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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

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Welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind and your energy and your consciousness and your healing and your heart. I just love it. And speaking of heart and expanding your heart and your love in your life. Today's episode is all about that as matters of the heart and really about upgrading and transforming relationship patterns that you may not be seeing.

So I just, I love. the awarenesses that come from this episode. And our volunteer MJ, I mean, is just a beautiful, beautiful being, has really great self awareness. And so if you recall, we had actually started working on last week's episode. So that was the first part of the session with her. And if you recall, we had been talking about how Feeling sensitive and also the expectation of feeling rejected and some things that had come up for her and because there were a lot of sensitive spots that I know that a lot of people can relate to, I went ahead and stopped the session right there.

And today we're gonna continue with the next part of that same session of really kind of unpacking more pieces that came up for her as far as shifting her relationship. And part of the reason we were talking about matters of the heart, if you recall, she's having some pain in her heart. So that was the reason that we're, that all of these things were coming up.

And you know, I have to say, just in working with her and speaking with her. I love how much she just loves and honors her husband so much. It's just sweet and that's how every relationship should feel is, you know, a feeling of feeling lucky to be with your partner and And of course, them feeling lucky to be with you.

I mean, that is just, it's a love fest and not just partner intimate relationships, but all relationships. You know, if you feel like, Oh my gosh, my friends, I feel so lucky to have them in my life and my family or people around me and feel so lucky to have them in my life and they feel so lucky to have me.

I mean, it's just a beautiful, fun feeling. And of course, for some people, the idea of having relationships. I don't actually feel like that seems far fetched or impossible, but of course, you'll want to remember that all change really does start from within. And I know even as I say that, there are some people who go, yeah, but that is not even possible for me.

And I get it. And, you know, if we go back to the analogy that I used all of the time, where we talk about the unfortunate situation where a woman can have an abusive father and then leave him. And find the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Now of course that doesn't happen in every situation.

It depends on how it's linked up in the mind and energy and all these things. But my point being is that relationships and relationship patterns are all around us and most people don't realize it. You know, with that situation specifically, it's more clear to see, you know, it's more obvious. There are so many patterns that are going on with relationships all of the time that people don't even realize.

And what's interesting with MJ, our beautiful volunteer, is that you can tell she's done a lot of work. And there are things that she's worked on where there's still pieces left that are impacting her. And so it's like several things come up at several different topics. And there's also a lot of work that she's done.

And so it's just, it's an interesting combination, but again, very, very insightful. in a variety of different ways and also in some places very counterintuitive. And so that's what we're going to start with is some pieces that are a bit counterintuitive. When it comes to feelings of rejection. And so that's where we're going.

And by the way, if you happen to miss last week's episode, where we had started with MJ, I'd strongly recommend going back there and listening to that one first, because. As we dive in here, we're going to be diving into the middle of that session. And, um, and so there'll be key insights that you'll want from last week as well.

All right. So that said, taking it to the next level, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful MJ. Here we go.

Honestly, if I ask you sometimes, maybe a part of you that can sometimes be a little bit passive aggressive when you're feeling hurt, what For sure. Mm hmm. For sure. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. I love your self awareness. Love your self awareness. Okay? And what happens is that, that puts you out of integrity with your relationship.

Okay? Yeah. Which is It's, it's interesting because a lot of people, what happens is they feel hurt and then they go into passive aggressive, trying to hold on to the relationship, but what they do is energetically aligned with it, falling apart. Does that make sense? Yeah, absolutely. Great. So if I ask you, if I ask you right now, zero to 10, how much you can find the feeling of feeling fear of rejection?

Zero to ten, what's the level of expecting rejection? It's definitely gone down. Mm hmm, right. So what level would you say is left? Um Like a five or a six. Great. Love your self awareness. Bingo. That's exactly what I have is about, about a six, about five, six, right in there. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I want you to picture just for a moment that instead of ever being passive aggressive, like if something hurts your feelings or something's going on that you just, you're not trying to control the person, you're not trying to do anything, you're just like, you know what? That's it. Like, let's say something hurts your feelings.

You say, you know what, actually, I'm just gonna take a moment. This hurt my feelings and I know that I, it, it's my thing. Or I need to do this, but I, I'm gonna let this go. And, uh, and I, and I don't wanna take it out on anything to do with you. You're wonderful and you're great and I'm just gonna, uh, change this and, and it's okay.

And, and, and, and dissolving that. Yeah. How does that, how would that feel to you? Really good. I think I've actually come a long ways with my relationship with my husband. I think I still suffer, uh, with a little bit of passive aggressive with my friendship, so. Bingo. With females. Bingo. Great. Great awareness.

