132 Transcript: The Key To Being Loving, Kind And Supportive To Yourself

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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are somebody who is here, who's continuing to expand your mind and your heart, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And you are absolutely going to love today's volunteer. Her name is Jade and she's just fun and sweet and precious.

And also a lot of the things that come up for her throughout this session are things that are really common for a lot of people. And so this is going to be a fun and also very powerful session. And I want to invite you to make sure to just follow along and implement what you can from this. And, by the way, I have to say that there are pieces of today's episode that also were things that I had to work through in my own life.

And so I'll share some of that as we go, just because the topic is very important for healing and for not only that, transforming your life, feeling great, feeling happy, and for really becoming the best version of yourself that you can be in this life. So, that said. Let's go ahead and dive in with Jade.

Here we go.

Are you there? It's wonderful to connect with you. Yeah, I was so excited. I am very, very excited to be here. I love that. And I'm very excited to connect with you. You're beautiful. Uh, what can I help you with today? Um, well, uh, I'll just briefly tell my story. Uh, over six months ago, I fractured my kneecap, uh, from a bike accident.

And, uh, since then, I had, uh, three surgeries and The recovery has been really frustrating and very slow, so I have this ongoing pain in my knee and the leg, and I haven't been able to sleep well for months, and I also recently discovered a re fracture in the knee, which made the whole rehab more complicated and even more slow.

And on top of everything, my knee has been refusing to bend, so I can't bend probably to 80 degrees at the moment on my own. I've done lots of therapies and using a machine. None of them have worked. Um, and, uh, recently I visited the surgeon and he told me that he doesn't know if I can gain more range of motions and he doesn't know what caused the pain and how to treat it.

So, um, I've been really looking for all sorts of solutions and, um, um, Exactly a week ago, I've come across your interview on Daily Code You and I signed up and one of your staff put me on this volunteer podcast and, uh, yeah, since then I've just been waiting for this moment and I, yeah, really want to connect with you.

I love that. I love that. I love that. And, um, and beautiful. Well, welcome. It's, it's wonderful to connect with you. And, uh. Beautiful, and I love that you're looking outside of the box. And so, uh, real quick, if I ask you, um, give me one second. There it is. Give me one sec. All right. And if I ask you right now, what your level of pain is currently, what would you say that is?

Probably a four. Probably a four. Okay. And, um, bingo. And give me one second. Okay. So there's something, it feels like you didn't succeed at about eight months ago. Do you know what that is just offhand? Eight months ago. Mm hmm. Um, no. Okay. I don't know. Okay. So, give me one second. There is a feeling. Okay, so let's go here.

So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you how much you can find the feeling of, bingo, a feeling like your heart on yourself. Zero to ten, what's the level? Yes. Um. Well, since the accidents have been very hard, it's probably 10. 10, 50, somewhere in there, right? Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe, okay?

And I want you to notice the part of you that feels like, I just can't do anything, and it's just feeling like you I have lost your confidence and like you can't do anything and there's frustration. Can you see that? Yes, yes. I feel trapped. Yes. Bingo. Bingo. So ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay.

And if I ask you zero to 10, how much you can find the feeling of feeling pissed? How much can you find that feeling? Oh yes. Very much so. Mm hmm. All right. So I'm going to ask. Yeah, 10. Totally. So ask you just for a moment to breathe. And by the way, if you try to bend your knee, what happens? It hurts. So, um, I've bent to about 85 now, probably, and it really hurts.

Zero to ten, what would you say? How much? Um, five, and a bit more. So if I ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you honestly, how long have you been beating yourself up for? Oh, long enough. I've noticed that, I know. So what you're saying is it's not just after this accident? Uh, well I've been, well I guess that's my personality.

Okay. For a long time. Okay. So if I ask you, is it your personality or your programming? Um, both. Yeah. Programming caused, created this personality.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love what she just said. She's spot on. So when she just mentioned that the programming is creating her personality and that's exactly it, not the other way around. And so notice at first. She had said, well, you know, being hard on myself or criticizing herself, you know, just that feeling was just part of her personality, part of who she was.

