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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your Consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I just love this episode. You know, our beautiful volunteer, her name is Suzette. And what you'll notice as I'm working with her, just that there are key insights that can really help you gain even more clarity on healing yourself and changing your life.

And just each episode is so. So unique and different in that it has the power to highlight and bring about another perspective, another level of awareness and of depth. And this episode does exactly that. And so as I mentioned, we're going to be working with our volunteer Suzette and this is part two of her session, meaning that I recorded a session with her that was, I don't know, about 40 something minutes long.

For that reason, you know, by the time I add the insights and the intro and outro, it makes it well over an hour. And so I try to keep them a bit shorter. And so I took her session and I split it in half where last week we talked about the first half of her session. And as you'll recall, on that first part of her session, when I began working with her, she was so excited about the idea of playing pickleball again.

She really wanted to heal and was so excited. And as we started unpacking her energy a bit more and looking at what was going on, She had a feeling of hurt, a feeling like her husband didn't want to play pickleball with her and that he wanted to play separately. And so that really hurt her emotionally.

You know, she had a feeling of rejection and hurt and it hurt her pride. She's also very competitive, but what is also really sweet is that She's also very in love with her husband and they have a sweet, wonderful relationship. He loves her. It's just really sweet. And so even as you'll recall on that last episode last week, on episode 241, as I was working with her, initially I asked her about her relationship with her husband and she said, Oh, it's lovely.

It's wonderful because She wasn't even really focused on that wounding piece, that underlying hurt that she had. So she didn't even see it because it was very hidden in her subconscious mind. And as we dive into today's episode, you'll see even more how there was a feeling of kind of, Distracting herself from it.

And she has that awareness. She starts to see with even more clarity, the issues. And of course, there are some other layers that are there as well. And so it's just, again, her self awareness as we dive in is just really beautiful. She starts to see the pieces come together and it's really profound. And so that's where we're going as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Suzette.

Here we go.

100%. Yes. Great, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Level of pain, zero to ten. A four. Okay, so I would have said about a level 3. 6 is what I would say, and my point in saying that is I see it inching, uh, like very, very, very micro amounts because I see micro changes. So my point in that is that There's a depth to the change that's got to be made for it to really, if that makes sense.

Um, and let's put it in another way. Let's do this. Okay, let's bingo. If I look at the level of frustration and disappointment towards self in the past week, zero to ten, I see about a level six. Can you see that? Um, I don't know so much in the past week, but Let's, let's go with that. So let me give you, okay, so give me one second.

Let me just, um, give me one second. Bingo. Okay, so actually, uh, last Thursday, bingo, uh, I see about a level eight. Are you familiar with that? There's something that you're working on on Thursday. Um, bingo. Hard on self. Uh, very. Do you know what that is? Wow, um, I don't. Okay, so give me one second. And, uh, you have children?

I do. They're grown children, adult children. Um, and can you give me their first initials? Yeah, one is C and one is R. Bingo, bingo. There's a feeling of feeling critical of self over R. Are you familiar with that feeling? Hmm, no. Okay, so um, let me put it in another way. Give me one second. Okay, let's do this.

So if I ask you growing up, if I ask you zero to ten how hard you were on yourself, Zero to ten, what would you say? Um, probably five? Okay. I would have said seven, but we'll go with your five, but you can, you can see that pattern, right? Mm hmm. Okay. And if I ask you in pickleball, zero to ten, how hard you've been on yourself with pickleball, zero to ten, what would you say?

Hmm, I'd probably say it was an eight or nine. Okay. And if I ask you in work, zero to ten, how hard you've been on yourself, zero to ten, what would you say? Hmm, that's probably a ten. Mm hmm. So, if I ask you as far as being a mother, 0 to 10, how hard you've been on yourself, what would you say? I don't know that I've been hard on myself, uh, I wouldn't say that was, uh, maybe the wording, I don't, I wouldn't say hard on myself, but, um, obviously being a mother was, is an important element of my being.

Okay. So, uh, so let's just, let's, let's just go with work then, then we'll do that. So if I ask you, by the way, let's, let's, because ultimately what I'm wanting you to see is there a pattern. So what I'm wanting to help you establish is this. is that there's a patterned way of thinking and feeling that you've had even since childhood.

And so the reason that we're not able to make the shift with pain right now, and we're getting only incremental pieces is because there's very, very, very little change. So there's a, there's a feeling of, again, there's, you know, you'll hear me say when I'm working with people that there's always a combination.

