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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

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Hello and it is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind and your energy and your consciousness and your heart and your healing. I just love it. And I love today's episode. It is packed with really important insights for happiness, for healing, for even understanding why a lot of people can stay stuck for many, many years.

And so they're just a variety of different insights that can help you on your journey. So I love that. And we are going to pick up where we left off from last week. Now, if you recall, we had been working with this beautiful volunteer, here, Ashley. And halfway through the session, we went ahead and paused it just because there was so much information that I wanted you to be able to integrate some of it in your life.

And so today we are going to dive into the second half of that session with Ashley. Now a few reminders, as you recall, you know, she had acid reflux. in her throat at about level six. And also there were a lot of things going on. She felt like she was just over 30 and old and starting to fall apart. And so of course we had to reset that, that 30 is not old at all.

And, uh, and that, uh, you're definitely not going to start, Falling apart after 30 or any age, you don't want that belief. And then also 30 is young, is very young. So, um, we're going to, we're talked about that and beliefs. And if you missed that episode, I would definitely recommend relistening to that, but just everything from also the fear of dying and, and that she was spending a lot of years dissecting the negative.

And. One of the things that we are going to look at today is the tricky part of the positive, or one of the tricky parts of the positive that can keep people stuck. Um, and also understanding that as we are going into the positive, that you can actually get real results. And as she started to shift from dissecting the negative, that Some things happened.

Some things changed. So, we're going to talk about what that is, because it's a little tricky when working with the mind. So, that's where we're going to go as far as happiness, stepping into that, shifting health issues, and, speaking of, that was another piece that she had as well. She had this huge fear of getting sick and dying, and, and of course, if you recall from the last episode, her sister.

She died suddenly from an autoimmune issue and suddenly died at a young age. And so that was part of her fear, but if you remember, she had also had that feeling of fear even at a young age, starting at like age four and young, and she would even as a kid. Leave notes in the laundry for her mom just in case something happens.

So, noticing that her beliefs and fear about dying started much, much before her sister even died. So that was something we had talked about on the last episode. So there are key things in the mind that you want to be careful of. And by the way, As far as beliefs about dying and what you link to dying, you'll want to make sure to be careful about your beliefs and, and all the planning around dying and things like that.

And what I mean by that is this, is that even recently I went to dinner with a couple friends and we were out in Malibu just having a wonderful meal on the water. And as we were talking and having a great time. Uh, one of the friends brought up a topic and she said, you know, what would you want if this was, if you were going to have your last meal, it was, if you knew that it was your very last meal, what would you want?

And she had planned out her entire last meal, what it was and how great it was going to be and, and all these things. So she was, you know, talking about what her last meal would be and it, she obviously put a lot of thought into it and it sounded like an incredible. last meal. And the other friend that was there also, you know, mentioned all the things that she was going to have and she went into great detail about it.

And I just kind of remained silent the entire time. And then they said, you know, Brandy, what would you want? And, uh, and I jokingly said, a lifesaver. And one of them says, you know, you like lifesavers that much? I didn't expect you were big on candies and stuff like that. And I said, you know, no, it's not about the candy.

It's about, you know, I don't, I'm not going to plan. on dying anytime soon. And this is the thing, is what you want to be cautious of is that if you link up a whole bunch of pleasurable things to dying, if you're like, oh my gosh, well, I'm going to have this amazing meal, I'm going to have this, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do this, it will subconsciously make your body and your energy want to impart move in that direction and of course what will typically happen is that part of the subconscious mind will want to start going in that direction and the conscious mind will be like I want to stay alive or you know and part of the other part of the brain will want to stay alive and then you end up with a lot of conflicting programming where it's like one part of your body wants to go east and the other part wants to go west.

And then you get a lot of stuckness or up and down results or things like that. And, you know, this isn't something that comes up in this episode. This episode is a bit different as far as, again, happiness and mistakes that people are making and whatnot. So that's more so where we're going. But just because I see people link different things up, All of the time in the subconscious mind.

