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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and your body. and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and happy, beautiful day to you. Welcome back. I love that you're here. I love that you're continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love today's episode for so many reasons. Our volunteer, she just said, She makes me laugh. She just, she's got a fun, playful personality.

And also there are of course some really powerful insights of healing, of transformation, of consciousness, awareness, just really profound insights. And so these are just a few of the things that I really love about today's episode. Now, as we dive in, you'll notice I'm working with our beautiful volunteer Millie and When I started working with Millie in her session, part of her struggles, she was having some issues with her health that were actually related to a feeling of not feeling heard and not feeling seen, and also not feeling like it was safe to really express herself, that if she was speaking, you know, even back to a childhood, she felt like her teacher would shut her down.

And if she said something maybe inappropriate, that there was a reaction, and it's been a pattern. in her life and a frustration. Now, of course, as you'll hear me say all of the time when I'm working with people, there are multiple factors, you know, there are always multiple ingredients when it comes to self healing.

And the analogy that I always use is this, you know, is that if somebody wants to make cake and they have flour, They can't make cake, but if they have flour and they mix it with eggs and butter or vegan eggs and butter and other ingredients, then of course they can make a cake. And of course, different ingredients can make a completely different recipe.

And that is exactly what I have found in MindBody Healing is that exact thing that when we really identify and target the specific links in the mind, the specific factors. And we change those. That's when I see the body heal itself. And so that's what we're going on today's episode. Now, just a big picture reminder on today's session.

I actually worked with Millie for approximately an hour or so. And because you know, by the time I add insights and intro and all of that, a session would be two hours long. So I didn't want to do that. So I cut it. In part one and part two. And so on last week's episode, we listened to the first half of Millie's session, which part of that had to do with, you know, those insights about not feeling heard and not feeling safe to speak and, and having all those emotions around feeling that and that pattern that was going through her life.

So that was part of it. And, you know, transforming that in her life. And so that was part of it. Really what we were unpacking on last week's episode. And on this part, this second part of her session, what I love is that we expand even more into other emotions. You know, there's other factors, other emotions that are also key ingredients for her to really change her life.

And some of these ingredients can actually be really powerful. That's one of the other things that I really love about today's episode is just the insights that count, that come up are just profound and helpful and expansive. And so that's what I love. And again, I also love her sense of humor. And so that's where we're going as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Millie.

Here we go.

Uh, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice that you said it's safer if you just stay in your bubble, right? Yes. So now I have a question for you. What if there was no food in your bubble? Would you still say it was just safer, safer, safer, safer to just stay in your bubble even if there's no food in your bubble?

No. No? Okay, so wait a second. So, if there was no oxygen in your bubble, would you say it's safer to just stay in your bubble even though there's no oxygen? No. Okay. Okay. So, if you take in the awareness that we as human beings need love and connection. We need love and connection. So when you take in the awareness that we need that and with love and connection, we can flourish.

Do you really think the safest answer is to stay in your bubble if there is no soul food? If there is no love and connection? If there's not that in your bubble, do you really think it's safest to stay in there? No. No, right? So, uh, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Now, by the way, when you were learning how to walk, did you just like, As a youngster, you just like stand up and you just started walking and it was that easy or would you say maybe you stood up, you fell down, you stood up, you fell down, and then, and then you did it.

Yeah. Okay. Yes. Right. So let's say with people, you've had this pattern going for a long period of time, but let's say with people you say, Oh, okay. I can fix this and you just fix that and instead do it even better. Just like with walking, we follow, we stand up, we follow, we stand up before, you know, we're knocking it out of the park.

We're all walking, right? So if you took that same approach to people and you said, okay, yeah, I've been doing it in a certain way and I've had this pattern and no wonder why it didn't work. I had this pattern. Now, It's going to be exciting and fun because I think I could really get relationships to be fantastic and flourish and be wonderful and sweet and amazing.

Now, what does life look like? Well, it's like walking the park. Yeah. So, no, no, you're just going to stay in your bubble with no food and no water and no love, right? It's much safer. Um, so I'm going to ask you to breathe and I love your awareness so you see the difference, right? Okay. Beautiful. So, if I ask you, what would it look like to say, you know what, I'm really going to change this.

