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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

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Hello. Welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here. continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love the insights from today's episode. There are just really powerful regarding the topics of lifting yourself or even being stuck in invisible patterns that continue to fuel themselves.

And so it's just really insightful because Once you start to see patterns and the way that they can affect you and also keep you stuck in a loop, when you start to realize that, you know, multiple patterns are connected to each other, it can help you to break free from the very cycles or loops that are keeping you stuck in pain, in problems or illness, or even in painful relationships.

You know, in the last IQ episode, we talked about exactly that, how people can stay stuck in painful patterns and not see how to get out of them. And so for that reason, I just love the insights from today's episode. Where you can see the stuckness, because it can help you to see with even more clarity how to get unstuck.

And by the way, I have to tell you, one of the things that touches my heart all of the time that I see, is that when people are genuinely healing themselves, transforming, addressing the patterns, the very patterns that are connected to illness, pain, problems, all of that, side effect, you know, the beneficial side effect is healing relationships, you know, relationships with self or with loved ones or a spouse or painful relationship patterns, which then of course transforms a person's life in so many ways where you can feel love and connection or happiness or, you know, it just, it's a radical change.

And I just love that. And I love that today's Podcast episode highlights some of those very things. And so. On that note, let's go ahead and dive in. Now, if you recall, we have been working with Lily on the past session. And so basically her total session was about an hour long. And by the time I add in information and insights along the way into a podcast episode, that would make it like two hours long.

And so of course I broke the session up into three different episodes, which was 178, 179, and today's episode, 180. And. If you recall, kind of a quick summary from the last two episodes is that our beautiful volunteer, Lily, has been extremely hard on herself, just really hard, very critical of herself, of her parenting and being stuck in a lot of worry and fear towards parenting.

So those are some of the past insights that we've talked about is kindness towards self, self love. And also some parenting insights. And then today's episode has a bit of a mixture, has some self love insights. Also. Again, that feeling of being caught in a loop, how tricky that is, and then how to start seeing it in a different way and start getting out of that pattern.

So that's what I love about today's episode. And it's also got some really powerful insights regarding self criticism and self love. So it's just, it's beautiful. And on that note, let's go ahead and step in with our beautiful volunteer. Her name is Lily. Here we go.

So there's another piece. Here we go. If I ask you to notice for a moment how much you've spoken poorly about their father, what would you say? Yes. Yes. Yes. So if I ask you, how often do they see their father? Um, a lot. He's by all the time. Okay. If I ask you, is that fair? Nope. I don't know, Brandy. I don't know.

I don't know. Okay. Honestly. How bad does their dad treat them? No. You're right. He doesn't treat them bad. He's hard on and did some bad stuff to me mostly, and it hurt us all. Okay. And how long ago was that? Well, five or six years ago. Okay. And so if I ask you zero to 10, how bad he treats the kids, what would you say?

Yeah. No, um, he doesn't really. Okay. No, he's really pretty good about helping my daughter and yep. That sounds horrible. I know the horrible of me. I just have a hard time. Oh, yes. Oh, this is the part where we beat you up. Okay. Oh, yep. So we're going to go. Okay. So let's talk about how horrible this is of you.

How long do you want to go into that? Okay. Great. So no, you sure we could just beat you up. I mean, you don't think that's going to be great for your energy. Great. So we could skip that. How does it feel to skip that? It's kind of what I do, get into something that I, is uncomfortable and I just don't deal with it.

Okay, but I'm not talking about not dealing with it. I'm talking about retraining your brain to realize there's no benefit in beating yourself up. Does that make sense? Like if I ask, How much you have spent beating yourself up, what would you say? A long time. Okay, so if you retrain your brain not to do that, how do you think that's going to go?

I think I'll see a lot of things differently. Yeah, I think I'll feel a lot better about myself and probably have better relationships with the kids and be more willing to put myself out there a little bit. Now, by the way, if I ask you 0 to 10, how much you feel like the kid's father hurt you, what would you say?

Yeah, he hurt me. A 10. And if I ask you how much you feel like he abandoned you, what would you say? Yeah, yep, I was very angry about that. You have siblings, correct? I do. And if I ask you, uh, can you give me their initials? L and K. And if I ask you how much you felt, uh, abandoned by them as a kid, what would you say?

