Click here to listen to episode 187

Please note: These are computer generated transcripts of the Heal Yourself, Change Your Life Podcast Episodes. If you have any questions or need assistance, please reach out to us at support@brandygillmore.com

Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love so many things about today's video. episode. I'm going to tell you, it is vulnerable and it is sensitive. And it also demonstrates how when you do have trauma, old trauma, hurt, wounding, that it's important to have self compassion and self compassion.

And also to find your strength inside of you and to really be willing to transform it. And that's what I really love about today's episode and about today's volunteer. Just a beautiful being who went through a very hurtful, painful experience that has impacted her life for many years and just watching her in the way that she can be with it and again, emerge from it.

In a beautiful way is just powerful, and I'm also excited for her to make the transformation moving forward, because what you'll see is that we can have vulnerable, wounding events in the past that then end up interfering with what we're manifesting. And by the way, this episode is just divine timing, because the last IQ episode had to do with feelings of blocking love, of putting yourself on punishment and not allowing yourself to have love for one reason or another.

And this was not planned ahead of time, of course, by me, but definitely divine unfoldment, because Today's episode illustrates that all too well, that if we have a vulnerable experience that you might be punishing yourself for, feeling bad or guilty about, that it can show up in a variety of different ways from, you know, feeling hurt, guilt towards self, not trusting people, et cetera, et cetera.

So there's different things that can come up. And again, our volunteer today, her name is Camille and she just demonstrates. Moving through the vulnerable information to the next level into a place of strength. So well, and her insight, and I just absolutely love this woman, just beautiful inside and out.

And that said, let's go ahead and dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Camille. Here we go.

Hello. Hello. Hi. Hi, Brandi. It's wonderful to connect with you. How's your day going? It's going great. Thank you. Wonderful. Wonderful. All right. So, uh, diving right in, shall we? Yeah, let's do it. Let's do it. Wonderful. All right. So what can I assist you with today? Okay, great. Um, I have low back pain and have had for several years now.

I attribute it to work, but we'll see what happens today, huh? Okay. Absolutely. And, uh, and what type of work do you do? I'm a nurse. Very nice. I love it. Um, all right. If I ask you zero to 10, what your level of back pain is on zero to 10, what is your level? Uh, today I would score it at three or so today, but I haven't worked in a week now, so it can be higher.

Okay, so here we go. All right. So what I find there's a feeling of feeling, um, pissed off towards men. There's also a feeling of feeling like you, you can't count on men. Can you see that? Yes. Okay. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe in and love your self awareness. And if I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find that feeling, what would you say?

Ten. Mm hmm. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, what age were you when you learned that you cannot count on men? Um. I was 16. Bingo. The strongest. Bingo. And, and if I ask you what happened then, what would you say happened? Um, I was, got pregnant and, um, my mom and dad both, you know, basically shunned me, but they did take me to have an abortion, but it wasn't, Ever spoken of, I wasn't treated as if I was going through anything.

I was treated as if I was a bad girl. And that was it. All right. So, um, and so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And were you bad? No. Hmm. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, how would you like to feel about it? How would you like to feel? How would you decide to feel right now, today?

would like to feel like they loved me unconditionally, which I did not feel. And so, um, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, bingo, if I ask you, give me one second, there's multiple different directions. Give me one second. If I ask you at that point, how much you learned that you can't count on men at that point?

A hundred percent. I mean, I, I made a vow at that time that Really that I couldn't count on anyone, but, um, I suppose more strongly toward men and why, why men at that point? Um, I'm not sure, I guess because the man that, um, I was involved with, his, his, basically his parents called my parents and said, you know, we're just gonna, we're dealing with this situation and they're never to see each other or speak to each other again, so.

Okay. And, you know, I mean, obviously, we were both at the mercy of our parents since we were underage, but, you know. Uh huh. And, um, bingo. So a few things. Bingo. I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you how much your thoughts help create your life, what would you say? Uh, 100%. I, I totally believe that.

