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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And there are so many things I just love about today's episode. You know, each episode has such unique insights and perspectives and awarenesses, and that's what I love is just the, the things that come up, just beautiful, divine timing.

And today's episode, there are several key insights, and there's also one specific thing that our volunteer said today. And it's this, you know, she's been in a place where she's been struggling with her health and the doctors don't know what's wrong with her, but she's been bedridden and now she's doing a bit better, but she's still lethargic and low energy and, and has a lot of different So, Um, things going on, but something she said is along the way in our session today.

She said she just knows that she just has to take back her life somehow. And I love that feeling of determination, that energy, that feeling, because that's the feeling I had when I felt like, you know what, I just have to fix my life. I have to fix my life. I have to fix myself. I have to take back my life somehow.

And so, you know, whether you are working on healing yourself from some type of major health issue or you're working on healing yourself from something that is, you know, considered quote unquote minor, either way, any type of health issue can keep us from living our best lives. full life and really fully enjoying life, loving life to its fullest.

And so I want to invite you to take in that feeling, a feeling, just, you know, I have to take back my life somehow. And by the way, likely if you're here. You've got some of that in you, you know, you've got some of that feeling that says I'm gonna do this I have to take back my life. I have to be empowered in my life I have to step up and just that feeling so I love that I respect that so much and I love that we are on this journey together and there are several really powerful insights from this episode that I can't wait to share with you.

And so on that note, let's go ahead and dive in. Now, our volunteer, her name is Kate and she's just beautiful. You're absolutely going to love her. She has great self awareness, great self honesty, and great determination. And so she's just a beautiful, beautiful being, and let's go ahead and step in with beautiful Kate.

Here we go.

Hello. Hi. Hi. It's wonderful to connect with you. The same here as well. Thank you Brandy for taking me. Absolutely, absolutely beautiful. And what can I do for you today? I know that you need to fill out paperwork to come on and I have not read it. So I like to just come in fresh into your energy and, uh, and what can I help you with?

Yes, actually, Brandy, I saw you on TED and I saw you on Facebook as well and I listened to your message and everything and I was thinking she's my hope and she's the answer here that I was looking for. Um, It's been a long, long time that I am dealing with many health issues and it never stops. So, um, it even, you know, made me thinking that maybe there is something beyond this realm, something that is out of my control and I don't know why, you know, I was thinking maybe it's spiritual.

Anyhow, um, I I've been to lots, uh, to lots of doctors and I didn't ever get a clear answer that what's going on with me. And, uh, even one of the functional doctor told me that what is, what is it that you are dealing with right now? It seems kind of a vagus nerve dysfunction on damage. And he said, This is a mysterious one, and even neurologists cannot tell you what's going on.

So, and he was right, and I suffered so much. I completely went to hell with it. I had symptoms, you know, things that I've never experienced before. So, It, you know, it totally bedridden me since last May. I couldn't properly walk, I couldn't talk properly, I couldn't gag or, um, I couldn't swallow easily. I was just fainting, I couldn't tolerate light, sound, heat, even cold.

Anything would draw me to a shock and I would, you know, pass out easily. Um, I couldn't even use the restroom without passing out. And I've been seeing so many doctors, at the end I couldn't even travel to their, you know, places because anything would draw me to a shock. Honestly, There was many times that I thought, um, today is the last day of my life because I don't know if I can, you know, go with this, you know, it is taking me away.

The symptoms, the side effects, I mean, the symptoms were so, you know, um, real that I thought it will kind of, you know, uh, take my life that, you know, the way that the symptoms were. But. Miraculously, I survived and even though when I was thinking that I'm gonna die with them, uh, but I survived. But it was horrible, horrible, you know, time.

Yeah. Um, up to this day, I'm still having issues. I'm still not completely fully recovered. I still cannot drive because going over any bumpers draw me, draw a shock. Um, you know, um, any heat again. Draw a shark to me, not as, you know, intense like before, but. It still is there, so I lost my self esteem to sit behind the wheel.

Um, I'm afraid if, you know, I go to shock what will happen then. But I have to take my life back somehow. Cause right now, I am young, but I cannot use any of my energy. I cannot function at all. I lost my job because of it. And I, I just I don't know how else to explain and it's just, I go around in home for a bit, I get tired easily, um, I just want to rest and I keep thinking, is there any light at the end of this tunnel or no, at the end.