Um,

Bingo. Okay. Bingo. Okay. So I even do see, um, can you give me your husband's first initial? Uh huh. It's R. Bingo. Okay. So if I look at passive aggressive energy, uh, towards R, uh, in the past week, I get about a level, about a level two. Um, can you see that? Yeah. Okay. I've definitely gotten a little bit with that, but I, it's way better than it used to be.

Yeah. Yeah. And it is. Which is awesome. Which is awesome. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you if you're willing to let it go completely the rest of the way, what would you say? Oh, yes. Great. I want nothing between us. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And by the way, expecting rejection, zero to 10, what's your level?

Like a four. Four, notice it's going down even more, right? Yeah. Okay, great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And if I ask you if you 100 percent completely trusted yourself. To not do the passive aggressive and also to not put responsibility on him for all of your emotions. Yeah. Okay, and if I ask you how often you feel like you might be putting responsibility on him for your emotions, how often would you say that is?

Um, probably like 30, 35 percent of the time and then I recognize it usually and try to let it go. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. I love your awareness. I love your awareness. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment. Watch this. I ask you zero to ten how much you find the feeling of expecting rejection.

What's your level?

It's like maybe a two

One that's what I'm like, I'm reaching for it notice for a moment notice how much that feelings gone down, right? Yeah, okay. So I'm gonna ask you it is right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, if you recall from the first part of the session that we had talked about last week, we were talking about, you know, the expectation of rejection and It can link up for a variety of different reasons. And typically it always does.

You know, one part can be expectation. And then another part can be what MJ and I are talking about right now, which has to do with different things like maybe passive aggressive or. A variety of different, uh, things can come up and to unpack this even more, if somebody is, let's say, out of integrity with their relationship, it can create a feeling of expecting rejection or expecting to lose them.

And let me unpack this a bit more. Now, first and foremost, I have to say, as far as MJ goes, I love MJ. Her self awareness and her self honesty. I mean, she's just a beautiful, beautiful being. I could hug her. She's just so precious. And her self awareness is, is incredible. And she has worked on that passive aggressive.

And by the way, it is very common, which is part of the reason that I love this episode is because it does highlight a lot of. Very common patterns that come up for people. And so, by the way, on that note, if you are somebody who has the passive aggressiveness in relationships, don't judge yourself. Don't criticize yourself.

Just simply make sure to change it because what can happen and I see happen all the time is people will have some type of pattern like being passive aggressive that is out of integrity. And because it's not in good integrity to be passive aggressive with somebody. And so what'll happen is then they'll be, in a way, out of integrity, and then it creates a feeling of expecting rejection because It aligns them with ending up with rejection.

And I guess the, the simple way to, to kind of illustrate this would be to say, you know, if somebody is driving a car towards a cliff, well then they're going to have fear of going off the cliff because they're driving towards a cliff and they go, oh gosh, I'm having all this fear. of going off a cliff, and that's of course because they're driving towards a cliff.

Now, what happens with feelings of passive aggressive is that it is, it's out of integrity in the relationship, and not only that, but passive aggressive causes hurt in the relationship, and different things like that to come up, which Then helps align a person with the relationship ending at some point or things not going well Or you know and and I'll see that all the time where a person will do Things that are out of integrity and then like I can't tell you how often I've seen People who were in a relationship and let's say the woman is like, oh my gosh, like the guy left me He cheated on me.

He left or all these things and of course, we'll look at what is the pattern there? You And not only just the pattern, so that's something to look at, but also many times there can be something like, you know, being very passive aggressive. And so there's things that they were doing that were out of integrity also.

And, and what'll happen is a lot of times people are just going to the victim, they go, Oh, well, you know, he did this and she did this or whoever did this, and they don't look at their side of the street. And of course, again, if you have this going on inside yourself, you won't want to judge or criticize yourself.

You just simply want to make sure to change it, but just noting that what you want to note from this part is of course, you know, changing that if you have it and also that rejection or all kinds of feelings can be very counterintuitive. They don't always make logical sense and By the way, on that note, the feeling of fear of rejection can be even more tricky.

So there's other links that come with it and we'll go ahead and unpack those even more at the end to have a deeper level of understanding. But for now, we'll go ahead and dive back in with MJ. She's just, she's such a beautiful being. Great, great self awareness. Just incredible. And that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful MJ.

Here we go.