Beautiful. I love your awareness. I love your awareness. Now, if I ask you if you could have absolute compassion for that 16 year old, absolute compassion, and that if today you could love her so much, love her so much unconditionally that you let it go completely. And if you think about the feeling of vowing to not trust, could you instead vow to trust her so much that she creates a wonderful life of people she can trust?

What would that look like and feel like to you? Um, I mean, I almost can't even imagine it. Mm hmm. I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, wait a sec. I know I'm interrupting. I know, I know. It's a little silly, but I'm interrupting. And I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to notice.

But there's part of you who can't even imagine it. And then I'm gonna bring in the awareness, your thoughts help create your life. And then there's a part of you who can't even imagine it. And then your thoughts help create your life. So part of what I see at that age, beautiful, is I see you having a feeling, a feeling like it is not safe to ever trust men again.

Okay, and so I want to invite you to be willing to heal from that, to change your experience, to change your thoughts, because if I ask you, can you see the other part that would really crave to have a wonderful, wonderful relationship? Can you see that? Yes. Yeah. So if I ask you, your thoughts help create your life, right?

What would happen? If you made this moment pivotal, what would happen if you said, look, I see this and I see it with clarity and I'm willing to change it. I'm excited to change it. I see it with clarity and that's it. Like my thoughts, you a hundred percent help create my life and I see this and game on.

I'm going to let go of the hurt. I am going to love myself so much that I'm willing to change this and give myself this gift.

I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice for a moment, if I ask you how much guilt you have about that whole experience, what would you say? I have a huge amount of guilt. If I ask you, by the way, how long you're going to hold on to that for? Exactly. I mean, like, 20 more years, or 30 more years, what would you?

What would you say, exactly? Well, I see now that that's the reason that I, behind the men that I've paired. Uh huh. I love your awareness. I love your awareness. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And what I was wanting from you was a commitment to let go of the guilt, is where I was leading to. And so, uh, and I love your awareness, and I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And if I told you that there's, Another 16 year old girl who went through the same experience and was still feeling guilty years and years and years later. If I ask you, would you want her to do that? Would you recommend that for her? No, I would not recommend that. Okay, well, I mean, would you say, though, she deserved to still feel guilty, right?

No, I would not say that. Ah, she doesn't deserve it, and you also wouldn't recommend it, right? That's correct. Ah, so could you take that in, and take that in the awareness you don't deserve that? And that you wouldn't recommend it. I wouldn't recommend it either. All

right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her self awareness and her heart and her finding her strength in this to move through this. I mean, just a beautiful, beautiful being. And if you are somebody who has been punishing yourself for the same type of situation, I want to invite you and encourage you to please do let it go and free yourself.

And not just this situation, but any situation where you've been really beating yourself up. Because all of the time I'll see people who have something that feels traumatic and vulnerable and painful in the past. And they feel so weighed down with guilt and it blocks them from love and from fully enjoying their lives.

And I see it all the time. And by the way, you know, I asked her, you know, if there was somebody else in this same situation, how much punishment would you think they deserve? And she said, none, you know, and she's right, none. And so if you have a situation where you've been beating yourself up or holding on to past guilt and burying it and trying to just forget the situation or, or, you know, um, bury the situation, I want to invite you to really genuinely let it go completely.

All right. So we're going to unpack this even more and let's dive back in with our beautiful volunteer, Camille. Here we go.

Good, good, good, good, good. Great job with your energy. Great awareness. Great. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment, and I know this is a weird request, but I'm going to ask you for a moment to get excited because like you just said, you can see more awareness of why you've picked the men you've picked.

Right? Yes. How much more clearly can you see that? Very clearly. Mm hmm. Now this is, I would say, the other story that you have, is the story that you have is a feeling of feeling like, I thought he loved me, but he wasn't even there for me. Can you see that at age 16? He wasn't there for our kids. Our baby, etc.

Right? Correct. So if I ask you towards your ex husband, Did you ever have a feeling of feeling like he wasn't there for me and my kid? Yes, very much so, very often. Bingo, exactly. So if I ask you how much that is still present, because you've been married, Uh, how many, how many times have you been married?

