220 Transcript: Taking Your Healing and Your Relationships to the Next Level

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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers. To free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy.

To help you heal your health, yourself, and your life. Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it, and I just love today's episode. You know, each episode just has its own unique Insight, or even counterintuitive insight that leads to an aha moment, or just the volunteer that you just fall in love with, which I have to say, we just get the best volunteers and I just love each and every one of them.

And today's volunteer, I just love her. I mean, Warning, I mean, you're just going to fall in love with her. Her name is Jennifer, and she's such a sweetheart, and this is what I love. I mean, I just love so many things about her, but one of the things that I really love is she just has this huge heart. Which you can just feel, and you can feel her care for humanity, and her care for the community, and she's also been in law enforcement for many years.

And what I love is that sometimes people will see the tough side of officers. You know, most people tend to see the tough side of officers. They don't necessarily see That sense of responsibility of wanting to keep our communities safe. And some people even think, oh, well, officers are bad, or they watch so many TV shows with corrupt officers, or, you know, one or two bad officers then puts out a reputation for people, or, you know, a lot of times people don't see the human part, or the caring part, the scared part, or the isolated part, the part that feels disconnected or hurt, or, you know, just all of these different.

Emotions of needing love, of wanting to connect and also feeling disconnected and, and feeling that sense of responsibility for our communities. And so her heart is just so beautiful and I just, I love that and also so relatable. And so in today's episode, we're going to dive into the second part of her session.

Meaning that my entire session with her, when I worked with her, was approximately an hour long and I didn't want to make the podcast episode too long, so I split it in half. And so last week we listened to the first half of her session and on that session, as you'll recall, we talked about Her career in law enforcement.

But again, even in that episode, you could just feel her heart and her care for humanity. And I just love this woman. I mean, just beautiful, beautiful being, and also some common emotions that many people have felt, you know, feelings of feeling unsupported. And what I love is on the first half, she was able to release.

Her low back pain. Now, one of the things that I also love about this episode is you can really see how different emotions are connected to different parts of the body. Because even though she was able to release her low back pain, she still has Pain in her upper back, and in her neck, and in the back of her head, and her shoulders.

And so there's a lot of pain going on throughout her body. Of course, the back, the neck, all of that. And what I love is you can see how different emotions are connected to different parts of the body, but you can also See how there are multiple emotions connected to each part of the body, and you'll also be able to see in this episode that some emotional patterns can be extremely counterintuitive, and that's what I really just love about this episode, just the insights, the awareness.

and also her heart and by the way you know one more thing before we step in there's just something in the back of my mind and it's this it's just that you know I just manifested this beautiful being and of course she manifested me she's working on healing herself and looking for And so, of course, she's here, and so, of course, she manifested me, and I also have a pattern of manifesting beautiful love fest experiences with people in law enforcement, and I love that.

Now, I do want to say, it wasn't always like that, so if you listen to episode number nine, um, I had a bit of a, you know, trauma that I shared in that. Episode, and I won't go into that all here, uh, but point being is that officers were there for me in that situation. And so I was very grateful for them. It wasn't the best situation, of course.

That wasn't great. But I had a lot of gratitude for officers and I've continued to have a lot of gratitude for officers and what they do for our world. So much so That all of the time, you know, if I'm ever sitting in traffic and I pull up to a stop light and there's an officer that, you know, pulls up next to me, I'll roll down my window or I don't know if we really say that anymore because we don't really roll down our window, but I guess, button down my window.

And, and make a point to say thank you. And that's what I do. I just say, you know, thank you so much for your service and what you do for our community. And it's sweet because, you know, I'm very grateful, but then I always just have beautiful, wonderful, non traumatic experiences with officers in loving, kind ways.

You know, I've worked with officers throughout the years, but also just, you know, in kind ways in the community, the way they show up. I mean, just beautiful. So by the way, on that note, maybe a food for thought for you, if that's in your heart. Also, maybe making a point to do that same thing, you know, just sending that love and appreciation towards having beautiful communities and for their service and what they do just because it just, it feels more beauty and more positivity and more happiness and happy officers and fulfilled officers and, and it's beautiful.

And so anyway, I just wanted to share that because, again, because actually, because of her. Because the way our volunteer, Jennifer, the way that she shows up and the care for humanity and the care for communities and the care for, the responsibility for the way she has shown up in law enforcement to really care.

And I think that that deserves a sense of acknowledgement, and I think that officers, a lot of times, are not given the level of acknowledgement from the community they deserve, because they end up, you know, also pulling somebody over at times, or, you know, giving a ticket, or you, again, see the tough outer shell of them, that they aren't always given the level of Acknowledgement and appreciation for what they really do for us and so just wanting to say that just again but just loving her the way she shows up just really really beautiful and of course over the years she has accumulated Some patterns and wounds from that, which, as you'll notice, there will be some that you'll be able to relate to, but in a different way.