And I just want you to notice for a moment, how you feel in your relationship. I love my husband. Yeah, you guys are cute together. So, and it's not, I haven't seen a picture of him, but I'm just saying it's just you, the energy is so sweet. So sweet. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. If I ask you right now to notice, zero to ten, how safe do you feel in your relationship?

I feel pretty safe. Um, I would say I don't feel 100 percent safe because I don't know if I, well, there's definitely, like, I feel 100 percent safe with, like, my sister and my mother. That's probably about it. Okay. And, uh, and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. Bingo. Bingo. And if I ask you sometimes, would you say that, Would you say that sometimes, uh, the emotionalness can take a little bit of the fun out of the relationship?

Yeah. Okay. The emotionalness, and I'm not talking about just emotions, I'm talking about sometimes when, uh, the unhappy emotions come up. Can you see that? Yeah, for sure. Okay, and uh, bingo, that, that, bingo. Okay, so, there's a piece, and it's not just about the emotions, um, there is a, it's um, bingo. Let me put it in, there's a, can you see how sometimes Can you see how sometimes you make him feel a little bit bad for your emotions?

Can you see that? Like it's his fault. Yeah, I will say sometimes like, uh, I'll react to something and I think it's like a part of me hoping to like somewhat manipulate him a little bit Okay, that's exactly where I was going and I get my way, you know, it doesn't work very well with him. So Okay So i'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe And that's exactly where I was going, and I love, I love that you're saying that.

And if I ask you, could you commit to not doing that anymore? I would love to. Okay. And bingo. Good. Bingo. Bingo. That. Bingo. And if I ask you, is there a little part of you that still wants to do it? I think there's a part of me that, um, just wants to like be in control. That's the control side of me. Okay, and uh, bingo.

I already feel like I have power or something, you know. Bingo. Love your self awareness and self honesty. It's just beautiful. So, uh, bingo. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. And there we go. That, exactly. That, that. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to close your eyes, and I want you to think about how wonderful it would be if he's Kind of manipulating and controlling you.

Sexy, right? No way. You have such a great sense of humor. I love you. Unless it was cosplay or something.

All right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I'm gonna ask you, Bingo, if you're really willing to change. I do. Genuinely? Yeah. And by the way, if I ask you, would you say your sister's genuinely changed? Oh yeah. Yeah. Right? 100%. She's a completely different person.

Mm hmm. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to picture what it would look like, you walking around, feeling, cool as a cucumber, feeling like you weren't feeling emotional to everything. And by the way, you said something that was very important, and it's this.

Alright, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, there's A few key insights right here. And by the way, first and foremost, I just asked her, you know, do you think your sister is genuinely changed? And if you recall from last episode, her sister was somebody who had been bedridden and had heart issues.

And so that's also part of the reason that MJ has been so afraid of, you know, there's so much fear coming up with her. Pain in her heart is, you know, knowing her sister's situation and where her sister was, it's created a lot of fear. Like, Oh my God, I have pain in my heart. What am I going to do? You know, so that's caused a lot of fear in her regarding this situation.

And if you recall from the last episode, uh, we'd also talked about her sister is now better, a hundred percent healthy, happy, walking around active, all of that. So her sister went through one of my courses. That's how MJ found me is exactly that. So her sister went through my video courses and all that to heal herself.

And so that's why I asked her, you know, do you think your sister really changed? She's like, you know, yes, real change. And so a few things to note. So first and foremost, of course, you hear me say over and over again, real change is key. It's required to get real results. So that's one piece. Now, the other piece that we're talking about here is the feeling to want to control.

And if you have that in your relationship, you'll really want to notice that and you'll want to really fully address it. And what I mean by that is this, is a lot of people, they'll feel a need to want to control and they'll just kind of do that. You know, they'll be controlling. So that's one thing. And you'll want to change that.

And then a lot of times when it comes to changing that, what'll happen is people will simply say, all right, well, I need to stop being controlling and stop being controlling and stop being controlling. And they'll just try to get themselves to stop being controlling. But that's not where you want to go either, because that's never going to go great.

And the reason being. Is it, it means there's some other pattern that's going on underneath. Meaning that, kind of like this, if somebody's walking around in life and they're feeling a need to control, typically there's going to be an insecurity underneath, or a feeling of feeling unsafe, or threatened, or something that really needs to be addressed.

And so, that's what you'll want to note from this, is if you are feeling a sense to control in your relationships, you'll want to, yes, of course, not be controlling anymore, but you'll also want to notice Why is that? What insecurity is there? What feeling of feeling unsafe or threatened or, you know, what real pattern is there and address that root problem so you can make a real change?