Yeah, that was part of growing up. They're a little bit older than me. Felt a feeling of rejection and left out and abandoned. Can you see that? Yeah, yes, I can. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. That's my pattern.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. She's just beautiful. And as she just mentioned, she has a pattern of, you know, she says she gets into something and then she just doesn't deal with it. Now, of course, that's something that people do.

All of the time, their mind goes into something, it's doing something and then they just don't deal with it. And it's a pattern in their mind. So their mind will do it over and over and over. And it's kind of like stubbing your toe on the same thing every day. And after a while you want to look at it and definitely move it.

You know, of course, the sooner, the better. And so what I was asking her to do is retrain her brain to purposely start training her brain to be kind to self. And so I want to point out the distinction here. So what I said is instead, could you skip beating yourself up, skip criticizing and punishing yourself, all of that, and instead start supporting self and being kind to self.

And so notice When you think about it, what I'm saying is, can you train your brain to start handling the situation in a different way? Now, what a lot of times what people will do, and that's what she's referring to, is that she gets into something and she just doesn't deal with it. Which would be if I said to her, you know, if you're stressing about, your relationship or your ex or this, that, the other.

Instead, go watch TV or instead just think about rainbows and butterflies, which I'm not saying, of course. And so on that note, there is a key distinction and it is retraining your brain to think about a topic or something that you've been doing in a different way, instead of just skipping topics. So that is key.

Now another thing that I want you to notice is that she's very stuck in a cycle and that's part of the problem and part of what I'm wanting to point out to her because what she has is a lot of hurt from her relationship, from her ex. And so what's happening is she's got all of this hurt and then so she's speaking poorly about him.

And when she's speaking poorly about him, then she's in a feeling of guilt and also self punishment. Because those aren't great things to do, to speak poorly about somebody. And so then what's happening is that she's in guilt and then she's in self punishment and then she feels badly about herself, then it keeps her from putting herself out there, as she mentioned.

But then of course, as she's feeling badly about herself and criticizing herself, then she's just feeling more hurt. And so notice she's stuck in that loop. And then, by the way, when you stop and think about it, where she just said, that's my pattern. She can see it. So what happens is it technically she has a pattern from childhood, which unfortunately just continues the cycle.

And if you think about it, a lot of times people spend their whole lives in these cycles recreating them. And you know, when you stop and look at it, you just have so much compassion for what she's going through and the hurt and the upset and the And, of course, it's important to be able to break the cycle, to get out of it.

That will be key to creating that real change. And so, that said, you'll want to notice if there is a cycle, it's important to break that cycle. And so, that's where we're going as we step back in with Beautiful Lily. Here we go.

So maybe you could actually just find a better relationship if you were to get rid of that pattern. Yes. Okay. But this is what I'll tell you what most people will do. You ready? Yeah. They will end up feeling hurt and feeling very upset and they respond from that place and then you'll end further and further away.

Then you'll experience a feeling of hurt and rejection and abandonment from N also. Okay. Yep. And then you, the pattern will just continue in other relationships. Can you see that? I do. I want to change that. Yep. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, this is the thing, is that if you, if the kid spent time with your ex husband, if they spent time with their dad, and he was speaking poorly about you, how fair would that be?

Yeah, I wouldn't like it. Okay, how fair would that be? It's probably somewhat fair. I feel like it would be somewhat fair for the way that I talked about him. Okay, so if, no, if I ask you, no, not, not like, so what is this, an eye for an eye? Yeah, that's exactly what that was. Okay, so notice for a moment, here you go feeling like you deserve more punishment.

Yeah. I want you to notice how entangled in punishment patterns you are.

All right. So I want to go ahead and pause it just for a really quick insight. And you know, again, first and foremost, I just want to say, I love her self awareness and self honesty. Just beautiful. Now, as far as punishment patterns, when I said, I want you to notice how entangled you are in these patterns, this can keep you very stuck.

And this is the reason why. is that if you notice, I mentioned on the last insight that she's very stuck in a loop. Now there's a part of her that's continuously wanting to punish. So she's wanting to punish him because of what he did years ago. And she's also wanting to punish herself. Now, when you're stuck in very deep patterns of self punishment, it's going to be hard to get out unless you're willing to stop the punishment.