And so that's what I also love about this episode, is that even though she is in law enforcement, you'll notice that there are very relatable patterns. That she's experiencing that you may be experiencing in your own life. And again, it's just very insightful. And so on that note, without further delay, let's go ahead and dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Jennifer.

Here we go.

All right. So I want you to notice your level of pain in your back and your, um, your level of pain, zero to 10, what's your level? I don't feel it. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful job. Beautiful. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and again, taking that in, fantastic job, and, and taking in that feeling, fantastic job, fantastic job, okay?

And now if I ask you the level of stiffness in your neck, what's your level? It's still there, especially on the right side, but, but on the left side I can, I can go a lot further than I could a moment ago. Mm hmm. Okay. Absolutely. Okay. And so, uh, bingo. All right. So I want you to notice, and if I ask you to give it a number, and the number is for you.

But if I ask you to give it a number of stiffness, zero to ten, what number would you say it is on the right right now? Let's say, uh, four or five. Okay. Mm hmm. So, uh, bingo. So, here we go. So, give me one second. Okay. So, I'm gonna ask you to notice in your personal life Um, there feels, um, there feels like somebody who, who tends to get on your nerve just a bit.

Are you familiar with that? Yes. I mean, there's several, but I think I know which one you mean. Uh, go ahead. Remember, I'm easily irritated. Bingo. There you go. Yes, yes, yes. Okay. , it doesn't take much to irritate me. So there's a few people that that get on my nerves. But there's one in particular. Yes. Okay. So, uh, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Gimme one second. Strategy, strategy, strategy. . So I see the issue and I'm just unpacking it, so gimme one second. Alright, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to notice the part of you that gets agitated easily. Mm hmm. Okay? Yes. And I'm going to What's that? I said yes. Sorry.

Yes. Yes? Mm hmm. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice the part of you who feels like people don't understand you. Can you see that? 100%. 100%. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and If I ask you, do you think everybody understands me at a hundred percent? Yeah, probably not.

I mean, I do come off pretty normal, but I don't think so. Did you just laugh? I wish, uh, I wish this was normal as, as do you. I hear you in your podcast, but maybe one day this will be normal. You know what? This is how I feel. You know, in the 1950s, Roger Bannister, the four minute mile, before that time, the four minute mile was quote unquote impossible to run.

Then he ran it, and since that time, it has become a normal standard, you know, in running and, and Olympics and all that. Like, there's, it's broken new ground. I mean, it's just, it's amazing. And so Of course. It's like, you know, we think about different breakthroughs in the world and so yes, it'll become a new norm and, um, and it's just about understanding and making, you know, bringing awareness to it.

And, uh, so it's, it's, uh, it's expanding, but I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, when I speak, do you understand what I'm saying? When we have a conversation, do you understand what I'm saying? Yes. Yes. So if you think about it for a moment, like I feel very understood in my life. I feel very understood because I communicate clearly to people and people understand what I'm saying.

Now do I think that people understand me a hundred percent? No. But I don't feel that. I feel understood. Does that make sense? Yes. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you 0 to 10, how well would you say you feel like you understand your mom? My mom, um, like understand the way she is and 0 to 10.

0 to 10. How much do you just understand her? Um, Eight. Okay. And so, I'm going to ask you to breathe, and how much would you say you understand your father? Just get, it's a dumb comment here, but just, can you just explain what you mean by understanding someone? Like, when they're talking you mean? When they're speaking to me?

Or the decisions that they make? If I ask you 0 to 10, how much you feel like your mother understands you, what would you say? Uh, very low. Okay. So, is it because she lacks comprehension or is it because you lack communication? It might be my, uh, my French background here, but I, I, do you mean when we're having a conversation or do you mean as a person, I understand my mom, her decision making and what she chooses in life?

Yes. And so what I'm saying is why? Okay. So. It's kind of like this, I feel like the reason that people can understand me is because I can explain me, but do I think that people understand me fully? Not quite. So my point is. Is it, do you think most people understand each other at a hundred percent? No. Most people don't even understand themselves at a hundred percent.

Okay. I know, I know what you mean now. And, uh, I definitely don't communicate well. So I love your self awareness. Okay, and so I want you to notice the part of you that's frustrated, though, with feeling like nobody understands you. Can you see that? Yes. And I want you to notice the part of you that also feels like it's a bit isolating.

Can you see that? Yes. So, if you think about it for a moment, if I ask you zero to ten how much you feel like your co workers understand you. What would you say? That's, uh, also very local. Okay. So, it depends. Sorry. It depends. If you mean other police officers, then I would say they do understand me, but I'm in kind of a unique position right now when you say co workers, it's not police officers because I'm doing the return to work administrative duties and it's, um, not police officers that are my co workers right now.

Mm hmm. Okay. So, I feel that my non police officer co workers do not understand me or police officers, period. Okay. But you feel like police officers do understand you, right? I feel like we do, uh, understand each other because of our line of work. And I do, I do, um, I do understand that people that are not officers Don't understand and that's okay.

Like, I get it. Like, if you're not an officer, you're not, you're not going to understand a hundred percent what we, um, what we go through. I absolutely understand. Now I'm going to ask you to breathe. If you felt more understood, how would that feel for you? Uh, less isolating. Bingo. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Alright, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I have to say, I just love her self awareness. I love her self honesty. It's just beautiful. And I also Notice that she's really trying to be more open to be more vulnerable and and I just love it I just have so much respect for her.

What a beautiful being. I also love her self awareness where she mentions You know that it would be less isolating like if she felt more understood it would feel less Isolating and this is what I want you to notice is that there are multiple pieces to the puzzle of her neck, her upper back, her shoulders.

Because if you remember, this whole area is creating pain and tension, and even tension in the back of her head. And, of course, she mentioned in the beginning of this second part of the session that she was already able to move her head. a bit easier. So some of the stiffness was already coming down and yet there are multiple pieces.

And so that's what you'll notice as we are continuing through this session, is that we are looking at all of the different factors, the emotional energetic factors that are contributing to to the issue to help her to begin shifting those. So I just love that. And by the way, something else I want to bring up really quickly is this, is that when you stop and think about it, the feeling of connecting with others.

Many times, people may not make as much effort as they really want to, and this is what I mean, is this, is that I've worked with people before who have felt very disconnected from their spouse, or their children, or you know, their parents, or whomever, and Yet, they don't really make an effort to connect wholeheartedly.

Now, another really helpful insight is this, is that if you've listened to past episodes, then likely you've heard me talk about loneliness, or, you know, you've heard it in our world even because it has become an epidemic, and loneliness can definitely impact your health. The research even shows that it can be more detrimental to your health than smoking cigarettes every day.

And that loneliness can even shorten your lifespan and, of course, increase illness and all kinds of things. And so being able to connect with people is so important. And a lot of times the analogy that I use very often with people is this, is that, you know, if you think about connecting with a four year old, you connect with them in a different way.

You kind of join their world and their playfulness or, you know, you, you connect with them In a way where you meet them where they are. Now, a lot of times when it comes to connecting with adults, a lot of times, people might say, well, I just want people to be like me. Or, if everybody's not just connecting and doing the things that I already love to do, then I can't connect with them.

But just like connecting with a four year old can be really sweet and fun and loving and playful, getting good at connecting with people in their way can also be fun and playful and connecting. And I love doing that even, you know, with my family. I make a point to connect with them in their way. Like my father, we have our own ways of connecting.

And a lot of times I'm meeting him where he is. And I have fun with it. I don't say, well, oh, well, he doesn't meet me where I am. You know, I have fun with it. Just like I don't expect a four year old to just meet me where I am to connect, then I can meet them and have fun with it. And so, point being is that I want to invite you for your own benefit and your own enjoyment, especially if you're experiencing feelings of disconnect and loneliness.

To get better at just meeting others where they are, even in a playful and fun type of way. And you know, I was joking around about me being very normal, you know, and, uh, and I love her sense of humor and her laughter. It's just beautiful. But even when I do these episodes, you know, a lot of times I'm trying not to say bingo as much because I know that it can sound weird.

You know, when this gift first opened up and bingo started just coming out of my mouth, I was like, okay, well, this is a bit weird. Um, and I just kind of joked around about it and said, okay, well, I guess at least it's better than Yahtzee. And by the way, if you haven't heard the past episode about, um, going into, you know, what bingo and where that originated, then you can definitely check that out.

I'll have my team leave that in the show notes. But in short. That is something I try to do is say bingo as little as possible because I know it's weird. And that's just what started coming through as this gift opened up. And by the way, just so you know, sometimes when I'm working with somebody, sometimes I might say bingo like three or four times in a row.

However, on this podcast episode, what will happen on these episodes is a lot of times, you know, whenever audio comes out, typically I don't really cut anything out of the audio itself. Except for if there's little noises on the audio or if there's a lot of ums or somebody sneezes. And I'll have some of the bingos reduced because sometimes I'll say bingo three or four times in a row.

And sometimes there might be a silent space where I'm quiet for, you know, ten seconds. Checking into somebody's energy and their mindset. And of course Listening to the episode, if you're, if you're sitting there for 10 seconds or 15 seconds with just silence, that's not very interesting. So there's little itty bitty edits that are made, not typically to the content of the episode itself, that is the same, but just little things to make it more succinct.

Point being, is just that I do try to hold in some of those bingos because it makes it more normal, and not because I'm trying to hide them. Notice, I talk about them, I did an entire podcast episode on them. So it's not that I'm trying to hide them, it just makes it easier to connect. And so That's what I want to invite you to look at, is there something that you could do to connect even more with others, not because you're hiding the self, but just because you're meeting others where they are, much like meeting a four year old where they are.

What would that feel like in your life, especially, again, if you're feeling a sense of loneliness, what would that look like in your life if you started Making a point to connect more with others in their way of connecting. What would that feel like? And could that feel fun? So just food for thought on that.

And by the way, I, I'm emphasizing this because some people may have a tendency to be very, may say, well, I'm not going to connect with people in their way or, you know, I'm just going to be myself and, and only do what I like to do. But remember, again, loneliness can and does affect your health, your life, and so it doesn't help to only connect in your way.

And plus, I mean, again, connecting with a four year old on their level is so fun and connecting with a 20 year old on their level when you meet somebody at their level and connecting with a 95 year old on their level of what it is that they're doing and being in their experience and, and all of these things.

I mean, it's beautiful. And so connecting with people. And meeting them where they are is a beautiful thing, and I want to invite you, if you're not doing very much of that in your life, to see if you can increase that a bit more, because it is good for your health, your happiness, and of course, even your longevity.

All right, so just food for thought, and let's go ahead and dive back in with our beautiful volunteer. Jennifer. Here we go.

And I'm just going to pose that question again. If you felt more understood, how would that feel? Now, I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, I would say, if you think about it for a moment, now first, I want to, I want to think about our outcome here. Okay? When you feel more understood, you feel more understood, you feel more understood.

I'm going to ask you to breathe. You feel more understood. You feel better. You feel less isolated. Right? Yes. And by the way, I want you to notice the level of pain in your, or I'm sorry, stiffness in your neck. What's your level of stiffness? It's getting better, but it's, uh, it's still, uh, you know, a three.

That's what I would have said. I would have said two and a half, three right in there. Yep. Yep. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And what I wanted to show you is that our, is that what we're talking about is important. Okay. And so, because the, the problem is, is that when you're feeling Um, it's easy to feel agitated when you feel like nobody understands you.

And then by the way, imagine for a moment, if I'm going through life and I'm going through life and I'm going through life and I feel like nobody understands me and I feel that way strongly, then I might communicate something small and I feel like somebody doesn't understand me. So I just start feeling frustrated with people more easily.

Does that make sense? Yes. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, by the way, if all of these people, these people that kind of easily agitate you, if I ask you, if you felt like they understood you better, would you be as easily agitated? Well, I'm not entirely sure, uh, where the agitation is coming from, but because you're telling me it's that, then obviously, yes, I, I would be less agitated.

Okay. Um, let's put it this way. Uh, it's kind of a fine line, if I may say, uh, if, if them knowing more of what I know means that's what has to be done for them to understand me, then I wouldn't want, I wouldn't want them to know that part of policing, you know what I mean? You know, like, it's a fine line. I hear you.

I, I want them to understand me, but I don't in a way either, you know, cause you almost have to be part of it to understand it. And they didn't sign up for that. And so, but, but this is what I'm saying though. Okay. So would you say, okay, so going back to kind of looking at this for a moment, if I ask you, do you fully, would you say you fully understand what it would feel like to go to space?

Would you understand fully what that felt like? No. Okay, would you understand fully what it felt like to, uh, be Oprah? No. Okay. Okay. Would you understand fully what it felt like to be a politician? Okay. Would you understand fully what it would feel like to be a one year old? No. Okay. Okay. So the thing of it is we all have roles in life.

that unless other people are doing it at the same time, others, they're not going to get it, right? So if I ask you, what parts of you do you want to share more with others? So notice, it doesn't all have to be, like, if, imagine if you started sharing more of other parts of you with others. Yes. Connected, would you feel?

Yes. That would be good. And unfortunately, with the things that come with many years of policing, I'm withdrawn. And so I don't show any parts of the, um, not just the policing part, right? That's the problem. But yes, I would love to, um, get back to that part of me where I'm more comfortable sharing any part of me, right?

Mm hmm. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment. What it would feel like to not have that isolation. Really good. Good, good, good, good, good. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to take this in, to kind of just catching, bringing everything kind of together.

So I'm going to ask you to picture yourself. You're walking around and you're really feeling appreciated. You're feeling appreciated. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to take in that feeling that you're feeling appreciated. You're feeling supported and you're feeling safe.

And, you're not feeling a sense of isolation, but instead you're feeling a sense of connection. You're feeling a sense of connection to people. Good, good. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice a level in your neck. Zero to ten, what's your level? It's getting better. It's still stiff.

Uh huh. Yep. What's your level? Uh, two and a half. So, uh, bingo. Okay. So I would have said a one point, one point nine. So we're, we're, we're close. We're, we're in the same ballpark. So yes, absolutely. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to just for a moment to breathe. Now on the flip side, I want you to notice that part of you that Bingo.

That doesn't feel like it's too safe to connect with people. Can you see that? Yeah, I'm sure you've heard of this, uh, symbolism that we have, uh, a wall that we create, and I've been working hard at bringing that wall down, but I'm sure it's interfering a little bit today. So, I'm better. So, let's debrief.

Let's debrief. And, did you actually make a wall? No, you mean build it with brick and mortar? Yeah. No. Oh, so there's no wall. Okay, great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. There's no wall, right? So what, what I want you to notice is how you've been focused on bringing the wall down. Right? Which is kind of hard because the wall doesn't actually exist.

Right? So, I know I'm, we're playing with your mind for a second, but I want you to take that in. So, I, I, I get it's metaphorical, but I want you, I'm, I, I am being serious and, and wanting to, to shift the way your mind's working around it. Okay? So, notice, it's like you're, you're working on. Bringing this wall down that doesn't exist.

But I want you to think about, let's say instead moving forward, you were making a point to share parts of you and think about parts of you to share with people and communicate even more and find things to communicate, to share and communicate. And that was the feeling that you had, and that's what you were specifically working on.

Could you get better at that? Yes. So if I ask you, does that sound harder or easier than bringing down the wall? Um, soon as more possible, yes. Bingo. Right? I love your awareness. I love it. I love it. I love it. And by the way, I have to tell you, I actually worked on this myself because I tend to work with a lot of, like I'll work with.

Uh, you know, I work with all kinds of people and celebrities and different things like that. And so I felt like, because part of my thing that I do is I'm very good at confidentiality. So I don't share things ever. And I feel like if I did, that I could lose my gift and my abilities if I did. So it's all about everything and integrity.

And so then I felt like. I didn't want to share. So then I like kind of just stopped sharing. And so then I realized that I was kind of disconnecting in a way, cause I stopped sharing myself and it felt so I had to, like in my personal relationships, I had to get better at saying, Oh, I have to actually share myself and my connections.

And. So what I'm basically asking you to do, obviously our situations are very different, but becoming more aware of what you do share and coming from that place creates a deeper sense of connection. That's really beautiful. And it helps with that feeling of disconnect because it's, it's, it's an odd feeling because.

When you do have that feeling of confidentiality or a feeling like, okay, I'm walking around with things I can't share. It's easy to become then a vault. And then it's hard for it, then it feels hard to connect with people because you're this vault who doesn't connect, you know what I mean? Yes. Yes. And I feel, uh, I feel very vulnerable, uh, when I do open up and then I'm trying to be careful not to open up too much.

So it's beyond where I'm comfort, comfortable and sometimes I do, and then I regret it, but you know, I'm, I'm trying. Okay. So, but if you open up. Even in a positive, fun way. If you open up and find yourself just opening up for fun things. So the opening up doesn't have to mean like, Hey, here are all my emotions.

Opening up can just be sharing more of, Oh, of you, of, of non work details of this, that, the other. It's, it's interesting how it. All

right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for two really quick insights. You know, first and foremost, as far as the feelings of shutting down or putting up that wall, so to speak, you know, a lot of times people will go through a variety of different hurt or wound or trauma where they do exactly that, where they shut down.

And many people may not even realize that it's happening. So sometimes people may go through a divorce where they've been married for 20, 30 years, and then they go through a divorce and they feel just shut down, like they don't want to ever let in a man or a partner or anybody. And they feel shut down in that area, or even people who have been through a lot of depression or suicidal or different things like that.

This feeling of feeling very disconnected from others and shut down. And I know that even going through my own injury, I felt disconnected from others, even though I had, you know, great, wonderful people around me. I was just very shut down and having a very hard time. And so point being is that we can be stuck in that place for a variety of different reasons and if you're in that place, you'll definitely want to transform it.

Now the example that I gave her had to do with confidentiality and that's because that is also part of what she experiences is that there's certain parts of her in her work and whatnot. that she can't really share. And, of course, there are certain parts of my work that I can't share. And, of course, if you focus on that part, that is how you'll feel.

You'll feel very disconnected. Just like going back to the example of, you know, when we look at it, you know, every person can be understood to an extent. And, simultaneously, Most people aren't completely understood and whichever one you focus on, you'll feel more of. And so personally, if I focus on, Oh, well, I can't share all of this part of my day or what's going on, you know, in, when I work with people or this, that, the other, and I, Oh, I can't share that.

Then I feel very disconnected. But if I also think about all of the parts of me that I can share. I feel very connected, you know, I'm personally like an open book, but I just don't share things that happen in other people's lives. But that allows me to be who I am and connect and just be an open book, being myself, which is exactly what I should be.

And so notice even in her situation, then being willing to share other parts of her, which Will be good for her because it also means getting more in touch with other parts of her that aren't just the job. So she's not identifying as solely being the job, but she's reconnecting with other parts of her.

You know, obviously her spiritual connection, she's connecting with that. But even being able to be fun, be playful, be able to connect and step out of the work energy a bit and enjoy. And so for her to share more of herself, she's also got to step more into that energy, which is, again, good for her to do.

So that is, of course, one insight. Now another insight that I wanted to share is this, is that I just said, you know, as I was talking to her, I said, well, you don't have to share your emotions. And what I meant to say is, you don't have to share your negative emotions. But when you connect with people, you can share positive emotions.

Things that you care about. Things that you love. Things that you enjoy. Things that you're passionate about. Because when you share from that place, that breeds more of the same. That is expansive. That is beautiful. And so I didn't mean You don't have to share emotions when you connect with people. What I meant is you don't have to share all of your negative wounds and hurts.

And so a lot of people think that opening up and being more connected means sharing your wounds. And it doesn't necessarily mean that. It actually can mean connecting with people and being vulnerable and opening up. can be connecting from a place of love and having fun and letting go and just enjoying the moment or being silly or being playful.

That can be vulnerable. That can be fun and even more enjoyable. Then talking about all the wounding and this, that, the other. And of course, if you do need to talk about that, you know, there's a time and a place, but not in social settings. Like that's not your social life. You'd really want to learn to connect from a place of, of just creating beautiful, positive, loving connections that are fun, that are playful, that you don't need.

Trauma or problems to create a deep bond and connection. It's so important. All right. So that said, let's go ahead and step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Jennifer, here we go.

How, when you start looking for things to share more of yourself, that if you're looking at it, you're not thinking, Oh, I have to share my own most inner blah, blah, blah, that it, it, it actually starts showing up even more. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment, closing your eyes, bingo.

Now, if I ask you, kind of a little bit of a curve ball, but if I ask you just for a moment, if I ask you how much you felt understood as a child, what would you say?

Well, I hope my parents won't be listening to this, but, um, well, just to think about this for a minute. Um, so you say as a, as a young child, you said? I'd say as a young child, probably pretty, pretty, probably pretty good. So I want you to notice, bingo, age 13, there's a feeling of feeling not understood. It's very strong.

Are you familiar with that? No, it's not the age I would have picked there, so I've got to think now. Um, 13. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. I mean, it's a bit of a Bit of a long story there, but at 12 I, uh, I went to live with my father and I'm the only one of four kids that, that did live with my father.

My parents were divorced when I was three. Thank God. So, uh, that lasted only about, uh, eight months to a year only because you know how it is when divorced parents, whoever has less rules, you tend to flock to. So, uh, 13, you know, can't wear makeup with dad while I'm going to go live with mom, right? So, yeah, you know, typical stuff.

So if you, uh, if that's what you're, um, Maybe referring to, yeah, there's a feeling of feeling like it feels like a sister, a feeling like they just didn't understand that. Yeah. Yeah. You feel that? I have, I have two sisters. And can you say the part of you that felt like they just didn't understand you? Um,

It's hard to, to, uh, you know, I'm very private by nature, but, uh, yeah, one of my sisters, um, that you would expect to be supportive is, um, never has been that, only because she's needed support more than, than me over the years. So never had the, the big sister support, you know, that I would have liked. Okay. I hear you.

So, uh, Bingo. So, I, I bit her, her shoulder as opposed to, you know, having a shoulder. Mm hmm. Okay. And so, she didn't notice. What? Which is fine, you know. I'm glad I was there to help her. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. So, I want you to notice how much you have felt like I've always had to be everybody else's shoulder instead of having a shoulder.

If I ask you how much you can see that pattern in your life, how much can you say that is? It's definitely there, uh, but I don't necessarily mind it, you know what I mean? I, I feel like that's, that's why I'm here. Okay. But I wish, I do wish deep down that I had more support. Okay. So I want you to go back to even the beginning where we were talking about how you supporting communities or supporting people.

And yeah, that's why, like, you're here, you're amazing, you're wonderful. And what does it feel like that you also have support? Yeah, that's a strange feeling, but I like it. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. So our thoughts help create our lives, right? Mm hmm. Our thoughts help create our lives, right?

Yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I want you to notice what you just said is the idea of having support is a foreign feeling to you. Yes. Okay. So your thoughts help create your life. When do you want to make it a normal feeling? Do you want to make it a normal feeling? I like where you're going with this.

I see. I see. I like your sense of humor. I get it. No. Yeah. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Bingo. Bingo. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment, seeing yourself moving forward with support. Bingo. Let me just, all right, so I want to dial this in because where we want to go is this.

Where we want to go is there's a feeling of people easily getting on your nerves. Zero to 10, I would say it's about a 12. You're familiar with that, right? Yes. So, The thing of it is the support, so we've talked about that, and that was also a big part of even the lower back area, and basically to get the rest that we're looking at, um, right now to, to create the rest of the shift, uh, there's a couple feelings that I'm looking for.

Um, can you see how when people get on your nerves there's also a feeling of feeling guilty when that happens? Can you see that? A hundred percent. A hundred percent. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice what it would feel like if you were willing to change this.

If you didn't feel bad, didn't feel guilty, if you just took in the awareness. I mean, feeling bad, feeling guilty, it's a waste of time, right? It's a waste of time. Yes. You don't want to beat yourself up. So, I'm going to ask you to breathe, feeling bad, feeling guilty, waste of time, you don't want to beat yourself up.

And I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to take in the feeling that you're not going to feel guilty, that you're just going to change the way that you respond. How does that feel to you? Very good. Could you commit to that? Yes. I want to. Great. So, if I ask you, how would you respond instead?

Patience. Okay. Patience. Can you see the voice inside your head that frequently says, but these people don't understand what's going on, et cetera, et cetera? Yes. Okay. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And what if you didn't need that voice? I don't need it. What if you, on your off time, immersed yourself even more into their experience?

What would that look like? Good. Would you want to do that? Yes, it would be very different, but I think it would be good for me. What's that? It would be very different than what I'm used to, but I think it would be very good for me. I think so, too. I think so, too. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right, and I'm going to ask you to notice the level of stiffness in your neck. Zero to ten, what's your level? It's getting better, but it's still, uh, you know, a one or a two. Maybe I should say it's also the back, the back of my head, the back of my neck. Like your head back here. It's tight. Very tight.

Uh, that's about a six I have there. Bingo. What do you have there? Oh, yeah, it's very tight. Bingo. Okay, so give me one second. Okay So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe And if I ask you to notice the part of you that could be a bit, um, how do I say it? Kind of, uh, so I'm going to be a bit of a, uh, let's say, um, a fighter in relationships, if you will.

A fire, you said? Uh, uh, well, fiery would work. If I ask you A short fuse? There we go. Yeah. A short fuse and reactive. A hundred percent. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment, I'm going to ask you to breathe, asking you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice that short fuse feeling.

And if again, if you knew you were safe, if you knew you were safe, if you knew you were safe and present in the moment, if you knew you were safe, how much would you actually need to have a short fuse? I wouldn't. Bingo. So if I ask you, bingo, to notice the part of you that's reactive. Yes. Now, if you think about it for a moment, you go through a lot of training to be and do who you are, right?

Yes, we're very, very well trained. Exactly. So I want you to think about what it would look like to retrain the short fuse, to be clear on what you wanted it to be and retrain that. What would that look like? Well, the end product would be well trained. Just got to get there. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe.

Okay, so this is where I want to go. Um, so if I ask you just for a moment the part of you who kind of likes having a short fuse. Can't see it. What's that? I can't see it. Great. So I'm gonna say that again and you can repeat, you can answer the exact same way. Okay, so if I ask you to notice the part of you who likes having a short fuse, what would you say?

You can respond the same way. Yeah, I don't, I don't see any part of me that likes it. Say it again. There's no part of me that likes it. Say that again. There's no part of me that likes having a short fuse. Okay, great. So, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to notice the stiffness in the back of your head.

Back your, uh, head. What's your level? It's better. It always surprises me. No offense.

No, it's uh, oh my goodness. Yeah, no, it's um, it's like night and day.

I can go way back. Like it's still a little, you know, a little tender, but I can go way back. Great, great, great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I'm gonna say that a couple more times, okay? And you respond the same way. Respond the same way. So I want you to notice the part of you that likes having a short fuse.

No part of me likes it. What? No part of me likes it. What? There isn't a single part of me that likes it. So you're ready to get rid of that? Yeah. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Bingo. Good. Your levels, 0 to 10? Between 0 and 1. Beautiful. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe. So what I want to do is I actually want to give you time to actually incorporate this stuff into your subconscious mind, into your being, okay?

So what's beautiful is this. is that you can see the specific things, like notice we've been working this entire time and then you go Oh, what about the back of my neck back of my head? What about this? And we can point to this specific thing It's kind of amazing, right? It is. It is. So if I ask you how amazing are you?

Well, I'm pretty amazing, I guess. Yep. Yep. I expect nothing less than a level 10. So, uh, zero to 10. How amazing are you? So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you just for a moment, really though, to take that in. You're amazing for so many reasons, for so many reasons. And I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Yes, you're amazing because of what you do. But you're also amazing because you're this incredible spiritual being, and you're also amazing because you just literally released your pain in your low back, and also in your stiffness in your neck, and also in the back of your neck. And so notice for a moment, you got this.

You've got this. You've got this. Now, is it going to take real change? Yes, because something even that you said, as you mentioned, taking in the feeling of feeling supported feels foreign to you, absolutely. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to think about these things that I want to invite you to go through, to listen to this recording again, to really, really feel it and to really be willing to embrace change.

How does that feel to you? It feels great. Beautiful. Beautiful. All right. So, as you wisely said in the beginning, that there are some layers. Okay? So, notice there's a few things. So, I don't want to overwhelm you, and if you can get these in, that will be pivotal. Does that make sense? Yes, thank you. It's beautiful.

You're absolutely so welcome. Uh, Bingo. Give me one second. Yes. Um, Bingo. Do you have any questions? Uh, no. I'm just so happy that you, I, I have a lot of layers and I'm just, uh, so appreciative for the direction on where to start and, um, really appreciate it. Can't thank you enough. And, um, I, I do have kind of a silly, uh, thing I wanted to ask you if I could.

Absolutely. Do you get tired? Do you get tired? You must be tired after one of these. No. Do you get tired? Do you get drained? No. No? Wow. You're amazing. And I, I thank you so much on behalf of me, for my well being, and so many people that you've helped. And you're just, uh, you're, you're the, you're the start of a bigger, much bigger picture.

And I, uh, I know you realize it and I just wanted to tell you though, and it's just great. You're so sweet and thank you. My heart receives that very, very much. Thank you. And ditto, thank you for what you do and what you do for our world and our communities and everything that you bring in showing up every day in your life.

And I appreciate it so much. And thank you for what you do. You're welcome. Absolutely. And I wish you a most wonderful rest of your day, beautiful. And same to you. Thank you. Bye. Thanks again. Bye.

Alright, so let's go ahead and unpack this even more because I just love the insights from this episode and Before we do, just acknowledging our beautiful volunteer, Jennifer. I mean, just such a fantastic job with her energy, great self awareness, great self honesty, just a beautiful heart and fantastic job at releasing her pain.

You know, if we think about the full session, which includes last week's Podcast episode, and this week's, which was, you know, again, her whole session was almost an hour long, but she was able to, during that time, you know, release her pain from her back and her neck and the back of her head and her shoulders and her upper back.

So it's just all of these different Locations. And what I love is that this episode, you could see that there are a lot of different factors, meaning this, meaning that on every one of these volunteer episodes, I always emphasize that I make this look really easy. You know, it says that in. In the outro of every single episode, it always says, I make this look really easy, there is a complexity to it.

And so I love that you can see that from this episode. You can see that there are counterintuitive feelings, like the feeling of not wanting to have a short fuse. And what I love is you can also see how shocked she was as she was taking in that awareness and feeling that, you know, that she didn't want to have a short fuse and that she really didn't want that.

And that suddenly how shocked she was that her pain hugely, like her words were what, night and day or something like that, you know, just to the extent that there was a radical difference. So I love that. I also love that you can see that. You know, different emotions were connected to different parts of the body and also that there are multiple factors.

So we might work with one emotion to bring it down, bring down the pain 20 percent. Then we might look at another emotional pattern that brings it down another 10 30 percent or whatnot. And so I just really love that you can see from this episode that there are just different emotions that are Connected to the issues.

So there is a level of complexity. However, you can see that when she really changed it, you could see when she got the right emotion, there was just radical results. She could see a radical shift in pain. And so I love that. for this reason. Now, from this episode, there were so many different insights. I want to invite you to see if you could even just apply one in your own life.

And maybe it's a feeling of feeling more understood by others, or maybe it is making a point to connect even more with others in ways that they like to connect, you know, meeting them where they are, or maybe it is getting even more clarity on what parts of you that you want to share, so you feel like you're making a point to share more and connecting in positive ways, but So, you know, we had talked about the whole metaphor of bringing down the wall, but the hard part is, is since there is no wall, all the time people get stuck there.

And so instead of thinking about bringing your walls down or bringing down your defenses, instead making a practical effort to share more of you. and to really feel that and experience that. And so, those are the insights from today's episode. Again, just inviting you to take even just one piece from that and see if you can apply it to your life.

And, as always, I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know, because the more that every single person is happy and healthy and feeling connected and feeling loving and just feeling great in life, the better this world is for all of us.

And so please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode, and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible rest of your day. And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness.

By showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible.

And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at BrandyGillmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

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