Brandy Gillmore: [00:00:00] Welcome to Heal Yourself, change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use. To master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health yourself and your life.
Let’s begin.[00:01:00]
Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I just love today’s episode for so many reasons. And also, I really just have to laugh at the unfoldment, and this is what I mean is that.
Lately we’ve been talking about on multiple episodes, we’ve been talking about the counterintuitive mind and really rewiring the mind at a deeper level, and it’s a repetitive theme right now, and you would almost think that I’m curating the content to bunch it all together. But the universe or God, divine energy, whatever you want to call it, is.
Curating it for us, if [00:02:00] you will, that there is a theme. And what I love about today’s episode, one of the many things that I love, is I love that the ending is counterintuitive. It is a bit of a twist than what you would probably logically think. To do to create the changes. And so I love that twist, if you will, of where we’re going.
So that’s one of the things. I also really love our volunteers. She is just so sweet and her self-awareness and her brilliance, I mean, she just has this heart. You could feel her heart. You can feel that sense of humor that’s there and just a sweetness. So I love that. There’s just so many things that I absolutely love about her and I love about the insights and where we’re going.
And so on that note, our beautiful volunteer, her name is Mary, and let’s dive in.
[00:03:00] Hello? Hello. Hi, Mary. Hi. It’s wonderful to connect with you. Yeah,
Mary: you too.
Brandy Gillmore: Well, thank you. What can I help you with today?
Mary: Um, well, what I’d like to work with you on is I have migraines and it appears I got them where they don’t knock me down and out, but, um, I am on multiple medications for them and, but I get this dizzy, spinning, like
Brandy Gillmore: car sick feeling.
Okay. That is not fun. I don’t, I don’t recommend it. No. Nope. No. Okay. And
Mary: yeah, and, um, yeah, it’s, it’s not fun. And I just, and I, you know, I’ve talked with Sherry and, um, she’s lovely, isn’t she? Oh, yeah. And I’ve listened to a number [00:04:00] of your podcasts. And, um, when I do have it, I start thinking about what’s going on, what might be causing it, and um, a number of times I can sometimes pinpoint what’s going on and other times I can’t.
Okay. So,
Brandy Gillmore: alright. Uh, gimme one second. Bingo. Uh, when is the last time you had one of those migraines?
Mary: Um, last week. Um. I think it might’ve been Wednesday, Tuesday, I had one progressively.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay, so gimme one second. Bingo.
Bingo. Okay, so there’s this feeling, even if it’s not true, okay, there’s this feeling of feeling like, um, well, if I ask you. If I ask you, can you find the feeling of feeling [00:05:00] like you’re going to be yelled at or somebody’s going to be upset with you?
Mary: Um, and if you No,
Brandy Gillmore: that’s fine.
Mary: Go ahead. No, I mean, I, I mean, I know I can, I can pinpoint there’s times.
Yes.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. And, um, and so I’m gonna ask you to breathe,
Bing you. Uh, and if I ask you how much you can find the feeling of feeling like, like I get in tr it’s like a feeling of feeling like I’m always in trouble or I get in trouble for this or that, or, but like kind of uh, nitpicked at times. Yeah. Okay. And if I ask you zero to 10, what level would you say?
Mary: Um, oh, I can put it sometimes all the way up to 10.
Okay.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. And, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe and [00:06:00] I’m gonna ask you to notice what it feels like to also feel, um, upset about it.
Mary: Oh, yeah. No, and I’ve talked about it.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. So, um, bingo. And if I ask you to notice the part of you that even at times gets, feels angry about it. Oh yeah.
Mary: And I’m gonna bring, it’s gonna bring tears to my eyes.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. Yeah. And, um, I hear you. I hear you. And, uh, what would happen if you didn’t have this pattern anymore? What would it feel like to not actually feel this anymore?
Mary: Um, well, number one, I’d, I’d feel better about myself.
Brandy Gillmore: Bingo.
Mary: And. I let, I let others bother me a lot. Okay. Um, and I wonder why. Okay. Um, [00:07:00] and I know a lot of people, they tell me, well, we want better for you.