It's just something you might want to pay attention to, um, you know, divine timing. This just happened a few weeks ago. And so, uh, just divine timing that, uh, everything happens for a reason and just kind of noting that, that you won't want to create a bunch of excitement around, um, your dying unless you're at the point where you're ready.

to then go. Then you can start planning a meal and whatnot. But, uh, unless you're ready to go, plan your life, plan your happiness, plan your joy. And that's where we're going today is Of course, as I mentioned, looking at some of those things that can block you from happiness and also block you from creating that shift with your health, with your life, with your fear, with all of those things.

And so that said, we're going to go ahead and dive in where we left off and she was talking about the age when her sister did pass and then, of course, moving into. happiness and feeling good. So that's where we're going as we dive back in with beautiful Ashley. Here we go.

Bingo. Give me one second. Bingo. All right. So if I ask you, by the way, bingo. Okay. And how old were you when your sister passed? Uh, how old was I? I think 20. 29 or 30. Yeah, because I'm 35 now. Yes, I think 30. Okay. Yeah. And, uh, binga, binga, binga. And if I asked you, you said it tore the family apart, right? Yeah.

Okay. And how many are there in your, how many siblings do you have? Two other siblings, yeah. Okay. And, uh, and if I ask you why it tore your family apart, why would you say that is? Well, my sister was like the happy go lucky one that kind of made everyone come together. And my other siblings are kind of more quiet.

I was closer to my little sister because we were closer in age and just more similar personality wise. So, the other three of us are just not as close without her. And even my older sister, when she passed, was like, Oh, I wish it was me instead. Which isn't true, but like there's a small part of me that does feel that's true because I was so close to my little sister.

Right, that she wishes it was her instead or you instead? Her, her instead of my little sister, she said, because she's the oldest. Okay, and bingo. And so it was your youngest sister that passed. Yeah. Okay. And, uh, bingo. Bingo. That. That. That. That. Bingo. That. Bingo. Alright, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. Hundred percent. Bingo. Bingo. Let me just look at the best way to navigate this real quick. Bingo. Okay, so, I already, I mean, I know the, I know where I want to go, and this is, this is kind of what it is, okay? Notice the part of you that, uh, A million times has wondered what, what it was that made your sister, uh, pass, right?

Yes, so that is very much in your energy and it's like I'm trying to look around that elephant because this is the thing is if I tell you, then you're going to be like, oh, it was my grandfather who gave her that belief or, oh, it was my grandmother or it was my mom or it was God or it was, it was, you're going to like point somebody.

I'm going to throw somebody under the bus. And love is not.

What I can tell you is this, is that she did not have a feeling of feeling like she deserved to live. Okay. So, and she also, bingo, had beliefs about dying young. Okay. So, which is interesting because the thing I will say is, of course, That's why you guys were sisters is you guys had some similar belief systems, right?

And so yours were different than hers, of course, but it's kind of like Everybody kind of comes into this life with the the challenges that they come in with right? I had my own for a specific reason you have your own for a specific reason, right? Yeah Okay, and your sister had her truck. I had her Okay.

Right. And so.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, I want to make a correction to what I was just saying. You know, I meant when I said, you know, you came in with your plan and your sister came in with her plan, what I meant to say was not plan, but patterns. And what I mean by patterns is that, you know, it's like when we come into this life, we will come in with.

Whatever patterns that we have, we'll find people with similar patterns that are complementary to what it is that we have, meaning this, you know, let's say somebody comes into this life with a pattern of feeling criticized and that they've been experiencing that for several lifetimes. And so in this lifetime, they had this pattern of feeling criticized and pattern of feeling then of course the perfect fit for that pattern of feeling criticized is to then come into this world with a mother who is a strong perfectionist pattern and a strong perfectionist and feels critical And then that becomes a perfect match because it's like you have a right hand and a left hand, you know, you have a, a pattern that is complimentary, or even somebody who comes into this world who maybe has had past lives of patterns of being abused and patterns of being abused, and then they come into this lifetime and They end up with a father who has anger, massive anger issues, and massive anger issues that he can't control.

