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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore. And after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life.  Minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.  Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy. to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life. Let's begin. 

Hello, and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode, where we talk about insights and questions. And today, I want to share with you two key insights that can help you to create transformation. in your life, in your emotions, in your healing, in your relationships, and really ultimately your happiness as well.

And it's this, it's that all of the time, people may be overlooking the key thing that is pivotal to creating that change for healing and to build on today's insight, I want to use my recent volunteer from episode number 241. Now this woman, Suzette, just a beautiful, beautiful being, just positive, sweet, happy, loving.

I mean, just really precious, just an amazing, amazing being. And if you listen to that episode 241, you'll recall she was really excited about playing pickleball, just absolutely in love with the game and so sweet towards her husband, loving her husband, sweet.  And Underneath on that episode, as we started to uncover, she had a feeling, a feeling like she  had been hurt.

She had her feelings hurt because he wanted to play pickleball with other people and not necessarily with her. And he felt like it was not great for their relationship, which honestly also just didn't work out. It shows how much he loves her as well. It's just really sweet and great communication. I mean, just a beautiful connection. 

And when we stop and think about it for a moment, if you think about this scenario where she is in love with him, even when I asked her how her relationship was with her husband, she said, Oh, it's sweet. It's wonderful. So you can see there's all this love. In her heart, in her relationship, and yet it hurt her feelings regarding Pickleball.

And it was something that she buried, you know? And it was also something she wanted to just let it go. But there was this underlying feeling of hurt, and especially being somebody who's very competitive, et cetera, et cetera. So,  All of the things, like it felt like there was a sport that she loved that then her husband didn't want to play with her.

And so  self criticism, I mean, it had all of these feelings connected to it. Now, if we stop and think about this awareness for a moment, there's a few things that you want to note. You know, first and foremost,  If you really think about it, a lot of times what people are doing when they're healing and working on healing is they're trying to just meditate or think positive and meditate, meditate.

And this is what I had been doing also is I did this for years and it wasn't working.  Now, If you think about it for a moment, in her situation, she wants to heal so badly,  and  if you think about it, addressing specific hurts, wounds, is so important. And so, even in my life, I had been doing exactly that. I was meditating, and thinking positive, and, and doing all the things, the binaural beats, the fan and face frequencies, the affirmations, the, you name it, theta state, delta state, like all of the things. 

And yet I was overlooking the key pieces that were pivotal for my life, for my healing. And so, you know, a lot of times when I say to people that,  you know, you need to do more than just meditate or different than meditate, you know, that's because that's where I see the healing results. And what I love about,  you know, looking at her situation is that she was already very positive, very sweet, very loved, very everything.

Just. Precious.  It wasn't like, you know, she was in a negative state, which in my situation, I mean, I was in a really bad state. I had been injured and then my entire life fell apart even more and fear and stress. And I mean, I was in a bad spot in so many ways, but in her situation, happy, positive, sweet, loving, great.

It just, so, so when you think about it for a moment, my point is, no matter where we are in our lives,  Whether it was my situation where I was in a really bad place or her situation where she's in a great place but has underlying wounding, that is the key. And the reason I emphasize this is I just can't tell you how often I see people who've been doing all of the things, like I was.

They're meditating and thinking positive and visualization and, and theta state or delta state and doing all of the things.  And yet not healing. But when we really identify that specific thing and create a transformation, it can be pivotal in so many ways, not only for our healing, but also relationship, life, all the things moving forward.

So that's one insight that I want to invite you to look at from this. Now, the other thing is, is this, is  If you think about the second insight, and this is something that also just comes up a lot and is concerning,  not just in her situation, building beyond her situation, just using it as a segue, but what can happen a lot of times is this,  is that we can take things  to heart. 

In the wrong way, that then becomes painful. And this is what I mean. For example,  if you think about, let's use a gentleman, for example, like let's say there's a man who,  um, is, who is, let's say there's a man who asks a woman out. And she says, no. And he says, okay. And he moves on, right? Okay. Well, he'll ask somebody else out.

No big deal. She said, no, not a big thing. You know, and he'll find another woman. He's feels confident. He feels secure in himself. No big deal. She's not interested. But then let's say there's a different man who asks a woman out and she says no. And he feels like, Oh, that was huge rejection. That was just painful.

Now, When you think about it for a moment, the same experience happens,  but it's also about how we take it, how we label things.  And a lot of times what happens is that if we're labeling things and taking them in in an unhealthy way,  it can really hurt us. You know, if you think about going back to her situation,  how sweet her relationship is and how loving it is, and there's no real rejection. 

But there's hurt there. And that's the point that I really want to emphasize is that sometimes as we take information in or we have an experience, we can take it in and it can be devastating and painful when it really doesn't need to be. And so we can learn to take in information in a way that is more healthy.

And so that's the insight that I want to bring in. Now, the reason that I want to bring that in is this.  Is that  I'm noticing more and more and more how there are certain labels. in psychology that are coming up.  Like, uh, well, I'll use for example, a simple example, the narcissist or abusive.  What's happening is that a lot of people are adding more and more and more labels to it.

So in other words,  using the same scenario of rejection,  let's say for example, when, when I use the example of the guy who said,  asked a woman out and she said, no, if one person says, oh, well, she's just not interested. That's one way to take it. If the other situation, he feels like he was rejected, that's another way to take it.

Now, nobody wants to feel rejected, but not interested. Okay, well, she's not interested. Not that big of a deal. Oh, I was rejected. Like, it's like taking it personally in a more painful way. So my point is,  is that  a lot of times you may have noticed there's more and more labels Showing up around psychology of wounding or of, or getting more and more labels.

And what's happening, what I'm seeing a lot of is I'm seeing people who are actually ending up reinforcing the wound and keeping themselves more stuck. And you may remember on a past episode where I worked with a volunteer who had had a certain  relationship in the past. And basically a long story short,  she added the label of abusive to a past relationship. 

And it impacted her health and kept her from healing herself. And so  my point is from this  is that we have to be careful about labels and we have to be careful about way, the way that we assimilate and take in information and make sure that we're doing so in a way that is healthy, because All the time I'll see people who are even like if you think about our beautiful volunteer, loving being in a wonderful relationship, wonderful marriage, very loved and yet this information comes in and it becomes painful  that it's affecting her  at a deeper level and And so ultimately that's what we really want to think about is exactly that making sure that you're taking in Information in a healthy way, and if not just simply reprogramming your mind to do so all right I want to ask you as always please do Take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode.

You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more that every single person is happy and healthy and loved and loving, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic rest of your day.

I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there. 

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time, people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Thanks. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those, you know, who really need it.  As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness.

By showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. 

And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at  BrandyGillmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.  Lastly, please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds With what you're capable of with your mind.

Thank you.