I'm going to change this. I'm going to shift. I'm going to let go of the fear. I'm going to create a radical shift to really transform, to change. Now, there's another piece to this that's very important. It's this. If I ask you zero to ten, how much you really like to be right, what would you say? It's about eight or nine.

I probably would have said a little higher, but we'll go with eight or nine.

And you laugh because you know, right? Yes. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. What do you gain by being right? And, and what I mean is this, and actually, but this is the thing. Let me, let me actually say that in a different way. What happens if you are right? And somebody else is right too. What happens if both people get to be right?

So you don't need to be right over somebody. You don't need to make somebody else wrong, but what happens if you can be right and somebody else can be right too, and you can be right and somebody else can be right too, so what happens if in your bubble, that your bubble expands to include people and the people who are in your life, that they can absolutely be right, but you can be right too.

And there's room for everybody to be right and we don't have to make others wrong. What does that look like? It's pleasant. It's really nice. Everyone has, uh, has a chance to state their opinion and no one is going to get hurt because of their opinion or way of life or whatever. Bingo. I love that. Now, if I ask you, zero to ten, how much do you like to make others wrong?

What would you say? I don't know. Four? You would probably say higher. But You would say Well, the

great thing is, is that you're right. Um, bingo. But I would, I would probably say about a six. And I would also say probably in the past it was a bit higher. Even higher. Yep. There you go. I love your awareness. I love your self honesty and your awareness. Great. So, if I ask you, okay, so let's work with this.

If I ask you, do you believe your thoughts are clean? Well, the worst thing is that I was mainly right, but it didn't, uh, help me with my situation in any way. So, uh, being right, uh, even if it's true, doesn't really help, you know, situation. Okay. Well, wait a second. Wait a sec. Wait a sec. We want your brain to like being right in a healthy way, because if you think about it, imagine if your brain was always programmed to be wrong.

How much would you like that? You don't want that either, and you don't want your brain to not care. So I want you to want to be right, as long as you do so in a way that is healthy for relationships. Does that make sense? Okay, that would be great.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her self awareness. I love her self honesty, just beautiful. And also so true that, you know, being right in a relationship, a lot of times we have to be right over somebody else and make them wrong.

That's where the problem is. And so that's part of where we're going. in this episode. Now again, there are a lot of key insights beyond the communication piece, but you'll want to think about the awareness that communicating in a loving way is just crucial for every area of life from relationships to family to friendships to business and literally every part of our lives.

It's crucial and especially given the fact that we need love and connection. And so some of these details may seem unimportant, but They can also be extremely painful in people's lives. And so that's what I love about these insights. Now, the other insight that you'll want to think about from this is a lot of times people will do this very thing.

They start to realize that being right in a relationship isn't so helpful. So they'll think that very thing, you know, being right in a relationship isn't so helpful. Let me not do that. Now the problem is of course, or the perceived problem is then the brain says, well, I don't want to be wrong. And that's exactly it.

So then the brain vacillates between, well, I'll just be wrong. I don't care to, okay, well, I want to be right. And it's going to vacillate back and forth. And because neither one feels comfortable being right, when you're making somebody else wrong, doesn't feel comfortable. And also being wrong all the time, doesn't feel comfortable.

I mean, how is your brain supposed to operate? And you have confidence and trust yourself. If you're always telling your brain it's wrong. Not only that, but our brains really want to find the right answer, the right solution. Like, you know, when our brains are programmed in a healthy way, we want our brains to strive for the right answer.

You know, when we're driving a car, we want it to do it the right way. If we're writing our names, we want it to do it the right way. We're working on a computer. We want it to do it the right way. And so the brain needs to be programmed to do things in the right way. And so from that You want to think about that third way.

So, because meaning that if you vacillate back and forth and back and forth, you never really find a new patterned way of shifting your mindset. But if you think about the awareness that you can be right and somebody else can be right too, and there's space for both people to be right, that you can acknowledge each person's perspective without needing to make somebody wrong.

That's where the expansiveness comes because then you can allow your mind to be right. And then of course you can allow somebody else to be right. And then it feels good and it feels right. connected and there's a lot of room for love and connection and everybody to be empowered and seen and heard and feel that.

Now, of course, there are times when you want to make the brain wrong. So I do want to say that, you know, for example, you hear me say in past episodes, I'll use the example of a cutter, somebody who cuts themselves and feels relief or euphoria or control or safety from cutting themselves. And of course, They would want to tell their brain that it is wired wrong.

And by the way, in my own life, when I was healing myself, that is exactly what I needed to do is I needed to identify my own programming. that was miswired and tell it, it was wrong. And so that's the very thing you want. I wanted to invalidate it and get rid of it and say, this is error programming. You, we, we must let go of error programming.

So it's not about never making your mindset wrong. It's not about that because you do want to look at, there's great programming and then there's not great mind programming and you want to Correct your mind programming and another example is this is that all of the time people may hold on to a feeling of fear Or hold on to a past trauma or accident feeling like it's keeping them safe because it keeps them on high alert And of course, in that case, we need to tell the brain, Hey, brain, wrong way.

You don't need to hold on to it. That's not going to help. That's not going to keep you safe. It's going to attract more of the same. So instead brain, rewire that, that is not helpful. It is not safe. Let the trauma go so you can heal. And so again, my point is, is that it's not about making the brain so it's never wrong, but instead it's also about being able to honor people's perspective in a relationship and not needing to make them wrong.

Now, of course, if somebody says 2 plus 2 equals 5, then of course, that's not the right answer. And we just don't need to make them wrong. We could say, okay, I see that that's your belief. And I can allow you to have that. Now, of course, it's if it's your five year old, you want to correct them and say, 2 plus 2 equals 4.

But, so my point is just simply though, that a lot of times people may have a pattern that makes, wants to make others wrong, or then they vacillate and they say, Oh, well, I don't, I'm happy to be wrong. And then, but the brain is never going to really be happy being wrong because it needs to navigate life.

And so you'll want to make sure that you create a space where everybody can be right, where you're not needing to make others wrong to then be able to connect. So point being is creating that harmonious connection with people where you can respect them and honor them, even if you may not necessarily agree with them.

with their perspective, you know, not really needing to make them wrong is key. All right. So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with our beautiful volunteer, Millie. Here we go.

Fantastic. You know, to learn how to do that, To be right in a healthy way so that others understand me. Exactly. But sometimes the best way to get understanding is also to give understanding because a lot of times in a conversation, people are, both people are struggling to be understood. Now, it's kind of funny that I'm saying this because if you've listened to past podcast episodes, you know, that I'll take people's programming and I make it wrong.

But it's for them because what happens is then they'll have a feeling like kind of like yours. Like your feeling of feeling like it's safe is to be in a bubble, right? I don't want your mind to think it's safe as to be in a bubble because there's no love there and we need love and connection and so it's safest to not be around people.

I do want to make that programming wrong but overall. I want to notice. I want to make you right. I want to say, yeah, your, your life is right. And, and there's another place I was going was this, was that if I ask you, do you believe your thoughts help create your life? Well, uh, I do, but the, in a strange, in a strange way, because when I was, uh, when I was, it was like 20 years ago.

I want to interrupt. Okay. Just real quick. So if I ask you, you can see this pattern that's gone throughout your life, right? Yes. Sometimes more, sometimes less. But you see it, right? Yes. Okay, so if we just stick there and we say you change that thought pattern and you change that emotional pattern that's going on, do you think that you have the power to change that pattern so it changes in your life?

Do you think that you have the power to change that? Yes, I do. Maybe slowly. Okay, but wait a sec, this is what I'm trying to give you right now is this. Right? I'm trying to give you a feeling of being right. So I'm trying to give you that. I want your brain to like being right, but in a healthy way. So that's why I keep interrupting is because I want to piece the pieces together so that we say, okay, being right.

Okay, great. Now you see your pattern. Do you feel like you can change it? Yes, you do. Great. You're right. You're absolutely right. I see people change patterns all the time, and so you're right, and now I want you to take that feeling of being right that you can change it, and then truly embody the transformation to follow through to change it.