But even notice the eye for an eye type of feeling. She has so many beliefs around the topic of self punishment. That she's not going to be able to really genuinely free herself. unless she can stop punishing herself. So that is key. And that, of course, is what we're working on moving forward. So let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Lily.

Here we go.

So, uh, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I want you to go ahead and tell me more about how much more punishment you deserve. I want to be done with that. I really do. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I'm gonna ask you how would it be and but watch this. How fair would it be for the kid's dad to speak poorly about you to them?

It wouldn't be fair that I know of. He does not. Now, it wouldn't be fair to you, and it wouldn't be fair to them. Right. Because the more they love you, the more it's good for them. I'm going to say that again. The more they love you, the more it's good for them. The more they love their dad, it's good for them.

As long as he's not bad to them, it's good for them. Right? Yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, by the way, if I ask you at this point right now, how much you're seeing some patterns that would be really good to change? Yes. Okay. Controlling, punishing myself. What else do you see, Brandy?

Uh, some relationship abandonment, rejection, feeling left out, um, and blaming self and, and, uh, being willing to love self and see the good in self, right? Yeah. Okay. So there's some patterns here, right? Now, by the way, if you change these patterns in your life, how would that feel? I, it wouldn't even feel like me.

It'd be amazing, different. Great. So if I ask you, if you want to wait till next lifetime to change them? No. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Are you going to change them in this lifetime? Yes. Okay. Yep. If I ask you in an average day how overwhelmed you are, what would you say? So I've tried to make my life very easy because I've been in overwhelm for years.

So lately things are, my life is very small and it's very quiet. Except for N. But, um, yeah. Okay. So, notice the part of you that is, uh, afraid of overwhelm. Can you see that? Yes. Okay. Like, I can't take anything else. So, notice that for a moment. Uh, that's exactly how I feel in your energy. There's a feeling of feeling like I can't take anything else.

So, I started looking at pushing your energy and pushing the change. And you're, you're Your energy is saying exactly that is saying that, um, it's afraid of overwhelm. And what I think would be best is actually allowing you time to think about these patterns. and also simplifying it and saying this, if we just added a couple to dos, if I ask you how easy you feel like it would be to discontinue speaking poorly, uh, about your, your ex, if I ask you how much that feels doable to you, what would you say?

Yeah, I can do that. Great. So if I asked you to do that for one thing, and by the way, zero to 10, how does that, does that feel good to you? To not talk bad about it? Feels great. Yeah. I don't want to do that. Great. By the way, kind of a thing to note is this, If I ask you 0 to 10, how much do you see yourself as being like your mom?

Oh, gosh, we have a big affinity. So yeah, I would say probably, probably quite a bit, but I admire her so much. I feel like she's on a higher level by far. Okay. So, but 0 to 10, how much do you see yourself? Yes, just to throw a number out there. Don't worry about it. Eight. I don't know. I don't know. Oh, and if I ask you zero to 10, how much do you see yourself as being like your dad?

Uh, less so. Yeah. But still maybe like a six. Okay. So now at a subconscious level, let's say that that I start, uh, speaking poorly about your dad, right? And you see less and less and less and less in him. And by the way, you feel like you're like him. And I start going, Oh, your mom does this and this and this and this, this, and you feel like you're like your mom.

Does that help your self image or hurt your self image? I see what you're, you're saying. Yes. Yeah. Interestingly, your kids Are all likely gonna see a part like, oh, I'm like my mom in this way, or, oh, I'm like my dad in this way, and that you, it's like you, you, people a lot of times, especially at a younger age, they'll see, oh, I'm like my mom, or I'm like my dad, and they have part of that, if not a lot of it.

Um, as you can see in yourself. And so even if your husband is, has some personality flaws, as long as they're not affecting the kids, you still wouldn't want to emphasize the flaws to them because it's not helpful for them. Does that make sense? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to take in zero to ten, how much you want to beat yourself up for ever saying anything negative about him.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, there are a few really important insights from a few different angles. You know, first and foremost, number one. that if you're speaking poorly about somebody, it can keep you from lifting yourself. And so part of what I'm wanting to do here with her is to point out to Lily that if she's speaking poorly about her husband, that it's actually really not good for her kids.

And part of the reason I want to do that is because. There's a lot of this feeling going on of speaking poorly about him, which she mentioned, you know, there's a lot of the feeling of speaking poorly about him, which of course will negatively impact her kids over time. And I love that she's not going to beat herself up about it, which is great because life is just about observing things and then changing.

