Feeling Hurt In Relationships Can Affect Your Healing

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Welcome to Heal Yourself, change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themself of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can. To master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health yourself and your life. Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I just love how each episode just has an interesting insight or helpful information or twist to it that's just profound and.

And you know, that's one of the things about working with the mind and healing is it our minds are so incredible. And also the fact that we're working with the subconscious mind. You know, the fact that everything's below consciousness so you can't see it so easily, which of course, Makes it a bit of a challenge.

And that's one of the things that I love about these episodes is just that all of the time people email in and they go, oh my gosh, [00:02:00] this insight or this volunteer and I get it. And you know, just seeing things with even more clarity and awareness and just making it pivotal and life-changing. And so I just love that and I'm excited to dive back in with today's beautiful.

Paula and I just love her insights and the self-awareness. It's just beautiful. And if you recall, we actually started working with Paula on a previous episode and kind of to give you guys the big picture layout just in case, is basically I had one session with her that we recorded and it was around an hour in length, however, By the time I add notes to it and insights to it, if I were to do it just all one segment, it would make it like an hour and a half for two hours

And so instead, what I've done with her episode is I've broken it into three separate episodes technically. And the first one was episode one [00:03:00] 70, and then last week we did 1 71. And today's episode, we're going to take it this final. to the next level. Now, if you recall, in Paula's situation, she'd had an aneurysm and her eye was no longer opening on its own, and so it was very stuck and she couldn't get it to lift.

And so we were unpacking and looking at what her emotional connections were and what was going on inside her energy. . And if you recall, there was a lot of issues with her mom, and she loves her mom so much. You can just tell she just loves her mom so much, and as she mentioned, she feels outside of herself.

She gets so triggered, she feels outside of herself. She just kind of loses herself. and she feels criticized. And so it's kind of like this dynamic between her and her mother that she's beautifully working on transforming. Now, of course, as we're going through today's episode, there's different insights for shifting relationships and [00:04:00] shifting your health and about change and.

A lot of different pieces that are very powerful. And one thing that I wanted to bring up really quickly before we dive into this final segment is this, is that, if you recall on the last episode one seventy one, we were talking about being really kind to self. So we've been talking about being kind to self and embracing change and feeling good.

and again, self-kindness. Now, something that I see all of the time, that's a mistake that people make is this, is they go to give themselves self-love, but instead they end up with a feeling of feeling sorry for self. They feel sorry for self about childhood or a past or whatever it is. But this is the problem with that is that of course, , you know, if you're here, you know, emotions breed more of the same.

Success breeds more success. Frustration breeds more frustration. So our patterns, emotional patterns, breed more [00:05:00] of the same. And so what I've seen all of the time is people get on this spiritual self-healing journey and they've been on it for years and years and they are trying to bring in self-love, but they actually end up bringing in a lot of sympathy for self.

And then they. Manifesting problems along the way, or they feel sorry for self because they don't feel like they've manifested what it is that they're wanting. You know, the loving relationship or the connection or the friends or whatever that is for them. And so that pattern of feeling sorry for self.

Just ends up showing up over and over and over again. And so I just wanted to highlight that awareness because again, I see all of the time people make that mistake. And it may seem like a small distinction, but if you think about it for a moment, you know, all the time you'll see me work with people and show them how to use their own mind.

to release their own pain, you know, in a very short period of time. And the reason that I'm able to do that is because I'm really zeroing in on what is the specific [00:06:00] thing that needs to change. And the more specific it is, the easier it is to create radical results. And of course, you know, they're always multiple different pieces.

So, you know, shifting those pieces. , that's how to get radical results. Identifying it, being super specific, understanding that there's always multiple components, and really making sure to rewire it in the subconscious mind is key. And so just point being is that just the distinction between self-love and self sympathy may seem insignificant or small to a lot of people, but we'll get a different outcome.

