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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and body. Your emotions and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello, and welcome to this week's quick IQ episode, where we talk about insights and questions. And today I have a really quick, but powerful insight for you that continues to build on our question from last week. Now, if you recall in last week's IQ episode, The question that was asked was that, you know, can we just ask the universe to get rid of these negative programming and negative patterns?

And if you recall, a part of what we had talked about was that childhood patterns can get linked up in the brain in a way that they're serving us in some way. And as an example, I used the really common pattern of, you know, if somebody feels sympathy as a kid. Then, in some ways, they can be getting love and connection from that sympathy.

So where, you know, that's their way of connecting with people and getting love. And so, what happens is that even though a person may consciously want to get rid of that pattern, because it's also helping them to get love and connection, there's a part of their brain that doesn't want to get rid of that pattern, and it creates a struggle.

It's like The left hand wanting to push something away as hard as it possibly can, but the right hand trying to hold on to it. And so a lot of times that's the reason that change can feel like a struggle. It's because part of your brain wants it and part of your brain, your conscious mind is like, eek, I do not want this pattern.

Okay. So that was the example we had been talking about over the last couple episodes in various ways of really understanding more about how your mind programming works. So we talked about that and that those were childhood patterns. Now, in today's episode, I want to take this to the next level because all of the time, what I'll see with people is when they start working with their mind or they get into spirituality, they end up.

creating more of these patterns and they don't even realize it. And what you'll see happen is that you'll see, you know, maybe you've seen it in spiritual communities where there's sometimes more sickness and more problems and more hardship and struggle and all of those things. And a lot of times what again happens is people are accidentally programming in negative programming that's not serving them.

And I'm going to give you a scenario of what you won't want to do and then what you'd want to do instead. And for example, let's say one scenario that I've seen many times before is I'll see somebody who, Let's say they start getting into spirituality or power of the mind or metaphysics or quantum physics, whatever it is.

And because they have this new consciousness, you know, this new awareness, they can tend to have a bit maybe of a righteousness or feeling superior or feeling like others are inferior. Now, what can happen is even if they're not trying to feel this feeling, they can feel the feeling and it kind of, you know, exudes from them a bit.

And what will happen is I've seen many times where. their relationships start to get friction, you know, this happens or that. Like, it's just like, people are like, there's just can be more friction in relationships. And then if we build on that, what'll happen is that I've seen, it's very common that then let's say the relationship doesn't work out in whatever way.

A lot of times we'll use this spiritual person example. They might tell themselves, well, the universe was just clearing space for me. And so what happens is that a person may experience rejection or hurt or loss or feeling alone and then they'll immediately tell themselves, well, I'm just too spiritual.

Everybody just doesn't understand me. I'm just so aware or people just don't get me. I'm so lost. Advanced beyond them, or the universe was clearing them out. There are low vibration being, you know, different things like that. Now, what happens? is that these end up creating new patterns. And by the way, you'll see people post things like this all the time on social media, even, you know, I do.

Where somebody's like, yeah, so and so left, but that's okay. The universe was just making space and clearing them out of their way. They must have been bad energy. Now, I want to unpack this because if you are familiar with my story, with my work, all of that, then of course you know that I am all about finding the gift in healing.

In fact, you'll hear me say all the time through my injury that it ended up becoming a life changing gift. And it wasn't my injury that became the gift. It was my recovery. That was the fact that I changed. So there's a major distinction and that's where we're going is exactly that. Is that if you In your mind, experience rejection, or hurt, or abandonment, or upset, or feeling unincluded, or left out, or anything, any, even, somebody can do that towards a job, where they feel like, oh, I got fired, what was just the universe telling me, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, you know, uh, there's a gift.

And, there is a gift in change, and there always is, but you won't want to link it up to the problem because that's where the problem occurs, meaning that let's say somebody experiences rejection and they say, well, that was just the universe clearing the path for me. And they experienced rejection and that was just the universe clearing the path for me.

What happens is that they start to feel what they feel taken care of by the universe. They feel special. if they're rejected. So the two of those get linked up. Now, I know it doesn't make logical sense necessarily, but that's how the brain works. Just like somebody has a wedding song. If they listen to a song on their wedding, it wasn't necessarily that that song wasn't necessarily created for their wedding.

