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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made. that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.

Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.

Let's begin.

Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here, continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it. And I love today's episode. You know, so often people may have. mixed emotions that are impacting them, and they don't even realize that it's happening, that it's impacting their health or happiness or what they're manifesting or attracting in life.

And, you know, sometimes I'm hesitant to say the word manifesting because sometimes people feel like it's, you know, manifesting something on purpose or it's impossible. But of course, if we look at the awareness of patterns, we're going to We can also look at things like attachment theory or repetition, compulsion, or reenactments.

And we can see through psychology that we as human beings have a tendency to attract similar relationships and patterns and circumstances in our lives. And we don't even realize it's happening. That was the case in my own life. You know, I didn't realize my subconscious emotions or programming was impacting my health, my life in so many ways.

And that is also true for our beautiful volunteer today, Victoria. And I love this episode for so many reasons. You know, first and foremost, I love that you can really see how we can have really strong mixed emotions that. Can impact us. So that is one thing. And another thing is just her heart. She's such a sweetheart.

She has a playful, sweet personality, and yet she's been going through a lot, a lot of pain and injury and illness throughout the years, and what's beautiful is watching her shift it, and also the comments that she sent in after. Her session as well. Those are fun. I mean, just so many reasons. She's just beautiful.

She touches my heart. Just a beautiful, beautiful being. And on that note, let's go ahead and dive in with our beautiful volunteer, Victoria. Here we go.

Hello. Hello. Hi. It is very wonderful to connect with you. Oh, yes. Oh, I'm so excited and so grateful and so many things. Thank you. Absolutely. I love that. It's so wonderful to connect with you. What can I help you with today, my dear? Uh, many things. Um, I got sick, uh, 25 years ago. I got this, uh, uh, Guillain Barré syndrome, an autoimmune disease, and I got paralyzed from, yeah, my neck and down, totally.

Um, I recovered my movements, but I don't feel my body, so I can't feel the position. And 10 years later, I got this, uh, dystonia in my neck. So it's, yeah, you see a very, it's difficult for me to sit up. So I just lying in the bed. Um, um, So real quick, let me just confirm. So you do have movement again after paralysis, but you can't feel your position.

And then also how long has your neck been stuck? Uh, 15 years. 15 years. Okay. And what happens when you try to move your neck? How does it feel to you when you try to move it? And you straighten your head. And yeah, I can't, uh, it's very difficult to straighten up because the muscles on the right side, it's like a cramp.

So it's very short on the one side. Uh huh. Yeah. So, okay. And, um, bingo. All right. So give me one second. And how many kids do you have? No one. Um, then is it? Okay. So I, so that's the reason I'm pausing is I'm trying to, there's somebody who's around you, but they feel distant. And I was trying to figure out, is it a partner?

Is it a parent? Is it a kid? I, who's the, if I ask you who the closest person to you is, who is that? Okay. I'm new. I, I am divorced from my husband. Bingo. Okay. And can you give me, uh, his first initial please? Uh, R. Okay. And if I ask you a zero to 10, how much you can find the feeling of, of anger towards him?

How much would you say that is? Oh, Oh, I want it to be zero, but I think maybe it's Yeah, it could be much more higher. So, uh, I don't know, eight or nine, maybe, or maybe I'm more angry at myself that I, yeah. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. If I ask you zero to 10, how much you can find a feeling of feeling like you just don't want to listen to anything he has to say.

It's just this frustration feeling. If I ask you zero to 10, how much you can find that feeling? Uh, 12. 12. Yes. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. So this is the feeling, the feeling of it. Just don't want to listen to anything he has to say. Like it just, and if I ask you even with like, um, bingo, like even there's this feeling of feeling like everything he said, even when you like 17 years ago, there's like, it drove you crazy.

Are you familiar? Like, there's just this frustration. Are you familiar with that feeling? Uh, yes, but I, I haven't, uh, we just married seven years ago, so he came in my life after I got sick. Okay. So give me, give me his first initial. Uh, R like Richard. Okay. Yep. Okay. And, uh, interestingly, this is how it feels in your energy.

It feels like, like the people that I'm seeing, like, it feels like you're kind of pushing people away a bit around you. Are you familiar with that energy? Yes. Yes. So it's like when I'm trying to feel for people, and that is part of the answer, but when I'm trying to feel for people, it's like I'm trying to find people and they're faded.