And what's beautiful is that she loves her kids so much that in trying to help her shift, I'm wanting to point out to her that of course it's not good for the kids because that will help her to shift. And so my point from that is that I'll see this pattern all of the time. You know, I'll see a woman who does have kids.

And feels like she doesn't have time to work on herself or to heal her own things and is then trying to help the kids but feeling rejected or unloved or hurt because those are her patterns from childhood. which is what you see occurring here with Lily, is she does, she has these wounds that have shown up in her life.

And now she's also a mom and now she's trying to help her kids. And if you recall from the first episode, I mean, she just wanted to help her son so much and she loves him so much. And so there's all of these different emotions going on. And at the end of the day to start getting out of this loop. One thing that she really needs to do is to stop speaking poorly about her ex.

That is the biggest thing that is keeping her stuck from being able to lift herself, from being able to feel better. And so that's the emphasis that I'm wanting to put here for her and also for you. I want to invite you to notice all of the time I'll see people, even if it's not their ex, that could be their parents or their family or a coworker or a job that they're working on, whatever it is.

But I'll see people who are speaking poorly about someone or something else. And in doing so, They're shutting down their own life and their own growth and they don't realize it. And what you'll want to keep in mind is this, is that you growing or becoming more or manifesting a bigger and bigger life can't take from somebody else or beat somebody else down.

And so you'll want to notice that if your own growth journey or even existence in life includes taking from others or punishing others and, and bringing others down, then you'll want to definitely change that. You know, even if you think about quote unquote punishment for kids growing up, I mean, the goal of punishing them has never been to beat them up or make them less, you know, the real quote unquote intention behind punishment was really about guidance, about saying, Hey kid, Don't do this, that's bad, do this.

So it's never really been about taking somebody down. That wasn't the reason for it. And of course, I'm not a big fan of punishment. It's more of guidance of mind programming. And so either way, point being is that there's a lot of punishment pattern here that is keeping everything stuck and to really create a change in your life.

You want to make sure To let that go. And if you are somebody who is a parent who might then be speaking poorly about the other parent, that's the other insight is that you'll want to make sure not to do that because it can impact the kids. And instead being willing to shift it and really. Be your best self, because that's going to be best for everybody, including, of course, you.

All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with Beautiful Lily. Here we go.

Yeah, I've just stopped doing that and we'll go forward. That's smart, smart, very, very smart. I like that. I like that. And by the way, if I ask you how much you agree with the statement that we come into this world with patterns from past lives and whatnot, what would you say? Yeah, I believe that. So, notice for a moment that if the universe wanted us to be perfect and expected that we were perfect, we would not come into this lifetime with patterns from the past that we've got to figure out.

Like, think about that. Does that make sense? Yeah. Not only that, we'd sure as heck at least know how to walk and talk. We're supposed to be perfect. I mean, have you ever seen a baby stand up and be like, Oh, I'm going to start walking, running, jogging, jumping. If we were supposed to come in and be perfect, we already know how to at least do that.

Right? And so if we said that your goal right now was self kindness, so that maybe, uh, every day you make a point to go point out between about 10 great, wonderful, kind things that you have done or smart things or wonderful things, 10 positive things that you have done In the past, small little things could be helping the kid, your kid with the homework or having fun or I mean, it could be playing soccer with your kid when they were four or whatever it is.

But ten nice wonderful things. Okay. Could you do that every day for 30 days? Yep, I'll make it a plan. I will do that. Great. And so if we said that's one plan Okay And then we said and then just continue speaking negatively about the ex that's another and then trying to hear your son to hear him a bit more and start connecting with him in a new way and As long as you're not blaming self You That you will also expect to notice more of an improvement in that area as well in that relationship.

Does that feel doable to you? Yes. And if I ask you how overwhelming those changes sound to you, what would you say? Um, it sounds great. Beautiful. So let's, that's what I recommend. And then one other thing, If it's not too much, I would love for you to also list maybe two or three or four times that you've been included in things in life because I want you to start feeling that instead of the feeling of left out or rejection, all of that.

How does that sound to you? Okay. And it could be as little as your daughter asking you to go to her talent show when she was five or, or whatever, or whatever, but, and it could be the same things over and over again. Just remember them. Okay. Just taking them in. You could take the same ones in. Absolutely.