But if they listen to a song, particular song during their wedding, it gets linked up as. their wedding song, because the two things were happening at once. Or even if we think about a cutter, somebody who can unfortunately cut themselves and experience a sense of euphoria and relief from cutting themselves, clearly, you know, they have things linked up in a different way.

in their mind. Those two things get linked up. And so, instead, what a person would want to do is, let's say, using the same example, somebody did experience a hurt, or a hardship, or a rejection, or a this, that, the other. They would want to say, you know, of course, First thing, there is always a gift. Let me find it.

Let me find what the gift is. The problem is not the gift, but let me find the gift and also let me genuinely change the reason this happened. And so, in other words, let's say if we use the exact same initial scenario, where there was the person who was getting more spiritual and becoming arrogant or superior or better than, and having that air, let's say that rejection situation happened.

And instead, they say, you know, okay, well, everything will be okay, everything's going to be okay, it's going to be even better, and there is, let me definitely find the gift in this, there's always going to be a gift, and let me, let me do that, and also, let me understand why this happened. Is there something that I can change?

to not have this happen again. Is this a pattern? Is this my actions? Is this blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, whatever that is. And becoming self aware and self honest and dealing with and changing, why did it happen? So then it doesn't happen again. And of course, definitely not. Upleveling your life and saying, okay, well, that wasn't meant to be.

Let me, let me create the next better one. Great. It's the perfect attitude. It's a combination of being an optimist and purposely expecting and creating something even better in the face of adversity. And then it's also the combination of honest self reflection and honest self awareness. And maybe you end up finding that there was a pattern of rejection.

So maybe you clear that, or maybe it was your actions and righteousness or whatever it is, you know, but just being honest with self. Now that is genuine self awareness. growth. And unfortunately, what happens is all the time people end up skipping the genuine growth part. They're not really reflecting. And so then the problem gets linked up.

It's like, oh, well this hardship, but yes, the universe is just challenging me or, oh, I lost this job. Well, yep, that's okay. The universe is just making space for a new one. And so Literally what happens is negative circumstances get directly linked up to somehow being a good thing. And so a person will experience more and more hardship.

And by the way, part of the reason that I use this one towards rejection is because I've seen people go through that a lot where they feel more spiritual and they feel more alone than ever. in their lives and more disconnected than ever. And that is common. And then they'll say, well, that's, I'm just connected to the universe.

I'm just this, I'm just, or these people are less than and not spiritual enough. And, you know, let's be honest, there are 8 billion people on the planet almost. So there are plenty of spiritual people they connect with as well. Not to mention that we as human beings need love and we need human connection.

It helps us to flourish. It's good for our health, our happiness, our life, our dopamine, our, you know, just everything. So that said, the insight from today's episode is number one, if something negative has happened, then have a sense of honest self reflection as to why and also optimism and also look for the gift because If you change, it's always there.

Like it's always, if you just, if you're willing to change. So that's what I always say. You know, if you think about my injury, most people who have what I had do not get better. So that injury is not a gift. It is not, but I changed, I learned, I grew. And that's what resulted in a life changing gift. And so make sure not to overlook that part of the process of changing and growing and understanding.

So there is that. So that's number one. And number two is notice if you catch yourself doing this, because again, this is something that I see all the time. All of the time, I'll see it on social media or here, there, whatever it is, people have an adversity and immediately link it up to, well, there's a gift in it.

There's a gift. There's a gift. And your brain starts to look at, oh, there's a gift in it. Or I've seen people say before, you know, there's a gift in illness. These are the gifts. It's brought me and my husband closer together and it's brought me and my family closer together and et cetera, et cetera. And I'll say, wait a second.

No, delete, delete, delete. There is not a gift in the illness. You changed. as a result of the illness. So the gift was in the change, not in the illness, because you don't want to link it up that the problem itself is a gift. All right, so that's today's IQ episode, and please do, as always, hit the share button on this episode.

Share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know. The more empowered and happy and healthy and loved that everyone is. The better this world is for all of us. And so on that note, I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode, and I hope you have a most wonderful, incredible rest of your day.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time, people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point, and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore. com slash podcast.

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

Thank you.