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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I cannot say how much I absolutely love today's episode just because it highlights one of the invisible aspects of healing.

And it really just brings it to the surface so you can see it. And that's one of the many things that I love about today's episode. And so as we delve in today, I'm going to be working with our beautiful volunteer, Suzette. And one of the things that's profound is you'll notice is that the very vision that she's wanting in her life, the very thing that she's wanting to move toward at a subconscious level, she also has some really big triggers to that and hurt and wounding and negative patterns that are impacting her health.

And what I love is you can see it so clearly. in today's episode. And that's one of the powerful insights. And by the way, some people might think, well, this episode is rare. That usually people have to be in a negative state or have a lot of fear or stress or whatnot, but what you'll notice today's volunteer, she's really positive and sweet and loving and happy.

And, and her relationship with her husband feels wonderful and sweet. And. There's emotions that she's been burying that she hasn't been looking at and really seeing. And just as you, as we delve into this episode, one of the things you'll want to think about is this, is that all of the time I'll see people who they're excited about something in life.

For example, let's say somebody is very excited about success and they're working towards their success. And I think we've all heard by now that somebody may sabotage their own success. And that can happen. because there are subconscious patterns that are hurt or wounding or holding them back or, you know, not aligned with success.

And so, similarly, in today's episode, it's exactly that is that we have a beautiful volunteer who was very excited about her vision of healing and what she wants to do. And, It is also the very trigger that's affecting her health. And I'll explain more as we delve in. But again, just, I love how well we can see from this episode, how you can see that exact thing occurring.

And so on that note, let's go ahead and dive, dive in. Our beautiful volunteer, her name is Suzette, and you're absolutely Going to love her. Here we go.

Hello. How's it going? Hi Brandy. I'm doing great. I love that It is so wonderful to connect with you. And what can I do with you do for you today, beautiful? Well, I have some incredible pain in my toe. It's been unexplainable and, um, it's been over a year and this has gone from my toe to my knees and then systemically I've had, uh, other various ailments over the past year and being someone who's been extremely healthy, never had any issues, I was an avid pickleball.

and I've actually had to stop playing because of the pain is just too much. And that is really taken a lot away from me, not being able to play. So I am hoping to get some, some kind of answer to figure out where this is coming from and doctors have not been able to explain it. And I've done lots of testing.

So here I am. Well, okay. So let's delve in, but let's first talk about how fun pickleball is. Oh my goodness. It's addictive. You play, right? Yes, absolutely. So you can imagine I've been playing for maybe three, four years, like solid, and then had to stop completely. It's been devastating. Oh, I get it. I absolutely understand.

To be honest, I'm excited to play even more because I started playing a little bit, but because I was in working on the book and whatnot, I have not played as much as I've wanted to. So I'm, I'm excited to get back to it. It's so fun. It is so fun. And it's, there's lots of great elements to it. Right. And you're always learning and it's just, it progresses as you progress.

And it's just, it's, it's a wonderful sport with lots of wonderful people. That's what I was going to say. That's what I love is I, I love to be physical and fit and the fact that you can play with friends and laugh and enjoy. And that's what I love about it also is that social enjoyment fun. Absolutely.

All right. I'd love to see you back out playing. Uh, that would be fantastic. So let's go ahead and delve in beautiful. So give me one second. Uh, if I ask your current level of pain right now, zero to 10, what is your level of pain? Right now it's about a five and of course it, it, it varies depending on what I'm doing and, and you know, if I'm walking or, you know, trying to do something else, it, it can vary in the knees as well.

So. Okay. And, um, bingo. And so that's what I would have said. I would have said five, five, six, somewhere in there. So, um, so I feel you. Okay. And there's somebody I see next to you. Um, do you have a romantic partner? I do. Okay. And can you give me the first initial, please? It's a C. Bingo. Okay. So, uh, so let's delve in for a moment here.

Um, bingo. There's a feeling of hurt in this relationship. Are you familiar with that feeling? No. Okay. So I'm going to say it a different way. Um, give me one second. Okay. So if I ask you zero to 10, how much you can find a feeling of frustration, what would you say in the relationship? And if you can't see that either, that's okay.

Yeah, I don't really find frustration. Okay, so let me put it in a different way. If I ask you which one of you is more outgoing, who would you say is more outgoing? You or your partner? I'd probably say him. Okay, and if I ask you how much you can sometimes find the feeling, um, bingo, that he doesn't want to do what you want to do?

