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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themself of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life. Let's begin.

 

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness. I just love it and. You know those episodes where you just feel like they add insight where you can see things in a different way, or you can see the awareness of patterns or getting stuck in emotions and you can see it with even more clarity that.

Is just one of the benefits of today's episode. You know, our beautiful volunteer, her name is Molina, and she is experiencing a cycle, a pattern of emotional stuckness that is actually quite common, but the problem is that it can be very challenging. [00:02:00] To get yourself out of this pattern. And so that is one of the things that I just really love about this episode, is the level of clarity and the level of awareness.

Now, as you'll recall, last week I started working with Molina. So we had one session, the first half of that session. I released on last week's episode, and we had talked about her pattern of feeling guilty, of getting upset with her kids and getting triggered, and then she would get triggered that she beats herself up, tells herself she's a horrible person, gets upset, and this cycle.

That was affecting her. And so we talked about that, about not beating herself up, about starting to look at the pattern in a different way. And that was great. So she started to dive into that and it was beautiful about not getting stuck in that pattern. Now today, we're going to take it to a deeper level because what happens, and this is common, is that a [00:03:00] person can be triggered.

And then triggered into anger and then triggered into beating themselves up. And so it's basically one trigger leads to another trigger then leads to beating oneself up. And it becomes this pattern, this cycle. And all of the time I've seen people who unfortunately are stuck in that cycle of feeling upset and then guilty for something, and then feeling triggered and then upset, and then guilty and it's stuckness and it's a lot of hurt.

And so, That's what I love about this episode is really looking to unpack that to be able to create a shift, and so that's where we're going today. Now, if you recall, she's been experiencing pain in her throat, like a discomfort in her throat, and that was going down, so that was great. She was getting the discomfort in her throat down.

She also had a little bit of pain come in in her head and in her stomach, and so that's been part of the issue. She's had pain moving around in a variety of different ways in her body, and so [00:04:00] that's where we're going today. And where we left off with the session is that I was talking to her about not beating herself up and then also.

Starting to address and work with her kids in a different way, because basically she was having this feeling that if she was talking to her kids, they weren't listening and they weren't listening, and then she'd get frustrated and really upset. And you may recall, she would tell herself, her kids don't listen and don't respect her.

And so it was triggering for her. And then she'd get upset and then feel guilty, and she really has this beautiful, beautiful heart. And she'd just feel bad and feel guilty. And so it was just a cycle. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with beautiful marlina. Here we go.

So I may ask you to breathe, and let's say that instead of getting upset, [00:05:00] you have a habit of taking a breath. And you have a habit of taking a breath, a couple breaths first, and then you think about it, that you, you start thinking in a different way where you are, you are teaching them. So whatever it is you think about teaching them.

Okay. So if I ask you how that would feel, how would that feel to you? Uh, I cannot see this picture because this is what I'm trying to do now. So just for a moment. So that's, so that's what you're trying to do, right?

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. Now, notice for a moment, I had asked her how would it feel to make this change and notice before the steps of even getting there, she had resistance to that. But I'm already doing this. I'm already so [00:06:00] notice the resistance. Now, the reason that I point this out, Is because how often would you say that people get stuck and they go, oh, I'm already doing this.

I'm already doing that. They feel like they're doing everything they can. Okay. Now, point being is that if you are working on changing a pattern inside of you, there is likely a part of you who is feeling like that you are doing everything you can. That is so. Normal. And so that's, of course, is the reason that I interrupted her to take her brain to the next level.

And so that said, if there's a part of you who's feeling like, Hey, I've done everything I can with this pattern, et cetera, et cetera, I understand, I get it. And you'll wanna really make sure that you're getting to the deeper level of what's really there. And so that's where we're going as we're stepping back in with our beautiful volunteer Molina.

Here we go.

Yes. Okay, great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. [00:07:00] Okay. Now, I want you to notice, if I ask you, growing up as a kid, if I ask you how frustrated you felt that nobody would listen to you, what would you, it's very frustrated. Yeah, exactly. 10,000. Yep. So this is the thing. So what I want you to notice is they're triggering you because you are telling yourself they're not listening to you.

Can you see that? Oh, you see, uh, they're not, they, they, they're triggering me because, okay, so watch this. They cannot. Yes. So I ask you to breathe. All right. So ready? So, so growing up, how much did you feel triggered that people weren't listening to you? 10,000. Yeah, 10,000. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you how much that made you feel upset and rage and pissed off, what would you say?

10,000. Mm-hmm. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to [00:08:00] breathe. And so when your kids don't, you feel like they're not listening to you. If I ask you how triggered you feel, what would you say? 10,000. Exactly. So can you see why you're being triggered? Yes. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe now. I have a question for you.