Because what'll happen, and I see this all of the time, is people will notice that they've got a pattern to control, so then they try to get themselves to not be controlling, but they never address the root issue. And so that just continues to show up in their life in a variety of different ways that then ends up wreaking havoc on, you know, the pattern shows up, the problem show up, or shows up as a health issue or, you know, whatnot.

I mean, there's just so many ways that it can express itself. And so you want to make sure that you're really addressing the core issue. So that of course is key. There are other pieces that we're going to talk about in relation to exactly that. So with that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with MJ.

Here we go.

Notice the part of you that feels like it's a good thing that you're emotional. Can you see it? Gosh, I don't know. I feel like most of the time I'm thinking that it's not a good thing, but I may feel a little bit. Okay. It's, yeah, related to like the power thing. Okay. So, um, that, that, that. Fat, fat, bingo.

There's a part of you that kind of, what I see is it's also a feeling of feeling like your mom. It's like a connector piece with your mom. Can you see that? Hmm. Yeah, I could. Yeah, I could see that. But that's funny though, because I feel like that's sometimes like what really frustrates me about my relationship with her is that we're like, you know, reactive.

Okay. And I'm gonna, it's interesting, right? And how much do you think she's totally gonna, like, wants to hurt you? Oh, she doesn't, but she wants to like a attack you and abandon you, right? No way. No way. Right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So I want to go ahead and pause this really quickly because this is an important insight that a lot of people overlook that then impacts them at a subconscious level. And it's this, it's that a lot of people will have a subconscious feeling of wanting to be like their mother for one reason or another, either because that's how they connect with their mom or because.

It got linked up as a kid to be proud to be like mom. So for example, you may have seen this before where, um, somebody compliments a little kid, like maybe to a little five year old, they say, Oh my gosh, you look just like your mom. And that five year old beams with joy and excitement, you know, Oh yeah, I'm just like mom.

Or even on the phone. You know, where they'll say, Oh, you sound just like your mom. Can I talk to your mom, please? And by the way, that was something that I had in my own subconscious mind was that, you know, people might call my house as a kid and you know, when I was a teenager and they'd say, Oh, you sound, you sounded just like your mom.

Can, can I speak with her? And to me, that meant like that I was an adult, I was growing up, and so I had that feeling of feeling proud of sounding like my mother. And so all the time people get that linked up. Now, when you think about it, fast forward to adulthood, where all of the time you'll see people who are walking around who end up being adults.

starting to be more like their mom. They're doing this and this and this like their mom or their dad or whoever raised them. You'll notice some subconscious patterns surfacing. And this is what will typically happen with people. Is it at a young age, they go, Oh my God, yay. It's great to be like mom. It's so great to be like mom.

Then when they get into their teens, they're like, I do not want to be like my mother. In their twenties, they're like, I don't want to be like my mom at all. And maybe even continuing on and on for many years, even thirties, forties, fifties, they're like, I, the, the last person in the world I wanna be like is my mother.

And yet they forget that that subconscious programming is there from age five, from age six, from age 10 of feeling proud to be like mom. And it's in the core of their subconscious mind. So they have both patterns running simultaneously in the subconscious mind. And so they end up with. Both patterns going on.

And a lot of people will feel like, Oh, well, just because I had that in my childhood, it doesn't matter anymore because I no longer want to be like my mom now, but that doesn't remove that old patterning from childhood. You know, it doesn't remove it at all. And so they'll have conflicting subconscious patterns that are going on in the subconscious mind where they think that it doesn't matter, but.

It very much matters and is controlling their life, their health, their happiness, their finances, all kinds of things, their relationships, more than they even realize. And so point being is if you do notice that you have things that are like your mom, you may want to look and see if you have some of this subconscious patterning as well.

And as far as this session with MJ, if you recall, So from the first part of the session, she mentioned, Oh yeah, I'm emotional, but my whole family is, my mom is, you know, my whole family, I feel like it's just part of who I am. And that's what we're talking about here is where it's, you know, it's partly linked up in her subconscious mind to be emotional.

And we had covered that a bit on the first half of the session also, but point being is that if that is in your subconscious mind, you'll, of course. Want to make sure to shift it. All right, so that said let's go ahead and dive back in with MJ Here we go

And I want you to notice that even in your relationship where you feel you know that your mom doesn't want to abandon you Doesn't want to reject you and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe

Bingo. Give me one second. There we go. That, that. Bingo. Okay. Bingo. There we go. Bingo. All right. So there is a feeling. Bingo. There's a feeling of feeling, uh, proud for standing up for yourself. Can you see that? Oh, yeah, for sure. Okay, great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, okay, we'll use your sister as an example.