There's a specific combination of emotions that is key. And that's It's just like, for example, we can look at people and we can see that there are people who are very, very, very stressed. and who aren't sick. And we can also see that there are other cases where people are stressed and they have, and, and they have some type of illness or pain or problem connected to it.

And so the key is always a combination. And the example that I use is this, is that, um, if somebody wants to make cake and they have flour, they can't make cake. But if they have flour and mix it with eggs and butter, vegan eggs and butter or whatnot, then there's a combination and, and, and that's the key.

Right. So. Uh, so, so the thing of it is, there's multiple pieces to this, um, and the pieces need to change even more. And so, what we need is we need a way to move forward that feels good, um, and we don't have that. And that's, so in other words, the idea, uh, number one, the idea of you playing pickleball Uh, feels painful because it takes you back to a feeling of, of technically of going back to quote unquote feeling rejected, um, and hurt.

that your partner doesn't want to play with you. That feeling comes back up. And so what's happening is the, the injury is actually keeping you from experiencing the feeling of rejection, so to speak. Like, let's say you could play right now, completely, you could play and then you guys go to play and then, Oh, by the way, he doesn't want to play with you.

There's a feeling of hurt. That gets triggered. So right now the injury is actually serving you a purpose by being there because then you don't have that ongoing rejection. connected with him. Does that make sense? Yes.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. Just beautiful. I love that she can see this. Now, this is kind of the, the tricky part that we'll unpack further. And it's this, it's that if you think about it, She is optimistic about her vision moving forward.

She has this optimism, like she wants to go play pickleball and that's what she's excited about. And so that is, that's a feeling of optimism. She really genuinely is optimistic. She's genuinely feels that and we can see that in her excitement towards her vision moving forward. However, There is a negative expectation of hurt.

The, that expectation that it's not going to feel good because her husband doesn't want to connect. So there's that underlying feeling. And this is the reason that you hear me say in my process that moving forward, The key factor. So factor one of healing is having positive expectation and optimism. So we need both.

And a lot of times what will happen is people will be optimistic about something, but then they also have a negative or painful expectation. expectation about something and that's the problem. So what it needs to be really positive expectation and optimism. It has to feel good all of the way through and through, and that is key.

And so here we can see it's not aligned. And we can also see some feelings of rejection and hurt and whatnot going on. which is another key ingredient for healing. And so we're of course going to unpack that further as we dive back in with beautiful Suzette, here we go.

Yes. So the other thing is, is that there is a part of you that is very hard on self, very critical, and then also feeling frustrated to hurry and want to learn at his speed because then you want to like, so then there's that feeling as well. So right now it's like having the injury. Quote unquote, keeps you safe from that.

And so what I've been trying to do is figure a way to move it forward to where you said, okay, there wouldn't be this feeling of rejection and you guys could celebrate in different ways. You could celebrate him doing great and you doing great and celebrate your, so in other words, so there's a creating a different vision around it that does feel good.

So that's one piece I'm trying to get to. Um, if you ask me how much I feel like we've gotten there, zero to 10, I would say a level two, um, of what we would need to do to get a real shift going. So I would say that is one piece that I'm trying for.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a very quick insight. And it's this, it's that, you know, likely if she was not wanting to play pickleball again, and so excited about playing pickleball again, then likely this issue. Might not even affect her health. Meaning that, let's be honest, I mean, most of us before have had situations or circumstances where maybe you feel left out or somebody didn't want to play this, that, or the other, and that could be an issue.

And we can experience hurt or rejection or whatnot from that. Now, of course, it would be optimal to let that go and not feel that way at all. You know, if you think about the last IQ episode that we talked about a few days ago, we talked about assimilating information in a positive, healthy way. So there's a difference between if somebody feels rejected and somebody just feels like, Oh, well, it's no big deal.

Let's just do this differently. You know? So, so ultimately that would be a healthy way for her to assimilate information. You know, her husband not wanting to play with her, she would say, oh, okay, well, I get that that's, this is better for our, our relationship. And she would not feel hurt or wounded at all.

So, of course, that would be optimal. But, you know, her, she had some sensitive feelings come up, and that's understandable. And, and of course, people can periodically feel that way. But my point, just emphasizing that likely it wouldn't. Maybe necessarily affect her health if it also wasn't now in her future as well as a future expectation.

So meaning that there are other pieces to the puzzle that it's not just something that happened in the past, but it's also something that is then projected into the future. So again, just emphasizing the importance of positive expectation and optimism, but also feelings of feeling safe. Feeling loved.