And that becomes, you know, a right hand and a left hand, meaning, you know, a fit together, a perfect pattern, unfortunately, and a perfect unfortunate pattern, you know, obviously that is not perfect. But my point is, is that, When we come into this life, it's not that we have a plan, per se, but we have patterns.

We all have patterns from the past, and whoever our family members are that we come in with are complementary to that pattern. And meaning that, you know, if there is a pattern of feeling not good enough, then there can be somebody in the family who can then kind of, bring that out and make you feel like you're not good enough or whatever it is.

And so that's a lot of times why people have such a hard time with their family is they'll blame the issue on their family. But it's also because they've had these patterns for lifetimes. You know, if you look at Ashley's situation, you know, her sister suddenly died. You know, got in her twenties, a young age, all of a sudden got an autoimmune issue and died.

What was it? Something like eight months later, you know, all of a sudden. And so it was abrupt. Now, if you think about that, I mean, huge compassion for this situation in this family. And also when you look at the bigger picture, Ashley is aware, she has great self awareness that she even as a kid had an extreme fear of dying.

So much so she would leave notes in the laundry for her mom. And now when you think about the bigger picture, the fact that her sister then suddenly died, you know, with, from an autoimmune issue, is going to do what for Ashley's pattern? It of course will increase that pattern, that fear, exponentially.

Okay, and further, there are other components that will increase it as well, and also Keep Ashley from being able to feel happiness. And so that's of course where we're going, is feeling happiness, being happy, feeling free to live a great life, no matter what is in the past. You know, whether it's guilt, or somebody passing, or mourning, or a variety of different things.

And so that's where we're going, but I just wanted to correct that it wasn't a plan, it was a pattern. And I also just wanted to explain that these are the ways that patterns show up in life. And, and that you want to make sure to of course transform not just the situation, but the bigger picture of the pattern itself and the very things that are blocking you from creating that change.

And so that's where we're going as we step back in with Ashley. Here we go.

If you knew that I was, you were going to do the exact same thing that I did from my own injury, which, you know, grow from it, like if you went through this and you grow from yours in your direction, and if you do that and you were going to grow, bingo. And you were really going to change. First and foremost, you'd have to stop dissecting all of the negative.

Secondly, you'd have to start getting better at being fun. Like that's just going to,

okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. And I want you to notice, give me one second. Give me one sec. Bingo. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. I got you. I got you. I got you. All right. Hold on. There's all kinds of stuff coming. I'm a mess. Don't say that.

Totally not helpful. What are you, this is the wrong, I, you got the wrong podcast, you're old at 30, you're a mess, and you're going to, what, and you're going to hell, like wrong podcast, bad planning, mayday, backwards, and you're dissecting, you're dissecting problems the whole time. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe.

I want you just for a moment to realize, and I'm going to ask you to take in the feeling of feeling like it is fair for you to continue on. So it is fair, it is okay. Like, if I ask you, zero to ten, how much you feel free to live a great life? Do you feel happy to celebrate, to be okay with that? Like, two to three.

Exactly. So, what's, what's happening there? What would happen if you, in your state of your awareness, said, you know what, maybe you even had a conversation with your mom, and you said, you know what, I realize I've still been in some type of mourning on feeling like I can't live a full life and I'm done with that.

You know, instead of feeling like I can't live every day to its fullest and I can't celebrate, instead, I'm going to instead learn the lesson and I'm going to instead live every day to its fullest. I'm going to live every day. I'm going to celebrate life. I'm going to realize that life is wonderful and life is beautiful and I'm not going to take it for granted.

I'm going to live every day to its fullest. Yeah. Right? Yeah. What would that look like if you actually embodied that? Um, I don't know, just being happy and doing things and not letting fear control me or stop me from doing things. But if I ask you just for a moment, how much do you have fear of a health issue right now?