Does that make sense? Okay, I hope this is, uh, I hope that you hear me. And I hope this is recording. What? Uh, yes, I do. I do believe it's possible, and I think I have been doing that already with the small steps, you know. Okay. Okay. And so what do you mean you hope that I can hear you? And what recording?

Well, I was, I was afraid that the app was going to blow up again. I'm so Okay. Okay. Yes, I can, I can. Oh, but, oh, but wait a second. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to close your eyes. Okay. And notice the feeling of feeling like you weren't sure if I could hear you. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and if I ask you the level of frustration you have felt around communication in your life, of people not hearing you, zero to ten, what's the level?

Like seven or eight. Okay, and if I ask you how much you're feeling frustrated with your computer because it kicked you off. And not being able to be heard. It would be like a nine or ten.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause the session right here for a moment. And I have to say, I absolutely love this. This is what I love, is that notice for a moment, as I'm sitting here speaking with Millie, what's happening is she's feeling understood. She's feeling heard. She's feeling like. I'm acknowledging her patterns and even her childhood pattern we talked about with the teacher growing up.

So there's a part of her who's really feeling understood and heard and getting it. And then notice her computer lost connection. And then she's feeling frustrated that she can't be heard. So it's the same pattern. Now, the reason that I love that is not because I want her to feel frustrated at all.

That's not at all. Of course I would never want her to feel frustrated, but it just illustrates so clearly how much our patterns can literally jump from one person to another, to another, even just energetically, you know, and that we see that show up and that's exactly what happened. And it's beyond our consciousness a lot of times, beyond conscious control.

And, you know, the unfortunate example you hear me use all the time is that, you know, a woman may have an abusive father and leave him and find the abusive, Boyfriend, boss, spouse, etc, etc. You know, that pattern can continue. And it's not like she goes on a date and says on the first date, you know, I just have to make sure you're gonna abuse me in six months or eight months or a year or this isn't gonna work.

She doesn't say that. But instead, She says, you know, she wants a really great man, and then the pattern continues. Now, of course, we can have so much compassion, but my point is those patterns continue, and it doesn't have to happen in relationships. You know, I've seen people who have had that abusive father, and they grow up and marry a wonderful man or a wonderful relationship, but then Maybe the abusive relationship shows up in their boss or their friend or their sister or brother or whomever.

Like the patterns can show up in different ways. And that's what you'll notice even in her situation is that You know, in one minute the pattern is here, in the next minute it shows up on her computer, and then the next minute as she mentions coming up, it shows up with her brother. Just when she thought everything was fine, it shows up in her family, which had always been good.

And that's exactly the point. Is you hear me say all of the time, to really heal ourselves. We don't want to heal one story and then another story and another story and another story. We have to really think bigger. We have to do it in a different way and think bigger and really heal the pattern itself.

That is what's key. And you'll hear that coming up, where then there's the frustration of feeling like her, her relationship with her brother and communication had always been great. And then That went off too. So that's what we'll want to look at. And that is something that really helped. That was a huge distinction in my process of understanding how to heal is it wasn't just about healing the story or the situation or a past wounding or a childhood wounding, but really thinking bigger to re pattern the mind.

So you have to think bigger than just healing the story or changing the story. It's really about changing your mindset and healing the pattern at a bigger level. And so that's what I love. I love her awareness. And I also love that we just saw this pattern here with the computer and the feeling of frustration came up with communication and trying to be heard.

Yeah. And you'll notice the pattern shows up in other areas as well. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Millie. Here we go.

So, so is it kind of funny that your pattern is actually repeating right now with the same emotional feeling of struggling to be heard? Yes, I even thought that this is happening because I shouldn't be on this podcast or something. Or because it's the exact pattern that we're talking about that has been showing up everywhere in your life where there's been so much frustration, even at school, where you try to communicate and then it shows up.

And then in relationship it shows up or in work it shows up and then you try to communicate and all of these things and it shows up and even now here, as you're trying to connect and stay connected to the computer. Exactly! Even the computer is trying to do it! It's impossible! It's like forces of nature, Wi Fi, what's going on?