And so there's those other key pieces, and those are what I call MBSS needs, is that we have to have feelings that we're going to feel safe, we're going to feel loved, we're going to have good pride. And those things are all very, very important. And collectively, again, I call those the MBSS needs, that we need to feel positive emotions and really feel that moving forward to be able to heal.

And that's where we're going. And to a deeper level of understanding as we step back in with beautiful Suzette. Here we go.

So that's one thing. And then I would say then another thing is the feeling of being very hard and disappointed and critical of self. That also doesn't feel like it's safe. And even saying frustration towards self. So that also doesn't feel like we have a way to move forward that. Is going to be successful.

And so what I was wanting to do is initially I was focusing on the pickle ball, because that's what the trigger or the quote unquote trauma happened around was him saying that he didn't want to play with you. That was the trigger. Um, and so then there's that, but then. Which created more of a frustration towards self, of disappointment, of embarrassment, of ego, of the, the, the part of you, and I don't say ego in a bad way, just the feeling of pride, we'll say, like the, the competitive part, feeling like that was a huge blow to the competitive part that then creates a frustration.

So there's that spiral of emotions. Does that make sense? Yes. Yes. So what we're unable to establish so far is a way to move forward that feels good. And so what I was wanting to show you is that There's been that pattern, like you said, even in work, there's a feeling of feeling hard on self at a level 10 or 12.

I mean, it's very much there. So it's a patterned way of thinking and feeling and, and that would, that you'll want to change. And so, um, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And so the thing of it is, is that. Uh, your body also knows that tomorrow, if let's say your pain went away completely and you were all good and happy and healthy, you'd want to go back into playing pickleball right away.

The problem is, is that it doesn't feel like, it feels like it's quote unquote protecting your ego to not be able to play. That it feels better for your ego to say, ah, I have an injury, I can't play compared to saying I'm hard on self, not good enough. That competitive piece feeling, um, uh, injured. Does that make sense?

Yes. Okay. So, if I ask you how we could move this forward in a harmonious way, if I ask you, wouldn't it be more fun to play than to not play? And not only that, but imagine, let's say two years from now, yeah, so let's say two years from now, he's continuing to play, and you're not playing. And three years from now, he's continuing to play, and you're not playing, and you're sitting out the entire time.

Um, what does that look like compared to if you said, okay, I'm willing to be nice to myself. I'm willing to be kind to myself. I'm willing to move forward in a more beautiful way. And you were really, really willing to do that. And it felt good. And it felt good to the ego to not have to, or pride, to not have to compare yourself to somebody who grew up playing tennis.

And not only that, but how you guys could create love around this, where you said, look, let's celebrate together, or let's go out after a pickleball game and, and go get something to eat or blah, blah, blah, whatever that is, but how you could create love and sweetness and, and harmony around it instead of frustration, rejection, hurt, um, and being hard on self and disappointed with self.

How could you genuinely transform that? Yes, I would love to do that. And, um, and I almost feel like that's kind of what happened is not being able to play this past year is that I've kind of checked out of that whole thing.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, I love her self honesty. I love her self awareness, just that exactly that, that she checked out from that and that's where she's been. And let's be honest. That happens all of the time with people and not just with, of course, Pickleball.

I mean, I've seen people before where they have a bad experience at work where they feel overwhelmed or hurt or frustrated or yell that or like they made a mistake. And then the idea of going back to work is so impactful to them that they're stuck and they feel stuck because they need to ultimately clear.

the negative emotions, the negative expectation to be able to move forward. Because what will happen is in that case, it feels like the only way to move forward in a safe way is to have then some type of health issue that then keeps them. from needing to go back to work. And by the way, I can tell you that it doesn't make logical sense that as we'll talk about coming up, there can be this fierce feeling of feeling like, I don't care, I just want to move forward.

You know, this determination of the conscious mind. But even so, even if there is that determination of the conscious mind to really heal, we need to rewire the emotions and the subconscious mind. And by the way, I can tell you, I have literally worked with people who had been diagnosed as being terminal.

Who have these same feelings where they've said to me, Brandy, this is insane. This is crazy. I see it. My body literally feels like the illness is keeping me safe. And on some levels, I really, really feel like it's keeping me safe from having to deal with life. And yet at the same time, the other part of my mind can see that it's a terminal illness.