Zero to ten, what's your level? Like a seven, I guess. You notice it's going down and we're not even talking about that.

Yeah. Okay, yeah. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you, can you allow yourself to live a full, happy, wonderful, fabulous life? Can you allow yourself to live a full, happy, wonderful, fabulous life? wonderful life to say, instead of feeling like you can't live a full life, then instead saying, you know what, living every day to its fullest, that you took a empowering meaning from this.

And you said, okay, well this happened and I'm going to take an empowering meaning from this. Like when things happen, like if the doctors say, Oh, I couldn't get better. Well, I took an empowering meaning from that. Right. If you said, okay, look, this happened. Okay. And I got to tell you, I have compassion and it sucks.

That happened with your sister. That sucks. And, I want to like push you, nudge you, to take an empowering meaning from it that says, You know what? I'm going to value life. I'm going to appreciate life. I'm going to live life to its fullest. I'm going to celebrate every day. I'm going to be happy on purpose.

And I'm going to do exactly that. What would that look like? I, I don't know. It's hard to imagine. What do you think your sister would think if you were like, yeah, so I'm, I'm wasting every day of my life now just dissecting problems and negativity. She'd probably think I'm silly. I guess I never realized before.

I, I thought I was trying to help by, unraveling things, you know what I mean? I wasn't trying to make it worse. I, I, I hear you, I know, I know, but notice how much you've not put any emphasis on positive things. Can you see that? Yeah, yeah. And you remember when I said I see that all of the time? Yeah. Right?

So it's not just you, okay? Yeah. So, but what I want you to do Is, of course, I want you to change it. I want you to start bringing in the positive. I want you, what would happen if you took an empowering meaning from this, and you said, you know what? Love you, sis, and I'm gonna live every day to its fullest.

I'm gonna live every day for both of us. I'm gonna live so much happy and so much joy, and I'm gonna celebrate, and Yeah, and by the way, what if you knew your sister was watching you live a full life and happy and and getting to and Fulfilled by it and having that happiness and that joy with you. Yeah, that's what I want Okay, like I've been trying in my own way just maybe not doing it, right?

Great so I'm gonna ask you to breathe and if I ask you would would you like to commit to doing something happy? Yeah, sure Yeah. Okay. What is that?

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, what I want you to notice is, yes, I asked her to commit to doing something happy, but I had also asked her to make sure to bring in the feeling that she does deserve a happy, wonderful life. Because if you recall Her feeling like she deserves to be happy was like a level two or three And that you know, and so it wasn't there and so notice point being is that you want the change on the inside And then you also want to make sure to make that change on the outside as well You know to step into that in your reality.

So both are true And, by the way, also notice that her fear of a health issue has gone way down to a level seven, which may not sound way down for a lot of people, but if you remember, it was like a 500, you know, it was huge. And it's starting to go down even when we're not working on it because we're working on other things.

And a lot of people, they think in the mind that one One equals one, two equals two, but a lot of times when something is going on in the mind, it is reflecting from something else. The way to think about it is if you think about a projector. You know, if you've ever watched a film from a projector where the movie's coming from the back of the room and projecting onto a screen, you know, if somebody chased the screen to try to shut off the movie, you know, or change the movie, you know, it's coming from the projector.

And so a lot of times things that are going on in the mind. are coming from something else, and they're reflecting in a different way, and so that's what we're seeing here, is exactly that, is that, you know, as she's able to start stepping into feeling happy, her fear of a health issue, and the fear of dying, and things like that, are going down.

And, of course, it's different for every person, but that is what's linked to hers, specifically, is that. And so, you want to just remember that, of course, all change starts from within, and, of course, as you start to make that change on the inside, you'll want to embody it. And you can use it with your actions as well.

