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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind and your energy and your heart and your healing and your consciousness. I just love it. And I love today's episode for so many reasons. And I think that just most people will be able to resonate with some part of today's episode.

And there are also so many insights from this. And, you know, if you have inside of you a strong part, a fierce part, a determined part, and a part of you that's wanting to change your life so badly, And then also a part of you that feels vulnerable, that feels sensitive, that feels frustrated or, or, you know, working on following through and, and just, you know, just, there's, there's so many layers and feelings and emotions to today's episode that it's beautiful and it's transformative and it's silly and it's fun, I mean, it's just, it's, it's a blend, it's a beautiful, beautiful blend of And it's also healing and transformative.

And so that said, I just, I love where we're going today. Our volunteer, her name is Mia. And she's got some health issues going on and also some stresses going on in life. And she's both, you'll notice as we dive in, she's both strong and determined and also vulnerable and frustrated and, and, and just a lot of sensitivity as well.

And so this is just a very sensitive, heartfelt topic that I feel. strongly that everybody can gain some information and insight from to help you on your journey. And so on that note, let's just go ahead and dive right in with beautiful Mia. Here we go.

Hello, Mia. Yes. Hi. Hi. It's wonderful to connect with you. Yes. You as well. Why, thank you. Happy day. And, um, I have not read your paperwork, and I know you have to fill some out, or electronic work, rather, uh, but, uh, what can I assist you with? So, I have chronic Lyme, which creates A whole slew of things. Um, so that is really why I'm here today.

I've had a recent setback and I just am not quite sure what to do with myself. Alright, so that is not fun. First and foremost, I'm going to tell you I don't recommend setbacks. So, just keeping that in mind. Okay. Beautiful, beautiful. And, uh, yeah. So, notice for a moment, we're going to be silly and playful and ridiculous.

And, uh, we're also going to be productive, right? Yes. Does that sound good? Beautiful. Sounds good. Beautiful. Beautiful. All right. So if I ask you right now, uh, what your current level of physical pain is, what would you say that is? Today is a good day. I'm at around a four today. And uh, bingo. Okay. And if I ask you where you would say the most amount of pain is?

I have pain, um, typically on, The left side of my face, my lower back, and in my arms. It's kind of a achy, it's a weird, it's hard to describe. I hear you. I feel you. Um, yeah, it is hard to describe, isn't it? Yeah. So, yeah, I'm with you. Okay. And, um, that, that, bingo. We're gonna go there first, bingo, there first.

Alright, so here's where we're gonna go first. Alright, so Bingo. If I ask you zero to 10, how much you can find the feeling of feeling pissed off, what would you say?

Um, if I can find the feeling. Yeah. Uh, like on a day-to-day basis. Or ? Yeah. Like what do you, um,

don't, I mean, maybe like a That's okay. Two. Okay. About A two. Okay. And, uh, and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you

how much you can find Mickey Mouse on a day to day basis. How much would you say that is? Alright, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. What is your level on a day to day basis? There you go. And I'm going to ask you just a moment to breathe. There you go. Okay, bingo.

All right, so I want to pause it just for a really quick moment You know, I know this sounds silly with Mickey Mouse and all of that But as you will see coming up, there's so many feelings of feeling hard on herself That if I just went right into the energy of the problem It wouldn't be good. It would not be helpful.

Her pain could actually go up instead of down, and so I don't want to trigger her pain more. Instead, I'm wanting to be playful with her and, and go in gently so it doesn't hurt. Trigger anything so you'll notice that in this episode. I'm just super silly ridiculous There's a lot of sensitivity and vulnerability in this episode and you'll notice that I mean She's just she's a beautiful being that does have a lot of emotions and a lot of sensitivity Going on on the inside.

And so that said Let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Mia. Here we go.

Bingo. Okay. There is a, uh,

who is this person? I'm trying to figure out who this person is. Okay. So there's a person, bingo, uh, that there's some anger towards. Do you know who that is? I mean, it could be a few people, I guess, but, um, there, okay. Can you give me, um, bingo, can you give me an initial? Um, well, what I call her with an M.

Okay. And, uh, okay. And give me a different initial. R. Okay. Now, if you go back to the M and you go back to, uh, her other first initial, what would you say that initial is? R. Okay. Not that one. Um, and then can you give me the next one? Oh, boy. Um,

I'm not sure. I mean, it's, I think it's just over the length of my life. I mean, I would say there's a couple people and Okay. Give me one second real quick. Can you give me, can you say, um, A? Uh, yes. Can you say A? A. Bingo. Okay. And, uh, bingo. Alright, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay.

Bingo. Bingo. And if I ask you, bingo. Alright. So there's the pieces. Bingo. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, zero to ten, how much would you say you force yourself to do things that you don't always want to do? What would you say?

I would say ten.

And if I ask you, if I ask you how much rebelliousness you have towards this person who's always forcing you to do things,

how much would you say that is? Uh, yeah, ten. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

You know where we're going with this, right? Yeah. Yep. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And uh, bingo. I'm going to ask you to breathe. And uh, by the way, I want you to notice how much anger you feel towards this person that we're talking about.

Okay. Mm hmm. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

So how do we get her under control?

Oh, man, I didn't even think of that person. Oh, wow. Yeah. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

Alright, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment, just to be clear, yes, we are talking about herself, but in third person, and the reason is, is just because she's so hard on herself. There's actually a divide. between her and herself. And so this is why you'll notice as well that some episodes, if you've been listening to past episodes where I help people to shift, notice that I'm not pushing her at all.

And that's because some people, they need that push to, uh, to be able to shift. And for other people, especially if she's right here in this place, right now, it's just about doing a silly shift, if you will. It's just, we're being super silly and playful so she can get her information in where we're still working with the mind and just programming it in a different way to get it where it needs to go.

And so just noticing that and. Even as I'm working with her, I don't know if you can tell, but she's also got a lot of tears most of the time. So she's, you can hear it in her voice when her voice goes to crack or she goes to speak and, and she's, there's a, there's a bit of a pause just because again, there's a lot of emotion and sometimes it's about finding your sense of humor, finding yourself, finding a playfulness with self.

And as you'll notice that helps her to make the shift. So we're not just using humor to escape what's going on, but we're using humor to actually just address what's going on in a way that will help it to shift. And so I want to invite you that if you're in a place where you've been hard on yourself, to see if you can use a bit of humor and playfulness with yourself.

And we'll of course, dive into some more insights on all of this, but just kind of just noticing as we're being a bit playful. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Mia. Here we go.

Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and uh, what would it look like to create a sense of harmony with self? It would, it would

be pretty amazing. Can you see the part of you that's wanting to laugh and cry at the same time? That's what I'm doing. Yeah. Uh huh. Yeah, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, yeah,

and I'm going to ask you to breathe,

I just want you to notice that chick's hard on you. Wow. Wow. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. What would happen if she took a chill pill?

I think I'd be a lot happier. Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Breathe.

Okay, and I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

Bingo. And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to notice what it would feel like if she was actually just really nice and supportive to you. Nice, supportive, kind. Nice, supportive, kind, loving. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Do you notice how much this, even as I say that, how much it makes your whole body feel like you can, there's like a, again, the pain is so hard to describe, but it's like a whole forceful blanket over your body that just wants to relax when we say if she was nice to you. Can you see that? Yeah, yeah. Or feel that, yeah.

So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. It's like I'm tingling, actually. Yeah, I definitely feel it. Yeah, right? So I'm going to ask you

what it would feel like.

I'm going to ask you actually just for a moment to breathe. I'm just giving self permission to take a moment and just breathe.

Bingo. Okay, so under that, as we start to breathe a bit more, there's a feeling underneath that says, But I'm not perfect. Can you find that feeling? Great. So you're just going to beat yourself to your heart. I don't know that that's gonna work.

Let's see. Beat yourself into perfection. Does that mean it's an interesting take? So, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. I'm gonna

ask you to breathe and just relax for a moment. To breathe and just relax.

Bingo.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, notice I had asked her what it would be like to have a harmonious relationship with herself. And, you know, of course, noticing that there's still a lot of tears coming up, but it's starting to, to think about, you know, having a different type of relationship.

of relationship with self. And what would that even look like? And so we're going to go ahead and unpack this even more coming up. And we're going to talk about some key insights to making change where it's not about being forceful to yourself or hard on yourself, but rather creating that change and programming the change in to your subconscious mind.

And so that's where we're going as we step back in. with beautiful Mia. Here we go.

I'm going to ask you to breathe and just relax. And I want you to take in the awareness for a moment. You've heard before that about 90 to 95, maybe even 96 percent of the brain, like you, who you are, who you are, and your habits, and who you are, and the way you show up, and your patterns, all of that is run by your subconscious mind, right?

Yes. Okay, so if you're trying to force yourself to do things, force, force, force, force, force, force, force, force, force, force, force, are you working more with the conscious mind or the subconscious mind?

Do you use subconscious? Well, not if you're forcing. Or the conscious mind if I'm forcing it. Mm hmm, with the conscious mind. So if you're forcing, you're trying to get that five to ten percent in your brain. To do everything right against the 90 to 95, 96%, right? Yeah. Okay. So, if I ask you, next week, if you're trying to force yourself to do something, force, force, force, force, force, force, force, or if you're going program, program, program, program, program, program, program, program, program, if you're doing force, you're working with the conscious brain and trying to force yourself to change, whereas If you're working with the subconscious mind, then you know you've got to program in changes, correct?

Yes. Great, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, ah, just go ahead and keep forcing yourself, right? You know, force yourself, force, force, force, force, force. Or program, program, program, program, program.

Well, the program sounds like it's better. Yeah, much better plan, right? I want you to picture just for a moment, you have a kid. And you decide to force them to remember the alphabet. And you force, force, force, force, force, force, force, force, force them to learn, learn the alphabet and hurry up and do it. How does that go for them?

They're not gonna learn the alphabet. They're not going to learn the alphabet. They're going to hate you and they're going to have PTSD and everything else. They're going to be traumatized. Okay, now instead I want you to picture that you teach them the ABC song, and it's fun, and they learn the alphabet.

And how they're going to do learning the alphabet instead. What would you say? They're going to remember it better. They're going to have fun. They're going to have a better connection. They're going to be happier than me. Totally. And they're going to be healthier. And less stressed. And happy. They're going to be like, hey, look at me.

I can do the alphabet. Right? Yeah. Prouder of themselves. Instead of like, yeah. Proud of themselves. Feeling good. Instead. And how's the other one going to feel? Defeated, and upset, and stressed, and anxiety, and Totally. And not be great at the alphabet, and all those things, and, and Which one's gonna have a happier life?

The less stressed one. Mm hmm. And which one's gonna be more successful? The less stressed one. Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe,

and which one would you say you've been treating yourself as?

The stressed one. Yeah, so if I ask you Notice that you're wanting to succeed, you're wanting to do great, right? And so, and, and perfect, and do better in life, and, and make changes, which is awesome, and wonderful, but what would it look like to program those changes in? To program your mind, to program, program, program, right?

Great, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you, next week, would you like to go back to forcing yourself? No. No. What about the month after that? You want to go back to, like, forcing yourself? Great. What would happen if, moving forward, you started treating yourself with love, and making it fun, and just following through to embrace change, and programming your mind in fun, wonderful, positive, happy ways?

What would that look like?

It would be wonderful. Yeah, by the way, Totally. And by the way, notice when I said that, you were trying to catch your breath to even speak through the tears. Notice that, right? Yeah. I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

I'm gonna ask you to just breathe. Just breathe.

Just breathe. What if everything was about to get better? I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Take a nice deep breath. And

by the way, What do you mean you're not perfect yet? I mean, everybody else is already perfect.

Everybody else is already like perfect. I don't know why you're not perfect yet. Or would you say everybody else is growing and evolving and expanding hopefully, and you know, of course some people are stuck, but everybody else has, everybody's got things to work on. Right. Yeah. Okay. So could it be okay if you have things to work on?

Yeah. That could be okay? Yeah. Great. Yeah, it could be okay. So I'm going to ask you, you could be okay? Okay. Just so you know, that voice wasn't very convincing. You're like, you, you could be okay with it? Yes. Yes. You're going to have to convince me a little bit more than that. I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Breathe, breathe, breathe. Okay. Okay. Breathe, breathe, breathe.

Okay. Breathe, breathe, breathe.

Okay. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice, right now, what the level of pain is in your arms. What's your level? Uh, it's like a one or two. Mm hmm. So who's doing that, by the way?

I am. Mm hmm. You are. Great. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe. So, the nice thing is, you can see you go from a four to a one, two, right in there, right? Yeah. So, that is about a one point, about a one point three. So, right, right there. Right between a one, two. And, by the way, what's the level of pain in your back?

It's, it's at a one. Mm hmm. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Bingo. Thank you. And if I ask you how hard you've been trying to get life to get better, how much would you say that is?

Like a 10. 10 or 50 or 10, 000. Yeah. Uh huh. Now if I ask you, other than your health, what has been going on that's really stressing you in life?

My finances and my home and, not my family home, but my, where I live. It's just a combination of a lot of moving parts and, um, it's been, yeah. Okay. A lot of moving parts. And I want you to notice that's what, what came up was finances. You see, that's the other big stress, right? Yes. Yeah. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right, so I want to go ahead and actually pause the session right here. You know, first and foremost, she's gotten her pain down from a level four all the way down to a level one. And. There's more to come as far as getting her pain down all of the way and also more on the topic of money Which is why I want to pause the session right here is because I know that there are a lot of people who have stress towards money and also there were a lot of people who people who really need to look at their relationship with self to set yourself up for success, to be kind to yourself, to have a great life, to be happy.

And so both of these topics are very, very important. And so for that reason, On today's episode, I just want to wrap up this one specific topic and then next week we'll listen to the second half of this segment and talk more about the topic of money and some key insights there as well. Now when we really start to look at today's topic with the relationship with self, I want to invite you to look at.

What does that look like for you, you know? Are you in a place where you've been being really hard on yourself and do you need to be kinder to yourself? Do you need to treat yourself with kindness and is that something that you're craving or and I know this is gonna sound odd for some people Do you need to push yourself a bit?

And let me explain, you know, I can tell you that I have pushed myself many times before, but in a way that I like it in a way that it feels good and expansive. Not in a hard way, not in a frustrating way, not in a mean to myself type of way, but instead of in a, in a positive way where I say, you know what, like, I can achieve this goal, I can reach this and, and going for and saying, okay, look, I've got this, I'm going to push myself, I'm going to stretch, you know, and when you stop and think about it for a moment, I am also in the hall of fame for martial arts, you know, Taekwondo.

And so for me to push myself a bit. It is a great thing if done in the right way, then it feels good. And, and I say push, but it is, it's a stretch. It's going, okay, can I do this? Like let's do this. You've got this. You know, so it is a push, but with kindness, with motivation, with stretch. And so even if you think about past episodes, there are plenty of past episodes.

If you've heard me working with people before on past episodes, then we're, we're a push people a bit where I say, come on, you know, you've got this or, or let's do this. Or, you know, I'll be playful, but I playfully push. I'm like, go ahead and, you know, keep that problem or whatever it is. Like I push a bit, but in the kind stretching sort of way.

And I got to tell you, I love to stretch. I love to grow. I love to reach to the next level in any area of life. You know, whether it's physical fitness or what I'm capable of or what I'm doing, like it just, I like to stretch. And I love to do that as long as it's done in the right way. And so I want to invite you.

To look at how your relationship with self is from a couple different aspects, you know, first and foremost, number one, are you being kind to yourself? That's number one, like, are you being kind to yourself? Number two, are you setting yourself up for success? You know, when you stop and think about it for a moment, we were talking about the difference between just pushing yourself and forcing yourself.

Forcing and forcing and forcing compared to programming yourself. And programming and looking at what it looks like to program a change in. You know, and we're going to talk even more about this on the next half of this session when we start talking about even changing some programming when it comes to money.

