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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themself of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life. Let's begin.

Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today we have a really great question from a listener regarding getting the messages from your body. Now, all of the time you'll hear me say, you know, working with volunteers to help them release their own pain all of the time.

I'll say, Your body's giving you a message to change, you know, whatever health issue that you have, it's giving you some type of message. And in short, this is the way I see it, you know, is that our thoughts, our emotions, our mindset helps create our lives. And so, I've seen people before who had been experiencing extreme self-criticism, and it was a pattern that went on throughout their lives where they're criticizing themselves and it ended up being linked to their health [00:02:00] issue.

Now, when I worked with this person and we started looking at, okay, what emotions are connected to this particular ailment? You know, of course self-criticism came up. Now what's beautiful? Is that is the message is taking this pattern of self-criticism and shifting it, getting rid of the pattern. Because then what happens is this is, if you think about somebody's life for the next 40, 50, 60 years, 70 years, however many years, If they kept the feelings of self-criticism and that pattern, and they kept going into that pattern all of the time, what their life would look like, or if the next 30, 40, 50, 70, 80, a hundred years, they didn't have the pattern of self-criticism, and instead they had a pattern of self-love and self acknowledgement.

If you think about the trajectory of that person's life, if you think about moving forward, what that looks like, that's two different lives. I mean, in one version, A person without self-criticism can [00:03:00] feel happy and confident and good about themselves and their social connections and whatever they're doing in life with work or business and enjoying and living life to its fullest and feeling good around people and family and loved ones, and relationship and self and health and all of that compared to, you know, somebody who's criticizing themselves all the time.

Typically doesn't feel that confident in a relationship, doesn't feel all that confident in the things that they're doing. And then they also, you know, health issues and not feeling good enough. And, you know, there's just all of those emotions that come with it. And so, point being is that when I say with illness, there's a message in the body.

The message is ultimately to look at whatever pattern, whatever emotional pattern is connected to the ailment. And to genuinely change it. And of course as you address the pattern itself, ultimately it becomes life-changing. You know, that's when you heal yourself and change your life. Now I wanna take this to the next level [00:04:00] because when I mentioned somebody emailed in regarding the, the messages in the body, the question that was asked was if we should be looking for the message in emotions and.

Typically speaking, I would say this is not something that I recommend to people. I mean, first and foremost, I mean, it's always great to be in tune with your body, but I wanna take a moment and really unpack this and look at the bigger picture because I. This isn't exactly an optimal way that you would wanna work for self-healing, and I'll show you why that is.

You know, first and foremost, as you likely know, and you probably have heard by now, emotions are not always logical. And even if you take the example that I just used of self-criticism, you know, there's no reason that a person should beat themselves up. You know, if we look at an extreme example of this, we can have somebody who is a cutter.

Um, who unfortunately has been through some type of trauma or wounding that ends up getting it linked up in their mind that if they cut themselves, they can experience a feeling of [00:05:00] relief or euphoria or control from cutting themselves. Now logically we can see that this emotional response, Doesn't make sense.

And we can also look at the awareness that everybody responds emotionally to different circumstances. For example, one person may feel as though they're not getting their way and they may feel depressed or sad, whereas another person may feel like they're not getting what they want and they may feel irate and pissed off and upset or angry or, you know, there are so many different ways that a person can feel.

Ultimately what we wanna do is we wanna be in charge of our emotions. We want to change them. We want to decide, you know, if you think about it for a moment, all change starts from within. And so ultimately, because our patterns do breed more of the same. We want to really look at emotions and shift our emotions.

We want to ultimately decide how we want to feel and program that in because that's our [00:06:00] energy, that's our power. Now, I wanna be clear that I'm not saying that we want to just ignore what we're feeling or we don't wanna understand our emotions. Not at all. We absolutely wanna understand our emotions. We absolutely want to understand why they're occurring so we can transform them.

Absolutely. And also we don't really want to always look for logic and understanding in something that can be very illogical. You know, also thinking about it for a moment, you've heard me say in past episodes, emotion can controlled consciousness, where our emotions control the way we see things. So for example, let's say that somebody is really, really, really, really in love.

What do they see? They see all of the great things in somebody. Now, let's say somebody's really, really, really pissed off. What do they see in somebody? They see all the negative, right? So we know this. So emotions control our consciousness. Now imagine if somebody's really, really, really pissed off at [00:07:00] somebody, they're gonna see the negative in a person, and then they ask themselves, well, what does this emotion mean?

Do you think they're gonna get a positive answer, or do you think they're going to get a negative answer? The chances are they're gonna get a negative answer because that is the perspective that they're in. That is the consciousness that they're in. Now, I know I use this extreme example of somebody feeling really intense.