So just keeping that in mind from the last episode. That said, as we dive in with our beautiful volunteer today, if you do have anything come up for you where you're noticing some insights of maybe something you've got going on in your life, , make sure to treat yourself with self love, not sorry for self, but amazed with [00:07:00] self in love, with self and self-awareness and excitement to transform it.

So just with a positive kindness and loving, adoring feelings towards self. And so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in to this final segment with Paula here.

So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I'm gonna ask you if you're willing to let go of being angry with your mom. Yes, of course. Yes. That's the thing that I, I, I just most always wanted to be like free of that. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and again, as we're talking about this, we're talking about some things that you could change.

Yes, yes. We all can change with if I ask you. Yep. If I ask you, could you be kind, loving, and supportive towards yourself? Yes. Yes. [00:08:00] I think I can. Yes. ? Yes. At what level? Yes. 10 . 10. I like that. I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take that in. Can you be kind, loving, and supportive to yourself? Yes. Yes. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you, if you are willing to change and what it would look like.

Seeing yourself walking around, not taking things so personally, not feeling threatened so easily, but just feeling in flow that she's not criticizing you. She loves you. Yes, it would be wonderful. Lighter, easier. Uh, yes. If I ask you zero to 10, how much do you feel like your mom wants the best? Oh, 10. 10, 10.

Definitely. Right? Yes, yes, yes. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you how much you feel like she's trying to criticize you, honestly, nine. Always . Okay. And I, if I ask you, [00:09:00] is she trying to criticize you? Is is that her goal is to criticize you? She says, oh, I just wanna criticize my. , is that what she says?

No, no, no. That's just the way, the way she's, she's, she's, she's, she's just like that. So let me ask you, is she trying to criticize you or be helpful? She's trying to be helpful. Okay. So not in a way that Yes. Criticize. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Is she trying to criticize you or be helpful? Helpful.

Okay. So I want you to just for a moment, to breathe and think about that. She's trying to be helpful. . Yes. Now, let's say she's trying to give you help in an area that you don't want help. What could you say to her? Uh, thank you, but I've made my mind. I, I want to be, I want to do the things at my my way, and I've done that many times.[00:10:00]

Great. I've done that. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and. if you said kindly, mom, I know that you're always trying to be helpful and if you could lessen the help a little bit and if you could just, just, we could just enjoy some time together, I think that would actually feel even more helpful for me.

How would that feel? Wonderful. Nice sense. Mm-hmm. . Um, so if you think about it, when you think about her as being, trying to be helpful and trying to be helpful, . And if she's trying to be overly helpful when you are not wanting her help and her feedback, then maybe you could say, you know what, mom, I, I know you're always trying to be helpful, but could we limit that and just spend time connecting that?

What's most helpful is when we sit together and laugh and enjoy, or we do this and we do that. But, so thank you for your intended help and I'm, I'm good. It's okay. Right. So if I ask you to breathe, [00:11:00] and if I ask you, how does that feel to. Very, very, very pleasant , very pleasant, very nice. . Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and when you can see her intentions for what they are, instead you can respond in a different way that helps you to be successful in that, right?

Yes. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

All right, so, uh, let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her self-awareness and I love her laugh. Just beautiful. And as far as the insights, first and foremost, notice when I said to her, you know, you wanna try talking to her? What she said? She said, oh, I've tried, I've done.

and I want you to think about that for a moment. You know, if you recall from the last part of the session she mentioned that she gets so upset, she's just outside of herself. [00:12:00] Right? And my point is this, is that if you are asking for something, if you're making a request from somebody and you do have that trigger, that upset, then a lot of times, you know, the communication may not go through.

and be said the way you're saying it in your head. You know, a lot of times when you're trying to say it one way, it may come out to a person in a completely different way because it's a trigger. So there's that. And also, of course, our thoughts, our emotions, our mindset helps create our lives. And so if you've ever noticed yourself doing that, where you have something that's really, really triggered and you've asked somebody and you've tried to stop them over and over because what they're doing, Remember to take back your power, which would be looking on the inside and really being honest with letting the negativity go and transforming you.

