includes Even more kindness. It's a beautiful combination. All right, so number two is that you'll want to notice any type of reactiveness in you and make sure that you are reacting in the way that you want to in a harmonious way.

And this is what I mean. You know when you stop and think about healing with the mind in my own life. I know that a lot of people don't feel like it's possible. And so, that drove me to start showing people how to get radical results, how to release pain, even under medical equipment, where you can see it under thermal imaging.

And you can see somebody releasing their own pain with your own eyes, right? And so, point being, Is that people didn't believe that was possible. And so that was my positive response to that is, you know, let me help people. Let me show them what we're capable of, but notice it comes from a place of love, expansion, harmony, empowerment.

You know, it comes from a great place and I enjoy it. Now, all of the time, I've seen people who. are stepping into what they call feelings of confidence and others may not believe in their dreams on what they're doing and they feel reactive. They feel upset by it. So and so doesn't believe in it or I'm just going to shut these people out or I can't believe these people.

So they feel reactive and most people will not even see it. And technically part of me was even hesitant to do a podcast episode on this very topic because Most people will not see it. It'll be a blind spot. But that of course is my hope through this podcast is bringing in awareness, seeing what you can do, empowering your life and looking at blind spots, transforming them.

And so I want to take this to a deeper level for a second. You know, if you think about somebody who gets triggered and they're reactive, they react to it and they call it confidence. It's. But that's what ends up happening is that as people step into more confidence, they might say, well, so and so doesn't believe in my dreams, and they get reactive in a negative way.

And even if you think about it for a moment, if you recall Paula from a few episodes back, I mean, she just was such a beautiful being, is such a beautiful being, great self-awareness, great self-honesty. And she mentioned, she said when her mother. is criticizing her sometimes that she said there's a truth to it and that's the reason that she's so reactive and I just loved her self awareness and self honesty just beautiful and by the way I even had people message in saying wow Paula's incredible her sense of awareness and her self honesty just beautiful and so point being what you'll want to note from here is that sometimes people get stuck in a pattern in life where they're reactive And instead of calling it what it is, a trigger, a reactive, a negative response, they mislabel it as confidence.

But what it really is, is it's really a trigger that's going on. It's really a wounding, or an anger, or, you know, it's a negative energy there. And by the way, I have seen people who step more and more into their confidence that suddenly they start feeling more important than others, or superior to others, or impatient with others.

Because, They feel like they're more important and then that ends up sabotaging it. So my point being is just simply as you're stepping into even more and more confidence, be careful that you're not building reactions or labeling, mislabeling some of your reactions as being confidence because they should be harmonious.

That's the reason that I use the example about thermal imaging. is for that very reason. You know, if you're here, you probably know everybody does not really fully believe in the power of the mind yet. There's still people who are converting, but I mean, the truth is, people didn't believe the world was round.

You know, they thought it was flat for a very long period of time. So anytime something new is brought into the world, it takes a bit of transformation for our world. And so I'm not going to take it personally. My response has been harmonious to grow, to enjoy the growth, to speak to it, to help more and more people get incredible results so we can make the transformation.

And so point being again, is that if you notice there is any type of triggered response or abrasiveness or strident or upset or disharmony that comes with your confidence, you want to make sure that you're not labeling it. as just being more confident or just being more in your power, but instead you want to notice, is there actually a trigger there?

Is there actually a wound? Or like Paula said, is there some type of truth there that you don't want to face and look at, so are you just trying to cover it up? Or are you stepping into feeling more superior or treating other people negative or more righteous and feeling like other people are just dumb or this, that, the other?

There's a lot of, Change that can occur, and you just want to be very conscious of what it is, because if not, It will cause you to sabotage. And I see that all of the time. So that's the quick IQ insight that I want to bring to you today. It's exactly that. It's just that, you know, a lot of times people will feel like they're starting to get on the right path in life and they get more confidence, but then they sabotage or things don't work out, or they feel like everybody's against them.

or they even feel strident and they start taking the wrong action. And I've seen people do this where they've, you know, step into more confidence and suddenly they feel like, oh, I don't need my spouse, or I don't need my COO, or I don't need this person, or I don't need that person. It's like a feeling of a shift, but not in a harmonious, loving, wonderful way.

And so With this information, what I want to invite you to do is two things is first and foremost, make sure that if you're in that place where you are stepping into more and more confidence that you are paying attention to these things. You know, if there is something you're reactive to, then instead of reacting, ask yourself, what is the trigger?

What's really going on? Or if you notice yourself that you're getting a bit strident, where you're stepping into more confidence, but there's strident also when you're being shorter with people or more abrasive with people, then you want to make sure to make a point that as you continue bringing in your confidence, that you're also focused on bringing in kindness.

Simultaneously. So that's something that you'll want to note there. Now, if you are somebody in your mind who has wounding around it and fear of stepping into confidence, which I see all of the time as well. People have these beliefs that, Okay, well every time I stand up, I just get knocked back down. Then I want to invite you to reflect on these things and make it safe for you.

For yourself to step into more confidence, meaning this, meaning that all of the time I've seen people, you know, in classes where they might even respond and say things like, you know, my family doesn't like when I'm more empowered and more confident. And of course, I'll say this very thing, you know, how are you doing it?

What's the trigger? What's going on? And I'll start noticing that maybe they have been a bit short or abrasive And that's why it's not going so well because believe me people around you will love if you're kind, you're feeling confident And you're also harmonious and it's smooth. And I got to tell you, you know, I have worked with some of the top celebrities in Hollywood or CEOs or politicians.

I've worked with people on every different level. And even at the highest levels of success, you know, when people are abrasive in setting boundaries, it doesn't go well. And I see people who are extremely successful that. As they're just harmonious with people around them and loving and kind, it goes a lot better.

And so point being is that if you are somebody who does have wounding around this, who has told yourself, Oh my family, my friends, people around me don't like me stepping into confidence. Then I want to invite you to really reflect and unpack this and look at what is really going on. and to truly transform this in your life.

All right. So I hope that answers some of the questions from last week, some deeper reflection of stepping in to feeling even more confident and having harmonious, loving, wonderful, relationships. All right. So that said, as always, I'm going to ask you to please do hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy and empowered and loving that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do have a most wonderful, fantastic rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time, people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about, or those, you know, who really need it as more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point. And the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone.

What we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life, if you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible.

And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

Thank you.