I've been married twice. You've been married twice, okay, so, so notice how many times this, this, uh, pattern has played out where you felt, even, and how many kids do you have? Just one. Okay. And if I ask you how much you have felt like, ugh, that man has not been there for my, for Baby, my kid. How many times have you felt that?

I, I feel it continually. Mm hmm. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to think about that, and I want you to think about instead creating a shift, even with your current kid or daughter, of feeling exactly that, of creating that shift Of even feeling like just a completely different ship. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I want you to picture moving forward. What it looks like and feels like to you feel where you feel like you're literally going through life and you feel so supported, you feel so, so, so, so supported and you feel so loved and you feel like you are choosing men that you can count on a man, but you see that you can count on men and you feel radically different.

What would that even look like in your life? Uh, it would be fantastic. What's that? I think it would be fantastic. Ah, take that in. Great. So you're walking around, you're going through life and you feel like, wow, you're actually picking a type of man who is there, who you can count on. Like it's a whole different ball game.

I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Notice what that feels like. Notice what that feels like in your life.

Notice what that feels like. And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, noticing what that feels like, seeing that exact change. By the way, your thoughts help create your life, right? So, if I ask you how much you want to embrace this new way of thinking and feeling, what would you say? I would say I'm probably at 80 percent right now.

Great. So, I'm gonna ask you to bring in even more. Bring in the feeling as much as you possibly can. What that looks like, your smile, feeling supported, feeling loved, feeling unconditionally loved, feeling supported, feeling loved, feeling so great, feeling like you can count on a man and it's awesome, that now you're picking the right one, and it's awesome.

Great. I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to notice a level of pain in your back, zero to ten. What's your level? Um, maybe a two. Maybe a two? Mm hmm. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. And I want you to notice the frustration towards your ex about feeling like that, the feeling of story of being unsupported, unsupported, unsupported, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

You see it? Yes. Okay. So I'm going to push a little bit and I'm going to be a little silly. Okay? Okay. I'm going to say, uh, go ahead and hold on and keep being upset about that if you want. I mean, I wouldn't recommend it. I'd change it if I were you. So go ahead and hold on to that if you want. I don't want to hold on to it.

Great. What'd you say? I do not want to hold on to it. Great. What'd you say? I do not want to hold on to it. Ah, great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. So you mean you're willing to change? You're excited to change? And you're willing to let go of the anger and the pissed off and the frustration and all of that?

Really? Yes, I'm willing. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. I love your sense of humor and self awareness. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to say that again. So you're willing to let go of the pissed off, the upset, the frustration, the anger, all of it? Honestly? I'm willing to let go of it.

Honestly? Honestly. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to take in the feeling that you're willing to change, you're excited to change, you're changing today, you're committed to change, you know our thoughts help create our lives. Game on. And I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I want you to notice your level of pain, zero to ten, what's your level? Um, I'm not feeling any pain, I'm a zero. Right? Great, great, great. Fantastic job with your energy. Fantastic job. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment, just kind of bringing things together.

I'm going to ask you to bring in the feeling that you are going to love yourself so much and seeing yourself moving forward, a vision of feeling really loved and happy. And how much guilt do you have? Zero. None. None. Doesn't even make sense. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And you feel supported and loved unconditionally.

And it's awesome. And it's awesome. And you see in your life, you see you're actually picking the right guy now. And it's so awesome. It is so awesome. And you can trust. And I'm going to ask you to breathe and take that in. Beautiful. Taking that in. Fantastic, fantastic job with your energy. Just beautiful.

So I want to invite you to make sure to take this in, to feel it, to re listen to this and really, really embody the change fully, um, and to get this in, to make this shift state. Does that make sense? Yes. Uh huh. It does make sense. Beautiful. I love it. Great, great job. And it has been such a pleasure connecting with you.

Thank you, Brandy. You are absolutely so, so welcome. You're so welcome.

All right. So I want to go ahead and unpack this just a bit more for an insight that you can apply to your life. But I just want to say first and foremost, what a beautiful, beautiful being. Fabulous job with releasing her pain. And just great self awareness, great self honesty, vulnerability, just a beautiful, beautiful being.