And it’s like, well, I do what I do. Why can’t you guys just let me live my life the way I want to? Um, okay.
Brandy Gillmore: And, um. Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and what do they think is so horrible about the way you live your life? Um,
Mary: well, I think a lot of it is on things that, um, that have happened in the past and they always, um, are telling me that I’m worth more.
Brandy Gillmore: That’s horrible. They tell you that. Oh yeah. Oh, no. Oh, tell ’em Uhuh, you’re not gonna put up with that anymore. Yeah,
Mary: no. And I know there’s, there’s, you know, um, everybody’s, you know, worth more and, uh, you know, and I [00:08:00] explain to them, but there’s things that make me feel good that, you know, maybe you, you see it in a different way, but I see it in one way.
And, um, I broke off a relationship. And, um, there’s times I still bring it up and I talk about it and they don’t even want me to talk about it. And it’s like, well, I wanna talk about it because it makes me feel better talking about it. I wanna get it out in the open. I wanna air it. I don’t wanna hold it in.
And you know, they just say, well, no, let it go. Just don’t even talk about it. And I said, well, there’s part of me that wants to talk about it because I wanna better myself about it because I’m waiting. For God to bring that next relationship into my life that is going to make me, you know, have more in my life.
Or if there is to be more and [00:09:00] trying to find in my life that I’m satisfied with what I have.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay.
Mary: I have a lot of change going on.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. And, um, and so, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. And if I ask you if there’s a part of you that misses that relationship, what would you say? Oh yeah. And if I ask you, if you feel like you made the right decision for you, what would you say?
Mary: I did. I miss it and I’d love to have it back, but I know it was the right thing.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. So, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe and so. There are a few important things. Okay, so, so number one. So you’ve been waiting for God to bring, wanting to bring in a new relationship, right? And so, um, so patterns breed more of the same.
You’re familiar with that, right? Yeah. So even if we relate it back to the Bible, it says, do not [00:10:00] conform to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Right. Yeah. Or even in psychology, we can look at repetition compulsion. So a pattern breeds more of the same. The example you hear me use on podcast and whatnot is, unfortunately a, a woman with an abusive father can attract the same type over and over.
Yeah. Okay. So. Even the feeling of necessarily venting about things and getting it out doesn’t really release it. You’ll want to instead really change it. Does that make sense? Yep. Bingo. Now, if I ask you how often you have felt like, um, how often you have felt like you attract relationships that aren’t really good for you?
Um.
Mary: I guess I would say I haven’t been in enough of them.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. So if I ask you this last relationship Yep. [00:11:00] Why does your family keep saying, and people around you keep saying you deserve better, you deserve better?
Mary: Because, because he is married and he hasn’t finalized his divorce. Okay.
Brandy Gillmore: And um, bing, if I ask you to also notice for a moment the part of you.
Who has even felt, even now, if I ask you the part of you who’s felt unloved mm-hmm. What would you say? Mm-hmm.
Oh yeah.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. And, and if I ask you how long that pattern’s been going on? Um,
Mary: a long
Brandy Gillmore: time.
Mary: Mm-hmm.
Brandy Gillmore: So there’s an unloved and even also a less loved like, feeling, feeling of, oh, they’re loved more than I am, or They’re loved more than I am, I’m less loved.
Can you see that? Yeah. Okay, so you hear me. You’ve heard on past episodes about turning whatever our body is trying to tell us. It’s like a check engine light. It’s a wake up call to say, Hey, it’s a check engine [00:12:00] light. It’s time to really change. Does that make sense? Yeah. So let’s say that you look at this pattern of feeling unloved or less loved or unloved, and you actually start changing it into a feeling of where you’re feeling very loved.
Very loved and very loved. What manifests or what attracts from that place of that feeling, what does that look like?
Mary: It attracts more love.
Brandy Gillmore: It attracts more love. Okay, so this is the part that’s a little gonna be a little confusing. Bingo. Is, is that that feeling of venting. Notice what you’re really wanting is you’re willing, really wanting like love or reassurance from that.
