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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

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Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here. Continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I'm just so in love with today's episode. You know, our volunteer, just a beautiful, beautiful being. And I love the awarenesses.

You know, each episode is just so beautifully different and illustrates key points that can help you to understand your mind even better. And that's what I love about it. This episode and our volunteer, it just, the way it unfolds is beautiful. And this is what I love about it. You know, healing yourself is more than just resolving an emotion.

It's really ultimately about shifting your consciousness. So you really see and feel in a different way. And that's one of the things you'll notice about. Today's episode is the shift in awareness, the shift in consciousness, the shift in emotions. I mean, there's just beautiful layers to it. Now, if I bring everything kind of together and look at the bigger picture, our volunteer today, her name is Kat and.

This is part two of her session, meaning that I worked with her on one session and on last week's episode, we talked about the first half of that session. And on last week's episode, we went through the first half of the session. And if you recall on that episode, you know, basically she's been having a lot of pain, a lot of health issues going on, struggling.

And. And. The topics that came up had to do with her relationship and her husband and the feelings around it. And there were more things which we are going to talk about on today's episode. But what I love is that she started to realize that her and her husband, you know, they were loved each other. They love each other very much.

They do. And also that they're not hearing each other and there's frustration and there's hurt. And so they're stuck in this partnership where they're really not understanding each other. And so one of the things that I loved. was her willingness to start seeing her own side of it and to see him in a different way and to be willing to start changing.

And so that's part of where we're going as we dive back in. And there's some other things that also unfold that are in her energy as well that are affecting her health. So again, I just really, really love this episode because of the insights, because of the awareness, because of her self awareness and her willingness to change.

It's just really beautiful. Now, in the beginning, I mentioned that. You knw, as far as healing goes, that it's not just about resolving an emotion. It's about shifting your consciousness also. And the way to illustrate this is, you know, if you think about the awareness that you're really, really, really in love with somebody, if you're really, really, really in love with somebody.

What do you see? You see all of the wonderful things in them. You see the best in them. It's easy to see. And you may even overlook red flags because you're just so in love. Red flags become rainbows, you know? And so there's that feeling of feeling so in love and it is. Shapes your consciousness. It shapes what you see.

Now, on the opposite side is that if you're really, really pissed off at somebody, angry, pissed off, hurt, frustrated, what do you see? You see every negative thing in them. You fault find in them. You see all the negative. Not because you're trying to, but because your emotions. Towards the situation shape your consciousness.

ee That transformation occurring and kind of where we left off with last week's episode is I was pushing her a bit Asking if she can see the good in her husband to help her to really start shifting her consciousness so she's shifting her consciousness her awareness seeing and feeling in a different way and That's exactly where we left off So I was pushing her a bit and asking her how long she wants to hold on to being pissed off and angry So those negative emotions and so that's where we're gonna step into is is a bit of pushing to let go of those because That's where her breakthrough happens.

She starts breaking through more and more and more to release her own pain Which is so beautiful and impressive and of course it took a bit of a push And so by the way on that note I want to invite you if there is somebody that you love but you've also been pissed off at Upset with I want to invite you to be willing to shift your mindset and be willing to let go of any anger, your upset feelings towards that person.

All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with our beautiful volunteer, Kat. Here we go.

Now, by the way, let's say that you keep being pissed off at him for another five or 10 years. How do you think your relationship's going to go? No, it's not going to go in the right direction. Where do you think your relationship will be if you're pissed off at him at this level five to 10 years from now?

We'll not have a relationship, I don't think. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. So do you really want this? Yes. So that would mean that there's real change, right? Because you see it. I would agree. I would say in five to ten years you won't have a relationship. If you keep on the same trajectory. You see it?

Yeah. So, what do you think? If I ask you if you, how long do you want to change it? Yeah, I want, I 100 percent want to change it. Great. So I'm going to ask you to name three great qualities about your husband. He's funny. He's He's honest, he's good with people. Great. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I told you that there's a funny, honest man who's good with people, that's your husband, how does that make you feel to start seeing and thinking about some of the great things about him?

It makes me feel good. Makes you feel good. Great. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice your current level of pain. What's your level? A 12 or a 2, and also in my throat, it's, it's less. Mm hmm. And what's the level in your, in your throat? Maybe a two or so. That's what I would say, about a two, one, two, somewhere in there, right?