So, I have a question. Is your computer now still allowed in your bubble or is it, there's no more computer in the bubble either? You're just going to throw everything out of the bubble? No, of course it's allowed. It's, it's, it's here, it's workable. Exactly. So, but I'm trying to give you a gift, okay? So, when I, when I threw that in and I said that, what was the gift in that?

The perspective that you don't want to just keep throwing things out of your bubble. Does that make sense? Mm hmm. Okay. Yes. Yes. Very much so. Great. So if I ask you in six months from now, what would you like your bubble to look like? I would love to have, uh, even more friends. I mean, I have friends and, uh, family and I really like my family.

Sometimes we, in the past few years, we had trouble communicating and we're not so close as we used to be. You had trouble communicating? Yes, I had trouble communicating with my brother and we were really close always and, uh, with my sister in law and, uh, uh, oh, absolutely. It was, it was like, uh, the hardest time of my life because my, um, when my relationships weren't working, there was always my family.

But then something happened. We had some trouble and the communication really went off and it was really difficult. So I have a question. Was that frustrating? Oh, absolutely. It was, it was like, uh, the hardest time of my life. My relationships weren't working. There was always my family. But then something happened, we had some trouble and the communication really went off and it was really difficult.

Okay. I love your awareness. I love your awareness, because that's exactly what does happen, is that one area doesn't work, and then you gotta go to it, like, and that's, I've seen that happen time and time again, so I call it the whack a mole, where it's like you try to get it out of one area of life, and then it shows up in another area of life, then it shows up in another area of life, then the next thing you know it shows up on your computer, but even notice.

I mean, I thought it was the pandemic or whatever, but I don't know. Okay. But notice you and your brother had always been very, very close and then suddenly communication went off and then frustrating in there too, right? It was terrible. Yeah. Okay. So this is the thing. Um, if I ask you zero to 10, how much you also feel of a sense of, uh, of anger towards people, just in general.

Zero to 10, what would you say? Oh my God. Sometimes it's eight. I mean, I love people. I really do. I miss people. I love being around people. I like talking to them. I like communicating, but sometimes, I don't know why, maybe because everything, with everything that's happening in the world, I have feeling of frustration with people that is about eight or nine.

I don't know. I love your awareness. I love your awareness. Because it's, with all, with everything that's going on, with, with the, the wars and everything, I just can't understand why it's all happening, you know, and But this is the thing, right? Is that if you stop and think about it, There's always some type of fear story that we could get sucked into, you know, from, from everything, like from 9 11, but then like every, like, uh, then there's this, then, then there's that.

And then there's always a fear story. And my point is, we just, we can't always get sucked into the negative because there's also simultaneously so much positive as well, right? So, in other words, I mean, if you think about it since, since I've been alive, I mean, there's the, the Cold War and then there was, you know, the stuff in the Middle East and then there was Y2K and then there was 9 11 and then there was, you know, the, you know.

The Mayan calendar and where the world's going to end. And then they're like, there's always like, there's always, oh, wait, oh, wait, wait. Then there was also, what was there? There was the, uh, hole in the ozone layer. That's right. Then it was going to end because of that. But so, which is, which, if you think about it, you don't really hear about the ozone layer anymore because they lit, I mean, they addressed it.

So there was what ODSs that. Odo ozone depleting substances that got removed and now the ozones healing. But my point is, ever since I have been alive, there has always been a story that the world is going to end or is something huge and catastrophic. Always, if you look for it, I mean. Again, the Cold War, the ozone layer, the Middle East, the Y2K, the Mayan calendar, COVID.

Yes, and we had the heat wave this summer, so we couldn't really go out that much, so. Yep, there's always the story, there's always the story that the world is going to end. Like, ever since I've been alive, I don't know that there's ever not been that story. Like, if you start tracking it, you're like, wait a second here, like, I mean, I was very.

Very small fragments of time in between like, there's this devastating story and there's it. And it's like, okay. Yeah. I mean, I've worked with people who literally, I mean, who said they lived their entire life in fear and they were so consumed by fear that they never thought they were going to make it to 40 years old or 50 years old.