Like this is a problem. And so that's exactly my point is it doesn't make. logical sense, and especially those of us who are used to pushing through things in life to just force our way like, okay, well, whatever happens, I'll just keep going. Like the, the mind over matter, the, you know, push through the wounded warrior type of feeling.

Those of us who have been maybe spent our lives doing exactly that may have a hard time healing. You know, for me, That was exactly the thing. I just wanted to push through and mind over matter and wounded warrior and I'll just keep going, but it didn't work. Like I actually had to rewire my subconscious mind and the same is true in this case as well, as you see, you know, she's got this fighter energy that says I can push through anything and I don't care about my emotions.

I just want to keep going. And I get it. And a key. is that we really must feel in a different way and we must have that programming consistent. So we genuinely have a consistent new way of feeling and being. It is imperative for getting real healing results. And so that's where we're going as we step back in with beautiful Suzette.

Here we go.

Okay. And, um, bingo. So, so I, I hear you. And so what I'm, um, Uh, so if I ask you, the moving forward vision is what we're missing, of a way for you to move forward that feels good to self, that feels good and emotionally good, and emotionally good for your pride even, and for yourself, and for self kindness, and all of these things.

Like, if I ask you, how could you move forward and feel good about it? in your relationship and in your competitive pride. How could you move forward? Um, I mean, thinking of it in the way, like just having fun and, and starting over. I mean, and I'm, I'm ready for that. And it's just that every time I try, it still doesn't work.

And I, and we are so separate from the past, which were, were several years ago of the feeling that we're discussing now. Um, and I feel like it's, it's so far. in the past that it doesn't come up today, but it's, I don't if I ask you a question, well let me ask you. You and I have never met before and immediately as soon as we stepped in, I could see this in your energy.

Right? Right. More than you could see it in your energy. So, it's, it's also still there. So, a few things you want to think about is like this. You ready? So, I'm gonna ask you to close your eyes for a moment. So, I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, I'm gonna ask you to notice something for a moment.

If I ask you in your past, zero to ten, how much do you remember feeling that you used to be a watermelon. Zero to ten, how much can you find that feeling? Zero. Zero, okay. So if I ask you in your past how much you can find the feeling that you used to be a refrigerator, what would you say? Zero. Zero. So if I ask you zero to ten in your past, how much you remember feeling the hurt from this pickleball experience?

Zero to ten, what's your level? Probably eight. Okay? So, notice, out of these three things, the watermelon, the refrigerator, or the pickleball experience, one of them is in your subconscious mind, two of them are not. Which one would you say is in your subconscious mind? The pickleball incident. Exactly. So, the thing of it is, is key, is by suppressing things.

When we suppress things and we just leave them in our past, they still have the ability to affect us. So I, I can also tell you're a very headstrong person. You're very like, you know, and by the way, I was the same in my own life. Like I had my own stuff and I'm very, I thought it's in the past. It can't affect me.

I didn't realize that the stuff that was buried in the subconscious mind even could still affect us. I would have said, I don't care about that. I don't, I don't care who cares. I can let it go. And yet those emotions. That are in the subconscious mind can impact us. Does that make sense? Yes. Yes, beautiful.

I love your awareness So this is the thing is that even though the determined strong Hero strength part of you with who's determined and who's consciously Very strong and and hard and you know, very strong willed and all of these things wants to just push through I'd be like, I don't care. I'm willing to push through it doesn't matter.

I get it I was exactly that way, exactly. Like I would have pushed through anything, didn't matter. And yet that's not how healing works. And even if your conscious mind wants to say, I don't care about these emotions, we're fine, my relationship's great. I love him. We're good. Oh, everything's fine. That's wonderful.

And yet it's not how healing works. Does that make sense? Yes. So, bingo, love it, and if I ask you moving forward, creating a beautifully harmonious connection where there are no hurt feelings, none, none, like that you guys can celebrate Pickleball, you can celebrate the connection, it feels sweet and loving and wonderful, there's zero frustration.

There's zero feelings of feeling like you're even needing to compare yourself to him, but you can instead improve and see yourself improve and be kind and supportive and loving to self. Bingo. And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to take in the feeling that you're willing to change, the feeling that you're willing to change, and I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Bingo. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and take in the feeling that you're willing to change. Now, I also want you to notice the part of you who feels like you're very critical in yourself, in your, in your work. Can you see that? Yes. Mm hmm. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you 0 to 10, bingo,

bingo. That's the other piece. Bingo. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Now there's a strong feeling that if you heal yourself, that you will also then feel worse as well. So that's another piece. Uh, give me one second. Yes. Okay, so there's this. Okay, so you know how we were mentioning that if you heal yourself, then you'd go back into pickleball, which would then make you feel bad because you would go back to that feeling of feeling, uh, hard on self with pickleball, and then also a feeling of feeling hurt because you're not being included with your husband, et cetera, et cetera.