Can you see that?
Yeah.
Brandy Gillmore: So this becomes the problem. So watch this is, if I said I look horrible in this blazer, what do you, what’s, what are [00:13:00] you supposed to say?
Mary: No, you don’t. Oh, you look beautiful.
Brandy Gillmore: Oh, thank you. So now you complimented me and all I had to do was criticize myself and then you compliment me.
So it gets linked up, right? Yep. Now if I say, I’m so unloved, I’m so unloved, and you’re, and Oh, everybody treat. And you’re supposed to say what?
Mary: Yeah, no you’re not. You know, we love you. Yeah.
Brandy Gillmore: Oh, thank you. You love me. That’s so sweet. So a positive gets linked up with a negative, and when that happens, those things get linked up.
Does that make sense? Yep.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her. I love her self-awareness. I love that she gets it. She’s just, she’s quick, she’s smart, she sees it. Her self-awareness, just brilliance, and the insight about being illogical, like the emotions, being illogical and [00:14:00] getting linked up is so key.
And if you think about it, again, I mentioned this in the beginning. It. It goes in alignment with what we’ve been talking about on the last episode and also the recent IQ episodes, and so it’s just interesting watching God, universe, divine, whatever you wanna call it, curate the content for us. There’s a message coming through, an important message that’s being delivered and clearly.
Universe is wanting to put forth that message. And so just food for thought as we dive back in with our beautiful volunteer, Mary. Here we go.
So in other words. The part of you, like if I said, oh, I look horrible in this. Oh, I look hor and I’m, and I’m wanting to really, really, really, um, get compliments from it. That negative gets linked up to the positive and then it perpetuates, right? [00:15:00] And so I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to think about what it looks like to get love in positive ways and what it looks like to actually just, that’s just your life.
That’s just who you are. Like you’re feeling loved. You’re feeling love and it’s just who you are. ’cause you’re freaking amazing and nobody has to say, but you deserve more because you know what? You feel good about loving yourself. You love who you are, and you attract beautiful, loving connections. And everybody says that’s a beautiful loving connection that you have.
And of course, of course you’re attracting and energizing that ’cause you’re just pure love and you’re so loved. What does that look like?
It looks good.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. It’s bingo. Go ahead, finish. Go ahead, continue. I
Mary: am, I, I have been trying to do that. I try, you know, I am. I, I’ve been trying to [00:16:00] portray a positive.
Can I show you something?
Brandy Gillmore: Can I show you whenever They won’t listen to you vent. How much does that make you then feel unloved and not cared about?
Mary: It does make me feel like they don’t care. Bingo. Because, and clearly they don’t care,
Brandy Gillmore: right? I mean, obviously they don’t care. I know,
Mary: I, I, I know they do care.
They just don’t want to listen to that. But then, oh, there’s other times I talk about the positive
Brandy Gillmore: uhhuh
Mary: and they do the same thing.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. So what you’re saying is you have a pattern of interpreting. People don’t care even when they do and you know they do. Yeah. Oh, that’s interesting. So what you’re saying is positive thinking doesn’t work when you simultaneously have a strong habit of telling yourself that people don’t care.
Yeah.
Brandy Gillmore: Oh, okay. So I want you to picture just for a moment. You go to drive to the store and you put your foot on the gas. You feel like you should make it there, [00:17:00] put your other foot’s on the brake. I wonder why it’s not really taking you where you want it to go. Okay, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So basically you have a pattern of interpreting that people don’t love you, and you’re feeling that.
And you’re feeling unloved and ignored. And not heard. And not listened to. Instead of just knowing, of course they love you. And if they don’t want to hear something, I wonder why. Is it because they’re overwhelmed? Is it because they have something else going on? Is it because it’s probably ’cause they don’t love you?
I mean, we both know they don’t really love you. Right?