And I love how she moved through it in such a beautiful way to find her strength, to find that place of transformation of being. Really being willing to change. I just love that. And also having a bit of sense of humor along the way. Some, some playfulness, just some self awareness, just beautiful. Now I want to provide you with two quick insights, one on the topic of abortion in itself, and then the other on just a general topic of creating the transformation in your life.

And so first and foremost, Starting with the topic of abortion. You know, all of the time, what I see on this side is such a mix of different experiences, meaning this, meaning that in her situation, she now does have a daughter. And what's interesting is that they are such soulmates that it was a co creation.

That was the same soul and it came in. And, and actually when I check her daughter's energy, it's like a being on time, being early, like a lot early. Point being is that they were meant to be together and now they are, and it just unfolded in another way. Divine timing. And so it's, it's so interesting how things unfold.

And by the way, in other situations, I've seen women before where they do have an abortion and there was never even like a spiritual connection attached to it. It's like, Everything unfolded divinely in that it was kind of known ahead of time and to where It was already in process. And so it was an experience, but But that was the experience is it's, it was a human experience, but the spirit was never even connected to it.

So I've seen that before. And another situation that I've seen is the easiest way to think about it is if you imagine somebody who's manifesting something, maybe it's the job that they want, or maybe it's their dream or whatever it might be for them. And at last minute, the deal falls through. And that's something that I see as well is, you know, when you stop and think about it, the very first thing that all of us manifest in this life is our human body.

So we are a spirit who is manifesting a physical body. So it's basically like a co manifestation where there's a spirit working on manifesting a body. And there's also a human being on this side and It's like the, the manifestation doesn't work out for both of them. You know, it becomes a co manifestation of that results in abortion.

So there's that as well. And so many different other scenarios. My point being is that when you stop and look at it for a moment. Everything unfolds in such a way that is so much bigger than all of us and what we can see with our physical eyes. There's so much more going on. My point being is that if there's ever been anything in the past that has occurred, that for one reason or another has manifested in whatever way, to let it go.

Because if you spend your life beating yourself up or criticizing yourself or feeling guilty and holding onto those feelings, it messes up your life, your energy, your future. And you don't deserve that. You know, it's just time to let things go and genuinely move on and be willing to change. And so from that, you know, I just love our volunteer, her determination, her willingness to really change.

Just really impressive. Very, very impressive. And she has such a beautiful heart. You can see how much she just loves her daughter that she does have. I mean, it's just beautiful. And so, moving forward, even with the Camille, moving forward in a place of love and being willing to be loved and letting the past go and really embracing the now and feeling good about herself and loving her life.

I mean, just embodying that I'm excited for her to do exactly that. So just beautiful. And moving on to insight number two, and it's this, is that I asked Camille, you know, if somebody else were in your shoes, how much would they deserve? Punishment to feel guilty and whatnot she said zero and that's so true And I've got to tell you on this very note, you know, I've seen women who have given birth to Kids who have had disabilities who have spent their lives Feeling guilty and beating themselves up and somehow feeling like it's their fault or all kinds of things And so point being is that I want to invite you to think about it in that way.

If there's something you've been beating yourself up for, if you think to yourself, you know what, if somebody else did this, would they still deserve this punishment this many years later? And the answer is no. And letting it go genuinely all of the way. So I want to invite you to do just that because of course, the more you let go of guilt and self punishment and feeling bad about the past and yada, yada, yada, you let it go completely.

Then where you open yourself up to have a beautiful, loving, wonderful, fantastic life. And let's be honest, if we looked around the world and everybody was happy and healthy and fantastic and loving life and in good integrity and good spirits and all of that, this world would just be heaven on earth, which is the goal.

You know, everybody's waking up to the awareness of energy and our thoughts help create our lives. And that is the goal. That is the vision. And on that note, I want to ask you to please do make a point to lift yourself and also please do hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, somebody you don't even know because the more happy and healthy and lifted that every single person is in our world.

the better this world is for all of us. And so please do hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu