313: The Invisible Cost (and Profound Benefits) of Stress in Healing and Transformation

[00:00:00] Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let’s begin.

[00:01:00] Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I just love today’s episode. It is so powerful and just so many insights of, you know, the invisible cost of quote-unquote stress or emotional energy, if you will.

The Invisible Cost of Emotional Patterns

But also the benefits of changing it at a deeper level. And you know, so often I’ll see people who are working on healing themselves, just like our beautiful volunteer. She’s been working on healing herself for quite some time, and she’s also been working with her mind. And what you’ll notice as we come in is, as I start to identify some of the patterns that are impacting her health, [00:02:00] she has been working on them and has been aware of them, but just hasn’t realized the connection or the quote-unquote invisible cost or the bigger picture, if you will.

And there are just so many really powerful insights—on a variety of topics—from self-sacrifice to transformation and healing and everywhere in between.

And also, one of the things that I love is that our volunteer—she just has really great self-awareness, really great self-honesty, and a great sense of humor, an ability to move through and just to laugh and have that awareness. I mean, just really, really an incredible being. And so I love that.

Why Your Mind May Feel Stuck

And by the way, just on a simple note, something you’ll notice we talk about also coming up in this session is we talk about the mind kind of ping-ponging around and staying stuck in a loop. And what you’ll want to remember is that you really need to give your mind new neural pathways—new ways of doing things—to create [00:03:00] a real change. And that is key to really getting unstuck.

Now, by the way, on a silly note, the other day I was driving through West Hollywood, down here in Southern California. I don’t know if you guys have seen them or not, but there are like these little delivery robots that are cute little carts that look like they have a smile on them, but they’re like delivery robots that are throughout the city.

And if you haven’t seen one, by the way, I’ll post a picture or a little video of one on social media just to share so you can see what I’m talking about.

Sometimes you’ll see these stuck—like they’re stuck in front of a lamppost or a street sign post where they’re trying to go forward and there’s a post there. And so it’s just stuck. Like it’s stuck. It can’t go anywhere. And you’ll see it. All of its lights are flashing—it’s stuck. So you’ve got this delivery bot of food that can’t go anywhere because it’s just trying to go the same way.

[00:04:00] Now, of course, if it were to just start going another route, if it figured out to take another route—go left, go right, do something—it could get where it wanted to go. You know? And I know it’s a silly analogy, but I was out having dinner with friends the other night and as I was driving home, I saw this little bot that was just stuck, and I couldn’t help but actually have compassion for the little thing because you see it there, and the little face on it—again, if you haven’t seen them, the face is so cute—so you can’t help but just kind of, I don’t know, have compassion for it.

They kind of create some chaos around the city, if you will, because they get stuck and whatnot. But it reminded me so much of times where people feel stuck—they want to move forward in life and they feel stuck. And it was just the perfect type of depiction of the mind: wanting to go forward, but feeling stuck doing the same thing over and over again.

So, either way, just a silly type of visual if you’d like to think about it as we go through today’s episode.

Now, by the way, of course, as we dive in with our beautiful volunteer Dee, I’m not saying she’s one of these little robots. She’s a lot more sophisticated, and her self-awareness is just beautiful. I’m just saying that as we’re working with the mind, so often we can feel stuck or not see the invisible cost of emotional patterns and how they can affect our health and our life and keep us from healing.

And so that’s where we’re going as we step in with our beautiful volunteer Dee. Here we go.

And, hello Dee.

Hi Brandy.

Hi. It’s wonderful to connect with you.

Thank you. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. And what can I help you with today?

Uh, so, and do stop me if I talk too much. But, um, I was… I had a blood test and I was found to have low iron—so low that it couldn’t be detected. The doctors didn’t know what to do because I didn’t have any symptoms of someone with low iron. I did have some thyroid issue, apparently. But again, I don’t really feel the symptoms. I did have an iron infusion and two days after this, I had many symptoms that someone would have with low iron. I did some breath work to help with this. Again, the doctors didn’t know what to do.

I saw a naturopath, and they gave many, many supplements, but apparently my body is not absorbing nutrients, minerals as it should. There’s like a dysbiosis. And so, it’s kind of counterproductive to have this. So I don’t know what it is. There was another naturopath that said maybe it’s parasites in the liver. And there is also a bit of discomfort between my spine at the left shoulder blade—just there—and someone said, oh, this could have something to do with the gallbladder and liver. So I was trying to make connections, but I have no idea what to do.

