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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and body. Your emotions and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights and questions. And today I want to share with you an insight to creating transformation and also It just, you know, I guess something from the heart that's going on in my own world and just kind of looking at the bigger picture of transformation and happiness and health and Mind programming, and emotions, and, and just creating a real change.

So, first and foremost, you know, recently I was leading a class, actually last week, and one of the people in the class asked me a question. She asked me, she said, So, now that you've reprogrammed your mind, are you like, just happy all of the time? And I responded to her and I said, you know, yeah, most of the time, very, like extremely happy.

I mean, almost all of the time. And, and I said to her, you know, I said, of course. There was, you know, if I lost an animal or something comes up, sometimes there's some emotions that I'll have to process and say, okay, well how do I shift this and, and really shift it? But for the most part, I wake up happy. I wake up excited.

Like I just, I, I feel really, really happy about my days and, and my life and I feel good. And even with a friend of mine, we have this joke about. You know, crying down PCH, which is, PCH is Pacific Coast Highway, which is the highway one that goes up and down the coast here, and it just, tears of, of just loving life, where you're just, you know, just driving down the highway, loving life, not because anything amazing happened, yes, there's plenty of amazing things, but just because life is beautiful and you just feel that way.

Now. I gotta be honest, you know, there wasn't always that feeling, even if I was just driving down the Pacific Coast Highway, because if, you know, things can be going on inside and, you know, prior to rewiring my mind, it didn't always feel like, you know, the most amazing thing in the world. And I'm sorry.

You know, she asked me that, and, and, you know, that's what I told her. I said, yes, usually, and, by the way, just to be completely transparent, that's my norm. So that is my norm. I'm happy, I'm full of life, I'm laughing, I'm smiling, I feel really, really good. And, every so often I get a little bit ambitious about what I can achieve in a day, um, in my schedule.

Because I just, I love to, like, I want to do this, and I want to do that, and I want to do this. And sometimes I will overload my schedule a little bit where I'm like, eek! You know, and I've got to readjust things. So it's not perfect. Is there ever a time that I'm ever off a little bit because of that? But for the most part, you know, 99 percent of the time I am.

happy and excited and feeling good and that's my norm. And I had something come up this weekend that it was a curveball. You know, a friend of mine who I didn't talk to in a while, uh, their son, uh, killed himself and it just, you know, it, it was, it felt like a punch in the gut. It just off, you know, and, and not because I, I didn't know their son personally, but seeing my friends.

So. shattered. Who's, who's doing well and who's working on processing and all of that. But it just, it, it hurt my heart. It did. It was one of those things that just, it, it, uh, You know, it just got me. It, uh, and I had to shift my own energy. It just, it brought tears to my eyes. It just, you know, it just, you know, you don't want to see any of your friends or anybody, you know, or anybody in the world, even, you know, feeling that offness and I, it just, I hadn't talked to this particular friend for a while, but just, uh, hearing their voice and just, you know, the situation and just feeling the energy of it and, and it just having so much compassion and, and You know, I want to add a couple just insights to this IQ episode as well, because this actually just just happened this weekend.

So it just, uh, it's new and, uh, and that's kind of what's on, you know, what's on my mind is, is exactly that, is that, is that real change is so important. And so on that note, you know, that's something else. So I want to bring in some insights from that. even bringing in some insights from the last podcast episode also about creating a real shift.

You know, if you think about the latest volunteer, Elena, pushing for a shift, you know, wanting to create a real shift in life. And so that's really the focus of insight that I want to bring to this episode right here is exactly that is creating a real shift. And I guess if we were going to bring this episode, a specific highlight to this episode, it would be to create, you know, real, real change in your emotions, not just your thinking, but to really feel a radical shift.

And I think, you know, if most of you who know my story, if you've heard my story, then, you know, you know that I was, There was also a point where my mind was stuck on autopilot, wanting to exit life. Like, I mean, I literally was laying in bed injured, and I was laying there, you know, in so much pain, and I would hear the trash truck drive by.

And it would make me think, I wonder if I could get in my wheelchair fast enough and push my chair in front of the trash truck and just end it all. And then the next thing that would flash in my mind would be, you know, killed by trash truck written on my, on my tombstone. I'm like, eek, don't want to do that.

And then not only that, but you know, this poor guy feeling, you know, guilty and bad. And so I was like, delete, delete, delete, can't do that. Nope, bad plan. You know, I didn't want to make anybody feel bad. And, but my point is, is that my brain was very much stuck there. It was like anything, driving to the hospital, my brain would think literally about opening the door on the freeway.