So who's doing that? I'm doing that and he's doing that. You're the power. You're making the shift. He's not doing it. Right? You are. You're changing. Yeah, that's true. Mm hmm. You're changing. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now the other thing is, is that every time we have some type of pain or illness, so notice this is, it's like your body is giving you a message, so your body, your spiritual connection is giving you a message, and it's saying to you, hey, hey beautiful, these emotions that you have are the wrong direction, they're causing pain in your life, okay?

So how do you feel about the universe and your body giving you that message that says, hey, you need to change? How do you feel about that? Yeah. It's scary a little bit, I guess. I mean, I've had a lot of fear in the last four years around this season. Okay. So, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Do you know why I interrupted you? No. Because you started going into all of the fear and negativity. Do you know what will happen with the pain? It will go up again. It will go right back up. So I was like, hey, wait a second, wrong direction. Okay. So, if you're really going to do this Yeah, you've got to start actually really using your mind in a different way.

Do you understand? Mm hmm. Okay. So do you want to go back into that negative story? No. You sure? Go ahead. 100 percent sure. Beautiful. Beautiful. Beautiful. I love your awareness. I love your awareness. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to think about exactly that. You've got to work with your mind and think and feel in a different way.

Are you up for it? Yeah. Great. I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to think about exactly that, that you're willing to change. You're willing to change and that you're doing this change and you're seeing the results. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to push a little bit and I'm going to be silly.

Okay. You ready? Yeah. Go ahead and hold on to anger towards your husband. Go ahead. Let me know how that goes. It doesn't go well. You're right. No, you go ahead. He's a horrible person, isn't he?

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. I'm going to ask you to breathe. I love your sense of humor and your laugh. Beautiful. And I'm going to ask you, do you want to change? Bye bye. I do want to change. Beautiful. I love that. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And again, I want you to picture just for a moment, seeing your relationship change.

Your relationship really, really, really start to change. What it is that you want. And you're focused on what it is that you want. And I'm going to ask you to notice the level of pain in your vulva, zero to ten. What's your level? Yeah. One, two. Okay. Bingo. And, uh, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. So what I would say is about a, bingo, that's what I have is about a one right there.

All right. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, if I said to you from this place, not being upset, not being triggered, but really changing from this place, what would happen? If you sat down and made a plan with your husband, where you sat down and you said, look, I want to go back to work.

This is what I'm experiencing and I'm feeling like there's a lot of hours. So what happens if you help me with the kids and then I can do this and you can do this, or we get a sitter or we get this or we get that, whatever it is, what happens? If you guys together come up with a plan, so you guys mutually understand each other, so you understand that he's stressed a lot.

Mm-Hmm. . And he understands that you are stressed and then you're feeling guilty and then it just, it's like you guys are a partnership that's disconnected. And what would happen if you guys made a plan? How would that feel to you? Yeah, I think that would feel, feel good and need to make a plan where he also feels heard, I guess.

Because you're right, I mean, there's, there's just not a partnership. I love your self awareness. I love that. And by the way, if I ask you how much he feels financially stressed, what would you say? He feels the burden of being the, this, I mean, we're not financially stressed and that he has a good income, but he feels burdened by the fact that he's the only one or the main provider.

And he tells me he doesn't feel like we have a partnership, so. Yeah. Okay, so what I love about your husband, I have to say, I love that he's communicating the concerns that he has and that he wants that partnership with you. Yeah. I love that he wants that from you and saying, he's, he's telling you what he wants from you.

Yeah, he does. Not, just not always in a very friendly way, but he does, he does communicate it. That's true. He does. But notice for a moment, if I ask you, have you been hearing him? Uh, yeah, maybe not enough. Maybe I've been too focused on, on my physical issues. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and it's important to hear each other, right?

True. Okay. Now, I have to say, again, I love that he's communicating with you, right? And so, I would say that part of getting him, like you said, that he's not typically this way with other people where he's feeling angry and he said that you're triggering him is what he's saying, right? Yeah. Basically, yes.

Okay. Okay? So, let's take a moment and hear that. And that what I hear from this is that he loves you and that he wants you. And that's beautiful that he desires you. He desires your partnership. And I love that he loves you so much. And I love that he's communicating this to you, and I want you to notice for a moment the part of you who feels criticized by it, so it's hard to hear what he's saying because you're feeling criticized.

