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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. That changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I love that today's episode highlights some key emotions or triggers that can lead to pain that are common. that people have that they don't realize.

So I love that about this episode. I also absolutely love our volunteer. Her name is Amy and she's an absolute sweetheart. She's so sweet. She's got great self awareness and she has great self awareness and the insights that emerge from today's episode. are just profound. And by the way, I do want to take a moment to warn you before we dive into this episode, that there is some information in this episode that you might find a bit counterintuitive.

And that was something that was really fascinating to me as I started really healing myself and then also understanding what it took. To heal others and thinking about the mind and how it works in a completely different way, I really began to realize that there is so much information that may feel counterintuitive or is opposite of what we think.

in our culture, which if you think about it, makes sense because a lot of people live with chronic illness and chronic pain. And that number is just continuing to increase. So if you stop and think about what that means, it ultimately means there are common ways of thinking. that are connected to illness, you know, whereas if instead illness and pain was not the norm, then those would be rare ways of thinking and feeling.

However, knowing that illness and pain are continuing to increase. They're increasing thought patterns and emotional patterns in our culture that are linked to illness. And of course, you may have heard me say on past episodes that there's always a unique combination. So it's never typically just one specific thought pattern.

There are multiple different specific thought, emotional patterns that are connected to illness. And so just very simply point being is that. Today's episode may feel a bit counterintuitive, and I will go ahead and unpack that as we dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Amy. Here we go.

Hello. Hi, Brandy. Hi. How's it going? Yes. Okay. Thank you. Good. Wonderful. I love to hear that. How can I help you today, beautiful? So, um, I've got something going on with my head and my ears and my balance. Um, The most challenging symptom is like a constant sense of vibration and noise throughout my head and ears.

It sort of fills my head, there's various different noises and sounds and tones going on and I can sort of feel it as well as hear it. It somehow feels like the noise is sort of scraping the inside of my head. It's like tinnitus on steroids. It is not fun. Um, and there's also like an intense pressure in my head, like a sense of pressing in, so all making me feel dizzy and lightheaded and unsteady on my feet.

Balance is off. I'm getting bouts of vertigo and I've got brain fog all the time. Um, and with my ears. It's something about my hearing seems distorted and my ears feel blocked a lot of the time. There's also noise sensitivity and a lot of fatigue when the symptoms are bad. So, it's just a whole host of different things.

There is some pain, that's generally mild. The worst symptoms really are the awful vibrating sensation and the noises in my head. So, if we could focus on that today, I'd be so, so grateful. Absolutely. Absolutely. And, um. If I ask you right now what the level is, zero to ten, what would you say? Well, the symptoms are currently being suppressed to some degree by some medication that I'm on, so I'd say it's about a five for five at the moment.

Okay, so there is a feeling of I'm going to mention something and, and I just want to see if you know what this feeling is and then we'll unpack it from there, but there's like this a feeling of feeling like a man is yelling at you. Well, does that bring anything up for you? Yes. Yes. I recognize that. Okay.

And, uh, and if I ask you who that might be, the initial of that person, who might that be? S. Bingo. Bingo. I love your awareness. I love your awareness. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to notice the part of you who, two things. Shaken by it on the inside and then also has this fierce part that says, but I'm not going to be shaken and I'm just going to push through.

And it's like this, all of it. Can you see that? Absolutely. Absolutely. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I love your self awareness. And if I ask you how much you have a strong side to you, what would you say? It's in there. Uh, maybe a seven. I see you. I see you. Okay. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And okay, so if I were to say there's like a feeling of you that's standing your ground and a feeling of you that's also shaken by this and there's, it's both. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you. What would you like for things to look like with S? Oh, that's a very tricky one. I would like things to be, uh, more straightforward.

It's a very, very complex situation. Um, I have been thinking it needs to just come to a complete end, that I need to maybe cut off all ties. That, that, that's what I've been thinking more recently. Okay. Okay. Um, all right. So, I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm gonna ask you to also think about it in another way.

Okay? If I ask you, zero to ten, how much would you say your dad was mean? Um, mean. How much would your little self have said that he was mean? He was short tempered, but I don't think he was mean. Bingo. Okay. And if I ask you, when he was short tempered, can you see how sometimes it felt like walking on eggshells?

Absolutely. Yeah. Love your self awareness. And if I ask you zero to ten, how much? Um, Oh, definitely up there, uh, uh, an eight or a nine. Yeah. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and I'm going to ask you or invite you to take in the awareness that all change starts from within, right? Yes.

Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you to notice the part of you who has all of these mixed emotions, who feels shaken, who also feels reactive. And, who wants to, who's, there's all of these different emotions, right? Now, bingo. If I ask you, can you also notice the part of you that feels unloved?

Uh, yes. Yeah. Yeah. I love your awareness. And if I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find that? I had to search, so maybe a four? Bingo. That's exactly what I would have said. Okay? So, I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, 0 to 10, how much you would say there's kind of, there's a, how much you would say there's a bit of a fighter in you?

Somebody who will fight for something, not necessarily a physical fight, but that feeling. 0 to 10, what would you say? Yeah, quite high. I think I would, uh, a 7 or an 8. Mm hmm. I love your self awareness. I love your self awareness. All right. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I want you to think about 10 years from now.

Zero to 10, how much do you want your fighter? How much do you need your fighter? How much do you want? Um, what if you don't need your fighter? What if everything's just easy? What if everything's even more loving? That would be just great. That would be absolutely wonderful. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment, because there are a few important insights. First and foremost, I love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. She's just beautiful. So I love that. Secondly, as far as getting rid of the fighter energy, so to speak, some people will think that that means immediately, you know, just become a doormat.

That of course is not the goal either. And so part of what we are going to be talking about is evolving it. You know, if you think about it for a moment, standing up for yourself or setting boundaries and really. Having that fight energy to stand up for yourself might be good in 3rd grade if you're standing up for yourself, but if you're an adult walking around and you're walking around and you're 30, 40, 50, 60 years old, 70, 80, 90, however old Instead of walking around feeling like you've always got to have your fight energy and set your boundaries and, and have that energy, feeling respected in life, feeling like you have respect and you have harmonious, kind relationships, that's what you want.

So, evolving it. So I just want to be clear, first and foremost, that it's not about just being a doormat, because a lot of times people will vacillate and say, okay, well, no fight energy. Fine, then. Let's just be a doormat. Well, that's not the goal either. So I just want to say that right up front. So that is one thing.

Secondly, a lot of times in our culture people have a tendency to say, you know, to go from feeling like they were Maybe a doormat or feeling like they didn't have boundaries to then getting this energy that says, you know, I have to set boundaries and they really feel like, okay, I have to set boundaries.

I'm never going to be taken advantage of again and they go into that energy. Of feeling the need to then set boundaries and be firm about them. Now, I see this all the time. And if you ask me the last time that I have seen somebody or worked with somebody who had extreme pain from doing this to their own mind, I would say it's been in the last one or two weeks.

So it's common for me to see people who have heard, I need to set boundaries. And they do. And they're doing it from a place of, of anger or being upset, but most people don't even realize it. So even the person that I just mentioned that I just recently worked with a week or two ago, when I asked that person, zero to 10, how much anger do you feel?

That person said, none. I just have to set these boundaries because I'm not going to be taken advantage of anymore, ever again. So they didn't even realize or identify that There was anything wrong with it because more and more you hear people say, set boundaries, et cetera, et cetera. Now, again, as I just mentioned, it's about evolving it.

What happens if you're living from a place of love and harmony and feeling respected and really embodying that. So I'm not saying don't have boundaries. I'm saying create loving ways to have boundaries. Kind of like this, this is a silly example. If you think about an infant. You know, there are certain boundaries for an infant, for a child.

A young child has certain boundaries. Now, if they're going outside of their boundaries, you would lovingly tell them, nope, they can't do that. Like there are certain things they can't do, like play on the stairs or play with knives. You know, there are certain things they simply cannot do. And we lovingly say, Hey, no, sorry.

You know, we don't fight them for it. Now, of course, while this is a silly. Playful example, with people in general, we don't want to have fight energy, or angry energy, or fear energy, or negative energy, or resentful energy, or any of that, because again, I see people do that all of the time with their mind, thinking that they're programming great things into their mind, and lo and behold, it then is connected to some type of health issue, problem, pain, etc, etc, etc.

So, just Being aware of that, that again, so often what you may think may be great, you really want to understand the mind. And so coming from love and harmony is so important. And again, just emphasizing, I'm not saying become a doormat, don't have boundaries. I'm saying come from love, evolve it. All right.

So that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with our beautiful volunteer. Amy, here we go.

So what if ten years from now, what if even five years from now, you didn't even need your fighter at all? You actually just needed the loving part, the yes, maybe you were working towards things or doing things and feeling alive and thriving and living fully, but the fighter wasn't so needed anymore.

Yeah, right. What if the fighter wasn't needed at all? Could you be okay with that? Yeah, I think I could really enjoy that. Okay, but if I ask you in the past how much there's a part of you that's prided yourself A bit on the fighting part. What would you say? Yes, you've got me pinned. You've got me absolutely pinned, Brandy.

Yeah, I see it. Beautiful. I love your self awareness. I love it. I love it. I love it. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to think about evolving beyond that, evolving beyond that, and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to take that in, to think about evolving beyond that, to think about, okay, well, that was Nice for a while, but now it's time to change, time to grow, time to flourish, and thinking about your next level of relationship.

And maybe it's with us, maybe it's with somebody else, but thinking about your relationships, all of them. Not just the one with us, but all of your relationships, and that there's no fighter anywhere. You don't need it. You don't, like, it's, you're just, the harmonies, cause you also have a really beautiful heart.

And I'm gonna ask you to breathe, great, and I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and by the way I want you to notice the level in your head, what's the level in your head, zero to ten? Um, still around a four or a five, I think. Mm hmm, mm hmm, okay, so here we go, bingo. Bingo. That. Bingo. I want you to notice the part of you who, um, who felt pretty upset about feeling yelled at.

That feeling of feeling yelled at. You see it? Mm hmm. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to ask you not to fight it, and I'm going to ask you also not to receive it, and I'm going to ask you not to fight it, not to defend it, not to defend it at all, because watch this.

If you stop defending it, and you also don't receive it, what happens to it? Um, it has nowhere to go. It has nowhere to go, and you have no entanglement with it. Mm. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and let's think about this. Even, let's say that you do or do not, either way, whatever your choice is, that you do or do not, either way, part with S.

But even if you did You held it within yourself, with your own integrity, with your own being, to do so in a harmonious, kind way, because that's just who you are. How does that feel to you when I say that? Yeah, I mean the whole, the whole concept of cutting ties feels very frightening to me, but, um, But, but, but, wait a sec, wait a sec.

Did I say cutting ties, or did I say whether you do, or whether you do not? Well, you did say that. Yeah, I'm not, because this is the thing I got to tell you all of the time. I have seen people 40 years into a relationship that they shift their energy and they, and they change a pattern and they're shocked that their partner changes.

So, so actually what I was looking at was actually this, as I always tell people that I recommend changing self before leaving a relationship, as long as it's not. You know, abusive or unsafe for any reason, but I always recommend changing self and then see what happens with the relationship because a lot of times the dynamics can change and and they can shift in a beautiful way, right?

So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And so let's say that you do shift this. Let's say that you do change. Let's say that even in this relationship with us, let's say that your fighters disappeared and you have a strong, loving, harmonious you, that's who you are. That the, the harmonious loving you, like you're good at staying grounded in love.

You're good at staying grounded in harmony, no matter what, you have your grounding, you have your footing in harmony, in love, in who you are. Right? Okay. With no fighter. Okay. What would that look like? Yeah, much more peaceful and, um, calm. Okay, but if I ask you, would you be willing to change? Yeah, yeah.

Great, great. Now, what I also want you to notice, if I ask you to notice the part of your mind that still wants to defend, defend, defend, defend, defend against him, what would you say? Yes, it's still there, yeah. Uh huh, I know. So, can I, can I just say how much I love your self awareness and I also love your playfulness humor.

You have a playfulness. It's beautiful. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and feel your smile and feel your willingness to not be depressed. So stubborn to be willing to change Because the truth of it is if I ask you this relationship, how long it's felt off for how long would you say that is? Um, there was signs from the beginning.

Mm hmm. So if I ask you how long has it felt off for? Um, 10 12 years Mm hmm. So notice for a moment if I told you I've been in a relationship for 10 12 years That is felt off, but I don't want to leave But it's not great how it is. I don't want to leave, but it's not great, but I don't want to leave. But it's not, what happens if you change?

What happens if you decide here and now, right now, you're going to change, you're embodying it, you're doing it. And, uh, and you're really going to say, okay, look it, I'm going to change me in this relationship. What does that look like? Uh, yeah, a lot better and, and, a big relief in many ways. What's that?

Yeah, it feels like a big relief in many ways. Uh huh. A big relief in many ways. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to push a little bit, and I'm going to say, no, you go ahead and be stubborn. Go ahead. Go ahead and be stubborn. Go ahead and be stubborn, if you want, it's up to you, or you could change, or you could change, or you could change, or you could change.