And it was like my brain was on autopilot wanting to leave life. It wasn't like I was trying to, like, think of some strategy. It was like my brain was doing that for me. You know, and I, so, it was like, no thanks for the help, brain. I need to really, really think. reprogram my mind. That's actually one of the things that made me really, really need to change is that my brain and what it was doing, like I got to a point that it really started scaring me.

My thoughts scared me and I said, I've got to figure this out. And that was one of the things that led to a change in my life is that I just really got determined to change, to feel differently, to shift it and You know, wherever you are, whether it's health related or life related or happiness slash depression related or wherever it is, that determination to make a real change just fueled me.

And I kind of feel that same feeling right now where I'm watching my friend who had this horrible experience. You know, I know my friend enough to know that My friend will come out on the other side and will come out stronger and will turn this into uh, something that ultimately ends up becoming a transformation for, for um, better and more empowerment.

And right now, of course, it's, it's raw. But on that note, with me seeing this, you know, and, and going through and having this, it just, it just. It fuels me to want just, I just emphasize to people, to emphasize to everybody, to just creating that real, real, real change starts with your emotions. You can't think your way out, like you've really got to make an emotional shift and The interesting thing about this timing is if you think about the last episode.

That I worked with the session with Elena you think about the last IQ episode if you recall from that episode I'm pushing her in that episode really really hard. I'm like, but you know, I'm really Invalidating her feelings saying, you know You don't need this, you know, you know, you don't need to feel that way.

You don't need to feel that way and I'm really really invalidating her emotions And there's a reason for that. And kind of bringing this all together, it's exactly that. It's this. It's that if your brain feels like an emotional pattern is valid in your mind, it will continue to create more and more and more of that feeling.

Even if you don't want it. Like if somebody says, you know what? I feel so angry and I have every right to be, but I'm gonna try to get myself to stop. It's like you can't validate any emotion and also get rid of it at the same time. It's like trying to pull something with your right hand and get rid of it with your left hand.

It becomes a huge struggle, and so. What you ultimately want to do is, if there is a strong emotion of hurt, of upset, of rejection, of anger, of this, that, the other, instead of validating it, you'll want to invalidate it, you know, and really allow yourself to invalidate it. And by the way, I have literally worked with people before where at the very beginning of the session I've said, you know, I know that there's something that you believe and you feel right now very strongly.

That we are going to invalidate and I don't know what it is exactly, I just want to let you know it's coming. Like we're going to take something and invalidate it, I just feel that that's what's going to show up. So whatever it is, whenever we get to that point, please come with me. So you know, I've said that to people before because I really wanted them to make the change.

And as you can see with the last session with Elena. It was exactly that, you know, if you think about it for a moment, on one hand, she's a woman who has two young kids, who's very overwhelmed in life and feels like she's doing everything herself. And I can have absolute compassion for what she's feeling, like I get it, I understand it.

And I think everybody at some point has been overwhelmed in life. I know I have had times of feeling overwhelmed with things. Like, oh my god, life is more than I can handle in my past. And I said, you know what? That means I just need to grow. I need to grow and I need to be okay and I need to shift, right?

I need to stop validating the overwhelm. I need to instead find the success, find the solution, find the breakthrough. And so even in working with her, you know, a woman with two kids, young kids, and A job, and everything else, and feeling like everything is on her shoulders, and feeling overwhelmed and blah blah blah blah blah, like all of that stuff.

Could I have looked at it from the same angle as her, and validated all of her emotions and said, yes, this is valid, this is valid, sure, I absolutely could have done that, and her pain would have gone up, and I would have reinforced the problem in her. So I could have said, Oh my God, yes, your ex husband, he's horrible and he's terrible and he's doing this and I can't believe it and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and it would have made it worse.

But instead, if you think back to the last episode, that's not what I did. And the reason for that is because if you recall, she has beliefs that says you can't count on men. and that she's proud of doing everything herself. Now, if she keeps those beliefs of feeling proud of doing everything herself, she's going to keep feeling extreme overwhelmed like she is, and also a belief that you can't count on men at all, and that's her life?

Well, that's going to be horrible if she keeps those beliefs, especially because she wants to be in love, and she wants to have a man she can count on, and so shattering those beliefs. and changing those feelings is important for her success and her transforming her life. So that's when, you know, I start going, you know what?

You're not doing everything yourself. You didn't build the roads. You didn't build the this. You didn't build your house. You didn't blah, blah, blah. Men did or other people did. So you can count on other people. So it's important to make that shift. And you want to notice that I wasn't just saying this to her because let's be honest.