And that is something that you'll want to notice, is that all of the time people have that belief of that very thing, where it's like they're not changing, and not really changing, because the things that they need to change the most They just chalk it up to being part of their personality. And so you'll want to notice in your life if you are doing that and you really want to embrace change.

You know, I have to say my personality of who I am today and who I was prior to my injury is the same and it's also different. I would say that I am probably 60 70 percent different Because I've changed different pieces of myself that I wanted to change. And so, that is part of the gift. And by the way, on that note, I can tell you that all of the time I have seen people who are on the healing journey and they've been on it for years and I'll ask them, you know, has your personality really changed?

Have you really changed? And they stop and think about it. And their answer is no. You know, a lot of times what they'll notice is that they've become more quote unquote spiritual, or more enlightened, or more aware, but the same patterns are still showing up in their lives. And so that's, of course, why their health issues are still the same.

It's because they have the same patterns, or they have the same health issues, and they're the same challenges, and they just kind of show up in life. In a different way. And so that's something that you'll want to take a moment and notice is that if you are somebody who has been working on really creating change in your life, and yet your quote unquote personality is still the same, like your programming, your core programming is still the same, then I want to invite you to really look at those things that you're wanting to change about you and and Look at what that is.

And I want to invite you to really take the steps to transform it and, and notice what that would look like. All right. So that's where we're going as we dive back in with Jade. Here we go.

Okay. So out of curiosity, what would happen if you didn't have that programming of being hard on yourself and beating yourself up? Um, I guess I will be. More relaxed. Okay. Less tense, less tense. Bingo. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe more relaxed and less tense, and I want you to notice just for a moment the feeling of feeling guilty inside of you.

Everything you, every, anytime, anything, is it done perfect? You feel guilty about it. Can you see that? Yes. Mm hmm. Zero to ten, how much? Um, probably eight, nine. I would have said 80 or 90, but we'll go with your eight or nine.

I love your, I love your self awareness. Great. Absolutely. So I, I agree with you. So I'm playing, but I absolutely agree. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to notice for a moment how everybody else in the world is perfect. Not really. Absolutely. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I want you to notice for a moment, you don't always have to be like doing a great job, awesome, doing your best job, awesome. But I want you to notice how much guilt you feel if things aren't perfect, perfect. And I'm asking you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to notice how exhausting that is.

Yeah. How exhausting it is. Very. Very. I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take that in and notice the feeling of feeling exhausted. Bingo. And the feeling of feeling guilty. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I'm gonna ask you, are you willing to let go of the guilt? Really? Yes.

Really? Really? I am. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. You are? Really? Yes. Beautiful. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and notice the feeling, a feeling without guilt, of instead what it might feel like to acknowledge yourself, to acknowledge yourself.

What would it feel like to acknowledge yourself? Because if I ask you, how often do you try really hard, how often do you put your best effort forward? How often would you say that is? All the time. All the time, right? And if I ask you 0 to 10, how much would you, you would consider yourself to be a slacker?

Zero. Zero! So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and realize, just It's not like you're slacking off. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. I'm going to ask you, are you willing to acknowledge yourself? Really? Yeah. And if I ask you

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her self awareness. I love her sense of humor and her self honesty. She's just so beautiful and also so kind. When you stop and think about it for a moment, you know, you can tell by her personality, just the way she is on the other part of her personality, that she's really a person who likes to do well, who likes to, uh, show up great, who is smart and, and who is beautiful.

And just inside and out, you can get that from her. And if you think about it, here she is being a smart woman who's hard on herself, who's not acknowledging herself. And this is something that I see all of the time. And so if this is something that you're doing, I want you to pay careful attention as we go through the rest of this session.

Just kind of Noticing and being willing to change. And this was something that I also needed to address when I was going through my injury. And I'll share with you more about that coming up further on in the session. But just the thing that I'm wanting you to notice at this point is that if you are somebody who is doing this, who's being critical of yourself and not acknowledging yourself, and you really want to make sure to begin to shift it.

All right, let's go ahead. And I back in with beautiful Jade. Here we go.

When you put your best foot forward, which you do all of the time, when you're doing that and doing things, is there a part of you that actually kind of does a great job at some things? Yeah. I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Good. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I'm gonna ask you to bring in the feeling of acknowledging you.

Acknowledging you. Acknowledging you. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Good. And take that in. I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take that in and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to notice Bingo. Yes, if I ask you zero to ten what your level of pain is in your knee, what's your level? Um, probably still four.

Bingo. And if I ask you right now how far you feel like you can bend it How far would you say that is?

Probably a little bit more A little bit more. Okay? And if I ask you, when you were, when you try to bend it, how that feels? It's a little easier. A little easier, right? So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And, and how did this accident occur? A bike accident.

I fell off a bike trying to go up a hill. And if I ask you how many times you have criticized yourself for that, how many times would you say that is? Oh, I don't remember. So many. So often. Okay. And if I ask you, are you done criticizing yourself? Like, are you done? Yes. Are you done? Really? Absolutely. Yes.

Yes. I've stopped it. Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice on the inside how much you felt bad for it or like it was dumb or silly or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Critical, critical, critical feelings towards self for it. How much would you say that is? Oh, so much. Yes, I've got silly, stupid, and everything I should, yep.

Mm hmm. Silly, stupid, all that stuff. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Are you done? Are you done beating yourself up? I'm done. I'm totally done. Great. So, by the way, how amazing would it be if you walked down the street And you punch yourself in the face.

Um, I wouldn't. You wouldn't. Okay. So if you're walking down the street and you're kicking your own butt, how are you going to do it in life?

Well, I wouldn't. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to notice how many times in your life you have uttered to yourself Oh, that was stupid. I can't believe that. That, that was stupid. How many times have you muttered those words to yourself? Yes, many times. Yes! Many times.

Yes! So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And many, many, many times before this whole accident, right? Yes. Yep. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And what if I told you part of what your knee says is that was stupid?

That mantra. So ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to notice the feeling of feeling like, oh, that was stupid, towards yourself. Can you see that? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. I'm going to ask you to breathe,

and if I ask you, I want you to think about one smart thing that you've done.

I want you to think about another one,

and another one, and another one. And by the way, if I ask you, are you smart? Yes. Yeah, you are. Very smart, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You know that. I believe so. Mm hmm. You know that, right? Mm hmm. Absolutely. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to take that in. And take in the awareness that you are smart.

Bingo. And ask you to breathe, and if I ask you, are you willing to really let go of the phrase, that was stupid? Yes. 100%? Absolutely. 100%. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Good. Good. I'm going to ask you to breathe, and

I'm going to ask you to picture yourself walking around even a month from now, and what happens if even a month from now you don't even care about this bike thing? You're not even criticizing yourself at all, and you've let it go completely, and you're just walking around feeling smart and knowing that you're smart and being that way and feeling that way.

What does that look like?

I feel relaxed. I love life. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

You'd feel relaxed and love life. And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to look at what that would look like. Look at what that would look like.

All right. So let's go ahead and actually pause the session right here just because This is something that I see all of the time where women, or just people even in general, are being really hard on themselves and criticizing themselves and feeling bad inside. And then also at the same time are smart people who are, smart, who are great, who are, uh, caring and kind and, and just good people.

And so I want to unpack this a bit more because I would love to see you create this change in your life and the beginning steps to really doing so. are going to be making sure to really get a new vision of what that looks like. And notice, I had just asked Jade exactly that, you know, what would that look like in your life?

And, by the way, part of the reason that it is important, especially with this one, to really get a vision with this on what it would look like is because, a lot of times, The brain can have blocks to this very thing, meaning that in my own life, I grew up with, you know, there was somebody in my family who always used to say about other people, you know, they would say this, they would say, Oh, well, she just thinks she's all that.