So they didn't really do anything with their life because they thought that they weren't going to make it. And, and then it's like, so, so the more that we get sucked into these stories and then believe them and then, and that's what I've seen. I've seen people who. I mean, I can't tell you how many people I've seen who said, well, you know, there was always this story, so I didn't think we're really gonna make it in life.

I didn't think that, but, uh, I thought, you know, I didn't really think that the world is going to end, but subconsciously, at one point, I mean, rationally, you know, it's not true, but somewhere it sticks in your brain, you know? Well, it used to stick in mine and then I unstuck it. I was, it was literally like, that's why I became like, okay, I can't get sucked in just because, I mean, let's be honest.

During the best of times, there are people who can go through really hard hardship. And then through the worst of times, there are people who can be married and have a baby or buy a house or have a family or win this or have this or succeed at this. Like, and so it just depends on. You know, everything.

Now, the thing of it is, is that if everybody would just create a great life, that would be good for all of us, you know? And, and so my point is, the more of us who cannot get sucked into the negative and the hardship and the problems, we're actually doing Positive for the world by lifting our vibration and by creating.

I mean, imagine if we all looked around the world and we said, wow, everybody has really loving and sweet lives and they're connected and they're laughing and they're loving, and they're having a great family and great fun. Like, imagine what that, like, imagine what that would look like, right? Yes. And for, for me, I see people, you know, and that's the story.

That's the story. There we go. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. So I'm going to invite you. What would happen if you let go of the negative and you genuinely created and embodied that transformation of love, of connectedness, and what would happen if everybody? started doing that and manifesting that and living that, what would our world look like?

It would be easier for others to change. And the reason it could be easier for others to change is they would see more and more of that. And they would say, Oh, I want to do that too. Right? Yes. Right? Absolutely. And thank you. And by the way, I hear you and what I'm wanting to do, of course, is program your mind.

So if I don't interrupt some of your mind programming, then you will come here and you will leave with the same programming. And that's not what we want, right? We want different programming. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And it's kind of like this is if I ask you how much you feel. More willing and determined to change your life and your relationships and not stay in your bubble, what would you say?

I would say that I feel more determined. I like that. Actually, no, I feel more hopeful. That's how I would say it. I feel hopeful. I like that. I like that. So from that place of hopefulness, if I ask you to think about what your vision looks for your life, what that looks like for your life and your future, does that look even better?

Yes, it does. Exactly. So I'm not just shifting your mindset. Yes. So when I'm interrupting, I'm also shifting your consciousness of what you see as being possible and opening your mind to new ways of seeing and being, because ultimately that's what I want you to create in your life is more of that. Does that make sense?

Yes, it does. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Bingo. And I'm going to ask you to notice what that would look like if you started getting this in every day, where you're starting to see your world in this way and see your future in this way. And you're really willing to start creating that change all of the way. If I ask you, it would be good, right?

It would be great. It would be so, so, so, so great. So, this is the thing, what I want to do, because I don't want to overload you, is I actually want to leave it right here for you, and then what I want to invite you to do is, uh, is as after, after you're starting to bring this in more and more and more as your vision and you're getting this in and you're amplifying it, then I want to invite you to use the release techniques from the book to then start releasing the negative also.

Does that make sense? Yes, it does. Now I'm, I'm trying to do that. At this point, I'm trying to raise my vibration to be more positive so that I could heal myself. I hear you, but I'm going to ask you to notice for a moment, bingo, there's a big shift that happened and it's this, before you thought it was safer to stay in the bubble.

Now you see it's safer to get out of the bubble and to open your bubble and expand and try again and create a change and transform. And that's a big shift, right? Imagine what my life would look like if I told you my programming is that I want to stay in a little bubble. And it's safer in my bubble.

Okay, I think it's safer in my bubble. But by the way, I'm lonely in my bubble. Now, by the way, we need love. So let me ask you, let's say I stay. I just want to stay in my bubble. But we as human beings need love, but I don't think it's safe to go get love and connection, and I'm really lonely. How's my health gonna do if I'm really lonely in my bubble, and I think it's safest to stay in my bubble?

