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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you're here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I absolutely love. Today's episode, you know, there are so many misconceptions when it comes to healing and getting radical results.

And what I love is today's episode highlights some of those misconceptions so you can see it very clearly. And our volunteer, her name is Paula and she is such a sweetheart and she has just this beautiful accent. She's from Portugal and her accent, she's just, she's so lovely and sweet. You just absolutely love her.

And the topics that come up are just perfect for this time of year, for this time of year of making real change, of looking at your year ahead and looking at. what do you want and the changes that you want to make and the love and connection and health and healing and all of that. And so I just love today's episode.

And by the way, I hope that you had a most wonderful new year's celebration and you can look at the past year and see the beauty in it, see the gratitude in it, see what's great in it, see the growth in it and appreciate that. And also. Look at the year ahead with excitement and open arms and a smile and expecting laughter and love and happiness and expansiveness and growth and transformation and just fun and new experiences and being spiritful, you know, fully embodying the spirit of the moment.

You know, all too often People can get caught up in their stress or their negativity or their worry about this, that, the other, that they forget that living spirit full in the moment, full of spirit, full of life, full of enjoyment, full of love, full of playfulness, whatever that is, but being spirit full.

So I just want to invite you to take that in. And of course. living more spiritful is also being happy and healthy. And so that said on that note, let's go ahead and dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Paula. And I just, again, I love the insights that come from today's episode. They're just powerful and expansive and really beautiful.

And so that said, let's go ahead and dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Paula. Here we go.

There we go. Are you there? Yes. Are you there? Hello. How are you? Fine and you? I am doing great. Thank you. It's wonderful to connect with you. Thank you so much. Absolutely. How's your day going? Fine, just regular. I'm at home, so it's normal. Okay, beautiful, beautiful. And what can I help you with, dear? So I would like you to just tell me something about the way I can deal with my problem.

I have an aneurysm and my right eye is closed. So it's recent because I only had the surgery in September, so I'm trying to heal from this. Yeah, it's, it's a little bit strange to have my eye closed because all my life I had both eyes. So I'm open to learn more about the way I can. Talk to myself for just, um, deal with, with this.

Yeah. When was your aneurysm? Um, 29 of August. And then the surgery was in, um, two or five of September, I think. So it's recent. Okay. But since then, my eye, um, my, uh, right eye is closed. It, it should be now open. But, uh, I have, I haven't got no improvements on, on this. All the doctors say that, uh, it should be more open, but, uh.

I just can't.

I can see if I left my, I don't know how to say in English, this part of the eye that closes and opens. Okay. If you take your finger and you lift your eyelid, you can see. But yes, lead. Yes, yes, yes. Yeah, I can see because the aneurysm just, um, was near the the third pair. So it didn't affect the vision itself, but only the lead.

That's it. Only the lead. All right. So, um, I'm gonna ask you to go ahead and breathe. Uh, there is somebody that you're really mad at. Do you know who that is? I don't know if, if it is really mad, but not that the relationship is bad, but it's like my mother, it's always like a tough relationship, I think, but it's better now than it used to be after the aneurysm.

And I think, uh, my perspective about it changed, but it's the only one. The only person I can see that sometimes I feel some regrets or some, I don't know, something like that, but she's a wonderful person. I think that the way we connect, uh, it is strange. Yeah. Can you give me her initial? Um, she has two names.

The first name, because she, in Portugal, we are, uh, sometimes, uh, especially at the age of my mother, they had always, uh, two names. She has two names. Okay, just the first letter of her name. Any one of them is great. A Okay. Yes. Okay, so this is the person, so I just wanted to make sure that this was the energy of the person that I just wanted Yes.

To make sure. So, yes. So yes. So you, so you, it was the, it was the person that, that you. Yes. That you, okay. Okay. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you zero to 10 Yes. How much you feel that she doesn't give you enough love. What would you say? Five. And if I ask you how much you have felt hurt by that, what would you say?

Ten. Ten. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her self awareness and she's just so sweet and precious. And I love that. And I want to point out a very simple, but profound insight. And it's this. You know, if you look at this moment with Paula, where we're talking about the hurt and the feeling of unloved that she's been feeling from her mom, and now we look at the awareness of layers.

Because this is what happens, is all the time people will feel hurt, they'll feel a sense of unloved. And then, They'll put a story on top of it, and another one on top of it, on top of it, and they'll end up with so many layers. For example, all of the time I'll see people who are on the spiritual journey, and they'll have some type of hurt or upset with their family, and what they'll do is, the first thing they'll do is, they might have hurt, they might have anger or upset, and then, They add more stories to it instead of clearing the problem.