Can you see that? Yeah, that's true. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and can you give me your mom's initial placement? L. And can you give me your father's initial, please? J. Bingo. And if I ask you how much you felt like your father was critical of you, what would you say? No, he's not critical of me.

Okay. And if I ask you just for a moment, give me one second, can you say his name again? Or his initial again, please? J. Okay. Say it one more time. Jay. Give me one second. Bingo. Ah, bingo. Okay. And if I ask you, uh, how much there's a part of you who felt kind of like daddy's little girl, what would you say?

Yeah. Big part. Big part. I mean, he's, he's always there for me. Always. Takes care of you. Yeah. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you how much there's a part of you that's just wanting your husband to just take care of you. Yeah. Very big part. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Now if I ask you a question, if I ask you, so we're in this time in the world where we have like, you know, time in, in our culture where it's a lot of women's empowerment, right? Yeah. So if I ask you, is there a part of you who wants to work, who wants to be successful, who wants to contribute, or is there a part of you that just would rather stay home?

No, I've, I mean, I've always been very much a career driven person. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. I'm gonna ask you to breathe after the kids. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Remember, if I'm interrupting, it's because I feel like you're going to go into a pain center, right?

Yeah. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Okay. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice the level that you're wanting to be different. You're wanting, you've always been career oriented. I see that in you. You've always been career oriented, right? So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. So if I ask you zero to 10, how much you can find the feeling of wanting to be career driven, successful, and working?

Zero to 10, what would you say? In, in a, in a dream job, yeah, it would be eight. Eight. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty, just really beautiful. And I also really love that she's insightful. She's just willing to see his side, to understand even more of his side.

And that's the insight that I want to pull here for a moment to highlight is exactly that, is that all of the time. When people are stuck in a disagreement, in a painful situation, in a relationship, many times they're only seeing or feeling their side and they don't realize that there's more depth to the other person's side.

And I don't say this only on her side, but both her and her husband are having these feelings of not fully understanding each other. And if you recall, even on the first part of this session, you know, she feels like her husband's always dumping on her and dumping, you know, his dresses and all of that on her when really He's trying to communicate that he's got certain stresses and he's trying to communicate that he needs change and wants change and She's got some underlying issues and stresses here as well that she's got some emotional things going on And so when you think about a relationship all of the time You'll see people who are triggering each other's deeper wounds and they don't even realize it.

And then what happens, by the way, is it in each person's head, they feel misunderstood. They feel frustrated. They feel like they're not being heard. And simultaneously, both people have things that are going on at a deeper level that they may not even be consciously aware of. And so as we dive in deeper, you'll see there's even more here that's been stuck.

at a subconscious level. And so that's where we're going as we step in with Beautiful Cat. Here we go.

And if I ask you also, if I ask you zero to 10, how much there's a part of you that really, really loves being daddy's little girl? Zero to 10, what would you say?

Also an eight. Exactly. So I want you to notice for a moment that there's an inner struggle of self. Does that make sense? Yeah. Okay? So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to think about this. The career success dream job that you're wanting and if I ask you how Confident and how strong you seem in that job.

What would you say if you're picturing yourself in that job zero to ten? How confident and strong are you in that job? In your vision in my vision ten A ten, right? So a ten. So I want you to look in at a ten, and I want you to notice that vision. In that vision, if I ask you how much you see yourself as being daddy's little girl in that vision, what would you say?

Yeah, two. Two. So notice it goes down, right? Yeah, so part of what's happening is there's a few things happening Is that there's a part of you who wants to be career and success oriented? And then there's another part with daddy's little girl that wants to still just be taken care of and then so there's a lot of Mixed programming in your mind.

Does that make sense? Yeah, great. I love your awareness. I love your awareness So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I want you to think about who you want to become You And you picture yourself feeling successful, feeling confident, feeling good about yourself. And your relationship with your husband is just flourishing, and your kids are flourishing.

How does that sound to you? That sounds like a dream come true. Dream come true. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, are you willing to change to get there? Yes. 100%. 100%. Great. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, out of curiosity, what if I told you that your husband is not trying to criticize you?