Um, maybe a three. That's exactly what I would have said, about a three, three, four, somewhere in there. That's exactly what I would have said. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you to notice, when he doesn't want to do what you want to do, if I ask you how much that creates a bit of frustration or hurt inside, zero to ten, what would you say?

Probably a four, but it doesn't happen very often. So that's why it's hard to say. Um, I hear you, I hear you. Okay. Um, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, bingo. And if I ask you zero to 10, how much do you guys like to play pickleball together? What would you say? Well, we did start out playing together quite often, and then we did find that playing separately was better for us, and that was probably more his decision than mine.

So if we're going that route, yes. But it's, like I said, it's been a year. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and if I ask you how much that bothered you, what would you say? Interesting. Um, yeah, probably an eight. Uh huh. Eight, nine, 10, 12, somewhere in there. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Okay. And if I ask you how much that hurt your feelings. and frustrated you and how much there's a part of you that also feels a sense of rejection around that, even though it doesn't make logical sense necessarily, but if I ask you just for a moment to notice all the feelings that came up around that.

Yeah, it's pretty high. Probably a 10. Oh, okay. Someone asked you to breathe. So if I ask you, let's say you're a hundred percent healthy right now, you feeling great, and you can go back to playing pickleball, then what does that feel like if you and your partner are playing separately? And how does that work?

And how do you feel about that? Um, at this point I would, I would say that playing separately would probably be beneficial only because he's been able to continue and I haven't, and I feel like I'm almost starting over again, um, having not been able to play for a year. Okay, and if I ask you just for a moment to notice, let's say that you are great and you can play, and you are equally great players, if I ask you how much that is going to bother you if you guys aren't really playing together, and by the way, if I ask you what reason did you guys have for playing separately initially a year ago?

Um, I think that we're both very competitive, and so if we were playing against each other, that didn't work well. And obviously playing together, you know, he didn't want to commit to that we're playing together all the time, because obviously we want to have different partners and, and, and I think it was also frustrating to him sometimes maybe having me as a partner.

Um, if he felt like he would be committed to having me all the time as a partner. Okay, because maybe he, maybe his skills were advancing faster than yours. Yes. Would you say that's true? Yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, either you could absolutely choose to feel pickleball rejection from him, or you could see how thoughtful he is in preserving your relationship and protecting it and saying, Hey, by the way.

I'm noticing I'm having some frustration and the, how beautiful it is that he communicated that he thought it was better to preserve your relationship and how smart that is of him to do and how much you would rather have a healthy, wonderful, loving relationship and marriage that lasts forever than having pickleball and frustrations and competitive feelings somehow interfere With this beautiful love you guys share 100 percent What a 100 percent Okay.

So how much do you need to have hurt feelings or wisdom and appreciation for him? communicating that instead of shoving down his feelings and Being then frustrated and experiencing that on a regular basis where he's you guys are regularly playing pickleball and then he's experiencing frustration, but he doesn't want to communicate it.

So he shoves it down, but then he's, it's affecting his emotions and he's pretending like it's not, but then he's shoving it down. Cause like you said, you guys are both competitive. So he's feeling that. And, and then there's those feelings and that frustration, like, think about that for a moment. Right.

Right. So. How sweet that he loves you so much that, and how wise of him to also want to protect your relationship. Right? Right. Now, if you think about it, a year ago, his skills were advancing a little bit faster than yours. Is that correct? Yes. Okay, so if you said to yourself, great, let's play separately and then maybe on the inside you said, okay I am gonna really work on being a rock star even more So so much so that I get my skills to his level that he does want to play more as well because That would be great And, and, and my skills are there and so there is no frustration or even when we play maybe some games that are not competitive where we're playing with friends and just hanging out and it, we're not, maybe that's a good combination.

But noticing how smart it is to protect your relationship, right? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And so are you unloved or are you very loved? Oh, very loved. Uh huh. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And could you be willing to let go of any hurt or any frustration or any upset and think about how great it is for your relationship and how beautiful it is that you have a partner who values your relationship so much that he's willing to pay attention and also express his emotions and be honest with you and that he's willing to say something and how beautiful that is.

Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Bingo. And if I ask you to notice part of you who felt not only rejected, but kind of also like, I want to say maybe embarrassed or humiliated or whatnot. at feeling like he doesn't want to play with you. Um, can you see that? I mean, it was so long ago that that would have happened.