Okay. All right. All right. So, here we go.

Uncovering Emotional Patterns Behind Physical Symptoms

So, I’m going to ask you to breathe and I’m just going to check into your energy for a moment and just kind of see what comes up. Sound good?

Thank you so much.

Absolutely. Let’s see. So give me one second… Yeah, give me one second.

(pause) Bingo.

All right. So we’re just going to start unpacking this together—what’s coming up—and we’ll go from there. Does that sound good?

Yes, please.

Okay, so I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause) Bingo.

If I ask you zero to ten, how much can you find the energy or the feeling—the feeling of feeling like you put everybody else above you?

Yeah. So I’ve been working on that. So, um, yes. I really feel that. And seven comes up.

Okay. Seven comes up. And if I ask you, why are you so much less than other people?

So what’s come up is… I was taught that I should help others first before myself.

Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause) Bingo.

And can I ask you to notice also the feeling of feeling—uhhuh—bingo. There’s like a feeling of feeling angry about needing to put everybody else first. Can you find that feeling?

I think that would be more like a resentment.

Bingo. Uhhuh. Okay. And if I ask you, zero to ten, how much?

Seven comes up again.

Okay. Now I would’ve said it a little bit higher, but we’ll go with a seven.

Okay.

And so I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause) Okay. And, give me one second real quick. Can you hear the ball in the background?

A ball? No.

All right. Give me one second. My little—

I don’t hear anything other than your voice.

Fantastic. My cat decided he should play with the toys right now and it’s very cute. And also, I have little… There’s a little ball going on that he’s playing with and it’s very cute, and also a little bit of noise on this side.

All right. So, give me one second… Bingo. Okay. Bingo. Give me one sec. Yes… Bingo. There we go. Give me one second… Bingo. There we go. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

Identifying the Root Emotional Triggers

And there is somebody specific who is triggering this. There’s a feeling of feeling like you can’t do for self because there’s one person in particular who’s really triggering this a lot. Do you know who that is?

Uh, yeah. It did come up.

Bingo. Can you give me that person’s initial?

D.

Bingo. Bingo. Okay. And so if I ask you why this is triggering so much, why would you say that is?

Uh, because I feel that I could do more and I’m feeling like I’m being limited.

Bingo. Okay. So notice how much you’re feeling limited. And if I ask you zero to ten, how much you’re feeling limited, what would you say?

A seven comes up again.

Okay. This time I actually—I get a seven too, so I love it. I love your awareness. Beautiful. Beautiful.

Can I also add that just with this—like if I make another… if I make a choice that I’m scared about the consequences?

Yep. Uhhuh. And not only that, not only scared about the consequences, but also feeling guilty and like you’re doing something wrong. Can you see that?

Yes.

And so what are the consequences of you doing something for yourself? Or rather, what do you feel like the consequences are going to be?

That actually feels really good. It’s the other part of a loss.

Uhhuh. Yeah. Unpack that a bit more.

Uh, so, if I make the decision, there’ll be a lot of—like it feels really open and good—but there’s also a loss on the other side of like losing this person.

Okay. And, bingo.

And so I’m going to ask you to breathe…

And if I ask you, zero to ten, how much you’re certain you’re going to lose this person?

It comes up like eight or nine.

Okay. What would happen if the dynamics of this relationship just changed?

I would love that.

So how do you create that?

That’s what I have been trying.

Okay. Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

(pause) Bingo.

Releasing the Sacrificial Identity

Okay, so I’m going to ask you to breathe… and I’m going to have you notice the part of you who has felt—bingo—that you need to sacrifice for others. Can you see that?

Yes. Yes.

Zero to ten, how much?

Eight, nine comes up now.

Okay. So if I ask you then, what are you going to sacrifice if you just leave the relationship? What are you going to sacrifice?

Oh, it’s like… It’s like myself, or what has been created. It’s a… it’s a stuck question.

(pause) Bingo. Give me one second… mm-hmm… Bingo.

Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

Can you give me your mom’s first initial, please?

I.

Bingo. And if I ask you, putting yourself last or sacrificing self—if I ask you how much you feel like she would say that that’s the right thing to do, how much you would feel that’s true, what would you say?