You can see that, right? Yes. Okay, so there's another piece when it comes to work, and it's almost like you feel if you healed yourself. You would also feel more critical in self. So in other words, you must work in healthcare. Is that correct? Um, somewhat, yes. Not health. Well, I'm, I'm a health coach. Let's say it that way.

Okay, so bingo. So, okay. So notice for a moment. So that's exactly it. So then there's a feeling of feeling like. If you healed yourself, you would be more critical of self because you feel like you should have figured out how to heal yourself. Okay? So you see what, and I can tell by the laughs, you know exactly what I'm talking about, right?

Mm hmm. Yep. Okay. So, what I would say is this, is that the moving forward vision and being able to move forward in a beautiful, harmonious way is going to be crucial to your success. And it's kind of like, um, there's a feeling of feeling like if we got rid of the health issue, if the health, if you got rid of your pain and your health issue that you would criticize yourself.

Like the emotional path would be much worse moving forward. So what I would say is this is I want to invite you to get a vision moving forward. That feels good in both of these areas. Okay. And I'm not going to push you because that could backfire. But instead, I want to invite you to get a vision and start working on programming in a new way to feel moving forward that is going to feel good for you.

Okay? So the great thing is, is when you first started, we could, you know, you mentioned a level five of pain. That's what I saw about a five, six. Now it's down to about a four. Um, and in some areas I see it being a little bit less, but either way, but you can see that there's a, there's a budge spot. You also can see that the, The, the pattern in the hurt here, um, and all of that, and, and that's what I would say is, is we're not going to push you.

Um, but what I would say is to start establishing a new way of feeling and thinking and feeling moving forward that feels good and harmonious, that helps you to move forward in a healthy way that feels good. Does that make sense? Yes. Beautiful. Okay. So, um, bingo. And, uh, and, um, I'm going to give your mind one more analogy to just, uh, help moving forward.

And it's this, um, is that imagine for a moment, let's say there's somebody who goes to throw a football and they go to throw a football and they go to throw it. And when they do, they throw it way out to the side. And everybody sees them throw a football and it goes, uh, they make a, a fumble or a, uh, intercept, like it goes horribly bad, right?

Now, how do they feel in that moment? They're probably embarrassed and frustrated. Yeah, so probably embarrassed, humiliated, frustrated, all those things. Now, if a person could then say, Oh man, I, I just tore my, I just hurt my arm, or I just, Oh man, my arm just twisted wrong, or something like that. If I ask that, how much for some people that could feel as though it protects their ego to be able to say that.

Yes, it does. Exactly. So, Notice in that moment. Now, of course, by the way, if we're talking about typically professional athletes that maybe wouldn't protect their ego because then their whole job or career could be on hold. So it depends on, there's so many different circumstances, but if, depending upon somebody's situation, but my point is in this situation right now on multiple levels, uh, the illnesses or the, the injury is quote unquote, protecting your ego, and so.

Moving forward in a way that says, Hey, I can feel good. This feels wonderful, even in your career, but also, you know, moving it forward in multiple ways that, that's going to be key. So that's what I want to invite you to do is, is really get that vision moving forward, how it feels amazing and wonderful and incredible and, uh, and loving and, and safe for emotion, safe for self.

Okay. Yes. Beautiful, beautiful. I love your self awareness. I, I, I just love it. I love how much your husband loves you. I think it's really, really, really sweet. I just love that. And, um, and beautiful job. So. Thank you. You are absolutely so welcome. It's been such a pleasure connecting with you, beautiful.

Brandy, and I appreciate you and all you do and I, I, I love your book and I'm, I'm gonna use this now and, and work with it along with the book and, and this gives me more clarity as to where, where I was going with this. I love that. I love it. I love the clarity. I love your self awareness. I love your heart.

Just beautiful.

All right. So let's go ahead and unpack this even more. You know, I absolutely love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. I love that she can see the problem. So I love it. It's just beautiful. And she was able to get her pain from up down from a five, six to a level four, and she can see what the other pieces are.