Um, I, it, it didn't last very long because I did understand. And like you're saying, I did see it as a positive. Um, and we did, you know, go, we had our rules and we did do that. And it's great. Perfect. So I'm going to interrupt for just a second. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Thank you for letting me interrupt.

And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And fantastic. Take that feeling in that you've got this. That you see it, that moving forward, it could feel really, really, really fantastic moving forward. It could feel really fantastic. And you guys could go work out together, but separately, so to speak, where you're playing pickleball and it's good.

And you're talking about it. And even you could, I mean, even instead of playing against each other, you could even say, Hey, do you want to show me that skill of how you're doing this, that, or the other that's, and maybe there's that or not. But there can be different ways of celebrating your wins together.

So there can be all, all kinds of ways that you guys celebrate together in it, where you watch each other, you say, great job, he's acknowledging you. You're celebrating your wins and your fun and all of these things. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and think about all of the other ways you guys can connect and celebrating each other and watching each other and, and even saying, Hey, show me that move that was incredible or Great shot or blah, blah, blah.

And now it's super sweet that you can still connect in other ways around the sport in beautiful, beautiful, beautiful ways. And I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you to notice the level of pain in your toes. Zero to ten. What's your level? Um, it's still about a five. Mm hmm. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, bingo, and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice the feeling of hurt feelings around this topic.

Mm hmm. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice the hurt feelings that you have around this topic. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and So, if you ask me when I really delve deeper into the feelings of embarrassed around it, um, it's, it's, it's a lot higher. Um, it's kind of like this, okay, so if I ask you 0 to 10, how competitive you are, what would you say?

Probably 10. Probably 10. So, if I ask you, so let's say that somebody's competitive at a level 10 and then they feel like their husband is so much better than them at a particular sport. If I ask you, um, how, how much that feels good to the ego, what would you say? Uh, to my ego, you're saying if he's better?

Uh huh. Well, I, I didn't, I don't look at it that way. He does come from like a tennis background and so obviously I expect him to be better. He's an athlete. He's very athletic. What did you say? He comes from a tennis. He comes from what? A tennis background. Uh huh. And he's very athletic. Uh huh. Someone asked you to breathe.

Mm hmm. Great. Someone asked you to breathe. So he comes from a tennis background, right? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And so you don't need to feel bad or not good enough or blah, blah, blah, or rejected from it or any of those feelings. Correct? Right. What's that? Right. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Bingo. So knowing that he comes from a tennis background, all of these things, like it just makes sense that he would pick it up and excel a bit faster, et cetera, et cetera. Right? Great. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe and notice your level of pain, zero to ten, what's your level? Four or five. Okay.

That's what I would have said about a binga. That's what I would say is I would say about a, about a 4. 02, so right around a four. So, you notice though, it's come down a little bit, right? Yes. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And so, I'm going to ask you to take in the awareness that of course, like, he comes from a tennis background, right?

And so, of course, he would excel a bit faster, right? That just makes sense. Right? Yes. Okay. Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And so if I ask you to notice the feeling, uh, we'll call it feeling, uh, embarrassed or, or, uh, even just, uh, critical of self for not excelling as fast as him, et cetera, et cetera, the hurt, the blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

You can see that's all silly, right? Yes. And how great it would be to just get back to playing and that you don't need to compete with him right away and all of these things. And you don't need to measure yourself to him. How long did he play tennis for? By the way. Oh, he grew up with it in his family and just years.

Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. So if, bingo. So, ask you to breathe and if I ask you how much sense it makes to compare your skills to his, how much would you say that is? It makes no sense. Okay. And if I ask you how much sense it makes to be hard on yourself, what would you say?

Bingo. It doesn't make sense, but I probably am hard on myself. What? What? What? I said probably, it doesn't make sense, but I probably am hard on myself. Ah, okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, bingo. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And so you're willing to be nice and kind and supportive to yourself.

Is that what, is that what you said? Yes.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe like you're willing to be super nice and kind and supportive to yourself. Yes. Okay, great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. And if I ask you to notice your level of pain, 0 to 10, what's your level? We're still at a 4. 5. Okay, so, uh, bingo.