Like, it's hard to see them because you're pushing them away. And so it's making it harder for me to feel into who it is. And so I, so R is a person, and that's very, very high. But the pattern is continued and, um, it looks like I would guess and say, and it's a guess because I can't see clearly that maybe even like, um, 17 years ago, it's like, uh, it feels like maybe a sister or, uh, there's a, I have a brother.

Okay, give me his initial. Uh, J. Bingo. Okay, that's it right there. Um, there's a feeling of not wanting to hear him. Uh, are you familiar with that? Uh, no. This one I would say is about a level, about a level four, and it's like there's a feeling, a strong feeling of kind of like, Don't tell me what to do type of feeling.

Are you familiar with that energy? Yes. Yes. Zero to 10, how much can you find that feeling of don't tell me what to do? You laugh. Yeah, I guess it's 10. Okay. So about a 10. So I'm going to, yep. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Okay. Now, if I look at this energy, this pattern, even as a child at age one, Eight.

There's a feeling of feeling like, don't tell me what to do. Are you familiar with that? Okay, well, let's, it's okay. Let's go here. Let's go here. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to ask you to find that feeling of feeling like, don't tell me what to do. And if I ask you how much it, even now, if I ask you how much that has bothered you and been a trigger for you of don't tell me what to do, how much would you say that's been a trigger?

Yes, that's good. I haven't think about it, but yes, yes, yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice. That even if somebody did tell you what to do, that you don't even have to take it personally. You don't have to be upset. You don't have to be reactive.

You don't, if somebody said, Oh, you should do this and this. Oh, thank you for your advice, but okay. Have a, have a wonderful day. Thank you. Right? Just because somebody gives you advice doesn't mean you need to take it, right? Nor do you need to be upset by it, right? Could, could he be my father? I would say, uh, can you give me his initial?

Also Jay. Bingo. Uh, yes. Very, very, very high there. But I would say, uh, very, very, very high there. But I would also say it's, uh, I would say this is repeated with about 12 different people in your life. So I would say it's, it's been a pattern also with, with, smaller with your brother, uh, with your ex very, very high also.

And also just not wanting to hear what he has to say. Like it's just.

There's a feeling of just wanting him to be quiet. Are you familiar with that? Yes. Yes. I love your self awareness. I love your self awareness. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and I'm gonna ask you just for a moment when I said I love your self awareness, you laughed, but I'm serious. I love your self awareness.

Your self awareness. I love your self honesty. I love that. I absolutely love that. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I love your awareness and I love your self honesty. Could you love it also? Um, yeah. Yes. Great. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. So I'm going to ask you to breathe, and I'm going to ask you or invite you to take that in.

A feeling of loving your self awareness and loving your self honesty. Beautiful. And now, I want you to notice that when you get triggered over these things, you could feel very angry or reactive. Can you see that? Yes, yes, yes. Yes, yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I'm going to ask you just for a moment, why so reactive?

I don't know. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Now, I'm going to tell you what to do, right? And I just want you to say, no, thank you. Okay? It's, uh, go clean your room. No, no, thank you. No, thank you. That's, that's great. No, thank you. We're all good. Right? No, thank you. So I'm going to ask you to breathe.

No, thank you. Go clean your room. No, thank you. No, thank you. No upset, but no, thank you. No, thank you. No, thank you. Thank you. That's a lovely thought. Maybe, maybe I'll do that sometime, but thank you. Thank you for, thank you for thinking of that. And maybe, maybe I will do that at some time when I'm ready, but, but thank you.

Right. Yeah. Yeah. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. So I'm going to ask you to notice what it would feel like to not have to get upset. Oh, yeah, that could be very nice. That could be very, very nice, right? Yes. It could be very, very nice. And so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe,

and I want you to notice the reactive part. And do you need to really be that reactive? No. No. No. No. No. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Bingo. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to take in the awareness that you don't have to be that reactive, right? Yes. Great. So, I'm going to ask you, could you be a little bit more relaxed about things?

Yes. Great. Great. Great. And I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, when you try to move your neck, what's the level of stiffness and tightness in your neck? Um, yeah, it's, uh, it's better. It's better. Notice, you can move it more, right? At what level, what level would you give it of stiffness right now?

What level would you give it?

I try to sit up here. Okay. Wow.

Yeah. I can barely. Yeah. Yeah. It's still, uh, stiff a little bit, but it's, uh, from, I will say it was 10 and now it's 10. Yeah, three or four. Okay, great, great, great. Who's doing that?

You are. I am. Okay, so let's do this. So your head is a lot more straight and moving a lot better. Look at that. Almost, good, good. Look at, good. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Good, good, good. It's straightening it more. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe.

All right. So let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I have to say, I just love her laugh, just so beautiful and sweet. I just, there's something about listening to human beings laugh that I just, that just makes my heart so happy. I just love it. And also I love her self awareness and her self honesty, you know, just seeing these patterns and becoming aware of them and.

Also, being willing to shift them and in a playful way. And I really, really love that. Now, on a quick note, I mentioned about her straightening her head all of the way. And if you're not familiar with cervical dystonia, basically it is a very painful tense condition of the neck muscles where the neck muscles are all very, very, very tightened.

So the neck becomes stuck to one side and that's her condition is very much her ear is, was almost touching her shoulder, so to speak. So her, her head is stuck to the side as I'm talking to her. That's why I said, can you straighten it all of the way? And she's getting it up to where it's almost all of the way straight.

So I just, I love that. And As I step back into working with our beautiful volunteer, you'll notice part of what I'm going to do is I am going to reinforce what we talked about. I'm also, as I'm working with her, helping her to continue to reinforce and shift her mindset. And then there's a couple other things that, other emotions that open up that we talk about as far as mixed emotions, etc, etc.

So that's where we're going. And Let's go ahead and dive back in with our beautiful volunteer, Victoria. Here we go.

And I'm going to ask you, uh, I'm going to tell you, so go, go clean your room. No, thank you. No, thank you. No, maybe at some time you might, or if you want to or not, but no, thank you. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and take in the feeling that you don't have to listen and you don't have to be upset either.

You don't have to listen. You can do what you want. And I'm going to ask you to breathe and you don't have to be upset. You don't have to be reactive at all, right? So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And what if you let go of all your anger? Oh, yeah. That could be nice. Okay. Now I'm going to ask you to breathe.

Now I want you to notice. Did your neck get tighter or did it get looser? Looser. Okay. So looser. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And out of curiosity, if you could hold your head like normal, how would that feel in your life? Oh, wow. Yeah, that would be very, very nice. Very nice, right? So if I ask you, are you really, really willing to let go of this anger?

Yes. Even towards your ex? Yes. Yes. Even towards your dad? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment, what it would look like, what it would look like to not actually be reactive or upset at all. What would that even look like? Oh, it would be beautiful. Right?

Now, if I ask you if there's a part of you who has felt like you have a right to be angry and you have a right to be reactive. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. So why, why so angry? And why so, like, if I said, I have a right to be angry, like, think about this. Imagine if I said, I'm going to come to earth and I have a right to be angry.

How great is my life going to be? Like, you'd think that I'd want something better. Like, I have a right to have a great life and to enjoy and be loved and, and flourish and be happy and not like, I'm going to come to earth and I have a right to be angry. I would say choose better. Choose a better emotion than feeling angry.

Right? Yes. Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Bingo. Okay. And I'm going to ask you to, again, to straighten your head all the way. If I ask you, can you see the part of you that sometimes might speak poorly about your ex? Can you see that? Yes. And if I ask, What's that? I love your self honesty. I love your self awareness.

If I ask you, could you discontinue doing that? Yes. Oh yeah. Yeah, absolutely. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if you could stop completely doing it, what would you say? 100 percent completely stop speaking poorly about him. Yes. Oh, that would be nice. Yes. Okay. I will be free. What? I would be free.

Ah. Wouldn't that be nice to be free? Yes. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Bingo. Okay. So there's another person and it actually feels like maybe it's actually a boss, uh, or a place that you worked. Do you know who that is? I haven't worked for 25 years. Yeah, I see the age. Let me see. I would say age 26.

Are you familiar with who that might be at age 26? I was my own boss. I, I did, I had my own company for 90 years. Well, I had some small jobs. Uh, what type of company? Oh, very, very different. Very. Okay. Yeah, I did everything. I did everything. Okay. So, uh, at age 26, there's somebody who, uh, like there's a lot of anger towards a person who's trying to tell you what to do.