Okay. So maybe they have something going on. Okay, may, maybe they have something that they’re trying to do, or maybe they’ve heard you say the same thing over and over and over again, and maybe it hurts them to hear your hurt all the time, or you know, maybe you vented [00:18:00] over and over it. But either way, it’s your pattern.
So this is what’s gonna happen whenever you have a pattern. It’s like, it’s like this. It’s like if, if somebody has a pattern of rejection, it is literally, well, think about it in this way. You hear me use the example of the woman with the abusive father, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? Yeah. So now imagine there’s a lineup of a hundred men.
99 are great, and one of them is not. Which one does she pick?
Mary: The
Brandy Gillmore: one that’s not the one that’s not, so let’s say there’s a pattern of feeling unloved and rejection, and there’s a hundred times when somebody’s, there’s a hundred, uh, a hundred times when somebody would listen. One time when they just feel in a place that they’re not able to listen, when are you gonna start talking to them in that one time that maybe, yeah, their mind is full with this or that, or they have something going on or this, it’s just going to not match up at the time when they feel available to really hear you and listen.
Does, does that make sense? Yep. Okay. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to [00:19:00] breathe. So that change really does need to take place inside of you. Does that make sense?
Yep.
Brandy Gillmore: Not only that, but this is the other thing. You’re a very smart woman and you know that they love you. Yeah. And I know you, and yet you feel unloved at the same time.
So part of you is going, wait a second here. I know they love me, and yet I feel unloved. It’s like you feel that, right? Yep. But think about this for a moment, even in your relationship that you just ended, you knew he loved you. Yet at the same time there was, he just wasn’t yet finalizing his divorce and separation and all of that.
And so both were true, right? Yep. Yep. So you’ve had a pattern of having both simultaneously where there’s a part of you that feels unloved and a part that feels loved simultaneously. Yep. Now, isn’t it crazy how we can feel unloved and loved simultaneously? [00:20:00] Yep. Yep. We can love somebody and be mad at them at the same time, right?
Mary: Yep.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, again, I just love her. I love her awareness. She just gets it. She’s brilliant and just beautiful, beautiful being, beautiful heart. And also the awareness here that I love is that even if our logical minds get something, we understand it, we get it.
Those emotions at a deeper level can get linked up. Even when it doesn’t make logical sense. And if you think about on a recent IQ episode we were talking about when people link up having some type of illness or hardship or whatnot, and they link it up as a gift, and then suddenly they bring in these old emotions to the [00:21:00] gift and it creates that problem.
’cause now they’re associating emotions at a deeper, deeper level. And so even with her, where she logically knows. That she’s loved. The feelings override it. Or if you think about the recent episode with a beautiful volunteer where we had discussed Hugging the Lion, and so she absolutely loved that because it gave her different emotions at a deeper level to where she was able to really start.
Shifting at a deeper level, at a, in a deeper way. And so my point is, is that when we know something logically, it’s one thing, but when we start associating different emotions at a deeper level in the subconscious mind, things get. Mixed up and emotions get mixed up and it can affect your health, your life, your happiness.
And so when I mention all of the time that I make results look very easy [00:22:00] and that it is so important to really reprogram at a deeper, deeper level, this is the stuff that I’m talking about, is that it is key to really feel differently. To think differently, to really get it in at your core. And so you’re not having mixed emotions, but you’re really embracing a genuine change.
Now, again, keeping in mind that’s where we’re going, but there’s also even more counterintuitive programming, which may surprise you. Where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Mary. Here we go.
And I want you to go ahead and notice how unloved you are. It’s true.
Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. I love that you have a great sense of humor. Thank you. Thank you. Yeah. You have a very good sense of humor. I like that. I like it. [00:23:00] And all right, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. This is what I want you to do. I want you to go ahead and tell yourself for the next 20, 30, 40 years that you’re unloved and just keep doing that pattern, right?
Just, just keep doing that. Don’t change a thing. Let me know how that goes for you, okay? Yeah. Or you could really change it. You could really, really, really, really change it, right? Mm-hmm. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. I’m gonna ask you to think about the awareness bingo that you’re willing to change.