He's wanting his partner back. Yeah. I believe that. You believe that. Great. So, I'm going to ask you He just doesn't know how to express it, I guess. Well, I would say that he's trying to be heard and I would, I would not say he's expressing it in the right way. I would say that he's got a lot of hurt and wounding and emotions around it too.

He's wanting his partner. He's wanting the love of his life. He's wanting that connection back. He's wanting to be intimate. He's wanting to be intimate with his wife and to connect and love and feel the partnership. And he's telling you, he'd love these things from you. Do you want those things with him?

Very much so. Very much so. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I want you to notice for a moment. Notice when I said, that's what he's wanting and notice you said, you said, yes, he just doesn't know how to ask for it. Okay. So if I ask you, does that sound like a, a comment that comes from kindness or a comment that comes from letting go of the anger?

Yeah. You're right. It doesn't come from kindness and letting go of the anger. Okay. So it, right. It doesn't yet. Okay, great. So just awareness, right? Yeah. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. So it didn't come from kindness and letting go of things. It came from holding on to the past and holding on to it and still holding it against him, right?

Yeah. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And are you willing to stop holding it against him and be able to move things forward for real? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I also want you to notice, again, he's not necessarily communicating perfectly, but And that's what happens a lot of times is you notice for a moment, you're trying to communicate to him and you feel like he's not hearing you, right?

Yeah. So notice you guys are both doing the same thing. He's communicating to you and you're communicating to him, but there's so much emotion that you guys aren't hearing each other, right? Yes. Now, by the way, if I was sitting here talking with him, I would be exactly the exact opposite. I would, I would say, look it, this is how she's feeling and you've got to be able to hear her.

So it's not that I'm taking his side and it's not that I'm taking your side. Totally. Yeah, hear me out real quick. It's not that I'm taking his side and it's not that I'm taking your side. It's that I'm taking your partnership side, right? You want the partnership, right? Yeah. Okay. So I'm on the partnership side for your future self, right?

Your healthy self. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you to take that in. I'm also going to remind you that I asked you what you wanted, right? What you want. So I'm wanting what you want for you. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, I want what you want, for you, because you said that's what you want.

And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, but for you to get what it is that you want, you've got to be willing to change to get there. Correct? Yes, correct. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice your level of pain, zero to ten, what's your level? Twelve, or it's kind of gone.

Beautiful. And, yeah. And your throat? Throat, yeah, one. That's what I would say, about a point, about a point six, eight, somewhere in there. So right below a one. I see you. I gotcha. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and first and foremost, how amazing are you? That's a difficult question.

Well, it, it, it's actually really simple. I expect nothing less than a, than a level 10. Level 10. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Perfect. There we go. Thank you. We're on the same page. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And by the way, if I ask you, how critical are you of yourself? Yeah, I'm, I'm critical. I'm, I'm about six or something.

Yeah. Six or something. Okay. So I would have said probably closer to about a level 40, but we'll go with your six. Okay. So ask you to breathe. Okay. So just, just so we're on the same page, just to get clarity. So you want to be able to criticize yourself, but you don't want your husband to feel critical of you.

Is that correct? Just making sure we're on the same page.

Okay. Uh huh. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I would say part of the reason that you also can't hear him is because you're so used to being critical of self as well, that whatever he says. You're internalizing instead of understanding. Does that make sense? Yeah. Okay. So, can you see how to move forward with this?

The way to move it forward would be to sit down kindly and even have a conversation with him and talk to him and say, Hey, like I want to get back to work and this is what I feel like I'm, I'm stretched and this is what I feel and this is what you need and how do we make a plan to get there? Because we're stuck.

Mm hmm. How does that sound? It sounds good. I don't know how I'm going to do it with the physical symptoms yet, but Can I ask you a question? Yeah. Zero to ten, how bad are your physical symptoms right now? Yeah. The two. Okay. They're climbing up again a little bit because I'm nervous about this work that I do.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Okay. Now I want you to notice for a moment If I ask you honestly, zero to 10, how much there's a part of you who feels like you've lost your confidence in the workplace, what would you say? Yeah. At 10, I tried to go back to work. About a year ago when it went haywire, so.

