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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.

I will even coach live callers to free themself of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life. Let's begin.

 

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I love the insights that come from today's episode. They are so profound as far as. What it feels like to be stuck or even to shift a relationship that has felt stuck or has felt off, and really transform that and just, you know, sometimes watching from the outside where others are getting stuck can provide you with so many profound insights.

On what you wanna do differently or maybe the exact place where you are stuck. And I know as far as really making the [00:02:00] change, feeling this shift, I know there were certain places during my own healing where I got stuck and I had to really understand why and how to make that shift. So I love that. And also as far as shifting relationships, you know, if they feel off, even if they feel loving, but if they feel stuck in one way or another.

It can feel hard to get out of it, can feel hard to get things flowing again in a beautiful way. And so that's another key insight that I love from this episode. And profound insights as far as healing, as far as creating that change. And in her case, that has to do with releasing paint. Now, our volunteer, her name is Sandy.

And in total in working with her, her session was about an hour long, so I divided it up into three different podcast episodes to help just break it into bite-sized chunks, just because there were so many profound insights from it. And so this today is that last part of the episode, and it is [00:03:00] profound and you'll recall.

On episode number one. 93 was the first one, and then 1 94 last week, and today is the final one. And there were feelings of feeling torn between her mother, torn between moving, torn between, you know, really trying to start a family. And that's what her. Feelings have been about, have been about really wanting to move her relationship forward and feeling like her husband is stuck and feeling like he's not doing what he agreed to do and a lot of upset and hurt and anger and you know, just a lot of different emotions going on about that.

And it's affecting her health. And so what I love about this segment is it really does help you look at. The bigger picture, it really helps you look at the places that people get stuck and the real change that is needed to make that shift. And so that's where we're going now. The very last part that we [00:04:00] left off from last week's episode was that she was thinking about changing but not really feeling it.

And so the example that I left off with is the feeling of saying, well, if somebody says. I'm so happy. Uh, how much emotion is there in that? Well, not much. You gotta feel it. You gotta feel the shift. And so that's what we're gonna step into today, is pushing to create that feeling shift to really feel differently, to feel uplifted, to be willing to change emotions, to be willing to radically feel differently.

So you'll hear me both pushing her to bring in the positive. And also pushing to let go of the negative, releasing that and creating a real, real change. And so I just love our volunteer. Her name is Sandy. She's absolutely beautiful. And let's go ahead and dive back in with creating that real change in her life.

Here we go.[00:05:00]

Okay, so, so watch, so I'm ask you to breathe. Come with me. So I want you just for a moment to think about you guys moving. You moving and you having this move and it feels fun and you're excited about this move and it feels fun and exciting and wonderful, what would that feel like? What would that feel like?

What would that feel like? So I'm gonna ask you to breathe what feels. Fun and exciting and loving and sweet and fun. Yeah. And exciting. And exciting. And exciting and fun. And fun and fun. And fun and exciting and sweet and loving, and like a loving, wonderful couple who's so exciting and kind and not beating each other up, but kind and loving and, and romantic and sweet and fun.

And super. Love it. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I would say after all of that, I feel those feelings in your [00:06:00] energy about a level two. So if you really wanna make this change, you gotta do better with your energy. I was feeling quite open to it, but there's also this, um, the, the part maybe that you're feeling in my, uh, elbow started, uh, pulsing a bit.

Um, there is like this. This fear like, but is he on board? Cuz we even moved here in, in Europe. That took a while and it was supposed to be fun and all those things, but it wasn't cuz he was in, uh, like overwhelm. So there was a lot of energy used to kind of like, support and, and keep things like open and fresh and, and exciting and everything.

So, um, okay. That could be that other part.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first [00:07:00] and foremost, I love her self-awareness, and I love her self-honesty and also noticing what's stuck. You know, notice when I said, you've gotta really bring in this shift. The first thing she says back is, she says, but, and then she talks about her doubts.

Now, think about this for a moment. When I was creating my shift with healing, did I have doubts? Did I have fears? Did I have uncertainties? Whether I could do it or not? Absolutely. And if I had gotten stuck there, I would've never healed. And anybody that I've ever worked with would've never gotten the results because that's what happens in life.

We have mixed feelings, we have fears about something, but we want something or we, you know, wanna get better, but we're not sure we could do it or what not. And if you feed both things at the same time, it's much like driving a car. And if you push on the gas pedal and the brake pedal both at the same time, you're going to feel very stuck, which is where she is.

[00:08:00] But instead, if you start pushing on the gas pedal and letting go of the brake pedal, that's when you can move things forward. And even if you think about her situation, this is what she's. Essentially saying, she's saying I'm frustrated with him. I'd have my doubts. I'm mad with him. And if you recall, she's been beating him up a bit and she's been frustrated and kind of pointing out to him all the things that he's not doing correctly and, and he's feeling overwhelmed and, and all of these things.

And she's wanting her vision, she's wanting to move things forward and, and, but this is the situation. And so basically what I'm saying to her is I'm saying, Hey, Move things into a place of love where they feel loving, they feel good from that place. That's where things even have an ability to move forward is only from that place.

And she's saying, but I wanna know that he's on board first. Before I'm willing [00:09:00] to really shift and make that change. And so you can see the difference. She's saying, I want to know everything's moving forward. I wanna know that he's there. I wanna know he's a hundred percent on track first. And let's be honest, we'd all love that.

Whatever it is that you're moving towards, of course you wanna know everything's perfect and then you wanna say, okay, now I'll feel good. Okay. But that's what everybody would want. And you gotta remember though, all change. Starts from within. You know, I mean, imagine somebody who's felt a lot of rejection and if they said, well, I just wanna feel a hundred percent loved first, I.

Then I'll let go of the pattern of rejection. Well, everybody would love that, but you gotta remember, all change starts from within. So the pattern needs to change inside first to be able to reflect in our world around us. And so that's the key part that she's missing, and that's where she's stuck a bit.

And that's what you'll wanna do differently in your own life. To make [00:10:00] that change because again, I would not have healed had I done it the other way. So you wanna definitely think and feel and be willing to change inside of you. All right, so that said, we're gonna go ahead and dive back in. And I have to say this place of getting stuck is somewhere that I got stuck is somewhere that so often people get stuck.

Because we, we want change. We want, we just want what we want and we want things to work out and be happy and healthy and feel good. And so I, I get it. I understand, but it's that real change that is key. And so that said, again, just so many powerful insights as we step back in with beautiful Sandy. Here we go.

When you say, but is he on board? Yes. But is it with what? With moving, exactly. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and that's what I was saying as far as feeling torn [00:11:00] between the two. Mm-hmm. Okay. And also feeling an uncertainty. Like that's why I was asking you how safe and how all of secure you felt in your relationship.

So notice part of you who's not feeling a hundred percent safe, that he is on board with moving. Can you see that? Yep. So notice how zero to 10, how much you're trying to control him to move. Because you're saying, but you said you would, but you said you would. Can you see that? Mm-hmm. So if I ask you zero to 10, if I told you that I feel like my partner doesn't want to really do something and I'm not sure.

And I'm saying, but you said you would, but you said you would, but you've said you would and being a bit passive aggressive, but you said you would hurry up, but you said you would. If I ask you zero to 10, how much you would say that's controlling, that's, uh, very controlling. Bingo. Okay. So notice for a moment if I said, now I'm gonna reflect this to you.

If I said, [00:12:00] okay, I'm willing to change. I'm not gonna control my partner. I'm gonna change and say, this is gonna be fun. Let's create a fun vision. Let's, how can we make this loving and fun and sweet and incredible and fun and loving? How much more do you think my partner would wanna go? Well, with his, uh, overwhelm?