For example, they'll add on the story that says, well, I'm just more spiritual than my family is. They're just inferior. And so what will happen is now instead of clearing the problem, they've added layers on top of it. And I see this all of the time on the spiritual journey. And so you just want to notice if you are somebody.

in your life who has been working on healing and transforming and been on the spiritual or metaphysical empowerment journey and you have been experiencing hurt and then you've put a story on top of it. You'll want to make sure to transform it because of course it can affect your health and your life and not only that but notice.

There are feelings of hurt, feelings of unloved, and so, if those emotions are inside of you, to create the real change, to create the real healing, you've really got to transform. And so, that said, just wanting to highlight that, because it is something that I see all of the time, where people do have an awareness of some type of hurt towards a parent, and instead of resolving the issue, they add another story of blame, and so they never really Get the result and so of course you hear me say all the time results results results because that's where the focus is You know, I want everybody to get real real results And so if you are somebody who has done that you'll definitely want to make sure to change that Alright, so what that said Let's go ahead and dive back in with Paula.

Here we go.

And if I ask you to notice the part of you who feels like you have more love now after the aneurysm, can you see that? Yes, my heart. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, has your mom helped you through this time? Yes. I think so. She, she tried to help. I was at the hospital, but, uh, she was available.

Yes. Yes. And kind. I think she was different. Okay. Now, if I ask you moving forward, let's say that your eye is working great, you're a hundred percent healthy. Yes. What would your relationship look like with your mom? Uh, probably it will, it will be, it will have some points that will be exactly the same as it was in the past.

Okay. Why?

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, again, I love this. Her self honesty, I love her self awareness, and what she just mentioned is so profound because she mentioned that, you know, since her aneurysm, her relationship has changed, and if she was healed, then she feels like it would go back to the old, and so this is what I want to highlight right here.

It is, you know, all the time you'll hear people say the phrase love is healing. That's not true. Love can be healing or if love is linked up the wrong way, it can make a health issue want to stay. I mean, if you think about it for a moment, we've all probably known somebody who you could tell who was wanting to get love or attention for health issues.

Okay? So they're wanting to get that nurture that wanting to get the love. Connected to that and it's partly because people don't know that that actually feeds the problem. And so that's part of what's going on right here is exactly that is that there's a part of her that if she gets better she feels like her relationship with her mom will go back to how it used to be which was worse and As we established in the very beginning part, there's a feeling of normally lacking love and it feels better right now.

But it's not great still, but it's better. And so, point being, is that gets linked up. And, by the way, something you'll want to note is I have worked with people before, where I went to work with them and checked into their energy, and I said, there's this really strong feeling of connection and love regarding a health issue.

And, it wasn't their mom. It was a practitioner that they're working with. And so point being is that if you were working with a practitioner even, and you feel like you're getting a ton of love from that person. That can actually make your subconscious mind want to keep the health issue. And I see that all of the time and that's why you'll notice when I work with people that I'm very loving but I'm also very strong in a way where there's not a strong feeling of nurture from the issue.

Because if I did that I'd never be able to help people to get the results that I do. And that's why you'll notice when I'm working with people, sometimes I'll be a bit more monotone. I'll be more, a bit more just firm in it. Because again, if I add in a bunch of nurture and was super loving, I would actually be fueling the issue.

Because it would give them a specific feeling connected to a health issue, so they get linked up at the same time. Just like if you listen to music, and it's heavy metal music, you might have a certain feeling. Or, if during the sunset you hear a violin, you can get those linked up. Well, if you're talking about a health issue, and there's all this love and nurture at the same time, It gets linked up.

And so point being, you want to be careful with yourself because I can't tell you how many times I've seen people spinning their wheels to get better. Meanwhile, there's a feeling in love and nurture connected to the health issue. So you want to make sure that in your beingness, that your subconscious mind does not have love and connection linked up in the subconscious mind.

And you want to be very aware of that because there are specific things, not just love, love is one of them, but there are several specific things in the subconscious mind. That when they get linked up to health issues, they can perpetuate the problem. And so something just to be very, very aware of. And again, I love her awareness, just beautiful.

And that said, let's go ahead and step back in with beautiful Paula. Here we go.

I don't know. Sometimes we, we just collapse for no reason. Um, I think that's the one person that I cannot connect. We the right energy and she lets me out of myself. If I can, if I can say, sometimes I look and I just say, oh, it wasn't right the way I, the thing that I said, or the way that I just, um, approach, uh, I love your awareness.

So what you are saying is you are saying that. Sometimes you get upset and you do and you say things that you wouldn't normally say and do, right? Yes. She has that ability of taking that out of me and it's like a snowball. It's a snowball. So I'm going to ask you for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to think about that, that she triggers you.