If I ask you, how often you see yourself or your sister walking around feeling like she needs to stand up for herself? She doesn't. Why not? Because she doesn't ever feel the need to. Okay, but wouldn't it be cool if she did? That would be so amazing. No. No. She would look like a different person. She'd look, I don't know, not herself.

Mm hmm. Right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Bingo. And if I ask you to picture Oprah walking around, standing up for herself.

How does that look? She wouldn't be Oprah. She wouldn't be Oprah, right? So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice the part of you that's really proud of standing up for yourself. Yeah. What if you were Bigger than that. What if you were walking around feeling empowered, feeling good, feeling harmonious, glowing, and just attracting feelings of feeling mutual respect, of feeling respected and respecting others and respected and respecting others.

What would that look like?

It'd be so easy and like, you know, you'd just be in flow and you could just enjoy everybody and yourself. Bingo. Mm hmm. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo. Bingo. And I'm also going to ask you, uh, just for a moment, if I ask you to notice how much you have a feeling of feeling like the younger sister.

Yeah. Mm hmm. Zero to ten. That one's high, too. Okay. I mean, out of that scale, it would be a ten. Yeah. And out of curiosity. Bingo. Imagine for a moment if there were two grown men on a football field, and one of them is saying, I'm older, and the other one is saying, No, I'm older. I'm the oldest. I'm the oldest.

What would you think about them? I think they were silly. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe,

and I'm gonna ask you, What would happen if you let the age thing go with your sister completely? If you guys are just both amazing, beautiful, incredible beings, like mutual respect and she's amazing. You're amazing. She's amazing. You're amazing. And that's just, that's just what life is. Just amazing. What would that look like?

Be awesome. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Good. Good. Good. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe and see yourself walking around just glowing. She's amazing. You're amazing.

And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Bingo.

She's amazing, you're amazing. She's amazing, you're amazing. And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Yes. If I ask you, by the way, who's more amazing, would you say Oprah or Elon Musk?

They're equally amazing, they're just amazing in different ways.

Alright, so the obvious answer is actually Oprah, and um, and I'm joking, and I'm also serious and joking and playful, and, you know, let's be honest, Oprah is absolutely amazing, and let's also be honest. As of lately, Elon's had a bit of turbulence of things that have come up, so you may or may not like Elon, and either way, we don't want to say anything negative about him, but if we just look at the big picture, we can look at the positive of some of the things that he has been able to do with SpaceX, and also with Tesla, with actually getting more and more electric cars on the road, and so, There are some wonderful contributions that he has made that are great for the planet.

And so would I say that Elon is perfect? Absolutely not. But would I say that if I just look with an open mind that he has made some wonderful Changes towards making the world a better place. And you know, if you think about, he created PayPal, which helped open things up for people to be able to create more e-commerce and people around the world to connect.

So there have been some wonderful things that he has been able to. Help the planet and, and with, you know, SpaceX, we'll see where that goes. But I think, you know, even in the last week he's launched like three rockets into space and we'll see what that looks like and, you know, satellites and, and whatnot, but you know, he has made some amazing accomplishments.

So whether or not you like him or not. We're just looking at the awareness that everybody can be amazing in a variety of different ways. And of course, Oprah has made some amazing contributions as well and influence. And so that's just the point here is just, it's not about judging people or criticizing people or expecting them either to be perfect, but that really, we're all amazing.

We're all amazing. And, and we don't have to compare and say that one person is better than the other, but be very different. And we may like different people. things compared to, you know, one person might like an apple more than they like an orange and even so that doesn't mean one is inferior and one is superior.

And so just looking at everything with non judgment and including yourself, making sure that you're not judging yourself or feeling inferior or feeling, you know, not good enough, but instead owning that you are amazing and that we're all absolutely incredible beings. And capable of so much more than most people even realize.

All right. So with that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with MJ. Here we go.

Bingo. You knew where I was going with that. And I do feel that way. A lot of the time I really do. Uh huh. I just have to remind myself a lot. Okay. You just have to, what, program it in your mind? Is that what you said? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Program, pro, actually program it in? Yeah. And feel it? Yeah. And feel it? And get it programmed into your subconscious mind?

Yeah. So I don't have to remind myself all the time. Ah. That might take follow through though. It does take follow through. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause the session right here. And, you know, first and foremost, I have to say, I love her sense of humor and her playfulness or laughing. She's just her self awareness. I mean, just a beautiful, beautiful being. So I just love her. And I love what she also said here, right here was just perfect where she said, you know, she's going to need to keep reminding herself of that.