How long has this been going on? Last May since last May, but I had many other mysterious health issues during past 10 years, you know, after also I had my gallbladder removed and it was a very sick gallbladder and um, Um, I had so many problems with it. It was a very, uh, critical kind of a surgery with so many complications.

I survived it somehow again, but after that I had other incidents happening to me. To be honest, Brandy, I kept thinking, It must be something out of this realm. It is spiritual, something else is going on, so, because I've never done anything risky or wrong, so I could, you know, have these type of things happening to me.

Mm hmm. I hear you. And if I ask you, right now, are you in a relationship? Um, actually, no, I'm, uh, separated, not divorced, separated. Okay. And how long ago did you get separated? I believe 2014. Okay. Since then. Yeah. Okay. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. And how often do you see him?

Um, once in a month. Okay. And if I ask you to notice. If I ask you to notice how much hurt you have towards that relationship and the separation, how much would you say that is? Well, I can say the hurt is hundred percent. Mm hmm. Okay. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to notice, so notice you've had some improvement in your symptoms, right, with this.

It's not as bad as it was, right? Yes. And notice you're also feeling like you're seeing, basically what's happening is the more hurt that you're feeling, the more upset your body is. And so right now things are better with him, but not, but there's still a lot of hurt. Can you see that? Yes, of course. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to notice there's a feeling of, um, of a lot of hurt, of a lot of feeling unloved, and even a lot of feelings of, like, rage, like really, really, really upset and angry on the inside.

Can you see that? Yes. Yes. And that's true. Yes. Mm hmm. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And so, you've been separated for about the last ten years, right? Yes. Okay. And if I ask you to notice, um, there's a part of you that's having a hard time letting the relationship go. You can see that, right?

Yes. So, there's a part of you that's also telling yourself that you can't live without him. Can you see that? Yes. Okay. So, when you said there are times that you felt like you weren't going to make it, uh, what I see is, is that, is that connection with him and that, all of that. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe

and give me one second. Do I have a permission to add something? Anything you'd like. Um, the reason is that I cannot let him go, um, it's because, um, financial problems, honestly. And, um, during that 10 years, uh, or more since 2010 that I get sick a lot, I only could work part time. So Um, I only could work part time and I didn't have much of the saving and whatever I had I used it on the doctors and, um, I don't have a good insurance so I'm still using his insurance because of all these things that I'm going through.

Um, the insurance lets me to see many doctors. And, um, and I keep thinking with this age I am, I'm not that old, what will happen with no insurance and no income. That's the only thing that keeps me in this. Um, and nobody else will want me because I'm not 100 percent functioning. Um, so. Who will take me in, for example, because even loneliness is another issue that I am dealing with, and that is the biggest problem.

Yes, but I have a question for you. Go ahead, go ahead. Did loneliness start after you guys separated? or before you separated. Actually from the beginning of the marriage. Yes, and actually even before that, okay. So what I want you to notice, bingo, if I ask you in childhood how much you experienced loneliness, what would you say?

A lot. Mm hmm. So what I would say Is exactly that. Is that there's a pattern of loneliness and feeling very, very alone, and that nobody wants you. Can you see that pattern? Yes.

What's that? Yes. I'm sorry. My tears are going down. You're right, completely. Mm hmm. I understand. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, this is the thing. Yes. Is that, What I want to be careful of, okay, so if I say to you, if I say, oh, it's okay, and I give you a bunch of love right now, it will link up a bunch of love to the problem.

So we're not going to go there, okay? So I'm going to ask you to breathe. So we're not going to go there, because the real solution is you, is changing it.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, I know for a lot of people, they might have this feeling. They say, well, I just want to hug this woman. I just want to give her so much compassion and you want to remember. That any time two things happen at the same time, it gets linked up in the brain and that our brains can get very miswired and, you know, an example that I used all of the time is the unfortunate example.

of self harm. You know, if you think about somebody who is a cutter and they cut themselves, you know, they can get it linked up in their mind and their nervous system and their emotions and their energy. They get linked up that if they cut themselves, they feel a sense of relief or euphoria or control or a variety of different emotions that can come up that can be linked to cutting themselves so they can feel a sense of positive emotions.

to a negative situation, or even if you think about somebody who's addicted to drugs, many times in their subconscious mind, they have it linked up that drugs are cool, or they can have a variety of different emotions linked up. But that's exactly the point, is what we want to really be aware of is that the subconscious mind can get in the wrong direction.

And so I know that for a lot of people, you might be saying, Oh my gosh, let's have compassion. Let's give her love. But we really have to be careful and mindful when we do that and how we do that, because if not, it can just continue to perpetuate the problem. And so creating that real change. is key. And we're going to talk about even more ways to do that as we continue with our beautiful volunteer, Kate.

Here we go.

Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to notice that there's this pattern and there's been this pattern. And so part of the thing is, is even when you look around and you say, well, I'm sick, nobody would want me. There's a feeling even as a child of feeling like nobody wants me. And so, it's all part of the same manifestation.

Does that make sense? Yes. Yes. Okay. So, I have a question for you. What would it feel like if you started feeling like Everybody wants you, like, everybody loves to be around you, and everybody loves to connect with you, and you love to connect with others, and it feels safe, and it feels wonderful, and everybody loves to be around you.

What would it start feeling like if you were to start feeling that, and start changing your vision, and changing your patterns, and really feeling differently? What would that look like? Should I answer? Yes, you should answer. I thought you were going to talk. You're okay. Actually, um, of course, um, that is a beautiful feeling.

I really yearn for it. Go ahead. Yep, there you go. It's a beautiful feeling and you really yearn for it, right? So I'm going to pause you right there. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And it's a beautiful feeling and you really yearn for it, right? So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now I have a question for you.

If Bingo. Have you ever heard somebody say, Oh my gosh, I look terrible in this. Yes. And what is the programmed response? What is somebody supposed to say? I usually say, No, don't say that. No, you don't. You look great. Right? Yes. Which only perpetuates the problem. Okay? So it'll keep the pattern going. So, if you say, nobody wants me, and I say, oh my gosh, everybody does, then I'm only going to continue to perpetuate the problem.

Does that make sense? Yes. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to say the exact opposite. I'm going to say, yep, nobody wants you. Now, is that really, really, really true, honestly, that nobody wants you? Is that really true? Right now. No, no, no, no, no. Is that really true? Yes.

It is? 100%? Yes. When was the last time you talked to your parents? Well, I have only mother and a sister, and, um, Okay. When was the last time you talked to them? Um, around a week ago, but they usually are, you know, saying that they are tired of the situation. Why do I get so much sick and they have to, you know, take care of me and things like that.

That message gives me that, okay, so wait a second, wait a second, wait a second. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. I'm going to ask you to breathe now. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. If I ask you, the easiest way to describe it is like this. If somebody is walking around in life and they expect they're going to fail at everything, and they walk around and they expect they're going to fail, and they expect they're going to fail, what do you think the chances are that they start failing at the things that they're doing?

A lot. A lot. Okay. Okay. Now, what if somebody walks around and expects That everybody doesn't like them, and doesn't want them, and they expect that people don't want them, and they expect that people don't want them, what happens? Same thing happens. Same thing happens. So, if you think about it for a moment, if I asked your mom if she loves you, what do you think she would say?

Yes. Yes. Right? And if I ask your sister if she loves you, what would she say? Yes. Yes. So the truth of it is, is that both of them do love you, and then the truth is, is also that they feel stressed out by the sickness and always needing to take care of you, right? Yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And so can you see how it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy? It's like if you say, Oh, I'm going to fail, I'm going to fail, then it starts manifesting and part of what's affecting your health is feeling like nobody wants me, nobody wants me, I'm so alone. And then what's happening is that then it's creating all of this stress inside of your body that then is also connecting to illness that then makes it feel like people.

aren't wanting you around as much, because then there's also a lot of sickness. Does that make sense? So you see how it perpetuates the problem? Yes. Right? Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, how big of a change would it be in your life? How big of a change would it be in your life if you were actually feeling like people wanted you and that you were loved?

How big of a change would that be? Oh my god, huge. Huge. Okay, so if I ask you, would you be willing to make that change? Yes, but I don't know how. Okay, so I would say number one is this, is that can you see how when I asked you if it was true, if everybody really didn't want you. You said what? You said, yes, it's true.

Now, is it really true? So your mom and your sister really actually don't want you. That's really true? No, but the message they give me, it's like that. But, but is it really true? No. So if you validate, if you keep validating the hurt, It's going to stay there. Does that make sense? Yes. So, if I validate the hurt for you, I don't do you any favors.