Mm hmm. So, I want you to notice a lot of your stress has to do in part with your husband, but also do, has to do with the feeling of feeling like, feeling like you can't go back. Feeling like he's wanting something from you that you're going to fail at and you can't do. Can you see that? Yeah. Okay. And have you told your husband this?

Have you said, Hey, I've lost my confidence and I need to get it back in the workplace and, and this is what I need to do to get it back. And making a plan. How does that feel to you? Yeah. I think that's a good idea. Okay. So if I ask you how that's, how much that feels, both exciting and scary, and, and, It's exciting and scary.

Exciting and scary, yes. Uh huh. Something to ask you to breathe. More scary than exciting right now. Yep, exactly. But the long term vision is exciting, let's put it that way. Okay, now if I told you that I've worked with people back to back to back who've been off of work 10 years, 20 years, 25 years, 30 years, and gone back.

to work and said, Oh my God, I love working. I'm so glad I'm working. I feel like I feel good. I feel my confidence back again. I feel alive. I feel like I'm communicating and connecting with people and doing things and, and, and that they loved it. I've never had anybody go back to work after being injured and say, Oh my God, this is horrible.

Okay.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, again, I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. Just beautiful. And I love the awarenesses that come from this session where you can see everything coming together and you can see all of the pieces and how the layers are impacting each other.

Meaning this, meaning that if you think about her situation and where she is and how she's been feeling. She's been in all of this pain and then she's been feeling criticized by her husband and then she's critical of herself and she's also feeling like she can't really work and Do what she wants to do and she also feels like then she's in pain So she doesn't have the bandwidth to do it and then she's also extremely critical of herself So then she doesn't feel like she can do it It's like all of these layers on top of the programming from childhood of feeling like daddy's little girl That's there as well and influencing her to be and feel in a certain way That's not allowing her to see her Biggest self her strongest self her amazing self of who she wants to be and how she wants to be so in other words You know in the very beginning of this episode we talked about emotion controlled consciousness And that's what happens is all of these different patterns can influence your awareness and your perspective And then with each of them having an influence on you And then if you're in pain, then you have those layers and it feels impossible to get out of now, of course You I love her self awareness.

I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. So then getting out of these patterns and staying out of them and genuinely shifting, that's what's key and that's when it becomes pivotal. And again, she's just really impressive with her self awareness and she also has this drive inside of her, just drive to get better, to change.

And so I love that about her too, just beautiful. But again, what I love about this is you can see how easy it is to get stuck into these spirals and then how complex it feels to get out of them. But instead, when you genuinely, of course, identify something and you really shift it. That's when you create those pivotal moments in life to where who you become, how you become, the change, the transformation that occurs is beautiful and it becomes truly life changing.

So I just, I love this and there are a few more powerful insights and I just love the way she sums this up and the insight or the epiphany or her action step at the end. So I love that and that's where we're going as we step back in with Beautiful Cat. Here we go.

So if I ask you it's kind of like this I mean all the time because people that's what happens people get injured They're off of work many many many years and then they feel like they lose their confidence They feel like they can't do it. They feel like scared to go back. I see it all the time But I have a question for you.

You're still pretty young, right? 45 Yep. Pretty young. Right? Yeah. So let's just imagine that you live to 110. So that's another 65 years. So imagine not working that entire time or imagine, and by the way, you could, people are living to 120. Who knows? By that time, who knows? Maybe it's 130. I don't know. But imagine if you're working and you're growing and you're feeling good and you're um, career oriented and focused, what that looks like.

Different life? Yeah. 100 percent different life. Yeah. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, if I told you that all of the time I have people who've done all kinds of things where they've been off of work for a very long time and then they go back and they're getting back into the swing of things, how does that sound to you?

Is it really that scary? Is it more scary to go back or is it more scary to put it off for another five years until they're in high school? Then where are you going to be? I guess it's scary to do it with symptoms. Okay? So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and what if you don't have any symptoms?

Then it would be wonderful. I would really look forward to it. It would make my life so much bigger and so much fuller and, yeah. Okay. So, ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. Give me one second. And I want you to notice the part of you that's afraid to go back to work. And if I ask you what you could do to set yourself up, oh, and actually, let me go this direction first for a moment.

If I ask you, you said you tried to go back to work about a year ago, correct? Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay, and if I ask you 0 to 10, how much would you say that you set yourself up for success to do it? Well, they wanted me to come back full time and they immediately put me in like the most stressful part of my job, so probably not very high.