However, I. Emotions control our consciousness, even when we don't realize it's happening at a subconscious level. And so one person may walk around and they see the world and they may see it beautifully, and another person may see it as being dangerous, or another person may see it as being, uh, you know, Untrusting and another person may see it as being, you know, loving and fabulous.

So everybody sees it in a different way because our subconscious programming and our subconscious emotions are affecting our consciousness all of the time, and we don't even realize it's occurring. So [00:08:00] even if somebody who's in fear with a fearful consciousness at a deeper level, they could be having a great day, a fantastic day.

But if they haven't changed their subconscious programming, they still see it as being fearful. So point being is that our emotions, even the small ones and the subconscious ones, are controlling our consciousness. And so that's one reason that you don't always want to ask the emotion. What it is, is because the emotion is already setting the tone for your brain.

Instead, you wanna get outside of it. Then ask and understand the pattern itself. Now, let me unpack this a bit more even because this awareness, this question that was asked has multiple layers to it. And so if I give you another example, it's this, it's that, you know, imagine. If there is the example of, unfortunately, the woman with the abusive father leaves him, finds the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera.

So she has that [00:09:00] unfortunate pattern. Right now, imagine there's a lineup of a hundred men. 99 of them are wonderful men and one of them is not. And if she hasn't resolved her pattern, which one? If she checks into her intuition, which one do you think she's gonna be pulled towards? Unfortunately it would be the unhealthy relationship because we can't outsmart universe, we can't trick our own patterns.

Now, of course, what we'd wanna see her do is heal the pattern genuinely, and then attract the most amazing, wonderful, fantastic, loving relationship ever. And that's the goal is to create real change. And that's also the point, is that we can't. Outsmart the universe. We can't trick our own energetic patterns.

We have to change them genuinely. So in other words, using the same example, she can't just. Check in and with the universe and say, okay, well I wanna have a really, really nice guy so I know I have this negative pattern, but can I [00:10:00] just get a nice guy instead and expect to get the answer that she wants?

Which would be lovely, but it does take genuine change. But that is also the gift, is that when we look at these patterns, these negative patterns, and genuinely change them, That is the gift, that is the healing, that is the transformation, that is the beauty of it. So all of the time, people of course, want to trick their mind around having to change where they say, okay, well let me just ask the question.

And, and they wanna answer. That's different than their pattern. But real change is key for real transformation. It's genuine change. And so another simple way to think about it is this. Imagine that somebody's in a really, really, really bad mood. Do you wanna ask them for a favor at that point in time? Or conversely, imagine that somebody is in a really great mood and they feel amazing about life, they feel energized, and you wanna ask them a favor.

[00:11:00] Notice that chances are you would get a very different response. Now, my point is that if you're having a negative emotion and you ask it what the message is, you are not going to get the level of clarity that you would want. You are not going to get the answer that you would want because quite simply, your brain cannot access it.

You know, all the time people can feel guilty for no reason or feel bad, like something bad happened for no logical reason. And so if we try to always get the message from something that is illogical, it leaves us a bit stuck. And you know, even in my own life, One of the emotions that was connected to my injury had to do with patterns, uh, the pattern of guilt.

And of course, you know, I had a physical accident, a physical injury, so there was part of me thinking to myself, it can't be emotions, but you know, energy, energy is powerful. Everything happens for a reason. So as I was looking at emotional patterns, that's what came up for me was this feeling [00:12:00] that after nine 11 occurred, I had a lot of survivor's guilt.

You know, I had colleagues that I had worked with on the phone every day who were in the towers. And so there was this feeling of feeling guilty that I was living my life and they didn't survive. And so I had all of these emotions and guilt and, and then when I started looking at it, Guilt had been a pattern since my childhood.

And so if you stop and think about it for a moment, if I had asked myself, what is the message in this guilt? I mean, what would it have said? You know, don't live, don't survive. You know, and so my point being is that emotions are not always logical. The other thing is, is. I had a pattern of guilt. And so even when I did check in to see what does guilt mean, what did it mean for me at that time, it meant I was a great person, quote unquote, which is illogical completely.

But that's how I grew up with a feeling of believing that if you felt guilty, it meant you were good. It meant that you had a [00:13:00] conscience. And by the way, if you didn't feel guilty, it meant you were cold-hearted or a bad person or had no conscience. And so to me, at that time, Guilt felt like I was a good person.

And so to continue to ask the question and ask the emotion what it means from the same consciousness doesn't serve you to make the real life transformation that you would want. And so if every time the emotion came up, I just. Ask what it was trying to tell me and what is the message in it, and every time it comes up, I just ask, what is the message in it?

Then what would happen is ultimately I wouldn't have been able to heal because I would still be stuck in the pattern itself. And so that's the second reason that I don't recommend necessarily always asking the emotion is because, you know, the first one was that emotions are not always logical. So that's number one.