In the past, yes.

Zero to ten, how much?

Eight comes up. Eight.

Okay. So now, if you called her right now and you’re like, “Hey Mom, I’m sacrificing myself for others. Isn’t this great?” What do you think she would say?

No.

Oh. So what you’re saying is that your programming is miswired?

Yes.

Oh, okay. Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

Your mom would say she doesn’t want you to do anything for yourself in life, right?

Uh, no.

Oh! Oh, okay. So she would—she’d want you to do things for yourself?

Yeah.

Oh. Okay. So how new would that be for you—to feel like it’s okay to do things for yourself?

Yeah. Permission comes up. Uhhuh. Like now what? Like, permission now. Like it is okay now, but when I was younger, it was not.

Okay. Okay. Also from my dad as well—that was a bit even stronger perhaps.

Uhhuh. Yeah. Uhhuh. But now, yeah. Permission. Thank you.

Giving Yourself Permission to Heal

Okay. Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

All right. So let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment.

You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her self-awareness, I love her heart, her self-honesty—just brilliant and beautiful. And I want to take a moment to just unpack the topic of self-sacrifice.

Because so often I see people who have these patterns of feeling like they have to put everybody else first and they can’t do anything for themselves. And if they do, it’ll be selfish and wrong—and so they feel all of this guilt.

And so often the problem is this: a person can start to feel depleted in life. They can start to feel like life is not that fun, or like they’re constantly struggling, or like they’re not getting what they want. They can feel frustrated or hurt or resentful—and that can build up. And of course, part of the problem is their own programming is keeping them from having the things they want.

That’s something I see all the time.

Now, by the way, it can be tricky, because sometimes the part of self-sacrifice will also come because people are wanting to take from others or control others. And so it’s like it keeps everything stuck.

So it’s like a feeling—kind of like if you picture somebody who is trying to take from others—then what can happen is that their mind stays stuck in the feeling that says, “Nope, you have to give to others.” So it can be very tricky in that way also, where the mind won’t allow a person to have something because they’re also trying to take.

And that is very common.

And what I mean by “take” is not “receive.” Receiving is good. Taking… Taking can show up where I’ve seen people before who feel like a certain person—like their spouse or someone—is their twin flame or real soulmate, and the person is married. And I can’t tell you how often I’ve seen people who feel that way, where they’ve been told by a psychic or by this or that, that that person is their soulmate—and that person is married. So they feel like they have now a right to try to take that person from a relationship.

I’ve seen that. Or where people will try to take all kinds of things—somebody else’s job or invention or work or whatever it is—or house, or… I mean, just so many different things. And they don’t realize they’re doing it, because they feel like they have some type of right to it.

And so that too can create a feeling of stuckness.

Letting Go of Hidden Resistance

So I’m not saying, “Oh, stuckness is from self-sacrifice.” There can be a variety of different reasons for that. But I’m just saying it’s really common that people can end up feeling that way, and it keeps them stuck.

Now, what you’ll notice with this self-sacrifice piece is there are also other patterns that are connected at a bigger level. And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer Dee.

Here we go.

Hmm. Bingo. So by the way, did you wear diapers when you were younger?

As a baby, yeah.

Yeah. Uhhuh. Okay. Do you still wear them now?

No.

Oh! Oh, okay. So you—you changed?

Oh yeah.

Oh! Okay. That’s great. That’s great. I like it. I like it.

So the thing of it is, is that notice how there’s a part of you—bingo—well, let’s go this way: if I ask you, zero to ten, can you give me also your father’s initial please?

A.

Bingo. Okay. So this is what I want you to notice. So notice for a moment, if I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find the feeling of feeling victim to your dad, what would you say?

Uh… It’s like, no, but there’s attachment. And that’s also a…

Bingo. Okay. So he was hugely abusive and mean, correct?

No.

Oh. He wasn’t?

Just—just what? Go ahead.

Just… confusing.

Bingo. Just confusing. Confusing. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

Now, notice for a moment—if I ask you—the level of frustration of needing to fix some of these patterns, where you notice a pattern comes up and you go, “Oh, well I got that from childhood,” and “Oh, this came up and I got it from childhood.”

If I ask you to notice the part of you that is frustrated with the patterns you got from childhood—what would you say?

Uh… I had like a “Ha!” like a surprise. It came up as like a five.