Would you say if somebody's really, really, really triggered and emotional, and triggered and emotional, would you say people will wanna listen to them more or listen to them less? No. No. Less, less, less. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm gonna say that again. So if somebody's triggered an emotional and upset and emotional, upset, upset.

Do people wanna listen to them more or less? Less, less. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and it's kind of like whenever you're frustrated doing something, if you're frustrated, frustrated, frustrated, you do it and it gets worse instead of better, right? Yes. Yes. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, [00:09:00] and if I ask you, have you ever heard that before?

When somebody goes to cut their own bangs and they go, they keep cutting and keep cutting, and their bangs look all funny? Nope. No. Okay. All right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if it feels like I said something completely left field, there was a reason for that. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you if you'd be willing to change this trigger of feeling, not listened to.

Would you be willing to, to, and I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice this feeling. And if I ask you, is it true that your kids don't listen to you? Hmm. Oh, I never thought of this. Hmm. Yeah. So yes, actually, actually they are listening to me, but they're also baby, baby. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.

What was the first part you said? They are listening to me, baby. Baby. Wait. Take that in. They are listening to you. Now, when you take [00:10:00] that in for a moment, how do you feel that they are listening to you? Come. Calm. Notice that. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and notice what it feels like. They are listening to you.

They are listening to you. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you to take that feeling in, and I want you to notice the level in your throat. Zero to 10. What's your level? Maximum one. Maximum one. Right. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe who's bringing it down like that? I You are.

You are. So I don't you just for a moment to notice that this is what's happening. Is it you're getting triggered telling yourself that they're not listening, then you're feeling guilty, then you're feeling like you don't deserve love and you are bad, and then you're getting upset and then triggered and it's like you're in this spiral.

Can you see it? Yes. Yes. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.[00:11:00]

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her self-awareness. I love herself honesty. I love her heart. She is just beautiful, just beautiful, beautiful being. And also notice there's a part of her who's fueling the problem, like the emotions a lot, and.

You'll wanna notice if you've been there in your life, and by the way, what you wanna notice is look at how hard I'm needing to interrupt her to be able to help her to shift. And so point being is that, let's be honest, if you're in an emotional state where you're feeling upset or feeling frustrated about something, what you really need more than anything is you've really got to want to change it.

And to be honest, Most people don't want to change their patterns. They want the outcome, but you've gotta [00:12:00] make sure and ask yourself, do I really want to transform this? And what I mean by that is this, is that if you take the example of couples therapy, you know, typically on the most part when a couple goes to therapy, a lot of time, not all the time, but a lot of times, Each person goes because they secretly want the other person to just change, or maybe even verbally say aloud that they just want the other person to change.

That is very common is all of the time people want their situation to change. They want the circumstances to change, and you've got to remember to remember to remember. That you were the power that looking at the patterns on the inside. So even this pattern that she's really upset about is a pattern of feeling disrespected, unloved, not listened to, not cared for.

You know, it's this deep pattern. And so my point is, is that again, wanting to change it, when you see a pattern and you see the hurt, [00:13:00] so you know, part of the reason that I point out. Patterns when somebody has a childhood pattern or a pattern from the past is because when you can start to see that it's a pattern.

It's easier to take some responsibility to change on the inside. And so what you'll want to note is that everything in life it, there's always some type of pattern connected. Even if you can't see it, there's a pattern and the more you can look at it, the more you're willing to not get caught up in the negative, not fuel it, not get stuck in the frustration, all of that, but willing to feel empowered.

And be empowered and want to change it and change yourself. The more you empower yourself to really do that, which is where we're going with beautiful Marlina. Here we go.

And I want you just for a moment to notice that they are listening. They are [00:14:00] listening. They do listen. They do listen now. Do they listen? Perfect. They're listening. It doesn't have to be perfect. Bingo. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. They are listening and it doesn't have to be perfect, right?

Yes. Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you just for a moment to notice how love do you feel about your kids. Hmm. Did the feeling of love go up, down or stay the same? A little bit up? Mm-hmm. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe now. This is the thing. Is part of what's happening.

So if you tell your K, tell yourself that your kids aren't listening to you like they don't love you and don't respect you, and they're just not listening, can you see how you tell yourself that? Can you see it? Yes. Yeah. Now, watch this. Imagine if a mom. Said, oh, my kids are being kids and I gotta get them to do something, or mm-hmm.

If a mom said, my [00:15:00] kids nor aren't respecting me, they don't even care what I say. They're not even listening at all. They never listen to me. How do I feel frustrated. Frustrated. Now, if I tell myself that all of the time, how frustrated do I feel? Very frustrated. Now, if I feel very frustrated, how much do I have the patience to deal with those kids?

No patience. No patience. Then if I have no patience, and then I act out and then I get upset, now I feel what? Guilty in punishing myself, blah, blah, blah. You see the cycle? Yes. Yes. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you to notice just for a moment, the level in your throat, zero to 10.