And, bingo, you know, if you're noticing that there's something that you need to keep reminding yourself of, then that's a really great awareness that it is not programmed in. You know, when you stop and think about information that's programmed in, you know your name, you know, or you know how you feel about a variety of different things because it's just consistent.

It's who you are. It's what you feel. And It is so key for making shifts in your health and your life that the information has to be programmed in. And by the way, even going through my own injury, I can tell you when I, when I was working on healing myself, cause I was still figuring out all of that, you know, how this works and how to heal and everything like that.

As I was getting the information into my mind and the right information and programming it in, I would have moments where I was. really doing amazing. Like, okay, my pain was gone. I was feeling good. I mean, it was great. And I could have a trigger come in and suddenly I had pain shooting through my body.

It was like all my pain came back. And I, you know, of course I had to not be reactive to it, even though it hurt like crazy. I was like, okay, wait, let me figure this out. Hold on. And. I had to just create that shift, and it really reinforced to me, okay, I have to get this information in proactively. I mean, imagine for a moment, If, going through your day, you knew that, hey, you're not in pain right now, and if any point in time, your brain goes into the old, your pain could come back.

It was like, it was a good, um, reminder to make sure to be proactive, to get it in, to reinforce it, and to make that change, you know, and here I am, I've been healthy and healed for over, what, 12 plus years now, you know? And so. It's not something that I even have to think about anymore. It's completely transformed.

It just feels like a different lifetime. You know, a different version of me. Not even the same person. Because I've made that real change. Now I can tell you that all of the time. People aren't making the real change. They feel like, Oh, well, I'm just going to meditate and meditate to heal myself. But that's not going to be enough.

There's a few things that need to happen. I mean, imagine if somebody said, well, I'm going to sit down and learn a new language and the way that I'm going to learn a new language is I'm just going to sit and meditate with a language book in front of me. Or, I'm going to learn the alphabet, let's just sit and meditate.

That's not going to help somebody memorize the alphabet or learn a new language. Now, how meditation, the right type of meditation could help is that, you know, imagine if somebody's brain is really, really, really, really, you know, they've been going and they're doing this and they're doing that and they haven't slowed down, well, somebody could sit down and relax for a moment before learning.

And that could be helpful. Now, of course, a lot of meditations can actually backfire. So, you know, that's a whole nother rabbit hole. If you've heard past episodes where I've talked about, you know, some of the ways that meditation does backfire for people, I see that all the time. And of course, if you missed that episode, you can go back and listen to that IQ episode, but point being here is just that, you know, if you're constantly reminding yourself of something.

That's a good indicator that it's not programmed into your mind. And when I say program something into your mind, a lot of times people want to then go, Oh, well, I need to meditate. Well, no, that's not the way to program it into your mind either. It really is about getting new information in and new emotions in and making sure to get it in with repetition because you must create new strong neural pathways.

to be able to get real results. And so part of that is going to be repetition. Part of it is going to be making sure to get the emotion in and see things in a different way. So that can be another part of it. Now, part of it, of course, is getting the information in, as we just mentioned. Now, another part of it has to do with the and making sure that you've really changed those.

So that's the other key piece that you'll want to think about when it comes to reprogramming your mind is, you know, both getting new information in and making sure to address blocks or counterintuitive information. Now that said, you know, I mentioned early on in the episode, Rejection can be counterintuitive for a couple of different reasons.

And we had talked about the passive aggressive feelings can create that. expectation of rejection. So we had talked about that and that was one counterintuitive piece. Now another counterintuitive piece that I see come up all of the time has to do with those feelings getting linked to another emotion.

So for example, let's say that somebody has felt rejection in their relationship and rejection in their relationship and What they do is when they do feel that fear of rejection come up, they tell their partner. So they go to their partner and they say, you know, I'm having all of this fear of rejection.

I'm feeling a lot of it. And then if their partner then says, Oh, well, come here. I love you so much. I love you so much. Now, and they, you know, make them feel safe. What happens? is those two things get linked up to each other. And so, every time they feel the fear of rejection, then they'll expect to get that feeling of reassurance, of safety, and of love connected with it.

Now, while that might feel good to them at the moment, it just creates more and more of the pattern. So, they'll have that feeling of fear of rejection come up, And then expect the reassurance and then the feeling of fear of rejection and then expect the reassurance. Now, all of the time I'll see this backfire, you know, where people will feel like they're getting a good thing from it.

But what'll end up happening is eventually that rejection will then manifest or it'll manifest in other areas of their life. So then what'll happen to that person is then they'll manifest rejection from all of their friends. But They're partner will say, it's okay, I love you, it's okay, I love you. And so unfortunately the person is experiencing both.

They're experiencing a ton of rejection in life or in business or at work or wherever it is. And then they have a partner or a mom or a friend or somebody else saying, it's okay, I love you. And then they have all of these mixed experiences going on where they're having all of this rejection, but then they're connecting it with all of this love and that gets linked up.

Uh, and so. Point being from this, and I know this can sound a bit complex. Emotions are complex. And this is part of the reason, by the way, a few things. This is part of the reason a lot of people don't get real results. You know, I can't tell you how often I see people who have been on the healing journey.

For 50 years, who haven't healed themselves, who have a lot of painful relationships, who have a lot of hurt, a lot of anger, a lot of upset, a lot of emotions going on. And, and all of these, you know, this underlying emotions and eventually what typically happens is people will just kind of label it and say, well, I'm just emotional, or I'm just an empath because then they go, I'm just taking on all these emotions for other people, but what's really happening is that they have all this underlying.

wounding going on, and I see that all of the time. And the point that you want to take from this is that emotions are a bit tricky, but when you just learn them and you understand them and how they work, they, they are logical. They're just a different type of logic. It's like trying to fly a plane when you don't know how to fly a plane can feel really challenging.

You know, it can feel really tricky and impossible. to fly a plane, but if you understand how it works, then you know how to do it. So it does just require, you know, understanding emotions and how they work and of course, making that real change. So it's programmed in, but that is key. And, you know, I mentioned flying a plane and I have to say, you know, after I got better.

From my own injury, you know, I was just taking time to get back to life. I wanted to go do everything and anything. I mean, I ran on the beach or even just rode a train and even, I mean, just every little thing, went boating, went kayaking, went paddle boarding. I was just like, I want to experience everything and, and riding a, you know, a hot air balloon.

And, um, and even, so after I got better, I was just working on things like, you know, my own fitness and getting myself back and, and then because I wasn't really ready to speak on the mind at all because, you know, I didn't know how to help people to get radical results, you know, I didn't know how to show people how to release pain in minutes, and I definitely wasn't going to.

Um, try to explain something to people that I couldn't help them get results. So that wasn't even, that wasn't even a spot on the map. You know, my initial goal after I got better was I was going to tell my doctors what I did and how I got better. And I felt like, you know, they were going to tell everybody that was, that was my plan.

It was never to do this. You know, um, that wasn't even a thought in my mind of doing what I do now. You know, when I was going through my injury is back when like, you know, Trader Joe's was a new thing It's like you're eating healthy you go to Trader Joe's I mean is this like Trader Joe's was a new thing Whole Foods if you were really geeking out You know on on the health food and my injury was almost 20 years ago now So it was definitely a different time than it is now and so but either way was when I got better I was gonna like hand off the information and just give it to my doctors and then When that didn't work, cause a lot of people don't believe you can actually heal with the mind.

You know, that's when I started helping people to get better. Cause I wanted to make sure that people could and, you know, but either way, there was, there was this point where, um, Um, I, in the midst of all of it, like I started working on getting my pilot's license. I was just like, I want to fly in so many ways.

So I rented a plane in Hawaii and I was basically like, um, working on getting my pilot's license, but flying between the islands in Hawaii. Now what's interesting is this. Is that, you know, if you've ever done this before, where it's windy out, and it's, let's say it's extremely windy, and you're walking behind a building.

You don't feel it so much, because the wind blocks you. But then, if you get to the end of the building, and you continue walking, and the building's no longer blocking you, you know, all of the sudden, you get this huge rush of wind that gets you. You know, now, if you apply this awareness to flying, what I found out as I was working, you know, on my pilot's license and all this and flying, um, is the same thing is true, of course, in a plane.

And so, when I was working, you know, with the instructor, And I was flying and you, what would happen is once you started to come to a place where you were coming, like where you were no longer having an island block you and you were out in the middle of the open, all of the sudden the wind would come rushing in.

Now what you have to do, and what I've learned as I was working on flying the plane. is, you'll need to make sure to put that wing, you know, that wing of the plane down into the wind. Because, if you're just flying normal, flat wings, you know, even wings, what can happen is the wind can come up and it can get under that wing, so it swoops under that wing and it can roll the entire plane, right?