And so committing to doing something happy is a start for that. And you'll see what happens and what unfolds as she continues to open this up even more. And so that's where we're going. As we step back in with Ashley, here we go. Yeah,

that's what I want. Okay. I feel like I've been trying in my own way, just maybe not doing it. Right? With enough happiness. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and if I ask you, would you like to commit to doing something happy? Yes. Sure? Yeah. Okay. What is that? Um, I guess probably try to do a dance class, because that's what I wanted to do.

That sounds fun. That sounds like a lot of fun. Great. So you're going to try to do it, or are you going to do it? I'm going to do it. Awesome. Great. Yeah. Great. Great. I love that. I love that. You'll have to email back in and email my team and tell, tell them to, uh, uh, let me know when you start. Yeah. Okay. I like it.

I like it. I like it. All right, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you zero to ten, how much you have fear towards health issues, what would you say? Right now it feels like three. Yeah, I would have said a two. Like notice. Yeah, it's going down. It's going down and we're not even talking about that because we're talking about other things to, to do and be and connect and, and love life fully, right?

So making sure to put in the positive is so, by the way, notice we're talking about positive, positive, positive, positive, right? And your fear is going down right now? What? We're not even sitting here dissecting the problem. Okay. So, so by the way, in truth, it's, it's typically a balance. So we want to definitely, we look at and identify what is the negative.

Then we look at how to bring in the positive. I mean, so it's, it's a balance and I, and I know I'm being silly and playful and that's again, because I'm being asked to be exactly that, to, to bring that in. And that. That this, this work and, and personal growth can all be playful, can be fun, can be expansive.

It should be life. It should be fun and playful and enjoyable, right? Does that make sense? Yeah, definitely. Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. So funny. All right, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

All right, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Give me one second. That, that, that. All right, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to close your eyes and I want you to picture that life actually goes great.

Bingo. Now I want you to notice the part of you that feels like you have to mourn with your family. Can you see that? Yeah. Mm hmm. Now, Who's the leader of the family? Probably my mom. Okay. And, uh, if I ask you, how much would you say she's happy and, and living a full happy life? I don't really know because I haven't been talking to her.

Okay. In my brain, it seems like she's unhappy. Okay. Fake happy. Okay. So, bingo. So what would happen if you started leading your life? And feeling happy and being a role model and being an inspiration in your family and saying, you know what? I'm going to celebrate every day. I'm going to like Think it's like this feeling and it's the best way to put it It's almost like it wolf if everybody else is sad, then it won't be okay for me to be happy.

Can you see that? Yeah, definitely 100 Yeah, that's what i'm going for right now is exactly that if everybody else is sad, it's not okay for me to be happy Okay, so i'm gonna ask you to breathe

And maybe that's a bad direction to go for your energy. What if you said, you know what? I'm going to purposely be happy. I'm going to purposely like, what if everybody's waiting for somebody else to be able to make it okay to be happy and then like notice, right? Yeah, that's true. Yeah, that's true. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And you've been waiting, what, five, six years now? Yeah.

Can I tell you, I've seen people who have waited 30 years before or longer. Yeah. Uh huh. How much longer do you think you need to wait? Not, not any longer. Okay, so if I told you, by the way, that somebody you know had a person pass away in the family five, six years later and the family was still on mourning five, six years later, how many more years do you think they should all stay on mourning?

Oh, I don't know. I was just telling him to go to therapy. Like 10, 15, I mean. You were what? I'm sorry. I just said I would tell him to go to therapy, but now I'd like to tell him back. I'm just kidding. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. So, what do you think? Like, ten more years? Twelve more years?

What do you, what do you think is a reasonable amount of time to, to mourn? Yeah, yeah, I guess, I guess for me it was hard because I wanted to make sure that she was happy where she, where she is. But, but, but wait a sec, which I know I can see that part too. That's another elephant I'm looking around. Okay, I see that one very, what's that?

I'm sorry. No need to apologize, honey. No need. You're beautiful. You're beautiful. All right. So, uh, bingo. All right. Lovely. Let's see. All right. So, uh, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And how long do you think is a reasonable amount of time to mourn? Like a year, I guess is reasonable. Okay.

