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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and body. Your emotions and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello, and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode. where we talk about insights and questions. And today I have a really important insight that I want to share with you that is powerful in so many ways, because what I see happening is that a lot of people are working on, of course, reducing wounds, transforming their lives, working on really healing, making a change in their lives in a big way, and also unconsciously growing more wounds.

at the same time without really realizing what is occurring. And so that's what I want to share with you today because it's actually becoming quite common in our culture and it is just growing. Now I'm going to use an example from business. However, you can apply this to any area of your life and you should, because again, it's a growing issue in our culture.

And so the example is this, is that in the past over Thanksgiving, a year or two back, I was working with a particular client. Her business was just growing. She was working on a lot of different projects. And so she was needing to hire on all types of help in different areas, graphic design, web design, et cetera, all of these things.

Now, One of the women that she hired on to help, she had sent her a message right after Thanksgiving that said, well, you know, if you and your family celebrate Thanksgiving, I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. And her gesture, her email was meant to be, you know, kind and sweet. However, she said the word no.

If you celebrate and her intention was that, you know, there's a growing sensitivity around certain holidays where some people see Thanksgiving as a wonderful time to celebrate and connect with family and be grateful. And there's also a growing sensitivity that says, you know, what about Native Americans?

And so there's some people who are really starting to reject that holiday. And so when my client. Did this it was just an intention to be really kind and loving and hey, you know I hope you and your family had a wonderful holiday Well, this contractor wrote back and she was very offended and she took it in a completely different way So her response to this email was Of course, I celebrate Thanksgiving.

I've been in this country for more than 30 years. I'm not a new immigrant, et cetera, et cetera. And kind of went off, was upset with my client for kind gesture. Now, notice from this a few things. First and foremost, my client did not become reactive, which was really fantastic. She just noticed that, of course, this contractor that she was working with had taken things seriously.

extremely personally and in a completely different direction than she had even intended. I mean, the entire email was just simply, Hey, if you guys celebrate, I hope that you and your family had a most wonderful Thanksgiving. But because the contractor mistakenly took it as though it was somehow had to do with the fact that she was an immigrant.

Now, what's interesting is of course, Because they were working in distant locations, my client didn't even know that the contractor was an immigrant. Now, the pieces that you're going to want to take away are this, are first and foremost, my client did not get upset about it at all. She did not become reactive.

She just responded in a very kind way and said, Oh, okay. I understand. And was very, very kind about it. Now, there are so many insights to take from this, you know, first and foremost, that in our culture, let's be honest, that there is a growing level of sensitivities. And the problem with that is of course, these wounds can affect your health, can affect your life, your energy, what you're manifesting in a major way.

And let me unpack this because when you start to look at the bigger picture, you realize the impact that it could have. You know, first and foremost. for my client. The great thing is, is she did not get reactive about it at all. She just said, oh, okay, you know, just responded kindly and things worked out fantastic for her.

In fact, part of her team ended up taking the whole project over anyway and took care of it. So my client's schedule actually got lighter from the whole thing and the project still got complete. So for my client, It actually manifested beautifully. Okay. So, because she didn't get all reactive or upset.

And I got to tell you, though, my client had been even saying those exact words. Wow. Everybody's taking everything so personally. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. And. That's what then manifested from that. So my client wasn't, you know, that was, she's not the victim in it. That was part of her energy is, wow, everybody's feeling so sensitive.

And then of course she manifested, wow, everybody's feeling sensitive. Now the great thing is, is that again, she didn't get reactive and handled it beautifully in great integrity. And so the situation ended up just turning into a gift. It ended up working out beautifully, better than she could have planned.

So that was great on her side. Now, before we dive into the contractor's side, I want to take just a moment and look at this. Because as I mentioned in the very beginning, you don't just want to apply this towards business, but towards your personal life. Because how often have you seen somebody say something that might offend somebody else, and then It becomes an argument.

The other person's like saying, you know, things like, no, I didn't. And arguing their point and going back and forth. And what can end up happening is that it can end up negatively impacting both people. However, my client knew better than to do that. So didn't engage in any negative reaction at all. And so if you think about in your life, if you said something to your spouse that Maybe triggered them or offended them, but you didn't mean it that way.

Notice if you're finding yourself getting reactive or maybe your mother says something to you or, or somebody, some friend, some person in your family life says something and then somebody gets reactive and then somebody else says, but I didn't say that, or, but I didn't mean it. And there's a whole energy about it.

Notice. If that occurs and you end up saying something that somehow hurts somebody's feelings, you won't want to get reactive yourself or take it personally because that won't be good for your own energy. And let's be honest, knowing that people have different wounds and different perspectives and different sensitivities, there's always a chance that you You might end up saying something at some point in your life that does somehow offend somebody in one way or another.