So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Now, which toes, by the way, which toe is, is feeling the most pain? It's my right great toe. Okay, and uh, Let me see it in another way. Bingo. Okay. So bingo. So I feel four in some areas and I feel like other areas have gone down a little bit, um, more than that. So some areas I feel about a level two, but either way, um, bingo.

Give me one second. Bingo. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and I'm going to ask you to notice for a moment how we could call it hard on yourself, or we could call it mean to yourself, which, which. What kind of wording do you think would be more accurate? Probably hard on myself, but I don't notice that daily.

Okay, so ask you to breathe. Okay, so let me put it in another word. When you don't feel like you've done absolutely perfect, if I ask your level of disappointment in self, 0 to 10, what would you say? Mmm, I'd be pretty disappointed, probably an 8. Okay, so I want you to picture just for a moment, somebody is going to learn to play pickleball.

Pickleball. Pickleball. And they have a level of disappointment in self every time they're not perfect. Just a level eight. That's all. Just a level eight of self disappointment for not being perfect. What does that look like? I think, uh, it leads to frustration. Okay. Well, not only that, but why repeatedly feel disappointed in self?

How does that go for self to repeatedly feel disappointment? Towards self. Yeah. It's not healthy. It's not healthy. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you a healthier way to proceed with Pickleball, what would you say a healthier way to proceed would be without the frustrations and the disappointment?

How would you proceed forward? To make it fun and a learning experience and just know that you're always growing. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, what if there's no disappointment, no hard on self, no frustrated with self, none at all. No hard on self, no frustrated with self, just growing and having fun and learning and expanding and growing, having fun, no disappointment, no being hard on self, just kind and supportive and loving to self.

Kind supporting, loving to self, not frustration, not hurt, not upset, not being mean to self. But just kind, and I'm going to ask you to breathe, bingo. And if I ask you, would you really be willing to change this? A hundred percent.

All right. So let's go ahead and actually pause the session right here, just because if you stop and think about it for a moment, again, this episode is just so profound in the session, because. You can see it so clearly, like her level of excitement in the beginning as she was talking about Pickleball and her passion for it and how much she loves it.

You can see it, you can hear it, you can feel it from her. And, then as we started to step into some of the subconscious emotions that were there, You can also feel those in her level of, you know, being critical and hard on herself, but also the feeling that her husband didn't want to play with her. Like there's just these underlying hurts and wounds.

And again, that is what is so eye opening and so just well intentioned. Illustrated. And so for that reason, I just love this episode. And as I mentioned in the very beginning, you know, sometimes people may have a vision of what they're wanting to work towards. You know, some people may be excited about the relationship.

They're so excited. They say, well, as soon as I heal myself, I want to get in a relationship. And then at a subconscious level, They're afraid of rejection, or hurt, or they think their relationship is going to be bad, or whatever else it is, or they're critical of self, or they feel like they have to be perfect, and they have all of these subconscious things that are blocking them from that vision.

So, if you ask their body if it really wants to heal, the answer is no, because it would be heading towards this vision. Meaning that, in her case, because The very thing that she's wanting is to go back to Pickleball, and it's also a major wound in this case. It creates a more stuckness to where her body doesn't want to heal because it means it's got to go right back towards the wound.

And of course, there are some other things that do come up and we're going to talk about those next week. So I broke this session in half, the entire session was, you know, maybe 40, 40, 50 minutes somewhere in there. But I just wanted to really. Pause it here and digest this information because it is so profound and so well illustrated because of her level of excitement and pure joy regarding pickleball at the very beginning.

So it just, it, it really set a perfect foundation for awareness for everybody. So I love that. And again, I just love her heart. I love her passion, her love for her husband. It's all just so sweet. And. We can see the subconscious wounding. And so what I want to invite you to do from this episode in your own life is I want to invite you to look at this and think about where you're wanting to go in life.

Maybe it's working towards a relationship or healing or success or pickleball or whatever that is for you. I want to invite you to look at it and make sure that you have cleared your patterns towards it. So you really genuinely feel great, feel excited, and it feels safe. To move forward into your vision of fun, of love, of pickleball, or happiness, or relationships, or success, whatever that is for you.

So I love this and I want to ask you, please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy and healthy and loved and loving that every single person is. The better this world is for all of us.

And so please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode. And please do make a point to have a most wonderful, loving, happy, healthy, successful rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time, people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about, or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone.

What we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible.

And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.

com slash podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

Thank you.