Not so much, cuz the, uh, issue for him is all the things that need to be done. In order to to move.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, I love her awareness and I love her honesty, and I love that she is seeing that this issue for him is overwhelmed. You know, he's lived in the same country his entire life and he's overwhelmed and he's got these issues of getting, needing to get things done before he leaves, and he's feeling overwhelmed.

And it can create a lot of stress and then also [00:13:00] not feeling good enough because he is not doing it. And, and all of these things. And you know, so often in relationships I'll see people who are frustrated maybe with their partner because their partner doesn't excel at the same things they do. You know, maybe one person's better at one thing and another person's better at another thing.

And so, Having understanding for your partner, understanding what can support them and how to really make the change is so important because as soon as you go into a place where you are beating them up or criticizing them or frustrated and telling them what they're not doing, the more it's gonna keep everything stuck.

Now, of course, I'm not saying don't want change. I'm not saying. Mommy coddle them and, and you know, and think that they can't do it. But what I'm saying is making sure to come from a supportive place, not beating them up, not criticizing them, but being willing to think and [00:14:00] feel and be in a different supportive place so each person can be in their power and feel good and feel successful at what they're doing.

That is so key. So in your relationships, If you notice yourself being hard on somebody or being critical or beating somebody up a bit, think about how you might be able to approach it in a different way that feels good. That allows both people to be in their power. All right, so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Sandy.

Here we go.

Exactly. And if I ask you. How much you've been able to help with those things, what would you say that's the, the supportive part of really being, really trying to hold, uh, space and, and the digs aren't always okay, but [00:15:00] Okay. Just so you know. Yeah. Yep. You want your vision, right? Yep. So, in short, If you really want it, you've got to approach this in a different energy.

Beating him up, digs all of that. It's not the energy that's going to help. So part of the, kinda like this is if I told you I'm digging at my partner mm-hmm. How's the relationship going? If digging is involved it, um, yeah, it will have an effect. Yeah. Oh, it's so contradictory because the support side has been quite, Immense as well, and I think that outweighs the other side, but I've gotta delete the other side co completely as well.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment and what she just said. Yes, yes, yes, yes and yes. Brilliant. So, when she said, you know, I've been [00:16:00] trying to be supportive and she's also been controlling and beating him up and frustrated with him and, and kind of, and digs, you know, the word we're using is, you know, digging at him and, you know, giving him, you know, passive aggressive type of jabs, so to speak, to say, Hey, and so, and she's saying, but I'm doing.

Both, but I am supportive too. And what she just said right there that, yes, making that change so she's not doing both. This is the thing, is that if you are displeased with somebody in a relationship, you never wanna do dig or cut them down or try to control them. Instead, just have an open, honest conversation with them and say, Hey.

This is how I'm feeling. I'm feeling frustrated and I'm feeling this way and that way and, you know, express yourself in a direct manner that is kind, but that that's honest. Then say, Hey, this is how I'm feeling. Because a lot of times people. Have a hard time having those conversations and then they [00:17:00] get frustrated and then it comes out as passive aggressive digs or frustration or punishing the other person or controlling the other person.

It comes out in different ways, even though it may not even mean to, you know, if you hear Sandy, you can hear she's so sweet. She's loving, she's wonderful, she wants great things, she wants a family. It's so sweet and. She wants it so badly and it's, it's just you. You have so much. I do. I just, you just have so much compassion for what she's wanting and also for her husband and knowing that there's this stuckness.

It's like both people having what it is that they want and feeling good and feeling in love is just the direction to take it. And so I love that she just said this because that is this space. They can help move things in the right direction. So I love that. And let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Sandy.

Here we go.[00:18:00]

Mm-hmm. Totally. Because it is your energy that's keeping it stock. Mm-hmm. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yep. Bingo. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you the level of pain in your elbow, what would you say? Zero outta 10, uh, in the elbow it stopped pulsing. The shoulder blade is, is like a three.