Okay, so if you think about it for a moment, not very high, right? If I told you somebody's been off of work for a long period of time, so they immediately go back into full time into the most stressful part of their job previously. Yeah. Does that make sense? No. So, basically, what you're saying is you kind of set yourself up for failure, and then you were surprised that you failed.

Yeah. Yeah. It was like, that was the only way to go back to that job, in a way, but I'm no longer in that job. I mean, they, they kind of let me go in the meantime, so. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. But doesn't that make you feel better? It's kind of like, imagine if you had set yourself up for success, and you really, really, really planned and set yourself up for success, and then you failed, but you didn't.

That would have been a lot worse. Yeah, even when I had been off of work for Gosh, seven years, when I started going back, I, like, I started volunteering at a homeless shelter first. Just getting up and being out and being on time somewhere and I started getting myself out and, and so there was a, a process of getting myself out of the house, showing up, like, it just, it was like getting back to life, you know?

Yeah, I need to do it in, in, in smaller increments, in, in small steps. Okay. Okay. Okay. So, if I ask you if that goes back to the plan of making a plan with your husband to get on the same page, because this is the thing, right? If you're trying to do it with small steps to get back on, set yourself up for success, communicating that to him so you guys have that partnership again.

Yeah. Is going to be important. Does that make sense? Yeah. It makes sense. Because if you communicate that to him, and he's communicating with you, and you're communicating with him, if I ask you, how much better is your relationship going to feel? Yeah. It's going to feel a lot better. It is. Now, out of curiosity.

When you let go of the anger towards him today, what happened with your pain? It became lower, became, well, what's your level right now? Zero to 10. My throat. It's maybe a one 12. Yeah, one. Okay. So notice for a moment, that's what I'd say about a point. I got about 0.2. So very, very, very low and, and throat.

That's what happens about a. About a one right in there. So if you think about it for a moment, if you and I wrap up and you go back into anger and upset and frustration with him, how's that going to go? No, it's not going to go well. Okay. So, and if I tell you, Oh, just go back and ignore your husband. How's that going to go?

No, that's also not going to go well. That's also not going to go well. So this is the thing, is that this, this transition, and not only that, there's fear towards going back to work. And so the, the feeling moving forward, that what needs to happen is there's some real change that needs to occur where you need to be able to communicate with your husband and say, Hey, look, let's understand each other.

Let's create a vision for our lives. Let's make a plan to get back on track. We need to support me to do that. Like, yes, I had our wonderful kids and I lost my mojo, right? Yeah. Okay. How does that feel? The, the idea of making a plan? Yeah. That sounds really, really good. I think it will help as well for him to have an idea that there's a plan and there's an outlook for things to get better, I guess.

And for me as well. Exactly. Right. Exactly. Yeah. Absolutely. So, if you sat down as partners and created that, and you also acknowledge his emotions. So even, let's say you sit down to make a plan, and you say, first, I want to acknowledge your emotions. I'm hearing you. I hear you want the partnership back. I hear you You want our loving connection back.

I hear you want, um, you want our partnership. You want to feel supported. I hear you in all those things and I want to be all those things and this is where I am and I want to make us a plan to, to get there. So I hear you and I love you and, and let's, let's create our vision for where we want to go and let's consciously create that.

Yeah. Does that sound good? That sounds, yeah, that sounds really good. Okay. So great. Now, if you go back into upset and anger and blaming him and pissed off. No, that's not going to work. I'm going to, I'm going to let him listen to this recording. So he hears it and I think he'll hopefully want to, want to be that partner.

And, and so we can together work on that plan. And, and then notice, I notice, and he noticed as well, when we slide back into our non, well, in the wrong direction. So. Can I tell you? Mm hmm. You're so amazing and you just brought tears to my eyes. I was hoping you would say that and it's just so beautiful that you would open yourself and ask him to listen to this and to open up and be on that partnership.

Just, you're amazing. You are so amazing and I'm excited for you in making that change. You're beautiful. Very impressive. Yeah, it's really, really sweet. And even as you were saying that and watching your heart open up as far as where you want to be, and it just, um, just beautiful. I just absolutely adore you.

