IQ-166: Liberating Your Mind: Letting Go of Blame to Unlock Your Healing Potential

Quick IQ Episode: Releasing Blame to Take Back Your Power

Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible — the placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I’ll take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I’ll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their minds. Then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy — to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let’s begin.

Hello, and welcome to this week’s Quick IQ episode, where we talk about insights and questions. Today I want to share with you a powerful insight that can help you create a radical shift in your life — one that can help you get unstuck if you’ve been in a place of stress or fear. Because sometimes, there’s a way of seeing or approaching things that completely changes everything.

Learning from a Volunteer’s Breakthrough

This topic comes from a beautiful volunteer I recently worked with on episode 245. She had been stuck in a really hard place in life, and she was also experiencing reduced eyesight. In fact, she had been legally blind in her left eye and had reduced vision in her right. When we started working together, we focused on showing her how to use her mind to begin bringing back her eyesight.

Now, I know that for many people that may sound impossible — but even medical journals have shown that stress can affect vision. It’s more common than most people realize. And as she started to use her mind in a specific way, she began seeing real results. Her eyesight improved to level five in her left eye and 80% in her right eye — an incredible transformation, and it was just the beginning.

As she continues her practice, her goal is to bring it back even more — but the real beauty was the immediate shift she experienced. It was inspiring to witness. And it’s part of what I want to unpack with you today — because even though I make this process look easy, there is a depth and a heart behind every transformation.

The Hidden Role of Blame and Empowerment

When I think back to my own journey, I remember being in a similar place — stuck, scared, and deeply frustrated. I had been injured and was in pain for years. At first, I was filled with blame — blaming the accident, the doctors, the system, even life itself. I had gone from being active and successful in my career in network engineering operations to living in pain, relying on a wheelchair, walker, and cane.

I was angry. I blamed the circumstances, the medical system, and everything around me. And honestly, if I had stayed that way — living the rest of my life in that injured, bitter state — nobody would have blamed me. People would have completely understood. They would have said, “Of course you’re upset. Look at what you’ve been through.”

But the truth is, that mindset would have kept me stuck forever. It would have kept me powerless. At one point, I made a decision — I didn’t want to blame anymore. Not the accident, not the doctors, not myself. I just wanted to get better. I wanted to heal. I wanted to take my power back.

Taking Back Your Power

When I made that decision to stop blaming and start empowering myself, everything shifted. I stopped pointing outward and started looking inward. I told myself, “I can figure this out. I can heal myself.” And that became a radical turning point.

Now, don’t get me wrong — I still did the research. I studied medical journals, explored the mind-body connection, and dove deep into how the mind affects healing. But that inner decision — to release blame — was the catalyst that made everything else possible.

Because the truth is, as long as we’re blaming, we’re giving our power away. We’re saying, “They control my life. My past controls my future.” And that keeps us stuck in victim energy. When we choose to stop blaming — even when the situation feels unfair — we take back our power to create change.

How Blame Keeps Us Stuck

It’s easy to get caught in spirals of blame — toward others, circumstances, or even ourselves. Maybe you blame a partner, a parent, a boss, an ex, or life itself. Or maybe you blame yourself — feeling guilty, ashamed, or “not enough.”

But here’s the thing — blame disempowers you. It might feel justified, but it traps your energy. The more we focus on who’s to blame, the less energy we have to create change. When I began realizing that, I stopped wanting to blame anyone at all. I just wanted to heal, to live fully, to love, laugh, and enjoy life again.

So I want to invite you to ask yourself: Is there anyone in your life you’re still blaming? And if so, could you let that go — not for them, but for you?

Why Letting Go of Blame Heals You

Letting go of blame doesn’t mean excusing what happened. It means choosing empowerment. Because blame keeps us energetically tied to the past. When we release it, we create space for healing and transformation.

Think of it like this: a woman who grows up with an abusive father may later attract abusive relationships — a partner, a boss, a friend — and it’s heartbreaking. Psychology has many terms for this — repetition compulsion, attachment theory, reenactment, revictimization, or even law of attraction. But they all point to the same truth: patterns repeat until we heal them.

That woman could spend her life blaming her father, her ex, or her boss — and she would be completely justified in her feelings. But as long as she holds on to blame, she holds on to the energy of the wound. That energy continues to attract the same pattern.

The moment she says, “I’m done blaming — I’m ready to heal,” she reclaims her power. And that’s when the real transformation begins.

Moving Forward into Empowerment

Whether your situation involves another person or even yourself, the key is the same: let go of blame. If you’re blaming yourself, release it with compassion. If you’re blaming someone else, release it with freedom. Choose to move forward. Focus on what you want to create instead of what went wrong.

Because every moment you spend in blame is a moment you could spend building the life, love, and health you truly desire.

So take a moment today to reflect: Is there an area in your life where you feel stuck? And is there someone — including yourself — that you’re still blaming? What would it look like to let that go completely and step into your power instead?

Creating a New Vision

Remember, blame and empowerment cannot coexist. The more we blame, the less we create. But when we release it, we open our hearts, raise our energy, and align with possibility. That’s when true healing begins — mentally, emotionally, and even physically.

So that’s today’s Quick IQ insight. I want to invite you to use this awareness to get yourself unstuck and start moving things in a better direction. It’s not about perfection — it’s about progress and empowerment.

Share the Light

Before we close, please take a moment to share this episode with someone you love, someone you care about, or even someone you don’t know personally. Because the more that every person in our world becomes empowered, happy, and healthy, the better life becomes for all of us.

So please do hit that share button — and make a point to have a most wonderful, happy, healthy, loving rest of your day. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

We’ll see you there.

Closing Message

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. Every week, people reach out to say how these episodes have given them hope, touched their hearts, or helped them stay positive during hard times. Many share how it’s opened them to a new level of awareness about how amazing we truly are.

If today’s episode inspired you, please share it with those who need a reminder of their own power. The more we empower one another, the more we elevate the world together.

That’s the purpose of these demonstrations — to help create a radical shift in global consciousness by showing what we’re all capable of when we use our minds consciously.

And of course, each volunteer must follow through to reinforce their new mind programming and maintain their results. The same is true for all of us — consistency creates change. The point is for you to see that you can create rapid results in your health and life when you truly understand how to use your mind.

You are incredible.

Now, I do want to be clear — most people won’t get results this fast on their own. I make it look easy because of the discoveries I’ve made. But remember, there’s so much more going on in our minds at deeper levels than most people realize.

If you’d like to send me any questions or comments, visit me at BrandyGillmore.com. And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.

Lastly, please remember — if you have any health issues, continue to see your doctors. Make it your goal to blow their minds with what you’re capable of using your mind.

Thank you, and have a beautiful, loving, empowered day.