And as crazy as it may or may not sound to you, you know, all of the time people feel powerless [00:13:00] in relationships. They feel like I just can't do anything to change it. . But time and time and time again, I see people when they stop fighting the outside picture and they really change themselves and let go of the triggers that it changes, that the relationship transforms in one way or another.

And I see that all the time. So just food for thought on that. And then the second insight is to remember that people are both perfect and also not perfect. Meaning that, you know, people are wonder. and powerful. And also everybody's working on something or has something to work on, you know? And so a lot of times people may not express themselves in the best way or they don't even see it because it's so subconscious.

And so when you know what somebody's intentions are, instead of trying to make them wrong or criticize how they're doing something, if you know what their intentions are, genuinely taking it. and [00:14:00] receiving it in a different way is beneficial for you. And taking that in and then it feels good. It feels like, okay, well I can just receive it this way.

And you know, and so it feels a lot better. So food for thought. If those things are going on for you, and let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Paula. Here we go.

And I'm gonna ask you to take that. , and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if you wanna go ahead and open your eyes and blink your eye. There you go. Okay. And I'm gonna ask you to go ahead and do it again and blink. Yes. There's a little bit of movement in my right. Mm-hmm. , yes. There's a little bit.

So I want you to blink even more and just blink. There you go. Blink even more. It's so hard. . Mm-hmm. . So I'm gonna ask you to. . And if I [00:15:00] ask you to notice sometimes how you shout at her or get, uh, very upset with her, can you see that? Yes. Mm-hmm. . And if I ask you zero to 10 how angry you get with her, what would you say?

Oh, 10. Mm-hmm. . And I want you to notice that that reaction isn't, isn't fair. Can you see that? Yes. Yes. Okay. Now I want you to think about, , when is the last time that she got level 10 angry at you? Uh, before the, the before. In August when we were at vacations. When I was at, uh, vacation at, uh, house. Okay. So, and I want you to notice what is, does she yell at you?

Yes. Yes, yes, yes. Okay. And if I ask you, do you yell at her? Yes. . Okay. And if I ask you if you're [00:16:00] really willing to change that, hi. Of course. It's, it's, it's not a fun thing or mm-hmm. , it's not easy. I want you to notice how intense the yelling gets, right? Mm-hmm. . Okay. So that's the problem. You see it? So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

And by the way, do you have any siblings? Uh, no. No, no. I'm the only daughter. . Okay. Bingo. And if I ask you how often you see your mom yelling at other people like this, what would you say? Uh, yes, she, especially my dad, . Okay. And so, and if I ask you, does your dad yell back? Yes. Okay. And if I ask you just for a moment, can you see the part of you that gets even more angry than your.

can you see that? Yes. Mm-hmm. ? Yes. A little bit more, A lot more, [00:17:00] um, um, more or less? Sometimes yes. Sometimes intense. More probably. Yeah. Sometimes quite a lot more, right? Yes. Okay. So I want you to notice the intense anger. Mm. Right? Mm-hmm. . And if I ask you to, . And if I ask you how much you want that in your life, what would you say?

Bingo.

Bingo. No, I don't want that in my life. Okay. It's not easy. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you zero to 10 how much you can find the anger inside of you toward her, what would you say now or, uh, in the past? Both. Both. Uh, five. Okay, so I would've said about a 50, but we'll go with your five . Okay.

So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.[00:18:00]

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. She's so precious and so sweet, and I want you to notice something for a moment. You know, all of the time people feel like if they have emotions from the past that it doesn't bother them at. , it doesn't affect them, you know, as long as they get rid of it in the now.

But that is not the case, you know, even if you think about people who have childhood patterns that continue to repeat themselves over and over, and I wanna take a moment and speak to that because you know, all of the time you'll see me working with volunteers to help them to make a radical shift, to create change, to release their pain, or all kinds of things.