Then you should stop. I guess you should be happy after that. Okay. So a year is reasonable and you should stop. So does that mean you're free? Right now? To be happy? I guess so. It doesn't, I feel like I'm afraid that I'm not free. Exactly, because I don't see the feeling in you like you feel like you're free.

So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you to take that feeling in. What does it feel like to feel like you're free to be happy now? You're free to be happy again. You're free to be happy again. Yeah, it feels like before I was four or something. Yeah, I'm free. Okay, so I'm going to ask you, but I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I want you to feel that in the now. What does it feel like to feel like you're free to be happy again? Right now. I'm going to ask you to bring the feeling in. Now I'm going to ask you to bring the feeling in. What does it feel like to feel like you're free to be happy right now? 100 percent happy.

You're 100 percent free. You are 100 percent free to be happy right now. It feels like an overwhelming feeling. Okay. Like happiness feels overwhelming. Does that make sense? Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And is it that happiness feels overwhelming or that you feel guilty for feeling happy? I don't know.

Maybe both. I can't separate the two. Bingo. Well, you can separate the two, but right now the two are connected. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Alright. So, let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, so many things. I mean, just keeping it simple. First and foremost, noticed that even after she said she was going to take a class and really was allowing herself to step into having happiness and enjoying life then her fear of a health issue went even down, down even further and the reason for that is because again, there's multiple factors going on but the more life feels like it could be happy also makes her brain want to live it more, want to enjoy more.

So again, just more reflections. Now, another thing that was very profound was noticing that the awareness that happiness is connected to guilt, and that started at age four. And notice she said she can't separate the two. Bingo. That's exactly what you'll want to notice is that yes, she can and she'll want to, she'll need to.

But all of the time, there's a few things going on, there's so many things going on here. Um, all of the time I'll see people who have that linked up where they have, you know, some type of positive thing linked up to a negative thing or vice versa, a negative thing linked up to a positive emotion. You know, you've heard me in past episodes talk about, uh, unfortunately, a cutter, but who can cut themselves and experience a feeling of euphoria or relief when cutting themselves.

Even though it doesn't make any sense, emotions can get linked up to the very thing that you're not wanting. And it doesn't make any logical sense or, you know, vice versa, where you can feel like happiness is then linked up to guilt. So then happiness doesn't feel good because it's connected to guilt.

And so there, there's, again, there's so many things here, but If we simplify it and we look at the first half of the session where we talked last week and she was Dissecting the problems for many years and many years and many years a lot of times people will do that very thing They'll dissect the problem and go through the negative and stay stuck there in part Because they feel like that's the solution And another part, because there's some other thing that's programming their mind to want to go in that direction.

And so they'll, they'll stay stuck there. Now there's also another thing that's going on and it's this, it's that, you know, even since childhood, she mentioned that, you know, happiness has been linked to guilt. But, when I look at initially in her childhood, it being linked up, it felt like about a level 2.

So it was low. Feeling guilty, bad for being happy, it's about a level 2. Now what happens all of the time is that people believe they're supposed to do a lot of work with their childhood self. And so they'll do a lot of work with their childhood self, and they'll end up increasing the problem instead of decreasing the problem, because they're stuck.

In the negative and in the negative. And so they'll actually make it go the other direction. So now where there was previously a little bit of guilt. linked up to happiness, there's become a lot of guilt. Not only because her sister passed, but then also the way she was working with her mind. And so, to simplify, point being, just make sure to remember to work on the positive and bring that in.

It is so important and make sure that you're not Working in a way that's creating more problems in your mind, because I cannot tell you how often I see people who end up creating more and more and more problems in working with their mind, and end up feeling more stuck in life and more paralyzed by life, where they end up working with their mind a bunch and feeling like they can't move forward in life at all.

because of the programming that they've put in their subconscious mind. So it's like they don't want to do things. They can't be happy. They can't do anything but dissect the negative. You know, she says it so well. I just love her self awareness. She's just, she's brilliant and beautiful. And making a lot of the same mistakes that other people are with the mind also.