Bingo. And so like you said, you said you were waiting for God to bring you a relationship. Right. Okay. Well if, if God, if it’s meant to be. If it’s meant to be. Okay. So you want another relationship where you feel unloved and loved and unloved [00:24:00] and loved, and that’s. That’s what you’re going? No. Oh, okay. No.
Okay. So going back to the awareness, okay, going back to the awareness is now there’s a couple, uh, a couple awarenesses. Now one of them, again, patterns breed more of the same. So you can see this pattern, right? Yep. You can see this pattern and this is your pattern. So if we go back to psychology or repetition compulsion, or we go to the Bible, do not conform to the patterns of this world.
Now, by the way, another quote from the Bible, um, uh, if we said life and death are in the power of the tongue, those who love life will eat its fruit, right? Mm-hmm. So if I ask you how much more you want to vent about things, what would you say?
Mary: No.
Brandy Gillmore: Yeah. Watch this for a moment. So often people think that very thing.
They think, well, if I just get it out, if I [00:25:00] just get it out, if I just speak on it and I get it out, it’s gonna get out. That’s how I’m gonna release it right now. Let me ask you a question. If I repeat the alphabet over and over and over again, how, how soon till it gets out of my mind, would you say
Mary: no.
What
Brandy Gillmore: do
Mary: you mean it’s not going to,
Brandy Gillmore: that’s how I’m gonna release the, I’m gonna release the alphabet by repeating it and venting about it over and over and over again. And that’s, you’re always my strategy. Yeah. So often that’s what happens, because this is why it’s tricky, because we feel better if you vent something and then somebody says, oh, but I love you.
Then you have this feeling of relief or safety or love. So then in that moment you feel better and then you go, ah. Okay, but it doesn’t release it from your neural pathways. It ingrains them instead.
Mary: Yep.
Brandy Gillmore: Right. So you’re, what you’re saying is if my strategy to getting rid of the alphabet is repeating it over and over and over again, you think it may be it’s not going to [00:26:00] work.
Yep. Okay, great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Can I tell you how much I love yourself? You have this beautiful sense of humor that makes me want to joke and laugh and play with you. It’s beautiful. Yeah. Very much. Yep. Very much. So. I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Great. And so I’m gonna ask you to picture the relationship that you do want, and I’m gonna ask you if you are willing to change to get there.
Yes. Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. I want you to notice everybody really is criticizing you and nitpicking you. It’s it’s true. It’s true. They’re just probably just being mean. I, well, their way of loving me. But do you, do you really think they’re trying to be mean to you? Like when they’re saying these things, if I ask you zero to 10, what’s the level of mean, [00:27:00]
Mary: mean?
Depends on who it is.
Um, probably in the end is probably just a two.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. And, um, bing you, and if I ask you, by the way, zero to 10 how critical you are of yourself, what would you say?
Mary: Oh,
probably closer to a seven and eight.
Brandy Gillmore: That’s what I would’ve said. I love your self-awareness. I love your self-awareness. I would’ve said a level eight. Okay. So next time they go criticize you tell them Only I can be mean to myself. Like that, right? Yep. Yep. Okay. So I have a question. Notice how much you criticize yourself.
Yep. Bingo. And notice how that feels to yourself to do that to you. [00:28:00] Notice how that feels to yourself to do that to yourself. Now, why would you keep doing that to yourself? That’s not very nice. No,
it’s gonna bring tears to your eyes again, huh?
Yeah.
Brandy Gillmore: No. Okay. Okay, so it’s time to change, right? Yep. Bingo. Uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Okay. So I also want you to notice the part of you that can be critical about yourself also in a joking way. Can you see that? Mm-hmm. How often? Zero to 10. How much do you see yourself doing that, even in a joking way?
What would you say?
Mary: Oh, yeah. Up there with an eight.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. Yep. So what you’d wanna do is you’d want to change that, because what happens is those neural pathways, as they’re established on criticizing yourself, they can take. [00:29:00] Multiple directions with self meanness and also trying to then be funny about it, but it also then projects an energy that says that that, that makes it okay to kind of be cri like it, it projects an energy.