She's a smart woman. So there's already a part of her intellectually? Who knows this? But instead, I pushed her emotionally to create that shift, which you can also see as I was working with her, it's releasing her pain. And there's still another piece. So if you recall, we've done already part of the episode, but the other part of the session is coming up on one more piece.

of that episode where she gets her pain all the way down. That's been going on for years. So she gets her pain down. She does that. And of course I coach her to do that. I'm pushing her to do that. But she makes that shift and that's what her body's trying to share with her. Now my point here is Is that all of the time people are wanting validation for their emotions or they're wanting to lock them in, they're wanting to label them, to call them this or that, or, you know, this is this and, and, you know, well, my, my ex did this or my so and so did this or people are doing this and they want validation from others.

They want you to say, oh my gosh, yes, you're right. Or yes, you're right. Or you. You know, you may notice that you've had some hurt, or you've had some overwhelm, or you've had some rejection, and you want somebody to validate it and say, yes, that guy who rejected you, that rejection, it was him, he was horrible, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

But, what happens is it just ingrains the pattern. It just validates it even more, and even if you don't want the pattern to continue, it ingrains it further. And so that's the insight that I want to leave you with today is this, is that if you notice yourself in your life validating your negative emotions, instead of doing that, I want to invite you to start invalidating that.

So that's one insight that I want you to take from that. The other insight, and why this is really kind of powerful timing, is if you think about how much This current volunteer, how much I've been pushing her to change, and the reason why is if you think about it, she has been so very stuck in intense emotions, intense anger, intense blame, intense, like extremely intense emotions that if I just simply talked to her and just said, oh, okay, well, you know, and just talked to her intellectually, she's not gonna have that real shift.

And which won't take her out of pain. So I won't be able to create that shift to, to help her, to show her that she can get out of pain, to create that emotion, like that, that real shift. So she needs to see it. And of course my goal with that is once she can see it, then she can see the importance of shifting these emotions.

And so that's the second insight that I want to bring to you is also that. Is that you can't think your way out of, typically out of negative emotions. That you've got to create an emotional shift. And that's what helps to create a paradigm shift. And what I mean by that is this. Is if you ask somebody who's really, really, really, really angry.

You go, they're really, really, really, really angry in their relationship and they're so upset and frustrated and pissed off at their partner and you say, can you name something great about your partner? They're not going to be as resourceful and you're probably not going to get the same answer as if they feel in love and they feel so in love with the person that they're happy with the person at the time they go oh my god this person does this and this and this like they'll have a lot more of an answer they can think of more things more easily you know or somebody who's had like really really frustrated in life I know if you asked me At my low point, what did I love about life?

I would have been like, I don't know, the ocean, the sky, that's, you know, palm trees, you know, it would have been, um, you know, hard to really think about it. Now it's so much easier. It's, you know, it's, there's a shift. They're not just a shift in myself, but then a shift also in my life. And so point being is that the more I You create an emotional shift the more you shift your pain, the more you shift your life, your perspective, and that, that's also a key to creating a real transformation in life, and that's also what you see me doing on this episode, this last episode.

The reason that I am pushing so hard is just because I need that emotional shift. She's a very smart woman, but the intellectual shift wouldn't have done it, but the emotional shift is. And so those are the key insights that I want to share with you on today's episode. And lastly, I do want to say that if you or somebody that you know is deaf, having a hard time with heavy emotions or depression or sadness and struggling and all of that.

I actually did a training on happiness and some shifts that you can do in your life and some understanding of your mind and how to work with it in a different way. It was like a one hour masterclass on some insights to start creating that shift. And so That said, if you are somebody who is feeling challenged in this area, or just having a hard time, and you're really needing to start creating a shift to create a real lift in your emotions, and you're really working on that, then I am going to have my team leave a link to that free training in the show notes to this episode.

So you're welcome to share it with somebody. Or, if you are somebody who has been feeling stuck emotionally, and feeling a lot of those negative feelings, then I would strongly recommend listening in, taking some notes, really creating a shift in your life. Alright? So, that said guys, you know, more than ever, happiness, positivity, mental health, physical health, shifting and really creating happiness is so, so, so important.

And so, on that note, I want to ask you to please do subscribe. Make a point to hit the share button, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, somebody you don't even know. The more that we are able to really create that change in the world, the better it is for all of us, the happier, healthier everybody is.

The better, more beautiful our world is. And so just on that note, please do make a point to have a most incredible, wonderful rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time, people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point, and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast.

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Thank you.