And, and, but she just articulates it with great self awareness. Even though she may not have realized that she was doing it, but she, she's just got really great self awareness. So I, I love that, just beautiful. And again, point being is that you'll want to make sure that you are programming in the positive in a healthy way in your mind, because if you don't put the positive in, it's got no way to get there.

And as you notice. As she's bringing in the positive and we're focusing on the positive, she's shifting her health. She's shifting her emotions. She's shifting her fear all by starting to focus on bringing in the positive. So she is creating those changes. It's just not the way that she thinks that she's supposed to do it by just dissecting and working on the negative.

So just again, working with the mind in a much different way than many people think. So that is what's key. Positive, positive, positive is important and there are a few other powerful insights as well as we dive back in with Ashley. Here we go.

And I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling. So watch. I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling of feeling like it's free to be happy and no guilt. You don't have to have any guilt about being happy. Are you kidding me? Of course you're free to be happy and you don't have to have any guilt to feel happy.

You can be happy. You're, you're okay to be happy. A hundred percent. You can be happy. Yeah. What? Yeah. And how much guilt do you need? No guilt. What? No guilt. What? No guilt. No guilt. Great. So I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling of feeling like you're free to be happy. Yeah. You're free to be happy.

What? Yeah. Okay, you say yeah, but I have about a level three. So I'm going to ask you to bring in Bring in the feeling. I'll ask you to bring in the feeling. I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling,

I'm gonna ask you to bring in the feeling that you're free to be happy. You're free to be happy and there's no guilt. So you're free to be happy. Of course, of course you're free to be happy. Of course you're free. Obviously, you're free to be happy, right? Obviously, right? Yeah. Obviously. Yeah. No, no, no. I said say obviously, not say yeah.

Say obviously. Oh, obviously. Yeah. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and obviously you're free to be happy, right? Yes. Obviously, right? Obviously. Obviously. Obviously. Obviously. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Obviously. Of course you're free to be happy. Of course, right? Yeah. What? Yes. What? Obviously. Obviously.

So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Great. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I want you to bring in the feeling of happy. Free to be happy. And notice how that feels. Yeah. How does it feel? Feels good. How overwhelming does it feel? Doesn't feel overwhelming. It doesn't feel whole.

It feels peaceful. It doesn't feel overwhelming, right? Yeah. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to think about this epiphany for a moment. Hear me really clearly. If I told you that I feel happy, and it feels overwhelming, how much do I want to go into a feeling of feeling happy? Not a lot.

Not a lot. If I then change the vibration of my feeling of feeling happy to where it feels good and peaceful. And good. How much do I want to go into happy? A lot, yeah. A lot. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Yeah. And I'm going to ask you, are you willing to go into feeling happy with no guilt? Of course there's no guilt.

Like, of course you didn't know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, learning how to speak English. Don't. Um, of course you don't need to feel guilt for feeling happy. Right? Yeah. All right. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Great. And I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling of feeling happy.

And take that in. Bingo. Bingo. Bingo. And I'm gonna ask you to notice the level in your throat. What's your level? Zero. Mm hmm. You feel the difference? Yeah. Mm hmm. I hope those are happy tears. Yeah, they are. I know. I just cry a lot. I'm an emotional crier. Happy ones. Good ones. I feel you. I feel you. It's beautiful.

It's beautiful. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. And I'm going to ask you if you could make a point to re listen to this and get this in. So notice your throat. You've been listening to past episodes where you hear we talk about our bodies are giving us a message to change, right? Yeah. So, if your body is trying to tell you that you don't need to feel guilty about feeling good and happy in life, that it is time to live life to its fullest and you feel good and happy without guilt, would you be willing to change and listen to your body?

