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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and body. Your emotions and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello, and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode, where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to share with you a very powerful insight regarding boundaries and setting boundaries. And, you know, it's kind of a buzzword. A lot of times you hear people say, I'm setting my boundaries, and there's a lot of energy around it.

And that's part of the reason that I wanted to take a moment and unpack this. The universe kind of gave a bit of a nudge from the last podcast episode with our volunteer, Jeanette. And if you listened to that episode, you know, I was working with her regarding a variety of different patterns that came up.

And one of those was a pattern of feeling stubborn. And, if you recall from the end of the session, we were talking about how if somebody has an identity of feeling stubborn, then they're subconsciously going to want to manifest more situations where they're being stubborn. And, the reason being is because at a subconscious level, Whatever we identify as being, it's like our energy wants to keep creating that.

Just like if somebody identifies, unfortunately, as being a quote unquote loser, then they'll find one situation after another after another where they feel that. Or somebody who identifies as being a victim. Then they'll attract more and more situations like that. Or somebody who identifies as a winner, on a positive note.

You know, or somebody who identifies as being cool. And, you know, it's like they could go to a different country and walk into a place they've never been before, and everybody's like, hey, you know, they can easily connect with people because that's just who they are. And so that's what manifests and unfolds wherever they go, you know, for the most part.

Of course, that's a simplified version because everybody can have a variety of different patterns going on, but you get the point, that whatever our dominant energy is, It's what we tend to manifest and, of course, we, most people manifest a variety of different things. They might have the feeling of stubborn and they also might have the feeling of loving and kind and, um, and hurt and victim.

I mean, they could go through a variety of different experiences. And so my point in that is this, is that if we take that awareness that, at a subconscious level, your mind is always wanting to subconsciously have those same patterns, like whether it's stubborn, which we had talked about on the last episode, or if it's victim or if it's winner or if it's loser, whatever, you know, whatever it is.

And all of the time, what I see happen with people is they have these patterns And then what happens is they say, well, I've got to set a boundary, and I better set a boundary here, and I better set a boundary here. And the easiest way to think about it is like this. If you think about the border between the U.

and Canada, it's a very peaceful border. You know, it's, it's very peaceful. And point being, is that even when you have boundaries, they should be peaceful. You don't want them to be charged. You don't want to be like, well, I had to set my boundary here and I had to set my boundary here. So if you have a charge around it, then there's conflict.

And you'll want to notice what pattern is there. And I'm going to unpack this a bit more because this might sound a bit complex. But again, if, if you look at the quote, unquote, border that we have with U. S. and Canada. Everybody just respects the border. It's easy. We have that border. There's no issue.

Canada respects it. We respect it here in the U. S. It's, it's great. We have a border and we know where it is and it's easy. So, that's a great thing, and that's the type of boundaries that you want. Like, you have easy bounda like, everybody just knows where your boundaries are, and it's great, and you've communicated that, just like, with, between US and Canada.

It's communicated, it's clear, everybody knows where the boundary is. And everybody knows what the boundary is and so it's great. Now what I see happen all the time when people kind of get into self help, they, they have this charge with them. They go, I'm going to set my boundaries. And then they also feel very proud to hold their boundaries.

So they go, yeah, I set a boundary and I held that boundary and I held that boundary. And notice that you'll want to keep in mind that anything that has an emotional charge to it has. an attraction to it, of that. And so you'll want to just have peaceful, non charged, blissful boundaries in your life. And if you notice yourself with charge around a boundary, then I want to invite you to look at what might be going on there and be willing to change it.

Because I've seen people before who say, well I took a class on setting boundaries and I set my boundaries and so and so's violating my boundaries and I have to put up my boundaries and I'm so happy and proud of myself for holding my boundary today. And when you think about it, obviously there's a pattern there.

And that's what I'll see. I'll see people who have huge victim patterns. And huge victim patterns. And so it's like magnetizing the very thing that they're then trying to hold back. I mean, it's kind of like pulling something in with your right hand and then pushing it away with your left hand as hard as you can and seeing which one wins.

And the truth of it is, is if you're pulling with one hand and pushing it away with the other, it becomes exhausting. And I've seen so many people who then discover the idea of boundaries and then they're excited about them and they feel, you know, and then they're charged with them and then after a while they feel exhausted at always trying to hold them up.

And so that's what I want to bring to the surface today is I want to invite you to look at your boundaries. And there's a few things that I want to invite you to look at when it comes to boundaries. And so the top three things, and we'll start with number three, first and foremost, I already mentioned it is if you have boundaries and you've set boundaries and you feel like they're always being charged, like if they're, they're energy, there's charged energy around it, then you want to notice and see what pattern you can find around that.

And I want to invite you to be willing to shift that. And so that's number one. It's kind of like, uh, let's say that there was some type of conflict between a boundary between the U. S. and Canada. And we say, hey, how do we resolve this? So we just have a piece of a border. And then we do. And so, ultimately, of course, what I want you to look at is inside of you first, and notice any type of pattern that might be there.

So, that's number three, and number two is, of course, the awareness of have you communicated? your boundaries. Are they clear? And, you know, if we take that same example of the border between the U. S. and Canada, imagine for a moment if we didn't have a clear border, and one country was always feeling upset about the other, and it wasn't clear.

It was like, hey, we're, you're on our side. It would just, imagine if it wasn't clear. And all of the time I see people who are feeling violated and upset and oh my god so and so is taking advantage of me and I can't believe it or they're over asking or they're this that or the other and they've never even kindly expressed what it is that they do want so what their desire is is never even expressed but yet they're very upset on the inside and they're holding it all on the inside you And it's charged.

And so you'll want to make sure if you notice that your boundary feels charged a bit, that you want to notice, have I actually made it really clear to the person in a loving, fun, wonderful, easeful way? Have I made that clear? So that's number two. And the number one insight that I want to share with you regarding boundaries is that I would invite you.

To not call them boundaries. And this is the reason why. Is that if you think about the word boundaries, It feels like living life on the defense. It feels rigid. It feels defensive. If, and so what I would invite you to actually just turn them into is more so your desires, your wants. And so you're happy to get your want.

So I want, things to go great. I want this to go this way in my life or whatever it is, but I want to invite you that after you've assessed the last two and, and really looked at taking the charge out of any quote unquote boundaries, but also making sure that you've set them and you've got clear on them.

And then Look at them through the perspective of wants or likes or desires, meaning that it just is, like it's harmonious, it feels great, and it's occurring, meaning that it's kind of, it's kind of hard to articulate this one, but what we're wanting to move away from is if I said, you know what, I have to keep boundaries up.

It feels defensive in life compared to if I said, you know, I, I set things the way that, that I want them to go and I've got a set way that I like things to go. And I, and I move things in that direction. And so it's the same thing. So I'm not saying don't have limits to things or don't have. quote unquote boundaries.

I'm just saying to look at them in the opposite way, where kind of like this is if I said, I have a bunch of boundaries set up of how I like things to be in my life. Or if I said, I have the way that I like things structured. And it feels really good. It's a structure or even in business, we might call it a SOP, you know, a standard operating procedure.

And so whatever it is, so you could set, instead of having boundaries, you say, Oh, here's my structure. Here's my standard operating procedure. Here's the way I operate. Here's the way I flow. And just because, again, there's so much charge around boundaries that I just see it backfiring in people's lives a lot.

And then not only that, but I'll see people who feel like they're supposed to make boundaries, like they'll learn that the whole goal is to make boundaries. And that's what they need to do. But then again, because they're also the one that's manifesting. Well, just like, you know, if somebody has victim energy and it's like, unfortunately, they're attracting victim type circumstances.

And then with the other hand, they're trying to set up that boundary to say, you don't stop. And it does, it feels exhausting. It feels like a losing battle because, you know, Your energy is powerful. So it feels like a losing battle. It feels exhausting. So then what happens is people tend to get more upset or more hurt or they go to try to set a boundary and then it backfires and, and all kinds of things come up.

And then I see people where, you know, it just, illness ends up manifesting in the physical body due to all of this charged energy around boundaries. And so that is The biggest insight that I really want to invite you to take from this is to make sure that you do have beautiful, peaceful boundaries that are actually feeling like beautiful wants and structure.

that you would like for it to be in your life, that where it's set up and it feels structured and there's a flow to it, but it feels empowered and harmonious and peaceful and beautiful. And so that's of course how we want life to look. And so, by the way, on that note, I'm going to ask you, as we wrap up, to please do make sure to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know.

The more empowered and peaceful and loving and harmonious and beautiful our world is, the more love and connection and just the healthier, happier our world is going to be. And so please do make sure to hit the share button and also please make it a wonderful day. Enjoy your day, smile, feel loved, spread love.

And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

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And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast.

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