And why that's felt so stuck. Because that's what a lot of people will do. They want a particular goal. And yet they're not aligned with it. And so they force and force and force and force and force themselves. And it's like forcing yourself into a brick wall. Like, good luck with that. It's not going to work, unfortunately, you know, let's not do that.

And so that's what you want to look at as well. And that's again, number two is, you know, are you setting yourself up for success to make a real shift? Are you programming your mind? and really getting those changes in or are you just trying to force yourself to change, you know, and so you want to think in terms of programming, you know, and making sure to program your subconscious mind.

So that of course is key to making the change. Now number three is I am going to invite you to look at. Do you need to push yourself? And if so, how can you do it in a loving, stretching way where you go, okay, I've got this, or I can do this or all right. So I've done five minutes of exercise. Let me do seven and this is going to be amazing and fun.

And, and, and you've got this, you know, in doing it in a wonderful way. How can you stretch? in whatever way that you're wanting to stretch to become more of your best self. And by the way, even as I was going through my injury, not only was I working on stretching as far as programming in new information into my subconscious mind, but another thing, I was working on also stretching as far as being present, being very present, and saying, Okay, let me stretch my mind to see if I can just be extremely present in the moment without not being present, you know, just how much can I stretch myself to be more and more present?

And I would do that. And so what you'll want to do or what I'd invite you to do in your life is look at your relationship with self and also your relationship with change and make sure that you're setting yourself up to be kind to yourself, to be successful at transforming and programming your mind, and also be successful at stretching or growing or pushing yourself, whatever wording you want to use, just because all of the time I'll see people who say, okay, well, you've got to be really nice to yourself.

Just be so kind and just be so loving towards yourself. And they'll say exactly that, you know, just be kind, just be loving to yourself. And then. They don't make any of the changes that they want in life either because they're so busy. just being kind and loving to self as is. And, you know, if I would have during my injury just said, okay, well, I'm just going to be kind and loving to myself and I'm just going to be kind and loving to myself, I would still be in my injury.

So I needed to be kind and loving to myself and also develop a positive relationship. with personal growth. So I was stretching in a positive way because I gotta be honest. There was a point when I was extremely hard and critical of myself and kind of mean to myself. I was, you know, just, I was forcing myself.

I was where she is, you know, where I was just forcing myself, pushing myself, trying to make myself do things because I just wanted to get better so bad and doing it with love, doing it with kindness is key. But you want to make sure that you don't swing the pendulum the other way. Meaning that, I can't tell you how often I see people who are hard on themselves and pushing themselves, and then they hear, okay, you're just supposed to love yourself.

And so they swing the pendulum the other way, where they're just trying to be loving and kind to themselves. But then, because they're not growing, And things aren't happening, they get in more fear, and more stress. So then they swing the pendulum back the other way, and start forcing and pushing themselves, and being mean on themselves.

And then of course they know inside, that they're supposed to be loving themselves. So then the pendulum swings back the other way. Just love, just be kind, just be nice. So, what we want, is instead of swinging it back both ways, We want both. We want the best of both worlds. We want love and kindness and self support with transformation and self love and stretching and growing.

Right? And so that's what I want to invite you to look at today is what is that for you? Because as you can see, Even if you listen to different podcast episodes, notice I'm a bit different with each person. If, if there's one person that I need to push a little bit more, I will. If there's another person where I need to just be ridiculous and silly and playful, I will.

And so if you think about what you need. in your life right now and what is going to be optimal for supporting you to stretch, to grow, to your next level with kindness and love and a beautiful relationship with self. That would be beautiful. So that's what I want to invite you to look at from today's episode.

And I want to invite you to please do make sure to hit the share button and share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because let's be honest, so many people are going back and forth between being really hard on themselves to then knowing that they're supposed to love themselves.

And then they go back to being hard. Like there's that balance is so important. We want. both. We want self love and growing and flourishing and stretching and happiness and harmony and expansiveness. So please do make sure to hit the share button on this episode and please do make a point to make it a most wonderful, wonderful day.

And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. I'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.