Now think about this for a moment, because this is profound. is that notice I didn't push her and what you'll notice is sometimes in the past, a lot of times, if somebody is stuck, I will push them if it is beneficial. So only if it is beneficial for them. And let's be honest, we've all heard before that somebody can be paralyzed by fear, you know, stuck, they're stuck in a place of fear and they can't get out and they can't see their way out.

In which case, if somebody's stuck in fear, Well, I'll push them to help them to make a change so then they can see with more clarity. How to get out of it, how to breathe, how to get out of it. How that, that change can occur. And all of the time I've had people to say, wow, thank you so much for pushing me.

I would have, I was so stuck and it's beautiful. And I love that. And the other analogy that I give all the time is this, is that because it's the subconscious mind, We can't see it. You know, it's below consciousness. And so the other analogy that I give is that, you know, if your friend was standing in front of a bus and a bus was about to hit them, but they couldn't see it, how hard would you push them to get out of the way?

Well, you definitely, you'd want to push. And so a lot of times, if I'm, Pushing somebody is because they're paralyzed by fear. You know, they're stuck in that place of being fearful or they can't see it, or even sometimes because of the ego, they might be stuck because of, you know, their pride or whatnot.

However, in this case, pushing her would not be beneficial. And what's also divine timing is if you think about it, in the last episode before in episodes 239 and 240, With Peter, I didn't push him either because in those situations it would also not have been beneficial for him. And so you'll notice sometimes I do push people if it's beneficial, but in other cases I don't because it's not beneficial.

Now, if I pushed her in this case, it's not gonna really help because she really needs to decide moving forward for herself in her relationship, how that's going to play out, how she would want to celebrate with her husband, how they can both connect over pickleball, but also not need to play together necessarily, but how it can really genuinely feel good.

So she's going to need to put some thought into that dynamic and also trust herself that she really can do that and let go of that competitive piece. Towards him. So it's not hurting her ego at all. That there can be a celebration of pickleball connectedness, you know, that, that they can really connect over it genuinely without any hurt, any upset.

So that is key. And of course the other. piece is her being a health coach and feeling those feelings that she should have already known this and she, you know, that if, if then if she heals herself all of the way right here, that she didn't do it and she should have known it and et cetera, et cetera. So then there's what?

More criticism. So it doesn't help her to actually push her. Instead, it's beneficial for her to see the information and then let her do it herself and just follow the process because she can see in my book, as she mentioned, that she can see the steps and then put it to use, et cetera. So there are a few really powerful takeaways that you could implement in your own life.

from this, and it's this. Number one, that if you push yourself, that you're doing so in a positive way. You know, if you think about it for a moment, if somebody goes to the gym and they push themselves to the next level where they say, okay, I'm going to lift more, or they say, okay, look at, I ran five miles and I'm going to run an extra mile.

I'm going to really push that extra mile, but they do so in a positive way that they get more out of themselves. Great, fantastic. You know, because if you think about it, how do we build more muscle? Well, we have to overload it a bit. Now, if we overload our muscle too much, it's called overtraining and it's not beneficial.

But if we overload our muscles, what happens? It grows. Or even if we're stretching towards doing the splits, what do we do? We Work on stretching more and we go to our limit and we stretch beyond that. We go to our limit, we stretch a little bit, we go to our limit. Now, of course, if we do that in a nice way and we push ourselves in a nice way, we continue to grow and to become more flexible.

But if we suddenly demand from ourselves that we must push all the way, or if we don't do it, that we feel less than, and we feel inferior and critical of self, well, That's not positive. And so we can see that pushing ourselves in a healthy way is incredible. We can get more out of ourselves. We can grow.

We can expand. We can be stronger or more fit or do something to the next level in a positive way. You know, like again, pushing that extra mile and saying, okay, I've got this. I can do this. And we grow and expand and it's incredible, you know, and, and so that's beautiful, but in a negative way. And so that is one insight that you want to take.

Another insight is that we can't just say mind over matter and just push through when it comes to really healing ourselves. But instead we must genuinely feel different. That is key. And also moving forward, we must really have positive expectation and optimism. So if we have optimism with a negative expectation, that can definitely keep you stuck.

And so what you'll want to do is genuinely Rewire it in your subconscious mind. So you really feel differently at a, at a deeper level. So it's just an authentic change. Authenticity and genuinely just feeling different is so important. All right. So. That said, it has been such a pleasure connecting with you, and I want to ask you to please do hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more empowered that every individual is in their own life, the more that everybody understands their own mind, their own ability to heal themselves, their own mind programming, the more that every single person feels empowered.

To do this in their lives, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible, loving rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

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