There is something there that, okay. So mm-hmm. Notice hugely better, right? So, definitely, yep. So I'm gonna ask you. Mm-hmm. So, but your body's giving you a message. Now I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Now, if I ask you, moving forward, if you weren't getting angry and upset with your kids, And you also weren't feeling [00:16:00] frustrated and unloved and like they're not listening and all triggered and all of that, would that make a little bit of difference in your life?

Or a big difference? A big difference. Big difference, right? So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I want you to think about that. It would make a big difference, right? Yes. Yes. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe so it'll make a big difference in your life. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to think about this.

I want you to notice that you have been telling yourself this story that nobody listens to you for a long time, right? Mm. So-so, well, if I ask you, did you tell, did you feel this way in childhood that nobody was listening to you? Yes. Zero to 10. How much so-so, No, it's so, oh, it's more, oh, it's a lot. Yep.

Right. A lot. 10,000. Yes. Yes. 10,000. Okay. So, great. So now I want you to picture the five years from now, you have this feeling still, and you have 10 years from now and 20 years from now that nobody listens to you. Nobody listens to you. [00:17:00] Nobody listens to you. How does that go for you? No, it's not. Okay. No, no, no, no.

You go ahead and keep that. No, thank you. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Great, great, great. Beautiful awareness, and I love your sense of humor. Beautiful. So I'm gonna say that again. I'm gonna push, I'm gonna say you go keep telling yourself that. Go ahead. Go ahead. Let me know how that goes for you. No good.

So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice how your throat feels in your stomach. I want you to know on your head, I want you to notice how it feels. The stomach is gone. I don't feel yes in my throat about a 0.75. Like we're a little bit under a one, right? Yeah. But it's like something that I want to vomit.

Okay? It's like I wanna let it go. Gimme one second. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to notice the part of you that has been punishing [00:18:00] yourself a lot. Can you see it? Yes. Yeah. How much? I mean, all right, so here we go. So, I mean, go ahead and do that if you want. I mean, I wouldn't do it.

I don't think it's very smart, but here you can go ahead and do that if you want. No. What? No, no, no, no, no, no. You go ahead. No, this is for nobody. This feeling is for nobody. I mean, wouldn't it be great though if you grew up and your mom was punishing herself all the time? Well, actually I think she did it.

Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and wouldn't it be great if your kids get to see you punishing yourself all the time? No, no, no. Definitely. No. I don't want them ah, to see or to feel this. Ah, so when, when do you think you wanna change this? Yesterday. Yesterday. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe Great.

And we just have to stick with today. Yes. [00:19:00] I love your sense of humor. Beautiful. I love it. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to notice the level in your throat. How'd it go? It's way better. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice there's a part of you that doesn't wholly trust yourself to change, okay?

Mm-hmm. So I'm gonna ask you to, mm-hmm. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to picture yourself moving forward. I want you to picture yourself moving forward, that you wake up every morning and you remind yourself that your kids do listen. And you say, you know what? I'm changing this. This isn't gonna be a trigger that's happening in my life.

Never, never, never, never again. You wake up, you feel that. You notice when they do listen and you make a point to notice it, to feel it, to take it in a feeling like they are listening. And you take it in and you feel it. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Now, if I asked you, if I said, for the next [00:20:00] 30 days that you're gonna take that in, that you're gonna notice.

Exactly that, that they are listening and you're gonna take it in and notice that they are listening and you're gonna do that, and you're gonna follow through. So you're not triggering yourself, but instead you're noticing they are listening and instead you're really shifting this. You don't wanna tell yourself this story, this pattern anymore at all.

How does that feel to you? Great, great, great. So if I ask you, do you trust yourself to follow through every day? Yes. Yes. So if you follow through every day and you listen to this recording every day and you get this in and you, you really, really, really take this in and you also follow through every day with this, if I ask you, do you think you can change it?

Yes, for sure, for sure. Yes. I've seen, I've seen changes happening and I know for sure it'll, it can be done great. And it's amazing. Yeah, it is, isn't it? And you're amazing, aren't you? Hmm, [00:21:00] aren't you? Yes. Yes, yes, yes. Thank you. Yes, beautifully. Thanks. So, I want you to notice for a moment now you know why you've been being triggered, okay?

So that, so the part of you that doesn't trust yourself, Having a trust for yourself. Now you go, okay, I don't need to beat self up. I realize why I've been being triggered. I see that I'm not gonna do this tr I'm gonna change, I'm gonna reprogram this. I'm gonna genuinely start feeling differently and I'm genuinely gonna change this.