I have so much respect for you. You're just great, great job with your energy. And, uh, you've got this, you're going to follow through. You're going to have him listen to it and you're going to make a plan. Yeah, for sure. A hundred percent. Beautiful. Again, and by the way, as far as him listening to it, great.

And I want to invite you to also listen to it. So to make sure that you get the information into your mind. I'm going to be listening to this on a daily, if not daily, on a very regular basis, beautiful to cement it into, into my everyday actions and, and thoughts and conduction towards, towards him and towards my life.

You're so beautiful. You're so beautiful. Great, great, great, great job. And I absolutely, absolutely adore you. And by the way, as you're getting it in, remember also, uh, seeing yourself. So doing some change on the way you see yourself as far as being back in the career. So you're not feeling like daddy's little girl type of energy, but you're really actually seeing and, and embodying how you want to be and who you see yourself as as well.

Does that make sense? You're incredible. You're incredible. It has been so wonderful connecting with you. Brandy, thank you. Thank you so much. It's unbelievable how you can hit the nail on the head on so many fronts in such a, such a short period of time because we haven't spoken before this, you know, before now.

So it's, it's, it's amazing. I'm like, wow, that's amazing. It's unbelievable, so thank you so much and I mean this, I think this will be a big milestone on my healing journey, um, and, and, um, yeah, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You're absolutely so welcome, you're so welcome and you're so beautiful, you're so beautiful and thank you for saying that, it touches my heart.

All right, so let's go ahead and unpack this even more. And you know, first and foremost, just a beautiful, beautiful being. I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. Just amazing. And I also love just so many things that she's going to share this with her husband. I mean, how wonderful and how great, and also what I love, you know, when you stop and think about the very beginning.

A lot of her energy was just hugely upset and angry and blaming her husband and pissed off. And you can see where she's ended up in a place of feeling willing to change, feeling willing to get on the same page with the partnership, to understand each other, to realize it's not all him that to make this partnership work.

They really need to understand each other, that yes, she has things that are going on for her and he has things that are going on with him and to really understand each other. And so the fact that she even said she's going to share it with him, just beautiful. It just touches my heart in a huge way just because I love this for her.

I love this transformation. I love this awareness. And one of the things that I also really love from this session is Are the actionable items to move forward. You know, all of the time I have worked with people who were able to heal themselves and then the idea of going back to work can come up and it creates a sense of fear and uncertainty and feeling like they can't do it.

And that is something that I have seen consistently. And I can tell you that consistently also. When people really do say, okay, I'm going to make a plan, I'm going to work towards it. I'm really going to do this. I'm going to get my confidence back. I'm going to step up. I'm going to make this happen. I have not had one person who said, Oh, I'm bummed I got my confidence back and feel great and really did this and took my life to the next level.

I've never seen anybody have regret about that. But I have seen people who had a hard time getting out of it, who had to push a bit, who were stuck in that place of fear. And feeling not good enough. And this is another place that happens all of the time is when people go to get off of disability or go back to work, they'll do exactly what Kat did.

They want to go back in and they set themselves up, unfortunately, for failure. They say, Oh, well, I have to go back and I have to do exactly the same hours that I was before. And they don't allow themselves to work up to it. And by the way, that is something that I see all of the time with people where they want their dream job.

And they feel stuck because they want to go from where they are to their dream job and they don't really give themselves the ability to grow towards that. And instead they just want everything overnight and it keeps them stuck. It's like if you were standing outside of a 10 story building. And you said, I don't want to go inside of the building.

I just want to be on the 10th floor. Well, it's hard to jump from outside of the building to the 10th floor. It's not really realistic, but if you make a plan, you can get to the 10th floor, it's not hard to do. And so that's the same thing that's true in life. And by the way, I can tell you in my own life, when I was working on getting better, the idea of going back to work, cause I was going to go back to network engineering and operations, and the idea of going back to work felt like a lot at first.

I mean, I had been out of technology for, you know, almost seven years. And so I did set a plan. I started working on my Convergent Network Technology certification. I got recertified and yet still, I wasn't wholly there. Like I wasn't, it didn't, I wasn't there. I was still getting back my confidence, getting back myself, getting, All of it back, you know, and so, you know, I told myself I'm just going to move forward.