Okay. I would’ve maybe even said a little higher. But I love your awareness. Totally. So either way—you can see it, right?

Yeah. Yeah, yeah.

Okay. Now this is the thing—bingo. So, so often when people are working with the mind, they may have a tendency to go, “Oh, I’m working on this. I’m working on where I feel sorry for self. I feel sorry for self that my mom gave me this, or my dad gave me that,” blah, blah, blah. You get what I’m saying, right? You see it?

Yeah. Uhhuh.

And then it can feel like, “Oh, victim energy,” or frustrating, or whatnot. You get what I’m saying, right?

Yeah. Uhhuh.

And if I ask you how much you have felt that, what would you say?

Uh, felt that or know that?

Yeah, felt that.

Uh, yeah. In the past, that’s like an eight, nine.

Pretty high. Pretty weighted down by some of that stuff, right?

Uhhuh. Uhhuh.

Now I want you to think about parents for a moment. They do this—you ready?—because, kind of like this: diapers served you in the past, but they don’t necessarily serve you now, right?

Uhhuh.

Okay. Now, there are some things that served you in the past that you no longer need now also. And, for example—bingo—did your parents necessarily teach you growing up that you have to put everybody else first? Did they really actually teach you that? Like, “Everybody else comes first, you’re last”?

Yes, I want to say that. So they—I want to say yes, but also no. That’s the confusing part. So yes, my dad would be like, “Yeah, go for what you want,” but also, “Put others first, it’s selfish for me to put myself first, help others, put them first.”

Okay. Now was it just different things at different times?

Probably.

Okay. So are there maybe some times—let’s say, for example, a child falls down and skins their knee and I’m there to help, but I’m like, “Oh, you know what? Actually, I have a nail appointment to go to. I’m going to go ahead and do that first.” So maybe in that situation, if a child falls down and skins their knee, I need to make sure they’re okay first, right?

Uhhuh.

So I might need to, in that moment, respond to it—kind of like, okay, let’s assess the situation, right?

Uhhuh.

But then there are other moments where it’s like… So maybe it’s confusing because all is true.

Uhhuh.

Okay. Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause) Bingo. Yes.

So basically, where I’m going is this: Sometimes all things can be true. And another thing is this: sometimes we’re just changing. Like imagine for a moment a young child who has a little binky, like a little blanket or a pacifier or a stuffed animal or something like that at a young age—could that be soothing for the child and comforting?

Yes.

Yes. Now if they go to college with that, or high school with the binky or the little stuffed animal, do you think that’s going to be still soothing?

Probably not.

Probably—how do you think it’ll go if they’re showing up at a high school or college with a little binky and a stuffed animal?

That would be… I want to say strange, but if it serves them… okay?

Okay. It probably wouldn’t make—no, they probably haven’t grown out of it. It probably wouldn’t make them a lot of friends, right?

Yeah.

It probably would not be so soothing—it’d probably be a bit of a social disconnect, right?

Mm-hmm. Yep.

Okay. So my point is that sometimes in stages, we have certain things that served us at one point, but they don’t serve us at another. And we really need to make that change. Does that make sense?

Yes.

Time to Update the Programming

Now, if we just look at that for a moment dynamically, where we can see, “Hey, you know what? Sometimes maybe we got some mind programming from a parent that was accurate in a moment, but not in another moment,” or that we can see the past and go, “Okay, well I get why they raised me in this way in the past, but now we need to change it and evolve it.”

And so things can continue to grow and evolve and change and flourish, right? We can flourish in different times—as a child versus as an adult, etc. Does that make sense?

Yes.

Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause) Bingo.

And so if I ask you to notice the part of you that has kind of, in the past, felt like a victim of life—have kind of felt like a victim of life and of people—can you see that?

There’s a situation that comes up. I’m not sure if I should… if it’s okay to share it.

Yeah, go ahead.

And I know it’s being recorded, so it might trigger some things, but there’s also a sexual assault and a rape that’s come up when you were just mentioning “victim” then, of life.

Okay. Yeah. Okay. And how long ago was that?

So one was like 10 years ago, and the other was maybe 20 years ago.

Okay. Okay. And, bingo.

Okay. And so I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause)

If I ask you, do you feel like you’re ready to let those go?

Yeah. One of them I thought I was completely finished with, but yeah, it popped up when you mentioned it.