Okay. So if I ask you, does that feel doable to you? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. We can go. And while we could push where the universe is saying, um, this is where we're complete is to, to start with niceness and kindness of this, that this is where we need to go first. Okay. How does that feel to you?

Yeah, I think it's a good start. I'm just disappointed, I guess, because I was hoping that I could make a real breakthrough, but I'm, I'm very closed up, I think. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And by the way, if I ask you zero to ten, how much you've spent your life feeling disappointed in yourself? Yes.

Okay, so I have a question for you. If I ask you zero to ten, right now, how much you're being hard on yourself, what would you say? Um, at the moment, I don't know, five maybe, yeah. Okay, and if I ask you, how's that working for you? Yeah, I don't feel so good. Okay, so if I ask you, if out of this conversation you developed a habit of being kind to yourself and really started shifting that, honestly, And started changing your relationship with your son, honestly, and with yourself, honestly, if I ask you how important that would be for your life and your future, what would you say?

I think it would be very important. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. And point being is that if I really genuinely see that it is advantageous to push, I would definitely push. And I just, um, it's just kindness right now. You've pushed self so much. And you've been so hard on self and all of that. This isn't a push. Okay. So I, and, but this is, what's great is that your thumb's moving a lot more than it was before, right?

It is. Yes, it is. So you can see that the very topic that we're talking about is creating change. Yes. And we can see, and everything's single pattern that I've mentioned, you go, Oh yeah, I see it. So it's not like, Hey, look at how much anger you have towards your mom and blah, blah, blah. We're not, it's.

That's not where we're going, right? We see the pattern. We see the upset. We see the hurt. Yep. Definitely. We just need genuine change. Does that make sense? Beautiful. Yes. Thank you. Absolutely. So what I want to do is I want to invite you to listen to this recording to embrace the change in your life. Um, what it is specifically and be kind to yourself and just following up with those specific things that we had talked about, which was working on seeing the best in self right now and being kind to self and really starting to embrace that embracing change in your relationship with your ex and then also with your son.

Okay. Yes. Beautiful. Okay. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling of feeling proud of self for self awareness. Thank you. I'm going to ask you to bring that in. Proud of self and impressed with self for self awareness. You're amazing. Your self awareness, your self honesty.

Impressive. Very impressive. Thank you. Absolutely. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you to take that in your self awareness, honesty, very, very, very impressive. And this is the thing is you didn't fail or not do good enough. The thing of it is, is your shifts. Also take actions. Can you see that there's changes?

Yep. There's actionable changes and that's sometimes it's just an emotional shift. Sometimes it's actionable. Sometimes it's both and there's an actionable. Okay. So great with your energy. Great. And you did amazing. And I'm going to ask you to take that in and feel that you did. And by the way, if I ask you how much you, you hear me where I'm very, very blunt and honest with people, what would you say?

I hear that. Yeah. I love that. Absolutely. Very blunt and very honest, very direct. It's the only way that yes. And I, how do I think you did amazing. And even in the middle of it, when we were talking and I said, You said you didn't have any good self awareness, but you do. Okay. So you absolutely do. It's just, there's some actionable things in that.

Okay. So it has been such a pleasure connecting with you as we wrap up, I'm going to ask you to acknowledge yourself, be kind with yourself and embracing change. Sound good. That was, Thank you, Brandy. You're absolutely so welcome. It's been wonderful to connect with you and let's see you follow through.

And, uh, absolutely adore you. Oh, thank you. I adore you. Thank you so much. We'll see you later. Okay. Bye.

All right, so let's go ahead and unpack this even more because there are so many insights from this. And when we look at the bigger picture, it's truly profound and you'll see why people stay stuck all of the time and why you may be stuck. in your own life. And before we do that, I just first and foremost want to acknowledge Lily.

I mean, what a beautiful, beautiful being. Great self awareness, great self honesty. She has such a beautiful heart. You know, she loves her kids so much and you can just feel that from her. And she wants so badly to be loved and to be happy. And it's just beautiful. And again, I would have pushed her even more except for the fact that her energy, that overwhelm, it's got that resistance to overwhelm and that there's also physical action to be made to be able to even do that, to access it.