And I literally said to myself, you know, I don't care if I work in a coffee shop, I could start in a coffee shop tomorrow. And if I just am able to work and to follow through, I know that I could be running it a year from now and then continue to grow and start an entire chain of coffee shops or whatever it was.

But, and it wasn't that I was being literal. It was that I was saying, I don't care where I start. I believe in myself enough that I'll get there, but I need to just start and move it forward because if I just get the forward momentum, I know that I'll figure it out. And that was my attitude was exactly that.

Like, I didn't think, okay, well, let me just wait till everything is perfect. Because that's what a lot of people do is they get stuck in that perfectionism. They say, okay, we'll wait after all of my dreams come true Then I'll be willing to move forward and I didn't do that I was embracing change and said look, let me just keep moving it forward.

You know, honestly, we're not What I do now is the absolute last thing that I thought I would be doing. You know, when I got better and was healing and all of that, I thought, okay, well, I'm going to give this all to the medical community. They're going to want to heal everybody. This is going to be amazing.

You know, that was my mindset at the time, which was, you know, almost 15 years ago now. So it was a different time and a different way of thinking. And, and of course, as I got better. better and I healed myself. That's ultimately what led me to what I do now is because I was moving my life forward and I was going to hand off everything and tell my doctors, this is how you do it and this, I was trying to.

And then I began to realize that. You know, people are actually going to use healing with the mind. They really have to see that it works. And that drove me on this incredible, wonderful journey of showing people how it works, you know, how to get results. And that's the reason you'll see on my website.

where I'm coaching people with their mind and showing them under medical equipment. So then when people are releasing their pain, you can really see it under thermal medical equipment and you can see it with your own eyes or even on these episodes where people really don't think that they can get better.

And so showing them how to release their own pain and notice, by the way, even during this session with her, she still kept saying, but what about bringing my symptoms? But what about my pain? But what about this? So notice for a moment, very much in her mind, she was still planning on having pain. And I can tell you that all the time I've worked with people who literally, you know, whenever we make the shift, they embody the change.

And I know that I refer to it often, but even on all kinds of things, if you think about episode number 10, the woman who had a tumor in her throat, what she did at the end of her session is she said, I am going to follow through a hundred percent. That's it. I want to heal right now. And that was her mindset.

And I can't tell you how many other people have done exactly that. You know, even if you think about the thermography video that I mentioned, the one that is on the website where I worked with the beautiful woman with neck pain, she was able to release and heal her pain just from that session. And it never came back.

And that video was taken in 2015. Now of course I've done plenty since then, but point being is that it was just that one session with her and she was able to follow through and keep her pain gone. Now there are just so many different insights from this episode. I want to invite you to look at your life and see if you can take just one step back.

and apply it. And maybe that is that you've been stuck in a relationship and you haven't been seeing or hearing your partner, or that you've been stuck in a feeling of blame, but not realizing there's more going on. Or maybe you've been criticizing yourself and then. When you're feeling criticized, you're triggered.

And so you're not able to hear your partner, or maybe you're stuck in a place of perfectionism or not setting yourself up for success moving forward. And that's where you are. Or maybe you're in a partnership. where it's time to really bring that partnership together even stronger and get on the same page so you feel like a partnership, so you feel like you're lovingly supporting each other.

And then it feels incredible because when you're in that space of feeling like you have a partnership, feeling like you have common goals, feeling like you're celebrating each other's success and cheering each other on, it is such a wonderful, beautiful place to be. And so maybe that's the insight that you take from today's episode.

And so again, just so many insights. I don't want you to overwhelm yourself, but just even taking one and seeing if there's a way that you can apply it in your life. I do want to ask you, as always, if you could please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode. You know, I mentioned that part of the reason that I started my podcast is because I wanted people to see that we can get real results.

We can heal ourselves and yes, of course it does take real change and yes, it might take some actionable items as well. But as we implement real change, it becomes life changing and it becomes health changing. And so I love this episode for this reason, and I also want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button because the more every single person in our world is happy, is healthy, is feeling empowered, is loving life, is aware that we do have an ability to heal ourselves, the better this world is for all of us.

And so. On that note, I also want to ask you to please do make a point to have a most fantastic, wonderful, loving, and healthy, happy rest of your day. And it has been such a pleasure. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu