221 Transcript: Releasing Self-Blame and Stepping Into Your Power to Reclaim Your Health, Relationships and Your Life

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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. That changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind Your emotions and your energy to help you heal your health yourself and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I just love today's episode, and part of the reason that I really love it is because all of the time. You know, when people are learning how to heal themselves or transform their lives, there's certain epiphanies along the way that just give you that next level of clarity or that aha light bulb moment, you know, when you just feel like you get something at a deeper level.

where it becomes pivotal. And I know, you know, during my injury, as I was working on healing myself, there were so many pivotal moments. And so I just, I love this episode for that very reason, is shares a pivotal moment where you can see the light bulb moment in our volunteer. And not only that, but I just love her heart.

She just, she has this feeling of depth and of kindness and just. Self awareness that's really, really beautiful. And what you'll notice as we step in is that she has been studying metaphysics and the mind for the majority of her life. So she's well aware of, you know, patterns and the awareness of the mind.

And, and so I love that. And you can, again, you can just feel her depth. And so that said, let's go ahead and dive in. And as we do, what you'll notice is of course, she's. She's been experiencing multiple health issues and that's what she's working on, really working on transforming. And that's what we're going to do as we step in with our beautiful volunteer, Lori.

Here we go.

Hello. Hi, can you hear me? I can hear you. Hello, beautiful. How's it going? It's going well, thank you. I love that. It's wonderful to connect with you. You as well. Why, thank you. And, um, I know that you have to fill out paperwork to come on, but I have not read it. Um, and, uh, so what can I do to assist you today?

Oh, goodness. Um, I'm not even sure at this point because the reason I put on there is, well, let's just say I'm a hot mess. I actually have several issues. And the curious thing for me is that everything is on the right side of my body. So issues that have been going on for years. Everything is on the right side of my body, and I know it's got to mean something.

I just don't know what. Okay, so first and foremost, biggest suggestion, keep the hot, get rid of the mess. So you just be, okay, you're just hot. Sounds good. Great plan. All right. Um, okay, so, um, Bingo. So I am going to need a little bit more specific information than that. Um, so if you could give a little bit more specific as to, if you want to just go ahead and list off a few of the health issues, um, that you are experiencing.

Um, you know what, actually give me one second. Bingo. Okay. So you'd get more if you gave me more information, but, uh, if I ask you just for a moment, um, if I ask you if you're familiar with the feeling of feeling, um, anger inside. Um, how much you can see that? What would you say? I don't know. That's a little bit confusing for me right now, because I know that in the past, like long in the past, it was a big issue, but I kind of feel like I have resolved the majority of that.

So give me one second. Bingo. There's a man. Uh, do you know who that is? Um, can you give me, can you give me, um, uh, okay. So if you give me, I would say anger, uh, like especially six years ago, there's a, there's a, a lot of anger towards him. Do you know who that is? Uh, could be my ex, but I, again, I thought I had resolved most of that.

Cause that is where the majority of my anger in my past was. Can you give me his first initial please? J. Bingo. So, um, so yes. Um, bingo. Okay. And there we go. Okay. So if I ask you if you're experiencing any physical pain right now, um, what would you say? Right this minute, I am not. Okay. So we can work one of two ways.

Um, let's, let's do this. Okay. So you tell me if you want to go more specific into specific health issues, we could do that. Um, or I can just continue to ask your body. What is linked to the health issues and we I don't need the specifics because yeah, I mean Which would be more effective? Do you think as long as you're willing and open for seeing I mean either one As far as what I see is if you just ask me in general I would say that there's still a feeling of anger in your system.

That's very high towards him I would say if I check your energy right now, I would say it's about a level Seven. Um, so I would say this. Um, it's kind of like this, like if I ask you to just for a moment to breathe, and if I ask you, zero to ten, how much you can find the feeling that you used to be a koala bear?

Zero to ten, how much can you find that feeling? I cannot. Great, great, great. Okay. And, uh, and so if I ask you how much you can find the feeling that you used to be explosively angry at your ex, how much can you find that feeling? Oh, a thousand percent. So one of those things is in your subconscious mind and one of them is not.

Which one would you say is in your subconscious? What's that? The anger.

So the thing of it is, is that if I ask you 0 to 10, if you really, really, really close your eyes, if I ask you 0 to 10, how much you can find the feeling that Santa Claus is real? If you reach in the past, how much you can find the feeling, the pure feeling, Santa Claus is real? That's a tricky question because I believed in Santa for a long time.

Yep. So if I ask you to dive into that feeling, how much can you find the feeling that Santa Claus is real? I would actually say a five. And uh, bingo. And if I ask you how much you can find the feeling of feeling like Santa Claus is not real? That would also be a five. Okay. So that would be different from what I would, those numbers would be different from what I would have said.

To be honest with you, I would say that there is a very strong feeling when you found out Santa Claus was not real, uh, that I felt most dominant in your energy. Um, Like a shock factor. Uh, but anyway, what's up? That's probably true. Yeah. So that's when I check your energy, there's an intensity like what? Uh, so, uh, who wants to be told magic isn't real?

Well, it's better than that. It's that magic is in all inside of all of us. Right. So, uh, exactly. Not just in one man with a beard. We all have magic in us. So, so I love that. And so instead of it being, uh, Santa Claus that's bringing gifts in life, it's universe, God, divine energy, mother nature, whatever you want to call it.

So, uh, so I would say it's just a, an expanded way of thinking. So I'm gonna ask you just for a moment to breathe and I ask you zero to ten, how much you made your ex, the wrong one, and, and feeling like he's the one that, that wronged you. If I ask you zero to ten, how much you can find that? I would say nine.

Okay. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you zero to 10, how much guilt you have in that relationship of stuff that you, from yourself, of guilt, of how much you feel at fault, what would you say? Uh, probably about a five. And so, I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. If I ask you just for a moment, did he really wrong you?

That's kind of a loaded question. Um, I would say Yes, but I also know that we are responsible for the experiences we experience. So in that regard, I would have to say no.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for two really quick insights, you know, first and foremost, I love how she's mentioned, you know, that's a loaded question, you know, because we are responsible for our experiences. Now, I just want to tweak her wording just a bit because she's right. And I want to tweak the wording so it feels good and not just.

Because we're telling ourselves it feels good, but also because it's what's true. And it's this, it's that if we look at experiences that show up in our life and we feel like we're going to blame ourselves or we're responsible or that's our fault. That is not going to feel great for our energy, but if we could take it to the next level and really instead just feel empowered in it, and I'm sure that's likely where she was trying to go, you know, I kind of caught her off guard with the question and she said, you know, that's a loaded question, but either way, point being.

Ultimately, what you want to think about is, you know, if you've had a negative situation that you feel empowered to change it. I mean, if you think about my injury for a moment, if I said, Oh my gosh, this is all my fault, I had stuff in my subconscious mind that I didn't even know was there. And then I manifested this accident and got injured.

I mean, first and foremost, that wouldn't help. And, you know, additionally, information gets stored in the subconscious mind and it's not like you put it there on purpose. You know, my injury and all of that, my negative emotions were connected to 9 11 and of course there was patterns around that and whatnot.

But it's not like I purposely put negative emotions into my subconscious mind to then attract negative experiences and oh, well, that's my responsibility or whatnot. And so. We want to make sure that we're not blaming ourselves or going, well, that's my responsibility. But instead the wording around it feels really good.

Where we say, look, if something is off, it feels empowered. Where we say, look. Whatever it is, I have the power to change it. Where you have that mindset that says, yes, you can change your actions. You can change your emotions. You can change your mindset and you can really make a difference in your life.

That's the feeling that you want. And if you really create that pattern. That feeling of, of consistently feeling that way, it helps you to live an empowered life where you just feel that. And so we're going to unpack that a bit more, just really. Opening up to that space because as we dive in even more, you want to have that wonderful vision and feeling moving forward.

So again, we'll talk about that even more coming up, but that's just one quick insight is just making sure to feel empowered that you can change it. So you're not blaming yourself. At all. Zero. The reality of it is is that blame is a waste of time. So if you just look at something and you say, Hey, I can change that.

Great. That's productive. But sitting there saying, Oh, that's my fault. Or that's so and so's fault. You know, it's just a waste of time. Make sure to feel empowered. That's the first insight I wanted to share with you. Now, the second insight had to do with contrasting the emotions. Where you compare it to something ridiculously silly.

Like a koala bear. When do you remember feeling like that? You know, you compare it to something That isn't there. Now, I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous, by the way, but it's meant to feel that way. It's meant to feel light hearted and silly and this is really where it came from, you know, is that when I was working with my own mind, I started to really have a hard time of noticing.

What was I even feeling anymore? I couldn't tell. I was still learning how to get in touch with my emotions and what it made me think about is like an olfactory reset. Like if you think about an example, if you've ever done this before, where you've gone to a fragrance counter, you know, maybe a perfume counter at a department store, and if you've spent time, you know, smelling a bunch of different perfumes, what you notice is after a while, it's hard to tell the difference.

And that's why a lot of perfume counters will have. A dish of coffee beans that you can just smell that can help with an olfactory reset. So it helps reset your senses, if you will. And so that's what it made me think about now. When you stop and think about it for a moment, our senses work really well with contrast.

So, for example, hot and cold, or even if you're having a hard time telling the difference between two different shades of blue, if you put them right next to each other, it's so easy to see the difference. The contrast is clear. And so a lot of times if we take sensory information, And we contrast it, we can have a greater sense of clarity.

And so that's exactly what I started doing when I was working with my mind is I started contrasting my emotions with something that I knew was not there and something light and silly and ridiculous. So it just kept a light, playful tone, and then I would contrast it with something that I was really looking for, an emotion that I was really working on.

And if that emotion is still there at all, then it tells you it's still in your subconscious mind. Now, the beautiful thing is, is the emotions that I had going through my injury I literally cannot find them. I can't feel them no matter how hard I try. Now, some of them, I know were there, but I, I literally cannot find the feeling.

And that's ultimately what you want is you want to be able to make a genuine shift. And so you just really don't have the same feelings. And you'll want to keep that in mind because when you're working on really getting, you know, real results with mind body healing, that's ultimately what you want to do.

is to shift the emotion and make sure that it's not there at all anymore. So that is key for lasting results. And part of the way of really getting there is also shifting your mindset. And so that's where we're going to go as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Lori. Here we go.

So if I asked you how he wronged you, what would you say? He was very verbally abusive. Bingo. And how so? Frequently called me names. He, he, he had a very explosive personality. So wait a second. So I'm asking you to breathe. I want you to notice for a moment as I asked you that question, how much you notice a bunch of emotions coming up?

Oh, a whole bunch. Okay. But I thought they were gone. I thought they were gone too. Bingo. So the thing of it is. is that I want you to notice all the emotions that came up, and that's the point, okay? So, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, if I ask you to notice the other emotion that you have that also says, well, hey, but it's kind of tricky because we also create our experiences, so it's kind of my fault, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

Kind of feeling. Can you see that? I can see it. I just don't have a lot of emotion attached to that. Okay, so So you mentioned you don't have a lot of emotion to that But give me one second. So you don't want to have So the feeling of feeling like well, it's kind of my fault Because we attract our experience, et cetera, et cetera.

So you don't want to have that feeling. You want to instead, I'm going to ask you to breathe and I'm going to ask you to instead take in the feeling of what it would feel like to have a feeling of empowerment. So instead of saying fault, so I just want you to notice the difference between feeling fault.

Oh, it's like your fault, like you attracted it. Delete, delete, delete. And instead, I want you to notice the feeling of empowerment that says, okay, XYZ has happened and I can transform something that ultimately becomes a gift. Like there's something here that I can change to transform self, to transform patterns, to transform my life.

And there's a gift in it. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. I want you to notice the difference between feeling like, Oh, you attracted blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And instead feeling like, Hey, this is not optimal of the pattern of this, that, that, but you can change it and you feel empowered.