The second one is that we'll get stuck in the pattern. So if we're always asking, well, what does this emotion mean? Well, what is this emotion? What is it trying to tell me? What is it trying to [00:14:00] tell me? We're stuck getting messages from the same emotional pattern. And so ultimately we, what we wanna do is get out of the pattern.

So I haven't experienced guilt for many, many, many years. Thank God, you know, that was part of my healing. And by the way, sometimes people will think to themselves, oh wait, we're supposed to experience guilt. They're so attached. Two, their emotional patterns, the idea of not experiencing guilt is not human to them.

And so I've had people think that before where they say, oh no, guilt is part of the human experience. And I would say that if guilt was part of the human experience, I would not be healed. And I would say that's part of the reason that my mind is opened up the way it has is because I work with emotions.

And emotional patterns in a much different way where the goal is to eradicate the entire pattern itself, but not to stay sucked into the message of the emotion over and over and over. So in other words, you know, if we go back [00:15:00] to the very first example that we used in the beginning of self-criticism, notice in that example of the person having a pattern of feeling self-criticism.

In that example, we wouldn't have wanted to look at. What does the self-criticism mean every time? You know, what is this message telling me? What is this message telling me? And if they continuously ask, what is the message in this? It's not the way that you would want to do it, to really process to make it life-changing.

Because the goal would be to really eradicate the pattern, you know, and looking at the example for a moment again. Just looking at bigger picture, you know, if you think about on past episodes where you've heard me say before that a woman with an abusive father might leave him and find the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, you know, that pattern can continue.

So if every time she was feeling this hurt from feeling abused and she just asks, well, what is the message in this? Well, what is the message in this? And you know, maybe [00:16:00] her mind comes up with, I'm not good enough, or I've caused this problem, or it's all my fault. Or he's a bad person, or, you know, all of these different things.

In the bigger picture, of course she needs to leave the situation and then also resolve the pattern itself. So it's really about looking at the bigger picture that is the key for making the change. So instead of asking, what does this emotion mean, you wanna ask the bigger question. Why do I have this emotional pattern and how to eradicate the pattern completely?

Now, the first part of eradicating the pattern is getting out of it. And even that can start to produce real results. And if you think about it, if you've listened to past episodes, that's exactly. What I've done. You know, if you think about past episodes, you'll hear me working with a volunteer who's experiencing physical pain or some type of ailment, and I help them to [00:17:00] shift out of the pattern, out of the emotional mindset.

And typically there's a few patterns, and so I help them to create that shift. Now I always tell people, make sure to follow through. To reinforce the information, reinforce the new emotions so you can create a new emotional pattern so you create a new patterned way of feeling and thinking, because that is important, is to really establish new positive patterns.

And then of course, They'll still want to go back and delete the old negative patterns, so it's not even present in their mindset anymore at all. And so that of course is the next step. But the first is getting your mind out of the emotional pattern that is. What's key to really starting to get results?

All right, so bringing it all together. If we go back to the original question that was sent in about asking the emotions that come up, if it has a message for you, you can see the reason that that's not the way that I approach healing, [00:18:00] and it instead. The big picture is key that you really wanna look at the big picture to create lasting results.

And that's today's powerful quick insight is this, is that if you are stuck in a pattern, then the first step that you'll really wanna take is getting yourself out of that emotional pattern to start really feeling and thinking in a different way. And even if you think about past episodes, that is exactly what I help people to do.

Is begin to create that shift so their pain goes away. You'll see them releasing their own pain by shifting their consciousness, by shifting their emotions, by starting to feel differently, and then reinforce that. And then of course, I'll ask them again to go back and eradicate the triggers and the subconscious programming.

But first, Reinforcing the new. And so that's the insight that I wanna leave you with in your life. If there is a negative pattern that you're struggling with, looking at how you can move it forward, how you can get out and get clear of that consciousness to be able to empower yourself to have the mental [00:19:00] clarity that you need to transform.

And by the way, I know that some people might think, oh my gosh, this is impossible. But I have people who do it all of the time. You know, I have an online video course where people do that exact thing on their own. They go through the video course and they shift their consciousness and they shift outta the mindset, and they create the shift and feel better and see things in a different way, and then eradicate.

The old childhood patterns or the past patterns. And so if that sounds impossible to you, I absolutely understand, but I literally see people do it all the time. And of course there's what, 200 past episodes of most of people releasing their own pain by doing this process and positioning of working with emotions, you know, getting your mind out.

Of the old negative consciousness. So you empower yourself so you have more mental clarity so you can see in a different way, then that is when you really step into your power to make radical shifts in your health and in your life. All right, so that's today's quick IQ episode, and I wanna ask you to please do [00:20:00] make a point to hit the share button on this episode.

You know, share it with somebody you love. Somebody you care about or somebody you don't even know. Because the more happy and loving and healthy and empowered that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic, loving.

Rest of your day and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

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And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website@brandygilmore.com slash podcast.

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