And so those two things of You know, not wanting any over anything else. You know, the resistance to overwhelm. 'cause then if I add too much on it would make her feel overwhelmed, which wouldn't be good for her health. Of course. You know, burnout, overwhelm, all that stuff could backfire. So we don't wanna go there.

And that's again, a main reason that I didn't push her. And then the other main reason is because part of what she really needs to shift the key. is actionable right now. And so I want to unpack that. But again, just amazing, amazing, amazing self awareness and beautiful heart, just precious. Now, unpacking the bigger picture.

It's so insightful when you stop and look at it. I mean, first and foremost, if we bring the pieces together, she's this beautiful, wonderful mom who, when we first started to unpack her emotions, In the very beginning of this session, which was on the very first episode, so again, the session is cut in three pieces, but when we first started to really look at her emotions, She had a lot of concern with her son, and wanting to lift him, and feeling fearful, and that stress, and the control, and, and those feelings.

So we can see she just has a beautiful heart. And also, she's got a lot of hurt going on, and a lot of punishment, and self punishment, and a lot of patterns. Now, again, when we look at the bigger picture of it all, what she has is she has, you know, this pattern from childhood. of feeling rejected, which then showed up in her relationship as an adult of feeling rejected in her marriage.

And now she's in this spiral of feeling this hurt and rejection and anger and wanting to punish him and, you know, punish the ex and be upset and punish him and make him wrong because of what he did and then speaking poorly about him. Now, The reason I say this is so insightful is this, is that a lot of times in this situation, what happens in our culture, these emotions just get validated over and over and over.

So somebody says, yes, that man, I can't believe he did that. What a horrible person. He's terrible. He's horrible. And then the punishment, the desire for her to punish and the validation for her to punish him because he's bad and he's bad would just continue. And then in which case a woman would just continue speaking poorly about him and, and being angry and validating the anger, validating the wrongdoing, the victim, the upset.

So then she would theoretically, in most cases. People will continue speaking poorly about him, continue being upset, which then keeps her punishing herself and feeling guilty and then critical of herself, which then makes it so she never really feels great about herself. So she never manifests the relationship that she wants, and she's never clearing up the pattern of rejection because it's being validated over and over again.

And so my point being is you can see why so many people stay stuck. And you can also see the reason that I'm working with somebody. I'm not validating all of their feelings. Instead, I'm saying, all right, what do we need to change? Let's change. Let's create a radical shift, which is what I'm asking her to do.

I'm saying, okay, look, let's stop punishing him. It's not good for you. It's not good for the kids. Let's get out of that punishment mode. Let's start getting into self love. Let's start feeling good about you. Let's create a shift. Self kindness, self love, start feeling good about self. Stop punishing him.

Let's lift. Let's create a real shift. And of course, that's what her body's also needing for healing. But when you stop and look at this and you can see the spiral you can see why a person could end up with health issues. Now if you think about it for a moment based on statistics, the average person who has health issues doesn't get better.

They end up with more. Like the average person with one chronic health issue is expected to increase to having over three chronic health issues or three or more. I'm sorry, chronic health issues over the next, I think it was something between now and the year 2030. I mean, it's just continuing to increase.

And so my point being is getting out of these spirals, not validating the negative, but genuinely being willing to change. And so from this, I want to invite you to notice if maybe there is somebody in your life, maybe your parents, maybe a spouse, maybe an ex, somebody, something that in some way, maybe you're not treating right, maybe you're speaking poorly about them.

And maybe you could discontinue that in your life. Maybe there's a part of you that's just wanting to punish and punish and punish them out of a feeling of anger. And maybe that's something that's going on in your life. And if it is, I want to invite you to shift that, especially if that person is yourself.

You know, wanting to punish yourself for past. stuff, letting it go, being willing to really make that change. And lastly, kindness towards self and really thinking about the awareness of reprogramming and retraining your mind for self kindness. That is key. All right. So that said, those are the insights that I want to leave you with from today's episode.

And as always, I want to ask you to please do hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody who you know is feeling stuck or feeling hurt or rejection or unloved or beating themselves up and criticizing themselves, all of that. Or somebody, you know, who could use some more self kindness or some insights.

As to why they're feeling stuck. So please do hit the share button on the episode and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fabulous day yourself, feeling good, being kind to self, kind to others and loving who you are and make it an incredible rest of your day and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.