Mm-hmm. Um, okay, so, so this is the thing, right? What I would love to do, I want you to come with me as much as you can. So in other words, if I ask Universe how much you are coming with me, universe gives you about a 0.50, no. Yeah. So notice for a moment you are still thinking and feeling in the same way as you were when you started.

Yeah. There is a, there is a fear, so, mm-hmm. But, but it, no, it, it's, it's not about fear. Okay. Okay. Uh, it's about being angry at him. And [00:19:00] holding a grudge against him that he is not keeping his word. And he said he was gonna do this and he hasn't done this yet, and I'm right and he's wrong and blah, blah blah.

Can you see that part? Mm-hmm. Okay. If I ask you zero to 10 how much you can see that part, what would you say? But he said he would do this and he said he would do this. Can you see that? Mm-hmm. And if I ask you how many times you've uttered those words, what would you say? Not completely like that, but it's, yeah, it would be like the seven.

Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. Mm-hmm. And I want you to repeat after me. Mm-hmm. I'm willing to change. I'm willing to change, and I want watch this for a moment. If I ask you, have you listened to past podcast episodes? Mm-hmm. Yeah. Okay. And if I ask you, How many times somebody needs to change.

And not only that, but how much is their body giving them a message to change? Have you ever heard that before? Yep. Okay. [00:20:00] So again, notice for a moment, I would invite you to change. Does that make sense? Yep. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you to picture what it would look like.

If you guys had a different energy towards moving, if there was more excitement and fun around it, even if maybe you took a trip to Australia, but there was fun and excitement around it and fun, and the things that you were going to do and how fun and lovely and wonderful it was going to be, and I'm gonna ask you to bring that into your vision.

That feeling of what it would feel like to feel fun, to feel wonderful, to feel so good, to feel so good to, to really, really, really start feeling like, oh my gosh, when we go, when we move to Australia, it's gonna be so much fun. It's gonna be fun. It's gonna be exciting. It's gonna be lovely. What would that feel like to you?

What would it feel like? Yeah, that's brilliant. That's like the easy part. That's what I want. [00:21:00] Lovely. Watch this. Mm-hmm. Okay, so watch this. If somebody said, what would it feel like to get a massage? And I say, that's brilliant. I would like one. Yeah. How much did I embrace the feeling you're at 10? It didn't really, it just described it.

Yeah. Yeah. So the thing of it is you are missing the entire point, just so you know. If somebody says, what does a squishy ball feel like? And I respond and say, oh my God, it's brilliant. I would love a squishy ball. Yeah, but I can feel it inside. But, but, but you think you can, but come on, come with me, please come with me.

Come with me. You gotta do things in a different way.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. So first and foremost, I love her self-awareness. I love her sense of humor, her laughing and her awareness where she sees that. She's not [00:22:00] really connecting with the emotion and that's what is key. And all of the time people will get stuck there where they're very stuck in their heads.

And I was there too, as far as you know, I used to do network engineering and operations. I was very analytical and not connected to my emotions. I'm not aware of my emotions and in touch with them at all. And so that's part of the reason I'm pushing her is because she's really not aware and not connected.

With her emotions. And so if you are in that place in life where you're not connected with your emotions, you're just not aware of them, you'll wanna get more in touch with them because that's gonna be a key to getting real change. And that's something that I had to do in my own life, was really get in touch with them, build that awareness to create that shift.

And so food for thought. And as we dive back in with beautiful Sandy, here we go.[00:23:00]

Okay, so we're gonna try this again, and I'm gonna ask you a question, okay? And then I want you just for a moment to come with me all of the way. So if I say, what does that look like? You respond there. What does it feel like? You respond there. Does that make sense? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Okay. Here we go. Ready? Here we go.

All right, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. What would it feel like? To step in two feet of peanut butter, what would that feel like? It would feel squishy and kind of, um, like a, like you're being sucked in. Okay. What would it feel like if there was a joyous excitement right now in your relationship?