All of the time. I tell people you wanna make sure to follow through, and also there's more depth needed to make the change at a deeper level. So [00:19:00] my real goal from these episodes and these volunteers is to show you, hey, we can all do this and we can get results, and it doesn't take forever. But I don't wanna say it's everything somebody ever needed to do to change an entire pattern all the way to their childhood, because it's not, you know, it's one session of making a radical shift.

And so my point being is that you know in your life, yes, making a radical shift, and you can make a radical shift today. And even if you think back to episode number 10 with the woman who had a tumor in her throat, and I worked with her one session. and her tumor went away and her doctor was able to see that her surgery was canceled and all of that, you know, it was amazing.

So we can make radical changes in our health, and also, of course, any patterns. Making sure that you really get them gone is key. And if you can still feel it in your past, then it can and does still impact [00:20:00] your health, your happiness, your life, your. All of it. You know, it's like if you said, oh no, I got rid of last week's food.

And you look in your refrigerator and it's still pushed in the back when you didn't get rid of it, it's still there. And so if you can find an emotion from your past and you can still find what it feels like, then it's still there. And by the way, all the time, I'll tell people, you know, notice that emotion in your subconscious mind.

Are you really trying to eradicate it? Complet. or are you avoiding it like the plague and pretending like it's not there? And that's what most people do. They avoid it. They pretend it's not there. They don't wanna look at it. They just bury it and keep going until it manifests another thing or triggers another thing, you know?

And so that's exactly my point, is that you'll want to make sure to address these and eradicate them. It is important for health, for healing, for happiness, and of course transforming your life and of. your relationships. And so making that [00:21:00] real change, genuine change is key. All right, so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Paula.

Here we go.

If I ask you to notice how guilty you feel about yelling at your mom, zero to 10, what's your level? Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. I would've said higher on that one too, but I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Yes. Yes. Probably higher. Yes. Yes. Mm-hmm. , I was thinking about that too.

Mm-hmm. . Now, I want you to picture that you spend your whole life feeling guilty about being upset with your mom, and you feel guilty about it. No. You go ahead and keep feeling guilty about it,

Okay. Or you could let it go. Yes. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and can you stop feeling [00:22:00] guilty? Yes, I can. I I can try to just What, what, sorry, sir. What?

so you're gonna stop? I can try. You're gonna stop feeling guilty then? Yes. A hundred percent yes. Yes. 10 . Okay. . Now outta curiosity, what if you had a conversation with your mom and said, you know, this is how we've been in the past and I wanna do differently. How would that feel to you? Yes, it would be great.

Uh, okay. And if you apologized, you weren't trying to blame her, but you just said, you know what? I realize in the past I'm reflecting and I know that many times I've gotten angry and I raised my voice and I got upset, and I don't wanna be that anymore, and I apologize. So you. If she wants to then say and apologize for her part, she can, but you are not going to the talk asking for that.

You are just [00:23:00] deciding that you are gonna do different, stating that you are gonna do differently and communicating that you want to and apologizing for your part in it. Yes, yes. Yeah. I, I can do that. I think I, I, I've been different since, since, since Uhhuh . So how do you feel about doing. Yeah, it would be.

It's, yes. I, I will, and you can apologize for your part. Yes, yes. No problem about it. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe bingo. And I'm gonna ask you to go ahead and blink your eyes again and blink. Yes. It's, it's, uh, they are a little bit wet because they are close, so. Mm-hmm. , it's harder. Yep. So I'm gonna ask you to go and, Yes, I can open a little bit, yes.

Mm-hmm. . Okay. So a little bit. So I'm gonna ask you. Yes. [00:24:00] Okay. And if I ask you, do you trust yourself? So by the way, I know you've mentioned that it's changed since the aneurysm. But yes. Yes. I think the energy changed, uh, uh, between, or, or I changed. I don't know. Or Uhhuh probably she changed too. I think that many things changed since, since that happened.

It was bad, but it had, uh, uh, a good, a good, okay, so remember when I said, remember when I said to you, after you get better, how do you think things will go? And you said, I expect they'll go back to the way they used to be. Yes. Okay. So I'm asking you also to make a change. To have a statement. To have a conversation, to apologize for your part, and also set the expectations that it's gonna be different, right?

Yes. To have actual communication around it and to say, you know, I was reflecting and I apologize. and [00:25:00] I wanna do better in the future. I, I love that things are more harmonious now, and I, and I love that between us and I just always wanna do better in the future. And I wanna apologize for the past. How does that feel?

Yes. It, it feels very, very pleasant and very, uh, very good way of, of, of looking at, at, at it. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you zero to 10, how much do you can trust yourself to follow through, what would you. 10. Okay. 10. You absolutely can have this conversation and apologize, right?

Yes. A hundred percent. Nine . Mm-hmm. . So the thing of it is I'm trying to get your eye to do more, but notice I don't feel a hundred percent trust. I feel a part of you. Yes. Things have already changed. I don't need to apologize. I don't need to go there. You're justified. Yes. Do you, do you really think it's, that part is, it's important?

It's, uh, yep. [00:26:00] Absolutely. A hundred percent. Okay. Okay. I, yes. I feel You feel that very, very, very, very, very strongly. Yes. Very strongly. Or I wouldn't mention it. Yeah. Okay. Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . Yep. I feel like you need to set a. Way of being with her moving forward, that you guys have an open conversation about your relationship and the way you guys interact?

That it changes the tone. Yes, very much. Okay. No, not just, um, let things be as they are because they are better. Uh, in, in, in a sense. Is this you embracing change or is this you resisting change by the way?

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. All of the time I'll see people who are afraid to admit that maybe they made a mistake or what their part [00:27:00] was in something. But I gotta tell you, when you take a moment and you really just acknowledge your part of it and you apologize for.

it's so beautiful. It actually, it makes it safe for each person to be able to apologize, to acknowledge their part in whatever happened, and it opens things to the next level to be able to make that transformation. And so I just wanna say, if you notice yourself in a relationship where you have made a.

Then I wanna invite you to be willing to admit your part and apologize for it and see what happens. And by the way, if you have a lot of fear in this area about being wrong, or the other person just blaming you, what you could do is specifically say that you're apologizing for your part in something.

Meaning you could say, you know, I just was reflecting and I really see my part. in [00:28:00] all of this, and so I just wanna apologize and take ownership and responsibility for my part in this, and I just wanted to apologize so you could do exactly that, which. , of course leaves the door open for somebody else to acknowledge their part.

So it's a very helpful door open that you can leave. So I would recommend doing that if you are concerned that you're gonna apologize and suddenly the person's gonna blame you for everything. So that could be a way to preface it that feels safe for you. So just food for thought. And that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful.

Here we go.

No, it's embracing change. Uh, I'm embracing change. I think. Here's so, so notice your resistance to this, and I adore you. And listen, if I said yes, after I get better, I feel like things are gonna go [00:29:00] back to the way they used to. Yes. Yes. I said that Uhhuh , you said that. And it's true. Yeah. And it's very, very much in your energy.

And not only that, but likely if you don't have a conversation about it and, and really make it part of the conversation, likely it will eventually they will back to there. Yes. And, and so, uh, so absolutely having a conversation and being a part of that conversation, uh, is very, very important. But okay, I will want you.

To embrace this and to say, yes, I'm willing to change. Does that make sense? Yes. Yes. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and are you willing to apologize to your mom and say, you know what, I never wanna have that again. Yes, I don't. I don't want to have that again. No, no, no. So notice for a moment, okay, so if I ask you why you have so much resistance to apologizing, what would you.[00:30:00]

I don't know. It's just like, um, probably because I think the things will turn off in another argument and it'll always be the same. I think that's, that's why so, so notice for a moment, so what you are saying is it's just gonna turn into an argument. I'd rather just avoid it completely than t. . And by the way, I expect after I get better that things are just gonna end up going back to the way they used to be anyway.

So in other words, you're not willing to look at things, but you want both your eyes to work, but you don't wanna look . Yes. . Okay, so you don't wanna look at things, but you want everything to work great. ? Yes. Yes. I, I, I'm understanding what you're saying. Thanks. The thing of it is, is it won't turn into an argument.

It takes two people to argue, right? Yes, [00:31:00] yes. And you apologize for your side of it. If somebody called you and said, Hey, I realize that I've been a bit difficult, and I see that. , and I apologize. I, I apologize for that and I never wanna be that way again. I'm loving the changes and how we're feeling closer, and I love that.

And I'm sorry. And that's all I have to say. That's why I said notice you are not expecting anything from her. You're not asking me for anything from her. You're just willing to apologize. Mm-hmm. . Now notice the party that is very stubborn. Can you see that? Yes. . Yes. So this is the thing. So remember we talked about embracing change, right?

Yes. So are you, is this how you embrace change? No. No, no, no. Not doing that. It's, it's not embracing mm-hmm. . It's not. It's not. So if I ask you, who do you [00:32:00] wanna be in life? Uh, I wanna be, I wanna be happy, , you wanna be happy? I'm happy. But I wanna that my goal is always to feel at ease. At ease, I think easier, in a easier way, not So I want you notice the part of you that is very adamant about just bearing this and does not wanna apologize for your part in it.

Mm-hmm. . I would say that also you have the health issue, right? Yes. So you can tell that your behavior and your way of thinking and your emotions are not harmonious inside of you, right? No. And the universe is asking you to change, right? Yes. You are telling the universe, no thank you. I don't want to. Yes.

It's not fair and, and it won't change the situation, [00:33:00] so, absolutely. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you, is your stubbornness serving you? No. No, no. Not at all. ? Mm-hmm. Not at all. Right. And this is what I want you to do. I'm gonna ask you to notice that you got some movement in your eye, which is great.

Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to blink your.

Mm-hmm. . And you see some movement, right? Yes. Okay. So the thing of it is, is I would say that zero to 10, how much I want you to change, I would say 10. I want you to change it. No. Yep. But I would say that that the change that I feel inside of you right now Yes. Is about level two. Okay. of what I would want you to change and mm-hmm.

loving support for self. Right. Loving support for self. How much are you gonna be loving and [00:34:00] kind and supportive to yourself? Uh, 10. I should be 10. Nine. 10. Yeah. Nine 10 right now I want, but you don't feel that . Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. So I would say that you've started to change some. Okay. And I would say that there's more change that's.

Now, the other thing is, is I would say, I don't wanna push you on this. I want you to want to do this. So you notice on past episodes, sometimes I'll push people to help them to make the change. So they're really going through and they're making the change right now, if I ask you zero to 10 how stubborn you are, what would you say?

Do you feel more enough? I, I more like a 600, but we'll go with the six . Okay. Um, really, I would say about a, yeah, I, [00:35:00] I would, I would say about a, about a 10 I would say. You're very, and this is the thing, no. If I ask you, you zero to 10, how much you would say you're determined in life, what would you say?

Mm-hmm. . So I would say that it's, you've got to learn to use it when the determination helps you to do great, it can help you to do great. And I would say that then sometimes the stubbornness doesn't help you. And the other thing is, is I don't want you to feel, I know that you felt criticized by your mom a lot and resistance to that.

And so my point. is, I'm not gonna push at all, is I'm not gonna push you, but I, what I want you to notice is I want you to notice that your eyes moving a bit, little bit okay. And you're getting a little bit of movement so you can see that what, yes, yes. Right? Yes, [00:36:00] yes. I can see some, some difference, yes.

Some movement. Great. More. Yes. Yes. I can a little bit open in the, in the. Great. Yes. Okay. Which is wonderful. And I wanna give you time to digest this, to take this information in, to think about how much you wanna change and how you wanna do it. Okay. So that's, but now you can see what's connected to your eye and you can see that.

And I wanna let you digest and take that into change. , because I don't wanna trigger any of the things where you've had with your mom, where you've had a feeling of you have to change or feeling forced or resistance or any of that stuff. I want you to think about this. I want you to listen to this and think to yourself, how much do I wanna change?

How do I want to navigate this? How do I want to, and take that in and consciously decide because part of the resistance and the back and [00:37:00] forth and the push and the. Has been a lot of the pattern. Does that make sense? Yes. Yes, yes. A lot of sense. So we wanna do it in a different way. Okay? So first and foremost, great job with your energy.

Secondly, what I also love is as soon as I set a difficult relationship, you knew it was your mom right away. So I love your awareness on that. , and, and I love your insight. And then, so I want you to work on this, and then I want you to keep me posted on your progress. Does that sound good? Yes. Yes. It sounds great.

thank you so much. . Beautiful. You're so, so welcome. You're beautiful and I, I just, I love your awareness. I love your heart. Thank you so much for your time. You're so welcome. And I love your smile. You're just gorgeous. I love your smile. Let's see you do this, and I wanna see you embody this change.

Beautiful. It's been okay. Okay. Thank you so much. See you next time. Thank you so much.[00:38:00]

All right, so let's go ahead and unpack this a bit more. But first and foremost, I just wanna acknowledge our beautiful volunteer. I mean, great self honesty, great self-awareness, and though if you also notice still a lot of resistance, but that is so insight. . I mean, let's be honest. How often in relationships can people be in a place where they're feeling really stubborn or really resistant to change?

I mean, we see it all of the time now. If you think about it, on past episodes, you've probably heard me, you know, if somebody's resistant where I push so they can really make that change and they'll release their pain and we'll see that. And I always wanna push somebody if it is in their benefit. to push them, you know, so they see the change.

But in this case, if you're wondering why I didn't push her, it's because it's also part of her trigger is [00:39:00] feeling that feeling of being pushed to change. So if you recall, you know, with her mother, she was having that exact dynamic where her mother wanted her to change specific things and she didn't necessarily want to, and.

That said, of course, I don't wanna push her either. So I want her to want to change because a few reasons. I mean, first and foremost, that is the only way that she's gonna really change anyway. And also, this is her trigger, this is her wounding. And so I don't wanna push her to change. And you know, a lot of times on past episodes, the reason that I'll push somebody is because once they.

That, that change will get them out of pain. Then they have this awareness. They go, oh my gosh. Like I, I see it, I see the change that I need to make, which is great. In this case, that's not the same situation. And so it's, it's [00:40:00] a different, especially because it's a trigger. And so the thing that I wanna invite you to take from this is that if you are in a relationship where you're feeling stubborn and inflexible, I wanna invite.

To really be willing to change, to be willing to let it go, to be willing to be the one that says, Hey, I apologize for my part in this. And that doesn't mean that you need to take responsibility for the whole thing. You know, I like to call it taking a 100% responsibility for your 50%. You know, not the whole thing but your part.

And so that's what I wanna invite you to do is just notice is there a relationship in your life where you're feeling stubborn, where you're feeling very stuck to your emotions, where you're inflexible. That's been a painful relationship that you are willing to change. And if so, I want to invite. to do exactly that.

You know, [00:41:00] all the time people wanna be right and be right, but it doesn't get them the change they're wanting. And it also doesn't transform the patterns. And then so what'll happen is, you know, I'll see people who have ongoing tension with their parents and then. As they get older, you know, their parents pass, and then that pattern then shows up with somebody else in life because it's their pattern.

And so point being to empower yourself for more love and happiness and healing, and just living life to its fullest, making sure. To look inside of you if you have one of these patterns, and genuinely transforming it because we all deserve to have a wonderful, healthy, happy, fabulous life and feel loved.

And so, by the way, on that note, I wanna invite you to please do hit this share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know. Because the more empowered that every [00:42:00] single person is in our. The better this world is for all of us, and so please do make a point to have a wonderful, fabulous, loving, beautiful rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next we'll.

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I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website@brandygilmore.com slash podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

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