If I say, oh, I’m so messed up. I’m so blah, blah. How much am I kind of inviting in a little criticism from people? Yeah. Yeah. So it’s like you’re putting out an open invitation of Yeah, yeah. Energetically and just, yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. Okay. So, um, so let’s say if I’m critical of myself and I’m, oh, I’m gonna criticize this and criticize that and whatnot, it creates an energy.
But if I’m not in that energy, but instead I feel good about myself, it’s a whole different energy. Does that make sense? Yep. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. I don’t want you to notice these changes that I’m asking you for are pretty horrible.
Yeah.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. So, uh, so if you really [00:30:00] needed to change these, if you really needed to change the feeling of really loving yourself, of also not getting upset and feel nitpicked and stewing and getting angry and unloved over it, but you really, really, really, really needed to change these, um, what would that look like in your life if you change these patterns?
Mary: It would look much better, and I would, I would be much more pleasant to myself and. I wouldn’t let others affect as much of my emotions.
Brandy Gillmore: Yes, Ann, this is the other thing, right, is that when you are feeling good about you and you really change these patterns, it’s like you don’t even take them personally.
Does that make sense? It’s kind of like this. Let’s say somebody’s in a fear state. They’re walking down the street and they’re in fear and they’re paranoid. So they see somebody [00:31:00] walking by with a dark jacket and they feel fearful, like, oh my gosh, okay. But somebody else who feels really safe, they’re walking down the street and they see somebody walking around the with a dark, and they feel the sense of they’re, they’re fine.
Like they know they’re good. Like, so in other words, one mindset that’s paranoid and fearful of everything has a, this happens and that happens and they feel fearful about any little thing. But another mindset that’s like confident and feeling good and knows they’re safe is walking around and instead they’re like, nice jacket.
You know what I mean? Like, it’s there, there’s a whole different vibe. And then the person says, Hey, thank you. And it’s a, it, it creates like, and it creates a sense of connection in life. It’s a whole different feeling. Does that make sense? Yes. So notice even how your mind is overinterpreting things, if you will, where you know that they love you, and yet you’re feeling unloved.
But when you stop and think about it for a moment, do they really not love you?
Mary: No, they [00:32:00] love me.
Brandy Gillmore: They love you, right? Yeah.
Mary: So some of
Brandy Gillmore: the emotions that you are feeling and experiencing kindly, lovingly, respectfully said, don’t even make any sense, and they’re messing you up. Does that make sense? Yep.
Mary: Yep.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay, so, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So does this mean you’re gonna have to practice being loved and practice feeling loved and be nice to yourself? Yeah. That’s horrible. Okay, so, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe and I’m gonna ask you to picture yourself that you’re in a beautiful, beautiful, loving relationship.
You also have a beautiful, beautiful, loving relationship with self. You treat self just with sweetness, with kindness, with love, and you have a relationship that just treats you with sweetness, with kindness, with love. You feel [00:33:00] good about you. I mean, let’s be honest, you have a great sense of humor. You have a fun, outgoing personality.
You’re, you’re a good person. I mean, okay, great. No. So hard on self. Yeah. I mean, doesn’t make sense.
Mary: Yeah. Well, I, I actually, I noticed, um, after listening to one of your podcasts that, um, a lot of times, like what you were talking about, um, somebody getting upset about something and having that knee jerk reaction, like, ugh.
And getting angry because they got angry. And then I realized, wait a minute, I’m reacting because of their reaction. I need not do that. I don’t need to be angry because they’re angry. That’s their choice. And I even brought that up and said, you know what? [00:34:00] I just realized what I did. And told them exactly what I did because they’ve actually been listening to your podcast too, when I presented them to you.
And they’re very interested in you also. So, um, uh, kind of the same thing, uh, realizing that I’m doing that
Brandy Gillmore: beautiful and. What’s also tricky is they’re doing the same. So it goes both like, yep. Then you get upset and then they can respond and they get upset. I love your awareness. I love, love your awareness.