Um, do you know who that is? Um, I work for my father. I was just going to say, actually, can you give me your father's initial again? Bingo. Yes. Okay. Um, okay. If I asked you in the past zero to 10, how much anger you had towards your father about trying to tell you what to do, what would you say? Um, 15. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I had some years. I didn't want to have contact with him because I was, yeah, I didn't. Yeah. I, I, I didn't feel he wanted me. I didn't feel he loved me. I, yeah, not, not a good connection. Okay. So give me one second.

Sorry. Basically what I'm looking at here is, um, there's somebody that I'm missing. Uh, there's your dad who, uh, you worked for him, correct? Yes. Um, yes. So there's your dad and then there's your dad as your boss. Bingo. And then there's your ex. Bingo. Um. What, what, what, uh, uh, my mother? Uh, can you give me her first initial?

Uh, A. It doesn't feel like her, but it does feel like a female. Do you know who that would be? Um, um, uh, I have, um, uh, how about N? Bingo. Yes. Yes, yes, yes. Uh. Okay. Okay. And, uh, bingo. Okay. If I ask you, there we go. Bingo. That was the piece. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I was saying that was the piece to something else.

And it was this. Um, and I want you to notice when you didn't talk to your dad. Whose choice was that? Yours or his? Mine. Uh huh. Now, do you remember me saying towards your, like, even towards your ex, it was like a feeling of, I don't want to even hear you. I don't even want to talk to you. Don't like, so it's that feeling of feeling like, I don't even want to hear you.

I don't even want to talk to you. Yes. Okay. So, So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe, and I want you to notice the part of you that wants to, that wants to punish people like that, where you say, look it, I'm not even going to talk to you. And it's like a punishment towards them. Can you see that?

Oh, I haven't thought about it that way. Huh. So if I ask you when you said, I'm not talking to my dad, when you said you're not going to talk to him, was there a part of you that wanted to punish him? Uh. No, I, but maybe, yeah, I'm not sure. Um, I did, I didn't look at it that way. I didn't, I just, um, um, I felt so hurt.

I felt that I was hurt, so I couldn't.

And if he had called you, what would you do? Oh, I will pick up the phone and talk, speak with him. Yes. Okay. And so I'm going to ask you to breathe and notice, if I ask you to also notice, if your ex tried to call you right now, would you pick up the phone and speak to him? Yes. If I ask you how much, to notice the pattern where you are telling somebody to not talk to you, where you tell them you don't even want to speak to them and you don't want to speak to them and you have all these feelings, but really there's a part of you that wants them to call.

Can you see that? Okay.

Yeah. Um. Okay. Well, yeah, now, now, like, yeah, I haven't seen it like this before, but, uh, yes. Huh. Interesting. Bingo. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, did you ever tell your dad that you didn't want him to call you or talk to him? Did you ever tell him that? Yes. Uh huh. And did you actually want him to call you?

Uh, yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. So that's what I'm talking about. So notice that you told him not to call you and not to talk to you and yet the truth of it is you wanted him to call you and talk to you and you wanted to be loved. Can you see that? Yes. And one of the, yeah, one of the, um, the things that happened, I, I, I, uh, uh, later now I'll, I'll tell that I was, I was sorry because yeah, when I got sick, uh, 25 years ago, I, he wanted to come to the hospital and I denied him to come.

I said, I didn't want to see him. And I, um, yeah, I'm sorry for that after. And if I ask you, was there a part of you that actually wanted him to come? Yes, it was. Uh huh. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And I love your self awareness. And I love your self honesty. And what's kind of amazing is that you can see this pattern, right?

So you see the pattern, I see the pattern, we can see this pattern, right? Yes. So I gotta ask you, are you genuinely willing to change this pattern? Yes. 100%? Yes. You trust yourself to change it? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. And if I ask you, when you said, don't even come, if I ask you how much you wanted to hurt him back, what would you say?

Oh, I, no, I, I don't think so. Okay. Yeah. And if, yeah, I don't, I didn't see it that way. Yeah. But maybe, but baby, but, um, yeah, I don't, yeah. Perfect. Perfect. So we'll say we didn't see it that way. Okay. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay. And bingo. So give me one second. So I want you to notice your level of anger and upset.

Now? No, no. In the past. Oh, yes. Yeah. And if I ask you, let's say that you don't have this pattern anymore. Let's say you don't have this pattern at all towards anybody, towards anybody. You're not telling people, Oh, don't ever talk to me again. Don't ever like, that's just not even part of your life. Yeah.

What would that look like? Oh, it would be, yeah, very nice. Very peaceful. Very peaceful. What would that even, like, I want you to think about what does that even look like for you to change this? What does that even look like for you to change this completely? Oh, it would change my life. Uh huh. Well, you would change your life, right?

You would change your life. Yes, I would change my life. You would change your life. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. You would change your relationships. You would change your life. Now notice the neck right now. What's your level in your neck? Um, um, Hmm. Yeah, it's, I think it's, yeah, uh, three. Still about a three.

So, so still about the same. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Okay. So there's a feeling of feeling, uh, even beyond anger, a feeling of furious. Okay, you're familiar with that, right? Yes. Okay, so I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. Now, I want you to notice the part of you that feels like, I have a right to be furious, I have a right to be mad, I have a right to be fear, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

It's boring, right? Yes. I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe and you're willing to actually change this, right? Yes. Now, have you ever heard before of a miscommunication in a relationship? Yes. No. You think people have miscommunications in a relationship? Yes. Okay, so let's say two people miscommunicate.

There's a miscommunication or two people are seeing things in a different way. Yes. So then both people decide to get really upset and pissed off. Does that the situation? No. No, it doesn't. So I'm going to ask you if you see something in a way of being upset, you have to be angry. Is that going to help you?

No, it's not. Right. It's not. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to take in the feeling that what if you were busy getting upset? about a misunderstanding where two people are just seeing things in a different way. And you're busy getting upset and furious and saying, but I have a right to be upset.

And I'm so angry, but two people are seeing things in a different way.

Yes. So you're sitting there with your relationships and your life and your health and doing all of these things where you're getting upset and furious. But what if two people are seeing things in a different way and there's a different, there's a different communication. Yes, yeah. But I mean, miscommunications don't really happen in very, in relationships very often, right?

Eh, no, maybe once in, yeah, yeah. Or maybe, maybe often? Or all the time, yes. Okay, and not only that, maybe, maybe all the time, but also, I'm sure people don't see things from a different perspective, right? Uh, no, it's only one perspective, isn't it? Or maybe everybody has their own perspective. Yes. Yes. Okay. So if you have a different perspective than somebody else on a situation, you definitely have the right to be furious and upset and angry, right?

Yes. No, no. Yeah. Well, it's my pain. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. It is your pain where it was. Yeah. There we go. Your neck. What's your level in your neck right now? Um, I, um, maybe two. Maybe two. It's going down more, right? Fantastic job. And look at, so I'm going to ask you, take it back up and straighten it all the way.

Now, if I ask you how much looser this is than normal, what would you say? Oh, um, yeah, much, uh, much looser. Yes. Right? So notice the difference. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Alright, so we're going to do just a little bit more, but I want you to invite, invite you to take this in and digest it and take it in and embody the change.

So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you just to go ahead and keep your anger if you want. I mean, I wouldn't recommend it. I wouldn't recommend it at all, but I mean, if that's what you want to do, then that's what you want to do, right? No, absolutely. You can keep it. I don't want it. You keep your head.

Thank you. No, no, I don't want to keep it. So you're willing to let it go? Yes. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. Yes. So what would happen in relationships if you were willing to see things from other sides? And link to understand communication instead of getting upset or triggered or pissed off or whatever it is, but instead you got really good at understanding other people and seeing things from other sides.

Oh, that could be very nice. That could be very nice. Yeah, very peaceful. Yeah. It could be. It could be. And even if somebody said something and it felt like they were telling you what to do, would you realize this is a sensitive spot for you and you could let this go? In other words, yes, sure they were really telling you what to do.

Like, in other words, you know, sometimes if somebody said, Oh, well, why don't you do this or that? You don't have to be reactive. You could just say, No, thank you. Yes. No, thank you. No, thank you. No, thank you. Right. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And even just taking in that awareness, you could simply say no, thank you.

I mean, the truth of it is, is I see people, there's people who want to give advice or tell things about things all of the time. And, and, and, you know, just if you don't, don't want it or don't, or they're trying to tell you to do something, you just simply say, you know, no, thank you or thank you. But I'll take that into consideration.

Or, you know, if that's true, whatever's true. So I'm going to ask you just for a moment to breathe. No trigger, no upset, just being okay with it. How does that feel to you? Good, good, good, good, good. Yeah. Oh, it's, yeah, it's, uh, light. It's like, uh, yeah. Bye. Yeah. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to notice the level in your neck and what's your level?

Hmm. Hmm. Yeah. Maybe one. That's what I would say. Maybe a one point, about a 1. 6. So that's what I would say. So okay. So this is what I think would be really great is actually to leave it right here instead of pushing you on this. Yes. Letting you digest it. Letting you take that in. Letting you embrace this.

If you want. It's up to you. I'm not going to hold you. Yes. I really want. Yes. I really want. So, yes. So beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. So yeah, I, uh, I really need to change in my life because yeah, it's, yeah, it's a struggle. So. Okay. So bingo. Notice how much that changed. Huge. You went from a 10 to like a one and it stuck sideways neck to being able to twist it and turn it and even taking it all the way upright.

Okay. And you're going to have to really, really embrace this change to make it stay. Does that make sense? Yes. Yes. Yeah. Yes. So it's going to take real, real, real, real change. Okay. Thank you. Beautiful. And I also want to walk again. Yes, and I would say that this is all connected. So, um, if we do everything all like, it's kind of like, um, if somebody wants to build a house, they have to build a foundation first, right?

Now, if somebody tries to build a house, and there's no foundation, how long does the house stand up? Yeah, not long. It doesn't, right? You can't build a house with no foundation. It's going to fall, not going to stand up. And so what I would say is this is the foundation for that. And, um, and so being willing to change that.

Does that make sense? Yes. Yes. Yes. And if I, if I ask you, if I ask you, can you see the part of you that has had a tendency to run away from people? Yes. Yes. Exactly. So the thing of it is, so you not wanting to run away from people is also the key to being able to walk again. Does that make sense? Yeah. I'm afraid.

To be a burden. Yeah. Okay. So I hear you and the part of you that has shut people off and got really angry and then really upset and then the pattern and then don't talk to me, but then also wanting love at the same time. So in other words, this had, this is foundational to then go to the next level. Does that make sense?

Yes. Great. So what I want you to do is get this in and make this real, real, real change. So you could genuinely say. I'm not getting mad. I'm not triggered. I'm not mad. I'm not upset. I'm not getting angry. Okay. Now, by the way, even if I ask you in the past week, if I ask you how many times you can see that you've gotten upset or furious, how much would you say that is?

Oh, yeah. I, yeah. Yes. You laugh. But I have a good reason because, uh, no, no, no. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. You just said, but I have a good reason. That's the whole thing we've been talking about is no to stop giving your, like, okay, so it's kind of like this. In my own injury, part of what I needed to change was fear, right?

Yes. Now, after I was injured, did I have a good reason to be in fear? Yes. Yeah, I had more of a reason to be in fear. So if I would have said, nope, I have more of a reason to be in fear, how soon would I have healed? Not a, no. Exactly. I wouldn't. Okay. So, instead of validating it, you've got to change it. Now this is the thing, is, have you ever heard me on past episodes where I push people to change a bit?

I've heard it. Yes. Now, if I push you, how well do you think that's going to go?

Not well. Okay. Not well. So I'm not going to push. I'm giving you the information with an invitation. So the great thing is you see the information. You see how much your neck shifted very nicely and you did it. Now you have the invitation to embrace it more because if I push it will actually backfire.

Your inner rebel will not like it. Okay. So I want to give you this information and you can see that it's making the change, but now you've got to embrace it. Okay. Beautiful. Mm. Yes. Fantastic. Fantastic. So let's see, you literally say, I'm not an angry at all. I'm not, but really embrace the change. Okay.

Beautiful. It has been such a pleasure connecting with you. I love your self awareness. I love your self honesty. Game on, right? Oh, I, oh, I can't believe I'm sitting here speaking with you. So it's, yeah. Beautiful. Yeah. It has been such a pleasure. It has been such a pleasure connecting with you and I wish you a wonderful rest of your evening.

Oh, thank you so much. You're welcome.

All right. So let's go ahead and unpack this even more because there are some really powerful insights from this. And of course, first and foremost, I just want to say that she did incredible with her energy, just fantastic job, and I love her laugh and her self awareness and just all of it. Really, really, really beautiful.

Also, what I love is that. is I love the emails that she sent in afterwards. You know, sometimes I'll work with somebody and the episode goes live right away or not or what, it just depends. But this session with Victoria took place a little over a week ago. Now, what I love is after her session, she messaged in and she was just so sweet.