And they would, you know, be speaking about people at school, or people in the public, or whatnot. And so she would just say that all the time. Oh, that woman, she just thinks she's all that. You know, and I would hear that saying a lot growing up. And so, of course, I didn't want to be, quote unquote, all that.

Because it was a negative way to be. Now, I was an overachiever. I mean, I had all A's I finished high school early, started college early. I mean, all of these things, and yet there was a critical component to self that was pretty critical, but. Because I had always been very successful at what I was doing, whatever that was, whether it was school or soccer or sports or martial arts as a kid or any of those things, because I had always had a very successful side, then at least that like kept me afloat, if you will.

You know, I had this very successful side at whatever I was doing. I was excelling at the highest level I could. And I also had this critical side. Now, then what happened is then when I got injured, I was in a place where I couldn't work anymore. And I was, you know, injured in extreme pain, which means that my overachiever side was gone.

And so, basically, overnight, my overachiever side was, like, gone. And the only part left was my critical side that was extremely critical of myself for being incapable, for not being able to do things. I was feeling very hard on myself. And, There wasn't at least at minimum that other piece that could feel great about myself that could feel like a at least a Overachiever and so what ultimately ended up happening is you know as I was going through my injury I was really hard on myself on top of Everything else and so if you've heard my story ahead of a lot of other links that were connected in my mind that had to do with things like the events from September 11th and all of that stuff.

So that was, that was a whole separate thing. But, point being is that this pattern was something that I had to be willing to shift to get better just because I was also stuck. I was beating myself up, so to speak, and of course from that place I was never going to be able to get where I needed to go. And so notice if you stop and think about this pattern, I want to invite you to start getting a new picture of what that looks like in your life.

And so ultimately, that's what I needed to do. I needed to be able to see that it was okay to feel good about myself. And then it wasn't arrogant because that's what had happened as a kid is that ultimately I thought, okay, well, if you feel good about yourself and you just think you're all that, and it's arrogant.

So my brain immediately went to If you feel good about yourself, it's arrogant and everybody's going to not like you, okay? And so that's what was linked up in my mind and when I started to get a new picture of it and instead feeling good about myself without being super critical of myself was actually just delightful.

It was more enjoyable in life and I could feel good about me and be humbly grateful to be me. And it's like I could be both at the same time. Just because I felt good about myself didn't mean I was going to be arrogant or treat people poorly or condescending or anything like that. And once I really started getting that in my mind that I could, you know, feel great about me and that it was okay.

And it wasn't arrogant and it wasn't bad. And it wasn't like everybody was going to hate me. So that became a really powerful step towards. really transforming this pattern. But first I had to get clear on what that looked like moving forward. And by the way, all of the time, I'll see people who are struggling with this pattern because it's like, they're trying to release, not feeling good enough and trying to get rid of it and trying to get rid of it.

And lo and behold, So, they have other blocks towards the new, towards moving forward, towards feeling good about themselves, you know, similar to what I had. And of course, you know, different in their own unique way, just because our minds are all a bit different. Unique and different and different combinations of programming, of course.

But point being is just that you'll want to be able to move this forward in a new way. And if we also add in that first insight that we talked about when she mentioned her personality, you know, if you start to take that awareness in and integrate that as well, then I want to invite you to start to get a picture of what your personality would even look like.

As you embodied. this change. All right. So that said, just some food for thought on this topic, and we'll go ahead and continue the rest of the session with Jade on next week's episode. But for now, I just want to invite you to take a moment to subscribe. And really look at what this would look like in your life.

And by the way, on that note, I want to invite you also to please make a point to hit the share button, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, you know, the more empowered that every single person is in our world, the better and more loving and wonderful and healthier and happier this entire world will be.

So, Please do hit the share button and also make a point to make it a wonderful day, acknowledge yourself, see the greatness in you and how wonderful you really are. Not from a place of feeling arrogant and superior, but instead from a place of just feeling beautifully empowered that we are all truly amazing beings.

And so with that, I wish you an incredible rest of your day and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.

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