How's my health gonna do? Become neurotic. For sure. Now I just Just, I'm just joking. So No, you are. I can, I tell you, I love your sense of humor. I love your playfulness. That's what me, I mean, it's so , right? So this is the thing, right? So if I do that, okay. How's my health going to be? Probably not so good, right?

So now if I get a completely different awareness that it's actually safer for me to change this pattern and get outside of the bubble and I see that if I just change this pattern that I can actually do this and I'm hopeful and I see the problem what it's been and why it's been and that I can change this.

How much does that change my life? Well, a lot, a lot. A lot. That would be great. So the thing of it Bingo. Exactly. So the thing of it is, is I don't want to overwhelm you with 50 things to do, because if you look at how much this whole pattern has impacted your life, if you take this and you transform this pattern And you have this vision moving forward that in and of itself will be pivotal.

Does that make sense? So it's not just about raise your frequency, raise your frequency, raise your vibration, we have to be very specific with the mind. The key is, is being specific with the mind. Bingo. If I ask you to notice how much this pattern has affected your entire life, affected your entire life, you can see that, right?

Yes. At this point, I think it really affected my whole life. I mean, like, in this huge, huge way. Exactly. So I don't want to give you 500 things to do because the truth is, is if you changed this, it would be so much more harmonious and loving and connected. In which case you wouldn't feel like the victim and the hurtness and the et cetera.

Like it would, it would help you to create that change. Does that make sense? Bingo. Yes, it does. Bingo. Beautiful. All right. So, so my point is, is that it's not just about raising your vibration. So I hear you. You've been working on raising your vibration, but notice for a moment that you hadn't even seen this pattern, right?

Yeah. And so, that's what happens. These patterns, they can be really sneaky, but then when we identify them and we change, that's when it becomes pivotal. So, the more that we're specific with their mind and, and we change specific things, the more it becomes pivotal. Life changing. Does it make sense, beautiful?

Yes, yes. Absolutely. Absolutely. I love that. I love it. I love it. All right. So on that note, that's what I want to invite you to do and, uh, and to follow through with this, to make it a change, to get this vision in, to start seeing it in a new way, to want to connect, and to be willing as you do, to be a part of it.

To, to want to connect and also to then allow others to be right also to hear them, to let them hear you. And as you, and I want you to get this vision and then I want you to use the release techniques from the book to then start decreasing the frustration around all of it. Does that make sense? Yes, it does.

Beautiful. Beautiful. I love that. I love it. I love it. I love it. So, so, so good. And um, beautiful. So good. I have to say you're beautiful. I love your sense of humor. I love your self awareness. I love your self honesty. It's, it's just, it's beautiful. It has been such a pleasure connecting with you. Thank you so much.

Um, I know that it's difficult to work with people and their issues and it's difficult for us to understand and to, to feel the energy. So thank you. And I was anxious before this. So thank you. You're so sweet and you're so welcome. And I have to say though, it's, uh, it's, it's not so difficult. I love connecting with people's energy and beings.

And I love helping because I see people's heart and world and life open up in a beautiful way. So, so it's not it, but it's just, it, it, it, I think we all have our. our, our thing. And this is, and so it's not difficult, but, um, and, and actually it's, it's a pleasure. I just, I, I love laughing with you. Your, your sense of humor and your awareness and your playfulness.

Are you kidding? I've enjoyed connecting with you. I very much enjoyed it. So thank you so much. And, uh, and I wish you a wonderful rest of your day. Okay. Thank you. And, uh, all best.

All right. So let's go ahead and bring this all together. And first and foremost, I just love her self awareness. I love her sense of humor, how playful and sweet and just loving and just precious. And I also love the insights that came up. So if you think about this. This is part of the session where we talked about, you know, when we think about the big picture, we talked about the feeling of feeling like people aren't safe and it's just safer to stay in your own bubble, so to speak.

And let's be honest. So many people have had those emotions come up, especially. If there's patterns, you know, one way to think about it is like this, is that, you know, if a pattern comes up over and over and over and over again, of course a person could feel shut down or hurt or like people aren't safe.

And if we stop and think about this, With a new perspective, and we think about when we were children, we learn how to walk. What happens? You know, we stand up and then we fall down, we stand up and we fall down, and we continue to make distinctions, and we figure it out, and before you know it, we're walking around and running and getting into everything.