She upsets you or gets to you in a way that takes you outside of how you like to be, right? Yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And what would it look like if you didn't have that upset inside of you? It would be, it would be great, wonderful. Okay. It would be, yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Now, this is what's interesting, okay, is you're the one that had the health issue, correct? Yes. And have you been listening to past podcast episodes? Yes, yes, yes, yes. So, so you know that if somebody has an ailment, it's saying that their thinking is off, right? Yes. Yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and close your eyes.

And I want to invite you to the awareness that lovingly said your thinking is off that you've got to change your thinking that you're thinking your feeling is in an incorrect way about your mom. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to think the universe For the message of saying, okay, I'm the one that needs to change my way of thinking towards my mom and I see this reactiveness that I have, and I need to be responsible for changing this.

And I'm going to ask you to breathe and taking that in and I'm going to say that again. Okay, so you can see that you're thinking your emotions are off. And universe is telling you, Hey, this is the important thing you need to know is that it's off and that you are willing to change that. And you're excited to change you.

Is that fair? Yes. Yes. Okay, great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And can you see the part of you that wants your mom to change? Okay. Yeah. Yes. Yes. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and notice that your brain is wanting your mom to change. But notice also the universe is asking for you to change. Can you see?

Yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you, 0 to 10, how loving can you be towards yourself? Zero to ten, what do you think I want you to be? What do you think I want? Ten. Ten. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Zero to ten, how loving and kind and supportive can you be towards yourself?

What number do you think I want? Ten. Ten. Great. Take that in. Loving, kind, and supportive to self. That's what I'm asking you for in this moment. Can you do that? Yes. Promise? Yes. Okay. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause the session right here. You know, first and foremost, I just love her accent. I love her laugh, her smile. She's just beautiful. And also there's a few things here going on now. First and foremost, she has a very, very deep pattern of feeling criticized and criticizing self, which we are going to unpack even more.

On the next episode next week, because it is very strong and it is part of the problem and there are layers to that. But before we go there, because I know a lot of people have that very thing. I want you to think about the awareness of being willing to change you. and still love you at the same time.

That you can love you, that you can honor you, that you can feel good about you. And you can say, Oh, okay, well, let me change that. You know, all too often people will have this link in their mind that if they're wrong or if they make a mistake, then everybody's going to hate them. Or it's going to be horrible.

Or, you know, they never want to admit to a mistake or a fault or anything like that. But. I got to tell you, when you make a mistake, if you're wrong about something and you admit it, people actually respect you, where you say, Oh, you know what? That was my mistake. Oops. You know, or, Oh, you know, actually I was looking at this and I was thinking about it and, you know, I shouldn't have done that.

I could have done this even better. And what happens again is that people will actually Honor and respect you and trust you even more. And so for that reason, I actually, again, want to pause the session right here. And I want to invite you to embrace this maybe simple, but profound shift. And it's exactly that it's, I want to invite you first and foremost, to look at this.

And if you have something that you're needing to change and you're working on it to be able to both acknowledge and love yourself And also be willing to notice that it's not perfect and that you don't need to be critical of yourself. So that's number one is to really love yourself. And feel great about you while also being able to observe that, Hey, there's some things that you need to change and being able to do both.

So that's number one. And the second one is this. It's that if you have made some type of mistake, even just a little mistake, I want to invite you to just acknowledge it either to somebody or even just to yourself. And. Simultaneously, not make it a big deal, not feel bad about it, not feel guilty about it, just acknowledging, oh, okay, well, that was a mistake, won't do that again.

And moving on, because all too often I have seen people who have made mistakes in their life, big or small. And it derails their lives, they can't let it go, they have to berate themselves and feel bad about it for years and years and years. And a lot of times, you know, that can be the bigger stuff, but sometimes training yourself can be just starting with the little things.

So if there's a little mistake, you look at it and you say, Okay, Not a big deal. I'm just gonna let it go. Won't do that again. That simple. Because if you can start doing that even with little things it becomes easier to do that with bigger things. And let's be honest we're human beings. We've all made a mistake.

And chances are We'll probably make another one some point along the way and let's not manifest that but chances are again We're human chances are we'll make some type of mistake. And so if we have the ability to say oops All right made a mistake. I can admit it. I can let it go Don't need to feel bad berate myself get stuck there can just let it go That is an empowering way to be with yourself and an empowering Habit to have to have that programming inside of you as we navigate this beautiful journey of life.

And so that said, these insights are simple, but also profound in the bigger picture. And so for that reason, again, I do want to pause the session right here. We are going to continue with the rest of Paula's session on next week's episode, but for now taking this in and of course, please do make a point to hit that The share button on this episode, you know, share with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, you know, the more happy and healthy and empowered and loving that every single person is in this world.

The better this world is for all of us. And so please do have a most wonderful, fantastic rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu