IQ-99: Transcript: The Top 2 Keys to Self-Love & Self-Care

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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themself of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life. Let's begin.


Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today I wanna share with you a very important insight regarding the topic of self-love and self-care. Because you know, if you're here, you know the importance of self-love, of feeling good. Yourself because the more you feel good about yourself and really love who you are, of course it can support your happiness, your healing, your relationships, your enjoyment in life.

You know, that is one area of life that literally affects everything. Your work, your confidence, you know, just feeling good. And so, For that reason, I wanna unpack this topic a bit more because all too often there can be a lot of mixed emotions on this topic that keep people stuck. And one example of that we can see, if we look at last week's episode, we had our beautiful volunteer, Lily.

And if you recall, she had been beating herself up. You know, she's a caring mom who cared about her son, loved him, and. Mentioned that. No matter what she did in the past, she looks back and she feels like she always was a disappointment. She always fell short of being who she wanted to be. And my point in bringing that up is a lot of times people can have subconscious programming that inhibits self-love, meaning this, you know, most people by now have heard about the importance of self-love and.

What can happen is a person can go to bring in a feeling of self-love and really feel that, except for they can feel guilty about or like they don't deserve it, or they're punishing themselves from the past. And so what happens is that your mind will literally block you. From really feeling these feelings, and that's the insight that I wanna share with you today, is that if you are working on self-love and really trying to bring that in, trying to create a shift in your life, there are two key things.

You know, foundational pieces that you will need. To be successful at this, and the first one is to make sure that you don't have any mixed feelings about self-love and feeling good about yourself. Meaning, you know, if you're trying to bring in more feelings of self-love, but there's a part of you who feels like.

That's egoic or you don't deserve it, or it's selfish, or any of those things, they will subconsciously block you from really making that change. And so you'll wanna definitely shift that and rewire that programming in your mind. if that is true for you. So that's one thing. Now, the second key insight is this, is that you may have heard me on past episodes talk about what I call emotion controlled consciousness, and basically this is the awareness that I've found that your emotions really do control your consciousness.

Perspective in life. And one way that we can see this, where research has shown this, if we look, is that we've heard before, you know, if somebody's really, really in love with a person, they have a tendency to see all of the great things. And if you are really, really, really upset with somebody, You'll have a tendency to see all of the things that you don't like, the frustration, all the negative in that person.

Now, what I've found in my work is that this isn't only true in relationships, but in life in general. You know, if somebody's experiencing a lot of. Fear towards life. They'll see all the fearful things. Or if they have a tendency to feel a lot of anger towards things in life, they'll find the things that make them angry.

You know, whatever emotion is going on inside, we're gonna see more and more of that. And it's going to color our perspective, if you will. You know, emotion controlled consciousness. Now, my point being, Is that a lot of times what'll happen with people is they might have feelings towards the self. It says the self isn't good enough, so they're feeling not good enough about self or being critical of self, or feeling like self is less than.

And of course, with these feelings, it's gonna shape what you see. Meaning that just like if you really, really love somebody and you feel all these loving feelings, you see the greatness and wonderful things in them. The same is true with you. The more you feel a sense of love towards yourself, the more you'll automatically see those things in you.

And so point being here is that you'll wanna make sure on the second one, that you radically feel differently. So if you have been feeling bad about yourself or feeling insecure or feeling not good enough, then to really shift the consciousness and this pattern, you genuinely need to feel differently.

And part of the reason that I emphasize this is because all of the time I'll see people who are trying to implement self-care and self-love, where they're taking actions to try to be caring towards self. But s. They're feeling guilty. I mean, I've seen mothers who feel guilty for taking time for themselves.

You know, they might go to take a bath or get a massage or just enjoy, and they're feeling a bunch of guilt. And so the idea of even doing something for self. Feels like it's bad, which then can create feeling bad and guilty and self-criticism, et cetera, et cetera. So it puts a person into a spiral. So I'm just wanting to really emphasize this because all of the time, again, you know, I just see people who are working on this very topic, and yet they're not creating the real.

That is needed to master it, to make it life changing. And that's a key part as well, is that you'll hear me say on every single episode is that genuine change is key. And so you can't do this partially and expect it to work. In fact, sometimes if you do it. Partially, it can actually trigger you backwards.

You know, you can feel guilty about it or this, that, the other. So real change is key. And of course, as you feel genuinely loving and kind towards yourself. It allows you to show up that much better in your relationships anyway, in your relationships with your spouse or your kids, or your family, or whomever.

And so I wanted to share these key insights with you and invite you to apply whatever you're needing to implement. Into your life. All right, so that said, I wanna ask you to please do hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know.

Because the more happy, and healthy, and loving and full of self-love that every person is in our world. The better this world is for all of us, and so please do make a point to have a most incredible, wonderful, loving rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them, hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing every.

What we are all capable of. And of course each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible.

And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my slash podcast.

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Last. Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind.

Thank you.

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