Yeah. Okay. So it popped up when I mentioned it, right?

Uhhuh.

Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

Now this is the thing. Notice the first thing I said—I asked you if you were ready to let it go, right? Because I don’t want you to feel like I’m responding without compassion. Because I can have absolute compassion, and also can absolutely…

This is the thing, right? If these are affecting you 10 years from now, 20 years from now, 40 years from now, then how much did you let them go?

Uh… yeah. I didn’t.

You didn’t, right?

Yeah.

So this is the thing. Bingo.

And by the way, I had my own event with this many, many years ago. I shared it on Episode Number 9 of the podcast, yada yada. So I’ve worked through my own stuff—Uhhuh—and so as we talk about this, if it sounds like I’m like, “Okay, let’s move through it,” it’s not to be insensitive. It’s because I’ve been there, done that, moved on, let it go, blah blah blah. Does that make sense?

Yeah, absolutely. I don’t feel that you’re insensitive. And that’s what I mean—like, I felt like I let it go. It’s just a story, it’s just an aspect, and it’s not me. But when you mentioned “victim,” I was like, “Oh, that became really heavy.” So yeah, you there—this is very helpful. Thank you.

Absolutely. Perfect, perfect, perfect. Okay, so I love, love, love the way you’re showing up. Fantastic job.

Stepping Out of Victim Patterns

So this is what’s going to happen. I’m going to navigate this. I don’t know exactly where I’m going yet, but I’m going to navigate this, and then if there’s any part where you’re like, “Hey, I’m not ready to change it,” boom, you just tell me and we respect that and we move and we go in a different direction, okay? So we’re just going to be present and aware, and our goal is to just move through it. Does that sound good?

Yes.

Okay. Fantastic. I’m so impressed with you. All right, here we go. Here we go. Here we go.

(pause) All right. So—bingo. Okay. So what I want you to notice—so when I look at this pattern of feeling like a victim, okay—if I ask you when the pattern first started, what would you say?

The number five came up—when I was five years old. I don’t know why.

Bingo. Bingo. Bingo. I love your awareness.

So the problem is this, right? Is that then, if you feel like a victim, the problem is it attracts more victim. And then it attracts more victim. And then… da-da-da-da-da-da. Does that make sense?

Yeah, absolutely.

Okay. So—bingo.

By the way, the connection with the person D that you mentioned, right?

Uhhuh.

If I ask you how much you feel taken advantage of in that situation, what would you say—in a different way, what would you say?

I don’t understand. “Taken advantage” in a different way?

Well, if I ask you how much you feel… you feel victim in that situation—we’ll put it that way. If I ask you how much you feel victim?

Okay. Six, seven comes up.

Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

And if I ask you why?

The… the loss came up.

The loss. Did you lose D?

No.

Exactly. So yeah—so wait a second. You’re feeling like a victim because of a loss, and you haven’t lost.

Uhhuh.

Okay.

Does that make sense?

No, absolutely does.

Fantastic. Fantastic. I love your awareness. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

Now, this is what’s important for patterns: Notice—bingo—like if I ask you—so let’s do this. If I ask you, number one, do you really, really, really feel like your dad treated you poorly?

No. He was… it came from love. It was just confusing.

Okay. And he was doing what from love?

Uh… safety. Protection.

Okay. But what was he doing?

Oh… um… manipulating.

Okay. And what was he manipulating?

How I should be.

Okay. So he was trying to shape you as a human being?

Uhhuh.

Now what bad thing did he—like if you said, “Oh, he did this and it was bad,” just bluntly, what would you say?

Uh… putting me down.

What’s that?

Putting me down.

Okay. So he was putting you down. Uhhuh.

Okay. Like how?

The way that he was speaking to me.

Okay. So the way that he was speaking and like—okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause) Bingo.

And what would he say? He called you what? He said you were like stupid and all those things, right?

Mm-hmm.

Okay. What else did he say?

Uh… there were things that were not my fault that I was blamed for. I was not, like, trusted or believed when I said something that was honest. Um… yeah. Selfish. Ungrateful.

Okay. Okay. So now I have a question for you. Did you ever actually lie as a child?

Yes.

Okay. And then he didn’t trust—so then he wasn’t sure, right? Could be?

Uhhuh.

Okay. Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause)

And can you see both sides of the story there? Can you see both sides?

Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I know he is—yeah.

Yeah. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…

Now what I’m wanting you to look at here—there’s deep, deep victim feelings. Like even if you think about it, your current partner situation or your—the current D, I’m sorry. Yeah, your current D situation. Notice you have a feeling of victim from loss, and you haven’t even lost.

Yeah. It’s because I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what else to do.

Yes. But I’m going to ask you to breathe… (pause)

Choosing Empowerment Over Victimhood

And what if you decided to shift this pattern? If you said, “Okay, I’m not going to be a victim of anything anymore. I’m going to take control of how I feel, how I heal, how I live.”

Yeah. That’s what I want.

Good. Because this is the breakthrough moment. Right here. This is that point where you recognize the old pattern. You honor it. You’ve acknowledged what’s happened. But now it’s time to create something new—something empowering.

So I’m going to ask you to breathe again… and this time, breathe in the energy of strength. Of choice. Of possibility. And let go—let go of being stuck. Let go of old stories. And let yourself begin to move forward.

You with me?

Yes. Completely.

Beautiful.

Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice the part of you that’s still feeling sorry for self. And I say that with the most compassion, because it’s not about judgment. It’s about awareness. It’s about choosing to let go of victimhood and step into empowerment. Do you see it?

Yes. I can feel that shift already. I don’t want to carry it anymore.

Perfect. And as you feel that, I want you to really embrace a new energy. One where you’re not defined by the past. Where you feel good—like life is moving in a positive direction. Can you find that feeling?

Yes. It’s like a freedom. A lightness.

Beautiful. That’s it. That’s the shift.

And I’m going to ask you to really embrace that—mentally, emotionally, energetically—and let that become your new default, your new normal.

Yes. Thank you. I can feel it.

So proud of you. So much progress and awareness. And what’s powerful is that you’re seeing it now. You’re owning it. You’re ready to release the old patterns and step into a new chapter.

I really am. I feel like something major just clicked.

Beautiful.

Creating New Neural Pathways

Now from here, it’s about repetition. Reinforcing these new thoughts, these new emotions. Giving your mind new neural pathways—like we talked about at the beginning. Because when we reinforce new empowering patterns, we’re literally rewiring the brain and body for healing and happiness.

So I want to invite you to really practice that. Whether it’s through daily affirmations, visualization, emotional shifts—keep embedding that new sense of empowerment. And if something tries to pull you back to old feelings of victim or guilt, catch it. Interrupt it. And remind your mind of this new direction you’re choosing.

I will. I’m so grateful for this clarity. It feels like a real breakthrough.

That’s exactly what it is. A breakthrough. And I’m just sending you so much love on your journey. You’re doing beautifully.

Thank you. Thank you so much, Brandy.

You are so welcome. And thank you for your openness, your heart, your self-awareness. It’s been such a gift to connect with you.

You too.

All right. Take it in. Breathe it in. And hold that shift. You’ve got this.

Final Reflections and Takeaways

[00:26:00] All right. So let’s go ahead and unpack this even further. First and foremost, I just love our volunteer. I love her heart, her self-awareness, her willingness to show up with such honesty and vulnerability—it’s just beautiful. And as you can see, the insights from this session are profound.

When we really start to identify patterns of self-sacrifice, victimhood, and even subconscious beliefs that keep us stuck, we open the door to transformation. It’s not just about being aware of those patterns—it’s about being willing to let them go and create something new.

One of the biggest things I want to highlight from this episode is the importance of choosing to feel empowered. Letting go of old identities—whether it’s feeling like a victim, feeling unworthy, or like you always have to put others first—can be so freeing. But it also requires repetition. Rewiring your brain with new emotional habits, new thought patterns, and new ways of being.

That’s the key to real, lasting transformation. And the truth is, you have that power. Each and every one of us does.

So as you reflect on this episode, I want to invite you to ask yourself: Where might I be holding onto old emotions, stories, or beliefs that are no longer serving me? And what would it look like to truly step into empowerment, into joy, into healing?

Because when you do, not only can it shift how you feel emotionally—but it can shift your health and your life as well.

Sending you so much love, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. And please do make a point to hit the share button—you know, share this episode with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. The more empowered and happy and healthy that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us. So please do make a point to hit the share button and make a difference in somebody’s life.

And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. I’ll see you there.