What do you want? Yeah, the change sounds better. Really? Yeah. 100%? 100%. Great. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice what it feels like to not defend, to instead return to love. Okay. To instead return to love. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to think about what that would feel like to change, to instead return to love.

What does that feel like? It feels safe and loving and warm. Okay. Great. And what does the defensiveness feel like? I'm going to take a hint. Yeah, uncomfortable. Yeah, uncomfortable. Hint, the best answer is gone. What do you mean? It's gone. I'm letting that go right now. Okay. Okay. I'm playing and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe, but do you want to?

Yes, yes, yes. It's not a nice feeling. Yeah. Great, great, great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Bingo. And I want you to notice. Bingo. I want you to notice the little part of you also maybe that likes to make him wrong. Zero to ten, how much can you find that? Yeah, that's in there. Yeah. Yeah, I know, and as you kind of said, it's a little part of you, but maybe a little bit more than a little bit.

Can you see that? Yep. Yep, okay. So, I want you to think about your pattern, so we can't, so we don't, like, kind of like this, okay? So, let's say that you do leave him, and you go get into another relationship. And then with that guy, you like to make him wrong, and you're a bit stubborn, and a bit defensive, and have a bit of a fighter in you.

How do you think that goes for that relationship, would you say? Maybe not so well. Maybe not so well. So maybe we can see how your patterns might be contributing to the bigger picture, right? Yeah. You know what's really exciting about that? Is when you change them, it's incredible. It's incredible. The changes that I see in people's lives all of the time.

Incredible. But are you really, really willing to change? Yes. Really? Yeah. Yeah. I like that. I like that. I like that. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Big O. But how much do you want to kind of make him wrong right now? Are you working on a zero? Are you working on a zero? We're working on a zero. Great. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you that question again. So, how much do you want to make him wrong? Zero. Are you done? Great. So, working on a zero, right? Working on a zero. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe.

So, wouldn't it be amazing to like, attack him and make him wrong later today? Oh my gosh, I mean, that would be incredible. What if you could like make him wrong, make him feel horrible, I mean, that's amazing, right? Not at all, no, and I don't ever have the intention of making him feel horrible. I know, but if you think about it, you have the intention of being right over him, right?

Mm. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to notice the level in your head. Zero to ten, what's your level? That's exactly what I would have said. So about a three, right? Bingo. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and actually pause the episode right here. You know, I absolutely love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. Just so beautiful. And notice, all right, so far she's gotten her pain down from a five to a three. So almost 50%, 40 percent in there. So, she's gotten that down.

Great progress. And, of course, more to go. However, I want to pause it here because there are multiple insights and takeaways from this part even so far. You know, as she said, she loves to be right in the relationship and she loves to have the fight in relationship. And that's been a feeling for her. And also she never wants to make her partner feel bad ever.

That's not what she would ever want. She doesn't want to make him feel horrible. And that's the point because each person is in their own mind and in their own programming and in their own emotions, it can be easy to get wrapped up in your own. Personal programming without really thinking about how it might impact the other person or how it might contribute to the problem.

And so noticing that's exactly what we're talking about is how some of her behavior can contribute to the problem. And so that's the reason that I ultimately want to pause it here as well, is because all too often in our own minds, you know, if a person is experiencing problems or hardship or hurt. It's so easy and automatic many times to just blame the other person or to get stuck in your own programming that it just continues to perpetuate the very problem that you want to change.

Because what you'll also see in this second part with Amy is that there's a part of her wanting more love and more connection and more harmony. And just where this conversation is going in this session is going is really beautiful. And of course there are some changes to get there. And so I want to invite you to look at this in your life.

You know, are there places in your life where you could return to love? Or, where you could take some of the feelings of fight out of the connection to then create and embody more loving feelings. Because as we know, love can be healing. Now of course, I say that also keeping in mind that even people who are very loved.

Can have multiple health issues. So that of course is not the cure all, but having love can definitely be helpful for healing and of course it's a beautiful feeling to feel love and connection in life. And so again, I want to invite you just to take one simple thing from this episode. And see if you can apply it to your life.

And I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, you know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more happy and healthy and loving that every single person is in this world, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do make a point to hit the share button and please do have a most wonderful, loving, incredible rest of your day. And. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time, people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about, or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness.

By showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible.

And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast. And, if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

Thank you.​