Towards moving to Australia, that it felt safe, it felt exciting. What would that feel like? Mm-hmm. That's like pure [00:24:00] joy. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I want you to bring that feeling up. And what else would that feel like if you guys both had this feeling of excitement towards moving towards Australia, what would that feel like?

There's also ease in that. An ease in that. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take in that feeling. And if I ask you in that, how much, how big is your smile in that? Huge. Huge. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and if I ask you how much ease and joy is in that picture, it feels it. Bingo.

And I'm gonna ask you how big is your, in that picture? Yeah, also huge. And how does your heart feel in that picture? Um, Very open. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to notice in that picture how sweet and loving it feels in that picture. Mm-hmm. Zero to 10, what would you say in that picture?

How sweet and [00:25:00] loving does it feel? 10. What? Even more than 10. Great. Take that feeling in. How sweet and loving does it feel in that picture? Like a hundred. Like a hundred. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Take that feeling in, and how sweet and loving does that look in that picture? It's bliss. It's bliss.

I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take in that feeling. It's bliss, it's sweet, it's loving, it's playful, it's sweet, it's loving. Your smile. His smile. It's just really, really sweet. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take that feeling in. Bingo. I want you to notice the level of pain in your shoulders.

Zero to 10. What's your level? Uh, this one's, it's like a one and a half notice. That's the lowest you've got it, right? Mm-hmm. Great job with your energy, right? Fantastic. Okay, so come with me. Okay. A bit more. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I want you to think about exactly that, about you guys feeling so sweet.

[00:26:00] And it's just like you both are excited. Your smile. How big is your smile in that picture? Huge. How big fills my face. Fills your face. Beautiful. And how big is his smile? It's the same. And I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you, by the way, how much he's looking forward to having a family?

Very, very much. Very much. And I want you to notice the sweetness between you guys, where it feels like your dreams are actually going to happen. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe and the level of excitement and sweetness. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe and take that in. The excitement, the sweetness.

That's so sweet. And if I ask you how much love is in that picture, what would you say? It's like filling the, it's filling the whole page. Yeah. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice the level in your shoulders, zero to 10, what your level. Yeah, it's like a, a one. It's kind of also, you know, uh, traveled down the back a little bit.

On the left hand [00:27:00] side, there's some pulsating, so it's moving around. Okay, so notice you're moving it around. Mm-hmm. You're doing it right. So notice for a moment the other way, when you were stuck in your head, it was going up. Yes. Now look at, we're doing it a different way and it's going down, right?

Mm-hmm. Yeah. And so I'll ask you just for a moment to breathe and notice you've gotten it below one, which is awesome, cuz when we started talking about this and it was going up the wrong direction, right? Mm-hmm. So how powerful are you? Very powerful, very powerful. Freaking amazing. Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and take that in too, please.

Bingo. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment, if you could switch gears from punishing him or from telling him, but you promised, but you promised to instead, a vision of excitement together, could you genuinely make that change? Mm-hmm. A hundred percent. [00:28:00] Yeah. A hundred percent.

150%. I like that. I like it. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe now, I want you to picture that this week. This upcoming week. That's your vibe, your that is your vibe. You just say, you know what? It's gonna be so exciting. So maybe even at the end of the day, you guys are laying in bed and you're like, oh my gosh.

Like I can't wait to move. What do we wanna name our kids? This is gonna be exciting. It's just gonna be beautiful. It's gonna be so great. You could even say, oh, you know what I used to do as a kid is I used to do this. I can't wait for our kids to do the same thing, et cetera. So it has a different loving sweet.

Vision and vibe to it. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And how sweet does that feel? Very, very, very sweet. Very sweet. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you how full is your heart and how much, by the way, zero to 10, how much would you say he's looking forward to having [00:29:00] kids? Sorry? Was that zero to 10?

Or he's just, he really wants to have kids. Yeah. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. And take in the sweetness of that sweetness, sweetness, sweetness. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice the level on your shoulders. Zero to 10. What's your level? Yeah, it's still like a, a one and, and there's still a bit that's has gone down the, the back a bit.

Okay. So, uh, bingo. So gimme one second. Bingo. Can you see the part of your mind that still feels like you won't trust him to do it, and that you've got to push him and and get him on track? Can you see that? There's a part that is like, cuz this approach of making things exciting. Yes. But the, the resistance and belief when he comes into [00:30:00] overwhelm is, yes, I have a question.

There's still a resistance there. Exactly. So if I ask you just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you how much you have to make him show up to work every day, I don't you, you don't have to control him to do that. No. Oh, you mean he does it on his own? Totally. Even though he's overwhelmed. Oh, so when he's motivated to do something, he can actually do it?

Yes. So what you're saying is when he's motivated to do something, he can do it? Mm-hmm. Whoa. So let me ask you, so if he was hungry, could he get up and get his own food or do you think he would starve? He sometimes waits for me to get stuff, but no, he can get his own stuff. Okay. Let's say you were outta town for a week.

Yeah. Do you think he would make it while you were gone? Yeah, for sure. Are you sure he wouldn't starve? Absolutely. But I mean, okay. [00:31:00] So how many days a week do you have to force him to go to work? Zero. You mean when he is motivated to do something, he does it? Yes. Great. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I want you to picture just for a moment, for the next five years, you punish him every day towards work. You punish him and you tell him what he's not doing as far as work, and you tell him what he's not doing and not doing, and not doing as far as work and why he's not doing it, and why he's not perfect at it and what he is doing wrong about what, and I want you to think about, do you think it becomes easier to get himself to go to work every day or harder to get him to, to get himself to go to work every day?

Oh, much harder. Much harder. Okay, so notice for a moment, the difference is, is you are thinking you need to keep punishing and digging. And I'm saying if your man is motivated to do things, it will help him a lot more to be able to move forward. Does that make sense? Mm-hmm. Okay, so that's [00:32:00] where I wanna go ahead and leave it, because as you can see, when you were shifting towards motivating him mm-hmm.

Yep. And you were really bringing it in, you were able to get your pain down to a one, which is great. Mm-hmm. And then the, the part that's stuck right now is the part that wants to control, that feels like you need to control him and micromanage this. Mm-hmm. Instead of. Being, it being a motivating, loving, wonderful vision moving forward, that part is stuck.

So the great thing is, is you can see that beyond brandy, the message from the universe and your body that it is trying to give you is to say change, to do it in a different way. And so, because you can see as you decided to come from a place of love and shift, your pain went down. What happened is before even when we started talking to this, your pain went up more.

Okay? Mm-hmm. So you really shifting, [00:33:00] so your mind is very, very determined to do it your old way. Mm-hmm. But when you really started to step in to to do it in a new way, that's when your pain got way down. Okay. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. And there was also a connection when it was going down about just being.

Like, I don't know, like divine timing, like that universal time. I think it's, it, it, it's also connection with just, it's gonna happen at the right time as well. You know, I, I would, uh, it, okay, so as much as I would love to agree with that statement, Okay. Uh, universe says zero to 10, that's, uh, negative 12.

Correct. Come from negative energy and punishing somebody is never going, you're never going to get your dreams from having negative energy and digs and punishment into anybody for anything. And I, and there's so much love there also, I see that it's so beautiful and [00:34:00] also there's this other side, and so negative energy never equates to.

Positive. Wonderful. So it's, so that's the message that your body's trying to give you is to change. Does that make sense? Yeah, yeah, for sure. Great. So this is the thing, if I ask you, can you picture your low kids running around on the beach and we're just running around being in Australia, and if, if I ask you, can you picture that?

Mm-hmm. Okay. So. Remember in the beginning when we said your energy is more focused on what's not happening and the energy towards that instead of your actual vision. So bingo. So the universe says this, we want to support you, but we are resistant.

All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. And I love what she [00:35:00] just said because it is a place that I see so many people get stuck, where they have this feeling inside that, oh, well, it's everything is just divine timing. And then also the universe is giving them messages to change.

To wake them up to say, Hey, you know, let's do things in a different way. And you know what's interesting is that even with my own injury in hindsight, after my recovery, after I got better, all of that, I looked back and I realized when I looked back, I could see there were certain signs that I needed to change before my injury ever occurred that I never saw.

So the way I see it is like this, is that, you know, when we ask for something from the universe, the universe gives us information to change. We have opportunities to change and maybe we take the information and maybe we don't. And I always say in my own life, I say this as I say, you know, I feel like I had.

[00:36:00] Two, two by four sessions, you know, where I feel like I got hit upside the head with a two by four piece of, well, you know, just hit upside the head with a club, you know, just be like, wow, okay. That was a wake up call. And from that I say, you know, basically I don't need more two by four lessons. If the universe wants me to change, just tap me on the shoulder.

I'll change whatever it is. I'll change. I'm willing to change. And so I wanna invite you to take on that same awareness that if you get to nudge. In life, a wake up call that says, Hey, I need to make a change, that you're willing to do so. Because if you think about this place of her feeling frustrated with her husband and him feeling overwhelmed, this isn't the place that's gonna bring about an amazing, happy family and wonderful kids that are doing great and thriving and moving and having a loving, wonderful relationship.

The nudge from the universe is, hey. You've gotta change to have that what you're really [00:37:00] wanting, you've gotta embrace change. And so part of the reason this insight is so profound is I'll see people who do this all of the time where they feel like things are really off and then they tell themselves, well, it's just divine timing.

But we have to remember that we're the ones that have the steering wheel also, and sometimes divine timing. You know, the universe can give us messages over and over and over to change. And we really wanna make sure we're doing exactly that, embracing real change. And so of course, that's why I'm wanting to push her to nudge, to, to make that change so she sees it, which she is, because her pain is going down.

So she's starting to see this message. Of change. And that of course is any health issue. Any health issue is giving you a message that's saying, Hey, you know, it's check engine light. It's saying, Hey, things are off and you really want to make a change inside of you. So I love that. And let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Sandy.

Here we go.[00:38:00]

Okay, so this is what it says. Is it Binga? Did your husband pursue you? Uh, yeah, he did. And did he propose to you? No. Okay. And did you propose to him? I put it forward because I, I didn't propose to him. No. It was just a, um, oh, someone has to move and so what are we gonna do? And I came here to see how we went and was supposed to make the decision.

So I came for a couple of months and then in the last week, yeah, I had brought it up to say, what's happening? Are we gonna move forward? What's, what's going on? And yeah, it was like, yeah, I guess we just have to get married. So that was kind of the proposal. Okay. So side. Mm-hmm. So [00:39:00] wonderful. And this is what the universe says.

It says there's a lot to reflect on on here. So, And that, uh, definitely re-listen to it. Yeah. Uh, and it says, be willing to change, be willing, be more willing to change. And this is the thing for me to heal myself. It wasn't about changing other people. It was about will be being willing to change myself.

Okay? So notice for a moment, ultimately what you want, what you're wanting to do is you're wanting to change him. Can you see that? Not to, I, I don't want to change him. You wanna wanna change his behavior, right? So, so this is just, well, it's just, if you watch, say you wanna do something, then like, then I believe it.

So, okay. So I want you to think about that statement. Mm-hmm. And if I ask you zero to 10, how much you feel a willingness right now to change [00:40:00] yourself? Yeah, I, I totally want to, it's okay. So when I invite you to listen to that, that's the key. Mm-hmm. So I want you to listen to this and, and notice and then say, how can I change myself?

How am I willing to change myself? And, but that's what's key. Now, what's great about this is you can see the very thing that helped to get your pain down. Okay. So you can see that. And so, mm-hmm. That's where that shift is. Okay? Mm-hmm. All right. So food for thought. Okay? And not just food for thought, but food for feel like I want you to radically feel differently.