I love it and I love that your whole family is becoming just more and more empowered that I love that people around you. I, I love just beautiful. And so, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe and I’m gonna ask you to picture yourself. Feeling so nice to yourself. Bingo. Now, by the way, if you make a mistake, if I ask you how much you berate yourself about it, [00:35:00] what would you say?
Mary: Yeah, I, I do. I tell myself, Hey, hey, dummy.
Yeah,
Brandy Gillmore: what is that? Yeah, what is that? And by the way, okay, let’s be honest, we both know you’re not dumb. I, I, I feel you and I get you. And you’re not dumb. No. Well, why you? No. Okay, so, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe, but you would do that to other people. They make a mistake.
You would be like, Hey, dummy. Right?
Mary: Yeah. No, I wouldn’t.
Brandy Gillmore: You wouldn’t do that?
Mary: No.
Brandy Gillmore: What do you mean? You wouldn’t just say that to like somebody around you like, Hey, dummy.
Mary: Yeah. No, I wouldn’t, but I’ll do it to myself. Yeah.
Brandy Gillmore: Oh. Oh, ouch. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So you’re willing to change that?
Mary: Yeah.
Brandy Gillmore: Okay. Yeah. Now
Mary: that you brought it to my attention,
Brandy Gillmore: I like it.
Yep. I like
Mary: it.
Brandy Gillmore: Uhhuh. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. [00:36:00] So even when they’re saying, Hey, you’re worth more, hey, you’re worth more. This pattern of putting yourself down and feeling negative about yourself, et cetera, is keeping you from also attracting. The very things in life that you could, if you didn’t have that hey, dummy energy going on.
Yeah. ’cause it’s
Mary: kind of interesting that, um, after being with Sherry and listening to her, how she reacted to things, as I was listening to some things going on, when somebody was saying something and Sherry was saying, it’s all right. It’s all right. You know, it’s good. You know, we’ll, we’ll get it next time.
Or this’ll happen, this’ll happen. And I’m like, I was. I’ve always tried to be that positive person too. Right?
Hmm.
Mary: But realizing that, um, yeah, I don’t do it to myself. Uhhuh. I tried doing it for everybody else ’cause I was as a manager, everybody, they’d come when they’d come to me and they’d be grumpy. Let me guess.
Brandy Gillmore: You
Mary: would say,
Brandy Gillmore: Hey, dummy? [00:37:00]
Mary: No, I’d
Brandy Gillmore: say no.
Mary: Okay. I’ll help you, but let’s get a smile on your face first.
Brandy Gillmore: Yeah.
Mary: See.
Brandy Gillmore: Of course I always wanted a positive Yes. Right. Yeah. And I was joking about the hey dummy, because like you wisely said, you said, well, now that you’re bringing it to my attention, I see it. Yeah.
Because it’s so funny how the mind can automatically do things that we don’t really pay attention to, but when we start to bring our awareness, we’re like, Ooh. And that’s a problem. Right? Yeah. Okay, so, um, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Uh, and I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and I’m gonna ask you kindly bingo, if you could start taking in the feeling of being nice to yourself now.
Bingo. This is the problem. Part of the problem is you have a great sense of humor, but it works again, where you make fun of your, it’s like [00:38:00] you’ve programmed yourself to be self-deprecating in a way that’s so, so what happens is it’s like, it’s like the road is already paved for self-deprecating, and so what happens is then.
When you’re then frustrated on self, you kind of take it out in a more of a negative way. Does that make sense? So part of what I’m going to ask you to work on is actually working on what feels like a sense of humor and see, it feels like the self-deprecating, joking part because I think that like if I ask you by the way, how clearly you can see the joking and de self-deprecating zero to 10, how clearly can you see that?
Oh yeah, no, I can, I can see it at a 10. Yeah. So the thing of it is, that’s what I’m gonna ask you to work on is opposite of what you might like. That piece is like opening the door for the rest of it also. Does that make sense? Yep. Yep. Beautiful. Beautiful. Great. So on that note, that’s what I would say is that’s where I want to actually leave you isn’t [00:39:00] exactly that is working on that piece moving forward, because.