And so that's what the instructor was teaching me, is that, you know, okay, as you're flying, You really need to understand all of these invisible forces of wind can get you at any direction and you need to know what direction the wind is going at all times so you can fly the plane. And so, point being, is that when we look at different things in life, whether it's architecture or flying a plane, there are invisible forces that don't always make logical sense, but they As with any of these things, like an architect, understanding gravity and how it works, and by the way, if there's an earthquake, what's going to make the building still stay?

And what you need to do, or flying a plane, you know, you understand what the wind does and you understand how that can impact you, because I got to say, there are other places that have flown before that it was like, you go to fly off out of the, off of the, over a mountain and there's a strong downward.

air current, you know, in which case it can grab the whole plane and try to push you down towards the ground. I mean, it's, it's intense when you start to learn about, especially in a small plane where wind can really catch you very quickly. There's, A lot of things to learn. And so point being, is it when you go to master anything, there is a level of understanding and that's what you want to do is get good at it.

So if you're somebody who has not gotten the results with healing yourself, with changing your life or feeling frustrated or changing patterns or relationships or whatever it is. What you'll want to remember is it is a skill, and it does take learning, but you can learn it, and it is logical when you really start to understand how it all works.

Now, imagine if somebody says, well, I visualized flying a plane, so I'm just gonna get in a plane and go. That's probably not going to be so good. And that's what a lot of people do when it comes to working with the mind and energy. They're like, well, I visualized white light and I've been meditating for 20 years, so I should pretty much know how to do it all.

And it's like, well, wait a second. There's other things that are going on. There are neural pathways, there's energy, there's triggers, there's blocks, there's different ways that the mind works. And that's what is key. And that's one of the things that sets me apart. From what I do from others is because of that understanding and a different understanding of how the mind works.

So if sometimes it feels a bit complex and complicated, well, to be honest, it kind of is, but it's not impossible. It just takes really understanding how the mind works to be able to get real results. So I just want to emphasize that because I know that a lot of times you think about past episodes and you see people releasing pain in minutes where you know even the woman whose eyesight came back and you know and was able to see and I would say it was what 80 percent gone or something like that and suddenly she could see.

And it's like, Oh my God, can I go see my optometrist? And of course the answer is yes, please do. You know, or we hear MJ's sister used to be bedridden and now she's able to travel and all of her medical tests are all clear and free and all of that. And she's great and her doctors are amazed and you know, all of that.

It's because she made real change, real, real, real change. So I just want to emphasize that because I know that I make it look really, really easy. but There are complexities and on that note, when we talk about some of these patterns towards rejection or towards, you know, the counterintuitive things, making that real change in your mind is so key.

And part of the reason that I always emphasize this is for three reasons, really, is first and foremost, I want you to get real results. I want you to have real, change, real transformation in your life. So that's number one. Uh, number two is because I don't want to be misleading. Like that's not who I am.

That's not what I'm about. So that's number two. And number three, you know, if you think about in the very beginning, we talked about integrity in relationships, you know, where we had talked about passive aggressive and different things like that. And if I'm being misleading where I'm pretending like, Oh, it's just that easy.

And, you know, then. That's not what's true. And that would put me out of integrity. So that would then negatively impact my own life. And I don't want to do that. You know, integrity in relationships is key and in life. And so there's just many, many other reasons also, but point being is that what you want to know is it does take real change.

And so I want to invite you to think about the insights over this session and think about if there's something that you can embody in your life to create real change. And, on the next episode, we're going to take it to the next level with MJ. You know, as I mentioned on this episode, a lot of the links and emotional connections and insights that are coming up for her are very common, and the same is true on the next part of the session.

So that's why I'm dividing this session actually into three different episodes, is just because it's There are so many insights that I know that a lot of people can relate with. And so that's what you want to do is, is notice what you connect with. See if you can work on transforming that in your life and.

By the way, just a side note that if you are ever feeling like you need additional support, of course if you look at my website, I have video sets, I have workshops, I have things like that to help you to better understand. So I never want you to feel like you're on your own and, and you know, good luck. Uh, so there are plenty of ways that you can learn and get deeper level of insight and information on how to do this all if you're needing that.

So there's that as well. And. That said, you know, again, just so many different insights from this, and I'm going to invite you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, somebody you don't even know, or even somebody who's been struggling to get real results in their life, help them to understand why that is, or struggling in relationships, feeling a lot of hurt.

I mean, there are just so many different insights. they can help them to take their life to the next level also. And so, that said, please do make sure to have a most wonderful, loving, loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. I'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

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