Yes, definitely. 100%? 100%. Bingo. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. Bingo. And you're still going to sign up for that class, right? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and notice, by the way, even when you just laughed, it felt lighter. Did you, did you notice a difference? That's true. Yes, it does. It feels different.

Beautiful.

It does. It feels good. Your energy is when you, yes. Beautiful. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and just take that awareness in, like, feeling happy. You have complete freedom and permission and energy, like, it's great to be, you know, Happy, without guilt. You can be happy without guilt and taking that in and feeling that.

Yeah, it's a good feeling. It is a good feeling, isn't it? Bingo. Alright, so first and foremost, okay, so a few things. So I want you to make sure to listen to this recording and get it in because it is gonna take follow through and I want you to get super comfortable with the feeling of feeling good, of feeling like it's safe and good to be happy.

Yeah. Is that good? Yes. Great. Sounds good. Awesome. Wonderful, wonderful. And by the way, you're going to have to really create the feelings when you listen. You're going to have to really, really get it in over and over and over. Does that make sense? Yes, it makes sense. I get it. Beautiful. Your energy feels lighter.

I love it. I love it. Great job with your energy. And I love your, your sense of humor. You're beautiful. And, um, and make sure to follow through. And it has been such a pleasure connecting with you. Yes. Thank you so much. You're so welcome, lovely. Have a wonderful rest of your day. Okay. Thank you. Thanks. Bye

All right. So first and foremost, I have to say, I just love her self awareness and her sense of humor and playfulness. And she just, she's so sweet. She's just such a beautiful, beautiful being. And I also love that she was able to make that shift where she could feel that acid reflux gone in her throat.

That's been there for years and that changed. So I love that and stepping into the happiness and really starting to Feel that. Now, of course, that is going to take follow through for her to really program that into her nervous system. So making sure to, to do that and to follow through is going to be key.

And the insight that you want to make sure to take from this last segment here is that you've really got to be willing to do things in a different way than others are doing them. You know, when you think about her family. and how people feel around you and doing things in a different way. It does take courage to do things in a different way.

It takes an awareness, a consciousness of being willing to be different and feel different and to step into it fully and to make that change and to make it real because let's be honest, sometimes people will know the change that they need to make, but Have fear of what other people will think, or other people will do, or what they'll say, or something like that.

So, this last awareness here is so important. To be willing to do things in a different way. And so that said, you know, just so many insights from today's episode and I wanna invite you to just take one thing that you could begin to implement in your life, and maybe that is feeling that permission to step into happiness and feeling like it's good and it's safe.

So maybe that's it, if that's an area that you've been struggling with, or if you've learned to work with your mind in a way where you're. doing the same thing she was where you're stuck in the negative and dissecting the negative and just doing that and I know so many people are there then you'll want to of course work on shifting that and really stepping into the positive to make that change and of course changing on the inside and also the external making that step to really feel And live in a place of happiness and joy and positivity, you know?

And by the way, that's what I really love about every episode is that even though you may not have the same issues going on as Ashley has had, everybody has their own thing. And so, you know, of course, again, you know, maybe one insight from this episode may not apply to you, but another one, you may be able to implement in your life to start creating that change.

And you can see All of the time when I see people who are working with the mind, they're doing it in a way that's keeping them more stuck or creating more problems and they don't consciously realize it. And so, you know, just remembering to remember to remember that getting the positive in is really key to creating that change in your health and in your life.

And so, of course, it's identifying the negative and also changing into the positive. So we want both. but that real transformation does require the positive. And, you know, if you think about it, if we looked around and everybody was really stuck dissecting the negative for years and years and years and years and years, or if everybody was walking around really feeling happy and living in happiness and enjoying life and celebrating and loving life, I mean, that would be two different worlds.

And of course, I'd love to see everybody happy and healthy and celebrating life. And so on that note, I'm going to ask you to please do hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know. The more happy and healthy and empowered that everybody is.

And our world, the better this world will be for all of us. And so on that note, please do make it a happy, wonderful, fabulous day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.