And my point being, Is that we make these distinctions and we change. And so if we apply this also towards relationships and people and connecting and life, it's exactly that. Is that, especially if we've had patterns of hurt in relationship, where we experienced that frustration, the hurt, the upset, it can feel hard, especially One of the things that I really also love about this episode is we can see how much the pattern can change and even show up on her computer, you know, where the computer disconnects.

And of course that was frustrating initially. She was like, you know, I can't be heard. I can't be, you know, I can't connect. And so she was feeling that and experiencing that, but that's exactly my point. And it's also, A reason to feel excited about life is that if you've felt in a place where you've had a pattern show up or you've had hurt or rejection or upset or whatever it is, but you've had a pattern that's been hurting you or holding you back or keeping you stuck or keeping you frustrated and it keeps popping up everywhere, be willing to change it.

Now the problem is, is this, is that. A lot of times it will then shape a belief. So the pattern will then lead to a belief. Oh, people are just this. People are just mean. People are hurtful. People are not safe. People are this, people are that. And so it shapes the belief because of the pattern. But when we change the pattern, then we can really start to manifest and attract different things.

And so that's one of the insights that I want to invite you to look at. Now, another thing is, this is thinking about. You know, her approach to healing had been, you know, lift your energy, lift your energy. But you want to remember that the mind is very specific. Like you can see, in this case, how her specific pattern has shown up.

Or even if we think about an embarrassment feeling, like a, somebody feels embarrassed, their face That's specific compared to somebody who has a panic attack and racing heart shortness of breath. That's specific. Or even somebody who has a sexual thought and emotions, then they have sexual physical response.

That is very different. So my point is, the specifics really matter. A lot. And all of the time when it comes to mind body healing, people think they're insignificant. They think, well, let me just think positively. Let me lift my energy. Let me just, you know, be in a positive state. Let me just meditate. Let me just focus on music.

And all of these things could be great depending on, of course, like anything, there can be positive types of practices. There can be negative, all of the things. So all these things could be good. However, for healing to really occur, we have to remember that the mind is specific. And this is part of the reason I see people struggle for so many years on their healing journey is because they don't really identify the specific mind programming.

So I help them identify the specific things that are showing up for them in their life. and then transform them. And of course, the beautiful thing is, is as you heal yourself, you change your life, you know, it becomes a life changing gift. And so that's the beautiful part. And so I want to invite you to look at that and, and invite you to, to have that as a takeaway, is really to think about that, that if you have experienced hurt or frustration or upset or patterns, and it feels like it's everywhere, instead of feeling discouraged and then creating Beliefs about people.

You know, like all men are abusive alcoholics. No, they're not. There are great men, great women, great people out there. And so my point is, instead of developing negative beliefs about people or men or women or whomever. Or even about self, but instead of doing that, identify the patterns and genuinely transform them and it becomes life changing, a life changing gift.

You know, when we heal ourselves, we change our lives and all of the time our bodies are trying to give us that message, that wake up call, that spiritual check engine light, if you will, you know, just like you'll hear me say all the time, if you're driving a car, the check engine light comes on. You know, that You know, there's something wrong with the car.

And similarly, if we have a health issue, there is something off and our bodies are trying to tell us, Hey, your way of thinking and feeling and perceiving your, there's a pattern, at least one that is affecting your health. And when you change that, you change your life. And so, That's what I love about healing and awareness is it's absolutely incredible.

You know, as much as I would never want to go through my injury again, ever, you know, it was hard. It was a lot of years. It was a lot of pain. I wouldn't take it back either because of the way that it changed my life. Now, of course I didn't need an injury. Changed my life. That's just how it unfolded. My point being is that even if you're here and you don't have any health issues, you could still identify.

patterns and negative patterns or painful patterns and transform your life. So the key isn't the problem. The key is change and anybody can change. And so inviting you to take that in and also asking you to please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more that.

Every single person in our world is happy and healthy and loved and loving. The better this world is for all of us. And so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible, loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

We'll see you there.

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I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore. com slash podcast.

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