And Hey, there's a, there's an awareness that then you can change that then really. Can help to transform your life to the next level. I ask how that feels to you. How does that feel to you? That feels great. And I do believe that. I do believe that there is something I can do. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

And I'm going to ask you to take in that feeling. So if I ask you, are you currently in a relationship right now? No, I'm not. Okay. Do you want to be in a relationship again? I do. And are you afraid of being in a relationship again? I think I am.

I don't want to be, but I think I am. Okay, so I'm going to ask you to breathe. If you knew that whatever past pattern, you completely healed it, transformed it, and changed it, what would you expect your next relationship was going to feel like? I would expect it to be absolutely amazing. Because I have a lot of work on myself in that regard, and I do feel like I deserve it.

So your next relationship would be amazing, and loving, and wonderful, and incredible, and feel really, really good, right? Yes. Okay. So if I ask you, do you want to be in a relationship again? Absolutely. You notice the feeling of wanting to be in a relationship went up? Yes, I do. A little bit or a lot? Oh, um, a lot, I would say.

I would agree. I would agree with your awareness. Good. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and actually pause the session right here because this is so important to create the shift. Moving forward and I love her self awareness and I love her excitement towards the relationship. And you know, all of the time people are working and it's like they're staying stuck in the negative.

And of course, To be able to really start shifting your mindset and shifting towards healing, you really want to make sure that you're getting yourself excited about your future. And by the way, if you are somebody who is new to the awareness that our thoughts, our emotions, our mindset, Help create our life, or if you are somebody who has felt disempowered when it comes to making the changes, it can also be really helpful to remind yourself that we can see this awareness everywhere in our culture.

You know, when we stop and think about psychology or Freud's work. You know, or repetition compulsion, or reenactments, you know, it's well known that our patterns breed more of the same, and not just in reenactments and repetition compulsion, but we can also look at attachment theory, or metaphysics, or law of attraction, you know, there's just so many different ways when we stop and look around at the awareness that we do have patterns that are breeding more of the same, you know, our patterns can repeat themselves, and so if you are somebody who has been stuck and Feeling disempowered, reminding yourself of that can be very empowering.

And of course, making sure to implement what we had talked about earlier and making sure not to blame yourself at all for past patterns. Now, to be honest with you, people blaming themselves for patterns is so common. And that's part of the reason that I actually want to stop the episode right here is I want to invite you.

I'm going to digest this awareness just because, you know, if somebody feels like their emotions and their mindset is connected to their health issue, well, that's not helping. Or even towards your relationships. If you feel like, oh, well, it's your fault, you keep having negative relationships. Again, that feeling of self blame or self criticism is not great for your energy.

And so, I want to invite you to take a moment and look at your life and your relationships and even create a vision moving forward about how you would like your relationships to look like. And by the way, I have to tell you, all of the time I see people make incredible transformations in their relationships where people are going through and they're doing the work.

And, you know, I'll see people go through my courses and they'd say, you know, that their relationships either with their spouse or friends or family are better than they've ever been. Like, beyond what they expected. And I've had people in their 60s, 70s, 80s say things that, you know, that they have more friends now than they've ever had in their lives.

And finally they feel safe to be themselves and good about being themselves. And, of course, people from all ages. Talk to 20 year olds, 30 year olds who've felt the same way. So my point is, whatever age you are, you'll want to remember that even though, you know, we can feel powerless to change relationships, but truly we are powerful to shape our relationships in life.

And to create more love, to create more happiness. And so that's ultimately what I want to invite you to start looking at from this episode, is creating even more love in your life this year and what that could look like for you. And on next week's episode, we're going to continue. To work with Lori for the rest of her session and really unpack the other patterns of stress, of negativity that are impacting her health, her happiness, her life, her relationships.

And so that's where we're going next week. But of course, I want to invite you to take a moment to digest.

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Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touch their heart or help them stay positive in hard times or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.

If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about, or those, you know, who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone.

And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life. If you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible. And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore. com/podcast.

And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly, please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you're capable of with your mind.

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