Does that make sense? Mm-hmm. Yeah. Okay. All right. So that's what it says. It says not to push you to change, but instead to invite you. So the goal here is now you see what the pain is connected to, and it's up to you to run with it. Okay, so you see now you have the power and you are the one with the power [00:41:00] and you, and, and that I don't wanna control you in saying you have to change cuz you don't.

It's up to you. Mm-hmm. You are the power, but you have the answer now, and thats what's important. Does that make sense? Beautiful. Mm-hmm. Beautiful. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. Bingo. Complete. All right, so I wanna invite you to listen to this in its entirety and really look at embracing real change. Does that sound good?

Yeah. Thanks, Brandy. You are absolutely so, so, so welcome.

All right, so let's go ahead and bring everything together. There are so many insights from this episode, and I have to say I love her self-honesty. I love her self-awareness, and of course, as you can see, There's still some ways to go as far as being willing to make that change. Now, the key insight, and there are so many insights from this [00:42:00] episode, but the key insight that I really wanna leave you with is this, is that, you know, imagine if somebody comes up to you and they say to you, you know, are you gonna do this for me?

I want you to do this. This is what you're not doing, and this is what you need to do. And notice how much it makes you want. To do that for that person, compared to if somebody comes up to you and they say, I love you so much, you're so wonderful, you're having a great time. You're feeling so in love and so connected, and they say, Hey, I'd love for you to do this and this and this, and how much you would want to do something for them from this place.

And so point being is you can see that there's a big difference of your wanting, of what feels good, of what feels an energetic flow. And all too often people may find themselves frustrated or wanting to control a relationship or wanting to punish [00:43:00] others. And notice for a moment, even when I'm asking her to let it go, she's still.

Still holding onto it, but he said he would, but he said he would. And I get it. I, I absolutely understand and I want her to have a wonderful, beautiful family and instead of throwing in his face what he said he would do in the past, sometimes in a relationship, if there's been. Things exactly like that Buddy said he would.

Buddy said he would, okay, moving things forward, okay, but what's now? How can we move into a place of love? And so really being able to make that pivot genuinely is so important. And the great thing is, is you can also see that. From her pain. You know, if you think about it, and her and I talked about even on the past episodes when, on the first part of the session with her, when her and I first started talking about the pain and what was going on in their relationship, as she was talking more and [00:44:00] more about it, her pain went up.

And so her way of thinking and feeling is fueling the problem and her own body. Is giving her that message that, Hey, this is a problem. And when she started shifting to feel differently, that's when the pain got all the way down to a one. Now, of course, as you can even see from this last segment right here, she's still holding onto some, and so it's not gonna really get that pain down to a zero because there's a part of her who's still holding onto it, which.

Is understandable. She can take a moment and absorb and really digest the awareness, reflect on it, and think about things in a different way. Because what you really want from healing isn't about releasing pain in one session, though of course that's always great, but what you really want is you wanna change you.

You wanna be willing to transform yourself. And so what's beautiful [00:45:00] is that this whole message, the message of pain in her body, is giving her a message to be willing to transform herself, to have the family, the love, the children, everything that she's wanting. It's saying, you know, her body, her universe, the pain, the guidance, whatever you wanna call it, is.

Telling her exactly that. That's the message. Transform self. And so that's ultimately, I. What you want is to embrace real change. And so that is key. And I wanna invite you to take even just one insight from this episode and see if you can apply it somewhere in your life. Maybe it's even just having compassion for your partner or some other relationship, a family member.

Maybe that's the place you wanna be in. So whatever that is for you, I wanna invite you to take an insight and see how you can apply it. In your own life, and I wanna ask you to please do. [00:46:00] Make a point to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know.

Because the more empowered and happy and healthy that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, fantastic. Rest of your day and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

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But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.

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