Again, that’s the piece that’s opening the door for all of this other stuff to come in, if that makes sense. Yep. Beautiful. It does. Beautiful. Um, that, that, uh, let put in another way, watch this as if I said to you, I’m self-deprecating and people are laughing, then it becomes my way of what? Connecting with others, getting love.
Through self-deprecating. Does that make sense? Mm-hmm. Yep. So, bingo. Um, bingo. Gimme one second. Bingo. I’m supposed to leave it right there, so I’m gonna leave it right there. And if you could start working on that, because I think that as you see that you’ll also get yourself to stop doing that, because I can see you’ve also been working on the positive already, but the amount that’s feeding the negative, even in quote unquote positive ways, is creating that problem.
Does that make sense? [00:40:00] Beautiful. Yes. Yep. You’re amazing. I absolutely adore you, and I wish you a wonderful day. Thank you. You’re so, so welcome. It was great talking to you. Likewise.
All right, so let’s go ahead and bring everything together. And first and foremost, I just love her. I love her self-awareness. She’s brilliant and beautiful, and I love herself. Honesty, just so good. And I also really love the insight from this episode when you stop and think about it for a moment, even when we were talking about.
The awareness of self-deprecating humor. And she said, you know, zero to 10. A 10. And that’s exactly it, is that it is a 10. It is really, really high, the level of self deprecation and putting herself down in a variety of different ways. Now, a way to think about it is like this, is that, [00:41:00] imagine if somebody.
Has their heater on in their house and they’re trying to keep it warm in the middle of winter and simultaneously has all of the windows and doors open. Of course the fresh air could feel nice, but it’s going to be very, very cold. And so point being in her case that she is working on trying to bring in the positive and I see that, and of course that needs more work also.
Because there are areas where, you know, as she mentioned, there’s areas where she’s stuck. There’s areas where she’s wanting to quote unquote vent about things, which of course then perpetuates the negative energy and emotions. And, and, and by the way, a lot of people think that very thing. They think, well, if I just talk about something and I get it out, then that’s how I’m going to release it.
And they think that very thing. But of course, that just reinforces. The neural pathways. And on the note of counterintuitive programming, let’s be [00:42:00] honest, what happens though? It feels good. It can feel good to vent because then you might feel heard or understood or relief or love or connection, but it ends up, unfortunately.
Reinforcing the same pattern instead of releasing it. And of course this self-deprecation notice, it is a huge source of humor for her. A way of connecting that is felt good and connecting with people. And that is the point is again, is, is really embracing that change. Now what I love is literally, there have been times in podcast history when.
They’ll be back to back people with the same type of ailment or even right before. An election, there’ll be information regarding not stressing about politics or right before the holidays we’ll happen to get a volunteer that maybe is resolving emotional hurt towards [00:43:00] family and relationship and connection for love.
I mean, it’s just so beautiful how the universe, God, divine energy, curates information. So I, I just, I love the flow. I love the awareness and love the insights. That are coming from this episode, just how counterintuitive the mind can be. By the way, think about this for a moment where if she’s feeling self-critical and she’s feeling, you know, harsh on herself and self deprecating and and whatnot, imagine.
If I came in to work with her and I said, oh, well, you know, you just need to be in self-love and, and, and came in at that level of saying, oh, well just love yourself and just appreciate yourself, et cetera. Part of what would happen is it really wouldn’t rewire things in the way that she would want. So really addressing the counterintuitive is so important, and [00:44:00] so just food for thought on that.
And of course. As you work on healing yourself, make sure, acknowledge yourself, so you’re feeling great, you are really embracing the change. At a deeper level. All right, so those are the insights from today’s episode, and as always, please do take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode.
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Make a point to have the most wonderful, incredible rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.[00:45:00]
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And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is. For you to see that you really can [00:46:00] create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.
I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You’ll wanna remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast. And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
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