But the biggest thing is not to get sucked into the problem, but instead, you know, whether it's your family or friends or whomever it is, just stay in a loving place, in a compassionate place, not from a righteous place of saying, well, I guess I'm I won't get sucked into that, et cetera, et cetera. That's not the place you want to be, but just loving, just compassion and just operating it the best you can moving forward.

Now, if we look at the contractor side, if you stop and think about it for a moment, it lost her. referrals, because my client was ready to like refer her some other major, it was, there was a whole thing, but on my client's end, she's like, I can't refer this person anymore. And so for this contractor, she lost money.

She lost business. She lost all of these things. but didn't even realize it. Instead, she was so busy in feeling like a victim to this situation that wasn't even meant to be condescending or mean to her, but that was unfortunately her experience. And not only that, but when you stop and think about it, this is what happens if you look at the big picture, is that clearly this is a wound for this person.

And then what happens is then over time, you know, they feel like a victim, they feel like an outsider, they feel all of these things, which then manifest because, you know, again, they lost the referrals that they otherwise would have had. So there were a lot of things that didn't work out that could have been a wonderful addition to this person's life.

They sabotaged it without ever knowing it and instead ended up having a victim experience. Now what then happens from this is this person goes on to create, you know, more victim experiences. And the other thing is, is that, you know, they can affect their business, affect their health, their life, their relationships, all of these things.

Now That's exactly the point is that when you stop and think about it in our culture People are finding more and more reasons to feel sensitive to feel reactive to feel hurt instead of less reasons and that is impacting people in a negative way and when it comes to triggers an easy way to think about triggers and emotional upsets is this You know is that if somebody touches your arm Is that going to hurt you?

Well, no, but if somebody touches your arm and you have a bruise there, is it going to hurt? Well, it could. And that's the exact point is that we are a culture who, instead of getting rid of wounding, we're gaining wounding. We're saying, Hey, this is ouch. And this is ouch. And we shouldn't do this. And don't say this.

It's going to hurt my feelings. And so there's a lot of growing wounding. that's occurring. Now, I want to look at the big picture for a moment and say, this is that I can absolutely understand people wanting their labels, you know, of who they are, of how they are to be recognized, to be honored. And so that's a great thing.

If each person wants to be seen and wants to be heard and, and wants to be treated fairly and great and wonderful, absolutely, we should absolutely be doing that and honoring each person in each culture and each person's beliefs. Absolutely. So, it's not about not doing that, but it's about not bringing on the wounding, bringing on the bruise from it, because that part of it is growing exponentially.

And let's be honest, I'm sure you have seen where there's a growing amount of things that we can't say in our culture, so to speak, without offending somebody. And that's what's occurring. And so I want to just invite you not to engage in that, not the growth. Of course, continue to the growth is great. But not to engage and create the wounding because it can affect your health, it can affect your life, your energy, your business, your income, your future, all of that.

And I'm seeing that growing exponentially. So if we look at what is the takeaway from this, what is the to do that you could implement in your life? And it is this, is that if there is a part of you who is growing on this level, who's saying, you know, I want to be seen in this way, or I want to be heard in this way, great!

Honor that! Love it! Honor it! Appreciate it! And, if you find that anybody doesn't yet understand it, Make sure not to take offense to it. You know, let's be honest. Not everybody understands what we're doing here at this point. You know, as far as healing with the mind, and I know for myself personally, 20 years ago, when I first set out to start figuring out how to heal myself, I wouldn't have thought healing with the mind could work, you know, I would have sounded idiotic.

Ridiculous or impossible to me. And you know, that was over 20 years ago now. But my point being is that even today, if somebody doesn't wholly understand it, I don't take offense to it. It doesn't hurt my feelings. It doesn't impact me. And so whatever you're doing and being in your life, whether it is your background or your gender or your sexuality or your marital status, or whether you do or don't have kids or whatever it is, if there's a sensitivity, I want to invite you to dissolve it instead of fueling it, instead of feeding it, instead of justifying it, instead of growing it.

Dissolve it, because as you can see from this very example, a lot of times people miss the very opportunities that they could have had because of the wounding that they do have, which can send their life in a completely different direction. And so that's the insight from today's quick IQ episode. And I want to invite you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode.

You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more empowered and loved and loving and connected that every single person is in our world, The better this world is for all of us. And so please do make a point to have a most wonderful day in your life and definitely celebrate who you are and how you are with, without sensitivities, without hurt, loving and embracing your unique you.

And so it has been such a pleasure connecting with you. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

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