Does that make sense? Because you're just going to end up keeping the problem. Yes. Okay? So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. So, I want you to again think about, now, bingo, you've heard me on past episodes. Have you listened to past episodes? Yeah. Okay? And everybody has different patterns and different things that come up in their lives, right?

Right. Okay? Now, if we say that a real, real change is needed. Yeah. That's great. Are you really willing to make a real change? Yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. And give me one second. Yes. Brandy, there is a huge, um, background also in my story, the feeling of unwanted, as you said.

goes to the childhood, because actually, I was born and raised in different country, and, uh, the country is, uh, not friendly with women. Uh, they don't, you know, kind of appreciate women at all. It's more man country. Um, probably you know, you heard about it in the news a lot, that women are fighting for their right.

And the worst of the part was that I was Among the minority, uh, because over there, it's about the religion. And, um, I'm talking, I will, I don't mind mentioning the name of the country, and that is Iran. And I was raised, born and raised in Iran, in capital city, Tehran. Um, but because I, um, that was a Christian and the whole family generation, but we were minority there.

From the beginning, I remember the first day of the school, um, because like we were five, six Christian students in, among, you know, Muslim students. We were always giving the message that they don't like us. And Right. So I have a question for you. Up to this day. Go ahead. Yes. Now I have a question. Go ahead.

Okay. Now Notice what I said was this, is I said that you would need to not tell the story. You would need to not validate those feelings of being unwanted, right? So it's kind of like this, okay? Yeah. So you know my, my story, I was injured, wheelchair walker, pain, all of that, right? Yes. Yes. Okay. Now, there would have been a time.

When I would have been really mad about the whole accident and injury and that it wasn't my fault and blah, blah, blah, like I was upset and hurt and blah, blah, blah, right? Right. I don't have that same feeling anymore. I don't feel that way at all. Yeah. Now, some people would say, well, you don't feel that way because you got better.

Cause you healed and I would say, no, I healed because I don't feel that way. Do you understand? Yes.

All right. So let's go ahead and actually pause the session right here because this is so important. And let's be honest, in our culture, there is more and more of a theme of really validating our wounding. And I get it. I absolutely understand. And when I was going through my injury, would I have wanted people to validate my situation?

Like, yes, Brandy, this is horrible. It's terrible. It's blah, blah, blah. All of that stuff. Absolutely. But once I started realizing that I needed to change, instead of validating the problem and the hurt and the upset and the upset emotions, instead of doing any of that, I made my future, myself, my happiness, my health, the most important thing.

And so I let all of that go. I stopped validating it, stopped feeling upset about it, let it genuinely go, and really I reprogrammed it into my subconscious mind so I genuinely felt differently. And of course the first step to that was being willing to not validate it. Now I've got to be honest with you, there are some people who are going to hear this whole feeling of not validating wounds and instead getting rid of them and they're probably going to cringe at the idea.

Because a lot of times they crave it, you know, similar to somebody who's giving up smoking. It's like they want it so badly, but of course, in the same way that somebody gives up smoking and ends up changing and gets rid of that addiction, we can get rid of the addiction to emotions and emotional patterns as well.

And really, create that transformation. And so that's what I want to invite you to think about in your life is exactly that is being willing to embrace the change. You know, I consciously made that change in my own life where I said, I'm not going to validate the hurt, the upset, the negativity, I'm just, I'm not going to do that.

And so. For that reason, I really want to just pause the session right here to give you a moment to digest this, to see this in your life. If this is something that you're doing, where you find yourself maybe validating the negative, I want to invite you to notice that and instead not get sucked into that pattern.

And then of course, if you want to take it to the next level, I would invite you to start looking for love. in your life and validating that. You know, if you think about it for a moment, the shift. So we've already seen a bit of a shift with Kate, where she was feeling unloved, unwanted. Nobody wants her. To feeling loved, to really start to see that there are people that love her, which is a really big shift on the inside.

You know, when you stop and think about it, of course, we as human beings need love. We need love just like we need water, we need food, we need the energy of love in our lives. And so that is a big pivot. And I want to invite you to look in your life. And if you've been telling yourself a story that you're unloved or that nobody wants you, I want to invite you to start shifting that, to start feeling a sense that you are loved and bringing in that feeling and validating that.

All right. So that's today's episode. And I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy and healthy and empowered and loved. that every single person is in our world.

The better this world is for all of us. And so please do make a point to have a most wonderful, healthy, happy, fantastic, and loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're cu