Right? Yes. And you're gonna listen to this recording every day, right? Yes, definitely. I woke up. Unfortunately, I woke up at four in the morning and it's something that also I want to change. And anyway, I listen to your podcast at four in the morning,

so it's something, it's, [00:22:00] it's. It's something can, which can be done. It's, it is something that which can be done. So you can listen to this and you can listen and get it in and, and bingo. And if I ask you, can you commit yourself to change? Can you do that? Yes. Yes. Definitely. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful job with your energy.

Beautiful. I, I have to say, I love your heart. You have a beautiful heart. You're so sweet. And I love that you're gonna change, and I love that you're not gonna beat yourself up anymore. And I love that you're going to reprogram this and just focusing on changing this, and I think that's freaking fantastic.

Yes. It's, you know, really, it's, it's, it's, it's, I'm gonna ask you to breathe, I have to say, it has been so wonderful connecting with you. Beautiful. It has been so wonderful connecting with you. And I wanna remind you, if you really, really follow through to changes every day, how big of a change would this be for your life?

Oh, oh, amazing. Will be amazing. Okay, so you gotta follow through, [00:23:00] right? Definitely came on. You've got this. You've got this. It has been such a pleasure connecting with you. I just love you. You're just lovely and sweet and wonderful, and let's see you do this. Okay. I will do Brandy, thank you very much. And I just wanted to thank you time, and I just wanted to also, I want to tell you that for some time I'm thinking, okay, I need brandy at my home.

But you know, I thank you. Have a big, big, big, big family because everybody who get in touch with you have have you in their home. So from now on, you will be also in my house and thank you. Thank you very much. You're so beautiful. I love that I'm in your house with you. That makes me so happy, and I absolutely just adore you so much and, uh, you're, you're just beautiful.

You're so beautiful. And your kids just, I'm just, yeah. You're beautiful. I absolutely adore you and I wish you most wonderful, wonderful rest of your day. Beautiful. [00:24:00] You too.

All right, so let's go ahead and bring everything together. And you know, first and foremost, I just love, love her. I mean, she's such a sweetheart. She's so wonderful, brilliant self-awareness, beautiful heart. Just a beautiful, beautiful, beautiful being. And also, I. She created a nice shift. Now, what's great is this, is that she can see that the change is also really important for her health because you can see the physical changes.

That are taking place. And so it's just beautiful when you start to realize that your body's giving you a message even to change, to be willing to embrace change. Now I wanna mention again, what I mentioned previously as far as validating emotions. You know, notice for a moment you'll see sometimes on the episode with different people.

[00:25:00] Sometimes there's a bit of a push where I need to push a bit harder. Sometimes not as much, but notice for a moment that basically. How the mind works if you're validating, validating, validating, validating, validating your painful emotions, you are going to get yourself amped up. And you know, if you think about somebody who's egging on, somebody who's going, oh you, you should be upset.

They did this, they did that, they did this, they did that. What happens is there's an intensity about it, and so I wanna invite you to look at that. In your own life and ask yourself a few questions, you know, number one, does your mind work in that way? Do you find yourself. Spinning and spinning and spinning and egging yourself on about the problem.

Do you find yourself doing that? And if so, I wanna invite you to ask yourself if you really want to [00:26:00] change. Because again, most people, they want their life to change. They want their health to change. They want their results to change. They want the best life in the world, but they don't really wanna change self.

And so that's the insight that I wanna bring to you is do you wanna change self? And what would that look like to change self? Are you willing to reprogram self, to follow through, to really genuinely rewire your brain at a deeper level so you genuinely feel differently? What would that look like in your life?

And so that's the question that I wanna leave you with is exactly that. Is it, do you really wanna change self and could you be really willing? To start doing that today, because by the way, this is what could happen is, let's say that she doesn't really, really, really wanna change. Likely [00:27:00] what'll happen is the pattern will show up somewhere else and somewhere else where she'll feel like, oh, my mother disrespects me, or my sister disrespects me, or my brother, or my father, or my husband, or whomever it is, she'll start seeing that somewhere else because.

She's not really, really, really wanting to change her. Now, I'm not saying that's the case for her. I'm not saying she even has a brother or sister, anybody. All I'm saying is that's the way that patterns work. When we don't wanna change self, they keep coming back and they keep coming back. And so genuinely embracing change, changing you.

And being really willing to work with your mind in a different way is so key. And as you can see how beautiful she did at releasing her pain, creating that shift, and really radically feeling different. That is key. All right, so that said, I wanna invite you to please do hit the share button on this [00:28:00] episode.

You know, share it with somebody you love or somebody you care about, or even a mother who's been stuck in a pattern of feeling guilty and feeling upset, and then criticizing yourself and stuck in that cycle, or anybody that you feel like could benefit. From this awareness because as you know, the more empowered and happy and healthy that every single person is.

In our world, the better this world is for all of us. And so on that note, please do make a point to have a wonderful, fantastic, loving, happy, and healthy rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.

As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.

But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on [00:35:00] in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website@brandygilmore.com slash podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.