She's just was, basically I'll, I'll summarize her email, but she says, thank you so much for that precious hour. And she goes on to say that First, she was surprised at the pattern of being angry because she never even saw it. And that night after working together, she said she couldn't believe it, the relief, and she slept so much better.

And it was incredible to start seeing it and feeling it and just how much lighter she felt and how much more optimistic and just feeling incredible. Right? So that was one email. And then about five days later, she. wrote in again and she said, you know, just, I have to say, I mean, basically she's just like, I'm, I can't believe I'm still feeling so much lighter and optimistic.

And, She even mentioned that she hasn't wanted to go outside previously for quite a long time. However, over the past few days, she's been outside three times and she said she's surprised herself that she feels more optimistic. She's getting out. She just feels determined and changed. And she also said that the stiffness in her neck has not changed since the conversation.

So it hasn't gotten worse, even though she's been more active, which I love. You know, that's where we hung up. We said, look, you really, really need to reinforce this. And she's doing that. And the fact that she went from a level 10 down to a two, three, one, you know, just hanging out in there. Fantastic job.

And of course she's doing it. She's the one that's following through. So I just love that. And of course she says, you know, she's been listening to the recording every day. And. And she says beautifully at the end of her email, she says, I have also caught myself smiling for no reason. Oh, so good. Just so good.

So I love that. And I love that she's doing it and creating the change and following through just beautiful. Now, I always like to be in full transparency and in full transparency. I have things called uplift calls, which are, you know, like uplifting calls that help program your mind and bring in even more positivity.

And she has also been listening to those as well to help her to create that shift as well. So just wanting to mention that in full transparency that To maintain it, she's done that, and of course the goal is for her to continue to grow it and take it to the next level. But when you stop and think about it for a moment, for somebody to be injured for such a long period of time, and to have so much pain and their head stuck to the side, and you know, and to go from a level 10 down to a 2 3 and staying there, that's, that's Huge.

And also making it outside and smiling and just, you know, all of this to say, it's just incredible what our minds are capable of. So I just love that. And of course it does take genuine change. It does take real follow through and she's not healed yet. She's got multiple other issues to address, et cetera, et cetera.

You know, there are other things, however, still more to go, but just Life changing when we learn to use our own mind. And, you know, and of course, I just want to emphasize, I make this look ridiculously easy. You know, there are specific things with the mind and understanding and, and just so many things. So I don't want to be misleading.

It makes it sound like. Anybody should be able to do this in, you know, an hour or whatnot. But when you stop and think about the power of our minds that we each hold in our mind to create a radical shift, it is profound. And so the insight that I want to leave you with from this episode. Is this, is that if you do have something in your life that triggers you, that you're reactive towards or upset, instead of blaming the other person or being angry or whatnot, which is of course, most people's pattern, you know, something happens in their life, they want to blame the other person, make the other person wrong, et cetera, but I want to invite you.

To look at this for your own health and life and longevity. And notice if you do have reactive patterns in your life of upset or anger or rage or whatever it is, hurt, whatever it is. To be willing to genuinely transform it. And also remembering to remember that mixed emotions matter too. You know, all of the time I've seen people in a situation where maybe they want to push others away and then also they really want more love from others as well.

And I think that that can be a really profound insight. If you are somebody who's experiencing reaction from hurt and then it goes into anger or it goes into loneliness or disconnect, you know, just that spiral of emotions that can happen so fast that it's kind of hard to notice what all is happening because there's so many emotions at once.

And I absolutely understand, but that's what I want to invite you to look at. If you're having a reaction or hurt or upset like that, You start to unweave that pattern and genuinely transform it. in your own life. All right. So, uh, those are the insights from today's episode. And, you know, as you hear me say at the end of every single episode, you know, the more happy and healthy that every single person is in our world, the better this world is for all of us.

I mean, there's Could you imagine if we looked around and every single person felt happy and empowered and knew they could heal with their mind and our thoughts help create our lives? I mean, that just would be epic, you know? And so I want to ask you to please do make a point to hit the share button on this episode.

You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know. And please do make a point to have a wonderful, happy, healthy, and loving rest of your day. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.

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What we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life, if you really understand how to use your mind, you're incredible, and I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.

I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll want to remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast.

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