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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to share with you a very powerful insight that keeps a lot of people stuck. And this pattern can also be an optimist pattern, but can show up in a variety of different ways in your life. It's actually quite common and maybe it's present for you in your life or maybe in a spouse or in your work, but it can show up anywhere.

and keep people stuck or keep people from really getting the results that they want. And it can also create a lot of chaos in relationships or even just in your own mind. And so I want to give you a very ridiculous, silly analogy to start to really see the awareness in this pattern, just because it likely, as I describe it, you may have seen it before.

You may have seen it in a friend or even in yourself. And that's my point in describing it. And by the way, Part of the reason that I'm actually sharing this particular insight with you today is because a client actually emailed me and we were laughing about this analogy and the awareness that she had.

And so that's what I want to share with you. on today's episode. And so the simple analogy is this, is that imagine for a moment that the husband, so to speak, is, is getting the kids ready for school. So let's say normally it's the wife's job. The wife does it, not that it's her job, but let's say that's her role.

And normally the wife gets the kids ready for school, but says, Hey, husband, can you do it today? I have some things I need to get done. And so. Let's say he changes his work schedule, gets the kids up for school, gets them up on time, gets them breakfast, makes their lunches, does all of the things, takes them to school.

And then, let's say the wife looks at everything and is really upset and is like, but wait a second. The kids aren't dressed. They're in their pajamas. Now let's say the husband response is this, but I did everything. I got them up for school on time. I, I made them lunches. I, I got them, you know, breakfast. I did all the things.

I just forgot one thing. And the wife is like, But the kids can't go to school in their pajamas. Now, what is my point in this particular situation is this, is that a lot of times people may, it's like an optimist victim pattern. And what happens is a lot of times people may see the things that they are doing.

And they don't want to look at the things that they're already doing. overlooking that really need to be changed. And so what can happen is somebody can say, like the husband, for example, can say, well, I did get them up on time. I did get them breakfast. I did make them lunches. I got them to school on time.

And then the wife of course says, yes, but they were in their pajamas and they're not dressed in their clothes. Like you can't take the kids to school in their pajamas. And so all of the time, what can happen is people will look at the things that they did do. And they can create a victim story around it where they say, well, you know, but wait a second, I did this and I did this and I did this.

And so it's looking at what, what they did do and defending that. And my point is, is it keeps a lot of people stuck from the growth that they could otherwise embody and, and take in and, and really live fully. And so when I mentioned a client, send me an email. It was funny because she asked me, she said, you know, basically in short, the conversation was about her following through on specific things and whatnot.

And, and so I said, you know, if you're feeling any of these, you really need to change them. And I said, how does that feel to you? And she said, and she responded in short, this is a summary, but she basically said, uh, she said, I feel like I made the kids lunches. But I guess they're naked at school again. So I guess I didn't get them.

They're naked at school. So she was noticing, Oh, I saw all of the things that I was doing, but I wasn't really wanting to look at the things that I wasn't doing and change those. And so I want you to think about this very silly analogy for a moment, because a lot of times what can happen, even in a relationship is.

People can get defensive and they go, well, I did do this and I did do this. And maybe their spouse is saying, but you're not doing this. Like these patterns can show up all of the time. And an optimist mind can tend to look at the things they are doing right and say, but I did this, but I did this, but I did this.

And then maybe their boss or their spouse is saying, but I, hey, I need this or hey, I need, and it's like a defensive place where somebody doesn't want to look. But the beautiful thing is. It's even with the client that I'm working with. What I love is her awareness where she says, Oh, I guess the kids went to school naked.

Let me change that. And her, first and foremost, it made me laugh. Just the fact that she was like, I got this. Like it was just beautiful. And Oh, I guess I overlooked. That very thing where I'm saying, I'm taking care of this, but I'm not doing the very thing that I need to do to make the change. Like what is the, what is the key piece that's being overlooked?

And so if we're honest, sometimes the change that you really want to make In life, you might be overlooking that core piece, that piece that feels like you want to avoid, or you don't want to address, or the, the main issue, and you're not addressing that. And so I want to invite you to look at that, to see, is there something that you're overlooking?

Is there something that is creating a problem? in your life, in your health, in your happiness, maybe it's your marriage, maybe it's at work, that you are overlooking, that if you did decide to change it and address it, that it could make your life even better. And if you ask yourself this question and you come up with something, you know, it's, you don't want to be, you know, Critical of self or feel bad or guilty or whatnot.

But is there something that you could look at that you could change? Even if you started making small changes to resolve it or a small new pattern that could fix it. What would that be? And it could be something as simple as, and is, you know, maybe you realize that you're not spending enough time with your kids, or maybe you realize you're not spending enough time with your spouse or whatever it is.

And so maybe you say, okay, look at from now on, I'm going to start Spending an extra hour a week connecting and maybe that's the thing that you're overlooking that could be good for your love and your healing and your connection or Maybe it's something like you're doing, you know, maybe I've seen people do this They say look at I do everything for my spouse.

I'm doing the laundry room Doing this and I'm doing this and I'm doing that and I'm not appreciated but Maybe it's being done from a place that's angry and upset, that's pushing away love. Cause I've seen people do that where they just want more and more love and connection and, and they're doing all the things, but they're doing it from a negative state.

And then they're kind of feeling upset because their spouse isn't giving them the level of love and attention and connection that they want, but they're doing it from such a negative place that it's pushing them away. So maybe that's it. Or, And maybe it's feeling this sense of hurt in a relationship and maybe that's it.

And what you'll notice by the way, you know, if you think about the episode that I'm working with, with our beautiful volunteer on the podcast, the volunteer episode of working with our beautiful volunteer, helping her with her eyesight and helping it and showing her how to use her own mind to start bringing back her eyesight.

What she says, even in it. is that the specific things that we're working on, she had no idea it was these things. She completely overlooked it. And I, and I hear that all of the time on episodes and, and coming up, you know, all of the time people think, Oh, well, that was the last thing that I would have thought that it would be.

And so from that, I want to invite you just to look at what your mind might be defending. And instead, look at it and I want to invite you to look at it in a new way and see if there's some room for growth or transformation in that area. So that's the silly analogy and that of course is the insight, which can feel both small and it's good if we just make a small change.

Small changes can start creating profound results if we're willing to really look at something that is off and start creating a change, a plan to fix it. All right, so that's today's quick IQ episode, and I want to invite you to please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know because the more empowered and happy and healthy that every single person is, the better this world is for all of us.

And so if you share this or even share where you, where you know, the videos where you See, working with people and showing them how to release their own pain using their own mind in minutes. I mean, it's incredible what we are all capable of. It's truly mind blowing. And so, that said, please do hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, happy, healthy, fantastic, loving rest of your day.

And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time, people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore. com slash podcast.

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Thank you.